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I Think Failed Relationships Change People

No matter how it ended. You will never be the same. 6,089 People

    For the better and the worse.

    Essentially, failed relationships show you the error of your ways if you are wise enough.
    Li1981 Li1981 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    Would you get back into a relationship with a

    person that is controlling of every thing in your life and theirs?? I mean to the point that they tell you what to wear????
    bub1982 bub1982 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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    Relationships complements us,

    makes us see the brighter side of life. A lot of us put too much expectations that ends a relationship badly. We forget, for any relationship to blossom "WE" need to work in nurturing it and cultivating it for it to grow. Its a gigantic effort trying to make it work without the...
    Gladacious Gladacious 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Gun Shy.

    I've been on this site for a little while now, quietly watching and reading and taking in the new surroundings. I still don't know anyone. Still haven't quite figured out how things work socially, nor have I particularly tried to. I've often pondered, while reading this or that...
    Intelligently Intelligently 31-35, F 17 Responses Sep 12, 2010

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    ~ SELF WORTH ~ Building,

    or rebuilding, self~worth after the break up of a damaging relationship starts w/stopping the negative thoughts of the 1 that is no longer there, & thinking positive thoughts of the 1 who still is....U!!
    pyeito pyeito 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 21

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    If failed relationships don't change you,

    then you haven't grown or learned anything from the experience. There's no reason to believe every failed relationship should be the herald of some grand metamorphosis, but it should, at the very least, be a learning experience.
    PoisonedQuill PoisonedQuill 41-45, M 1 Response May 29

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    Recriminations and emotional scars.

    .. I told you so's echo in your mind. Like an oyster you add another layer....
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Failed relationships are

    for new perspective on what type of people you should have in your life. Although it will hurt you, it will only be temporary. Besides, if they didn't stay in your life, they crossed your path because they were a lesson! Work to build yourself around people who care, love and...
    jahfeel jahfeel 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Failed Relationships Do Change You... Either For The Better Or For Worse

    Failed relationships are not a bad thing. We learn from all of our relationships..whether romantic,friendship,family ...Take it as a learning experience. I think it helps us pinpoint what we want and what we do want in future relationships. I predict I will have some more failed...
    delta454 delta454 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 26, 2011

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Yep! Most definitely.

    Some more than others. Stay true...
    sixfiveguy sixfiveguy 26-30, M Jun 15

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    I think if you can learn one lesson from each

    failed relationship you are one up on many.
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 14

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    I've had afew serious relationships.

    . 'Nd I always end up ruining it :O oooOopsie Lol joking Anyways .... Relationships suck no more for me.. Taking a break boooyaaa!! .
    breelouise breelouise 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I Am Changing For The Better.

    It has certainly changed me for the better.I thought all i needed in this world was a loving and kind partner and together we could face the world.I never bothered to check if that person shared the same dreams,visions,goals and values with me.For me love was everything because i...
    Flolin Flolin 36-40 2 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    I was broken I met you,

    I didn't blink an eye, you talked too much You were too young, too reckless, too opinionated, spoke too freely, jumped around like a puppy - I loved it You made me smile Gave me the attention I yearned for You listened, heard every word I said You become my best friend...
    Bells83 Bells83 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 7

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    Its a timeline for all of us,

    time doesn't heal - it justs allows us to develop better coping mechanisms. Its been nearly a year and a half for me, still think about her every day, but have resisted the temptation to find out... I'm going forward still keeping a little part of me resigned to that time that...
    TDH1980 TDH1980 31-35, M Jul 11

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    Why is now in days that we (people in general),

    always have to find a way to prove our undying love for one another? What happen to " I LOVE YOU", or "YOU MEAN SO MUCH TO ME? I think back when I was dating my first boyfriend (ex-boyfriend). In that time I really loved this guy. I thought (in my head) everything was great in...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    For people to grow they need to experience

    and learn from failures. As long as you keep getting up after getting knocked down your not a loser.
    long4u long4u 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    Yes, they do. They eliminate garbage,

    they set the standards for what it is you need
    IntomeYousee IntomeYousee 36-40, F Jul 6

