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I Think I Want a Divorce

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    How Do I Tell Him?

    I have had issues in my marriage for a while. My husband is emotionally abusive and is not invested in our marriage, and frankly, I am tired of it. Because of the lack of communication between us, I am done. He shows no interest in speaking to me without getting angry. He has...
    TryingToMatter TryingToMatter 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 27, 2013

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    My wife thinks that any thing of mine she can

    throw away if she deems it not mporatant, this is my belongings. After 28 years I am not getting anything back in the relationship...
    Insaintrobert Insaintrobert 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 16

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    Another Pleasant Saturday Night

    So here I sit typing away on my computer as my wife sleeps. It's 10:30 but I'm sure she was asleep by 9:30. This is how our weekends go. No TV together, little talking, no companionship of any kind. The same as weeknights. I guess she is preparing for life after 70. The...
    Daddyo8910 Daddyo8910 46-50, M 23 Responses May 11, 2013

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    Just Move Out Already

    My soon to be ex is holding on for any sign that I may change my mind. I won't. So much so he won't leave the house and it is totally draining my energy. I feel horrible for my kids because my patience is short and I don't have the energy to do what I usually do with them. I've...
    007love 007love 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    We have been married 8 years.

    together 12. We have 3 kids together from 4-10. My husband and i split up in september and decided to try again the end of november. The first few weeks were good like i figured they would be. But now it's back to the same things. I just don't feel the love for him I used to...
    mekelb mekelb 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    I don think - I know I am

    and want a divorce.Part 1/2 is quickly approaching. My soon to be ex husband will move out this weekend. It has been 5 LONG months that we have been living like this. I am very ready and happy to begin our new normal. Life won't be easy everyday but to be happy and free will be...
    007love 007love 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 3

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    Have Been Thinking About It For Years

    Yes, it's true. I've been married 7 years and have thought of divorcing my wife for at least the last 4 years. It's just that when things are bad, they are REALLY bad. I don't blame her entirely; I admit I am partly to blame. You see, we both have bad tempers, though I think...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    Freaky Tuesday

    So there's a knock on my door this morning and it's the husband of the girl my husband is having an affair with. I don't know what possessed him to come looking. We had a great talk. Guess you can find a friend in the most unexpected of places.
    Sadpony Sadpony 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    Its strange how you go down a path

    and you think its right only to realize after 27 years, it probably wasn't the best decision. And it definitely wasn't the worst you could have made. I've been married since I was 19 coming up on 27 years and I find myself wondering every day if this is where I want to be. My...
    Losingmycompassion Losingmycompassion 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Thursday night went as expected,

    more or less. I got home, and she was asleep but woke up fairly soon. We talked a bit, I reiterated that I wasn't happy, that we haven't been happy for most of our relationship. I rehashed the major negative phases we've gone though, up to and including the flirtation with the...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Too Good To Go Too Bad To Stay.The Most Helpful Info From This Book.

    I have nearly finished this book and followed a blog on the net which outlined the essential questions to ask yourself. I just wanted to share this blogs link and recommend that people who are struggling read buy the complete book for your own sanity to discover where you really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    One Step Closer

    Today was therapy Tuesday, which I love because it's getting me ready for what's to come. I feel clear, ready and strong. I have been trying to convince myself for years that I deserve to be happy. But now, I'm starting to believe it and more importantly I want it. I can almost...
    007love 007love 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 20, 2013

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    Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

    My wife and I have been struggling for about three years. We have 3 young boys which I love. My wife and I have been going to counseling but cannot settle are differences. She believes me to be alcoholic, so I quit drinking. I stopped hanging out with my friends and now she has...
    Shupp Shupp 36-40 1 Response Jan 11, 2013

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the

    man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing wrong with the marriage. Sure he avoids every serious conversation I've ever tried to have with him, he's terrible at communication, and he leaves...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I've never been one to put much stock into

    signs.. My sister in law tends to say things like, "Oh, we were just talking about that, and look! It must be a sign, you should do it!" I just don't buy it. That being said, I do believe when things happen in life you tend to notice similar situations everywhere, but I think...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    We Have Been Married For Almost Two Months Now....

