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I Think Good Communication Is Vital To A Good Relationship

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    Two Ears...one Mouth.

    The most hurtful thing my ex husband would say to me was.. "Talking to you makes my head hurt." What he really meant was... I don't want to hear anything you have to say. My ideas, solutions, anything... So I didn't talk. Or share. Nothing. He still did... A lot. I listened...
    slsr slsr 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 8, 2013

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    I Get To See Him Next Week

    Finals are almost over and things have been getting better. I've applied to a few more jobs. I have an interview later this week, hoping ill get the job. :) Also, I get to see my fiance next week. im really excited. I fly to his parents early next week, then we'll fly out to...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F May 6, 2013

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    If Two People Can't Even Have Normal Conversations, They Can Forget About Having A Relationship

    Two people who are meant to be together are like lego. It needs to click. Some people just can't seem to even have a normal conversation with each other. I will not deny that every relationship has their own crisis moments, there will always be moments when two people can not...
    AngelicLights AngelicLights 26-30, F Jun 1, 2010

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    Talking Vs Communicating

    My wife and I talk slot about what is going on around us, about our activities, work, weather etc. We on the other side do not spend time on our personal well being, our likes, desires, fantasies, needs and wants. I feel we need to do more to communicate in this area so we can be...
    roadrunner540 roadrunner540 46-50, M Apr 22, 2011

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    Rude Awakening

    he said he was tired, doesnt know why he's ticked off and me trying to help isnt helping. what happened?
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2013

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    We're Not Ep Friends Anymore?

    I have stated, in another post that I have not been a very good circle member lately.  My commenting has been almost non-existant, so in many ways, I get it.Yet, it still stings a bit when you see in your EP activity feed that one of your friends has written a blog, you go to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Sep 10, 2011

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    Being Strong

    we put on a smiling face when they're away. we have to. Being strong for myself as well as for him is what makes it work. I may burst in tears behind closed doors every now and then but I do not nor will i regret the decision he made to go teach overseas. It is making him a...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 7, 2013

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    Questions

    ladies and gentlemen, what was it like when your SO first came home from overseas after a year or so? im asking because my fiance is coming back from teaching in SK in feburary. he's already been gone 6 months. he left mid january of this year. im hoping nothing will have...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Jul 31, 2013

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    I CAN ALSO SPEAK PUNJABI,

    HINDI AND URDU....:))))
    baliya1 baliya1 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    Needing Advice

    ok, this may sound a bit harsh or confusing but I need to ask. As most of you know, my fiance is in Korea teaching ESL for the year. He asked me what I think he should do for next year. I graduate school next spring. his contract is up next.. January i think. he asked me if I...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Mar 9, 2013

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    Without It You Have Nothing!

    Without good communication in a relationship. You have nothing! I do not communicate with the TV, Radio, or every person I see every day. So when I am in a relationship it is crucial that I have good communication with that lady. If I do not communicate all my thoughts, ideas...
    wjk1849 wjk1849 46-50, M Feb 27, 2013

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    I love him to death,

    but he is the kind of person who shows little affection. I am a very emotionally driven, outwardly affectionate person, so alot of the times it feels like giving without receiving. He tells me that's just not who he is, so I take it or leave it... but shouldn't he care how I...
    LaChief666 LaChief666 18-21, F Jun 19

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    Life

    Last night I realized a lot. It was my last homecoming ever. I had an absolute blast with friends and family. Saw old friends and got to say hi to a band that I helped last year. Two people were missing from my circle that would have made it perfect. My mom had to work, and my...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Oct 27, 2013

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    Engagement

    throughout the past few days i've realized a lot. Before my now fiance left for South Korea, he gave me this ring. he said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Right now he's teaching elementary kids overseas and I couldn't be more proud of him. Despite the distance...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Apr 4, 2013

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    Confusion And Hurt

    You try so hard to make everything fall into place. Things are fine. Things are great. I just wish that the arguments and then tension would stop. I know I apologize a lot, and I shouldn't. It isn't that I don't love him. I would go to the moon and back for that man. I am so in...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Oct 12, 2013

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    NovaScotia902 NovaScotia902 22-25 Jun 5

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    Hell Ya

    relationships are built on trust , which is built on good communication, which builds love and understanding. which brings two people together in a wonderful way.. so take away communication and watch every thing else crumble arround you.. just my thought on this.
    freetoagoodhome freetoagoodhome 51-55, M 3 Responses Jul 26, 2010