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    I can only remember in hindsight the words of

    my ex: "I will put you in your place" (as she smirked ever so demonically). Indeed she did. She had an agenda. She had a mission in life to teach a man or men a lesson. She invested 9 years to my ruin. She methodically planned it all.to think I loved her at least I want to think...
    Matthew633 Matthew633 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    Then And Now

    For sure they have changed me. I started out thinking I was a great judge of people and that first bitter hurt from a broken heart almost killed me. So then I naively figured it was just that person and tried again , wrong person I guess... I put up a wall so high that no one...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 13 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    I feel like a changed person

    and then changed again. My ex shattered my heart and it took me years to pick up the pieces. Then I stupidly ran scared from another relationship. I feel like I've grown up since. I've matured.
    Devilscar Devilscar 18-21, M 2 Responses May 2

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    Of Course They Do.

    Failed relationships ALWAYS change people. Whether they know it or not. I'm talking about people that have been in serious relationships though, not some silly little one month thing. They change people for better or worse. It depends, but each is a lesson that you can only learn...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F May 12, 2011

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    Yeah, all the invested energy

    and time just to have some who said they love you become an awful ebem
    spaeth spaeth 41-45, M 4 Responses Apr 6

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    I've lost someone who was never mine.

    And I never thought it would hurt this bad. My heart is broken, and I don't know what to do; I wanna die....
    anderrss16 anderrss16 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    Ain't no glamour in this tinseled land of lost

    and wasted lives; Painful scars are all that's left of me; Oh, but thank you girl for teachin' me brand new ways to be cruel; If I can find my mind now I guess I'll just leave - Dwight Youkam
    ItMayBeShort ItMayBeShort 46-50, M 1 Response Jun 7

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    Change For Good?

    I feel like I'm in the metamorphosis phase of my life. It’s scary to think what I will look like when I come out! 7 months of separation and I know that I've changed. I know that I've become a much more sensitive, compassionate and understanding man. I was before all of this...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 5 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Mosaic

    We are all changing and evolving throughout life.  The people we meet and with whom we interact all make their mark.  Some deeper than others of course. In the case of a failed relationship, which I take to mean a marriage or long term romantic relationship, the scars can take...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 23 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    Failed relationships totally change a person.

    I was once a loving, kind hearted person and now im cold hearted and it takes a while to get me trust you. I guess i learned it from all the previos relationships ive had. Now i just dont bother to trust or be with anyone. But thats not always the case.
    verox3 verox3 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    I recently got back together with the man

    who broke my heart a few years ago. We were together and happy, I'd just taken him home to meet my family out of state. And then one day he decided to just turn and walk out of my life. No communication, no explanation, nothing but a memory. Then bam he is back a year and a half...
    ladyofmanylives ladyofmanylives 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Relationships that have failed definatly change

    a persons feelings and personality. No doubt. Threw all the crap ive been threw and the way people have treated me, it gets to the point were being happy doesnt even want to exist for me..
    MajorasAngel97 MajorasAngel97 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    You know most of us have been there one time in

    our lives, perhaps in high school, a failed relationship for whatever reasons and sometimes after the breakup there's a remorse. Maybe it wasn't so bad after all and you're lonely and suddenly forget what you didn't like about you former lover, you only remember the good times...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 6

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    I Am Okay When It Fails

    I guess I am a realist and have come to the point that nothing last for ever.  Live life to it's fullest, give 100% and then at the end, move on.  I think any change that happens is a good thing, because I don't think I would want to be the same person forever.
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M 6 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    It changes your way of thinking.

    Your outlook for next relationships. It steals your happiness and makes you insecure. You come out as a different person, someone you thought you'd never be.
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 4

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    Exercise Can Heal a Broken Heart.

    I had gone to visit my doctor for some random reason, I either had a sinus infection or my asthma was acting up, and before I had a chance to speak with my MD, the nurse weighed me and told me I weight 267 lbs. I had quit buying clothes at regular stores because I would get so...
    VegaLove VegaLove 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    they have changed me.

