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I Think I Am Unlovable

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    I Want to Be Loved

         I've been loved.  I've loved.  I understand love.  I just don't feel loved.  I have a lot of reasons for this, from my past, from things I had to deal with that I wish I never had to.   At this point I just don't.  Even...
    intothewoods intothewoods 26-30 2 Responses Dec 27, 2008

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    I'm Black, Fat, & Ugly Female

    I have always felt worthless and incapable of anyone other than my of and on mother to actually care about me.about me, I wish I had someone to talk to. I even tried church. Everything I do is wrong. If I help someone then I am wrong. If I smile and be sociable then I am wrong...
    emarie760 emarie760 26-30 13 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    The Loneliest Number

    "Hostility comes from loneliness, from not seeing yourself like a drop falling into the ocean of humanity like everyone else."- Mehmet OzAfter years of constant loneliness, one begins to come to conclusions about oneself. That they are different. That they are special. In my case...
    Torcularis Torcularis 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    My Problem

    I have no problems whatsoever getting dates and boyfriends... Getting them to STAY with me is another matter entirely.
    sondosia sondosia 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    Please?

    Hey guys! Please, please, please comment here to let my friend livigayle know she does matter and that there ARE people out there who support her and care about her and love her<3 thank you to everybody who does this, it means a lot to livigayle and to me!:)
    AlyShine AlyShine 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16, 2012

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    Story Of My Life

    I finally got up the nerve to ask a girl out. I was in another state at the time, so we talked non-stop for about a month, I managed to come home fora weekend and we met. I thought things were going well, but now a month later she decides I remind her too much of her best friend...
    kellhorn kellhorn 22-25, M Jul 30, 2013

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    Ive Done All The Right Things, And Im Still Not Good Enough

    the man i love has told me he knows what love feels like and it will never happen with me. i am a busty woman, with an 'exotic' look and to this man im just another flavor to try. unfortunately for me i'm a one man kind of woman. i give so much, i make him dinner and love him any...
    rottenbananapeel rottenbananapeel 22-25, F Jul 7, 2013

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    I Am

    My friend tells me she doubts anyone will ever stay and put up with me. I take so long to get to know - i dont let people in because i know they won't like what they find. I'm outrageous, deep, intense, emotional. So i want to hide that for as long as possible. I'm also a...
    jasminjane jasminjane 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    But Then I Think I'm Wrong

    Sometimes I feel like there is just no one out there who can relate to me, and fall in love with me, and I don't like opening up to anyone in my close circle about feeling so inadequate? because the only advice given is age old cliches like, just cheer up (which I had no idea was...
    TheMarlboroMan07 TheMarlboroMan07 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2013

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    Please?

    Hey guys! Please, please, please comment here to let my friend livigayle know she does matter and that there ARE people out there who support her and care about her and love her<3 thank you to everybody who does this, it means a lot to livigayle and to me!:)
    AlyShine AlyShine 18-21, F Oct 16, 2012

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    Listen Up You Lot.

    Listen up you lot. I know this for a titanium-strength fact. I have no doubt in my mind whatsoever that not only are two members of this group are fantastic, inspiring, wonderful and intriguing young women, but I also would wager ALL of my worldly possessions that they are 100...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    Still Hoping For That Someone...

    I have always been in love with love, and that is exactly my problem. I cannot find a true love, someone who loves me unconditionally just as I would do.
    lolita053 lolita053 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    56 And Still Trying To Fit In

    I am not a bad person. I love animals and have adopted several. I don't have a mean bone in my body but I do have expectations of others. Also, I am a bit opinionated but don't feel everyone has to agree with me. After 56 years on this planet I have all but given up finding...
    Alone1957 Alone1957 56-60, F Feb 23, 2013

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    Am I Not Good Looking Enough For You?

    i dont know why but girls just seem to avoid me, its strange because i try so hard to be the nice guy and treat girls they way they should be treated but its almost as if girls want some good looking ******* that would **** them and run. its so confusing, maybe u guys could help...
    TheCreativeMoose TheCreativeMoose 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    Nondescript

    January of this year was when I started having my suspicions about me being unlovable and an all-around boring person and, honestly, that isn't healthy. It's those thoughts that eat away at my central being, those thoughts that shouldn't pass through any sane person's head. But...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2011

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    Love Me... Please!!!????

