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I Think I Am Unlovable

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    It's Always Been Someone Else...

            I guess I've felt like this for a while. Ever since at least 5th grade, I had multiple insults thrown at me. I was called stupid, fat, ugly, etc. Sooner or later, I had begun to believe those insults were true. Even after attempting to change myself in middle...
    shootingstarsxlove shootingstarsxlove 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2011

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    The Loneliest Number

    "Hostility comes from loneliness, from not seeing yourself like a drop falling into the ocean of humanity like everyone else."- Mehmet OzAfter years of constant loneliness, one begins to come to conclusions about oneself. That they are different. That they are special. In my case...
    Torcularis Torcularis 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    I Know....

    The only people who I KNOW love me, are SOme of my freinds here on Ep, family? NO, friends outside ep, NO! even my edx boyfriend, i doubt he loved me, because if he did, he would have treated me a hella lot better than he ******* did.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 15, 2010

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    I have only had one woman in my life love me

    for me. but time went on and we eventually fell out of love. Now I can't seem to find it again. I am a good person, I have a kind heart, I respect women. I don't know where I am going wrong. it hurts every day to be alone. I try putting my self out there only to be tossed...
    justthatguy1978 justthatguy1978 36-40, M May 17, 2014

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    Listen Up You Lot.

    Listen up you lot. I know this for a titanium-strength fact. I have no doubt in my mind whatsoever that not only are two members of this group are fantastic, inspiring, wonderful and intriguing young women, but I also would wager ALL of my worldly possessions that they are 100...
    TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo 31-35, M 3 Responses Jul 9, 2007

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    No one wants me i sat alone at lunch

    and odk no one want to talk to me :(
    Lasbutterfly Lasbutterfly 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    I'm Beginning To Feel Like I'm Impossible To Love.

    Im a 27 year old woman. I've suffered from intermittent depression and anxiety since childhood. I moved out of home at 17 years old, and have been surviving on my own since then. Oddly enough, I have a good relationship with my parents, and I do know that they care about me. But...
    skiba skiba 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2012

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    Sometimes I get really into my head.

    People think I'm very calm and balanced on the outside. I don't show much emotion and I've been accused of being unfeeling. The truth is so much different. I love so deep and so hard that it actually scares me. Everyday I see people who should be unloved. People who are...
    1awkwardgirl 1awkwardgirl 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 3, 2014

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    I Am

    My friend tells me she doubts anyone will ever stay and put up with me. I take so long to get to know - i dont let people in because i know they won't like what they find. I'm outrageous, deep, intense, emotional. So i want to hide that for as long as possible. I'm also a...
    jasminjane jasminjane 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2008

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    Likable, But Not Lovable.

    I am a little different to a lot of people who are in this group in that i have no issue making friends and i am outrageously confident, it is quite simply that no one really thinks of me as a potential gilfriend. I am not a stunner by any stretch of the imagination but i don't...
    lostsheep lostsheep 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    Too Damaged...

    Because I feel or do the following: 1. I can be very closed up and quiet in person as I worry that I will say or do something wrong or embarrassing. I don't open up about my life as I am ashamed of my situation in life at the moment (almost 26, still living at home and single...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F 13 Responses Jul 3, 2011

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    Something Inside Me Is Broken

    I don't understand why, but I am unlovable. I am beautiful, intelligent, caring, successful, etc, but my personal life is a mess. Men I've dated told me they love me because they think it's what I want to hear. They are wrong. I want them to love me, not use the words. I'm...
    sassyg1rl sassyg1rl 36-40, F 11 Responses Feb 4, 2012

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    Whose Happy?

    If you watch much TV you would come to the conclusion that happiness is obtained by being rich, beautiful, popular & in many cases a slutty, drunken *****. (Sorry if that comment is offensive, but it’s the harsh truth) The glamour and glitz of Hollywood. Everyone is beautiful...
    frankm76 frankm76 46-50, M 5 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Love Me... Please!!!????

