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I Think Infidelity In Marriage Is Wrong

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    Save one instance. If the spouse is not

    taking care of their children, if they're not willing to communicate with you, if you can't divorce them due to you having to pay amnesty on their sorry ***, they don't appreciate or respect you nor your children, they don't want to go therapy,.......then I believe you should...
    VainGoddess VainGoddess 22-25, F Oct 14

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    Marriage Requires Fidelity!

    Marriage may be outdated, I don't know. I am in favor of it, and think any two people should marry if they choose. But marriage requires fidelity! Without that basic trust that he is devoted to you and can control himself there is no reason to be married. Marriage may not be...
    msfeminist msfeminist 51-55, F 3 Responses May 23, 2012

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    My Wifes Infidelity

    I've been reading through various blogs trying to understand what happened over the last six months that is ending a 19 year relationship with my wife. It wasn't until my wife told me that she was having an affair with a co worker (9 years younger) that I understood what was...
    TampaBill1 TampaBill1 46-50, M 7 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    I believe this statement wholeheartedly however

    in a marriage there needs to balance of love and intimacy and so many other things. We can't always be what our spouse hopes for or may have been in the past but not now!!
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 22

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    Please Don't Marry Me If You Still Want To Play The Field

    I don't think people should get married if they can't stay committed to the other person. It causes so much hurt. Not only is the spouse hurt, but so are the kids, and extended family. All because of the selfish act(s) of one person. Trust is broken and may never be repaired for...
    diggingout diggingout 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2012

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    But then monogamy is something incomprehensible

    to some! It is a foreign idea based on social cohesion, but these days it is unnecessary because of national identity. Disease and fear of it is the main control over the polygamy of the majority, but what is worse? Lying to a spouse or living a lie with a spouse?
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 6

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    Advice Or Opinion - Make Sense?

    A man or woman is only infidel when the marriage isn't right, right? So why put yourself in a place where you are discomforted? It is simple, before you go about cheating on your significant other think about what brought the two of you together in the first place and why you...
    cheddarc2020 cheddarc2020 18-21, F Mar 23, 2011

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    I would be lying if I said I've never struggled.

    The first 2 years of marriage can be tough, especially having married at a young age without having dated many guys. Lucky for me, the issue was resolved before it became a real problem. Satan wants to get in the middle of Christian marriages and have them destroyed. And the...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    My Cheating Wife

    I always believed in the whole marriage experience. I believed that the marriage vows were sacred, that it was a bond between two people who not only loved each other but trusted and respected each other. My wife was, or so I thought a kind, caring person. I watched how she...
    pirage79 pirage79 31-35, M 12 Responses Mar 13, 2012

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    It is so dammm wrong.

    Just ask yours truly, my broken and reeling children and the carnage of relationships that have been left in the wake of our dying marriage. Ugh
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 12

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    YET I ALSO ADMIT THAT THERE ARE ACCEPTABLE

    REASONS THOUGH THEY ARE FEW AND FAR BETWEEN. WHAT DO YOU THINK SUCH REASONS ARE?
    imgreywlf imgreywlf 56-60, M 3 Responses Jul 16

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    Why Do I Feel So Out Of Control During My Divorce?

    It was 02:30 in the morning, I was on my third glass of wine and hadn’t eaten in 3 days. I had been in my pyjamas for 36 hours straight and chain smoked 40 cigarettes (AND I don’t even smoke!)There was a pile of laundry on the couch waiting to be ironed, used tissues...
    nakeddivorce nakeddivorce 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 26, 2011

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    If you do not want to be faithful in your

    marriage, then you should just divorce and start a new relationship. It's simple... there is no need to hurt your spouse.
    sweeteveryday sweeteveryday 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 2

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    I don't understand why people stay in an

    unhappy relationship, or why they don't do everything in their power to make it better. Infidelity seems like the deepest dishonesty I can imagine, and the deepest selfishness. To my mind, the choices in an unhappy relationship include: committing to giving healing 100% effort...
    lovevolves8 lovevolves8 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    This Is My Opinion... Everyone Is Tempted

    Even though you stand before God and your family and make this commitment and even if you're a Christian you can be tempted. You can be tempted to judge someone, to lie to a friend, to cheat on a test, or just about any temptation you can be susceptible to fall short. We all do...
    Matchless Matchless 41-45 1 Response Oct 4, 2008