    I've never had a boyfriend!! And I guess I'm okay with THAT, but its the fact that nobody has ever even said that they liked me..as more than a friend. Well, there was ONE guy, but he ended up with my sister. I never thought myself as being pretty, and because people have never...
    bulletinmybutterflywing bulletinmybutterflywing 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 10, 2007

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    The Opposite Of Love

    The opposite of love to many would be hate, but to me it is emptiness. When love left, I didn't't feel hated just loveless, and more importantly unlovable. I'm not saying I have given up, as much as I have stopped expecting to be and feel loved, that way I'm not disappointed. If...
    badyourguy badyourguy 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 26, 2010

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    Whose Happy?

    If you watch much TV you would come to the conclusion that happiness is obtained by being rich, beautiful, popular & in many cases a slutty, drunken *****. (Sorry if that comment is offensive, but it’s the harsh truth) The glamour and glitz of Hollywood. Everyone is beautiful...
    frankm76 frankm76 46-50, M 5 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Ex Made Me Feel Unloveable Through A Roller Coaster Relationship...

    So to give you guys a little background story into our relationship, I knew my ex all through my adolescent years and we were always very good friends and hung out in the same circles. When we were 18 years old, we started dating. He struggled with addiction problems in the...
    pugs390 pugs390 22-25, F Jul 8, 2013

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    I'm Beginning To Feel Like I'm Impossible To Love.

    Im a 27 year old woman. I've suffered from intermittent depression and anxiety since childhood. I moved out of home at 17 years old, and have been surviving on my own since then. Oddly enough, I have a good relationship with my parents, and I do know that they care about me. But...
    skiba skiba 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    I'm a smart, good looking young girl with all

    the potential in the world, but I hate myself. All my life I've never been good enough by anyone's standards. Everyone wants more and tells me how strong and capable I am. No one seems to realize how much they hurt me. Maybe it's because I never show it until the damage is done...
    angellee89 angellee89 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I Definitely Am Unloveable.

    my parents didn't want me. my family told me stories to pacify me because nobody wanted to deal with me. all boyfriends dumped me for someone else. or used me. i didn't graduate high school. couldn't finish college cause i couldn't afford it. when i asked my parents for help...
    itzpms itzpms 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    I Know....

    The only people who I KNOW love me, are SOme of my freinds here on Ep, family? NO, friends outside ep, NO! even my edx boyfriend, i doubt he loved me, because if he did, he would have treated me a hella lot better than he ******* did.
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Aug 15, 2010

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    If you dont like me,

    as I do you; I understand. because who would really choose a daisy, in a field of roses?
    ProfessorPsycho ProfessorPsycho 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    Whose Happy?

    If you watch much TV you would come to the conclusion that happiness is obtained by being rich, beautiful, popular & in many cases a slutty, drunken *****. (Sorry if that comment is offensive, but it’s the harsh truth) The glamour and glitz of Hollywood. Everyone is beautiful...
    frankm76 frankm76 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Rejected, Rejected, Rejected…

    Rejected. Rejected. Rejected. Being rejected seems to invariably be the outcome whenever I try to become closer to or even talk to a woman. Honestly, I cannot help but begin to believe that maybe I won’t ever find love. Hell, forget love, I can’t find anyone to be my...
    AspergersandMe AspergersandMe 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    I Don't Think I Am Unlovable, I AM Sure About It...

