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I Think I Want a Divorce

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    I was raised to believe that

    if you're unhappy in marriage you deal with it, find a way to fix it if you can, but you don't ever quit. It was weakness, or laziness I suppose. People legitimately looked down on others for divorce in my family.. Unless it was abuse, or adultery, once you said vows you were...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    So tired of his temper tantrums (he has never

    hit me, but goes off the deep end about things like broken appliances). When I try to talk to him about it he doesn't get it -- just says, but I'm not yelling because I'm angry at YOU... Every time I try to have a discussion asking him to change in any way, he just says FINE...
    drdoll drdoll 41-45 1 Response Jul 10

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    This week we did, I think,

    our fourth counseling session. My W told the counselor she is finding the sessions 'highly negative'. She is upset because things are getting worse, not better. Now, this is of course after we were warned (in our first session) that in counseling, things get worse before...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 3 Responses May 20

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    Divorced women: Did you have better luck with a

    male or female lawyer? Men, you can chime in, but I was trying to tailor my experience. Thanks for your help.
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 6 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    We have been together

    since 1998 but married in 2012. A lot of my past issues have left me with self love problems, so I have difficulty committing and truly loving him.Things have always been rocky with us; from our differences in religion.our intellectual stimulants. to infidelity on both parts. I...
    ShebrewRed ShebrewRed 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    My husband has made efforts to try

    and meet up with woman; The emails and texts are very sexual. I even found nude text pictures of his ex gf on his phone. I've caught him several times doing these things, although he has never physically done anything with these women I still consider it cheating. I've gone...
    nursesrock007 nursesrock007 31-35, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I have been married 25 years all

    but the last 9 I was physically abused mentally abused cheated on you name it he did it. However he is a great provider, I stayed because I did not want my children growing up in a broken home. I have matured greatly, my children have left home and now everything my spouse ever...
    onejudge24 onejudge24 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 27, 2014

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    I am getting a divorce from a man I was with

    for 32 years. He secretly cheated on me for over 3 years and charged up credit cards with my name on them without my permission to the limit. I am trying to get over hating him. He is with his mistress now the woman who tore my family apart. She abandoned her children to live...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I do not see our situation improving & I have

    no desire to stay, even if he did change. How do you start the process? We fight constantly. "Divorce" has been thrown around in arguments frequently for a year or so. Do I talk to him first and give him fair warning? Do I just sneak behind his back & file for separation? file...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    I really do,because after all my efforts

    for the past 4 1/2 years ,talking ,pleading and begging for things to get better,i have to come to terms,this will not work.I try to talk to this man,and he turns the tv louder so i can't be heard.I drink wine at night,because of the pain i feel,he calls me a drunk *****,i don't...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 35 Responses Jan 27

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    I have been married for thirteen years today

    and I think I want a divorce. Of the 13 years we maybe have a total of 2 years of happiness. I love her but as a friend. She has told me she does not love me sometimes and sometimes she loves me but not like she used to. We are great friends and I don't want to lose that. I...
    Geekkillington Geekkillington 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Ouch!!! It's been 22 years of torture being

    married to a man that just doesn't know how to treat a woman. Words just cannot express the pain of being tied to someone who has no respect. I'm so tired of living in this clueless man's world. Prayers and positive thoughts are all I have tonight. Tomorrow is a new day...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    My husband and I had

    yet another dramatic, drawn out argument this morning and it let to him getting too angry and ripping the father's day card I gave him up and threw the pieces at my face. I cried forever I was so upset. Then we both said horrible things to each other, both got so angry we cried...
    AmayaHoo AmayaHoo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I came home from work

    and found my best friend's white pickup down the road. I thought it was weird and opened up my front door and heard distinct ecstatic moaning and found out and found my wife kneeling down on our dining room table orally pleasuring my best friend's wife as my best friend was...
    marcshark86 marcshark86 26-30, M 8 Responses Jul 27

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    2 hours of verbal and emotional abuse.