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    Adultery

    The word in the bible that the Lord uses is adultery. It is also one of Gods commandments and should not be taken lightly. He gave it to us for a reason and that was so we would obey his wishes if we wanted happy and  loyal marriages. Adultery is a sin in his eyes and ...
    RESCUE RESCUE 61-65, F 9 Responses Sep 19, 2008

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    Any females wanna come skype

    or watch me on skype and make me their slave ,?
    iambored4u iambored4u 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 23

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    I really wonder why,

    and more importantly, HOW, could anyone ever think infidielty can ever be ok in marriage? Nevertheless, if that's people's choices, we got to respect it, yes? I would go bonkers if I know my hub did any sort of such, and same goes with my hub :)
    enragedmisfit enragedmisfit 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Wayyyy wrong. Fokyn sixties had a huge flaw.

    Wife swapping. Or was that seventies. Today bisexuals marry then say they can go be bisexual. Today marriage is for fiscal perks. Common law exists but has no cash perks. Am sad that i cant marry. But glad that i respect it more than peers.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 13

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    I'm Trying...

    I recently discovered that my husband cheated on me. I believe it when people say its the most heart wrenching thing imaginable. I have to admit I was quite blind-sighted by it. I never EVER thought he'd do that since he himself had been the victim of an unfaithful person as...
    Aceanator Aceanator 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 14, 2009

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 24

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    In about 60 days I will have my one year

    anniversary to my husband. From the moment I met him I knew I would marry him, we fell head over heels in love. He is my everything. Four days ago, was the worst day of my life. I found out my husband has a sex addiction by looking through the history on his computer. I have...
    awillaway1 awillaway1 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 11

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    Think irrespective of gender bias,

    and more in proximity to your most trusted faiths! In a nutshell, the crux of the entire content is self-control and true compatibility. That which is adorable, pious, most precious if cannot be given, should not be touched. Those that relished from the bestest (exceptions...
    Elitevenkat8kashyap Elitevenkat8kashyap 36-40, M Sep 19

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    Swingers. Bi in open marriage.

    Crapperheads. Am bi. But respect marriage. Disgusted by them that dont. Marriage is lifelong. Not some tax or housing perk. Fok. Why is it disrespected. Society must be crazier than me.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 6

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    echoalpha echoalpha 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    Recently I stumbled on a situation

    that disturbed me. My wife and I work together and I noticed she would do a little dance every time a certain individual was present. I dismissed it at first thinking that she was just happy that day. After a while I noticed that it occurred every time he was around. A short...
    Jackal208 Jackal208 56-60, M 2 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I Think Infidelity In Marriage Is Wrong.

    I personaly think infidelity is hands down wrong with out any excuses. The sad part is that people often get into marriage without fully understanding what it means and represents. When you say youre vows " for better or for worse" i think that should be carried through...
    applescruffs applescruffs 22-25, F 9 Responses May 27, 2009

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    Even in a general relationship.

    If he or she cheated on someone to be with you, I don't think I can trust them to be faithful to me. I know there are always exceptions to the rule but I'm still wary of those who have cheated. I've been cheated on, and I've had been on the other side where they've told me they...
    Xeniabolton Xeniabolton 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    To cheat on your spouse whose love has been

    blessed by God is to to mock Him. It is curse Him and spit in His face. I should know because I came oh so close. But the man or woman who is married to you needs to know that you will do anything within your power to create as harmonious and healthy home as possible. And that...
    Nigel1224 Nigel1224 46-50, M Oct 21

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    When I get married, I will poke no other nose

    (with my elbow) but the one I am married to.
    elbowtonosecontact elbowtonosecontact 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 12

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    I Dont Know What To Do. Is It My Fault?

      Hello Everyone. Im hoping someone has a similiar experience as this.About a year ago I started to resent my wife for things that I shouldnt have. We were stretched financially and I felt that whatever I said didnt matter but whatever someone else said did. I started to get...
    sirclizz sirclizz 41-45, M 9 Responses Apr 11, 2012

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    I was married to a man

    for 25 years who suddenly put of no where decided he wanted to have fun and was tired of taking care me and his son.. Lied for a year about a relationship with a co worker and made everyone believe I was the crazy one. Still trying to fix the damage toy self eateeem
    Drm35670 Drm35670 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 24