    I think that one of the most difficult things for me is to accept myself the way I am. I don't like myself, I have depression for so many years, I don't think there's a certain reason for that, there are many factors. People usually tell me that if I don't like myself, how can...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    It'S True

    I've been reading through the stories on this site, &i Find some sort of solace knowing there are others. But when I read the comments they are always the same. Get out, go meet people, join a community, it's not true there are people out there who value your time and company. I...
    cd07 cd07 18-21, F Jun 30, 2013

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    Single For Life: Perpetually "friend-zoned"

    I'm the life of the party, the first one to laugh and to make a hilarious comment to make you laugh. I have gorgeous bedroom eyes and a spongebob smile. I'm "fluffy" and fashionable, lady lumps adorning my robust physique. I have an education and will gladly sit with anyone and...
    anb1983 anb1983 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    I Am Unlovable

    I am 25 years old, I have never been in a relationship and no one has ever been remotely interested in me.
    Paige888 Paige888 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    What Is Wrong With Me?

    I am convinced that I am unlovable. I meet guys that start off great and then days later they ignore me and lie to me. What is it about me? Am I cursed? I even had someone I considered a good friend blocked me on my messenger without a reason. Is it because I have a son? Is it...
    KatDaRosa KatDaRosa 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2012

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    Sometimes

     I know I'm not really unlovable. But sometimes it feels like that, especially when my father dislikes me, and no one loves me. (But I know there are people who do, but we were separated by circumstances.)(And I know about God's holy Will. And since I am Catholic, I know Jesus...
    Ste11aeres Ste11aeres 26-30, F Nov 13, 2012

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    It's Been Proven

    I think people can't love me because of my looks, and my issues. I have had several lovers who have tried, but because of my self-loathing and depression, it's very hard to love me. I am never surprised when they give up on me, and I usually try to avoid getting close to people...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 10, 2010

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    Apparently Completely Unloveable And Desperately Sad

    Apparently i really am completelly unloveable. I'm now 42 and single, just been cheated on for the second time (just found out about the other one) and unceremoniously dumped by my partner of 8 years!!! 42, i 've had several long-term relationships but not one of them has loved...
    missk70 missk70 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 27, 2012

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    I Dont Wanma Sound Desparate

    Not to sound desparate but I wish I had a guy to shower me with attention and love. I can wait for Mr wright ...but I want a Mr right now
    Theartrejunkie Theartrejunkie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Too Damaged...

    Because I feel or do the following: 1. I can be very closed up and quiet in person as I worry that I will say or do something wrong or embarrassing. I don't open up about my life as I am ashamed of my situation in life at the moment (almost 26, still living at home and single...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    Something Inside Me Is Broken

    I don't understand why, but I am unlovable. I am beautiful, intelligent, caring, successful, etc, but my personal life is a mess. Men I've dated told me they love me because they think it's what I want to hear. They are wrong. I want them to love me, not use the words. I'm...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F 12 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    Where Do I Start?

    Actually I will have to correct that statement. I know I'm lovable. On an intellectual basis there is plenty of evidence that I'm loved. But I don't FEEL lovable. And it's important to feel it deep in your soul! Why am I like this? I don't know.
    lovelyprincess21 lovelyprincess21 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2013

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    Consider Myself As No Boyfriend Since Birth

    ..When I was in my college years..particularly 2nd year college...I never have a boyfriend ever since birth till I met this guy introduced to me by my cousin..He courted me for 1month in text but never in person..and it really makes me sad because he fail to prove to me that I'm...
    Jeaned19 Jeaned19 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    It's Always Been Someone Else...

            I guess I've felt like this for a while. Ever since at least 5th grade, I had multiple insults thrown at me. I was called stupid, fat, ugly, etc. Sooner or later, I had begun to believe those insults were true. Even after attempting to change myself in middle...
    shootingstarsxlove shootingstarsxlove 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 24, 2011

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    Unlucky In Love.

