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I Think I Need to Learn Not to Care So Much

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 255 People

    I Always End Up With the Short Piece of the Straw!!!

    I am trying really hard not to care at all, until i see the other person's feelings. i have gotten hurt and everytime fall for the same story and en up the one with the short straw! It's not fairytales, so i'm making it real!
    Ella06 Ella06 18-21, F Feb 4, 2008

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    My weakness........My nature i.

    e caring,sensitive,touchy n worrying fr all.....i guess its enough n um done with it i should move on......i m so stupid i get attached to people so much that i care n worry fr them as a babysitter n forget my life n my chores.....get involved n involved until i find myself...
    Mughee Mughee 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 14

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    How To Put The Brakes On Passion?

    Why do I care so much? And how do I start stopping not caring. My whole life I have been told I’m too nice and I care too much. At the ripe age of 33 I still pounder back and forth thoughts about this. Why don’t others care as much as I do? Are most people so heartless...
    pril79 pril79 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    I Need Help

    I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm in a relationship and am so in love with my boyfriend. I do everything I can to show him how much I love him and how much I care about it, but none of that seems to make him show any more emotion towards me. I know he loves...
    Kevin511 Kevin511 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    No Too Sure If That Would Be a Good Thing

     Caring means you connect.  It hurts sometimes because a little bit of you is involved.  Not caring means never being happy or sad.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 1 Response Oct 11, 2008

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    My Weakness

    My biggest weakness is that I care too much. I always get to attached to people. Even people I have just met. Then I am devastated when they reject me. I'm trying to train myself to keep people at a certain distance at least for a while to protect myself. I'm tired of getting my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Jun 20, 2011

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    It's not so much "I think" it's more "I NEED to

    learn not to care so much. I always end up being the one hurt, and the fact that most people don't know how I feel makes it worse. But I highly doubt this characteristic won't change, it's just who I am. If I became desensitized I just wouldn't be me anymore...
    lifesize lifesize 22-25, F Apr 14

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    I Need To Learn Not To Care About It That Much

    Yes I think I need to lear not to care about it that much and yes I like you but guess u don't feel the same way to me. It's okay I'm fine w/ that since there's nothing I can do. But I really really really really don't like this, I don't like things to influence my emotion...
    TaiwanSag TaiwanSag 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    The Downside To A Great Heart

    The one downside/negative part to being the type of person who devotes his heart almost entirely to befriending, helping and loving others...is that while the Positive is magnified by my effort, the Negative will recoil MUCH harder to me: Meaning that I take insults and being...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

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    Caring Is Just Caring..

    I think without me knowing it, i set my life for others. it used to be "if they are happy, i am happy". i dont expect anything back, oh maybe just a simple thankyou would be nice. I sacrifice my needs, trying to make others happy or at least get what they want. But i guess it's...
    kwonjae kwonjae 18-21 Jun 19, 2011

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    Ya Think?

    Life could be so much easier... if I would just learn not to invest 150% of myself in everything I do... in everyone around me... if I could just learn how to blow things off as easily as those around me do... wow.  How freeing would that be? But when I do that--when I hold...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Hate Caring

    I used to party, smoke, drink and have a good time. Whatever a good time is to you. I never really cared that much about girlfriends either, if we broke up it was whatever.. Well after a while, I quit drinking and smoking and partying this past summer and I don't know why. I...
    Dlcook Dlcook 18-21 1 Response May 2, 2013

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    I Feel No Gratitude

     Resentment is the feeling of anger or slight towards someone when you feel as though they have wronged you, or in my case shown no gratitude of any kind.             I didn’t sleep at all last night, and I was reminiscing on all my friendships and failings from...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M Mar 23, 2011

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    Grrrr....

    I always give people 100% of me but when it comes time for them to help me they drop me, they suddenly have something more important todo. why am i surrounded with inconsiderate jerks...
    SarahBeth56 SarahBeth56 19-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

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    But.

    I like doing that. :( It puts my heart at risk by me getting hurt in return. But I can't change myself. But, yeah i know I need to learn not to care so much. But how much is ''so much" anyway?
    bluie19 bluie19 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2011

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    Cared Too Much and Now I'm Out of a Cell Phone. Ugh.

