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I Think I Want a Divorce

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    We had another "talk" last night.

    It dragged on for 3 hours and nothing got accomplished. He knows I'm only staying to try and work it out because of the kids. I told him I don't know if he can ever say or do anything to make me love him the way I used to. I'm no longer loving blind and can't forget all the hurt...
    unhappilyeverafter1977 unhappilyeverafter1977 31-35, F 31 Responses Feb 20

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    Another Pleasant Saturday Night

    So here I sit typing away on my computer as my wife sleeps. It's 10:30 but I'm sure she was asleep by 9:30. This is how our weekends go. No TV together, little talking, no companionship of any kind. The same as weeknights. I guess she is preparing for life after 70. The...
    Daddyo8910 Daddyo8910 46-50, M 22 Responses May 11, 2013

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    We Have Been Married For Almost Two Months Now....

    ProsHe cooks, he cleans,  he brings home free food, and pays half the rent.ConsHe's a jerk.  He stares at other women.  He flirts a lot.  He does not hear me when I talk, but takes advice from other women.  He called me a bad name.  He cannot get / keep it up when we make...
    Yohanna Yohanna 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    I left my wife yesterday

    for my OW, but I went back today. Nothing has changed for me, but I realize that I can't just **** on my family and walk out. I still think my marriage has a shelf life, but I need to let it play out as it will. If our marriage ends, it will be the right way, not because I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 8

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    This week we did, I think,

    our fourth counseling session. My W told the counselor she is finding the sessions 'highly negative'. She is upset because things are getting worse, not better. Now, this is of course after we were warned (in our first session) that in counseling, things get worse before...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 3 Responses May 20

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    I have a husband who doesn't take care of

    himself or our family. I am currently medically disabled from my type 1 diabetes without his emotional or physical support. We have three beautiful children. Not sure what to do right now and not sure what I want hm to do. I may be asking too much or expecting too much but, he...
    Smuch72 Smuch72 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    Divorced women: Did you have better luck with a

    male or female lawyer? Men, you can chime in, but I was trying to tailor my experience. Thanks for your help.
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 8 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    I'm Scared To Divorce And Scared Not To

    My wife and I have been married for 11 years and have two amazing sons aged 10 and 7. They are my life. My wife suffers from anxiety disorders. When she is on her medication, she is fine. The problem is that she can't be counted on to take her medication and when she doesn't she...
    ScarceGuy ScarceGuy 36-40 13 Responses Feb 2, 2012

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    All his verbal abuse is really starting to make

    divorce look so good right now even though I'll be alone and broke
    sp7799 sp7799 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 11

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    No I don't think I want.

    I am positively sure about it. After 13 years of marriage, of which the most part in silent pain, I am beginning to feel I am drowning and I can't take it amymore. It's just I can't find the strength to do it. I know she doesn't want us to break up, despite the fact that we have...
    andy7rs andy7rs 31-35, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I never really feel an overwhelming sense of,

    "this is going to work, we're gonna make it, it will all be great!" Sad, but it is what it is. That being said, I do occasionally fall into lapses of, "I'm too tired to care, just don't wanna think about it, it's whatever," during which I hear myself telling him I just don't...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    I go back and forth on the subject.

    There's just too many factors involved. It's just not about me.
    Booksaremypassion Booksaremypassion 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 21, 2014

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    I do not see our situation improving & I have

    no desire to stay, even if he did change. How do you start the process? We fight constantly. "Divorce" has been thrown around in arguments frequently for a year or so. Do I talk to him first and give him fair warning? Do I just sneak behind his back & file for separation? file...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2014

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    I'm getting tired of always being his lower

    priority. Our daughter and I have been put last in many occasions, for example today I had to work late. I called him to ask if he could pick up baby from daycare and he said no that I should figure it out myself since he already had plans with his friends. He ended up picking...
    dallastxbride12 dallastxbride12 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Nothing is changing, I'm still stuck I'm this

    rut. And he's convinced things can get better but I'm just so tired.. The thing that is so hard right now is that physical contact is such a challenge for me. He needs it, craves it, and it makes me so uncomfortable. We haven't ever had a sex life we were both happy with.. he...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response May 7, 2014

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    I'm 38, disabled wife is 48,