    Why is it that every single time i open my heart to someone they step on it and throw it away? I genuinely don't know what i do wrong.. maybe i attract the wrong person, or i give myself over too quickly. But i can guarantee you that every single time it messes up. My first...
    spectrasoul spectrasoul 18-21, F Oct 16, 2012

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    I hurt the ones I love through ignorance

    and selfishness. I never see it till too late. I have lost love.. I no longer deserve it. I cannot accept it... I loved my angel.... It was pain to her. My love is a loathsome creature that should never be allowed the light of day.
    popuptarget popuptarget 46-50, M 1 Response Feb 24

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    With Only A Thought

    I cannot fully understand how one should interact with others. I can be charming, caring, sincere, even joke. Yet when it comes down to the end of the day it doesn't feel real. I honestly do not have friends. Acquaintances who believe to know me, but not someone who I can trust...
    KarchAmadeo KarchAmadeo 18-21, M Sep 22, 2013

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    Unlovable

    I'm not entirely sure how to write this down, but I don't seem to be lovable. I'm short and fat and have depression, which I'm pretty sure is why I am unlovable; girls want little more to do than me than being friends (and even then that doesn't happen often). On top of all of...
    KiwiDan KiwiDan 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 13, 2012

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    Unlovable

    I am writing theese words because I have to find a way to channel theese emotions that are rambling inside of me. I am, and I have always been unlovable. People seemed to pass right through my life without even noticing. They just came across at some place, been there for me for...
    blackbirdie blackbirdie 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    Why Not Enough?

    Every time someone hurts me the only thing I ever ask is why? I want to know what's wrong with me that makes that person feel like Im not enough, like Im not needed, that I cant be Loved. I never used to feel like i was unlovable before. I felt as normal as the next person...
    PerfectRainbows PerfectRainbows 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2012

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    I Just Can't Figure It Out...

    I just can't figure out how many people can be in love with someone who treated them like ****. I've talked to numerous women who stayed with abusive boyfriends even after they knew they were abusive. Sometimes its physical abuse. Other times its infidelity. One woman I talked to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    Why Am I Unloveable

    What do Women want?. 64 million dollar question.its so obvious most Women go for looks I am a British Guy who has been on a few dating sites and sent messages and they check my photo and I dont even get a reply.Am I the Elephant mans twin brother? Then they wonder why Men treat...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 14, 2013

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    I keep saying this but in the end it really is

    what it all boils down to- If my own parents can't love me how could anyone else? I have trouble making friends because when I message them or talk to them I feel like I'm interrupting something else they would much rather be doing. Or I feel that they're only speaking to me...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    The Vicious Cycle

    I will be 25 years old next month, but have the love life of an aimless teenager. I've dated many times, but have never had a relationship last longer than two months. For some reason, I always go for the attractive ********. It is a pattern that has been going on since I was 16...
    jadenkay jadenkay 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 30, 2013

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    Likable, But Not Lovable.

    I am a little different to a lot of people who are in this group in that i have no issue making friends and i am outrageously confident, it is quite simply that no one really thinks of me as a potential gilfriend. I am not a stunner by any stretch of the imagination but i don't...
    lostsheep lostsheep 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    I honestly don't know what is wrong with me.

    I know I am young and still have plenty of time for love, but I just feel like something is missing from my life and I think that's what it is. I've had many dates, partners, etc. but ultimately I feel like I am only used for one thing and that no one ever cares about me as a...
    lostchinchilla lostchinchilla 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Its Hard To Say Verbally....but

    I just don't think I'm that kinda girl.  I've seen the girls who meet guys all the time and date constantly.  I've seen the girls who meet guys and date them for years.  The girls who have relationships and feel the love; I've seen them and It's just not me. It's not just a...
    Pooh1608 Pooh1608 18-21, F 6 Responses May 27, 2011

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    Not Handsome Enough..

    So it's been a couple years and I'm back here. I don't feel like I'm handsome enough for any girl I'm attracted to. And I'm too nervous to talk to them :( I just can't win.. I have low self esteem and I'm shy, and I know those are big turn offs, I just wish i could find someone...
    mikeandike128 mikeandike128 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 19, 2013

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