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I Think Dominance and Submission Can Be Healthy

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    Initiation- sweetness I am there in front of

    everyone the room dark, except for the flames of the fire mesmerizing me as I try to push through the fear and will myself to step forward towards Him I am there of my own choice Every step I have made deliberately, with careful thought I sought this out, to surrender to put...
    wcsub wcsub 41-45, F Dec 11, 2013

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    To Submit (My First Hopefully Not My Last)

    I want to learn to submitReading stories of it intrigued and added the logs to the flames that was lit yrs agoWith A crawl and a leash i was turned oncurious per-say a dominant male maybe funBut nothing furtherCouple years later i subdued myself by choice it truly was not the...
    Leydyanais28 Leydyanais28 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    A New Chapter

    About five years ago, my husband and I became interested in BDSM.  Specifically, Dominant/submissive relationships.  After doing some reading, my initial reaction to the whole submissive concept was one of disgust.  What self respecting woman would allow herself to be...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Apr 15, 2012

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    You have to be who you are.

    You can't see an aspect of your life and try to ignore it and hope it goes away. If you are dominant person, you should be that person. Find a submissive partner who wants to be that person. Anything else is going to feel unnatural, will never be totally fulfilling and will...
    OhDaddyMmm OhDaddyMmm 36-40, M 6 days ago

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    Take Me

    Torture me sweetly Rip my clothes away Reveal my naked skin Dominate my body Give me your sweetest sin Violate my innocents Hammer your hardness Into my softness Tears of pain Roll from my eyes While streams of pleasure Seep from between my thighs Conquer me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Oct 25, 2012

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    Womens Purpose

    Hello. I am Ally. The sub of my Master Davis. He asked me to write and post this as part of my ongoing training. Any comments you have I will gladly respond to. Respectfully submitted. As a woman it is our purpose to serve men. God made us out of their rib, so we serve their...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    Follow.

    I find it very refreshing. Being in a relationship where a true man shows his dominance over me. Not in a negative or a demeaning way, but in a controlling way. A man who knows what he wants and knows how to get it. I enjoy men who lead the way for their mates to follow. Sex is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Dominance And Submission Is Part Of Everyday Life

    Just to pose the question - you go to work, you see people in the market place and stores. Even those who are married, work and have their day to day rituals. But you meet that one person, stop for just a minute at work. You look in their eyes, they hold it for a minute, then...
    michman01 michman01 46-50, M 5 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    Some Principles I Live By......

    These are some guidelines that I have developed over the years. Some are meant to be a bit humorous, I think that one should be able to laugh a little bit and not take themselves too seriously. Please understand, these are only one man's humble opinion on what governs me. I...
    mastrmind mastrmind 31-35, M 7 Responses Oct 24, 2012

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    A Traditional Marriage.

    Ever since reaching puberty and developing my sexuality I've been attracted to older men but never understood why. I thought I was an oddity. I realise now it is not just older men I'm interested in but men with a powerful presence and an unassuming air of confidence. Usually age...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 17, 2010

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    The Need...from A Submissive Perspective.

    I read SirSecret's story "The Need" EP Link and like all his stories it totally struck a chord with me.  But this one went deeper then usual and I wanted to talk about it's meaning and how it felt from my own standpoint. Hubs and I have been told many times that we really aren't...
    sierra33 sierra33 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 21, 2012

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    The Imperfect Dominant’S Charter - The Truth Will Set You Free

    I've been battling the idea of a Dominant that I read on the net and thinking about what's the reality of it all. I came across this charter and this gives a real goal to strive for. "The Imperfect Dominant’s Charter I will **** up, more than once. On at least one of those...
    Iguyking Iguyking 41-45, M 5 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    The Hotel Manager

    On a business trip to Zambia last week, I was greeted by an enthusiastic young Dutch lady, who was managing the hotel I was staying in. She had been on the job only a few weeks, and she was all smiles and laughs, and very friendly and polite. Even though she had taken up a...
    drfessee drfessee 31-35, M Nov 15, 2013

