I Think I Am In An Emotional Affair

This is an area to discuss how close friendship can lead to emotional affairs if not careful. 287 People

    I Lost My Soulmate

    We had been the good friends for 5 yrs... We were coworker...You were the most handsome n popular single guy...While I should be the most stern n 'attractive' married woman there... We could chat, we could laughed...You always called me Babe...You brought my 1st adopted dog to...
    Princessrebel Princessrebel
    36-40, F
    18 Responses Apr 23, 2012

    Advice? Should I Try To See Him, To Get Him Out Of My System?

    From the title, I already know the "correct" answer. But let me explain anyway. 10 years ago, in a foreign country that I was living in for a year, I had a close friend (A man) that I thought i was falling in love with. He didn't feel the same way, and I took the rejection...
    kathpro kathpro
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2013

    Somewhere She Is Out There

    “Somewhere she is out there, wondering, looking, searching, as I am. Somewhere she is out there, questioning, doubting, giving up hope, as I am. Somewhere she is out there, wondering if I still exist as I shout I do, I do. Somewhere she is out there, hearing my cries...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Jan 7, 2013

    I have been in a affair now

    for 2.5 years with a married man! I am also married. I am 36 and we have children and married 17 years. Our sex life was non existent so I went else where with a man I had known for years. The moment we had sex I felt complete, like what ever I had been missing for years was...
    lacierae lacierae
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 16, 2014

    I am coming to the terms

    that it has ended, or is beginning to end. He is distancing himself from me. It really hurts, even if I know it is the responsible thing to do. I am a student and I am in my final year of university. I am in a distance relationship, and I love my boyfriend. We have made the...
    lanela25 lanela25
    22-25, F
    Mar 25

    I have feelings for an ex lover.

    I am married and love my husband. I know right from wrong but my heart does not.
    Tanglezbeauty Tanglezbeauty
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    I have feelings for my husband's friend.

    It started 2 years ago and recently the feelings have come back strong and I crave more. I have told him how I feel. I don't think he feels the same but we remain close friends and I can tell him anything and he tells me everything. He completes me emotionally. I want more. I...
    taliakhaleesi taliakhaleesi
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jun 10, 2015

    I Feel Better When I Talk To Him.

    Let me first say, this friendship started backwards. Sex first and then the sex is gone and the part I miss the most is the phone calls, emails,  and companionship. The sex was not the best I've ever had, and he didn't have a rocking hard body that was eye candy.  But...
    southernheat southernheat
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Dec 20, 2009


    Well I'm 19 and I met a guy on a online chat-room, I was just doing it for fun. I started talking to this guy who is 38, married and has children. We exchanged emails. At the beginning we would just talk about general things and didn't think much of it. As time past we got closer...
    penny0012 penny0012
    6 Responses Aug 25, 2013

    Pretty Sure It More Then Emotional

    The story is classic. Girl place ad on craigslist. Oh but snap she forgot the important part. Most of the time she requests no one married reply. Fast forward from November 20th. We talk everyday when he is at work. But the line has been crossed to sexual. I didn't mean for this...
    butterflylady21 butterflylady21
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    I heard a minister talk about affairs at one

    time, and this is what he said, we all say that you just met that special person and the affair happened! That is possible that you met some one and felt some feelings for him or her, And it is possible that at some point you were in a position where you were together with...
    darlingrose darlingrose
    70+, F
    2 Responses Nov 13, 2015

    My Closest Friend

    I am wondering about EA (emotional Affairs)... I am trying to figure out if I am in one with my friend. I truly think I am  because I am in a sexless marriage and I have been confiding in one of my male friends for a long time now. We have converstaions regarding our...
    Irishchick1 Irishchick1
    41-45, F
    14 Responses Mar 9, 2008

    I'm not but would like to be.

