I Think Failed Relationships Change People

No matter how it ended. You will never be the same. 7,516 People

    After my last relationship,

    I learned that I needed to love myself more. I was going into relationships, believing that finding that other person would complete me somehow. Even society endorses this idea with terms like "your other half" or "the better part of you". To further complicate my idea of what a...
    wtfgirl001 wtfgirl001
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 26, 2015

    I can't wallow in detrimental thoughts I can't

    wonder where he is or what He is doing I can't imagine the worst I can't envision him smiling and wanting Someone else I can't keep wondering why I can't continue looking for the answers That are not there
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 24

    Indeed Failed Relations ,

    Change a Person. .. We get to know our selves more , A person can change for Good or bad We learn something about ourselves, We Grow as a Person. . Good or Bad , Relationships Mirror Your Inner issues in some way
    Amnik Amnik
    26-30, F
    Jan 26
    NatalieMarie521 NatalieMarie521
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 1, 2015

    Then And Now

    For sure they have changed me. I started out thinking I was a great judge of people and that first bitter hurt from a broken heart almost killed me. So then I naively figured it was just that person and tried again , wrong person I guess... I put up a wall so high that no one...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    8 Responses Sep 6, 2010

    Gun Shy.

    I've been on this site for a little while now, quietly watching and reading and taking in the new surroundings. I still don't know anyone. Still haven't quite figured out how things work socially, nor have I particularly tried to. I've often pondered, while reading this or that...
    Intelligently Intelligently
    31-35, F
    14 Responses Sep 12, 2010

    I think my heart stays broken.

    I'm pretty sure it's not fixable at this point.
    travelaround11 travelaround11
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 14

    Nothing is worse then the feeling of being alone

    and unwanted, when you want nothing more than to be with the one you love. I have experienced this recently when my husband decided that he no longer wanted a family. We have only been married for a year and a half. He has a child with his previous wife. We discussed all of...
    mizmae mizmae
    26-30, F
    Jul 11, 2015

    Letting yourself become emotionally vulnerable

    can make you feel so weak that you become strong.
    LiveLifeN LiveLifeN
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 11

    My ex husband cheated on me with my sister

    after he said there was nothing between them. Now, with my current husband I push him away and I'm lucky he doesn't let me go. My failed marriage changed my life because I've gained even worse trust issues.
    QueenxChance QueenxChance
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 4

    Of course they do, a relationship

    that works changes you! So why wouldn't one that ends change you?
    imnotyourfriend imnotyourfriend
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Nov 26, 2015

    i know its changed who i am completely.

    something i can Never forget. ive learned too much to ever forget any of it....and i know its made me a better person for me....maybe not for those who would like to continue pulling the wool over my eyes though....but i know.
    misssuppression misssuppression
    41-45, F
    Jan 22

    I think failed relationships like friendships,

    family, or romantic relationships are a good way to learn about yourself and kinda change your bad habits. Like for me when I was in the 9th grade I had a good friend but I kinda wanted to be his gf and stuff but it nvr happened cause I was too shy to make a move before he...
    StarDragonWitch StarDragonWitch
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 20, 2015

    Men are in charge of conducting themselves

    wisely when a woman offers herself to them. Just because a woman decides to give you a chance, to believe in you, to follow you and love you does not mean you can play house and enjoy the benefits of what she can offer outside of marriage. And women must understand, you are in...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed
    31-35, M
    Apr 16

    Forget what hurt you,

    but never ever forget what it taught you.
    iEmperorking iEmperorking
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Feb 4

    I don't believe relationships are meant to make

    us happy or to make our life easier,In fact it makes it harder but they are meant to make us grow,in this sense they are incredibly valuable.
    sincerehuman sincerehuman
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2015

    Relationships with others is about getting to

    know yourself, few understand this...
    PrometheusArcanus PrometheusArcanus
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jan 17

    I was broken I met you,

    I didn't blink an eye, you talked too much You were too young, too reckless, too opinionated, spoke too freely, jumped around like a puppy - I loved it You made me smile Gave me the attention I yearned for You listened, heard every word I said You become my best friend...
    Bells83 Bells83
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jan 7, 2014

    Every relationship is a time bomb.

