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I Think Failed Relationships Change People

No matter how it ended. You will never be the same. 7,137 People

    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 1

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    Nothing is worse then the feeling of being alone

    and unwanted, when you want nothing more than to be with the one you love. I have experienced this recently when my husband decided that he no longer wanted a family. We have only been married for a year and a half. He has a child with his previous wife. We discussed all of...
    mizmae mizmae 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I've been through a lot the last year.

    And I'd like to share it with whoever will listen. It started last summer, I got into a relationship with a guy I had known for 3 years, always flirty with me but I was too young. I ended up losing my virginity to the 20 year old guy at the age of 16, sounds terrible, I know...
    papayalyn papayalyn 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    chriscc11 chriscc11 26-30, F Jul 21

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    it depends on u det which way u r going.

    . positive or negative..
    friendsandfamily12 friendsandfamily12 31-35, M Jun 3

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    In my journey I have realized

    that relationships fail mainly and mostly because of suspicion, self-conceit, controlling and manipulative behavior, indifference and irresponsibility, withdrawal, aloofness and no openness, misjudgment, too much of a difference in beliefs and desires and being easily offended...
    harmony226 harmony226 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 4

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    Dating is a trial and error experience.

    As one relationship fails you remember the things you liked and look for that in the next person, and the things you didnt like you be sure to leave behind. Same goes for you tho...bring the things you like in yourself forward and leave behind the bad.
    incufreak213 incufreak213 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    well I'm sure it does

    because I changed
    Jessica2801 Jessica2801 13-15, F Jun 1

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    Changing our own attitudes to please others ,

    especially in order to save a relationship is not worth it. We change for our own better self. That is Honesty.
    jkondar jkondar 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 1

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    Recriminations and emotional scars.

    .. I told you so's echo in your mind. Like an oyster you add another layer....
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    Then And Now

    For sure they have changed me. I started out thinking I was a great judge of people and that first bitter hurt from a broken heart almost killed me. So then I naively figured it was just that person and tried again , wrong person I guess... I put up a wall so high that no one...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 12 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    My first boyfriend. met him at 19 dated

    for 4yrs. loved him to bits and would've done anything and everything for him. found out 4yrs was all build on huge lie. He was seeing his ex behind my back all along. It cut right through me. A part of me died that I'll never get back. Long story short. Am heartless now I can...
    magz24 magz24 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 4

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    It did, 90% for the better.

    . I'm far wiser, more sensitive, and I hve better sensibility on looking at life.. I saw my mistakes, I realised my flaws, I know what I want, what to pursue in the future and I manage to reveal the more me to myself.. And the nearly death experience of heartbreaks, hve shown...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 3 Responses Mar 10

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    Of Course They Do.

    Failed relationships ALWAYS change people. Whether they know it or not. I'm talking about people that have been in serious relationships though, not some silly little one month thing. They change people for better or worse. It depends, but each is a lesson that you can only learn...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F May 12, 2011

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    Tonight I was able to end two unhealthy

    relationships. I know I will miss them but then I will remember the simple statement "if it doesn't make you feel good then don't do it " . If I didn't end it I don't think they ever would and it would go on indefinitely . Learning to set boundaries and how to define friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 7

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    You know most of us have been there one time in

    our lives, perhaps in high school, a failed relationship for whatever reasons and sometimes after the breakup there's a remorse. Maybe it wasn't so bad after all and you're lonely and suddenly forget what you didn't like about you former lover, you only remember the good times...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F 9 Responses Apr 6, 2014

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    It's gotten to a point

    where I don't even think about him anymore. He's just a healing scar that gets clearer every day. He's no longer the same person, nor am I. Every once in a while I'll be reminded of the man I once knew and the world we created together. But I just have to remind myself that...
    chloejune chloejune 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    We get older and usually wiser,

    we start to understand what we need and what we need to leave behind, Sometimes walking away is a step forward. Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself & the right person will like you for who you are. A failure is not a loss its a Gain, you Learn, and you Change...
    GlennSimpson348 GlennSimpson348 18-21, M Jul 20

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    I was broken I met you,

    I didn't blink an eye, you talked too much You were too young, too reckless, too opinionated, spoke too freely, jumped around like a puppy - I loved it You made me smile Gave me the attention I yearned for You listened, heard every word I said You become my best friend...
    Bells83 Bells83 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 7, 2014

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    Failed relationships change me.

    Especially the one that ended really bad. I'll never be the same girl I was before, they say don't become who hurt you and I will not. I won't be a MONSTER like him. But, I'm definitely not the same girl I was 3 weeks ago. Memories and pictures don't change but the people in...
    Aliyaa2 Aliyaa2 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18

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    I have had several. So I know this is true.