    I would love to feel that connection with someone. Just to know that someone is thinking about you and you are thinking about them is a great feeling. To have that feeling inside your heart that you can't explain. You get excited when you see a text message from that person and...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2015

    I met someone amazing three months ago in the

    Ashely Madison website. Both of us are married and have two kids, and leave at least 100 miles from each other. We have met twice for lunch during this time and chat every working day through skype, phone and whatsapp (almost nothing during the weekends). Obviously nobody else...
    chamaco chamaco
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Sep 25, 2014

    Help, This Is Not Good

    Crap sticks My current man, partner whatever has been busy a lot which is fine since I'm so introverted that I don't need to spend a lot of time with him. Now he's working everyday and often is just too physically tired I guess to pay much attention to me. I'm afraid I'm growing...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    Nov 27, 2012

    It Just Fits

    It started about 10 months ago.. We serve in several ministries together at church. We went from ministry partners to personal friends.    I was very aware of his situation with his wife. They are in a loveless marriage for the last 12 years. They have been sleeping in...
    honeypotpooh honeypotpooh
    5 Responses May 7, 2013

    I met a man on Ashley Maddison.

    He lives 2.5 hrs away and when I went on that website I didn't really know what I wanted or what I was looking for. I knew that I was tired of always telling my husband what I needed and him just being so lazy and not even caring. My husband is a great man he is patient and...
    brileytallis brileytallis
    1 Response May 9, 2015

    I Dont Know What To Think, Plz Help Me!!!

    Well, let me start out by telling you about my marriage. I am married to a great man, and we have one young child. He loves me, and I am in a happy marriage. The only complaint is that even though we share common beliefs, dreams, goals, values, and so on….we are from different...
    BlueRoses1613 BlueRoses1613
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 18, 2011


    Well I did it. I broke my own heart to protect the man I love.  I was meant to be in court most of the day taking notes, but the case was postponed. So I did what I always do and went back to my office to do some work. As I walked in he was standing there, he smiled and said...
    Seekingadvise Seekingadvise
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2012

    Why You? Why Now?

    I've spent a lot of time thinking today. Some say I tend to think too much. I'm trying to figure out why I'm going down this road. This is something I would never dared before. Why now? Is it the grief? And why you? I haven't seen you in years. Here's what I've concluded. 1) I...
    Imokyoureok Imokyoureok
    41-45, F
    1 Response May 1, 2013

    I'M Having My Fourth Affair Since Ive Been Married

    So here is my story. Ive been married for 20 years i have two kids but they are grown up and I cant seem to stay faithful. I am having an affair now that has been going on for four months and ive had 3 other affairs in the past. I dont know what to do does anybody have any advice...
    tdray71 tdray71
    41-45, F
    6 Responses May 10, 2013

    .......wasn't expecting it.

    ......wasn't looking for it.......didn't recognize it..... and now suddenly that he is gone. I feel very clearly that is exactly what it was. I am hurting. I miss him horribly. Be careful folks, when something feels soooooo good that you feel high from it......the fall will...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 17

    I saw this group, and start to wonder

    if the realitionship with my best friend is a emotional affair. I have never heard about this before so I Googled it. And all pieces matched. Wow I didn't now these signs. I been married for 8 years. And for 4 years ago we moved to a new city. There got we to come close a family...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    26-30, M
    1 Response Nov 13, 2015

    I am a female, age 47,

    and I'm madly in love with my male BFF, age 49. I guess there's a problem here because I am married. He isn't, though. It has not gotten physical other than hugs and kisses on the cheeks. I don't really know his true feelings about me, as he is very subtle and not...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 27, 2014

    I found myself in this situation earlier this

    year. Someone I work with started emailing me in a friendly way and I reciprocated. As I have lots of colleagues who I've become friends with this wasn't a big deal. Then she started messaging me and I responded. Before I knew it we were messaging each other constantly. We...
    FinalBoss FinalBoss
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    cadycici cadycici
    31-35, F
    Apr 24, 2012

    Am I actually falling in love,

    or am I just craving excitement and feeling flattered that someone is so taken with me?
    dayxdayupndown dayxdayupndown
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 28, 2014

    I don't know where to begin.

