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I Think Failed Relationships Change People

No matter how it ended. You will never be the same. 5,864 People

    Exercise Can Heal a Broken Heart.

    I had gone to visit my doctor for some random reason, I either had a sinus infection or my asthma was acting up, and before I had a chance to speak with my MD, the nurse weighed me and told me I weight 267 lbs. I had quit buying clothes at regular stores because I would get so...
    VegaLove VegaLove 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    & Hopefully you come out

    as a stronger person in the end. Idk.. Do you? Or do you just go on living the same lifestyle that drove them out of your life to begin with? I don't even know which one of us is right and which one of us is wrong anymore. Things have gotten way too confusing. I need space...
    Vixen2010 Vixen2010 22-25, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've lost someone who was never mine.

    And I never thought it would hurt this bad. My heart is broken, and I don't know what to do; I wanna die....
    anderrss16 anderrss16 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    I posted a previous experience about something

    I was going through with an ex. It was always what I did wrong and how I was a bad person and this that and the other. There's more but it's too much. Finally after 4 years (we haven't been together consistently in 2 years) I told him exactly how I felt. I told him how the...
    Dessy101 Dessy101 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 9

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    Yeah, all the invested energy

    and time just to have some who said they love you become an awful ebem
    spaeth spaeth 41-45, M 4 Responses Apr 6

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    For people to grow they need to experience

    and learn from failures. As long as you keep getting up after getting knocked down your not a loser.
    long4u long4u 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 3

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    Definitely changed Me

    for the Better
    lexix0 lexix0 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    Relationships that have failed definatly change

    a persons feelings and personality. No doubt. Threw all the crap ive been threw and the way people have treated me, it gets to the point were being happy doesnt even want to exist for me..
    MajorasAngel97 MajorasAngel97 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    You know most of us have been there one time in

    our lives, perhaps in high school, a failed relationship for whatever reasons and sometimes after the breakup there's a remorse. Maybe it wasn't so bad after all and you're lonely and suddenly forget what you didn't like about you former lover, you only remember the good times...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 6

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    Then And Now

    For sure they have changed me. I started out thinking I was a great judge of people and that first bitter hurt from a broken heart almost killed me. So then I naively figured it was just that person and tried again , wrong person I guess... I put up a wall so high that no one...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 13 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    The Sequence :

    You meet. You exchange numbers. You text. You make calls. You become friends. You talk a lot! You become best friends. Life seems changing.. getting better. Now you think you have someone. You get gifts. You're on cloud nine. You fall in love. You continue talking.. talking a lot...
    TiredOfRunning TiredOfRunning 18-21, F 4 Responses May 2, 2013

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    I've learnt not to rush things,

    don't let her heart rule your head, only move out if you can absolutely afford it, and communication is the key. If there's a problem, talk it out as soon as it materialises.
    oxcycler89 oxcycler89 22-25, M Jan 27

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    spreadthelove22 spreadthelove22 22-25, F Feb 4

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    Is it possible to be friends with an ex?

    I don't talk to any of my ex boyfriends but I wish I did sometimes at least to know they are ok
    Searching4newbeginnings Searching4newbeginnings 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 17

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    Failed Relationships Are Not Your Identity

    I think that as people go from one failed relationship to another, they ultimately want to lay blame on the other person. (I know I do!) but at some point you have to take a hard look at yourself and give yourself an honest evaluation of who I am (rather than what I did) to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 4, 2013

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    ~ SELF WORTH ~ Building,

    or rebuilding, self~worth after the break up of a damaging relationship starts w/stopping the negative thoughts of the 1 that is no longer there, & thinking positive thoughts of the 1 who still is....U!!
    pyeito pyeito 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I think if you can learn one lesson from each

    failed relationship you are one up on many.
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 14

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    Why cant i move on from broken relationship !

    I know i still love her but is been over for ages and i still cant move on !!!
    kuklinski69 kuklinski69 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    To Be Or Not To Be .....

