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I Think I Need to Learn Not to Care So Much

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    Honestly Why Do I Care So Much

    Really looking at my life I don't understand why I care as much as I do. Okay I am a naturally caring person. I will do anything for a friend but it always ends up me being walked on and upset. There has been a saying that people always tell me and I hate it. My friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 17, 2011

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    DefiantRed DefiantRed 70+ Jul 13, 2010

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    How To Put The Brakes On Passion?

    Why do I care so much? And how do I start stopping not caring. My whole life I have been told I’m too nice and I care too much. At the ripe age of 33 I still pounder back and forth thoughts about this. Why don’t others care as much as I do? Are most people so heartless...
    pril79 pril79 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    No Too Sure If That Would Be a Good Thing

     Caring means you connect.  It hurts sometimes because a little bit of you is involved.  Not caring means never being happy or sad.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 1 Response Oct 11, 2008

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    I Feel No Gratitude

     Resentment is the feeling of anger or slight towards someone when you feel as though they have wronged you, or in my case shown no gratitude of any kind.             I didn’t sleep at all last night, and I was reminiscing on all my friendships and failings from...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M Mar 23, 2011

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    Today Especially :(

    I really wish I could internalize more than I do. I manage to hold it together MOST of the time but today has been a complete failure. I've been on the verge of tears at work and now I'm on my break and I can't stop crying. I really need to stop caring when he says hurtful things...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    I Need Help

    I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm in a relationship and am so in love with my boyfriend. I do everything I can to show him how much I love him and how much I care about it, but none of that seems to make him show any more emotion towards me. I know he loves...
    Kevin511 Kevin511 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    Caring Is Just Caring..

    I think without me knowing it, i set my life for others. it used to be "if they are happy, i am happy". i dont expect anything back, oh maybe just a simple thankyou would be nice. I sacrifice my needs, trying to make others happy or at least get what they want. But i guess it's...
    kwonjae kwonjae 18-21 Jun 19, 2011

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    One of Those Groups...

    ...where I thought: YES! SURE! How could I not think of that before? That's the one thing I have to learn immediately! Because it kills me. I can be completely happy and then suddenly I see something, hear one word, someone tells me a story and I fall into a hole of depression...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2008

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    It Sucks To Have Such A Big Heart

    I want to learn how not to love so deeply, how not to care so deeply. I think often times your taken advantage of. when your happiness solely depends on the one person who you are truly in-love with. I want to be able to be happy with myself, have fun with myself, let whoever I'm...
    idontwannacare idontwannacare 22-25 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    But.

    I like doing that. :( It puts my heart at risk by me getting hurt in return. But I can't change myself. But, yeah i know I need to learn not to care so much. But how much is ''so much" anyway?
    bluie19 bluie19 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2011

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    Grrrr....

    I always give people 100% of me but when it comes time for them to help me they drop me, they suddenly have something more important todo. why am i surrounded with inconsiderate jerks...
    SarahBeth56 SarahBeth56 19-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

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    The Downside To A Great Heart

    The one downside/negative part to being the type of person who devotes his heart almost entirely to befriending, helping and loving others...is that while the Positive is magnified by my effort, the Negative will recoil MUCH harder to me: Meaning that I take insults and being...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

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    I Need To Learn Not To Care About It That Much

    Yes I think I need to lear not to care about it that much and yes I like you but guess u don't feel the same way to me. It's okay I'm fine w/ that since there's nothing I can do. But I really really really really don't like this, I don't like things to influence my emotion...
    TaiwanSag TaiwanSag 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    It's not so much "I think" it's more "I NEED to

    learn not to care so much. I always end up being the one hurt, and the fact that most people don't know how I feel makes it worse. But I highly doubt this characteristic won't change, it's just who I am. If I became desensitized I just wouldn't be me anymore...
    lifesize lifesize 18-21, F Apr 14

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    I Started Caring to Much

    i ve always cared about others think its not that im not confident its just sence i was small i 've always wanted and felt good about making others happy.As i got older i started realizing that my choices did not satisfy everyone and i though i was over it but apparently im not...
    Sicka22 Sicka22 13-15, F Apr 2, 2009

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    My Weakness

    My biggest weakness is that I care too much. I always get to attached to people. Even people I have just met. Then I am devastated when they reject me. I'm trying to train myself to keep people at a certain distance at least for a while to protect myself. I'm tired of getting my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Jun 20, 2011

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    Ya Think?

    Life could be so much easier... if I would just learn not to invest 150% of myself in everything I do... in everyone around me... if I could just learn how to blow things off as easily as those around me do... wow.  How freeing would that be? But when I do that--when I hold...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Cared Too Much and Now I'm Out of a Cell Phone. Ugh.

    This is a serious problem of mine. I care so much about everyone that I do **** for people that no one else would do. I drop **** and make compromises in my life to help other people out and its only hurting me. Recently I was seeing this guy, and when his phone broke, I told him...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof 18-21, F Feb 5, 2008

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    Hate Caring

    I used to party, smoke, drink and have a good time. Whatever a good time is to you. I never really cared that much about girlfriends either, if we broke up it was whatever.. Well after a while, I quit drinking and smoking and partying this past summer and I don't know why. I...
    Dlcook Dlcook 18-21 1 Response May 2, 2013

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    Dang It Swore I Wasn't Going to Care Anymore

    I don't know WHY I am the way I am. I have always felt responsibility for things & people that I shouldn't. Because I was the youngest and no longer married I took the responsibility for taking care of Momma and Daddy. That I am proud of. But it seems the MORE you do . The...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    I Always End Up With the Short Piece of the Straw!!!