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    huskiesandmalamutes huskiesandmalamutes 18-21, F Apr 4

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    Communication Is The Key

    My husband and I are very honest with eachother. We don't argue very often, but when something is really botherinh one of us we do talk and try to find a solution. He is my best friend, and aside from our son's Godfather, I am his best friend. We share everything with eachother...
    FellidayaFiresong FellidayaFiresong 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    Talk But Don't Push

    I too believe that talking things out is vital to a good relationship. There are times though when someone is too upset to talk right at that moment and for me personally I don't like to be pushed to talk something out when i'm not ready to. Give me time and I will revisit the...
    Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 21, 2010

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    deityrob deityrob 26-30, M Feb 21

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    The Art Of Conversation....

    I definitely think that good communication is a vital part of a relationship, being able to tell your significant other how you're feeling...to see how they're feeling and to have the ability to talk about any and everything is a wonderful thing...and even when there's silence...
    blackgirl71 blackgirl71 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2010

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    Very Important

    In any relationship, communication is really important. It's better to talk out your problems, tell each other what's wrong, then to keep everything bottled up. If there isn't any communication, there will eventually be resentment. It's awesome to be able to talk to someone...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    My girlfriend and I make sure to communicate

    about everything. If there is any little thing that is bothering us, especially about each other... pet peeves, little annoyances, etc... we don't let it fester. We talk about it right away and that helps us to move on and have a healthier relationship.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 27

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    Good communication is a must

    but TRUSTING that special someone is what matters the most for ME...
    chrissybee66 chrissybee66 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 6

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    Food For Thought.

    I found myself thinking about this earlier on.  I was commenting on a friend's story in the group and I do agree that communication is central to a good relationship.On reflection though, some of my best friends are ones I hardly speak to.  This seems like a contradiction but...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 6 Responses Sep 11, 2011

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    It really is. And it's

    so simple to achieve this. If communication is poor or lacking, then one person is always going to feel hurt or not understood, while the other person will probably feel overwhelmed or even annoyed. Sometimes it's as simple as making a point to share a joke that you know the...
    caylee092 caylee092 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 27

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    I'm Not Sure What My Place Is.

    I've never really dealt with death on a close personal level. Of course, that is not a complaint, and I could never even begin to understand how it feels to lose someone you really care for. My boyfriend's father just moved to Florida, alone. His son chose to stay in Ohio with...
    Brueggemann1 Brueggemann1 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3, 2012

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    I love this guy . He's sweet,

    faithful, trustworthy , reliable, responsible and caring. He is smart, and other things. But I don't know what to do because conversation is lacking, I feel bored with him. He goes into unnecessary details about things I am just not interested in, and I have told him that...
    beautifullytwisted beautifullytwisted 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    No communication is the new communication.

    Anyone else think this too?
    relating2u79 relating2u79 31-35, M Mar 1

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    Do I Only Feel Like In That Way??Please Give Me A Friendly Reply!!!

    I ma Sikh guy and I have noticed rather than our own Sikh girls ,these Asian and western girls seem to be pretty interested in my turban..The thing that wondered me a lot is that they ask me to teach them mine turban how to wear it..I feel Sikhism is being popular in western...
    sukhi077 sukhi077 22-25 Jun 1, 2013

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    Oral.

    Communication is so vital to relationships, a lack of communication always seems to lurk in unhappy marriages and any form of poor interpersonal relationship. Sometimes solving a problem can start with just talking about it even if the end result seems a long way away.
    AtomicWater AtomicWater 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 12, 2010

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    This Fact Cannot Be Stressed Often Enough.

