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I Think I Need to Learn Not to Care So Much

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 320 People

    I Need Help

    I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm in a relationship and am so in love with my boyfriend. I do everything I can to show him how much I love him and how much I care about it, but none of that seems to make him show any more emotion towards me. I know he loves...
    Kevin511 Kevin511 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2009

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    My weakness........My nature i.

    e caring,sensitive,touchy n worrying fr all.....i guess its enough n um done with it i should move on......i m so stupid i get attached to people so much that i care n worry fr them as a babysitter n forget my life n my chores.....get involved n involved until i find myself...
    Mughee Mughee 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 14, 2014

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    How To Put The Brakes On Passion?

    Why do I care so much? And how do I start stopping not caring. My whole life I have been told I’m too nice and I care too much. At the ripe age of 33 I still pounder back and forth thoughts about this. Why don’t others care as much as I do? Are most people so heartless...
    pril79 pril79 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2012

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    My Weakness

    My biggest weakness is that I care too much. I always get to attached to people. Even people I have just met. Then I am devastated when they reject me. I'm trying to train myself to keep people at a certain distance at least for a while to protect myself. I'm tired of getting my...
    howsab howsab 31-35, F Jun 20, 2011

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    But.

    I like doing that. :( It puts my heart at risk by me getting hurt in return. But I can't change myself. But, yeah i know I need to learn not to care so much. But how much is ''so much" anyway?
    bluie19 bluie19 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2011

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    I Always End Up With the Short Piece of the Straw!!!

    I am trying really hard not to care at all, until i see the other person's feelings. i have gotten hurt and everytime fall for the same story and en up the one with the short straw! It's not fairytales, so i'm making it real!
    Ella06 Ella06 18-21, F Feb 4, 2008

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    Cared Too Much and Now I'm Out of a Cell Phone. Ugh.

    This is a serious problem of mine. I care so much about everyone that I do **** for people that no one else would do. I drop **** and make compromises in my life to help other people out and its only hurting me. Recently I was seeing this guy, and when his phone broke, I told him...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof 18-21, F Feb 5, 2008

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    Today Especially :(

    I really wish I could internalize more than I do. I manage to hold it together MOST of the time but today has been a complete failure. I've been on the verge of tears at work and now I'm on my break and I can't stop crying. I really need to stop caring when he says hurtful things...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 28, 2011

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    It's not so much "I think" it's more "I NEED to

    learn not to care so much. I always end up being the one hurt, and the fact that most people don't know how I feel makes it worse. But I highly doubt this characteristic won't change, it's just who I am. If I became desensitized I just wouldn't be me anymore...
    lifesize lifesize 22-25, F Apr 14, 2014

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    This has been my first foray into this sort of

    online world. I now see that many people do not value their relationships online as they might the relationships they have with those face to face in the everyday world. For me, online relationships are just as much effort, work, patience, fun, honesty, understanding, etc. as i...
    Etheros Etheros 46-50, F 3 Responses May 18

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    I Need To Learn Not To Care About It That Much

    Yes I think I need to lear not to care about it that much and yes I like you but guess u don't feel the same way to me. It's okay I'm fine w/ that since there's nothing I can do. But I really really really really don't like this, I don't like things to influence my emotion...
    TaiwanSag TaiwanSag 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 13, 2012

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    Grrrr....

    I always give people 100% of me but when it comes time for them to help me they drop me, they suddenly have something more important todo. why am i surrounded with inconsiderate jerks...
    SarahBeth56 SarahBeth56 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

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    I Started Caring to Much

    i ve always cared about others think its not that im not confident its just sence i was small i 've always wanted and felt good about making others happy.As i got older i started realizing that my choices did not satisfy everyone and i though i was over it but apparently im not...
    Sicka22 Sicka22 13-15, F Apr 2, 2009

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    Dang It Swore I Wasn't Going to Care Anymore

    I don't know WHY I am the way I am. I have always felt responsibility for things & people that I shouldn't. Because I was the youngest and no longer married I took the responsibility for taking care of Momma and Daddy. That I am proud of. But it seems the MORE you do . The...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 21, 2008

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    Caring Is Just Caring..

    I think without me knowing it, i set my life for others. it used to be "if they are happy, i am happy". i dont expect anything back, oh maybe just a simple thankyou would be nice. I sacrifice my needs, trying to make others happy or at least get what they want. But i guess it's...
    kwonjae kwonjae 18-21 Jun 19, 2011

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    I Feel No Gratitude

     Resentment is the feeling of anger or slight towards someone when you feel as though they have wronged you, or in my case shown no gratitude of any kind.             I didn’t sleep at all last night, and I was reminiscing on all my friendships and failings from...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M Mar 23, 2011

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    Ya Think?

    Life could be so much easier... if I would just learn not to invest 150% of myself in everything I do... in everyone around me... if I could just learn how to blow things off as easily as those around me do... wow.  How freeing would that be? But when I do that--when I hold...
    dyin2live dyin2live 31-35, F 13 Responses Aug 10, 2008

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    Hate Caring

    I used to party, smoke, drink and have a good time. Whatever a good time is to you. I never really cared that much about girlfriends either, if we broke up it was whatever.. Well after a while, I quit drinking and smoking and partying this past summer and I don't know why. I...
    Dlcook Dlcook 18-21 1 Response May 2, 2013

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    The Downside To A Great Heart

    The one downside/negative part to being the type of person who devotes his heart almost entirely to befriending, helping and loving others...is that while the Positive is magnified by my effort, the Negative will recoil MUCH harder to me: Meaning that I take insults and being...
    InfiniteArgus InfiniteArgus 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 10, 2010

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    One of Those Groups...