    I'm emotionally divorced, lonely, poor, but have 3 kids so it's my duty to stay, but unhappily? IDK what to do!
    jgoffe10 jgoffe10 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 8

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    He read my diary where I wrote about wanting to

    be with someone else. (As an idea not an actual person.) He tries to sayn that's why he suspects me of cheating. I'm so angry. what's an appropriate response? im carrying my diary in my car glove box now...
    ariuri1 ariuri1 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 6

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    It's funny. My wife is

    now doing things that I craved for years. Now that I'm thinking of leaving. I know fair has nothing to do with it, but it's not fair. I've been rationed to sex every week and a half for years, now she wants it every night. But she doesn't really want it, she just wants to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 4

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    This subject has been brought up a lot in my

    "marriage" & I've been married for nearly 19 years. The past few years our relationship has deteriorated to a point where I don't think it is even salvageable. I've always said I'm staying for my kids ( my youngest son in particular) he's 10 and I have been afraid of how a...
    Lovinu0429 Lovinu0429 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 6

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    I was raised to believe that

    if you're unhappy in marriage you deal with it, find a way to fix it if you can, but you don't ever quit. It was weakness, or laziness I suppose. People legitimately looked down on others for divorce in my family.. Unless it was abuse, or adultery, once you said vows you were...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    I am getting a divorce from a man I was with

    for 32 years. He secretly cheated on me for over 3 years and charged up credit cards with my name on them without my permission to the limit. I am trying to get over hating him. He is with his mistress now the woman who tore my family apart. She abandoned her children to live...
    greyeye greyeye 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I really do,because after all my efforts

    for the past 4 1/2 years ,talking ,pleading and begging for things to get better,i have to come to terms,this will not work.I try to talk to this man,and he turns the tv louder so i can't be heard.I drink wine at night,because of the pain i feel,he calls me a drunk *****,i don't...
    1prettygirl 1prettygirl 36-40, F 35 Responses Jan 27

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    He agreed to move out

    for an extended time. Finally. God please make it stick.
    stufy stufy 46-50 1 Response May 22

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    I have been married for thirteen years today

    and I think I want a divorce. Of the 13 years we maybe have a total of 2 years of happiness. I love her but as a friend. She has told me she does not love me sometimes and sometimes she loves me but not like she used to. We are great friends and I don't want to lose that. I...
    Geekkillington Geekkillington 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    My wife has emotionally abused me

    for 9 years. It took me a long time to be able to put words on why I felt justified by saying she has abused me. Before I started feeling justified, I couldn't put a finger on examples of her abuse that would help people understand what I was going through. I just had an...
    ChasingTheDreams ChasingTheDreams 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 15

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    Too Good To Go Too Bad To Stay.The Most Helpful Info From This Book.

    I have nearly finished this book and followed a blog on the net which outlined the essential questions to ask yourself. I just wanted to share this blogs link and recommend that people who are struggling read buy the complete book for your own sanity to discover where you really...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Apr 22, 2013

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    I'm half way out the door.

    .. We've been married for 6 and I haven't been faithful at all .... At first it was a quiet mistress where we only had encounters every 4-6 months to blow off the steam ... The last year, I've been dating this other woman who now, I can say I'm in love with. It's come to the...
    mechs mechs 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Divorce With Grace

    From today's DailyOm.com: Divorce With Grace March 20, 2008 A Life-Altering Decision Like the act of marriage that binds two people together, divorce is the result of a life-altering decision. It is the dissolving of a relationship that we believed would last our whole lives...
    noexcuses noexcuses 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 20, 2008

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    Why is it so hard to take

    that next step??? I've been married 19 years and have 2 little kiddos. I know I don't love my spouse anymore but tried to justify staying with him for the children. He has a personality disorder (narcissism) and I cannot stand him. I know I need to take the next step, but I...
    lookingtovent2 lookingtovent2 41-45, F 4 Responses May 19

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    but I'm scared. I tell myself

    if my life was a movie and I was the watcher then I'd tell my character to leave. I also tell myself to not let fear decide my fate... here I am stuck in fear. I have 2 boys and u want them to have a "real" man for a role model. I don't want them to be like him.
    Ssaunders95 Ssaunders95 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    We've talked about it

    so much, he's adamantly opposed to the idea and I feel like a terrible person for thinking it. We've set an appointment with a marriage counselor, but it's a couple weeks away. I feel like I'm drowning. I find myself packing his things in my mind. Is that horrible? We've...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    I don't know where else to turn!