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    My Well Being

    My Sir has been discussing ways for us to live healthier lifestyles. He wants us to be in the best shape we have ever been, so that the time we have left together on this earth is a long, healthy and prosperous one. I have been going to Weight Watchers since June 2012 and by...
    justsmile14 justsmile14 41-45, F Nov 30, 2013

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    It Is My Release

    Yes I believe with all my heart that D/s is healthy. I feel it is a release. For me being submissive and willing giving all of my control to another...is a release. I long for it, thrive off of it. However, it is not that simply nor easy. It is hard to find the right one to trust...
    blue12345a blue12345a 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    I Don't Like Hearing "I have no rights"

       I am generally a 'two each his own' sort of gal, but I can't help but feel a pang when I hear someone say, "I have no rights".  So I am going to make an assertion that there is a difference between power and rights. It may be semantics, but I would rather talk the same...
    ladyfound ladyfound 26-30, F 12 Responses Aug 7, 2012

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    Mutual Consent

    What scares her, is the thrill The abandoning of will That I'd crawl inside her mind And use it … what I find What thrills her is the fear That I might hold her here Keep her wanderin thoughts for me Like the other things she needs I think of her … drink from her...
    hlpflwthat hlpflwthat 51-55, M 27 Responses Apr 6, 2012

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    Healing Submission

    Within the right context with two mutually respectful people, dominance and submission can be one of the healthiest things two people do. I have not been submissive for long and it was quite a change for me. I have always ruled my own life and never answered to anyone. Now...
    klauralk klauralk 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 19, 2010

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    So You Want To Be Dominated And Used...

    I would like to hear from all the ladies who get off on being used and abused, dominated, degraded, and humiliated. I want to know details. And, tell me what gets you off about it... Do you want to be tied spread eagle face up, or *** in the air face down? When you say raped...
    comicgregjohnson comicgregjohnson 46-50, M Aug 22, 2013

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    What kind of role do you

    as a Dom take? Or if you are a Sub, what kind of role does your Daddy, Master, or Sir take? http://modemworld.wordpress.com/ds-essays/dominant-roles/ My Daddy is a Nurturer most of the time but will take on the controller or disciplinarian role when warranted.
    AngelGirl2Him AngelGirl2Him 41-45, F 2 Responses May 23

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    My New Life

    I have had many questions on as to what happened after i split with Kraven my old Master...I have since found a new one and his name is Jeremy. I love him very much and he not only treats me as his slave but also as his lover. I'm not saying life as his slave is easy because...
    HisLittlePrincess HisLittlePrincess 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 19, 2012

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    I Know It Is.

    When D/s isn't healthy, it tends to be abuse and ceases to be D/s. It's a parody. It's a lie. It's 50 Shades of Why-Do-People-Still-Idolize-That-Book. It's the only time I'll say there is such thing as real dominance and real submission: when it's not abuse and when it's...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers 18-21, T Nov 3, 2013

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    What Submission Means To Me...

    Submission can conjure up different meanings for different people but I find it to be a beautiful thing. To trust in your partner enough to give him or her control is almost a freedom that he or she will take care of your needs not just physically but mentally as well. To have...
    gingerpie71 gingerpie71 36-40, F 15 Responses Feb 13, 2012

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    Asthenolagnia - Aroused By Weakness Or Humility

    A Dominant is no more individual than a submissive. They are no more self sufficient, no more comfortable in their own skin. Their self confidence is only through necessity, rather than nature. They are not a single entity happy being a single entity. They cannot sustain...
    michman01 michman01 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    Naked and helpless I kneel down in front of you,

    my mistress. Begging you to take use of my humble male body and mind. Yours to use and abuse, to be treated as your property, to command as you wish. Naked and helpless I kneel down before you, wishing to serve you, worship you to the best of my abilities. Naked and helpless I...
    ChainedDragon ChainedDragon 36-40, M Mar 30

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    My New Online Sub

    I've recently (as in the last couple of weeks) begun training a new online sub, a young woman who approached me here on EP. And by "new" I don't just mean we're new to each other. This 20-year-old sub is very much a novice w/ D/s play, both in RL and online. We're thousands...
    itsfunwhentheybeg3 itsfunwhentheybeg3 56-60, M Jul 15, 2013

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    How Is This One....

