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I Think I Want a Divorce

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    I signed the last bits of paper a couple of

    weeks ago. The lawyer said "You're free." I just have to wait until a judge makes it final. I don't have to do anything else. She tried to sue me for $10,000 and $250 a month alimony for two years despite the fact that we were married for less than two years, and we have no...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M Nov 17, 2014

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    Have Been Thinking About It For Years

    Yes, it's true. I've been married 7 years and have thought of divorcing my wife for at least the last 4 years. It's just that when things are bad, they are REALLY bad. I don't blame her entirely; I admit I am partly to blame. You see, we both have bad tempers, though I think...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    I really do,because after all my efforts

    for the past 4 1/2 years ,talking ,pleading and begging for things to get better,i have to come to terms,this will not work.I try to talk to this man,and he turns the tv louder so i can't be heard.I drink wine at night,because of the pain i feel,he calls me a drunk *****,i don't...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 39 Responses Jan 27

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    We had another "talk" last night.

    It dragged on for 3 hours and nothing got accomplished. He knows I'm only staying to try and work it out because of the kids. I told him I don't know if he can ever say or do anything to make me love him the way I used to. I'm no longer loving blind and can't forget all the hurt...
    unhappilyeverafter1977 unhappilyeverafter1977 31-35, F 35 Responses Feb 20

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    How am I supposed to pick out a Valentine's Day

    card for a man I'm not sure I love anymore?
    liveandloud liveandloud 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 13

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    Old issue with us....

    .. We have fought over his binge drinking And problems that come with it... He does have mood swings and adding the booze is a Big problem. The kicker is in the early years I got apologize and flowers and he would talk... Now it turns on me that I am the problem.... That I expect...
    heyjudesmile heyjudesmile 61-65, F 4 Responses Oct 5, 2014

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    So it's been a year since I asked

    for a divorce. I guess he's trying but what if he's just not capable of meeting my needs? It's not anyone's fault but it doesn't change the fact that I'm not happy. He is. So the guilt sets in. How can I leave if I made this commitment and I'm the only one that isn't satisfied...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    but I'm scared. I tell myself

    if my life was a movie and I was the watcher then I'd tell my character to leave. I also tell myself to not let fear decide my fate... here I am stuck in fear. I have 2 boys and u want them to have a "real" man for a role model. I don't want them to be like him.
    Ssaunders95 Ssaunders95 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    I'm 38, disabled wife is 48,

    I'm emotionally divorced, lonely, poor, but have 3 kids so it's my duty to stay, but unhappily? IDK what to do!
    jgoffe10 jgoffe10 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 8

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    So....I guess I'm writing on here

    because I want a divorce and my husband doesn't. We've been together for 11 years, married for 7 and have a wonderful 6 yr old son. The problem?? My husband is a drug addict. He has been through rehab 3 times, once while we were dating and twice when we were married. His choice...
    Ultravioletgrrl Ultravioletgrrl 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2014

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    Too Good To Go Too Bad To Stay.The Most Helpful Info From This Book.

    I have nearly finished this book and followed a blog on the net which outlined the essential questions to ask yourself. I just wanted to share this blogs link and recommend that people who are struggling read buy the complete book for your own sanity to discover where you really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    I met my husband in 2009

    and he was everything I had asked for. I even wrote a letter back in 2006 describing my perfect soul mate. And to our shock, he was it. He even found himself to be a perfect match to what I asked for. Our relationship was intense. We had sex on a daily basis. And things took a...
    bettergood bettergood 36-40, F Nov 11, 2014

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    My husband and I have really grown apart over

    the past few years. We have three young children and I love them more than anything, which is the only reason I haven't left him. He was the love of my life, for many reasons, not the least of which was his honesty, sincerity, and ability to communicate and work through...
    overcome78 overcome78 36-40, F Aug 7, 2014

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    Another Pleasant Saturday Night

    So here I sit typing away on my computer as my wife sleeps. It's 10:30 but I'm sure she was asleep by 9:30. This is how our weekends go. No TV together, little talking, no companionship of any kind. The same as weeknights. I guess she is preparing for life after 70. The...
    Daddyo8910 Daddyo8910 46-50, M 23 Responses May 11, 2013

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    I'm half way out the door.