    I'm not the same. I'm and for the most part hard, cold,distant and I don't. open up very often.
    space4rent space4rent 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 22

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    I could never say that I regret dating someone

    no matter how long, or short that relationship was. Every failed relationship I had not only taught me what I was doing wrong, but what to look for that you're lacking in the next relationship. Failed relationships do change people because they failed for a reason, and it's up...
    loveyouforever9786 loveyouforever9786 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    both for the better and

    for worse, which in my case is both. When a relationship fails there's always a deeper level reached, such as knowing who and what you want in your future & the kind of relationship you know you deserve and what you won't tolerate. I learned all of that through a past, very...
    anon0109 anon0109 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    when I dream its still of her.

    my fantasies are still of her. but she's gone, gone away, gone forward, gone from me
    Polis195 Polis195 36-40, M Jun 30

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    Not Necessarily So

    I think that the title of this group would be better suited if it was "I think failed relationships have the potential to change people".  In order for change to come about, first there must be acceptance of responsibility. I'm sure we've all met people that perpetually...
    bassplayer bassplayer 46-50, M 24 Responses Nov 22, 2010

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    They most certainly do.

    and I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. It's also friendships, and family relationships. Anyone who you once trusted and put faith into lets you down, it probably will scar you, at least a little bit. I've never had a failed romantic relationship, and hardly...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 7

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    Caring, single, non judgemental

    and deep but slightly shy guy here. Looking for true friendship, never had. But, want something that has a meaning. Does any woman want the same, if so message me.
    Tannedguy007 Tannedguy007 26-30, M Jun 27

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    I recently got back together with the man

    who broke my heart a few years ago. We were together and happy, I'd just taken him home to meet my family out of state. And then one day he decided to just turn and walk out of my life. No communication, no explanation, nothing but a memory. Then bam he is back a year and a half...
    ladyofmanylives ladyofmanylives 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    If failed relationships don't change you,

    then you haven't grown or learned anything from the experience. There's no reason to believe every failed relationship should be the herald of some grand metamorphosis, but it should, at the very least, be a learning experience.
    PoisonedQuill PoisonedQuill 41-45, M May 29, 2014

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    Each day my opinion is different.

    Sometimes I feel like it made me stronger. Other days, like today, I'm broken.
    ShyGuy990 ShyGuy990 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 12

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    mine has and not for the better.

    I watched all my dreams and future die as if another person, detached and looking at myself from afar.
    Polis195 Polis195 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    anything that happens to us effects us

    and choice we make down the line for me it was Love that effected me for years my first love we had ben with each other sense the first day of 8thin 1960 we both had just turned 19 a few months before and she was killed as she walked to her office my second love we had only...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M 4 Responses Jun 1

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    all i wanted to do was love him

    and be the one he wanted there beside him. Now, i dont know if i can talk to him if he were to try to talk.
    lifealwayschanges lifealwayschanges 41-45, F Jul 11

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    Exercise Can Heal a Broken Heart.

    I had gone to visit my doctor for some random reason, I either had a sinus infection or my asthma was acting up, and before I had a chance to speak with my MD, the nurse weighed me and told me I weight 267 lbs. I had quit buying clothes at regular stores because I would get so...
    VegaLove VegaLove 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    No one can fully have everything you want.

    Need to have more than one if you want everything.
    Calmforest Calmforest 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    They sure do... Make one to be guarded.

    ..as if you are walking on eggshells all through waiting for one small mistake and bam you are gone...
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F Jun 27

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    I don't believe relationships are meant to make

    us happy or to make our life easier,In fact it makes it harder but they are meant to make us grow,in this sense they are incredibly valuable.
    sincerehuman sincerehuman 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    I remember you told me this once: "You're a

    sweet guy says my name*, sweet to a woman, you know how to make a girl feel good, always showing me details like hearing our songs, and i like that because us girls always appreciate the little details the most, please never let anyone change you" well guess you was the one who...
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M Jun 7

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    I can only remember in hindsight the words of

    my ex: "I will put you in your place" (as she smirked ever so demonically). Indeed she did. She had an agenda. She had a mission in life to teach a man or men a lesson. She invested 9 years to my ruin. She methodically planned it all.to think I loved her at least I want to think...
    Matthew633 Matthew633 46-50, M Dec 8, 2013

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    I think failed relationships like friendships,

    family, or romantic relationships are a good way to learn about yourself and kinda change your bad habits. Like for me when I was in the 9th grade I had a good friend but I kinda wanted to be his gf and stuff but it nvr happened cause I was too shy to make a move before he...
    StarDragonWitch StarDragonWitch 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    NatalieMarie521 NatalieMarie521 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 1

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    I believe they do. My own failed relationships

    have taught me many things about what I would change in myself to be better next time. Or what I can stand in any relationship, as is what is acceptable to me.
    Cadiaaya Cadiaaya 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    I was just going over my last failed

    relationship. My newest ex is already moved on and into some guy. My last two exes also quickly moved on into new relationships. Everyone is happy and living the life they want now which I'm glad about for them. I cannot wonder though if there's a pattern. I see! to get...
    Polis195 Polis195 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    It does. And the scariest part is,

    I don't even know who I am anymore.
    raiee raiee 26-30 4 Responses Jun 29

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    Mosaic

    We are all changing and evolving throughout life.  The people we meet and with whom we interact all make their mark.  Some deeper than others of course. In the case of a failed relationship, which I take to mean a marriage or long term romantic relationship, the scars can take...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 22 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    You learn love isnt always forever.

    You learn jealousy is the most dangerous emotion on Earth You learn people are capable of doing really terrible things. You learn trust is the most important thing in a relationship. You learn love isnt always enough. You learn just how strong you are.
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 8

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