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I Think I Want a Divorce

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    Little did I realize

    that I married somebody with serious anger issues. We have been in counseling for a month; things have been rocky for quite some time. She spent the week trying really hard to be kind and warm and friendly. Then, this morning when she got up we were out of milk. So she had...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 3 Responses May 15, 2015

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    No I don't think I want.

    I am positively sure about it. After 13 years of marriage, of which the most part in silent pain, I am beginning to feel I am drowning and I can't take it amymore. It's just I can't find the strength to do it. I know she doesn't want us to break up, despite the fact that we have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2015

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    I'm in love with another woman.

    There, let's get that out of the way. My husband and I have been married for five years, but we have been together since 2001, since I was a senior in high school. We have three children, an 11 year old and two 6 year olds. I work and he stays home with the kids, but only...
    sbunicorn sbunicorn 31-35, F Dec 19, 2015

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    I came home from work

    and found my best friend's white pickup down the road. I thought it was weird and opened up my front door and heard distinct ecstatic moaning and found out and found my wife kneeling down on our dining room table orally pleasuring my best friend's wife as my best friend was...
    marcshark86 marcshark86 26-30, M 7 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    Why is it so hard to take

    that next step??? I've been married 19 years and have 2 little kiddos. I know I don't love my spouse anymore but tried to justify staying with him for the children. He has a personality disorder (narcissism) and I cannot stand him. I know I need to take the next step, but I...
    lookingtovent2 lookingtovent2 41-45, F 4 Responses May 19, 2015

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    I'm 29 we got married in 2011 we have a son

    almost 3. My husband didn't want me sexually ever since I gave birth to my son I soon got to find out he had erectile issues we tried (alot of my efforts) with seeing different specialists but to him its not a priority. He acts as if nothin is wrong. Before valentines day I...
    Bubblysumu Bubblysumu 26-30, F Jun 27, 2015

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    So it's been a year since I asked

    for a divorce. I guess he's trying but what if he's just not capable of meeting my needs? It's not anyone's fault but it doesn't change the fact that I'm not happy. He is. So the guilt sets in. How can I leave if I made this commitment and I'm the only one that isn't satisfied...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    Groundhog Day.....

    I've been married to L for 23 years.  We have two kids - 17 and 13.   We both work and make good money.  Neighborhood is great.  Kids are great.   And frankly, I'm the husband that many women wish they had.  Granted, that looks rather arrogant and conceited, but the...
    WallyCleaver WallyCleaver 46-50 9 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    Its strange how you go down a path

    and you think its right only to realize after 27 years, it probably wasn't the best decision. And it definitely wasn't the worst you could have made. I've been married since I was 19 coming up on 27 years and I find myself wondering every day if this is where I want to be. My...
    Losingmycompassion Losingmycompassion 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    We have been together

    since 1998 but married in 2012. A lot of my past issues have left me with self love problems, so I have difficulty committing and truly loving him.Things have always been rocky with us; from our differences in religion.our intellectual stimulants. to infidelity on both parts. I...
    ShebrewRed ShebrewRed 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 26, 2015

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    I've been contemplating a divorce

    for about two years now. I don't know if I can say I really love her. I thought I do love her but I am increasing doubting it these days. But this post is not about what I dislike about her or what the 11 years of constant fighting. Which I am sick of. This is about happiness...
    Lightsohr Lightsohr 41-45, M 3 Responses Sep 15, 2015

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    My husband is the most compassionate,

    supportive, and sweet guy, but I can't fathom being with him for the rest of my life. Our 5 year wedding anniversary is coming up, and I want a divorce. I feel like he is not "the one" and I feel like I jumped quickly into marriage. I think hes great and deserves someone who...
    melissaav melissaav 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 4, 2015

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    This subject has been brought up a lot in my

    "marriage" & I've been married for nearly 19 years. The past few years our relationship has deteriorated to a point where I don't think it is even salvageable. I've always said I'm staying for my kids ( my youngest son in particular) he's 10 and I have been afraid of how a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 6, 2015

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    My story started 15 years ago.