    How difficult it is to tell your partner that the color of their clothes do not add to their personality? Or that the food cooked by them was unappetizing. One can offset the criticism with praise. Don't forget to praise. As often as you can. While I follow these dictates, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 2, 2012

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    Something I Wrote

    I actually put this in a different section but I think this is a more suitable location. I wrote this last night. I am separated, getting divorced. I have a rather sarcastic sense of humor and find irony amusing. The irony is 20/20 hindsight in the case of my future ex wife and...
    7KCCO5 7KCCO5 36-40, M Aug 27, 2013

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    Good communication is definitely vital in a

    good relationship, along with other things. Not just communication but GOOD communication is important for so many reasons. Asking questions and not omitting information can save a lot of assumptions and hurt. Good communication benefits all people in the relationship...
    OpenMind619 OpenMind619 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 6

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    Life

    my dad had said there was a bridal fair coming to town in a couple weeks and said that i need to start thinking about what we actually want for our wedding and stuff. Aside from things with school which are going well, i think life is getting real.. im nervous and excited...
    musicalsoul10 musicalsoul10 22-25, F Sep 15, 2013

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    Lost Art Form

    I think communication is incredibly vital to human relationship, whether it be with family, friends, significant others or at work. However, good communication seems to be almost impossible to come by. I for one, cannot believe that just because I might not have the same phone as...
    mistervip mistervip 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 5, 2010

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    It's really all about communication.

    And remember: Don't raise your voice, improve your argument.
    MadameMM MadameMM 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 2

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    Disagree With Respect

    In any relationship, there will come a time in which there is a major heated disagreement. The line of communication that helps bound us to the relationship can be damaged if either party fails to respect the feelings of the other party. Screaming, name calling, slamming doors...
    Jones47 Jones47 61-65, M 1 Response Apr 9, 2013

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    Communication saved my relationship.

    I had every intention of ending my relationship two weeks ago. Even when he apologized and we talked, I still had my doubts. Then we had a heart to heart yesterday and it was amazing. I could hear and feel his absolute sincerity. We are now talking about our future together...
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 22-25, F Feb 2

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    Sigh

    *the sequel of my story: Ignored By The One Whom I Am Crazy For         I've been reading all the groups that I have over and over because I really don't know where to post this kind of story.     It's more on a struggle but with a feminine lesbian. Should I put it on...
    riffraffmonster riffraffmonster 22-25, F Oct 21, 2012

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    Hello?

    Until last Friday my SO and I were lucky to see each other everyday. Given our current circumstances seeing each other everyday made things easier. Not only that, but we shared looks, texts, emails, notes, touches and lunches. He has transferred to a different office because of...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F May 24, 2013

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    3 Most Importants Things In A Relationship...

    To me there are 3 things you need to work on if u want to be in a successful relationship You first need COMMUNICATION, u should not keep secrets for each other... of course privacy is yours, but secrets are bad if u want to be in a relationship with someone. Then I think...
    Arashi23 Arashi23 22-25, F 7 Responses May 2, 2010

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    I am 34 years old. My parents got divorced

    when I was 8. My dad was/is not the type of person who belongs in the role of a standard or typical family man - responsibility having - parental role model. I realize that now as an adult that not everyone is cut out for that kind of life. People try to meet societal...
    lemoneybee lemoneybee 31-35, F Jun 6

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    Related Experiences

    In my mind, a long distance relationship will work better.. In a normal face-to-face relationship you already have everything you want, and sometimes this can cause people to lose...
    LucyColemanxo LucyColemanxo 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I live in the United States and there's this guy I really like but the problem is he lives all the way in the United Kingdom. He asked me yesterday to be his girlfriend but I didn...
    Ki123 Ki123 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    " True love doesnt mean being inseperable; it means being seperated and nothing changes " " Distance is not for the fearful; its for the bold, for those willing to spend alot of...
    LucyColemanxo LucyColemanxo 13-15, F Jul 6

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    Good friends are hard to find, I met my best friend shortly after I turned 11 and we've been tight ever sense. Now said friend has had A LOT of girlfriends over the years and there...
    misspaperwait misspaperwait 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    I either make friends, who I talk to sometimes, or backstabbers, who I think I'm good friends with but they actually want to hurt me. So real good friends truly are a gem that you...
    100PercentMe 100PercentMe 13-15, F Jul 10

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    Good friends are fate. You almost don't even have a choice. It takes time and experience to build friendship. And sometimes it's unexpected. I've known my best friends since the...
    FatmeBazzii FatmeBazzii 16-17, F Jul 10

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    As I am I only have 2 good friends. I use to move around alot because my parents were divorced and had to share us. So I couldn't really make real friends. But now settled with my...
    HiImDrekd HiImDrekd 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    I cringe when someone I'm attracted to uses poor grammar. I can't help it. It's a fricking deal breaker.
    truthandbeauty truthandbeauty 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 1