    ProsHe cooks, he cleans,  he brings home free food, and pays half the rent.ConsHe's a jerk.  He stares at other women.  He flirts a lot.  He does not hear me when I talk, but takes advice from other women.  He called me a bad name.  He cannot get / keep it up when we make...
    Yohanna Yohanna 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    I never really feel an overwhelming sense of,

    "this is going to work, we're gonna make it, it will all be great!" Sad, but it is what it is. That being said, I do occasionally fall into lapses of, "I'm too tired to care, just don't wanna think about it, it's whatever," during which I hear myself telling him I just don't...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    I want to divorce my husband

    but i am too weak to do so.Firstly because our son is attached to him secondly he has become financially successful.I sacrificied my career and moved with him to other locations in other words he became a man easy to love financially.We are not in love,he treats me like a...
    kimlife kimlife 26-30, F 1 Response 9 mins ago

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    Cut To The Chase

    It's great to have a platform to vent, but how about a succinct and straighforward checklist if you will, from those that graduated from (1) "I think I want..." to (2) "I know I want..." to (3) "I got a divorce"? It would be awesome. I am new to this group. I am mainly in the...
    imathinkin imathinkin 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 11, 2011

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    Freaky Tuesday

    So there's a knock on my door this morning and it's the husband of the girl my husband is having an affair with. I don't know what possessed him to come looking. We had a great talk. Guess you can find a friend in the most unexpected of places.
    Sadpony Sadpony 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    We've talked about it

    so much, he's adamantly opposed to the idea and I feel like a terrible person for thinking it. We've set an appointment with a marriage counselor, but it's a couple weeks away. I feel like I'm drowning. I find myself packing his things in my mind. Is that horrible? We've...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    How do you know its the right time?

    The right thing to do? I met my husband at age 18 he was 26 I already had a child from a previous relationship. My husband accepted the fact I had a child and treated him like his own from day one. At the time I did like my husband yesbut wasnt in love with him. That grew as...
    thang4you thang4you 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 21

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    Warning Shots

    After all this time last night the conversation happened. She said I need medication for my state of mind so I got a beer sat down in bed and finally said clearly I am not happy. It seems the conversation about one year ago by setting out all that I was unhappy about was...
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    I have been married for 20 years.

    We have 6 kids together. I left my career 14 years ago to be with the kids. In the last 4 years we have being fighting allot. He goes out with he's friends till 2 or 3 in the morning. When I ask to join he says they are just talking about work. In the last year I have found make...
    sad6268 sad6268 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 16

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    Groundhog Day.....

    I've been married to L for 23 years.  We have two kids - 17 and 13.   We both work and make good money.  Neighborhood is great.  Kids are great.   And frankly, I'm the husband that many women wish they had.  Granted, that looks rather arrogant and conceited, but the...
    WallyCleaver WallyCleaver 46-50 9 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    I Don't Love My Wife

    M and I have been married for more than 10 years. M is kind, shy, loving and gets along with my family. But I don't love her. For some reason, I can't. One Sunday morning in February of last year, I was frustrated and blurted out that I thought we should end the marriage. That...
    nospam nospam 36-40, M 36 Responses Jan 7, 2008

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    My husband and I have been married 6.

    5 years, together for almost 10. We have two beautiful little girls, ages 6 and 4. I was 20 when I got pregnant with our oldest daughter and we decided to get married. In the spring of 2011, he had an emotional affair long distance and when this woman came to town he decided he...
    eharper94 eharper94 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2013

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    My story is so unlike

    so many I see here. My husband isn't abusive, or even mean. He wants this to work. Or rather, for us to stay together.. the marriage has never really worked. I feel so terrible most of the time, because he says he has no idea where these feelings came from, that he doesn't know...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Just What I Thought

    I was starting to cave a little, backing down from filing for divorce tomorrow. My husband was pulling a dad-of-the-year day yesterday where he took pride in taking the boys to a craft workshop and read a bunch of books to help our youngest with his reading contest --all in a...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2013

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    I feel as tho I am broken.

    I have only been married a little over a year but married my high school sweet heart and we have Been together for 10 years. I knew what i was getting into when I married him but I guess I thought he would grow up. We all have to sometime right? I did. I went to school stopped...
    Laylil23 Laylil23 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    My Wife Has Been Praying

    Yesterday I was out shopping with my wife and daughter. I was looking at jackets when I almost walked into a woman. I have never been so attracted to someone and to my surprise the woman started a conversation with me. I shook it off and walked away then I realized that my wife...
    confused103 confused103 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    This is the sort of situation I never thought I

    would get into. I thought I was too old and too smart to make the mistakes I'd seen my friends go through in their early twenties; my best friend got married when he was 21, to his first girlfriend, after six months. Even back then, I thought he was crazy. They went five years...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    Heavily Contemplating It.

    If we're being honest, divorce has been on my mind since day three of the marriage. On and off. I thought that the beginning was rough and that we'd ride it out and things would get better. I didn't want a "Kim Kardashian" marriage. Unfortunately, it's been over a year and...
    BulletWithButterflyWings BulletWithButterflyWings 22-25, F 20 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    You know what's lame?

    People who think that it's socially acceptable to ask why you haven't had kids yet. What the hell, who's business is that? I've been married a year and a half, I'm twenty two years old, and I work in the same building as my husband so we have entirely too many mutual...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I go back and forth on the subject.

