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I Think It's Very Difficult to Think of Your Best Friend As a Lover

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    Me & my best friend have known one another for about 5 years. & it took me 3 just to tell him I loved him! If your a honest best friend you can put your feelings to the side because they need you regardless to if y'all are dating or he's talking about another girl with you. I've...
    Lost4words1123 Lost4words1123 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 10, 2007

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    Well Actually It Depends. ...

    Well actually it depends.  I dated my best friend for 6 years after we realized we meant more to each other.  It's just sad when it's finally over.  I think it's best not to think of your best friend as a lover sometimes.
    Bonjourchic Bonjourchic 26-30, F Jun 8, 2007

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    Actually I Do Think of My Best...

    Actually I do think of my best friend as my lover and we have had a wonderful time together online - I cant wait for the time when I have the opportunity to be with him in person
    sassywoman sassywoman 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2007

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    It's not only difficult.

    It's impossible. I recently came to this conclusion. However I'm talking about men/ women besties combinations. Once I accepted a guy as close as my own brother, I always saw him like a family relative. No chance to ever think of him in a different way. So I wouldn't ever flirt...
    MentallyVibrating MentallyVibrating 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    At First

    at first thats what i thought but then i begin to see that we were ment to be more than just best friends.
    AnikiMomo AnikiMomo 18-21 2 Responses May 14, 2007

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    I Don't Have a Best Friend...

    I don't have a best friend now...never had a best friend that was female...I'd sure like to though
    ReformedAutomaton ReformedAutomaton 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 8, 2007

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    Yes It Is

    but when you have both in one person nothing is better
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Jun 10, 2011

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    . . ...

    . . .  Well due to the fact my best friend is male and i'm a lesbian then i would say most DEFO!  . . .  But i have been in an awkward position where a best friend of mine and myself ended up in a heat of the moment experience then yes . . very difficult.
    vanillapert vanillapert 36-40, F Jan 17, 2007

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    Been There...done That.  ...

    Been there...done that.  I don't wanna get into that kind of situation again. 
    WandaFull27 WandaFull27 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2007

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    only Because My Best Friend...

    only because my best friend is a girl but i think many people end up loving their best friend
    hayleymeike hayleymeike 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10, 2007

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    For Ages I Was In Love With My...

    For ages I was in love with my best friend (girl). Me and her were getting very close, but I didn't say anything and was waiting for me to. Then some other guy came and asked her out and she said yes instantly and only revealed to me afterwards that she was waiting for me to ask...
    themiget themiget 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 16, 2007

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    Because If Youve Got It Right ...

    because if youve got it right your best friend and your lover will be the same person
    pixiedust pixiedust 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 17, 2007

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    I Thought He Was My Best Friend Till He Left Me Behind..

    He was my ex....the greatest love I've experienced. But he left me behind - I understand people walk in and out of your life, but what if you are not ready to let them walk out..how do you cope? Specially when he was your best friend ....Ill let you know when I find out...
    Lika Lika 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 22, 2007

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    No I Don't Think So. ...

    No I don't think so. You're best friend is merely the closest person to you. The one true friend you can trust with anything you could possibly think of. You have no secrets from this person. A best friend can become a lover, you can have a best friend for years and then suddenly...
    Deyve Deyve 18-21, M Apr 10, 2007

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    I have a good friend who's friend kept asking me

    if I would go out with him or if I like him.... I don't know.... The good friend stopped talking to me at school but he'll still txt me like nothing's wrong.
    RedCatHunting RedCatHunting 16-17, F Mar 2, 2014

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    I disagree here. I've known my best friend

    for something like five years. I've always loved him, but never known he felt anything for me. Now I do. Greatest thing that's ever happened to me. Thinking about it gives me goosebumps.
    Mjjim86 Mjjim86 26-30, M Mar 23, 2014

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    Best Friends But Not Lovers

    My best was never my lover,we just loved being nude and telling our deepest secrets. not that we didn't want to be intimate.We were interupted every time we tried.Had not seen each other for five years until recently.Now much different.
    wouldbe2 wouldbe2 56-60, M May 21, 2011

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    My Best Friend Is My Lover.&nb...