    2 draining hours. 16 years of verbal and emotional abuse. 16 draining years. 16 years of trying to be better for him, realizing that if it hasn't happened by now it never will. He's so so so angry now. I have to stay strong. I'm afraid but I need to remember the way he hurts...
    ClearlyLucid ClearlyLucid 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I'm so sick of comments

    and judgements about everything that I do. I am in a lot of pain tonight. Stupid dog woke me up as soon as I had gone to sleep. She had chewed up my new shoes that I had just bought. I took some medicine and decided to distract myself with my phone to keep My mind off the pain...
    Tejaschick Tejaschick 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    He went to a mutual friends house last night,

    she asked to talk to me today, just got off phone, apparently he never loved me and married me for the sake of his daughter
    iamnoonyouknow iamnoonyouknow 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    All his verbal abuse is really starting to make

    divorce look so good right now even though I'll be alone and broke
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    So....I guess I'm writing on here

    because I want a divorce and my husband doesn't. We've been together for 11 years, married for 7 and have a wonderful 6 yr old son. The problem?? My husband is a drug addict. He has been through rehab 3 times, once while we were dating and twice when we were married. His choice...
    Ultravioletgrrl Ultravioletgrrl 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2014

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    My mind body and heart are done

    why don't my actions show it
    gmurph89 gmurph89 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    Its strange how you go down a path

    and you think its right only to realize after 27 years, it probably wasn't the best decision. And it definitely wasn't the worst you could have made. I've been married since I was 19 coming up on 27 years and I find myself wondering every day if this is where I want to be. My...
    Losingmycompassion Losingmycompassion 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Too Good To Go Too Bad To Stay.The Most Helpful Info From This Book.

    I have nearly finished this book and followed a blog on the net which outlined the essential questions to ask yourself. I just wanted to share this blogs link and recommend that people who are struggling read buy the complete book for your own sanity to discover where you really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    Groundhog Day.....

    I've been married to L for 23 years.  We have two kids - 17 and 13.   We both work and make good money.  Neighborhood is great.  Kids are great.   And frankly, I'm the husband that many women wish they had.  Granted, that looks rather arrogant and conceited, but the...
    WallyCleaver WallyCleaver 46-50 9 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    This subject has been brought up a lot in my

    "marriage" & I've been married for nearly 19 years. The past few years our relationship has deteriorated to a point where I don't think it is even salvageable. I've always said I'm staying for my kids ( my youngest son in particular) he's 10 and I have been afraid of how a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 6

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    We've talked about it

    so much, he's adamantly opposed to the idea and I feel like a terrible person for thinking it. We've set an appointment with a marriage counselor, but it's a couple weeks away. I feel like I'm drowning. I find myself packing his things in my mind. Is that horrible? We've...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    Just found out that if my husband talks to

    other woman he tells them he is in a lonely marriage, that I'm a horrible wife and he's leaving me. When I asked him why he has never said that to me, his response was I love you, it's you that is unhappy. So he lied to my face once again
    nursesrock007 nursesrock007 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    I did it, I left. Not how I wanted it to go,

    but I was out of options. I don't know where to go from here or what happens now, but I left.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 7

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    No I don't think I want.

    I am positively sure about it. After 13 years of marriage, of which the most part in silent pain, I am beginning to feel I am drowning and I can't take it amymore. It's just I can't find the strength to do it. I know she doesn't want us to break up, despite the fact that we have...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 1

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    I just don't know where to go from here.

    My wife knows I want out, but every time we walk up to that edge I start panicking and pulling back. I must be insane. Or just plain scared. I don't want to leave my whole life behind, but how can I stay married to a woman I'm not in love with? There is another woman...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 28

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    My husband is the most compassionate,

    supportive, and sweet guy, but I can't fathom being with him for the rest of my life. Our 5 year wedding anniversary is coming up, and I want a divorce. I feel like he is not "the one" and I feel like I jumped quickly into marriage. I think hes great and deserves someone who...
    melissaav melissaav 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    So it's been a year since I asked

    for a divorce. I guess he's trying but what if he's just not capable of meeting my needs? It's not anyone's fault but it doesn't change the fact that I'm not happy. He is. So the guilt sets in. How can I leave if I made this commitment and I'm the only one that isn't satisfied...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    Heavily Contemplating It.