    From the moment you first meet until it's inevitable ending. I can't help but see this now, every time I make a new friend here or anywhere. No matter how well you get along, or how strong your bond, the clock is ticking on whatever you manage to build and nurture with one...
    CopperCoil CopperCoil
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Mar 6

    Not necessarily in a negative way.

    I learned what I can accept, and what I cannot. I learned that no matter how much heartbreak I feel, no one feels bad forever. I learned that although letting go feels like it would kill me, I'm still standing. I learned to love myself for who I am, and not lower my standards...
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jan 31

    You know most of us have been there one time in

    our lives, perhaps in high school, a failed relationship for whatever reasons and sometimes after the breakup there's a remorse. Maybe it wasn't so bad after all and you're lonely and suddenly forget what you didn't like about you former lover, you only remember the good times...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher
    22-25, F
    8 Responses Apr 6, 2014

    541 days on a roller coaster.

    ..the love there was real, was all-encompassing, and it has marked my heart...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 24

    I definitely carry with me the lessons I've

    learned and to some extent whatever phobias I've acquired. Still, one has to remember that while it is wise to keep both those good and past miserable experiences as lessons learned, every new relationship is just that - new. It's a chance to build something more.
    Prykat Prykat
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 1, 2015
    BlueBerryCheesecake000 BlueBerryCheesecake000
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 9

    I can only remember in hindsight the words of

    my ex: "I will put you in your place" (as she smirked ever so demonically). Indeed she did. She had an agenda. She had a mission in life to teach a man or men a lesson. She invested 9 years to my ruin. She methodically planned it all.to think I loved her at least I want to think...
    Matthew633 Matthew633
    46-50, M
    Dec 8, 2013

    Totally true! Failed relationships will

    either change you in a good or bad way. Personally for me, I've changed in a good way and even if things have been hard and or difficult I don't regret any of it.
    shecanonlydream shecanonlydream
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 26

    You learn more about someone at the end of a

    relationship than at the beginning of it.
    Vejay Vejay
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jan 29

    If a man really likes you he's going to be very

    eager to introduce you to his family and friends his co-workers and just about everyone else in his life who is also important. He will want to take you out even if he doesn't have a lot of money and he will be willing to accommodate your interests rather than selfishly enjoying...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed
    31-35, M
    Apr 1

    You learn love isnt always forever.

    You learn jealousy is the most dangerous emotion on Earth You learn people are capable of doing really terrible things. You learn trust is the most important thing in a relationship. You learn love isnt always enough. You learn just how strong you are.
    myownbox myownbox
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 8, 2015

    A relationship is a connection between two

    individuals. When two people fall in love it has become a loving relationship. The relationship has moved from two people simply in contact with each other to two people who can't get enough of each other. A loving relationship may build slowly like a train coming in the...
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 29, 2015

    Just about every experience in personal

    relationships change you - or certainly, they can. Mostly though, it's ultimately up to you to decide whether that change will be good or bad. Take my separation & divorce: at first, I've been cynical and sometimes bitter about relationships, and how all eventually end. But more...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 21

    'It's pointless to invest your all into a

    relationship when in this day and age everything seems to have an expiration'.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Apr 9

    I have an incredibly forgetful mind.

    So I decided to list a few things I learned from my last relationship, so that I don't forget about them in the future. 1. Don't rely on anyone to give you self-worth, but you. Many people sit around waiting for 'the right one', when they don't realize that the only person in...
    wtfgirl001 wtfgirl001
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

    I'm tired of men, I'm tired of all my

    relationships failing, and I'm tired of putting all of my effort into something for no reason. Can I get a break for once in my life? I guess I should get prepared to live my life alone. Screw all of this.
    travelaround11 travelaround11
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 11

    Why...idk but it does in my case.

