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I Think I Expect Everyone To Hurt Me

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    Hurt From Birth

    My parents divorced when I was two years old. My father just vanished from then.. He was the first man to hurt me and he just opened up the door for every other man to hurt me. When I give my heart to someone, boyfriend, friend or familly member I give it 1oo% but they always...
    Laurretta Laurretta 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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    I Don't Just Think....

    When getting into a friendship/relationship, I would always say to myself, I will not give this person the power to hurt me, and over time, little by little, they work theirselves into my heart, and into my mind, and soul, and next thing I know, they are one of the people who can...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 13, 2010

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    Life Experience

    I have always been a pessimistic person, which doesn't help me to have great expectations of people or circumstances. However, I cannot remember having a relationship where people actually catered to my feeling or perspective and take them into consideration.Whenever I explain to...
    ImnessAntiess ImnessAntiess 26-30, F Jan 18, 2011

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    More Of The Same

    Why not? I'm like a little mouse like Stephen King's Carrie looking at you out of the corner of my eye.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 6, 2010

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    Switch

    And so they do.The only way for it not to happen is to not expect.Law of attraction - we attract what our thoughts reveal.So switch thoughts.
    RedDust RedDust 41-45, F Nov 15, 2012

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    Repeating History

    There's only so many times you can watch the exact same story play out before it makes you just a little cynical. Guys think they're smart about it but really every one of them that I've ever encountered plays a slightly different variation of the exact same game, each one...
    SJ7462426 SJ7462426 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2010

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    Everyone Is Out To Hurt Me......

    I believe everyone is out to emotionally hurt me, because it has been happening to me for most of my life. It seems like I have been attracted to dysfunctional people who have taken advantage of my kindness and caring due to having a gentle heart. There was a time in my life...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 5 Responses Oct 18, 2010

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    I Mean I Always Was

    hurt by everyone who I fell for, so why will I expect it to be different this time?
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 17, 2010

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    It Is Sad

    but I have to admit that on some level this is true. It is a generalization of course, there are a few people who have not let me down, but for the most part people have been very hard on my soul. At some point you can't blame everyone else, I am hard to get to know and don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 20, 2011

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    Always

    And that way, I'm never disappointed...because they always do...
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 3 Responses Mar 8, 2010

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    So I Hurt Them First.

    Its the truth. Everyone that has ever been in my life, has hurt me, some way, some how. I always meet someone and if they say they care for me, then i know and expect that they will hurt me. its just something that is going to happen. But before they can hurt me i tend to want...
    xxcoixx18xx xxcoixx18xx 16-17, F May 4, 2010

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    I Really Think I Do...

    All my Life people have always hurt me, or left me, or have done something in the past to make me either want to walk away from them or something. I think there is like some chemical balance in my mind, that makes me believe that people are out to hurt me, and to leave me. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 6, 2010

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    I Know I Do

    Ive been hurt in the past that now i just expect it. I know i should just let the past be the past but i dont know its just reflex now. My minds just says walls go up and keep person at arms length dont get hurt.
    eyeslikestars eyeslikestars 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 16, 2010

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    I Think I Expect Everyone To Hurt Me.

    As much as i try to find the beauty in everyone i am well aware that none is perfect. And by knowing this I expect them to disappoint me in some way shape or form. Im not proud of it in fact it scares my every single day its like im jus waiting for something bad to happen.
    applescruffs applescruffs 22-25, F Feb 19, 2011

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    There Is No Reason I Should Ever Change My Mind.

    Everyone is going to hurt me.  That is just inevitable.  My heart is locked in a box, the key has been grinded down into dust, then sprinkled in a fire. 
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 6, 2010

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    Life Experience

    I have always been a pessimistic person, which doesn't help me to have great expectations of people or circumstances. However, I cannot remember having a relationship where people actually catered to my feeling or perspective and take them into consideration.Whenever I explain to...
    ImnessAntiess ImnessAntiess 26-30, F Jan 18, 2011

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    It'S True...

    Everyone will hurt you, you just have to decide who's worth the pain...
    FreshStart22 FreshStart22 31-35, F Feb 25, 2013

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    As I write this, it is 2am I am laying in my youngest child's bed, my stomach in knots, nauseous, and near tears. My s/o is in our bed, sleeping and blissfully unaware of the...
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