I Think I Am In An Emotional Affair

This is an area to discuss how close friendship can lead to emotional affairs if not careful. 281 People

    I found myself in this situation earlier this

    year. Someone I work with started emailing me in a friendly way and I reciprocated. As I have lots of colleagues who I've become friends with this wasn't a big deal. Then she started messaging me and I responded. Before I knew it we were messaging each other constantly. We...
    FinalBoss FinalBoss
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    I am coming to the terms

    that it has ended, or is beginning to end. He is distancing himself from me. It really hurts, even if I know it is the responsible thing to do. I am a student and I am in my final year of university. I am in a distance relationship, and I love my boyfriend. We have made the...
    lanela25 lanela25
    22-25, F
    Mar 25, 2016

    Advice? Should I Try To See Him, To Get Him Out Of My System?

    From the title, I already know the "correct" answer. But let me explain anyway. 10 years ago, in a foreign country that I was living in for a year, I had a close friend (A man) that I thought i was falling in love with. He didn't feel the same way, and I took the rejection...
    kathpro kathpro
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2013

    Pretty Sure It More Then Emotional

    The story is classic. Girl place ad on craigslist. Oh but snap she forgot the important part. Most of the time she requests no one married reply. Fast forward from November 20th. We talk everyday when he is at work. But the line has been crossed to sexual. I didn't mean for this...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    An Interview With A Married Woman And Her Affair

    Cynthia’s Ride Life ain’t always beautiful, but it's a beautiful ride. - country singer Gary Allan, Life Ain’t Always Beautiful Most people don’t just flip a switch one day and decide to embark on an affair. They come to that decision only after a lot of deep...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Mar 2, 2013

    Somewhere She Is Out There

    “Somewhere she is out there, wondering, looking, searching, as I am. Somewhere she is out there, questioning, doubting, giving up hope, as I am. Somewhere she is out there, wondering if I still exist as I shout I do, I do. Somewhere she is out there, hearing my cries...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Jan 7, 2013

    First Love To Emotional Affair . . .

    I have just had to end an 18 month emotional affair and its breaking my heart!  I can't stop crying, my friends are fed up with my moaning and my work is suffering. Its the common scenario of meeting up again with my first love.  He has never been out of my mind if i'm truly...
    ij25 ij25
    4 Responses Oct 7, 2011

    I Miss My Emotional Affair . . .

    I am married, have been for over 13 years. I met a guy while out of town and we started texting/talking on the phone. After about 2 months I told him I couldn't do it anymore. I knew it was wrong, but it was just SO nice to be wanted. I hate to admit it, but I miss the...
    floating1234 floating1234
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Jul 7, 2010

    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11
    26-30, F
    Dec 24, 2014

    I don't know where to begin.

    I was friends with a man back in collage. He was very handsome. He influenced me to go into a different major. I adored him. He however was engaged to be married. Fast forward 25 years forward. he has since divorced that wife and is married to this new woman who has been...
    Oceanoftears Oceanoftears
    41-45, F
    Oct 18, 2014

    I have feelings for an ex lover.

    I am married and love my husband. I know right from wrong but my heart does not.
    Tanglezbeauty Tanglezbeauty
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    I'm not but would like to be.

    I would love to feel that connection with someone. Just to know that someone is thinking about you and you are thinking about them is a great feeling. To have that feeling inside your heart that you can't explain. You get excited when you see a text message from that person and...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    Am I actually falling in love,

    or am I just craving excitement and feeling flattered that someone is so taken with me?
    dayxdayupndown dayxdayupndown
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 28, 2014

    Why You? Why Now?