    I was friends with a man back in collage. He was very handsome. He influenced me to go into a different major. I adored him. He however was engaged to be married. Fast forward 25 years forward. he has since divorced that wife and is married to this new woman who has been...
    Oceanoftears Oceanoftears
    41-45, F
    Oct 18, 2014


    Emotional affair is in full force...ughh....I thought that I had enough sense to stop....but I don't......I'm not hurting anyone.......except myself when I let it drive me crazy. I need an outlet. He is it. I can tell him anything that I want to and he tells me things to. It's...
    hannah654321 hannah654321
    9 Responses Mar 23, 2012

    My husband and I have been married

    since July. He doesn't like my ex because whenever we broke up, I'd go back to my ex. And when we got married, I didn't tell my ex. Fast forward to September...My marriage is a joke. My ex always used to comfort me when I felt like ****. So we are talking again. I haven't said...
    Livvy2 Livvy2
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 15, 2014

    Reality Check

    Thank you my friend for your reality check. Your gentle honestly is refreshing. Perhaps one more reason I keep turning to you.
    Imokyoureok Imokyoureok
    41-45, F
    May 2, 2013

    Uh Huh..he Has Moved On, But I Am A Wreck

    I like the description of this group. SO true. We must be careful of that seemingly friendly person that wants to chat, or that just happens to find some things in common with you. I think we can be lonlier than we think, and therefore, become vunerable. They may just be bored...
    vanilladeepblue vanilladeepblue
    41-45, F
    1 Response Nov 14, 2012

    Emotional Affair - With A Difference!

    I think I would describe myself as being in an emotional affair. I have a very difficult marriage which was probably a mistake in the first place. It is my second marriage and I was very vulnerable when I went in to the relationship. My husband is a controlling person and I don't...
    hollyivy hollyivy
    1 Response Nov 13, 2011

    Can An Emotional Affair Be One-Sided?

    I met a wonderful woman last year at work who suggested she was interested in me.I was dismissed shortly thereafter and had a friend give her my email.She immediately responded with ``I MISS YOU!`` We exchanged messages for a month or so,nothing suggestive in nature,and then...
    Lolich Lolich
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Jan 31, 2013

    First Love To Emotional Affair . . .

    I have just had to end an 18 month emotional affair and its breaking my heart!  I can't stop crying, my friends are fed up with my moaning and my work is suffering. Its the common scenario of meeting up again with my first love.  He has never been out of my mind if i'm truly...
    ij25 ij25
    4 Responses Oct 7, 2011

    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    zoecc11 zoecc11
    26-30, F
    Dec 24, 2014

    It's Not Over!

    I am soooooooooooo happy!!! I have been deeply in love with a woman who worked for me as a paraprofessional in my classroom.  She and I are both married and when we realized we had developed feelings for one another we agreed that we would never act out on our feelings but we...
    foolishlover1970 foolishlover1970
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Aug 7, 2013

    Here Are The 8 Signs That You May Be In One

    1. You look forward to seeing him/her with more excitement than a typical friend, and spend more time with him than you should. 2. You find yourself dressing up and paying more attention to your appearance in a hope that he'll notice you. 3. You confide in him/her about your...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Nov 27, 2012

    An Interview With A Married Woman And Her Affair

    Cynthia’s Ride Life ain’t always beautiful, but it's a beautiful ride. - country singer Gary Allan, Life Ain’t Always Beautiful Most people don’t just flip a switch one day and decide to embark on an affair. They come to that decision only after a lot of deep...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley
    46-50, M
    Mar 2, 2013

    I Saw Him After 10 Years-Relieved, But So Disappointed

    So, I saw him. For one day. It was so much fun, and I didn't feel any romantic flutterings or sexual tension. So, it was just as I had hoped, and as I said goodbye and got on the plane, I felt satisfied and proud of myself. We hadn't crossed any lines, and I hadn't even been...
    kathpro kathpro
    31-35, F
    Mar 29, 2013

    I Miss My Emotional Affair . . .