    There's just too many factors involved. It's just not about me.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    How do you know when your marriage is over?

    I'm unhappy. Surely my husband can't be happy either. I wouldn't know as he doesn't talk about his feelings or what upsets him or makes him angry. If anything he is passive aggressive. Just withdraws from the situation. So what is the issue? I don't think I love him anymore...
    RachMcG RachMcG 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    13 Years Of Marriage

    What I'm finding out is that 13 years of marriage can make you really lonely. We've grown apart and I keep getting more perverted and he is becoming more prudish. I would like to know what guy wouldn't love to have a wife as nasty as I am. Maybe some one can tell me.
    justcallmeapervert justcallmeapervert 46-50 3 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    I was raised to believe that

    if you're unhappy in marriage you deal with it, find a way to fix it if you can, but you don't ever quit. It was weakness, or laziness I suppose. People legitimately looked down on others for divorce in my family.. Unless it was abuse, or adultery, once you said vows you were...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I have been married 25 years all

    but the last 9 I was physically abused mentally abused cheated on you name it he did it. However he is a great provider, I stayed because I did not want my children growing up in a broken home. I have matured greatly, my children have left home and now everything my spouse ever...
    onejudge24 onejudge24 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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    Stressed!!!

    I have been married to my husband for alomst 4 years now. We never had sex as my husband has decrease libido and so many other health problems!!! I even tried to get pregnant through fertility treatments but all in vain... He loves me but i am not happy with him. He can not any...
    sheela87 sheela87 31-35 4 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    Today wasn't a good day.

    I've been trying to wait, to give it some time after the difficult times we had in December and February, but I'm feeling more and more impatient. We've fought about money more than once. I spent more than I should have on the rings, and then her cat almost died in May. I...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 3

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    Divorced women: Did you have better luck with a

    male or female lawyer? Men, you can chime in, but I was trying to tailor my experience. Thanks for your help.
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 7

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    We've been in counseling a couple weeks,

    and he already wants to quit. I didn't want to go in the first place, but I felt that after promising to spend my life with this man I owed it to him to try. Now we've gone in and explained to a stranger how I'm unhappy and considering leaving, and my husband is wanting to make...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    How Did You Know It Was Time To File For Divorce?

    I am really wondering how you knew when it was time to file for divorce. It seems like a decision that is taking somewhat of a leap to take that first step--it is surreal. I didn't have a storybook romance that dwindled. I had a fun and nice dating period followed by many life...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 6, 2013

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    I have been married for nearly 10 yrs now

    and have two children one who is 8 yrs old and the other who is a 1 year old. The last 10 years have been extremely turbulent for both of us. We were never able to be actually in love with each other since the very begining. We are from India and had an arranged marriage which...
    rsdta77 rsdta77 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    I'm Scared To Divorce And Scared Not To

    My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have two amazing sons aged 10 and 7. They are my life. My wife suffers from anxiety disorders. When she is on her medication, she is fine. The problem is that she can't be counted on to take her medication and when she doesn't she...
    ScarceGuy ScarceGuy 36-40 15 Responses Feb 2, 2012

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    This topic actually brought me to this site.

    It's like a breath of fresh air to know others are struggling like I am. I haven't been married long, almost two years. I'm young, nearly 22 and I'm not close to as happy as I dreamed I would be at this age. At first, it was so great. My husband I and were in love and I think we...
    KathleenMcDiffitt KathleenMcDiffitt 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    What Did I Do?

    I try talking to her, she calls it arguing. I text her and she responds sarcastically. She's always saying "if Jesus was next to you, would you say this or do that" but when it comes to her, she takes verses from the bible that suit her. She says I'm miserable. Duh!! You made me...
    sufferin4life sufferin4life 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    I Have A (Demented) Dream....

    There once was a husband from hell, Who thought he would do very well to snare a free spirit, snuff everything in it, And torture her psyche a spell. He'd often regard her with ire no trigger did he require Her mere voice or regard, would incent his petard And near brand the...
    Colormevibrant Colormevibrant 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 31, 2013

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    This is a little harder then I thought.... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like...
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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
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    I want to tell a story of how a little faith and an offering changed my life it was 19 yrs ago last Friday,,,I had been listning to Pastor Rod Parsley ,,He was preaching on the...
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    So I know this isn't a well thought of experience, but I tried a "lady of the night" last night. First, I didn't expect her to be the same person in the ad... I thought she'd be...
    Addy315 Addy315 18-21, M 1 hr ago

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    I would be celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary this June, but instead I hope to have my divorce final by then. My husbands affair put the nail in the coffin of our marriage...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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