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I Think Infidelity In Marriage Is Wrong

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    Wedding Vows Are Covenant With God

    People who cheat once they are married have a lot of control issues. It is wrong to stand before a church/Justice of the Peace/Rabbi/Priest/Pastor to confess your love for your mate and then find someone else to be intimate with. People do not realize they are making a covenant...
    Micayla Micayla 61-65, F 9 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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    hasinalady hasinalady 46-50, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Thoughts On Marriage And Divorce

    After much thought I have come to the conclusion marriages are harder to keep together now more than ever. I have been married and divorced going against all I believe in. I fought the divorce for a long time not wanting it, trying to find out what went wrong. And looking back...
    Khusn11 Khusn11 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I was married to a man

    for 25 years who suddenly put of no where decided he wanted to have fun and was tired of taking care me and his son.. Lied for a year about a relationship with a co worker and made everyone believe I was the crazy one. Still trying to fix the damage toy self eateeem
    Drm35670 Drm35670 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    This Is My Opinion... Everyone Is Tempted

    Even though you stand before God and your family and make this commitment and even if you're a Christian you can be tempted. You can be tempted to judge someone, to lie to a friend, to cheat on a test, or just about any temptation you can be susceptible to fall short. We all do...
    Matchless Matchless 41-45 1 Response Oct 4, 2008

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    Cheating Can Have Lasting Effects On Everyone Involved....

    I have been with the same man for 11 years, and I knew before I married him 3 years ago that he was a cheater.  We have kids together, and I really wanted to believe that he had made a change.  Well he didn't, and he continued to cheat on me even though we...
    SunnyGirl407 SunnyGirl407 26-30 3 Responses Nov 29, 2010

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    I will never ever be the other woman.

    It's not fair to the other person. If you're unhappy in a relationship just end the relationship. It hurts less than being betrayed. Plus if you end the relationship before pursuing someone else, the other person won't have a legit excuse for slashing your tires or any other...
    keishajo keishajo 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 17

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    Is Worth Another Try?

    After I found out that my husband is having an affair with his previous co-worker, my husband been communicating with me to ask for an apology and he made a mistake according to him, it goes way to far and he was wrong hurting me like that. After being ignored, took for granted...
    imsolow imsolow 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Double back stab, never been hurt

    so much like this I know that I'm not married yet (and now I doubt I will for some time) but I'm currently engaged to a guy. I am 28 and he's 27. We will walk down to the aisle in two months had his affair wasn't revealed. If he just had an affair with some woman I don't know I...
    Necrogirl27 Necrogirl27 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 12

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    Either Your In It Or Your Not

    I don't believe in cheating, especially when your married.  You take vows to your spouse, to love them and be faithful till death do you part, if your not up to that commitment don't make it. Think seriously about it before deciding, because when infidelity happens many...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 7, 2009

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    My Dad Was A Cheater

    My dad has been cheating on my mom for a VERY long time. Even before I was born, he was doing that. I remember my little sister who is 4 years younger than me and I kinda picked up on it when we were very young. Around the time when I was 11 or 12, I started finding...
    jennywawa88 jennywawa88 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 20, 2010

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    My Wifes Infidelity

    I've been reading through various blogs trying to understand what happened over the last six months that is ending a 19 year relationship with my wife. It wasn't until my wife told me that she was having an affair with a co worker (9 years younger) that I understood what was...
    TampaBill1 TampaBill1 46-50, M 7 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Any females wanna come skype

    or watch me on skype and make me their slave ,?
    iambored4u iambored4u 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 23

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    I Think Infidelity In Marriage Is Wrong.

    I personaly think infidelity is hands down wrong with out any excuses. The sad part is that people often get into marriage without fully understanding what it means and represents. When you say youre vows " for better or for worse" i think that should be carried through...
    applescruffs applescruffs 22-25, F 9 Responses May 27, 2009

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    My Husband Had An O R G A S M And Did Not E J A C U L A T E.

    My husband and did not have sex for about 3 days. When we finally did, I felt he had an o r g a s m but did not e j a c u l a t e. I wiped and did not notice any s e m e n, but I let it go that night because I was too tired and sleepy. I figured I would feel it when I...
    pinklady40 pinklady40 36-40, F 13 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    Why Do I Feel So Out Of Control During My Divorce?

