I Think I Need to Learn Not to Care So Much

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 471 People

    It's not so much "I think" it's more "I NEED to

    learn not to care so much. I always end up being the one hurt, and the fact that most people don't know how I feel makes it worse. But I highly doubt this characteristic won't change, it's just who I am. If I became desensitized I just wouldn't be me anymore...
    lifesize lifesize
    22-25, F
    Apr 14, 2014

    How To Put The Brakes On Passion?

    Why do I care so much? And how do I start stopping not caring. My whole life I have been told I’m too nice and I care too much. At the ripe age of 33 I still pounder back and forth thoughts about this. Why don’t others care as much as I do? Are most people so heartless...
    pril79 pril79
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 21, 2012

    Caring Is Just Caring..

    I think without me knowing it, i set my life for others. it used to be "if they are happy, i am happy". i dont expect anything back, oh maybe just a simple thankyou would be nice. I sacrifice my needs, trying to make others happy or at least get what they want. But i guess it's...
    kwonjae kwonjae
    Jun 19, 2011

    It Sucks To Have Such A Big Heart

    I want to learn how not to love so deeply, how not to care so deeply. I think often times your taken advantage of. when your happiness solely depends on the one person who you are truly in-love with. I want to be able to be happy with myself, have fun with myself, let whoever I'm...
    idontwannacare idontwannacare
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

    Even though you never cared.

    . I still love you and miss you baby girl
    Softballplayer101 Softballplayer101
    18-21, F
    Oct 10, 2015

    Dang It Swore I Wasn't Going to Care Anymore

    I don't know WHY I am the way I am. I have always felt responsibility for things & people that I shouldn't. Because I was the youngest and no longer married I took the responsibility for taking care of Momma and Daddy. That I am proud of. But it seems the MORE you do . The...
    mommatrish mommatrish
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

    This has been my first foray into this sort of

    online world. I now see that many people do not value their relationships online as they might the relationships they have with those face to face in the everyday world. For me, online relationships are just as much effort, work, patience, fun, honesty, understanding, etc. as i...
    netherose netherose
    51-55, F
    3 Responses May 18, 2015


    I like doing that. :( It puts my heart at risk by me getting hurt in return. But I can't change myself. But, yeah i know I need to learn not to care so much. But how much is ''so much" anyway?
    bluie19 bluie19
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 21, 2011

    Slowly, but steadily,

    I am working on leaving my so-called 2 friends. They are nice, we do get along quite well. but it's not about them, it's about me. they do not deserve such a jerk (me) to be their friend, that's it. and I'm too tired and bored to improve myself in order to behave nicely. I swear...
    WitheredMind WitheredMind
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2015

    The Downside To A Great Heart

    The one downside/negative part to being the type of person who devotes his heart almost entirely to befriending, helping and loving others...is that while the Positive is magnified by my effort, the Negative will recoil MUCH harder to me: Meaning that I take insults and being...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

    Today Especially :(

    I really wish I could internalize more than I do. I manage to hold it together MOST of the time but today has been a complete failure. I've been on the verge of tears at work and now I'm on my break and I can't stop crying. I really need to stop caring when he says hurtful things...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 28, 2011

    I Need Help

    I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm in a relationship and am so in love with my boyfriend. I do everything I can to show him how much I love him and how much I care about it, but none of that seems to make him show any more emotion towards me. I know he loves...
    Kevin511 Kevin511
    18-21, M
    1 Response Aug 12, 2009

    I was just responding to friends message.

    By the time I sent it they had deleted their account. I hate this. Why does it always make me sad when someone I talk to for several months deletes their account without a good bye. I really should be used to it by now.
    netherose netherose
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Feb 16, 2016


    I always give people 100% of me but when it comes time for them to help me they drop me, they suddenly have something more important todo. why am i surrounded with inconsiderate jerks...
    SarahBeth56 SarahBeth56
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

    Cared Too Much and Now I'm Out of a Cell Phone. Ugh.

    This is a serious problem of mine. I care so much about everyone that I do **** for people that no one else would do. I drop **** and make compromises in my life to help other people out and its only hurting me. Recently I was seeing this guy, and when his phone broke, I told him...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof
    18-21, F
    Feb 5, 2008
    DefiantRed DefiantRed
    Jul 13, 2010

    Ya Think?

    Life could be so much easier... if I would just learn not to invest 150% of myself in everything I do... in everyone around me... if I could just learn how to blow things off as easily as those around me do... wow.  How freeing would that be? But when I do that--when I hold...
    dyin2live dyin2live
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Aug 10, 2008

    I Need To Learn Not To Care About It That Much

    Yes I think I need to lear not to care about it that much and yes I like you but guess u don't feel the same way to me. It's okay I'm fine w/ that since there's nothing I can do. But I really really really really don't like this, I don't like things to influence my emotion...
    TaiwanSag TaiwanSag
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 13, 2012

    One of Those Groups...

    ...where I thought: YES! SURE! How could I not think of that before? That's the one thing I have to learn immediately! Because it kills me. I can be completely happy and then suddenly I see something, hear one word, someone tells me a story and I fall into a hole of depression...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 4, 2008

    I Started Caring to Much

    i ve always cared about others think its not that im not confident its just sence i was small i 've always wanted and felt good about making others happy.As i got older i started realizing that my choices did not satisfy everyone and i though i was over it but apparently im not...
    Sicka22 Sicka22
    13-15, F
    Apr 2, 2009

    I Always End Up With the Short Piece of the Straw!!!

    I am trying really hard not to care at all, until i see the other person's feelings. i have gotten hurt and everytime fall for the same story and en up the one with the short straw! It's not fairytales, so i'm making it real!
    Ella06 Ella06
    18-21, F
    Feb 4, 2008

    My weakness........My nature i.

    e caring,sensitive,touchy n worrying fr all.....i guess its enough n um done with it i should move on......i m so stupid i get attached to people so much that i care n worry fr them as a babysitter n forget my life n my chores.....get involved n involved until i find myself...
    Mughee Mughee
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Oct 14, 2014

    My Weakness

    My biggest weakness is that I care too much. I always get to attached to people. Even people I have just met. Then I am devastated when they reject me. I'm trying to train myself to keep people at a certain distance at least for a while to protect myself. I'm tired of getting my...
    howsab howsab
    31-35, F
    Jun 20, 2011

    Hate Caring

    I used to party, smoke, drink and have a good time. Whatever a good time is to you. I never really cared that much about girlfriends either, if we broke up it was whatever.. Well after a while, I quit drinking and smoking and partying this past summer and I don't know why. I...
    Dlcook Dlcook
    1 Response May 2, 2013

    Honestly Why Do I Care So Much

    Really looking at my life I don't understand why I care as much as I do. Okay I am a naturally caring person. I will do anything for a friend but it always ends up me being walked on and upset. There has been a saying that people always tell me and I hate it. My friends...
    deleted deleted
    Oct 17, 2011

    I Feel No Gratitude

     Resentment is the feeling of anger or slight towards someone when you feel as though they have wronged you, or in my case shown no gratitude of any kind.             I didn’t sleep at all last night, and I was reminiscing on all my friendships and failings from...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus
    22-25, M
    Mar 23, 2011
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