    I've never had a boyfriend!! And I guess I'm okay with THAT, but its the fact that nobody has ever even said that they liked me..as more than a friend. Well, there was ONE guy, but he ended up with my sister. I never thought myself as being pretty, and because people have never...
    bulletinmybutterflywing bulletinmybutterflywing 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 10, 2007

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    Nondescript

    January of this year was when I started having my suspicions about me being unlovable and an all-around boring person and, honestly, that isn't healthy. It's those thoughts that eat away at my central being, those thoughts that shouldn't pass through any sane person's head. But...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 30, 2011

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    But Then I Think I'm Wrong

    Sometimes I feel like there is just no one out there who can relate to me, and fall in love with me, and I don't like opening up to anyone in my close circle about feeling so inadequate? because the only advice given is age old cliches like, just cheer up (which I had no idea was...
    TheMarlboroMan07 TheMarlboroMan07 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 9, 2013

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    Everyone I have ever lived with has rejected me

    quite soundly, except for my (now deceased) mother. That includes my father, college finance, husband, and all five siblings. I have determined that I am not, however, worthless, since I have a great deal to give from an emotional distance, anonymously. But I do wish I could...
    peeweezers peeweezers 51-55 Jan 31

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    Again, I Don't

    think it, I know it for certain. I hate myself, and everything I stand for, so how can I expect anyone else to love me?
    GENE2013 GENE2013 46-50 Aug 25, 2013

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    I Definitely Am Unloveable.

    my parents didn't want me. my family told me stories to pacify me because nobody wanted to deal with me. all boyfriends dumped me for someone else. or used me. i didn't graduate high school. couldn't finish college cause i couldn't afford it. when i asked my parents for help...
    itzpms itzpms 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    If you dont like me,

    as I do you; I understand. because who would really choose a daisy, in a field of roses?
    ProfessorPsycho ProfessorPsycho 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 4, 2014

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    With Only A Thought

    I cannot fully understand how one should interact with others. I can be charming, caring, sincere, even joke. Yet when it comes down to the end of the day it doesn't feel real. I honestly do not have friends. Acquaintances who believe to know me, but not someone who I can trust...
    Vithus Vithus 18-21, M Sep 22, 2013

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    To be honest I can't remember

    who I am. Not literally. Since the beginning of June, I have lost at least 6 friends. I don't know who I am anymore. I know everyone goes through issues but I think I am depressed. Not sad, but I am unhappy. Everyday. Morning. Night. 24/7. I can't help it. Of course I have days...
    hannahastin hannahastin 13-15, F Jul 4, 2014

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    Its True

    I dont think i am, i know i am. Almost every one i have ever loved has told me i am in one way or another. It doesn't bother me nearly as much as it did when i was younger. i suppose thats because im used to it now. I remember the last thing my mom told me before she left when i...
    Artemis17 Artemis17 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 10, 2010

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    The Opposite Of Love

    The opposite of love to many would be hate, but to me it is emptiness. When love left, I didn't't feel hated just loveless, and more importantly unlovable. I'm not saying I have given up, as much as I have stopped expecting to be and feel loved, that way I'm not disappointed. If...
    badyourguy badyourguy 56-60, M 2 Responses Oct 26, 2010

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    I am unlovable. Everyone

    that cares about me leaves me in the end :( why does it happen so much to me I try to be a good girlfriend and they all just walk away leaving me cold broken and alone
    smilebright21 smilebright21 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2014

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    Where Do I Start?

    Actually I will have to correct that statement. I know I'm lovable. On an intellectual basis there is plenty of evidence that I'm loved. But I don't FEEL lovable. And it's important to feel it deep in your soul! Why am I like this? I don't know.
    lovelyprincess21 lovelyprincess21 22-25, F Oct 24, 2013

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    Rejected, Rejected, Rejected…

    Rejected. Rejected. Rejected. Being rejected seems to invariably be the outcome whenever I try to become closer to or even talk to a woman. Honestly, I cannot help but begin to believe that maybe I won’t ever find love. Hell, forget love, I can’t find anyone to be my...
    AspergersandMe AspergersandMe 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    So I feel almost indifferent about this,

    but I'm almost certain that I am going to spend my life alone. No friends or a lover. I have always had this feeling since I was child. Relationships have never been a thing for me and neither have close friendships. It's not that I've never wanted to connect with anyone...
    RoseQuarts RoseQuarts 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    I honestly don't know what is wrong with me.

    I know I am young and still have plenty of time for love, but I just feel like something is missing from my life and I think that's what it is. I've had many dates, partners, etc. but ultimately I feel like I am only used for one thing and that no one ever cares about me as a...
    lostchinchilla lostchinchilla 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2014

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    Still Hoping For That Someone...

    I have always been in love with love, and that is exactly my problem. I cannot find a true love, someone who loves me unconditionally just as I would do.
    lolita053 lolita053 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    What Is Wrong With Me?