    When things go from amazing to crap in front of your own eyes yea changed me maybe because i cared with everything in me and got hurt for it. Lesson learned✋😊
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 3

    MY FIXED BROKEN HEART (IRONIC) I keep fixing my

    heart but it just keeps on collapsing. I try to just let it heal but it just won't. Everytime I do.. Someone's gonna come and tear it up in two. It left my mind in a mess. I'm a broken girl no one could ever really love. I'm no good for anyone. There are some who offered their...
    soyyoprincesa soyyoprincesa
    22-25, F
    Jan 18

    I was having dinner with friends

    and we exchanged stories about our kids. One dad talked about how his 19yo son was "moving heaven and earth" for his girlfriend- meaning his son had moved many times back and forth - moving near her, moving in with her and then moving out and was probably on his way to move...
    duella duella
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2015

    Dear cheating ex-boyfriend: Thank you.

    Trust me, It's not what I thought I'd be saying a year after we split either. I'm not thanking you for the memories, although I am at a place where I can look back and realize there were times we had fun. I'm thanking you for setting me free. I used to think being in a...
    RiseFromTheAshes RiseFromTheAshes
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 30, 2015

    It did, 90% for the better.

    . I'm far wiser, more sensitive, and I hve better sensibility on looking at life.. I saw my mistakes, I realised my flaws, I know what I want, what to pursue in the future and I manage to reveal the more me to myself.. And the nearly death experience of heartbreaks, hve shown...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    They change people, depending how it ended,

    they change people for better or worse.. But it makes people realize either they hate life without them or their better off. Sometimes people are like toxic and it feels good to not have them around, I'm sure you'll miss them here and there but it feels better to be free. My...
    Libraa09 Libraa09
    18-21, F
    Oct 5, 2015

    I'm not here to bash my love.

    I miss her and I ****** up. She was beautiful, smart, witty, talented, and she has life by the balls. Did I mention beautiful? Am I on the pity pot? **** yeah. And I haven't showered in 2 days. If only I had been more this or less that, if only I could turn back time if only...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa
    70+, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    Definitely true. But thank God,

    if my relationship with my ex didn't failed I couldn't imagine where I am right now. I maybe have no goals in life. So big thanks to my ******* ex for showing me his true color hahaha
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 29, 2015

    Imaging Putting soooooo much ****** time into a

    relationship. Getting used To One Person. Sharing Extreme intimacy, Physical and emotional!!!! Accepting someone for who they are. No matter what. Making a life together. Creating images Of what you guys' Future will b like, You dont Think that Losing this Person Sooo...
    vaane vaane
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    So there he was, someone

    who I perceived as perfect, someone who I thought would make me happy, just for once in my life. he gave me my first kiss and took back way too much in return. He left me broken. All I did was give him a second chance and all he did was bring me down. But I got addicted to that...
    ThatGirl290399 ThatGirl290399
    16-17, F
    Mar 29

    There are numerous older men in the world

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    toriccaa toriccaa
    26-30, F
    Nov 26, 2015

    I became so sick with love

    and I really thought that life would end without her. But then as time went on I realized I had been living long before she came into my life...
    BrotherKagiso BrotherKagiso
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    Of Course They Do.

    Failed relationships ALWAYS change people. Whether they know it or not. I'm talking about people that have been in serious relationships though, not some silly little one month thing. They change people for better or worse. It depends, but each is a lesson that you can only learn...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll
    18-21, F
    May 12, 2011

    Yeah, failed relationships can really mess

    change us. If you really love a person deeply and things don't work out, it can change your life forever and make it very hard to trust anyone. I know a particular relationship I have recently been in is killing me inside. I'm having a very hard time coping with it. It is...
    SecretStorms SecretStorms
    56-60, F
    6 Responses Oct 20, 2015
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