    If we're being honest, divorce has been on my mind since day three of the marriage. On and off. I thought that the beginning was rough and that we'd ride it out and things would get better. I didn't want a "Kim Kardashian" marriage. Unfortunately, it's been over a year and...
    BulletWithButterflyWings BulletWithButterflyWings 22-25, F 19 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    I was planning on leaving my wife

    for another woman. I've been working up to it but it's hard. Now the OW is fed up and wants out because sh just can't do this anymore. I get it. My wife knows we're in trouble so now she's trying to be everything I want, but it's not real. It won't last. If I wasn't such a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 22

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    I'm Scared To Divorce And Scared Not To

    My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have two amazing sons aged 10 and 7. They are my life. My wife suffers from anxiety disorders. When she is on her medication, she is fine. The problem is that she can't be counted on to take her medication and when she doesn't she...
    ScarceGuy ScarceGuy 36-40 13 Responses Feb 2, 2012

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    Little did I realize

    that I married somebody with serious anger issues. We have been in counseling for a month; things have been rocky for quite some time. She spent the week trying really hard to be kind and warm and friendly. Then, this morning when she got up we were out of milk. So she had...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 3 Responses May 15

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    I've been married for 14yrs now.

    We have been together for 17yrs. We have 2 children. We've always had our differences but lately things have just gone from bad to worse. We are living together but seperate because he's constantly looking for someone else. He's used FB, IG, & even set up a profile on match.com...
    LRSolis LRSolis 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    Have Been Thinking About It For Years

    Yes, it's true. I've been married 7 years and have thought of divorcing my wife for at least the last 4 years. It's just that when things are bad, they are REALLY bad. I don't blame her entirely; I admit I am partly to blame. You see, we both have bad tempers, though I think...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    tessaccaa tessaccaa 26-30, F Jul 26

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    I'm 29 we got married in 2011 we have a son

    almost 3. My husband didn't want me sexually ever since I gave birth to my son I soon got to find out he had erectile issues we tried (alot of my efforts) with seeing different specialists but to him its not a priority. He acts as if nothin is wrong. Before valentines day I...
    Bubblysumu Bubblysumu 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    Another Pleasant Saturday Night

    So here I sit typing away on my computer as my wife sleeps. It's 10:30 but I'm sure she was asleep by 9:30. This is how our weekends go. No TV together, little talking, no companionship of any kind. The same as weeknights. I guess she is preparing for life after 70. The...
    Daddyo8910 Daddyo8910 46-50, M 22 Responses May 11, 2013

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    As much as I love my wife,

    I don't love "US" anymore! I'm so sick of the fighting & disagreements over just about everything. For so long I've kept my mouth shut & everything bottled up so that I could avoid arguing with her, and then me not sharing my feelings makes things worse. She'll ask me, I'm...
    LegStyles LegStyles 26-30, M 5 Responses Aug 3

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    Why is it so hard to take

    that next step??? I've been married 19 years and have 2 little kiddos. I know I don't love my spouse anymore but tried to justify staying with him for the children. He has a personality disorder (narcissism) and I cannot stand him. I know I need to take the next step, but I...
    lookingtovent2 lookingtovent2 41-45, F 4 Responses May 19

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    I Don't Love My Wife

    M and I have been married for more than 10 years. M is kind, shy, loving and gets along with my family. But I don't love her. For some reason, I can't. One Sunday morning in February of last year, I was frustrated and blurted out that I thought we should end the marriage. That...
    nospam nospam 36-40, M 38 Responses Jan 7, 2008

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    I left my wife yesterday

    for my OW, but I went back today. Nothing has changed for me, but I realize that I can't just **** on my family and walk out. I still think my marriage has a shelf life, but I need to let it play out as it will. If our marriage ends, it will be the right way, not because I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 8

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    My story started 15 years ago.

    .. Met the man of my dreams, 6 years older very handsome police lietentant. I always liked a challenge... Was a single divorced mother of two, I chased till I conquered. He never officially asked me to marry him, on Christmas 12 years ago he gave me a ring... I opened it truly...
    sunshinehunnie sunshinehunnie 46-50, F 2 Responses