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I Think I Want a Divorce

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    Groundhog Day.....

    I've been married to L for 23 years.  We have two kids - 17 and 13.   We both work and make good money.  Neighborhood is great.  Kids are great.   And frankly, I'm the husband that many women wish they had.  Granted, that looks rather arrogant and conceited, but the...
    WallyCleaver WallyCleaver 46-50 9 Responses Sep 8, 2011

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    I am 21 and my husband is 25.

    I go to school and work full-time. I have known my husband almost my entire life and our families are very close which makes this 20 times harder. We started dating when I was 18. I do not have a close relationship with my parents and I really just wanted to move out of their...
    kalelizabeth kalelizabeth 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 23

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    We met when we were in high school.

    Dated for 5 years and have been married for 12 years. While we were dating and for the first 7 years of marriage we were inseparable. We did everything together we needed no one but each other. Over the last 5 years everything has changed he wants to spend every weekend partying...
    ACC888 ACC888 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    How Did You Know It Was Time To File For Divorce?

    I am really wondering how you knew when it was time to file for divorce. It seems like a decision that is taking somewhat of a leap to take that first step--it is surreal. I didn't have a storybook romance that dwindled. I had a fun and nice dating period followed by many life...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 13 Responses Mar 6, 2013

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    I'd like to hear from anyone

    who has kids still in high school, but is wanting to leave their marriage. I haven't worked in 19 years & I'm afraid. Lots of financial infidelity, so trust is lost & he's really doing nothing to gain it. I don't think I can ever trust him. His lack of remorse & anger at...
    Jublue Jublue 51-55, F 3 Responses May 5

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    I want to spend some time with someone to see

    if I'm really as horrible of a person as my wife says I am how do I do that?
    gmurph89 gmurph89 22-25, M Jun 9

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    Divorced women: Did you have better luck with a

    male or female lawyer? Men, you can chime in, but I was trying to tailor my experience. Thanks for your help.
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 7

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    Thursday night went as expected,

    more or less. I got home, and she was asleep but woke up fairly soon. We talked a bit, I reiterated that I wasn't happy, that we haven't been happy for most of our relationship. I rehashed the major negative phases we've gone though, up to and including the flirtation with the...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 5

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    My situation is very similar.

    We've been married for 7 years, after knowing each other for 3 years. My greatest challenge is that we have two kids, 5 and 2.5 years old. I can say for sure that I can't imagine not seeing those kids for a day. The problem I have with my wife is that she's very 'closed'. She...
    pingme pingme 36-40, M 2 Responses May 7

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    Definition Of Love

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. This is the definition of love given in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5. My wife and marriage...
    technologic21 technologic21 31-35, M 16 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    I am at the point that I need to separate from

    my husband of 10 years. Maybe just a few months or maybe permanently. We have 2 young kids and I have stayed because of them but I am so unhappy at home. I don't know where to start. Do i find a rental for a few months? Anyone who has done this before... I would appreciate your...
    Loki39 Loki39 36-40, F Aug 21

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    Stressed!!!

    I have been married to my husband for alomst 4 years now. We never had sex as my husband has decrease libido and so many other health problems!!! I even tried to get pregnant through fertility treatments but all in vain... He loves me but i am not happy with him. He can not any...
    sheela87 sheela87 31-35 4 Responses Nov 20, 2008

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    We Have Been Married For Almost Two Months Now....

    ProsHe cooks, he cleans,  he brings home free food, and pays half the rent.ConsHe's a jerk.  He stares at other women.  He flirts a lot.  He does not hear me when I talk, but takes advice from other women.  He called me a bad name.  He cannot get / keep it up when we make...
    Yohanna Yohanna 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    Another Pleasant Saturday Night

    So here I sit typing away on my computer as my wife sleeps. It's 10:30 but I'm sure she was asleep by 9:30. This is how our weekends go. No TV together, little talking, no companionship of any kind. The same as weeknights. I guess she is preparing for life after 70. The...
    Daddyo8910 Daddyo8910 46-50, M 23 Responses May 11, 2013

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    13 Years Of Marriage

    What I'm finding out is that 13 years of marriage can make you really lonely. We've grown apart and I keep getting more perverted and he is becoming more prudish. I would like to know what guy wouldn't love to have a wife as nasty as I am. Maybe some one can tell me.
    justcallmeapervert justcallmeapervert 46-50 3 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    I go back and forth on the subject.

