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I Think I Am In An Emotional Affair

This is an area to discuss how close friendship can lead to emotional affairs if not careful. 196 People

    I Am Defiantly Having An Emotional Affair - Okay so here is my story, I am 40 years old and over weight. I have been married for 20 years to a man with whom I pledged to spend the...
    afraidtochange afraidtochange 36-40 3 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    The "Break Up" of EA friendship - Recently I have found myself wondering about this subject. My friend is so close to me and we talk, text, email and call each other all the time...
    Irishchick1 Irishchick1 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 29, 2008

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    was just told by wife of 9 years that she has recently had feelings for another man. It happened over the course of about 4 weeks. This came after she had some flirty...
    blue512 blue512 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 2

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    Confused!! - Well I'm 19 and I met a guy on a online chat-room, I was just doing it for fun. I started talking to this guy who is 38, married and has children. We exchanged emails...
    penny0012 penny0012 18-21 6 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    I Saw Him After 10 Years-Relieved, But So Disappointed - So, I saw him. For one day. It was so much fun, and I didn't feel any romantic flutterings or sexual tension. So, it was...
    kathpro kathpro 31-35, F Mar 29, 2013

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    I have been in a affair now for 2.5 years with a married man! I am also married. I am 36 and we have children and married 17 years. Our sex life was non existent so I went else...
    lacierae lacierae 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    My Closest Friend - I am wondering about EA (emotional Affairs)... I am trying to figure out if I am in one with my friend. I truly think I am  because I am in a sexless...
    Irishchick1 Irishchick1 41-45, F 14 Responses Mar 9, 2008

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    Elationships - Ok,  First time writing on this site, and not told anyone about this before.   I started using an application of facebook, just to have some online...
    kingofnothing kingofnothing 26-30, M Feb 20, 2010

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    I Miss My Emotional Affair . . . - I am married, have been for over 13 years. I met a guy while out of town and we started texting/talking on the phone. After about 2 months I...
    floating1234 floating1234 36-40, F 9 Responses Jul 7, 2010

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    Why You? Why Now? - I've spent a lot of time thinking today. Some say I tend to think too much. I'm trying to figure out why I'm going down this road. This is something I would...
    Imokyoureok Imokyoureok 41-45, F May 1, 2013

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    Advice? Should I Try To See Him, To Get Him Out Of My System? - From the title, I already know the "correct" answer. But let me explain anyway. 10 years ago, in a foreign...
    kathpro kathpro 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    I Feel Better When I Talk To Him. - Let me first say, this friendship started backwards. Sex first and then the sex is gone and the part I miss the most is the phone calls, emails...
    southernheat southernheat 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 20, 2009

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    D-day - Well I did it. I broke my own heart to protect the man I love.  I was meant to be in court most of the day taking notes, but the case was postponed. So I did what I...
    Seekingadvise Seekingadvise 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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    Wrecklessly In Love -  let me just start by saying that a friendship can cross boundaries and become so much more in the blink of an eye. a lot of times you may not realize...
    kaybo86 kaybo86 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2009

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    Am I actually falling in love, or am I just craving excitement and feeling flattered that someone is so taken with me?
    dayxdayupndown dayxdayupndown 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    Help, This Is Not Good - Crap sticks My current man, partner whatever has been busy a lot which is fine since I'm so introverted that I don't need to spend a lot of time with him...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Emotional Affair - So yeah, it's nice to talk to people who won't judge me. Basically I have known this mm for 8 years we have always been close friends but for the past 6 months...
    Seekingadvise Seekingadvise 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2012

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    Update - Emotional affair is in full force...ughh....I thought that I had enough sense to stop....but I don't......I'm not hurting anyone.......except myself when I let it drive me...
    hannah654321 hannah654321 46-50 8 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    I'M Having My Fourth Affair Since Ive Been Married - So here is my story. Ive been married for 20 years i have two kids but they are grown up and I cant seem to stay faithful. I am...
    tdray71 tdray71 41-45, F 7 Responses May 10, 2013

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    First Love To Emotional Affair . . . - I have just had to end an 18 month emotional affair and its breaking my heart!  I can't stop crying, my friends are fed up with my moaning...
    ij25 ij25 51-55 4 Responses Oct 7, 2011

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    Pretty Sure It More Then Emotional - The story is classic. Girl place ad on craigslist. Oh but snap she forgot the important part. Most of the time she requests no one married...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 13, 2012

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    It's Not Over! - I am soooooooooooo happy!!! I have been deeply in love with a woman who worked for me as a paraprofessional in my classroom.  She and I are both married and when...
    foolishlover1970 foolishlover1970 41-45, M 5 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    Confused Now - Before a week ago I didn't even know that an emotional affair exist. Not until I had this experience recently... I met a guy through a virtual community we both...
    FemmeSolo FemmeSolo 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2012

