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I Think It's Very Difficult to Think of Your Best Friend As a Lover

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    My Best Friend Is My Lover.&nb...

    My best friend is my lover.  Eric's been my best friend since the day I met him, and my lover for the past 2 years.  I think it would be more difficult to separate the two and think of him as only my best friend or only my lover.  He's my everything (but not in a...
    mandarose524 mandarose524 26-30, F Jun 8, 2007

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    Well Actually It Depends. ...

    Well actually it depends.  I dated my best friend for 6 years after we realized we meant more to each other.  It's just sad when it's finally over.  I think it's best not to think of your best friend as a lover sometimes.
    Bonjourchic Bonjourchic 26-30, F Jun 8, 2007

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    I became best friends with someone I

    was extremely attracted to. Once i really got to know him the infatuation wore off.. Now that we are so close I don't really think of him in that way anymore.... I really appreciate and feel lucky to have him as a best friend :)
    wildkittn wildkittn 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2014

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    Been There...done That.  ...

    Been there...done that.  I don't wanna get into that kind of situation again. 
    WandaFull27 WandaFull27 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2007

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    Best Friends But Not Lovers

    My best was never my lover,we just loved being nude and telling our deepest secrets. not that we didn't want to be intimate.We were interupted every time we tried.Had not seen each other for five years until recently.Now much different.
    wouldbe2 wouldbe2 56-60, M May 21, 2011

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    It's not only difficult.

    It's impossible. I recently came to this conclusion. However I'm talking about men/ women besties combinations. Once I accepted a guy as close as my own brother, I always saw him like a family relative. No chance to ever think of him in a different way. So I wouldn't ever flirt...
    MentallyVibrating MentallyVibrating 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 22, 2015

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    No I Don't Think So. ...

    No I don't think so. You're best friend is merely the closest person to you. The one true friend you can trust with anything you could possibly think of. You have no secrets from this person. A best friend can become a lover, you can have a best friend for years and then suddenly...
    Deyve Deyve 18-21, M Apr 10, 2007

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    That Would Have to Be An Absol...

    That would have to be an absolute possitive yes, since I think of my mom as my best friend!!  I live next to Arkansas, not in it! Puleese! EWWWWWWW!!
    emerald emerald 36-40, F Jan 17, 2007

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    I disagree here. I've known my best friend

    for something like five years. I've always loved him, but never known he felt anything for me. Now I do. Greatest thing that's ever happened to me. Thinking about it gives me goosebumps.
    Mjjim86 Mjjim86 26-30, M Mar 23, 2014

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    Actually I Do Think of My Best...

    Actually I do think of my best friend as my lover and we have had a wonderful time together online - I cant wait for the time when I have the opportunity to be with him in person
    sassywoman sassywoman 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2007

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    I Don't Have a Best Friend...

    I don't have a best friend now...never had a best friend that was female...I'd sure like to though
    ReformedAutomaton ReformedAutomaton 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 8, 2007

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    . . ...

    . . .  Well due to the fact my best friend is male and i'm a lesbian then i would say most DEFO!  . . .  But i have been in an awkward position where a best friend of mine and myself ended up in a heat of the moment experience then yes . . very difficult.
    vanillapert vanillapert 36-40, F Jan 17, 2007

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    I have a good friend who's friend kept asking me

    if I would go out with him or if I like him.... I don't know.... The good friend stopped talking to me at school but he'll still txt me like nothing's wrong.
    RedCatHunting RedCatHunting 18-21, F Mar 2, 2014

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    Yes It Is

    but when you have both in one person nothing is better
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Jun 10, 2011

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    Both

    Me & my best friend have known one another for about 5 years. & it took me 3 just to tell him I loved him! If your a honest best friend you can put your feelings to the side because they need you regardless to if y'all are dating or he's talking about another girl with you. I've...
    Lost4words1123 Lost4words1123 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10, 2007

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    At First

    at first thats what i thought but then i begin to see that we were ment to be more than just best friends.
    AnikiMomo AnikiMomo 18-21 2 Responses May 14, 2007

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    I Thought He Was My Best Friend Till He Left Me Behind..