    .. We've been married for 6 and I haven't been faithful at all .... At first it was a quiet mistress where we only had encounters every 4-6 months to blow off the steam ... The last year, I've been dating this other woman who now, I can say I'm in love with. It's come to the...
    mechs mechs 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    My wife keeps making my boys from first

    marriage feel like an inconvenience. We're suppose to have family from both sides over for thanksgiving and she told me not to let my oldest stay over cause she doesn't trust he won't try and have sex with his gf. She tried ever other excuse earlier
    azcat6969 azcat6969 41-45, M 4 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Cut To The Chase

    It's great to have a platform to vent, but how about a succinct and straighforward checklist if you will, from those that graduated from (1) "I think I want..." to (2) "I know I want..." to (3) "I got a divorce"? It would be awesome. I am new to this group. I am mainly in the...
    imathinkin imathinkin 51-55, F Apr 11, 2011

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    anasteel2 anasteel2 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Definition Of Love

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. This is the definition of love given in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. My wife and marriage...
    technologic21 technologic21 31-35, M 15 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    My story started 15 years ago.

    .. Met the man of my dreams, 6 years older very handsome police lietentant. I always liked a challenge... Was a single divorced mother of two, I chased till I conquered. He never officially asked me to marry him, on Christmas 12 years ago he gave me a ring... I opened it truly...
    sunshinehunnie sunshinehunnie 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    Want to leave my husband.

    But don't know where to start. We're living in another country while he works here for the Military. Instead of going back to my home state I want to have a fresh start in a new state. The problem with this is, I have never been to this state. Not sure how living there is going...
    allibabe808 allibabe808 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    I Don't Love My Wife

    M and I have been married for more than 10 years. M is kind, shy, loving and gets along with my family. But I don't love her. For some reason, I can't. One Sunday morning in February of last year, I was frustrated and blurted out that I thought we should end the marriage. That...
    nospam nospam 36-40, M 37 Responses Jan 7, 2008

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    Nothing is changing, I'm still stuck I'm this

    rut. And he's convinced things can get better but I'm just so tired.. The thing that is so hard right now is that physical contact is such a challenge for me. He needs it, craves it, and it makes me so uncomfortable. We haven't ever had a sex life we were both happy with.. he...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response May 7, 2014

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    I'm recently married.

    My husband and I dated/lived together for 2 1/2 years and then tied the knot on Aug 1 2013. The wedding was beautiful..the honeymoon was fantastic. When we came home it was hell. We used to fight like normal people before we got married. The fighting we did after we got married...
    emilylwlr emilylwlr 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 4, 2014

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    This subject has been brought up a lot in my

    "marriage" & I've been married for nearly 19 years. The past few years our relationship has deteriorated to a point where I don't think it is even salvageable. I've always said I'm staying for my kids ( my youngest son in particular) he's 10 and I have been afraid of how a...
    Lovinu0429 Lovinu0429 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 6

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    Its strange how you go down a path

    and you think its right only to realize after 27 years, it probably wasn't the best decision. And it definitely wasn't the worst you could have made. I've been married since I was 19 coming up on 27 years and I find myself wondering every day if this is where I want to be. My...
    Losingmycompassion Losingmycompassion 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I'm Scared To Divorce And Scared Not To

    My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have two amazing sons aged 10 and 7. They are my life. My wife suffers from anxiety disorders. When she is on her medication, she is fine. The problem is that she can't be counted on to take her medication and when she doesn't she...
    ScarceGuy ScarceGuy 36-40 13 Responses Feb 2, 2012

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    We Have Been Married For Almost Two Months Now....

    ProsHe cooks, he cleans,  he brings home free food, and pays half the rent.ConsHe's a jerk.  He stares at other women.  He flirts a lot.  He does not hear me when I talk, but takes advice from other women.  He called me a bad name.  He cannot get / keep it up when we make...
    Yohanna Yohanna 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    Stressed!!!