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    You Took a Vow

    I think infidelity is wrong in general, but in marriage I think maybe it's a bit worse. If you're just dating someone and you cheat, you broke a trust but when you're married the bond goes so much deeper. You took a vow, you said this is the only person I want to be with for the...
    DelightfulBabe08 DelightfulBabe08 26-30 1 Response Mar 7, 2009

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    It's been a few days

    since me and my husband argued about the situation we had that involved another woman. And I feel crushed by the whole situation . We are both Christians and I don't know what to do or how to feel towards him. Any advice?
    Mrsflores0917 Mrsflores0917 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 21

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    Either Your In It Or Your Not

    I don't believe in cheating, especially when your married.  You take vows to your spouse, to love them and be faithful till death do you part, if your not up to that commitment don't make it. Think seriously about it before deciding, because when infidelity happens many...
    bellamomma bellamomma 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 7, 2009

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    Marry the person you love!

    If you stray from them, tell them. What of they cheated on you? Would you like it? It's all about communication, people. This is why America has a 50% divorce rate.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    I do hope you are not just defining

    "infidelity" in a sexual sense. . You can be sexually exclusive to each other, but never make any attempt to understand or help the other, always putting yourself or friends or family first. Is that emotional infidelity? . You can be absolutely devoted to each other, both...
    davyjo davyjo 51-55, M Sep 27

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    I think married or not it should not be allowed

    or accepted ! I don't believe in 2nd chances . U cheat an ur cut off . When u truly love some one u don't feel the need to b unfaithful 100 !!!
    ev23 ev23 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 14

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    Well my marriage will officially be over this

    time tomorrow. My ex is getting on a plan to Japan for his new duty station and jettisoning out of my life. I don't know if his girlfriend is going with him or not, but I do know that I won't miss his cheating lying a$$. I know my daughter will miss him at first, but that will...
    MelMel68 MelMel68 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    Never Going To Happen.....

    My husband and I have been married two years and together 7. We aren't perfect, we have are disagreements and fights. We also have wonderful moments and times together, which is worth every fight. My husband has been cheated on by previous partners, so he always has that fear...
    BrownEyedGirl09 BrownEyedGirl09 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 14, 2012

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    Double back stab, never been hurt

    so much like this I know that I'm not married yet (and now I doubt I will for some time) but I'm currently engaged to a guy. I am 28 and he's 27. We will walk down to the aisle in two months had his affair wasn't revealed. If he just had an affair with some woman I don't know I...
    Necrogirl27 Necrogirl27 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    We have not been intimate

    for 3 yeArs we have loads of problems we dont kiss we dnt hug we dnt sleep in the sMe room but that doesnt mean either one of us want to be unfaithful that is no wAy to work your problems out. We go to counceling raise our kids together under the same roof have meals together...
    jennaveivea jennaveivea 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    hasinalady hasinalady 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 1

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    To Be Honest...

    ...I think its pretty much always wrong.
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21 22-25, F 13 Responses Sep 20, 2008

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    I will never ever be the other woman.

    It's not fair to the other person. If you're unhappy in a relationship just end the relationship. It hurts less than being betrayed. Plus if you end the relationship before pursuing someone else, the other person won't have a legit excuse for slashing your tires or any other...
    keishajo keishajo 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 17

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    Related Experiences

    I know this would sound totally like I'm a hypocrite since I wanted to be more than friends with someone who's already married here. But honestly he's no interested and I've moved...
    SwanNual SwanNual 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 9

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    My wife and I are now in separate rooms, and she is talking like she will leave me as soon as she gets the chance. It's mainly because of money and our attitudes to it, but also...
    notgoingout notgoingout 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 5

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    People thinks I'm crazy about the way I see cheating. For me it starts since that person talk to someone else. They already have you,so,what are they looking for? The already have...
    HappyWife16 HappyWife16 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    me to If you are not happy then move on ! love is a serious and special thing that must not be abused but ye I really can't stand people cheating its very wrong
    Rossthayer Rossthayer 22-25, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    there's something I have to say to this, yes cheating is wrong, if you never ment to get into the relationship you have in the first place, instead of being with the one you really...
    Triss89 Triss89 26-30, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Daft when you think about it! Hard enough keeping one relationship going. But more than one??? At some point you have to be brave and either say.......this isn't working and I'm...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 5 days ago

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    But BUUUUUUT...... When the "DOG" is away , the "CAT" will "PLAY" . That's all I'm sayin. *smiling innocently with a halo over me" :)
    Gemma3sahara Gemma3sahara 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 5

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