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I Think I Need to Learn Not to Care So Much

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 252 People

    It Sucks To Have Such A Big Heart

    I want to learn how not to love so deeply, how not to care so deeply. I think often times your taken advantage of. when your happiness solely depends on the one person who you are truly in-love with. I want to be able to be happy with myself, have fun with myself, let whoever I'm...
    idontwannacare idontwannacare 22-25 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Hate Caring

    I used to party, smoke, drink and have a good time. Whatever a good time is to you. I never really cared that much about girlfriends either, if we broke up it was whatever.. Well after a while, I quit drinking and smoking and partying this past summer and I don't know why. I...
    Dlcook Dlcook 18-21 1 Response May 2, 2013

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    No Too Sure If That Would Be a Good Thing

     Caring means you connect.  It hurts sometimes because a little bit of you is involved.  Not caring means never being happy or sad.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 1 Response Oct 11, 2008

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    My weakness........My nature i.

    e caring,sensitive,touchy n worrying fr all.....i guess its enough n um done with it i should move on......i m so stupid i get attached to people so much that i care n worry fr them as a babysitter n forget my life n my chores.....get involved n involved until i find myself...
    Mughee Mughee 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Need Help

    I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm in a relationship and am so in love with my boyfriend. I do everything I can to show him how much I love him and how much I care about it, but none of that seems to make him show any more emotion towards me. I know he loves...
    Kevin511 Kevin511 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    I Feel No Gratitude

     Resentment is the feeling of anger or slight towards someone when you feel as though they have wronged you, or in my case shown no gratitude of any kind.             I didn’t sleep at all last night, and I was reminiscing on all my friendships and failings from...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M Mar 23, 2011

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    I Always End Up With the Short Piece of the Straw!!!

    I am trying really hard not to care at all, until i see the other person's feelings. i have gotten hurt and everytime fall for the same story and en up the one with the short straw! It's not fairytales, so i'm making it real!
    Ella06 Ella06 18-21, F Feb 4, 2008

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    Grrrr....

    I always give people 100% of me but when it comes time for them to help me they drop me, they suddenly have something more important todo. why am i surrounded with inconsiderate jerks...
    SarahBeth56 SarahBeth56 19-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

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    How To Put The Brakes On Passion?

    Why do I care so much? And how do I start stopping not caring. My whole life I have been told I’m too nice and I care too much. At the ripe age of 33 I still pounder back and forth thoughts about this. Why don’t others care as much as I do? Are most people so heartless...
    pril79 pril79 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    Honestly Why Do I Care So Much

    Really looking at my life I don't understand why I care as much as I do. Okay I am a naturally caring person. I will do anything for a friend but it always ends up me being walked on and upset. There has been a saying that people always tell me and I hate it. My friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 17, 2011

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    It's not so much "I think" it's more "I NEED to

    learn not to care so much. I always end up being the one hurt, and the fact that most people don't know how I feel makes it worse. But I highly doubt this characteristic won't change, it's just who I am. If I became desensitized I just wouldn't be me anymore...
    lifesize lifesize 22-25, F Apr 14

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    The Downside To A Great Heart

    The one downside/negative part to being the type of person who devotes his heart almost entirely to befriending, helping and loving others...is that while the Positive is magnified by my effort, the Negative will recoil MUCH harder to me: Meaning that I take insults and being...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

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    Dang It Swore I Wasn't Going to Care Anymore

    I don't know WHY I am the way I am. I have always felt responsibility for things & people that I shouldn't. Because I was the youngest and no longer married I took the responsibility for taking care of Momma and Daddy. That I am proud of. But it seems the MORE you do . The...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    But.

    I like doing that. :( It puts my heart at risk by me getting hurt in return. But I can't change myself. But, yeah i know I need to learn not to care so much. But how much is ''so much" anyway?
    bluie19 bluie19 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2011

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    I Need To Learn Not To Care About It That Much

    Yes I think I need to lear not to care about it that much and yes I like you but guess u don't feel the same way to me. It's okay I'm fine w/ that since there's nothing I can do. But I really really really really don't like this, I don't like things to influence my emotion...
    TaiwanSag TaiwanSag 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    One of Those Groups...

    ...where I thought: YES! SURE! How could I not think of that before? That's the one thing I have to learn immediately! Because it kills me. I can be completely happy and then suddenly I see something, hear one word, someone tells me a story and I fall into a hole of depression...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2008

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    My Weakness

    My biggest weakness is that I care too much. I always get to attached to people. Even people I have just met. Then I am devastated when they reject me. I'm trying to train myself to keep people at a certain distance at least for a while to protect myself. I'm tired of getting my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Jun 20, 2011

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    DefiantRed DefiantRed 70+ Jul 13, 2010

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    Ya Think?

    Life could be so much easier... if I would just learn not to invest 150% of myself in everything I do... in everyone around me... if I could just learn how to blow things off as easily as those around me do... wow.  How freeing would that be? But when I do that--when I hold...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Today Especially :(

    I really wish I could internalize more than I do. I manage to hold it together MOST of the time but today has been a complete failure. I've been on the verge of tears at work and now I'm on my break and I can't stop crying. I really need to stop caring when he says hurtful things...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    I Started Caring to Much

    i ve always cared about others think its not that im not confident its just sence i was small i 've always wanted and felt good about making others happy.As i got older i started realizing that my choices did not satisfy everyone and i though i was over it but apparently im not...
    Sicka22 Sicka22 13-15, F Apr 2, 2009

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    Cared Too Much and Now I'm Out of a Cell Phone. Ugh.