    I want to separate from my spouse but don't know how since we live at a military base overseas and I have no income. I need some advice, any advice. I don't have any family members that my kids and I can stay with. What should I do? He should said to me to prove that I am...
    KelsiMonroe KelsiMonroe 26-30, F 1 Response May 1

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    Have Been Thinking About It For Years

    Yes, it's true. I've been married 7 years and have thought of divorcing my wife for at least the last 4 years. It's just that when things are bad, they are REALLY bad. I don't blame her entirely; I admit I am partly to blame. You see, we both have bad tempers, though I think...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 10 Responses Dec 21, 2010

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    Ouch!!! It's been 22 years of torture being

    married to a man that just doesn't know how to treat a woman. Words just cannot express the pain of being tied to someone who has no respect. I'm so tired of living in this clueless man's world. Prayers and positive thoughts are all I have tonight. Tomorrow is a new day...
    livingasme livingasme 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    So....I guess I'm writing on here

    because I want a divorce and my husband doesn't. We've been together for 11 years, married for 7 and have a wonderful 6 yr old son. The problem?? My husband is a drug addict. He has been through rehab 3 times, once while we were dating and twice when we were married. His choice...
    Ultravioletgrrl Ultravioletgrrl 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2014

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    Little did I realize

    that I married somebody with serious anger issues. We have been in counseling for a month; things have been rocky for quite some time. She spent the week trying really hard to be kind and warm and friendly. Then, this morning when she got up we were out of milk. So she had...
    DeepXP DeepXP 36-40 3 Responses May 15

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    How am I supposed to pick out a Valentine's Day

    card for a man I'm not sure I love anymore?
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 13

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    Want to leave my husband.

    But don't know where to start. We're living in another country while he works here for the Military. Instead of going back to my home state I want to have a fresh start in a new state. The problem with this is, I have never been to this state. Not sure how living there is going...
    allibabe808 allibabe808 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    My husband and I had

    yet another dramatic, drawn out argument this morning and it let to him getting too angry and ripping the father's day card I gave him up and threw the pieces at my face. I cried forever I was so upset. Then we both said horrible things to each other, both got so angry we cried...
    AmayaHoo AmayaHoo 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    2 hours of verbal and emotional abuse.

    2 draining hours. 16 years of verbal and emotional abuse. 16 draining years. 16 years of trying to be better for him, realizing that if it hasn't happened by now it never will. He's so so so angry now. I have to stay strong. I'm afraid but I need to remember the way he hurts...
    ClearlyLucid ClearlyLucid 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I was planning on leaving my wife

    for another woman. I've been working up to it but it's hard. Now the OW is fed up and wants out because sh just can't do this anymore. I get it. My wife knows we're in trouble so now she's trying to be everything I want, but it's not real. It won't last. If I wasn't such a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 22

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    Its strange how you go down a path

    and you think its right only to realize after 27 years, it probably wasn't the best decision. And it definitely wasn't the worst you could have made. I've been married since I was 19 coming up on 27 years and I find myself wondering every day if this is where I want to be. My...
    Losingmycompassion Losingmycompassion 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I just don't know where to go from here.

    My wife knows I want out, but every time we walk up to that edge I start panicking and pulling back. I must be insane. Or just plain scared. I don't want to leave my whole life behind, but how can I stay married to a woman I'm not in love with? There is another woman...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 28

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    So it's been a year since I asked

    for a divorce. I guess he's trying but what if he's just not capable of meeting my needs? It's not anyone's fault but it doesn't change the fact that I'm not happy. He is. So the guilt sets in. How can I leave if I made this commitment and I'm the only one that isn't satisfied...
    deleted deleted 26-30 11 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    My mind body and heart are done

    why don't my actions show it
    gmurph89 gmurph89 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    I did it, I left. Not how I wanted it to go,

    but I was out of options. I don't know where to go from here or what happens now, but I left.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 7

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