I Think Comparing Yourself To Others Is A Bad Idea

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    Yet I Do It Anyways...

    I know when things aren't a good idea or when they are bad for me... yet sometimes I end up doing them anyways. Like comparing myself to others. I can't be anyone but myself yet I constantly put myself down by not being like this person or being able to do what that person can do...
    RoziePanda12 RoziePanda12
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 4, 2013

    A flower doesn't compare itself to other

    flowers, it just blooms. I read that on pinterest, it's not my quote, but I really like it! It is so true. we are all valuable human beings, and we are all here for a purpose. So just be, just bloom! Don't worry about who is better than you or who will be first.
    PinkHeartCrystals PinkHeartCrystals
    41-45, F
    Sep 6, 2015
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    Yuppers!!! I Do!!

    Each of us different.  We have differnt looks, different personalities, different talents.  Each of us is called to live a different life. I believe constantly comparing yourself to others is the fastest way to depression.  You aren't called to live their...
    ChristineJones ChristineJones
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 13, 2010

    Idea

    I would never ever do that. I think comparing to others is a very bad idea.
    moreandless moreandless
    56-60, M
    1 Response Jun 20, 2010

    Oh Yeah

    I am the best me I can be but I am not the best ALY, Kitten, Jimfin, or anyone else. I am unique and i don't have to know I measure up to them because they are unique in their own way as well. 
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    May 3, 2010

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