    I've spent a lot of time thinking today. Some say I tend to think too much. I'm trying to figure out why I'm going down this road. This is something I would never dared before. Why now? Is it the grief? And why you? I haven't seen you in years. Here's what I've concluded. 1) I...
    Imokyoureok Imokyoureok
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 1, 2013

    was just told by wife of 9 years

    that she has recently had feelings for another man. It happened over the course of about 4 weeks. This came after she had some flirty conversations with another man. When confronted she told me I had nothing to worry about. But then these feelings surfaced for this other...
    blue512 blue512
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 2, 2014

    I'M Having My Fourth Affair Since Ive Been Married

    So here is my story. Ive been married for 20 years i have two kids but they are grown up and I cant seem to stay faithful. I am having an affair now that has been going on for four months and ive had 3 other affairs in the past. I dont know what to do does anybody have any advice...
    tdray71 tdray71
    46-50, F
    5 Responses May 10, 2013


    Emotional affair is in full force...ughh....I thought that I had enough sense to stop....but I don't......I'm not hurting anyone.......except myself when I let it drive me crazy. I need an outlet. He is it. I can tell him anything that I want to and he tells me things to. It's...
    hannah654321 hannah654321
    9 Responses Mar 23, 2012

    It Just Fits

    It started about 10 months ago.. We serve in several ministries together at church. We went from ministry partners to personal friends.    I was very aware of his situation with his wife. They are in a loveless marriage for the last 12 years. They have been sleeping in...
    honeypotpooh honeypotpooh
    5 Responses May 7, 2013

    Reality Check

    Thank you my friend for your reality check. Your gentle honestly is refreshing. Perhaps one more reason I keep turning to you.
    Imokyoureok Imokyoureok
    41-45, F
    May 2, 2013

    My Closest Friend

    I am wondering about EA (emotional Affairs)... I am trying to figure out if I am in one with my friend. I truly think I am  because I am in a sexless marriage and I have been confiding in one of my male friends for a long time now. We have converstaions regarding our...
    Irishchick1 Irishchick1
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Mar 9, 2008

    My Emotional Affair

    A friend of mine had recently passed away and there was a memorial to help raise money for her tombstone at a local bar. I met a young couple there, (I was 34 they were in their early 20's) one of which happened to be my friend's cousin. I had just recently broken up with my...
    CoolHearted CoolHearted
    36-40, F
    Feb 5, 2011

    Help, This Is Not Good

    Crap sticks My current man, partner whatever has been busy a lot which is fine since I'm so introverted that I don't need to spend a lot of time with him. Now he's working everyday and often is just too physically tired I guess to pay much attention to me. I'm afraid I'm growing...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    Nov 27, 2012

    Here Are The 8 Signs That You May Be In One

    1. You look forward to seeing him/her with more excitement than a typical friend, and spend more time with him than you should. 2. You find yourself dressing up and paying more attention to your appearance in a hope that he'll notice you. 3. You confide in him/her about your...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Nov 27, 2012

    Can An Emotional Affair Be One-Sided?

    I met a wonderful woman last year at work who suggested she was interested in me.I was dismissed shortly thereafter and had a friend give her my email.She immediately responded with ``I MISS YOU!`` We exchanged messages for a month or so,nothing suggestive in nature,and then...
    Lolich Lolich
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Jan 31, 2013

    It's Not Over!

    I am soooooooooooo happy!!! I have been deeply in love with a woman who worked for me as a paraprofessional in my classroom.  She and I are both married and when we realized we had developed feelings for one another we agreed that we would never act out on our feelings but we...
    foolishlover1970 foolishlover1970
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Aug 7, 2013

    I Lost My Soulmate

    We had been the good friends for 5 yrs... We were coworker...You were the most handsome n popular single guy...While I should be the most stern n 'attractive' married woman there... We could chat, we could laughed...You always called me Babe...You brought my 1st adopted dog to...
    Princessrebel Princessrebel
    36-40, F
    18 Responses Apr 23, 2012

    I am a female, age 47,

    and I'm madly in love with my male BFF, age 49. I guess there's a problem here because I am married. He isn't, though. It has not gotten physical other than hugs and kisses on the cheeks. I don't really know his true feelings about me, as he is very subtle and not...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 27, 2014

    I saw this group, and start to wonder

    if the realitionship with my best friend is a emotional affair. I have never heard about this before so I Googled it. And all pieces matched. Wow I didn't now these signs. I been married for 8 years. And for 4 years ago we moved to a new city. There got we to come close a family...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    31-35, M
    1 Response Nov 13, 2015

    Emotional Affair - With A Difference!