    My best friend is my lover.  Eric's been my best friend since the day I met him, and my lover for the past 2 years.  I think it would be more difficult to separate the two and think of him as only my best friend or only my lover.  He's my everything (but not in a...
    mandarose524 mandarose524 26-30, F Jun 8, 2007

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    That Would Have to Be An Absol...

    That would have to be an absolute possitive yes, since I think of my mom as my best friend!!  I live next to Arkansas, not in it! Puleese! EWWWWWWW!!
    emerald emerald 36-40, F Jan 17, 2007

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    I'm Split On That. ...

    I'm split on that. It could work, because you know each other so well, but you have the problem of being friends for so long, it might not work out.
    ladyabsinthe ladyabsinthe 16-17, F Jan 17, 2007

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    I became best friends with someone I

    was extremely attracted to. Once i really got to know him the infatuation wore off.. Now that we are so close I don't really think of him in that way anymore.... I really appreciate and feel lucky to have him as a best friend :)
    wildkittn wildkittn 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2014

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    I don't think a best friend is something one can get overnight, it takes years to consider someone as your "best friend". I have a few close friends in real life but I'm not sure I...
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    when you think someone is your best friend and you know everything thing about them and they know everything about u but one day they just stop talking to you and that's the...
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    He is such an amazing person. At first i thought he must be a very serious personality but as the time went by i discovered that he is very humorous. Everyday i learn so much from...
    sonalanimax sonalanimax 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    My friend and I became best friends four to five years ago, when we were in primary school. It started when she started going to the same tutorial center as me and we just drifted...
    rosyvision rosyvision 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    and I don't think she even cares :/ if your best friend disappeared on you for one week, what would you do ?
    Betruebnis Betruebnis 22-25, M 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Seriously. I do. I really, really do. I just think guys would be amazing to hang around with cause I guess I kind of have more of a male brain than a female brain. I don't get...
    StormyWish StormyWish 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    My pillow is inviting me to join it, and Max, my dog is dreaming already. Yup, it's time to put away the day, and let the night enfold me, and take me where it may. Goodnight...
    Tasha15Girl Tasha15Girl 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm young and I'm not sure if I love boys or girls. This isn't a bad thing, but I'm just so confused. I am a female.
    hannahbee2243 hannahbee2243 13-15 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am a quiet and shy person. Even with the few people I'm comfortable around, my mind is either racing or deep in thought. People are always asking what's wrong, even though I just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My best friend wote this for međź’– I'm just cold I was told again after I ask her What's with the hoodie? I don't fully understand How much pain she's in She feels like she's...
    Uniquesouls Uniquesouls 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Well I can say that having your lover as your best friend is the ideal but in my experience if you start as best friends it's not always a good idea to change it into a lover...
    roes55 roes55 56-60, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    It's a plant for ***** sake. Please legalize it.
    ramblinboy ramblinboy 16-17, M Jun 27

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    It's not my best friend, it's one of my best friends close friends, who we go to school. We made a booster for him please help! http://www.booster.com/helpusfightbonecancer
    cayla921 cayla921 13-15, F Jun 24

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    My lover is my best friend, but it is a mess. Where to begin, and it will be a bit lengthy. I will call him D and we met when we were 11. It has been the same bond since we first...
    dfclifton55 dfclifton55 56-60, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    They All left, they all left me for dead, I find it extremely difficult to make friends or even talk to strangers thanks to my anxiety & depression, I have literally no one to...
    boom991 boom991 16-17, M 2 Responses Jun 24

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    It's not hilarious, I always get chided.
    IchirinNoHana IchirinNoHana 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    Well I went over to one of my best friends house and we were hanging out in her kitchen and her brother came in and we talked for a little bit and then we went down to her basement...
    Lauren8451 Lauren8451 13-15, F 2 Responses