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I Think I Expect Everyone To Hurt Me

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    So I Hurt Them First.

    Its the truth. Everyone that has ever been in my life, has hurt me, some way, some how. I always meet someone and if they say they care for me, then i know and expect that they will hurt me. its just something that is going to happen. But before they can hurt me i tend to want...
    xxcoixx18xx xxcoixx18xx 16-17, F May 4, 2010

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    Hurt From Birth

    My parents divorced when I was two years old. My father just vanished from then.. He was the first man to hurt me and he just opened up the door for every other man to hurt me. When I give my heart to someone, boyfriend, friend or familly member I give it 1oo% but they always...
    Laurretta Laurretta 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    There Is No Reason I Should Ever Change My Mind.

    Everyone is going to hurt me.  That is just inevitable.  My heart is locked in a box, the key has been grinded down into dust, then sprinkled in a fire. 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    Repeating History

    There's only so many times you can watch the exact same story play out before it makes you just a little cynical. Guys think they're smart about it but really every one of them that I've ever encountered plays a slightly different variation of the exact same game, each one...
    SJ7462426 SJ7462426 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    More Of The Same

    Why not? I'm like a little mouse like Stephen King's Carrie looking at you out of the corner of my eye.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 6, 2010

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    It Is Sad

    but I have to admit that on some level this is true. It is a generalization of course, there are a few people who have not let me down, but for the most part people have been very hard on my soul. At some point you can't blame everyone else, I am hard to get to know and don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 20, 2011

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    I Really Think I Do...

    All my Life people have always hurt me, or left me, or have done something in the past to make me either want to walk away from them or something. I think there is like some chemical balance in my mind, that makes me believe that people are out to hurt me, and to leave me. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 6, 2010

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    Life Experience

    I have always been a pessimistic person, which doesn't help me to have great expectations of people or circumstances. However, I cannot remember having a relationship where people actually catered to my feeling or perspective and take them into consideration.Whenever I explain to...
    ImnessAntiess ImnessAntiess 26-30, F Jan 18, 2011

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    Life Experience

    I have always been a pessimistic person, which doesn't help me to have great expectations of people or circumstances. However, I cannot remember having a relationship where people actually catered to my feeling or perspective and take them into consideration.Whenever I explain to...
    ImnessAntiess ImnessAntiess 26-30, F Jan 18, 2011

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    Always

    And that way, I'm never disappointed...because they always do...
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2010

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    I Know I Do

    Ive been hurt in the past that now i just expect it. I know i should just let the past be the past but i dont know its just reflex now. My minds just says walls go up and keep person at arms length dont get hurt.
    eyeslikestars eyeslikestars 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 16, 2010

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    It'S True...

    Everyone will hurt you, you just have to decide who's worth the pain...
    FreshStart22 FreshStart22 31-35, F Feb 25, 2013

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    I Think I Expect Everyone To Hurt Me.

    As much as i try to find the beauty in everyone i am well aware that none is perfect. And by knowing this I expect them to disappoint me in some way shape or form. Im not proud of it in fact it scares my every single day its like im jus waiting for something bad to happen.
    applescruffs applescruffs 22-25, F Feb 19, 2011

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    I Don't Just Think....

    When getting into a friendship/relationship, I would always say to myself, I will not give this person the power to hurt me, and over time, little by little, they work theirselves into my heart, and into my mind, and soul, and next thing I know, they are one of the people who can...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 13, 2010

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    Everyone Is Out To Hurt Me......

    I believe everyone is out to emotionally hurt me, because it has been happening to me for most of my life. It seems like I have been attracted to dysfunctional people who have taken advantage of my kindness and caring due to having a gentle heart. There was a time in my life...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 5 Responses Oct 18, 2010

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    Switch

    And so they do.The only way for it not to happen is to not expect.Law of attraction - we attract what our thoughts reveal.So switch thoughts.
    RedDust RedDust 41-45, F Nov 15, 2012

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    I Mean I Always Was

    hurt by everyone who I fell for, so why will I expect it to be different this time?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 17, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    most people don't even know themselves. I think the more you know yourself then you are more likely to overcome whatever.
    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F Jan 9

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    I read a great article about dating online and in general with mental illness. The author is 36 years old, and never married woman who suffers with mental illness herself. She says...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 Jan 10