    It was 02:30 in the morning, I was on my third glass of wine and hadn’t eaten in 3 days. I had been in my pyjamas for 36 hours straight and chain smoked 40 cigarettes (AND I don’t even smoke!)There was a pile of laundry on the couch waiting to be ironed, used tissues...
    nakeddivorce nakeddivorce 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 26, 2011

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    We have not been intimate

    for 3 yeArs we have loads of problems we dont kiss we dnt hug we dnt sleep in the sMe room but that doesnt mean either one of us want to be unfaithful that is no wAy to work your problems out. We go to counceling raise our kids together under the same roof have meals together...
    jennaveivea jennaveivea 36-40, F Aug 28

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    Please Don't Marry Me If You Still Want To Play The Field

    I don't think people should get married if they can't stay committed to the other person. It causes so much hurt. Not only is the spouse hurt, but so are the kids, and extended family. All because of the selfish act(s) of one person. Trust is broken and may never be repaired for...
    diggingout diggingout 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2012

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    But then monogamy is something incomprehensible

    to some! It is a foreign idea based on social cohesion, but these days it is unnecessary because of national identity. Disease and fear of it is the main control over the polygamy of the majority, but what is worse? Lying to a spouse or living a lie with a spouse?
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 6

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    Marriage Requires Fidelity!

    Marriage may be outdated, I don't know. I am in favor of it, and think any two people should marry if they choose. But marriage requires fidelity! Without that basic trust that he is devoted to you and can control himself there is no reason to be married. Marriage may not be...
    msfeminist msfeminist 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23, 2012

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    It Disgusts Me

    and I fear it. It defeats the purpose of committing yourself to someone. You become friends, you date, you love each other, and if you so choose (that's right, it's your own choice), you decide to make your commitment "official." (whatever that means) It's an extra step of...
    MidKnightStorm13 MidKnightStorm13 22-25, F May 8, 2013

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    Advice Or Opinion - Make Sense?

    A man or woman is only infidel when the marriage isn't right, right? So why put yourself in a place where you are discomforted? It is simple, before you go about cheating on your significant other think about what brought the two of you together in the first place and why you...
    cheddarc2020 cheddarc2020 18-21, F Mar 23, 2011

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    When I get married, I will poke no other nose

    (with my elbow) but the one I am married to.
    elbowtonosecontact elbowtonosecontact 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Even in a general relationship.

    If he or she cheated on someone to be with you, I don't think I can trust them to be faithful to me. I know there are always exceptions to the rule but I'm still wary of those who have cheated. I've been cheated on, and I've had been on the other side where they've told me they...
    Xeniabolton Xeniabolton 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    highsandblues highsandblues 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    I really wonder why,

    and more importantly, HOW, could anyone ever think infidielty can ever be ok in marriage? Nevertheless, if that's people's choices, we got to respect it, yes? I would go bonkers if I know my hub did any sort of such, and same goes with my hub :)
    enragedmisfit enragedmisfit 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Recently I stumbled on a situation

    that disturbed me. My wife and I work together and I noticed she would do a little dance every time a certain individual was present. I dismissed it at first thinking that she was just happy that day. After a while I noticed that it occurred every time he was around. A short...
    Jackal208 Jackal208 56-60, M 2 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Never Going To Happen.....

    My husband and I have been married two years and together 7. We aren't perfect, we have are disagreements and fights. We also have wonderful moments and times together, which is worth every fight. My husband has been cheated on by previous partners, so he always has that fear...
    BrownEyedGirl09 BrownEyedGirl09 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Well my marriage will officially be over this

    time tomorrow. My ex is getting on a plan to Japan for his new duty station and jettisoning out of my life. I don't know if his girlfriend is going with him or not, but I do know that I won't miss his cheating lying a$$. I know my daughter will miss him at first, but that will...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    Swingers. Bi in open marriage.

    Crapperheads. Am bi. But respect marriage. Disgusted by them that dont. Marriage is lifelong. Not some tax or housing perk. Fok. Why is it disrespected. Society must be crazier than me.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 6

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    To Be Honest...

    ...I think its pretty much always wrong.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 13 Responses Sep 20, 2008

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    Adultery

    The word in the bible that the Lord uses is adultery. It is also one of Gods commandments and should not be taken lightly. He gave it to us for a reason and that was so we would obey his wishes if we wanted happy and  loyal marriages. Adultery is a sin in his eyes and ...
    RESCUE RESCUE 61-65, F 9 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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    Wayyyy wrong. Fokyn sixties had a huge flaw.

    Wife swapping. Or was that seventies. Today bisexuals marry then say they can go be bisexual. Today marriage is for fiscal perks. Common law exists but has no cash perks. Am sad that i cant marry. But glad that i respect it more than peers.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 13

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    In about 60 days I will have my one year

    anniversary to my husband. From the moment I met him I knew I would marry him, we fell head over heels in love. He is my everything. Four days ago, was the worst day of my life. I found out my husband has a sex addiction by looking through the history on his computer. I have...
    awillaway1 awillaway1 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 11

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    I'm Trying...

