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I Think I Need to Learn Not to Care So Much

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 256 People

    My Weakness

    My biggest weakness is that I care too much. I always get to attached to people. Even people I have just met. Then I am devastated when they reject me. I'm trying to train myself to keep people at a certain distance at least for a while to protect myself. I'm tired of getting my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Jun 20, 2011

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    It's not so much "I think" it's more "I NEED to

    learn not to care so much. I always end up being the one hurt, and the fact that most people don't know how I feel makes it worse. But I highly doubt this characteristic won't change, it's just who I am. If I became desensitized I just wouldn't be me anymore...
    lifesize lifesize 22-25, F Apr 14, 2014

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    DefiantRed DefiantRed 70+ Jul 13, 2010

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    It Sucks To Have Such A Big Heart

    I want to learn how not to love so deeply, how not to care so deeply. I think often times your taken advantage of. when your happiness solely depends on the one person who you are truly in-love with. I want to be able to be happy with myself, have fun with myself, let whoever I'm...
    idontwannacare idontwannacare 22-25 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Cared Too Much and Now I'm Out of a Cell Phone. Ugh.

    This is a serious problem of mine. I care so much about everyone that I do **** for people that no one else would do. I drop **** and make compromises in my life to help other people out and its only hurting me. Recently I was seeing this guy, and when his phone broke, I told him...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof 18-21, F Feb 5, 2008

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    I Started Caring to Much

    i ve always cared about others think its not that im not confident its just sence i was small i 've always wanted and felt good about making others happy.As i got older i started realizing that my choices did not satisfy everyone and i though i was over it but apparently im not...
    Sicka22 Sicka22 13-15, F Apr 2, 2009

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    Hate Caring

    I used to party, smoke, drink and have a good time. Whatever a good time is to you. I never really cared that much about girlfriends either, if we broke up it was whatever.. Well after a while, I quit drinking and smoking and partying this past summer and I don't know why. I...
    Dlcook Dlcook 18-21 1 Response May 2, 2013

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    Grrrr....

    I always give people 100% of me but when it comes time for them to help me they drop me, they suddenly have something more important todo. why am i surrounded with inconsiderate jerks...
    SarahBeth56 SarahBeth56 19-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

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    I Feel No Gratitude

     Resentment is the feeling of anger or slight towards someone when you feel as though they have wronged you, or in my case shown no gratitude of any kind.             I didn’t sleep at all last night, and I was reminiscing on all my friendships and failings from...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M Mar 23, 2011

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    I Always End Up With the Short Piece of the Straw!!!

    I am trying really hard not to care at all, until i see the other person's feelings. i have gotten hurt and everytime fall for the same story and en up the one with the short straw! It's not fairytales, so i'm making it real!
    Ella06 Ella06 18-21, F Feb 4, 2008

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    Caring Is Just Caring..

    I think without me knowing it, i set my life for others. it used to be "if they are happy, i am happy". i dont expect anything back, oh maybe just a simple thankyou would be nice. I sacrifice my needs, trying to make others happy or at least get what they want. But i guess it's...
    kwonjae kwonjae 18-21 Jun 19, 2011

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    My weakness........My nature i.

    e caring,sensitive,touchy n worrying fr all.....i guess its enough n um done with it i should move on......i m so stupid i get attached to people so much that i care n worry fr them as a babysitter n forget my life n my chores.....get involved n involved until i find myself...
    Mughee Mughee 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    Today Especially :(

    I really wish I could internalize more than I do. I manage to hold it together MOST of the time but today has been a complete failure. I've been on the verge of tears at work and now I'm on my break and I can't stop crying. I really need to stop caring when he says hurtful things...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    How To Put The Brakes On Passion?

    Why do I care so much? And how do I start stopping not caring. My whole life I have been told I’m too nice and I care too much. At the ripe age of 33 I still pounder back and forth thoughts about this. Why don’t others care as much as I do? Are most people so heartless...
    pril79 pril79 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    One of Those Groups...

    ...where I thought: YES! SURE! How could I not think of that before? That's the one thing I have to learn immediately! Because it kills me. I can be completely happy and then suddenly I see something, hear one word, someone tells me a story and I fall into a hole of depression...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2008

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    I Need Help

    I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm in a relationship and am so in love with my boyfriend. I do everything I can to show him how much I love him and how much I care about it, but none of that seems to make him show any more emotion towards me. I know he loves...
    Kevin511 Kevin511 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    But.

    I like doing that. :( It puts my heart at risk by me getting hurt in return. But I can't change myself. But, yeah i know I need to learn not to care so much. But how much is ''so much" anyway?
    bluie19 bluie19 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2011

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    Ya Think?