    Dominance and submission Are parts of the game... I forget who you are and you Don’t pronounce my name… Limits dissolve… What you need and desire Are in my hands…just submit Yourself to what you can’t Understand… No need to remind you You belong to me…so Offer me...
    djk007 djk007 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 15, 2010

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    Set The Record Straight!

    I’d like to set the record straight. I WANT to win this argument discussion. I NEED to see you’ll stick to your guns. I WANT you to pretend you didn’t see me roll my eyes. I NEED you to not put up with it. I WANT you to not mention that I forgot my cell phone again. I...
    joshslittlegirl joshslittlegirl 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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    A Relationship Like No Other

    There are many different types of relationships. There's friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend, and friends with benefits. But then there's one more. One that people don't really know to much about. One that people judge everyday and that is Master/sub relationship. This relationship...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 16, 2013

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    Bondage Freaks Monthly

    Photography: Lilith Model: G. Farquhar Digital editing: G. Farquhar Words: G. Farquhar
    TheNakedPoet TheNakedPoet 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    Navigating The Unknown

    I joined this site to try to gather and learn information about the type of lifestyle I (and my husband) are interested in. I've always been more submissive while my husband has been domineering in personality types. We have taken our sexual relationship to a new level in which...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 24, 2013

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    Never Fully Believed It Was Healthy Till Recently....

    Being completely submissive to someone, has more or less been a foreign concept to me, I explored it and felt scared for the last year, or intimidated/scared of the Dom(s) who I'd spoken to. I was beginning to think that all Dom's were out to degrade and hurt women. Granted I do...
    Greeneyedandcurious Greeneyedandcurious 22-25, F 3 Responses May 6, 2013

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    A Relationship Like No Other

    There are many different types of relationships. There's friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend, and friends with benefits. But then there's one more. One that people don't really know to much about. One that people judge everyday and that is Master/sub relationship. This relationship...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 16, 2013

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    A Delightful Surprise

    I didn’t really notice her. She was a student at Hollins University, one of the more prestigious Schools in Virginia, that much I knew. But to be honest I just really took little notice of her. She worked part time in an English Pub I frequented as a waitress.She was 5’2...
    badjed badjed 46-50, M Aug 10, 2013

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    Dominant Doesn't Mean Domineering.

    dom·i·nant (adjective) 1.ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence: dominant in the chain of command. 2.occupying or being in a commanding or elevated position. 3.predominant; main; major; chief: Corn is the dominant crop of Iowa. dom·i...
    AmericanLeanings AmericanLeanings 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 27, 2011

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    Need Advice For How To Find A Submissive, Sexual Christian Wife

    Hey there, I really appreciate all the posts I see online about dominant/submissive and healthy sexual dynamics. I'm writing in hopes of getting advice on how to find such a woman. Any help you can give will be greatly appreciated. I'm dominant and only connect properly at an...
    Ajushi Ajushi 31-35, M Nov 8, 2013

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    Julia Opens Up

    We met one sunny afternoon in Grand Army Plaza around the fountain. New York is a great place to be in early summer, and there is no more pleasant place to spend some leisure time than listening to the wonderful variety of music that is often provided free in the city's public...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 8, 2011

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    Who Is In Control

    When a couple enters into a domination and submission relationship, most would assume that the dominant partner is the one who has control. The Dom is looking for control and the sub is looking to give up control. But the submissive partner has a lot more control than most would...
    adarkhunter adarkhunter 51-55, M 9 Responses Apr 2, 2012

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    Learning My Place

    My Master was having a Super Bowl Party. It was about two months after he had put my first collar on me, honoring me as his toy and possession. I was 19 at the time and had been dancing in his club for two years. As the only white girl who was working and entertaining steadily...
    hotlilhiney hotlilhiney 26-30, F 4 Responses May 17, 2011

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    Ropes (Part Two)