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    Here Are The 8 Signs That You May Be In One - 1. You look forward to seeing him/her with more excitement than a typical friend, and spend more time with him than you should. 2. You...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 9 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Can An Emotional Affair Be One-Sided? - I met a wonderful woman last year at work who suggested she was interested in me.I was dismissed shortly thereafter and had a friend give...
    Lolich Lolich 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    Emotional Affair Or Friendship?? - i met my FL on FB few years ago...and recently we started chatting and calling each other.we have been closer now in terms of sharing our...
    miraclemystery miraclemystery 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 16, 2012

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    It Just Fits - It started about 10 months ago.. We serve in several ministries together at church. We went from ministry partners to personal friends.    I was very aware of his...
    honeypotpooh honeypotpooh 41-45 5 Responses May 7, 2013

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    My Emotional Affair - A friend of mine had recently passed away and there was a memorial to help raise money for her tombstone at a local bar. I met a young couple there, (I was 34...
    CoolHearted CoolHearted 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 5, 2011

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    I Dont Know What To Think, Plz Help Me!!! - Well, let me start out by telling you about my marriage. I am married to a great man, and we have one young child. He loves me, and I am...
    BlueRoses1613 BlueRoses1613 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2011

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    I Lost My Soulmate - We had been the good friends for 5 yrs... We were coworker...You were the most handsome n popular single guy...While I should be the most stern n 'attractive...
    Princessrebel Princessrebel 36-40, F 19 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    Reality Check - Thank you my friend for your reality check. Your gentle honestly is refreshing. Perhaps one more reason I keep turning to you.
    Imokyoureok Imokyoureok 41-45, F May 2, 2013

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    Help - I think that I am in an emotional affair. I think that I may have gotten more serious than my friend. How do I admit it and move on? We agreed from the beginning that we...
    hannah654321 hannah654321 46-50 12 Responses Mar 5, 2012

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    Emotional Affair - With A Difference! - I think I would describe myself as being in an emotional affair. I have a very difficult marriage which was probably a mistake in the first...
    hollyivy hollyivy 41-45 1 Response Nov 13, 2011

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    Uh Huh..he Has Moved On, But I Am A Wreck - I like the description of this group. SO true. We must be careful of that seemingly friendly person that wants to chat, or that just...
    vanilladeepblue vanilladeepblue 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2012

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    I Don't Know What To Do... - I've been with my partner for almost 9 months now and she moved in with me one month ago. I knew she had an ex (let's call them C) that had been quite...
    naravul naravul 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 7, 2012

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    Feeling sad and lost today :( My boyfriend had an emotional affair with a girl from work. We were on the verge of breaking up but supposed to be working things out. We'd been...
    melissamayhem melissamayhem 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    We were friends with benefits 20 years ago. Never had a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with each other. I never thought of him in that way. Never thought he did either. As is...
    playedlikeafool playedlikeafool 41-45, F 5 Responses Mar 22

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    My fiancé and I have been together for two years. (I'm not married, so if I'm not suppose to post here, I apologize) .... (We live together) (This is how I found out) I...
    lilbugg lilbugg 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    He wants me to spend the night with him. Ugh! How do u get a alibi!? This is horrible!i need this.
    lacierae lacierae 36-40, F Apr 3

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    Well I just want to post that some time has passed and I have learned a lot. First I wake up every morning and I love the person staring back at me. I have integrity and a life...
    Sugar973 Sugar973 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    It's killing me, it wasn't allowed to happen. It snuck up on us until... to late. I fought it, I tried to break it, I tried to stay 'just friends' but now it's to late. I gave into...
    anonbeing anonbeing 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I need advice from the ladies who have used AM. I have been using for the site for about 3 months. I've met a very good looking married guy, we've been seeing each other quite a...
    HappySecret HappySecret 31-35, F Mar 27

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    Looking at all the positives of my emotional affair ending. 1. I am not feeling as stressed and anxious. Sneaking phone calls, waiting for phone calls, all very stress inducing. 2...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I had an emotional affair a year ago and was devastated when my husband found out and made me end it. Surprisingly my husband wanted to stay together and work on our marriage...
    sharoneys sharoneys 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 8

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    ...an emotional affair. Really missing the phone calls I snuck driving to and from work. Our time. That 20 minute commute is tough. The silence forces me to feel the pain, grieve...
    confusedmajorly confusedmajorly 36-40, F 19 Responses a week ago

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    I found this TREMENDOUSLY eye opening. I read this last night on a message board about affairs and had to share ----- "Love", within infidelity, isn’t. Love in this context is...
    Wikedangel Wikedangel 36-40, F 9 Responses Mar 27

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    my father mentally , physically, and emotionaly abused me as a child
    JamesB20 JamesB20 18-21, M 8 hrs ago

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    I am 26 and never had emotional or romantic relation wiyh anyone. I kept myself alone. I even do not understand if somebody flirts with me.
    tubix tubix 26-30, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Yesterday morning while l was waiting for my dental appointment l was approached by a tired looking woman with heavy breasts; who told me that she had once worked as a filling...
    Vetrov Vetrov 51-55, M Mar 31

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    My longstanding affair ended after his spouse found out (a few times over a few years), threatened divorce and he couldn't see us ever having a "happy ending" after destroying both...
    marmelade marmelade 51-55, F 33 Responses