    .. Met the man of my dreams, 6 years older very handsome police lietentant. I always liked a challenge... Was a single divorced mother of two, I chased till I conquered. He never officially asked me to marry him, on Christmas 12 years ago he gave me a ring... I opened it truly...
    sunshinehunnie sunshinehunnie 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    As much as I love my wife,

    I don't love "US" anymore! I'm so sick of the fighting & disagreements over just about everything. For so long I've kept my mouth shut & everything bottled up so that I could avoid arguing with her, and then me not sharing my feelings makes things worse. She'll ask me, I'm...
    LegStyles LegStyles 26-30, M 6 Responses Aug 3, 2015

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    He went to a mutual friends house last night,

    she asked to talk to me today, just got off phone, apparently he never loved me and married me for the sake of his daughter
    iamnoonyouknow iamnoonyouknow 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22, 2015

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    My marriage wasn't what I expected it to be.

    ..not at all...once I got married, my husband showed who he really was...an abusive, narcissistic, selfish, very angry and over jealous man... I tried everything to make it work and I tried make it look like we were very happy cause I thought we will make it work and I didn't...
    AdryannaZ AdryannaZ 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 14, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    tessaccaa tessaccaa 26-30, F Jul 26, 2015

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    How do you find the courage to leave a 15 year,

    sexless, disfunctional marriage. We have 2 teens, a great house, close to their schools. Close family in the same town. Everything appears to look perfect, but at home its far from the truth. I need to talk to my wife. I need to communicate to her that we are not a good match...
    ENFPman ENFPman 46-50, M 8 Responses Jan 10

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    coryleecc11 coryleecc11 26-30, F Oct 11, 2015

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    I love my wife and absolutely don't want to

    hurt her or our daughter but I don't feel like we are compatible at all. I don't want a divorce but I don't know if I want to be married anymore.
    Okdude815 Okdude815 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 10, 2015

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    2 hours of verbal and emotional abuse.

    2 draining hours. 16 years of verbal and emotional abuse. 16 draining years. 16 years of trying to be better for him, realizing that if it hasn't happened by now it never will. He's so so so angry now. I have to stay strong. I'm afraid but I need to remember the way he hurts...
    ClearlyLucid ClearlyLucid 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 17, 2015

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    I have been married 25 years all

    but the last 9 I was physically abused mentally abused cheated on you name it he did it. However he is a great provider, I stayed because I did not want my children growing up in a broken home. I have matured greatly, my children have left home and now everything my spouse ever...
    onejudge24 onejudge24 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    My mind body and heart are done

    why don't my actions show it
    gmurph89 gmurph89 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    I am getting a divorce from a man I was with

    for 32 years. He secretly cheated on me for over 3 years and charged up credit cards with my name on them without my permission to the limit. I am trying to get over hating him. He is with his mistress now the woman who tore my family apart. She abandoned her children to live...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I really do,because after all my efforts

    for the past 4 1/2 years ,talking ,pleading and begging for things to get better,i have to come to terms,this will not work.I try to talk to this man,and he turns the tv louder so i can't be heard.I drink wine at night,because of the pain i feel,he calls me a drunk *****,i don't...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 33 Responses Jan 27, 2015

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    I feel like i am giving up,

    but it has been years that this is been going on and i keep forgiving him hoping it will get better or he will change. would you leave if he was never around, and not because he is working, which he does, but before and after work he sits at the corner bar and drinks. He lies...
    2016ITY 2016ITY 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    He talks to mutual friends,

    who all end up telling me what he says, and it is horrible, ranting vitriole and saying he has never loved me.... Then he comes home and he is nice, normal, pleasant to be around. I am snapping at everything and he isn't rising at all... Friends want me to leave, get angry and...
    iamnoonyouknow iamnoonyouknow 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    We had another "talk" last night.