    Model: G. Farquhar Photographer: Lilith Ropework: Lilith Digital editing: G. Farquhar
    TheNakedPoet TheNakedPoet 41-45, M 1 Response May 27, 2013

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    A night of ropes (And a bit of CBT)

    Model: G. Farquhar Photographer: Lilith Ropework: Lilith Digital editing: G. Farquhar This is how a TENS device and a penis tend to interact.  It's my penis, so I can testify from personal experience about what it feels like.  And if you know the origin of the word...
    TheNakedPoet TheNakedPoet 41-45, M Jun 13, 2013

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    My Punishment

    My husband and I have been going back and forth on his strong desire/demand for me to be submissive. I've tried but had been fighting him on this.  Finally, he started to spank me three times a day followed by my giving oral sex to him on my knees.  By establishing...
    Learning2bsubmissive Learning2bsubmissive 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 7, 2010

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    Ropes (Part Three)

    Model: G. Farquhar Photographer: Lilith Ropework: Lilith Digital editing: G. Farquhar
    TheNakedPoet TheNakedPoet 41-45, M 2 Responses May 27, 2013

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    So True

    I believe this lifestyle is the most healthy. As my amy's master and owner I control her body happily. she obeys me or pays the consequence. But I love my amy so deeply and care about her with all my being. As her master I demand that she does certain things for herself. For...
    amysdaddy amysdaddy 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    The Beginning

    Captain McCarthy realized that one of his best leaders hadn’t celebrated his birthday, the holidays or anything else. This was a problem. He called the sergeant into this office and confirmed he had nobody and nothing outside of the military. “What did you do for the...
    GentleWolf GentleWolf 41-45, M Aug 29, 2013

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    It Can Be

    Within the confines of a healthy and respected adult relationship dominance and submission can be healthy.  I am not speaking about those who lack common sense and want to dominate someone just to get off on being cruel to someone.  I am talking about an mutually accepted...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 10 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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    On A Dominant’s Touch

    One thumb. One finger. That is all a Dominant needs to take his girl to the deepest, darkest recesses of her erotic center and make her feel simultaneously owned, taken, ravished, and savored. But is this all a Dominant needs? If so, then any man can clutch a nipple, take a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    Master and I do not live a conventional M/s

    life. We do not use any sort of punishment or humiliation. I am not a masochist and he is not interested in sadistic pleasure. I have asked him to lead me, guide me, make many requests for how i can better serve him. he still words those requests as questions and uses the...
    Mastersmaiden Mastersmaiden 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    Submissive Christian Wife

    I am hoping to find a Christian woman who is a submissive type. I've been tormented and confused about what to do on this topic for years. It's like a the very crux of who and what I am is stifled. Over the last few days, after stumbling on Experience Project, it is dawning on...
    Ajushi Ajushi 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 8, 2013

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    I Have Known The Healthier Side Of Harmful. (Part-1)

    PART-1He was 40 years my senior. He was my first Dominant male experience. He was married to a woman he deeply loved. He was terribly honest from the onset that I was to be no more then an occasional sexual partner and traveling companion for him. He did not want to risk scandal...
    sharonsub sharonsub 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 13, 2013

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    Genuine: What Do You Want? Who And What Are You?

    Genuine: What Do You Want? Who And What Are You? By: Me Written on September 16th, 2012 Genuine: What do you want? Who and what are you? A recent Dom posted some things about ‘needing’. It important for us to...
    justbrowing9994 justbrowing9994 56-60, F 4 Responses Sep 16, 2012

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    The term ‘Acid Test’ is an old prospecting

    term. A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. Gold however, will stand up to most acids. The ‘Acid Test’ was an easy way for people to make sure they had a real nugget of gold and not a lump of the ‘fool’s’ variety. In the same way, these...
    wcsub wcsub 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Submission Is Not Weakness.

    To those on the outside looking in, they see you kneeling and misunderstand your position. They hear you call out, “Master!”, and apply the filters of their ignorance and inexperience. They see your training and call it cruel. But you know the truth they can not see. You...
    PaleFox PaleFox 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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