    This is a serious problem of mine. I care so much about everyone that I do **** for people that no one else would do. I drop **** and make compromises in my life to help other people out and its only hurting me. Recently I was seeing this guy, and when his phone broke, I told him...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof 18-21, F Feb 5, 2008

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    Caring Is Just Caring..

    I think without me knowing it, i set my life for others. it used to be "if they are happy, i am happy". i dont expect anything back, oh maybe just a simple thankyou would be nice. I sacrifice my needs, trying to make others happy or at least get what they want. But i guess it's...
    kwonjae kwonjae 18-21 Jun 19, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I wanted you to give me answers. I needed them, and I was expecting the worst. Maybe knowing the truth will make it better but you didn't give them to me, not even an explanation...
    introvert93 introvert93 18-21, F Sep 22

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    When I was younger my home environment wasn't the best, and I thought I knew everything that I wouldn't end up in the same scenario. In fact I did start of differently I had a "I...
    lilygeorge12 lilygeorge12 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    I think we assume things that aren't even true about others. Instead of communicating to that person our thoughts, we immediately assume the worst or we only see what we want to...
    sweetaura sweetaura 26-30 2 Responses Sep 28

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    I just think that most people keep lying to themselves by thinking they care about others or that others care about them. I know it sounds like a depressing thought but that's just...
    almajedj almajedj 18-21, M 23 hrs ago

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    I just don't care anymore. Sick of dating guys who don't know what they want. Sick of the effort I put into it. Constantly having to beg for communication but the only time I got...
    IceyNoEmber IceyNoEmber 16-17, F Sep 29

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    I don't know what to do anymore. I miss her so much. I just... I need to be at peace. She was -- is my moon. I talk to the night sky whenever it is bright and I cry to the moon...
    welcometomysociety welcometomysociety 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 30

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    I know no one does. No one that knows me cares. The only people that comment on this are going to be complete strangers, which is so sweet of them. Unfortunately, my own boyfriend...
    chuhulil chuhulil 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Oh yes, it's a necessary evil and all that, a tool to acquire the things you want, but it dominates us. The environment would be cleaned up but for the fact they don't see the...
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I don't want money I want to go on adventures not be stuck at a bummy job that just gets in the way
    mrloweco mrloweco 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's really surprising and disturbing the things people do to acquire more and more money; even at the expense of others.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Just look at the water crisis. The one British documentary star who was killed by a hired gun that some water company hired because she belittles them for ruining a country in...
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    Out of All My Closest High School Friends... I only stayed in touch with two of them after high school. There are a few others I still talk to from time to time & I'm talking...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 30

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    If i ever disappear only my younger daughter will miss me and i cant do that to her apparently just yet i guess my depression peaks and i feel bad for both of us i want to run away...
    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 20

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    It's gone backwards quite well though, perhaps that counts. It's movement at least. The direction is all that is debatable. The old Greeks said that the original men were close to...
    dontcareforlabels dontcareforlabels 41-45, M Sep 23

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    After you stop giving a f and just calm down and do everything calmly life's a lot more fun. Just chill out and laugh. Whenever I'm stoned everything is just great.
    Makavelli824 Makavelli824 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    I need to rant. I have had so many worries and stressful thoughts going through my head and I need to let them out. It's going to be long and probably annoying and depressing so I...
    linkingold linkingold 18-21, F Sep 30

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    I need to learn to let go of my ex. Sorry my story is going to be long.. need to get it out there. Me and my ex were dating for 7 years. We started dating when I was 18 and now...
    ellekay27 ellekay27 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    I have no energy left to fight my fears and insecurities. I know people would probably laugh a 24-year-old who acts like a kid and is miserable. Who'd want to be near me, right...
    Concerto Concerto 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 3

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    I am sure many of you have leaned a plethora of life lessons, so I am not reinventing the wheel here, but I find it more curious that some people seem to inately know how to live...
    chatty1962 chatty1962 51-55, F Oct 6

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    The very fact we human beings have an inate capability to adapt also tells us that we can learn new things. For some it's quicker while some of us struggle yet we're able. I look...
    ira01 ira01 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 11

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    I've been a carer for my mum since last year November (2013). She was diagnosed with post traumatic disorder and chronic depression. My mum had a child marriage and suffered...
    lon12 lon12 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    I love to learn and I think I live to learn. I want to learn as much as possible and never stop researching things, checking facts and stats. I like learning new skills and...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    I was in therapy for many years in junior high and high school. I had some serious issues around isolation and loneliness. I was depressed, horribly bullied, and miserable. Fat and...
    incorporealist incorporealist 36-40, M Sep 28

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    So, I finally made my move yesterday. I went up to my shy timid crush and asked him if he wanted to eat lunch with us at our table. He said sure where is the table I said the front...
    Vampireloveless Vampireloveless 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 25

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    Laurenazrj90 Laurenazrj90 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 1

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    I have been taking Chemistry and physiology via coursera.org It is a website that offers free college courses. You don't get credit that would transfer to a college, but for some...
    BustingFree BustingFree 26-30, F Oct 5

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