    It dragged on for 3 hours and nothing got accomplished. He knows I'm only staying to try and work it out because of the kids. I told him I don't know if he can ever say or do anything to make me love him the way I used to. I'm no longer loving blind and can't forget all the hurt...
    unhappilyeverafter1977 unhappilyeverafter1977 31-35, F 29 Responses Feb 20, 2015

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    if you cry at the divorce lawyers office consult

    and after does it mean you're not really ready?
    nem098 nem098 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2015

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    I'm so sick of comments

    and judgements about everything that I do. I am in a lot of pain tonight. Stupid dog woke me up as soon as I had gone to sleep. She had chewed up my new shoes that I had just bought. I took some medicine and decided to distract myself with my phone to keep My mind off the pain...
    Tejaschick Tejaschick 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 15, 2015

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    My husband has been very emotionally

    and verbally abusive towards me. He says things to me like "I regret marrying you", "You're boring", "You stress me out", "I been wanted to get divorce, even on the same day we got married". He got mad at me last night because I asked him to cuddle me. He said I shouldn't have...
    VaniaAbel VaniaAbel 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 11, 2015

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    So tired of his temper tantrums (he has never

    hit me, but goes off the deep end about things like broken appliances). When I try to talk to him about it he doesn't get it -- just says, but I'm not yelling because I'm angry at YOU... Every time I try to have a discussion asking him to change in any way, he just says FINE...
    drdoll drdoll 41-45 1 Response Jul 10, 2015

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    Ouch!!! It's been 22 years of torture being

    married to a man that just doesn't know how to treat a woman. Words just cannot express the pain of being tied to someone who has no respect. I'm so tired of living in this clueless man's world. Prayers and positive thoughts are all I have tonight. Tomorrow is a new day...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    I have nearly finished this book and followed a blog on the net which outlined the essential questions to ask yourself. I just wanted to share this blogs link and recommend that people who are struggling read buy the complete book for your own sanity to discover where you really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    So after 15 years....

    I think I am finally done. I had kids at a really young age. My youngest is now 17 and she will be off to college next fall. My wife however, wants more children and wants to start all over. I am 100% sure I don't. We have been fostering now for over 3 years and she is certain...
    Lcas6548 Lcas6548 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2015

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    I think I want a divorce

    but I have no idea how to support myself. I've been a stay at home mom for awhile and just recently started my own business. It's going well but I don't make NEARLY enough to support myself and 2 kids. I put my career on hold so my husband could pursue his dream career and he is...
    justme710 justme710 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2015

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    So....I guess I'm writing on here

    because I want a divorce and my husband doesn't. We've been together for 11 years, married for 7 and have a wonderful 6 yr old son. The problem?? My husband is a drug addict. He has been through rehab 3 times, once while we were dating and twice when we were married. His choice...
    Ultravioletgrrl Ultravioletgrrl 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2014

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    My husband has made efforts to try

    and meet up with woman; The emails and texts are very sexual. I even found nude text pictures of his ex gf on his phone. I've caught him several times doing these things, although he has never physically done anything with these women I still consider it cheating. I've gone...
    nursesrock007 nursesrock007 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 22, 2015

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    Another Pleasant Saturday Night

    So here I sit typing away on my computer as my wife sleeps. It's 10:30 but I'm sure she was asleep by 9:30. This is how our weekends go. No TV together, little talking, no companionship of any kind. The same as weeknights. I guess she is preparing for life after 70. The...
    Daddyo8910 Daddyo8910 51-55, M 21 Responses May 11, 2013

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    Well it escalated tonight,

    he had been joking (half) on Facebook about buying me a clothes dryer as a present, friends, especially those who know the situation, he got mad at my best friend (a male) and posted something, when I defended my friend things got heated. I was told if I was taking my friends...
    iamnoonyouknow iamnoonyouknow 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 23, 2015

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    I don't think I want a divorce I know I want a

    divorce. I have for some time. Problem is I've been too scared and weak to continue with one. I'm a stay-at-home-mom, meaning no study income/job. We own a nice home that we have good equity in,(in which I've worked my #%@ off to help maintain and make possible in the first...
    AngryCrow AngryCrow 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    All his verbal abuse is really starting to make

    divorce look so good right now even though I'll be alone and broke
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 11, 2015

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    I go back and forth on the subject.

    There's just too many factors involved. It's just not about me.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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