    I am married, have been for over 13 years. I met a guy while out of town and we started texting/talking on the phone. After about 2 months I told him I couldn't do it anymore. I knew it was wrong, but it was just SO nice to be wanted. I hate to admit it, but I miss the...
    floating1234 floating1234
    36-40, F
    9 Responses Jul 7, 2010

    was just told by wife of 9 years

    that she has recently had feelings for another man. It happened over the course of about 4 weeks. This came after she had some flirty conversations with another man. When confronted she told me I had nothing to worry about. But then these feelings surfaced for this other...
    blue512 blue512
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 2, 2014

    My Emotional Affair

    A friend of mine had recently passed away and there was a memorial to help raise money for her tombstone at a local bar. I met a young couple there, (I was 34 they were in their early 20's) one of which happened to be my friend's cousin. I had just recently broken up with my...
    CoolHearted CoolHearted
    36-40, F
    Feb 5, 2011

    Related Experiences

    I thought with EP shutting down I might as well add one of my personal experiences for a change. I had an affair with a very loving and caring man for over 2 years. It was during a...
    Sweetangel2013 Sweetangel2013
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 21
    We divorced when he was 9. He lived with me for 2 years then decided to live with his dad because they were both very Sports driven and had more things in common. He was also used...
    Oasisskincare1 Oasisskincare1
    46-50, F
    Apr 20
    Think long and hard. Most that are thinking of having an affair only think of whether they could get away with it and how exciting it could be. Most never dream of just how...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 20
    Still do, I wanted to thank everyone who didnt judge me nor read my stories with disgust, I am in love with my first cousin since I was 12, my affair has lasted almost 15 years...
    RumNraisin1978 RumNraisin1978
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Apr 20
    Hello to my dear friends. It's been awhile since I have posted and I just can't wait to tell you how happy I am now. I am over all the hurt from my past experience and have taken...
    Linley242 Linley242
    51-55, F
    1 Response Apr 19
    Well, the married man whom I had sex with repeatedly had the affair. I was single at the time. He even licked my toes. ******* A!
    NurseZenLiberal NurseZenLiberal
    31-35, F
    Apr 18
    Some could say I'm a cliche. Just another guy that fell completely in love with a woman and ended up in an affair...one that looks like it's ending with him being left behind...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Apr 18
    Omg! I just started a new affair and let me just say, he's AMAZING in bed!! Lol. I think the best I've ever had. It's was an awesome few hours. I'm so sad to to see EP go :( I like...
    freedomnow001 freedomnow001
    36-40, F
    Apr 15
    I had an affair. How strange to even type these words. It isn't difficult to admit those words. It is difficult to relate to those words because I was in the camp of people who...
    daliadoom daliadoom
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 15
    Ask someone who knows me. They'll tell you I'm strong-willed, fiery, and immune to pain. Yeah, no. I'm either a brilliant actor, a chillingly-adept pathological liar, or a mixture...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    13-15, T
    1 Response Apr 13
    Some times I think I am heading toward an extramarital affair with a married girl. She use to work out with me 3 ur ago and she and her husband wanted to have kids but it does not...
    Youliveonce Youliveonce
    41-45, M
    Apr 12
    I posted the following on RelateToThat, and that Janet woman deleted my comment to her post, which I'm posting here. This woman is ridiculous. I think we will be wasting our time...
    Fmina Fmina
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Apr 11
    My boyfriend ended things on Valentine's Day after an amazing night of intimacy and sex. He had been troubled by the fact that he was having an affair, but frequently told me how...
    Amlaw1975 Amlaw1975
    36-40, F
    Apr 9
    My husband and have sex infrequently he always talks about having more sex but neither of us initiate if. I've never been lustfully attracted to him physically more so his...
    arizonabullups15 arizonabullups15
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 9
    Look, I know it can sound completely insane, but it's true. I can be sitting next to someone and hear a rude comment about the person behind us. I can hear other people speaking in...
    Bowties0stuff Bowties0stuff
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 8
    Irony of those of us who had affairs. So much more peace and contentment in our lives and marriages when we are having an affair and when the affair ends, finding ways of...
    MyThermopylae MyThermopylae
    46-50, M
    8 Responses Apr 7
    It happened to me like many many times! at the end people just ignored me left me or made me feel like a ****. I got a very clean heart, i'm nice to everyone and if they are nice...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 7
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