    ...where I thought: YES! SURE! How could I not think of that before? That's the one thing I have to learn immediately! Because it kills me. I can be completely happy and then suddenly I see something, hear one word, someone tells me a story and I fall into a hole of depression...
    GothGrrrl GothGrrrl 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2008

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    It Sucks To Have Such A Big Heart

    I want to learn how not to love so deeply, how not to care so deeply. I think often times your taken advantage of. when your happiness solely depends on the one person who you are truly in-love with. I want to be able to be happy with myself, have fun with myself, let whoever I'm...
    idontwannacare idontwannacare 22-25 2 Responses Aug 30, 2011

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    Honestly Why Do I Care So Much

    Really looking at my life I don't understand why I care as much as I do. Okay I am a naturally caring person. I will do anything for a friend but it always ends up me being walked on and upset. There has been a saying that people always tell me and I hate it. My friends...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 17, 2011

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    DefiantRed DefiantRed 66-70 Jul 13, 2010

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    Money....Money....Money! Great song! But I digress... money is the root of all evil: of that, I am certain. I have never had more than I needed nor have I desired more than I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 14

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    why do people care about making money so much? i always think relations are more important.
    rameenshahidd rameenshahidd 16-17, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Money IS NOT the root to all evil. That's a stupid thing to say. The LOVE OF money is the root to all evil. It's funny how people are so adamant about quoting "what they read in...
    UnawakenedSoul UnawakenedSoul 22-25, F 4 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    What about friends? about Family? About having fun? Money is of course important but it is not everything and you can't buy everythinng you really need in life.
    Julia1600 Julia1600 16-17, F 2 Responses May 24

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    I didn't have much money growing up, but there was love all around my extended family. When I first got married we could barely rub two pennies together, but we were happy figuring...
    HardTimesGuy HardTimesGuy 61-65, M 3 days ago

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    my bf has a pof account, he told me he never use it, he didn't know the password so I thought I'd delete it for him and when I wet on there he had been talking to girls up till 5...
    JazzyJazzy90 JazzyJazzy90 22-25, F 1 Response May 7

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    Yes I loved you,YOU have forever touched my heart ;you ran behind a dumbass ,she might be beauiful,cool but she cant be me.. I hope yu will understand someday how much I loved you...
    alekya99 alekya99 16-17, F 1 Response May 20

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    Many people have acquired an unquenchable thirst for money and power. This is now a world that revolves around greed and materialism. We're basically living a life similar to that...
    ThatOneGemini ThatOneGemini 16-17, F 1 Response May 15

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    "Poverty is not an accident. Like slavery and apartheid, it is man-made and can be removed by the actions of human beings
    jkondar jkondar 26-30, M 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I am smiling on the outside, and dying in the inside.
    Sylvia79 Sylvia79 36-40, F May 16

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    Sitting outside in the semi-sunshine, minding my own business, when all of a sudden there is a tirade of F bombs. So far, I believe they've managed to make a string of four. I've...
    SecondHearts3 SecondHearts3 18-21, F 3 Responses May 25

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    Sexaul attraction is not always physical to me. I find it more to be a mental thing, if someone is good in the mind as they are in the bedroom(or wherever you choose to have sex...
    Traveller96 Traveller96 18-21, F 3 Responses May 24

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    I was diagnosed with DDNOS...this is my experience of it and my parts. EMOTIONAL PARTS: Emil: Age-13-17. Male? Skinny (possibly anorexic tendencies). Brown hair, emo style-short...
    TheCynicalOne TheCynicalOne 22-25, F May 13

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    my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months, and i just really need some help on what to do as i've been thinking about it so much lately. back in march i found things on...
    aaliyah104 aaliyah104 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Friendship to relationship advice needed! I've know this guy Morgan since I was in 4th grade. He's 2 years older than me and he's good friends with my brother. I'm 16 and he's...
    Tabithaaa Tabithaaa 16-17, F 1 Response May 23

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    Okay so this is kind of a question, I'm a 20 something year old woman, the guy in question is also in his 20s. I met this guy over Xbox live. Well him and two other people he was...
    AriumBlack22 AriumBlack22 22-25, F 1 Response May 4

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    They see a innocent kid try to learn as much as he can for a career, but really I'm just trying to figure out if the human race is worth conquering.
    InvaderVexis InvaderVexis 18-21, T May 7

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    From what I hear, I used to be that child that would wake up at any part of the day at any given moment with the biggest smile on my face. sadly, I dont remember that. all I...
    MemoToSelf MemoToSelf 16-17, F May 11

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    When you were in front of me in flesh I never understood you and your actions as you never spoke your feelings out loud and you did all the things that are wrong and selfish. I...
    Trappedself Trappedself 22-25, F 1 Response May 9

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    My college tutor is starting to **** me off. I'm meant to be doing a sponsored walk right now but as we were waiting for everyone to arrive my tutor comes in and asks me who I'm...
    jolley2k jolley2k 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I think the word for that is sapiosexual... Not sure I like the word, I'm not even sure it describes me best. All I know is that I'm different than most people. And that it makes...
    laleee laleee 31-35, F 9 Responses 6 days ago