    There's just too many factors involved. It's just not about me.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    I have been married 25 years all

    but the last 9 I was physically abused mentally abused cheated on you name it he did it. However he is a great provider, I stayed because I did not want my children growing up in a broken home. I have matured greatly, my children have left home and now everything my spouse ever...
    onejudge24 onejudge24 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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    I never really feel an overwhelming sense of,

    "this is going to work, we're gonna make it, it will all be great!" Sad, but it is what it is. That being said, I do occasionally fall into lapses of, "I'm too tired to care, just don't wanna think about it, it's whatever," during which I hear myself telling him I just don't...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    We've talked about it

    so much, he's adamantly opposed to the idea and I feel like a terrible person for thinking it. We've set an appointment with a marriage counselor, but it's a couple weeks away. I feel like I'm drowning. I find myself packing his things in my mind. Is that horrible? We've...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I've been with my husband

    since I was 18. Dated for 11 years and been married for almost 20. Huge age difference. Everyone always told me it would make a difference one day and I argued. Well, that day is here! I love him, but it is more like my grandfather or child. He has never worked and we don...
    JdyFlty JdyFlty 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 23

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    Let me start off by saying I am young.

    "Too young to get married" as everyone has told me. My husband is young as well. We have been married for just over a year. We've had so many battles together with no support from family to help guide us. Our first year my hubby had a lot of growing to do. He is so far behind me...
    Glittersister Glittersister 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 20

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    I met my husband in 8th grade.

    we were on and off like teens are. Then went a year not talking and then get back together. I "loved" him. wanted to marry him and have babies... Well at 17 we had our daughter in 2003. Split for a while when she was one. got back again and got up one day and went and got...
    mekelb mekelb 26-30, F Jul 10

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    Ouch!!! It's been 22 years of torture being

    married to a man that just doesn't know how to treat a woman. Words just cannot express the pain of being tied to someone who has no respect. I'm so tired of living in this clueless man's world. Prayers and positive thoughts are all I have tonight. Tomorrow is a new day...
    livingasme livingasme 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 8

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    Cut To The Chase

    It's great to have a platform to vent, but how about a succinct and straighforward checklist if you will, from those that graduated from (1) "I think I want..." to (2) "I know I want..." to (3) "I got a divorce"? It would be awesome. I am new to this group. I am mainly in the...
    imathinkin imathinkin 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 11, 2011

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    What Reasons To Go On?

    27 seven years of relationship, 15 living together, 6 married, two children -14 and 10. Thinking that I move away from her is like tearing out a part of my body, but staying means giving up to things are essential to me. I’m not perfect but I’m quite fine, she chose me time...
    tazx tazx 46-50, M 3 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    Hopefully the worst is over.

    She moved out after I stayed with friends for two weeks to give her time. She texted said friends and lied about random things and asked my friends not to tell me. Weird. At least I know I definitely did the right thing by ending it. Of course it still wasn't easy, and it won't...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response May 23

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    Have Been Thinking About It For Years

    Yes, it's true. I've been married 7 years and have thought of divorcing my wife for at least the last 4 years. It's just that when things are bad, they are REALLY bad. I don't blame her entirely; I admit I am partly to blame. You see, we both have bad tempers, though I think...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    Expectations are the root of all joy,

    anger and calm. When they are met we rarely even notice them. When they are blown it's all we focus on. It's part of what creates your comfort in a relationship ( and business frankly). I had problems in my life until I stated laying out my expectations to every one I deal with...
    shakes73 shakes73 36-40, M 2 Responses May 9

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    My husband and I have really grown apart over

    the past few years. We have three young children and I love them more than anything, which is the only reason I haven't left him. He was the love of my life, for many reasons, not the least of which was his honesty, sincerity, and ability to communicate and work through...
    overcome78 overcome78 31-35, F Aug 7

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    Heavily Contemplating It.

    If we're being honest, divorce has been on my mind since day three of the marriage. On and off. I thought that the beginning was rough and that we'd ride it out and things would get better. I didn't want a "Kim Kardashian" marriage. Unfortunately, it's been over a year and...
    BulletWithButterflyWings BulletWithButterflyWings 22-25, F 20 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    Too Good To Go Too Bad To Stay.The Most Helpful Info From This Book.

    I have nearly finished this book and followed a blog on the net which outlined the essential questions to ask yourself. I just wanted to share this blogs link and recommend that people who are struggling read buy the complete book for your own sanity to discover where you really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    You know what's lame?

    People who think that it's socially acceptable to ask why you haven't had kids yet. What the hell, who's business is that? I've been married a year and a half, I'm twenty two years old, and I work in the same building as my husband so we have entirely too many mutual...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the

    man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing wrong with the marriage. Sure he avoids every serious conversation I've ever tried to have with him, he's terrible at communication, and he leaves...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    How Do I Tell Him?