    This is a serious problem of mine. I care so much about everyone that I do **** for people that no one else would do. I drop **** and make compromises in my life to help other people out and its only hurting me. Recently I was seeing this guy, and when his phone broke, I told him...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof 18-21, F Feb 5, 2008

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    I Started Caring to Much

    i ve always cared about others think its not that im not confident its just sence i was small i 've always wanted and felt good about making others happy.As i got older i started realizing that my choices did not satisfy everyone and i though i was over it but apparently im not...
    Sicka22 Sicka22 13-15, F Apr 2, 2009

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    It Sucks To Have Such A Big Heart

    I want to learn how not to love so deeply, how not to care so deeply. I think often times your taken advantage of. when your happiness solely depends on the one person who you are truly in-love with. I want to be able to be happy with myself, have fun with myself, let whoever I'm...
    idontwannacare idontwannacare 22-25 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    One of Those Groups...

    ...where I thought: YES! SURE! How could I not think of that before? That's the one thing I have to learn immediately! Because it kills me. I can be completely happy and then suddenly I see something, hear one word, someone tells me a story and I fall into a hole of depression...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2008

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    Today Especially :(

    I really wish I could internalize more than I do. I manage to hold it together MOST of the time but today has been a complete failure. I've been on the verge of tears at work and now I'm on my break and I can't stop crying. I really need to stop caring when he says hurtful things...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    Honestly Why Do I Care So Much

    Really looking at my life I don't understand why I care as much as I do. Okay I am a naturally caring person. I will do anything for a friend but it always ends up me being walked on and upset. There has been a saying that people always tell me and I hate it. My friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 17, 2011

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    Dang It Swore I Wasn't Going to Care Anymore

    I don't know WHY I am the way I am. I have always felt responsibility for things & people that I shouldn't. Because I was the youngest and no longer married I took the responsibility for taking care of Momma and Daddy. That I am proud of. But it seems the MORE you do . The...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    DefiantRed DefiantRed 70+ Jul 13, 2010

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    BOYFRIEND: If you were to see through my eyes and notice how much your hurting me, maybe you will understand why I cry every time we are on the phone. Just MAYBE you'll understand...
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    PuckDrop PuckDrop 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 8

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    I am essentially lazy. If I really dislike you, I'm certainly not going to waste precious energy moving all the way to hate. I'd rather just float down toward apathy.
    AllergyDog66 AllergyDog66 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    Just this weekend I was out with colleagues at a very busy pub and as usual found it very difficult to follow the conversation. I have always struggled when in noisy environments...
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    Hello. 3/4 of a bottle of brandy went in so far. Haha. I learnt so much! Anyway anyone care? I guess not haha hahahaha
    look4me2talk look4me2talk 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I just feel so fed up with eveything. My boyfriend seems like he don't care. You not suppose to feel like this but he just seems so selfish. We meant to be trying again. I been...
    stupid28 stupid28 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    Particularly people who think a "proper" adoption cost should be $50 at maximum. Wtf? To a drug dealer, or a better-off animal fighting person, that amount is like shopping at...
    DarkFireMoon DarkFireMoon 18-21, F Dec 3

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    I don't care much about how many friends I have.. In grade 9 I tried to make friends and I got talked about by these ******* but after 2 years I don't care at all.. I prefer to be...
    walkinwonder walkinwonder 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    We do need money to survive, but I think money gets too much focus. I acquired the belief if I only had enough money, I would have almost no problems. I might still have emotional...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 5 days ago

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    I don't think no one cares about me any more ....... I'm kinda alone I guess ..... No one probably cares if I die and they probably don't care if the lose me ... Or ..... leave EP...
    Payton20014 Payton20014 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 7

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    We all strive to love and be loved. It is simply amazing how this emotions tends to control everything that we do, even the way we think. It doesn't matter who you are, what you do...
    la2emeh la2emeh 26-30, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I think western society cares less for the looks of a man, knocked about by life, whereas it expects women to be enduringly perfect in all ways. I am middle-aged, wear full...
    ledertal ledertal 51-55, M 21 hrs ago

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    But I just don't know how,We've discussed the situation,We've made promises and commitment to each other . Even hit the global relationship reset button,,Removed our rings and...
    JerkBag JerkBag 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 9

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    I just got told I over analyze things by my step dad, my friends used to tell me not to think about it too much...
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    He is a grade below me and two years younger than I am. I like him. He is extremely sweet and adorable. I don't know what to do. He likes me and has already told me that he loved...
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