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    I think I won't ever be the same again with relationship. To scared to get close to a guy again opening up being made a fool of. I feel it will take me along time to trust again...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I think my husband hates me.....My childhood was REALLY bad. My current husband also had a childhood similar to mine but was not as lucky as me and his life took a different path...
    Lsngthsbttle Lsngthsbttle 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    Food for thought? or was it thought for food?. Either way Ill go with both. Lets see, where to begin or end really. Short said, guess been just depressed most of my life, since a...
    Wintersorrow Wintersorrow 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm a junior in high school, and as everyone knows junior year is the hardest and most important year in high school with gpas and grades counting as a huge part. Before moving to...
    grace97eun grace97eun 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't think you should ask me how my day was unless you really want to know. Everyone asks you "How are you," or "How is it going," expecting the obligatory reply "OK/Fine/Good...
    PaperPlanes88 PaperPlanes88 22-25, M Jan 6

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    In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you. Some will use you. Some will love you and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly...
    deephuman deephuman 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    I recently met you and really have got so close to you shared everything I been through and u also did with me. I suppose I am pushing you away in fear that you will hurt me also...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    What I said: Nothing. I avoided responding to the flirting, so he would get I wasn't insterested anymore. What I should have said: We tried considering each other as boyfriend and...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Why can't you leave me alone! You've dug your grave.. You ruined what we had... You've both made us suffer.... Part of me just wants to go up to you, hug you and tell you, I want...
    catho catho 18-21, F 47 mins ago

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    You look at me and see a short pretty girl. What comes out of my mouth blows your mind because you do not normally expect me to be this witty. You do not look at me and see a...
    MoMolicious93 MoMolicious93 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    Never during the whole time I've been on ep have I been blocked for this stupid reason 😒 So, let me tell you a little background first. I'm not the kind of person who would be...
    PartyPat2336 PartyPat2336 16-17, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hurting somethin fierce now. It's causing my stomach to hurt as well.
    ForeverStarrs ForeverStarrs 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    31 years old and all I want do do is end it. It'd be better for everyone... this is the strongest feeling I feel at this moment and I'm just tired of hurting everyone. I think life...
    Celebi83 Celebi83 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 4

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    My acne. It's getting worse. I can never go out without wearing makeup to cover it up. I have tried to convince my parents to take me to a dermatologist but they are always busy...
    Katearcher Katearcher 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    And I think everyone hates me now. I can see it in their eyes, in the way they shift their feet away from me. And I can see it in their faces, forever tense and serious when...
    madelinefish madelinefish 16-17, F Jan 15

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    I try so hard to be perfect my boyfriend.... But all he does is hurt me.... I say one wrong thing and he cuts and makes me feel like I'm completely useless... I try to help but...
    Fitnessfreakmuch Fitnessfreakmuch 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It's crazy to me how everyone sees me as this "happy-go-lucky girl." Everyone assumes that my life is perfect. That I'm happy all the time. That I got everything together. That I...
    J021408 J021408 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    I've always allowed everyone to open up to me about anything. I've never been intolerant or judgmental. But Oh boy, somebody finally done it! They took advantage of that. Now I'm...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 Jan 4

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    Okay, so I was recently in a relationship with a girl,"Mickey" (nickname). We go to the same high school and she's two years older than me . We stayed together for about two weeks...
    CurvyFrance CurvyFrance 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    Hi. This won't be an easy one. I'm 37 years old, and have been married for over 16 years. My wife and I have three girls, 16, 12 and 10. I have not been a loyal husband, but up...
    Betruetoyourpath Betruetoyourpath 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 12

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    Yes, they can. You know when I was a child, I use to think when people said that I was like, how can that be so. They are only.....words. And if you don't believe what others...
    zonus zonus 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 20

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, but I'm starting to doubt that this relationship will last any longer. He has a HUGE family here, whereas mine is very small...
    Sneezeball Sneezeball 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I have always had the wrong picker. I fall in love only to get hurt and taken advantage of. love only works if both people care. if are like me we know how to care but we expect...
    kerac kerac 51-55, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    All the times I ever felt like being an ******* or thinking about violence I realised I was just deeply sad about something else. This gave me a new perspective on people who tried...
    pixelcravings pixelcravings 26-30 Jan 9

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    The fact that he's moved on so easily, that he's so able to say to me that he has a new girlfriend, it is killing me inside. I try to act strong, put a smile on my face and wish...
    grace97eun grace97eun 16-17, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well here we go again!!! 2015...can you believe it? Imagine all the possibilities, new friendships, travels, laughter, create things, sleep, eat, walk in beautiful places, feel the...
    rowenbumble rowenbumble 56-60, F Jan 2

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    Putting it bluntly, love sucks. It hurts way too much. It is painful. Beyond anything that a person should ever have to deal with. I was in love once. Even though I was 19, it was...
    ManinNY ManinNY 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 13

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    I have been thinking, am not sure why ppl get to care so much about age when the situations have nothing to do with how old are u... some ppl just see you as a young man or woman...
    Mahyou Mahyou 22-25, M 4 Responses Jan 16

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