    Dougs'  poem initiated some heavy thinking! A reflection upon the dynamics of "bad relationships" as opposed to destructive endings of relationships that affect our outlook and ...... the long term knock on effect of both. I ponder and I  wonder.  For me, the ending of my...
    liguidgold liguidgold 41-45, F Mar 22, 2012

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    You're not the same as you used to be Now

    you're the monster but you don't see Quit blaming our pain ALL on me You're not innocent stop pretending to be This is your fault as much as mine But you will suffer And I'll be fine
    Vixen2010 Vixen2010 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    Of Course They Do.

    Failed relationships ALWAYS change people. Whether they know it or not. I'm talking about people that have been in serious relationships though, not some silly little one month thing. They change people for better or worse. It depends, but each is a lesson that you can only learn...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F May 12, 2011

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    Have been stuck in this relationship out of

    convenience. Can you relate?
    whitesnake7hard whitesnake7hard 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 29

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    they have changed me.

    I'm too scared of getting attached to someone now, scared of being let down. Once I start to get pretty close to someone I back off and think 'I don't need them'. this is all because of my past relationship, I've gave them every piece of my heart and soul, and they gave me lies...
    lovers0fthelight lovers0fthelight 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 11, 2013

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    Not Necessarily So

    I think that the title of this group would be better suited if it was "I think failed relationships have the potential to change people".  In order for change to come about, first there must be acceptance of responsibility. I'm sure we've all met people that perpetually...
    bassplayer bassplayer 46-50, M 24 Responses Nov 22, 2010

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    I recently got back together with the man

    who broke my heart a few years ago. We were together and happy, I'd just taken him home to meet my family out of state. And then one day he decided to just turn and walk out of my life. No communication, no explanation, nothing but a memory. Then bam he is back a year and a half...
    ladyofmanylives ladyofmanylives 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I think some people are meant to fall in love

    with each other but not meant to be together😕
    Promisesarebullshit Promisesarebullshit 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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    Failed relationships are

    for new perspective on what type of people you should have in your life. Although it will hurt you, it will only be temporary. Besides, if they didn't stay in your life, they crossed your path because they were a lesson! Work to build yourself around people who care, love and...
    jahfeel jahfeel 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Fail?? If you don't change then you will

    continue making the same mistakes everyone calls "failures" live & learn. I know personally that my failed past relationship has made me a better person in my current relationship. I've been married over 10 years & I'm still learning, I just don't give up anymore, I work harder...
    combatbarbie01 combatbarbie01 31-35, F Dec 5, 2013

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    Change For Good?

    I feel like I'm in the metamorphosis phase of my life. It’s scary to think what I will look like when I come out! 7 months of separation and I know that I've changed. I know that I've become a much more sensitive, compassionate and understanding man. I was before all of this...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 5 Responses May 16, 2012

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    I Am Changing For The Better.

    It has certainly changed me for the better.I thought all i needed in this world was a loving and kind partner and together we could face the world.I never bothered to check if that person shared the same dreams,visions,goals and values with me.For me love was everything because i...
    Flolin Flolin 36-40 2 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    The last two years of my life i had gotten into

    i guess you could say my first serious relationship. It ultimately ruined me, in almost every single way possible. He was a liar, a cheater, a possessive, and manipulative person. No matter what i did i was always at fault. Before i met him i was honestly the happiest person...
    j5xo j5xo 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    Dumped!!!

    I was dumped at Christmas, New Year and then Valentine's Day - by the same guy - but I will never make that mistake a 4th time lol :)
    Sparda78 Sparda78 31-35, F 7 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Failed relationships make you a better person.

    It helps you to see who you are, and what you want in a future relationship or person.
    HawkEye13 HawkEye13 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 19

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    I finished my schooling was very innocent then ,

    reached college ,unlucky fell in love from my side truly ,deeply ,madly ,but it dint last as he left me for another girl .this shock had a huge impact on me and changed me completely .destroyed a part of my career ,my progress ,my innocence and my trust in people .after that a...
    softnhot softnhot 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    I can only remember in hindsight the words of

    my ex: "I will put you in your place" (as she smirked ever so demonically). Indeed she did. She had an agenda. She had a mission in life to teach a man or men a lesson. She invested 9 years to my ruin. She methodically planned it all.to think I loved her at least I want to think...
    Matthew633 Matthew633 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    It changes your way of thinking.