    He was my ex....the greatest love I've experienced. But he left me behind - I understand people walk in and out of your life, but what if you are not ready to let them walk out..how do you cope? Specially when he was your best friend ....Ill let you know when I find out...
    Lika Lika 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 22, 2007

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    Because If Youve Got It Right ...

    because if youve got it right your best friend and your lover will be the same person
    pixiedust pixiedust 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2007

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    only Because My Best Friend...

    only because my best friend is a girl but i think many people end up loving their best friend
    hayleymeike hayleymeike 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10, 2007

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    I'm Split On That. ...

    I'm split on that. It could work, because you know each other so well, but you have the problem of being friends for so long, it might not work out.
    ladyabsinthe ladyabsinthe 16-17, F Jan 17, 2007

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    For Ages I Was In Love With My...

    For ages I was in love with my best friend (girl). Me and her were getting very close, but I didn't say anything and was waiting for me to. Then some other guy came and asked her out and she said yes instantly and only revealed to me afterwards that she was waiting for me to ask...
    themiget themiget 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 16, 2007

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    I lost my best friend last night. Once upon a time we had an affair, then we became just friends. After 2 years, it all comes to an end. My friend had become very close to...
    DesolateSoul64 DesolateSoul64 51-55 1 day ago

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    Ok, I will just rant about it, maybe I will even do it in spanish, so if you are not for a bilingual-poorly-written-rant-experience, please move along.... First of all I have to...
    Chris0691 Chris0691 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    To keep this a long story short; I am dating my best friend. I've learned that society has a way of telling people that it isn't worth wild, but I strongly believe otherwise. My...
    apalivoda18 apalivoda18 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I know its getting close to spring again. My shirt is off immediately after work.
    awsmithhtx awsmithhtx 31-35 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Today I just started going shirtless again, I hate wearing shirts and decided to adopt a permanent bare chested lifestyle anytime I can get away with it. Except for errands and...
    KJ1215 KJ1215 41-45, M 3 days ago

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    and he constantly gets me in trouble. he wants me to keep being his bff and wingman but I'm engaged now. and he's having trouble adjusting. when we hang out I regress into the...
    ShannieB ShannieB 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I was never into the whole dating thing, I kind of just rolled with whatever my friends where doing. I've also always had my one true best friend, his position in my little friend...
    Jnatx Jnatx 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I love my best friend. She is...just is and I want it all. Enough said.
    Noshikigoi Noshikigoi 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Yep about that time, what better time than this lol
    VirginGuy55 VirginGuy55 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    Yesterday, February 7, marked my first shirtless day of the season, undoubtedly an early record. It was 71 and sunny in the valley and I saw 3 other shirtless guys on the bike...
    syncopated syncopated 36-40, M 6 days ago

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    Use to,not ever again unless he's my bf.I don't think it's a good idea in the long run.Because eventually some one gets hurt.So now i just see guy friends as just that friends at...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    So some of you may know that for years I was paying to do my show at a local internet radio station. Well most recently things weren't going well over there, I was pretty much...
    goatonicon goatonicon 36-40, M a week ago

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    Idk.. But Ill tell you My story. I met her once after school, on the bus. I sat down beside her in the lack of other places to sit. And she apparently were the kinda person that...
    darkspiritwolf darkspiritwolf 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    All my life I've been friends with girls. My best friend is a girl, we're really different but we get along pretty well. But I miss a guy's company. A few years back I were friends...
    lonelyrider11 lonelyrider11 18-21, M a week ago

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    Look!! I really don't have an idea that u r still being jealous. ?? We have that issue since November and we talked , and I think that were ok. I thought that u'll never gonna get...
    lyca17 lyca17 16-17, F Feb 6

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    When I was 12/13 I met this boy who would turn out to be my best friend. Funny thing is, for the first 10 months we met all he did was beat me up. I didn't know why, but I laughed...
    Plouton3600 Plouton3600 18-21, M Feb 4

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    I miss having my best friend around. Best Friends since we were 7 and we were inseparable. I was her rock and she was the wings. She was the wild child who brought me out of my...
    DaisyKaine DaisyKaine 18-21, F Feb 3

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    I honestly drop everything I pick up and my boyfriend gets SO annoyed by it :-)
    hateraidwontmakemefaid hateraidwontmakemefaid 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Q2013 Q2013 46-50, F Feb 1

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    Two people came into my life and both made me a much more confident and stronger person. one is a woman who I married and had an unhappy marriage later on. we divorced and I was...
    Viciouspistols Viciouspistols 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 31

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