    I am convinced that I am unlovable. I meet guys that start off great and then days later they ignore me and lie to me. What is it about me? Am I cursed? I even had someone I considered a good friend blocked me on my messenger without a reason. Is it because I have a son? Is it...
    KatDaRosa KatDaRosa 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2012

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    I have had a crush on this guy

    since freshman year of college. I first met him at orientation and was instantly drawn to him. As the years have gone by I've discovered that our interests are really similar and become extrememly interested. He's pretty much everything i've ever wanted in a guy. We've casually...
    sansabri sansabri 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    I Don't Think I Am Unlovable, I AM Sure About It...

    I think that one of the most difficult things for me is to accept myself the way I am. I don't like myself, I have depression for so many years, I don't think there's a certain reason for that, there are many factors. People usually tell me that if I don't like myself, how can...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25, 2013

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    A lot of people like me

    but now that I've been single for a year and 3 months now I'm contemplating whether I'll ever be loved. There's no worse feeling than being alone and trust me...I deal with that feeling every day
    stellag23 stellag23 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Single For Life: Perpetually "friend-zoned"

    I'm the life of the party, the first one to laugh and to make a hilarious comment to make you laugh. I have gorgeous bedroom eyes and a spongebob smile. I'm "fluffy" and fashionable, lady lumps adorning my robust physique. I have an education and will gladly sit with anyone and...
    anb1983 anb1983 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2013

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    I Am Unlovable

    I am 25 years old, I have never been in a relationship and no one has ever been remotely interested in me.
    Paige888 Paige888 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 26, 2013

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    Like anything in my life right now,

    I can change the fact that I am unlovable. But right now, I am definitely unlovable unless someone had a lot of money to make my life easier. Even then, my actions would probably hurt them somehow.
    ResidentGoddessAstraea ResidentGoddessAstraea 18-21 Oct 13, 2014

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    I keep saying this but in the end it really is

    what it all boils down to- If my own parents can't love me how could anyone else? I have trouble making friends because when I message them or talk to them I feel like I'm interrupting something else they would much rather be doing. Or I feel that they're only speaking to me...
    BeteNoire BeteNoire 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    Oh! God where do I start,

    lol, I'm three things!! I'm a drama queen, an attention wh@re AND I care way too much! Like I'm the world most annoying person......but that's who I am I can't change that!! But no one really loves that!! I feel like I'm unlovable all the time! But when I love, or when I care, I...
    Kittyxfreak Kittyxfreak 18-21, F 1 Response May 13, 2014

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    Ex Made Me Feel Unloveable Through A Roller Coaster Relationship...

    So to give you guys a little background story into our relationship, I knew my ex all through my adolescent years and we were always very good friends and hung out in the same circles. When we were 18 years old, we started dating. He struggled with addiction problems in the...
    pugs390 pugs390 22-25, F Jul 8, 2013

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    I've went on 2 dates in high school,

    nothing serious. Growing up in a divorced, dysfunctional home, I grew up taking care of my parents more than them taking care of me, taking care of my little brother, and sisters. All I know is taking care of others, school, and work. I'm 22 have zero self confidence, a negative...
    collegestudent83 collegestudent83 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 10

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    I Just Can't Figure It Out...

    I just can't figure out how many people can be in love with someone who treated them like ****. I've talked to numerous women who stayed with abusive boyfriends even after they knew they were abusive. Sometimes its physical abuse. Other times its infidelity. One woman I talked to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Sep 7, 2011

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    I'm Black, Fat, & Ugly Female

    I have always felt worthless and incapable of anyone other than my of and on mother to actually care about me.about me, I wish I had someone to talk to. I even tried church. Everything I do is wrong. If I help someone then I am wrong. If I smile and be sociable then I am wrong...
    emarie760 emarie760 26-30 14 Responses Sep 9, 2011

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    My mom loves my sisters more

    than she loves me, I've always been the one who thinks differently about things and is not afraid to say it. I am actually quite a sensitive person. Very sarcastic and I'm always up for a laugh. My friends constantly tell me that I'm funny which is nice but I feel like that's...
    Larissa18283 Larissa18283 18-21, F Oct 9, 2014

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    Whose Happy?

    If you watch much TV you would come to the conclusion that happiness is obtained by being rich, beautiful, popular & in many cases a slutty, drunken *****. (Sorry if that comment is offensive, but it’s the harsh truth) The glamour and glitz of Hollywood. Everyone is beautiful...
    frankm76 frankm76 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    I Dont Wanma Sound Desparate

    Not to sound desparate but I wish I had a guy to shower me with attention and love. I can wait for Mr wright ...but I want a Mr right now
    Theartrejunkie Theartrejunkie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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