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I Think Failed Relationships Change People

No matter how it ended. You will never be the same. 7,061 People

    I believe they do. My own failed relationships

    have taught me many things about what I would change in myself to be better next time. Or what I can stand in any relationship, as is what is acceptable to me.
    Cadiaaya Cadiaaya 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    Not Necessarily So

    I think that the title of this group would be better suited if it was "I think failed relationships have the potential to change people".  In order for change to come about, first there must be acceptance of responsibility. I'm sure we've all met people that perpetually...
    bassplayer bassplayer 46-50, M 24 Responses Nov 22, 2010

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    NatalieMarie521 NatalieMarie521 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 1

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    Of Course They Do.

    Failed relationships ALWAYS change people. Whether they know it or not. I'm talking about people that have been in serious relationships though, not some silly little one month thing. They change people for better or worse. It depends, but each is a lesson that you can only learn...
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll 18-21, F May 12, 2011

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    You know most of us have been there one time in

    our lives, perhaps in high school, a failed relationship for whatever reasons and sometimes after the breakup there's a remorse. Maybe it wasn't so bad after all and you're lonely and suddenly forget what you didn't like about you former lover, you only remember the good times...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F 9 Responses Apr 6, 2014

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    Failed relationships have made me stronger

    and I consider it a good thing :3
    famile famile 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 1

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    Exercise Can Heal a Broken Heart.

    I had gone to visit my doctor for some random reason, I either had a sinus infection or my asthma was acting up, and before I had a chance to speak with my MD, the nurse weighed me and told me I weight 267 lbs. I had quit buying clothes at regular stores because I would get so...
    VegaLove VegaLove 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 4, 2008

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    anything that happens to us effects us

    and choice we make down the line for me it was Love that effected me for years my first love we had ben with each other sense the first day of 8thin 1960 we both had just turned 19 a few months before and she was killed as she walked to her office my second love we had only...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M 4 Responses Jun 1

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    Changing our own attitudes to please others ,

    especially in order to save a relationship is not worth it. We change for our own better self. That is Honesty.
    jkondar jkondar 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 1

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    I was just going over my last failed

    relationship. My newest ex is already moved on and into some guy. My last two exes also quickly moved on into new relationships. Everyone is happy and living the life they want now which I'm glad about for them. I cannot wonder though if there's a pattern. I see! to get...
    Polis195 Polis195 36-40, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I definitely carry with me the lessons I've

    learned and to some extent whatever phobias I've acquired. Still, one has to remember that while it is wise to keep both those good and past miserable experiences as lessons learned, every new relationship is just that - new. It's a chance to build something more.
    Prykat Prykat 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 1

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    Caring, single, non judgemental

    and deep but slightly shy guy here. Looking for true friendship, never had. But, want something that has a meaning. Does any woman want the same, if so message me.
    Tannedguy007 Tannedguy007 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    No one can fully have everything you want.

    Need to have more than one if you want everything.
    Calmforest Calmforest 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've been through a lot the last year.

    And I'd like to share it with whoever will listen. It started last summer, I got into a relationship with a guy I had known for 3 years, always flirty with me but I was too young. I ended up losing my virginity to the 20 year old guy at the age of 16, sounds terrible, I know...
    papayalyn papayalyn 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    You learn love isnt always forever.

    You learn jealousy is the most dangerous emotion on Earth You learn people are capable of doing really terrible things. You learn trust is the most important thing in a relationship. You learn love isnt always enough. You learn just how strong you are.
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 8

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    It did, 90% for the better.

    . I'm far wiser, more sensitive, and I hve better sensibility on looking at life.. I saw my mistakes, I realised my flaws, I know what I want, what to pursue in the future and I manage to reveal the more me to myself.. And the nearly death experience of heartbreaks, hve shown...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 3 Responses Mar 10

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    well I'm sure it does

    because I changed
    Jessica2801 Jessica2801 13-15, F Jun 1

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    it depends on u det which way u r going.

    . positive or negative..
    friendsandfamily12 friendsandfamily12 31-35, M Jun 3

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    I could never say that I regret dating someone

    no matter how long, or short that relationship was. Every failed relationship I had not only taught me what I was doing wrong, but what to look for that you're lacking in the next relationship. Failed relationships do change people because they failed for a reason, and it's up...
    loveyouforever9786 loveyouforever9786 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    It does. And the scariest part is,

    I don't even know who I am anymore.
    raiee raiee 26-30, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    well was sad about it

    for a little over 3 years and then bam that everlasting sadness just fanished:) not sure how or why but its gone. old thoughts of her don't even bug me anymore. feels pretty good though :)
    cartoonblankets cartoonblankets 18-21, M 2 Responses May 31

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    I can only remember in hindsight the words of

    my ex: "I will put you in your place" (as she smirked ever so demonically). Indeed she did. She had an agenda. She had a mission in life to teach a man or men a lesson. She invested 9 years to my ruin. She methodically planned it all.to think I loved her at least I want to think...
    Matthew633 Matthew633 46-50, M Dec 8, 2013

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    How would you deal with a partner

    who is extremely depressed to the point where they shut themselves off from you and are cold? Sometimes the person is so stuck in their depression that they don't realize that they are doing this. Break things off or work it out?
    ladysapio ladysapio 22-25, F 1 Response May 31

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    Dating is a trial and error experience.