    I'm too scared of getting attached to someone now, scared of being let down. Once I start to get pretty close to someone I back off and think 'I don't need them'. this is all because of my past relationship, I've gave them every piece of my heart and soul, and they gave me lies...
    lovers0fthelight lovers0fthelight 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 11, 2013

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    Lyrics that you hope never apply to you,

    but alas! In dreams I meet you in warm conversation We both wake in lonely beds in different cities And time is taking its sweet time erasing you And you've got your demons, and, darling, they all look like me 'Cause we had a beautiful magic love there What a sad beautiful...
    SEDONA83 SEDONA83 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I was once in a relationship

    that ended in me being a therapist
    thatonerandomguy thatonerandomguy 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I am sure failed relationships do change people.

    Adds things like trust issues, insecurity, anxiety, and even depression. I have tried to connect with him for years and he keeps me at arms length. I am sure the issues are mostly his, but rejection is rejection anyway you serve it. Overtime a stress crack becomes a full on...
    Lanie42 Lanie42 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 11

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    I think the reason for people having a fail

    relationships it because we expect more from that person , what I'm trying to say is that me let our guard down and let that person in to our soul and show them the part of us that we cant show any one els and when they break our hearts we close our hearts to anyone that...
    noahGb noahGb 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 27

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    Im Not That Woman....

    After I got married it was like I was a changed person. I alienated most of my friends, because he didnt like them. Didn't talk much to my family members. All of them of course noticed and I even lost alot of them, because of it. I had always told myself that I would never be...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 9 Responses Oct 22, 2011

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    PLEASE, I need guy advice So there is this

    guy at my work- Geoff. He is a member of the tennis club I work at. He's somewhat of a player and rough around the edges and about 27. He talks a lot about how much money he drops and such. And uses his hot body and money to get ladies. Well he and his friend (Brad) have this...
    Speifer Speifer 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    Yes, It Surely Does.

    People talk. People lie. People cheat. People change their ways. People do stupid things. People walk out of your life. People hurt you. People make you. People break you. People heal you. People save you. Welcome to life.
    TiredOfRunning TiredOfRunning 18-21, F May 2, 2013

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    Have been stuck in this relationship out of

    convenience. Can you relate?
    whitesnake7hard whitesnake7hard 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 29

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    I gave my all in my previous relationships.

    I was cheated on an taken advantage of. Now, I am guarded. I believe that we should be a team. But, still have the trust and give each other space and freedoms. As long as nobody gets hurt.
    lulusgurl32 lulusgurl32 51-55, F Jul 12

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    Not Necessarily So

    I think that the title of this group would be better suited if it was "I think failed relationships have the potential to change people".  In order for change to come about, first there must be acceptance of responsibility. I'm sure we've all met people that perpetually...
    bassplayer bassplayer 46-50, M 24 Responses Nov 22, 2010

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    spreadthelove22 spreadthelove22 22-25, F Feb 4

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    Gonna see my two young children Monday

    after almost 6 months,only problem is my ex wife insists she sticks around during the visit,I have learned forgiveness is very liberating,just the divorce has left so many unanswered questions and a lot of raw emotions....guess all my hard work of trying to forgive and...
    TommyTunes71 TommyTunes71 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Everything happens for a reason,

    so you have to take what you can learn from your experience and grow from it.
    khokho204 khokho204 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    Why cant i move on from broken relationship !

    I know i still love her but is been over for ages and i still cant move on !!!
    kuklinski69 kuklinski69 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    Funny how you expect me to be faithful

    and loyal to you when YOU can't do the same for me. Rebuilding my walls and no one will break it ever!
    Togepi07 Togepi07 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Sometimes I think what could of been

    if I trust a little harder. If I was a little more understanding. If I loved a little more. If I tried more harder to have that baby that you always wanted. My gut feeling knew that my heart knew and my soul knew that I wasn't able to hold to you any longer. Nine yrs we were...
    natashaxxs natashaxxs 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 15

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    bittersweetsourandsalty bittersweetsourandsalty 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 4

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