    I think I would describe myself as being in an emotional affair. I have a very difficult marriage which was probably a mistake in the first place. It is my second marriage and I was very vulnerable when I went in to the relationship. My husband is a controlling person and I don't...
    hollyivy hollyivy
    1 Response Nov 13, 2011

    My husband and I have been married

    since July. He doesn't like my ex because whenever we broke up, I'd go back to my ex. And when we got married, I didn't tell my ex. Fast forward to September...My marriage is a joke. My ex always used to comfort me when I felt like ****. So we are talking again. I haven't said...
    Livvy2 Livvy2
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 15, 2014

    I Dont Know What To Think, Plz Help Me!!!

    Well, let me start out by telling you about my marriage. I am married to a great man, and we have one young child. He loves me, and I am in a happy marriage. The only complaint is that even though we share common beliefs, dreams, goals, values, and so on….we are from different...
    BlueRoses1613 BlueRoses1613
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 18, 2011

    The "Break Up" of EA friendship

    Recently I have found myself wondering about this subject. My friend is so close to me and we talk, text, email and call each other all the time. We even have found a way to see each other at work (different depts). I have grown extremely close to him and he to me. If had read my...
    Irishchick1 Irishchick1
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    Uh Huh..he Has Moved On, But I Am A Wreck

    I like the description of this group. SO true. We must be careful of that seemingly friendly person that wants to chat, or that just happens to find some things in common with you. I think we can be lonlier than we think, and therefore, become vunerable. They may just be bored...
    vanilladeepblue vanilladeepblue
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 14, 2012


    Well I'm 19 and I met a guy on a online chat-room, I was just doing it for fun. I started talking to this guy who is 38, married and has children. We exchanged emails. At the beginning we would just talk about general things and didn't think much of it. As time past we got closer...
    penny0012 penny0012
    6 Responses Aug 25, 2013


    Well I did it. I broke my own heart to protect the man I love.  I was meant to be in court most of the day taking notes, but the case was postponed. So I did what I always do and went back to my office to do some work. As I walked in he was standing there, he smiled and said...
    Seekingadvise Seekingadvise
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

    I met someone amazing three months ago in the

    Ashely Madison website. Both of us are married and have two kids, and leave at least 100 miles from each other. We have met twice for lunch during this time and chat every working day through skype, phone and whatsapp (almost nothing during the weekends). Obviously nobody else...
    chamaco chamaco
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Sep 25, 2014

    I have been in a affair now

    for 2.5 years with a married man! I am also married. I am 36 and we have children and married 17 years. Our sex life was non existent so I went else where with a man I had known for years. The moment we had sex I felt complete, like what ever I had been missing for years was...
    lacierae lacierae
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2014

    I heard a minister talk about affairs at one

    time, and this is what he said, we all say that you just met that special person and the affair happened! That is possible that you met some one and felt some feelings for him or her, And it is possible that at some point you were in a position where you were together with...
    darlingrose darlingrose
    70+, F
    1 Response Nov 13, 2015

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    cadycici cadycici
    31-35, F
    Apr 24, 2012

    I Saw Him After 10 Years-Relieved, But So Disappointed

    So, I saw him. For one day. It was so much fun, and I didn't feel any romantic flutterings or sexual tension. So, it was just as I had hoped, and as I said goodbye and got on the plane, I felt satisfied and proud of myself. We hadn't crossed any lines, and I hadn't even been...
    kathpro kathpro
    31-35, F
    Mar 29, 2013

    I have feelings for my husband's friend.

    It started 2 years ago and recently the feelings have come back strong and I crave more. I have told him how I feel. I don't think he feels the same but we remain close friends and I can tell him anything and he tells me everything. He completes me emotionally. I want more. I...
    taliakhaleesi taliakhaleesi
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 10, 2015

    .......wasn't expecting it.

    ......wasn't looking for it.......didn't recognize it..... and now suddenly that he is gone. I feel very clearly that is exactly what it was. I am hurting. I miss him horribly. Be careful folks, when something feels soooooo good that you feel high from it......the fall will...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    I met a man on Ashley Maddison.

    He lives 2.5 hrs away and when I went on that website I didn't really know what I wanted or what I was looking for. I knew that I was tired of always telling my husband what I needed and him just being so lazy and not even caring. My husband is a great man he is patient and...
    brileytallis brileytallis
    1 Response May 9, 2015
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