    I have been married to my husband for alomst 4 years now. We never had sex as my husband has decrease libido and so many other health problems!!! I even tried to get pregnant through fertility treatments but all in vain... He loves me but i am not happy with him. He can not any...
    sheela87 sheela87 31-35 4 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    Divorced women: Did you have better luck with a

    male or female lawyer? Men, you can chime in, but I was trying to tailor my experience. Thanks for your help.
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    We've talked about it

    so much, he's adamantly opposed to the idea and I feel like a terrible person for thinking it. We've set an appointment with a marriage counselor, but it's a couple weeks away. I feel like I'm drowning. I find myself packing his things in my mind. Is that horrible? We've...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I am getting a divorce from a man I was with

    for 32 years. He secretly cheated on me for over 3 years and charged up credit cards with my name on them without my permission to the limit. I am trying to get over hating him. He is with his mistress now the woman who tore my family apart. She abandoned her children to live...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I do not see our situation improving & I have

    no desire to stay, even if he did change. How do you start the process? We fight constantly. "Divorce" has been thrown around in arguments frequently for a year or so. Do I talk to him first and give him fair warning? Do I just sneak behind his back & file for separation? file...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    I go back and forth on the subject.

    There's just too many factors involved. It's just not about me.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 21, 2014

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    I have been married 25 years all

    but the last 9 I was physically abused mentally abused cheated on you name it he did it. However he is a great provider, I stayed because I did not want my children growing up in a broken home. I have matured greatly, my children have left home and now everything my spouse ever...
    onejudge24 onejudge24 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    Ouch!!! It's been 22 years of torture being

    married to a man that just doesn't know how to treat a woman. Words just cannot express the pain of being tied to someone who has no respect. I'm so tired of living in this clueless man's world. Prayers and positive thoughts are all I have tonight. Tomorrow is a new day...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 4 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    Groundhog Day.....

    I've been married to L for 23 years.  We have two kids - 17 and 13.   We both work and make good money.  Neighborhood is great.  Kids are great.   And frankly, I'm the husband that many women wish they had.  Granted, that looks rather arrogant and conceited, but the...
    WallyCleaver WallyCleaver 46-50 9 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    I know in my heart I cannot go on like this.

    ..with him. I'm hesitant to walk away from the only thing I've known for the last 15 years...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 10, 2014

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    Donnacc12 Donnacc12 26-30, F Dec 3, 2014

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    I have a husband who doesn't take care of

    himself or our family. I am currently medically disabled from my type 1 diabetes without his emotional or physical support. We have three beautiful children. Not sure what to do right now and not sure what I want hm to do. I may be asking too much or expecting too much but, he...
    Smuch72 Smuch72 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    He read my diary where I wrote about wanting to

    be with someone else. (As an idea not an actual person.) He tries to sayn that's why he suspects me of cheating. I'm so angry. what's an appropriate response? im carrying my diary in my car glove box now...
    ariuri1 ariuri1 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    I have been struggling with thoughts of divorce.

    I am currently 23 and have been married about two years. I have recently started thinking about divorce. I have also been thinking that maybe we got married too young. I don't think I am in love with him anymore. We have not been intimate in months, and when we are, I don't...
    GoldenAbyss GoldenAbyss 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I want to divorce so bad,

    it's just a matter of time.
    mokumboy mokumboy 41-45, M Nov 17, 2014

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    I never really feel an overwhelming sense of,

    "this is going to work, we're gonna make it, it will all be great!" Sad, but it is what it is. That being said, I do occasionally fall into lapses of, "I'm too tired to care, just don't wanna think about it, it's whatever," during which I hear myself telling him I just don't...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    My husband hears what I say,

    but does not listen. In one ear and out the other. In the rare instance he actually listens, he will run and tell his family everything. All of our finances, our conversations, and marital problems. I am tired, frustrated, and angry. I feel like I am in a marriage with a little...
    leggypeggy leggypeggy 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2014

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    I remember watching Oprah years ago & listening

    to pitiful wives going through divorce & feeling so lost because they had been stay at home moms the entire marriage. Some had never balanced a checkbook! I now feel their pain. Fortunately, though, I handle the finances..