    I am trying really hard not to care at all, until i see the other person's feelings. i have gotten hurt and everytime fall for the same story and en up the one with the short straw! It's not fairytales, so i'm making it real!
    Ella06 Ella06 18-21, F Feb 4, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    I have been diagnosed with P.T.S.D., depression, bi-polar, catarracts, chronic pain, asthma, etc. I need a caregiver. I can't make a doctor's appointment because I don't have...
    SorrowofHeart SorrowofHeart 51-55, F Sep 8

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    No, you'll never realise. I keep the pain under lock and key. You'll never know how much your words have scarred me. I'll put up with the pain so you can be happy. I'll pretend it...
    OsyriaRose OsyriaRose 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    If only you cared, then you might understand. Sadly, that isn't what usually happens. No one usually cares. I end up lost and scared. I end up closing everyone out. Why would I...
    OsyriaRose OsyriaRose 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 6

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    It seems to be true, in my case (which is as follows): 6 days ago I just stopped posting, updating, what ever you want to call it, just so I could have time to yourself, which is...
    PoeticMute PoeticMute 31-35, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    sometimes I feel like I've already disappeared . Im this invisible girl who never leaves her room. im home-schooled and I never leave the house so basically nobody knows who I am...
    silentgirl1234 silentgirl1234 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    I just want all this hurting to stop :( how does my ex move on so fast whilst I constantly want to talk to her and be with her and comfort her :( I know they say if you love...
    leeroy100 leeroy100 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I haven't fully recovered from the last breakup and now I got hurt by another guy again. Thank you, I don't trust guys anymore. I think I'm gonna become a nun now
    Kywen97 Kywen97 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Think before you speak , because somethings you say to people can hurt for them
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Aug 31

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    Dated a guy for 3 years, we got married, divorced continued together, got pregnant, lost baby. We fought often, he called me names, hit me, slapped me,chocked me in a few ocassions...
    Rosy345 Rosy345 26-30 1 Response Sep 1

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    I just realized I work 100 hours weekly!! I think that could be illegal in some parts of the world.
    elpsy elpsy 26-30, M Sep 1

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    I wouldn't know cause it is my job is something some would call easy and I suppose on the body yes but mentally it's tiring having to deal with 8 hours of complains, specifics...
    alohacruz alohacruz 16-17, F Sep 4

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    If i ever disappear only my younger daughter will miss me and i cant do that to her apparently just yet i guess my depression peaks and i feel bad for both of us i want to run away...
    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel mentally I am a nymphomaniac but I doubt I would actually act upon these thoughts unless I had some one who could be open minded to it and could actually be willing to...
    zaynisbae zaynisbae 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 29

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    That feel when someone hurts you with the words he or she says, but you don't want to tell it does.
    dropdeadwilma dropdeadwilma 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Going backwards instead of foreword
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    I've noticed that I don't sing around you because I'm not happy enough
    princessjasmne princessjasmne 18-21, F Sep 2

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    I want to believe that the same battles I have in my head are shared experiences everyone was. But man do I feel really ****** up sometimes.
    Wonderinsoul Wonderinsoul 22-25, M Sep 3

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    Yea they do, I mean a little is okay to highlight your natural looks. Most young and older females go overboard with it. Like a bondo job at a body shop!
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    I'm at a very weird and scary but exciting & hopeful point in my life where I need to completely shed everything old and jump into something completely new. If I don't it will be...
    SirenaVonLee SirenaVonLee 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Hey everyone I hope you all are doing great unfortunately I'm not. I hate myself to the millionth degree. I can never escape my unhappiness. Even when I'm happy, sadness is inside...
    BrokenPromises14 BrokenPromises14 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    The greatest lesson in life....is to love and be loved in return. But apart from it, I also learn another thing this year. I learn that there is such thing as soul mate in this...
    maryjaneb maryjaneb 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 12

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    It is likely not astonishing to individuals that know her, but vital people in equally publications ended up resilient and overcame difficulties.Supply learners with chapter...
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    It hurts me to even write this it makes me cry to even think about it. So I've been speaking to this boy for like a year and a half now and he's just amazing we FaceTime a lot we...
    DemiendoImaginations DemiendoImaginations 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    I'm usually a quiet shy kid. I have my one solid group of friends I open up around, but other than that I am silent. I never try dating anymore. I dated a girl almost a year and...
    omgshiny omgshiny 13-15, M 2 Responses Sep 9

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    My name is Aariah and I really believe that my mom hates me. Like she is really mean to for no reason... I do above and beyond to try and help her and help take care of my sisters...
    HellaaLoyaal17 HellaaLoyaal17 18-21 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Is he a bad person? Was it my fault? Did he stop loving me? Should i be smarter to keep him? Did he ever care? Did i love him more than he deserves? Did he mean to hurt me? Am i...
    dipressedban dipressedban 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've know this girl for a while now, but this is really puzzling me. So i met her a few years back, first time i saw her i knew i'd be her friend, although i hated her a lot and...
    lxathing lxathing 13-15, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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