    As one relationship fails you remember the things you liked and look for that in the next person, and the things you didnt like you be sure to leave behind. Same goes for you tho...bring the things you like in yourself forward and leave behind the bad.
    incufreak213 incufreak213 31-35, F 7 hrs ago

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    I recently got back together with the man

    who broke my heart a few years ago. We were together and happy, I'd just taken him home to meet my family out of state. And then one day he decided to just turn and walk out of my life. No communication, no explanation, nothing but a memory. Then bam he is back a year and a half...
    ladyofmanylives ladyofmanylives 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I have had several. So I know this is true.

    I'm not the same. I'm and for the most part hard, cold,distant and I don't. open up very often.
    space4rent space4rent 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    Each day my opinion is different.

    Sometimes I feel like it made me stronger. Other days, like today, I'm broken.
    ShyGuy990 ShyGuy990 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 12

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    Jellybean88 Jellybean88 22-25, F Jun 1

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    I agree... Something changes.

    .. in some people its a huge change of hardness and active wall building.... For me ... Failure has freed me..... FREED ME.... To laugh and live in the moment... Freed me to walk, skip, dance step and run the final 100 meters away from monogamy and traditional relationship...
    MissGotHerGroove MissGotHerGroove 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 2

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    Then And Now

    For sure they have changed me. I started out thinking I was a great judge of people and that first bitter hurt from a broken heart almost killed me. So then I naively figured it was just that person and tried again , wrong person I guess... I put up a wall so high that no one...
    VoteForPedro VoteForPedro 51-55, F 12 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    Failed relationships change me.

    Especially the one that ended really bad. I'll never be the same girl I was before, they say don't become who hurt you and I will not. I won't be a MONSTER like him. But, I'm definitely not the same girl I was 3 weeks ago. Memories and pictures don't change but the people in...
    Aliyaa2 Aliyaa2 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 18

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    They most certainly do.

    and I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. It's also friendships, and family relationships. Anyone who you once trusted and put faith into lets you down, it probably will scar you, at least a little bit. I've never had a failed romantic relationship, and hardly...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 7

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    Tonight I was able to end two unhealthy

    relationships. I know I will miss them but then I will remember the simple statement "if it doesn't make you feel good then don't do it " . If I didn't end it I don't think they ever would and it would go on indefinitely . Learning to set boundaries and how to define friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 7

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    Imaging Putting soooooo much ****** time into a

    relationship. Getting used To One Person. Sharing Extreme intimacy, Physical and emotional!!!! Accepting someone for who they are. No matter what. Making a life together. Creating images Of what you guys' Future will b like, You dont Think that Losing this Person Sooo...
    vaane vaane 18-21, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Mosaic

    We are all changing and evolving throughout life.  The people we meet and with whom we interact all make their mark.  Some deeper than others of course. In the case of a failed relationship, which I take to mean a marriage or long term romantic relationship, the scars can take...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 22 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    elincc11 elincc11 26-30, F Jun 1

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    Relationships complements us,

    makes us see the brighter side of life. A lot of us put too much expectations that ends a relationship badly. We forget, for any relationship to blossom "WE" need to work in nurturing it and cultivating it for it to grow. Its a gigantic effort trying to make it work without the...
    Gladacious Gladacious 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    I remember you told me this once: "You're a

    sweet guy says my name*, sweet to a woman, you know how to make a girl feel good, always showing me details like hearing our songs, and i like that because us girls always appreciate the little details the most, please never let anyone change you" well guess you was the one who...
    viperguy96 viperguy96 18-21, M Jun 7

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    Failed relationships are

    for new perspective on what type of people you should have in your life. Although it will hurt you, it will only be temporary. Besides, if they didn't stay in your life, they crossed your path because they were a lesson! Work to build yourself around people who care, love and...
    jahfeel jahfeel 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    They sure do... Make one to be guarded.

    ..as if you are walking on eggshells all through waiting for one small mistake and bam you are gone...
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I don't believe relationships are meant to make

    us happy or to make our life easier,In fact it makes it harder but they are meant to make us grow,in this sense they are incredibly valuable.
    sincerehuman sincerehuman 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    playr435 playr435 22-25, M 4 Responses May 28

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    Recriminations and emotional scars.

    .. I told you so's echo in your mind. Like an oyster you add another layer....
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    mine has and not for the better.

    I watched all my dreams and future die as if another person, detached and looking at myself from afar.
    Polis195 Polis195 36-40, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    when I dream its still of her.

    my fantasies are still of her. but she's gone, gone away, gone forward, gone from me
    Polis195 Polis195 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    In my journey I have realized

    that relationships fail mainly and mostly because of suspicion, self-conceit, controlling and manipulative behavior, indifference and irresponsibility, withdrawal, aloofness and no openness, misjudgment, too much of a difference in beliefs and desires and being easily offended...
    harmony226 harmony226 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 4

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