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I Think I Can Change Myself And Others

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    I think people do have the ability to change both, themselves and others. Many people feel that cannot change others. At least that's what I see here on EP. It could be we are talking about different things. For example, I have changed my husband in many ways, but is he what I...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    I prefer to change myself than losing someone.
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    It isn't the easiest thing to do, it's definitely a learning process. There's a lot of things i wish i could change, especially my past but...i can't and i need to accept that and...
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    Sometimes I look life through a filter of perfection...how things should be.A supportive family,friends and happy kids around,living a peaceful life full of feelings and deep...
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    But... My biggest struggle is to accept that there is anything i cannot change, if i want that change enough!
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    Cant change the past but im hoping to change the future, he is defenitly not right for her and he really need to get out of the picture.
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    What if one of those "things you cannot change" is your own unhappiness?? Emo post for the day..check.
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    The past is what we need to accept the way it was. Cause no one ever can change it. accepting the past and learning from the past, is important in life.
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    Trying to change my look a bit. Just died my hair and thinking of cutting it! Change should be good
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    "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." ~Leo Tolstoy
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    I think its time to change my life for the better. And it all begins how? In my head! Change ur thinking and u will be changed!
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