    Your outlook for next relationships. It steals your happiness and makes you insecure. You come out as a different person, someone you thought you'd never be.
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 4

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    I was broken I met you,

    I didn't blink an eye, you talked too much You were too young, too reckless, too opinionated, spoke too freely, jumped around like a puppy - I loved it You made me smile Gave me the attention I yearned for You listened, heard every word I said You become my best friend...
    Bells83 Bells83 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 7

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    I Am Okay When It Fails

    I guess I am a realist and have come to the point that nothing last for ever.  Live life to it's fullest, give 100% and then at the end, move on.  I think any change that happens is a good thing, because I don't think I would want to be the same person forever.
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M 6 Responses Nov 5, 2009

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    Failed relationships makes me strong person .

    . Don't let the pain rule your heart , let the happiness rule your heart ..
    ladyYui ladyYui 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    A failed relationship can change a person.

    I did. At first I thought I failed. Not true. The relationship did. I changed how I perceived what I thought was the cause of the breakup. I changed because now I know I made mistakes, and I can learn from them and move on. Instead of wallowing in self guilt and self pity. I am...
    Erik33 Erik33 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 13

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    Yeah. My past relationship changed me a lot.

    Lol. It taught me how to be strong. Lol. It hurts though
    Thatssoawesome Thatssoawesome 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    Yes, It Surely Does.

    People talk. People lie. People cheat. People change their ways. People do stupid things. People walk out of your life. People hurt you. People make you. People break you. People heal you. People save you. Welcome to life.
    TiredOfRunning TiredOfRunning 18-21, F May 2, 2013

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    Destiny Beckoned My Name, Drew Me To You, But Destiny Loves To Play Games

    I have recently been made to understand that I'm not as important as I thought I was in my (no longer) boyfriends life. It's the very definition of irony that we are both mid- marriage break up, but not together. It was a surprise to find out that I'm not special, that no person...
    laniferous laniferous 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2012

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    Gun Shy.

    I've been on this site for a little while now, quietly watching and reading and taking in the new surroundings. I still don't know anyone. Still haven't quite figured out how things work socially, nor have I particularly tried to. I've often pondered, while reading this or that...
    Intelligently Intelligently 31-35, F 17 Responses Sep 12, 2010

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    I've been through many breakups

    and most of them were very hard for me. I tried not to let these experiences change my views on relationships, but I couldn't stop my mind from over thinking the smallest things. I'm in a great relationship now and I truly love my girlfriend, but through no fault on her part, I...
    LastTrueGentleman LastTrueGentleman 22-25, M 3 Responses Mar 10

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    WatchOutItsKyle WatchOutItsKyle 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 4

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    hellothere00 hellothere00 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 9

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    Relationships complements us,

    makes us see the brighter side of life. A lot of us put too much expectations that ends a relationship badly. We forget, for any relationship to blossom "WE" need to work in nurturing it and cultivating it for it to grow. Its a gigantic effort trying to make it work without the...
    Gladacious Gladacious 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Everything happens for a reason,

    so you have to take what you can learn from your experience and grow from it.
    khokho204 khokho204 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2013

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    PLEASE, I need guy advice So there is this

    guy at my work- Geoff. He is a member of the tennis club I work at. He's somewhat of a player and rough around the edges and about 27. He talks a lot about how much money he drops and such. And uses his hot body and money to get ladies. Well he and his friend (Brad) have this...
    Speifer Speifer 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    That They Do.

    It makes you think be for you jump in to the next relationship
    gstormfab gstormfab 46-50, M Nov 10, 2013

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    Would you get back into a relationship with a

    person that is controlling of every thing in your life and theirs?? I mean to the point that they tell you what to wear????
    bub1982 bub1982 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 25

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    Does failed almost-relationship count?

    It sure did change me. When things have been bad before, it's just so hard to get back on it.
    amazebaltz amazebaltz 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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