    I recently discovered that my husband cheated on me. I believe it when people say its the most heart wrenching thing imaginable. I have to admit I was quite blind-sighted by it. I never EVER thought he'd do that since he himself had been the victim of an unfaithful person as...
    Aceanator Aceanator 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 14, 2009

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    This Isnt Exactly A Story

    think of your kids, at least. get a divorce
    DebraNiomie DebraNiomie 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 21, 2012

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    If you do not want to be faithful in your

    marriage, then you should just divorce and start a new relationship. It's simple... there is no need to hurt your spouse.
    sweeteveryday sweeteveryday 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    What To Do Now

    In 2010 my wife sister had an affair watching the outcome I told my wife's sister she opened a door in my wife's head thinking it'll be alright everyone will forgive needless to say within a couple months my wife started having an affair found out by text messages in the middle...
    Brocks0815 Brocks0815 26-30 May 31, 2012

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    echoalpha echoalpha 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    YET I ALSO ADMIT THAT THERE ARE ACCEPTABLE

    REASONS THOUGH THEY ARE FEW AND FAR BETWEEN. WHAT DO YOU THINK SUCH REASONS ARE?
    imgreywlf imgreywlf 56-60, M 3 Responses Jul 16

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    My Cheating Wife

    I always believed in the whole marriage experience. I believed that the marriage vows were sacred, that it was a bond between two people who not only loved each other but trusted and respected each other. My wife was, or so I thought a kind, caring person. I watched how she...
    pirage79 pirage79 31-35, M 12 Responses Mar 13, 2012

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    Wandering Heart

    I was married close to 22 years the first time.In the beginning it was a great relationship.We started having kids first a girl then 3 years later a boy.Our son was extremely active so I was starting to have my hands full.Thank God for preschool.We had moved from an apt.to a town...
    doneitagain doneitagain 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    He's Been Unfaithful Multiple Times, And Yes, I'm Still Trying To Fix It

    In our relationship these are some of the things my husband has done to cheat -caught on multiple dating sites with sexual pictures on them - had foreplay with another girl on our first dating anniversary while I was at work -pushed me off of him during sex to have sexual...
    nelliebum nelliebum 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2013

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    I Dont Know What To Do. Is It My Fault?

      Hello Everyone. Im hoping someone has a similiar experience as this.About a year ago I started to resent my wife for things that I shouldnt have. We were stretched financially and I felt that whatever I said didnt matter but whatever someone else said did. I started to get...
    sirclizz sirclizz 41-45, M 9 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    You Took a Vow

    I think infidelity is wrong in general, but in marriage I think maybe it's a bit worse. If you're just dating someone and you cheat, you broke a trust but when you're married the bond goes so much deeper. You took a vow, you said this is the only person I want to be with for the...
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08 26-30 1 Response Mar 7, 2009

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    What To Do Now

    In 2010 my wife sister had an affair watching the outcome I told my wife's sister she opened a door in my wife's head thinking it'll be alright everyone will forgive needless to say within a couple months my wife started having an affair found out by text messages in the middle...
    Brocks0815 Brocks0815 26-30 1 Response May 31, 2012

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    I Think My Marriage Is Really Over...

    I have been married for 2 years now. We have been together for a total of 6 years. Before we took those all important vows, and said those 2 little words, our relationship was perfect. Everyone around us could just see how much in love we were, always asking, "So when's the big...
    luvlost09 luvlost09 26-30, F 9 Responses May 27, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I know my marriage is in trouble, just not sure what to think of it anymore. My wife just doesn't seem to care about anything that I care about. She has cheated on me more...
    fishin4eyes fishin4eyes 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 8

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    Married for one year this September. My wife told me she felt like she made the biggest mistake of her life when she married me. She told me she would have married just about...
    crono84 crono84 26-30, M Aug 27

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    Last year I went to visit a friend in guam we then went to tinian I discovered the bomb pit where the A bombs dropped on japan were loaded on the Boeing B29 bombers at runway able...
    graciadivi graciadivi 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Just think, if marriage was a 5 yr license. and after your 5 yrs you either renew it or move on, no questions asked. Now if you wanted to keep it together for another 5 yrs then...
    wrench4wench wrench4wench 56-60, M 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    Just had it out again with Lucy. Wether its desperation to save her status or our marriage I'm unsure. Reset sex or heartfelt change who can tell. But with every effort she makes I...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm new here. I've been reading stories and honestly felt better that I wasn't alone. I'm angry about my marriage. I feel like I could write a book called 101 reasons why I don't...
    silvermoonflower silvermoonflower 31-35, F 14 Responses