    Life could be so much easier... if I would just learn not to invest 150% of myself in everything I do... in everyone around me... if I could just learn how to blow things off as easily as those around me do... wow.  How freeing would that be? But when I do that--when I hold...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Dang It Swore I Wasn't Going to Care Anymore

    I don't know WHY I am the way I am. I have always felt responsibility for things & people that I shouldn't. Because I was the youngest and no longer married I took the responsibility for taking care of Momma and Daddy. That I am proud of. But it seems the MORE you do . The...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    I Need To Learn Not To Care About It That Much

    Yes I think I need to lear not to care about it that much and yes I like you but guess u don't feel the same way to me. It's okay I'm fine w/ that since there's nothing I can do. But I really really really really don't like this, I don't like things to influence my emotion...
    TaiwanSag TaiwanSag 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    The Downside To A Great Heart

    The one downside/negative part to being the type of person who devotes his heart almost entirely to befriending, helping and loving others...is that while the Positive is magnified by my effort, the Negative will recoil MUCH harder to me: Meaning that I take insults and being...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

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    Honestly Why Do I Care So Much

    Really looking at my life I don't understand why I care as much as I do. Okay I am a naturally caring person. I will do anything for a friend but it always ends up me being walked on and upset. There has been a saying that people always tell me and I hate it. My friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 17, 2011

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    a long trip abroad, anger, misery for me, deliberate hatred and a u-turn. where to begin. my girlfriend said she was going to south Africa for a bit back in October 2012. like a...
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    I'm going to start off with some quotes and then talk about my experiences and what i've seen!No matter how much they care about you doesnt give you the right or mean you can ...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I think too much to a point i cant sleep like right now...its 3.40am and i cant sleep...i think about the past alot and all the negative things ive done and what i couldve done...
    LegendBattles LegendBattles 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    You’re lucky! So don’t take it for granted…You’re alive! There’s so many people right at this minute that are dying wishing they had more time and...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F Jan 14

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    They say they care but they always get mad when u ask for help
    thelonelyconfused thelonelyconfused 13-15, F Jan 15

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    I've been in the rag trade as a designer for over 7years. Was earning a pretty good above average wage and manage to start a label in men's wear. The company I was working wasn't...
    caughtdemfeelingsbruh caughtdemfeelingsbruh 26-30 Jan 2

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    Talking to some hoe and I can't crack the account to see whats going on and being said but I do remember the past and you met her on Craigslist I believe... And I always see you...
    Nannyxd Nannyxd 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    i think too much holy ****
    callmesavxo callmesavxo 18-21, F Jan 17

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    Funny how you think your relationship is all well, but then find out things could never be further from the truth.
    Nannyxd Nannyxd 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Including my own parents...
    Ashthewolf7601 Ashthewolf7601 13-15, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    when I have a bunch of money I would do nice things that makes someone's day a little better. Homeless guy a coffee and a sandwich, a waitress a good tip for their efforts,( if I...
    UndeliverMe UndeliverMe 22-25, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Many times, the decisions we make affect and hurt your closest friends and family the most. I have a lot of regrets in that regard. But God has forgiven me, which I am very...
    rajbj rajbj 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    I thought everything was okay. If you've read my other experience you'd know I had a conflict with my mom. Well, it was resolved and I had decided to return to her home. My...
    curiousitykills57 curiousitykills57 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    my mom is a *****. Literally growing up she was addicted to drugs: Crack,Coke, Heroin, Pills, Weed and instead of using her money for food clean cloths school supplies she used her...
    AiymaSnikies AiymaSnikies 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2014

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    They are the one who made you promise them a forever. Although they are the one who left and ended that forever.
    xurypa xurypa 13-15, F Dec 26, 2014

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    I can only imagine what being happy...being secure...being worthy...or just...being feels like.I see so many people, hear their ungrateful complaints and I just cringe. It angers...
    irreelevance irreelevance 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    lately I've been trying to make everyone around me to be more grateful. So I can continue to take things less for granted myself by surrounding myself with those same type of...
    flamedvelvet flamedvelvet 18-21, F Jan 15

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    There are many people, in the world, that take having children for granted. Some people work and work and still have no biological children. I have experience with fosters and step...
    lifelifeishard lifelifeishard 46-50, M 6 days ago

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    That's how it happens. Some version of that story is true for almost every homeless person out there. It happens because of not being loved. Because of not having supportive...
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    Enlighten your days with these 7 cultural concepts we don't have in the US--by Starre Varten on the Mother Nature Network. "If you want to add a new and different perspective to...
    Aimee17 Aimee17 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 6

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    Well I haven't been on here in a while and a lot has changed. One thing that hasn't changed is my interest in older men ;) About a month ago I met this guy...I'm 17 and he's 33...
    needtotellnow needtotellnow 16-17, F Dec 26, 2014

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    I happened upon this site by accident. Actually, I don't believe in accidents. I'm usually so turned off from these forums due to trolls. However, I've been pleasantly...
    mostdaysaregood mostdaysaregood 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Do you really need to loose weight? Your problem may be your mind and not your body. I remember always feeling “fat” in high school. I hated my body so much that I ran cross...
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    I know this will be somewhat long but please read & in advance I would like to express my gratitude for taking to your time to read this. :) So lets rewind back when I was 13. I...
    HauntedShadows HauntedShadows 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 14