    I have had issues in my marriage for a while. My husband is emotionally abusive and is not invested in our marriage, and frankly, I am tired of it. Because of the lack of communication between us, I am done. He shows no interest in speaking to me without getting angry. He has...
    TryingToMatter TryingToMatter 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 27, 2013

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    We've been in counseling a couple weeks,

    and he already wants to quit. I didn't want to go in the first place, but I felt that after promising to spend my life with this man I owed it to him to try. Now we've gone in and explained to a stranger how I'm unhappy and considering leaving, and my husband is wanting to make...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    I'm Scared To Divorce And Scared Not To

    My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have two amazing sons aged 10 and 7. They are my life. My wife suffers from anxiety disorders. When she is on her medication, she is fine. The problem is that she can't be counted on to take her medication and when she doesn't she...
    ScarceGuy ScarceGuy 36-40 14 Responses Feb 2, 2012

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    I met my husband in our last year of high

    school; he was an attractive, intelligent, musician, I quickly fell in love. We became best friends which turned into a great relationship. He'd buy me flowers, play guitar for me, and we'd sit under the stars and look for shooting stars. About a year into our relationship my...
    aloneandbrokenhearted aloneandbrokenhearted 18-21 1 Response Jun 5

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    She's moving out this week.

    Yesterday was hard. It's going to be hard for a while.
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 2 Responses May 5

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    Just What I Thought

    I was starting to cave a little, backing down from filing for divorce tomorrow. My husband was pulling a dad-of-the-year day yesterday where he took pride in taking the boys to a craft workshop and read a bunch of books to help our youngest with his reading contest --all in a...
    runnermama runnermama 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 10, 2013

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    I'm recently married.

    My husband and I dated/lived together for 2 1/2 years and then tied the knot on Aug 1 2013. The wedding was beautiful..the honeymoon was fantastic. When we came home it was hell. We used to fight like normal people before we got married. The fighting we did after we got married...
    emilylwlr emilylwlr 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 4

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    My mind body and heart are done

    why don't my actions show it
    gmurph89 gmurph89 22-25, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    I m loosing hope that the marriage will get any

    better and am starting to plan an exit
    sum1ab sum1ab 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    He makes me feel irrelevant.

    He makes me feel insecure. He makes me feel stupid. I should have known when we had sex for the first time. There was no rigorous sensation that went through my body, it was like an outer body experience, I remember thinking "Man, it is hella cold in this room". Ever since...
    ShyBubble ShyBubble 18-21, F 3 Responses May 2

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    I was raised to believe that

    if you're unhappy in marriage you deal with it, find a way to fix it if you can, but you don't ever quit. It was weakness, or laziness I suppose. People legitimately looked down on others for divorce in my family.. Unless it was abuse, or adultery, once you said vows you were...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I know in my heart I cannot go on like this.

    ..with him. I'm hesitant to walk away from the only thing I've known for the last 15 years...
    secretsnvrtobetold secretsnvrtobetold 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I Don't Love My Wife

    M and I have been married for more than 10 years. M is kind, shy, loving and gets along with my family. But I don't love her. For some reason, I can't. One Sunday morning in February of last year, I was frustrated and blurted out that I thought we should end the marriage. That...
    nospam nospam 36-40, M 37 Responses Jan 7, 2008

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    I am getting a divorce from a man I was with

    for 32 years. He secretly cheated on me for over 3 years and charged up credit cards with my name on them without my permission to the limit. I am trying to get over hating him. He is with his mistress now the woman who tore my family apart. She abandoned her children to live...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23

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    I don't want to be married anymore.

    I'm trying to take it slowly, really make sure I'm making the right decision, not do anything rash.. but it hits me sometimes. Not a big thought out epiphany, not even really anything I can put into words, but just a suffocating wave of depression at the thought of being here...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 21

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    Nothing is changing, I'm still stuck I'm this

    rut. And he's convinced things can get better but I'm just so tired.. The thing that is so hard right now is that physical contact is such a challenge for me. He needs it, craves it, and it makes me so uncomfortable. We haven't ever had a sex life we were both happy with.. he...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response May 7

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    Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

    My wife and I have been struggling for about three years. We have 3 young boys which I love. My wife and I have been going to counseling but cannot settle are differences. She believes me to be alcoholic, so I quit drinking. I stopped hanging out with my friends and now she has...
    Shupp Shupp 36-40 Jan 11, 2013

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    I remember watching Oprah years ago & listening

    to pitiful wives going through divorce & feeling so lost because they had been stay at home moms the entire marriage. Some had never balanced a checkbook! I now feel their pain. Fortunately, though, I handle the finances...at least those he tells me about. I pay the bills, but...
    Jublue Jublue 51-55, F 2 Responses Aug 3

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    My Soon to be x took our joint credit cards

    and charged them up to the hilt. He had the bills sent to his new residence and refused to cancel them. Since I was not the primary card holder I could not cancel them. Now my credit rating has dropped because he will not pay on them. Our divorce decree says he is responsible...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 1

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