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I Think Lack Of Communication Is Our Biggest Problem

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    "If everyone talked, there wouldn't be any

    wars" is a quote that was posted on my Facebook, some time ago. I believe it to be true. When we talk, we get to see from another person's perspective, and undertand. I lack social/communication skills, becuase I have Autism, that is probably the main thing which keeps me from...
    NovaScotia902 NovaScotia902 22-25 2 Responses Jun 7

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    Out Of Phase

    I think the biggest problem is being out-of-phase. So like by the time one person is fed up with some problem, the other person's trying to make peace over it (-or SOMETHING LIKE THIS- ... I had better words earlier), but because you're 'suddenly' mad they say "screw peace" and...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 Jan 10, 2010

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    My husband considers himself communicating with

    me by merely uttering words. Throughout my attempts to make him actually communicate over the years; I have become painfully aware of even more traits that irk the hell out of me. For instance, I will say something or ask something and rather than openly and honestly answer...
    fetish27 fetish27 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 1

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    I think that some people communicate too much,

    and listen too little. Try to understand different perspectives of people, and different portrayals of yourself. Really pay attention to what you're saying and how you're saying it to another human being. How would you react to yourself? Lack of communication can go way past...
    trytostealthisname trytostealthisname 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    I Just Don't Get It...

    I cannot understand for the the life of me when in a relationship (especially a husband/wife, friends, lovers) a person doesn't deem it necessary to communicate their feelings and desires towards another. It is vital to any relationship to have understanding and respect. How can...
    Simplelady4U Simplelady4U 36-40, F 1 Response May 30, 2012

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    P12 - I Hate Having Short Conversations With My Partner

    I hate having short conversations with my partner. I will text him and the conversations are pretty typical and predictable. "How are you?" "Did you eat yet?" "What you up to?" "Miss you." I guess I want more. I want to feel like every opportunity to speak with another is...
    airzm airzm 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 4, 2012

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    So the technology of communication has advanced

    rapidly in my lifetime (I am 57). I remember a time before cell phones and texting were invented. The big question is "has technology helped us to communicate better"? It is true that it is easier to communicate with people all over the world than it has ever been and this...
    srfchopper srfchopper 56-60, M Jun 7

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    Unspoken Words

    Mind games If you are trying to communicate with someone to work out a problem. Before the crap hits the fan! They are playing mind games in order to keep from having them hurting you for not telling you. You are lowering yourself esteem. People are always going to be more...
    CrystalRainsPearls CrystalRainsPearls 41-45, F 8 Responses Apr 26, 2012

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    I Can Speaks English But Im Not Fluent Or

    Maybe im just scared to start a conversation with people. I always feel intimidated by them.
    camillealias camillealias 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    Speak Up

    It is extremely frustrating to see people struggle.  I think if people spoke up and said what was really on their minds, then people wouldn't be so unhappy because they didn't know where they stand with people or in situations.Communication is THE key in moving forward in...
    WildSpectrumArts WildSpectrumArts 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 8, 2011

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    It'S Always Been Humanity'S Biggest Problem

    We are all living under different realities with different perceptions. We get upset when we feel like we're owed something by someone, when in actuality that "someone" probably doesn't realize they're in debt. A lot of bitterness and distrust comes about when people act passive...
    lauren71 lauren71 41-45, F Mar 6, 2013

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    A lack of communication has been a large

    culprit in my marriage. I've never been good at expressing my needs/frustration which would leave my husband clueless to the issues at hand. With that said, I decided to conduct a little communication experiment with my spouse. Over the next 45 days I will openly communicate...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 16

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    Clear Lines Of Communication

    I believe that a lot of fights and hurt feelings are caused because of miscommunication. I also think that a lot of pain and anger can be avoided if we just talk to each.I personally have take pain because I just couldn't bring myself to tell someone that something that they do...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 1 Response May 14, 2013

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    I Did The Communication Thing After My Calculus Final Exam Tonight

    I happened to be walking out as a pretty coed was also, and once outside, I commented that "it's so good to be done!" That turned into a lovely conversation between us that lasted the next, oh, 10 minutes as we walked together across campus. We parted as we got to her dorm...
    naturalartist naturalartist 41-45, M May 9, 2012

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    Ironic

    I find it quite funny that there is more social networking sites, blogs, and personal video sites like YouTube than ever and yet we are even less connected to one another. They started as a way of expressing yourself and allowing others to see who you really are to just a...
    boby6 boby6 22-25, M 2 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    'homeland Security' "color Chart" For Females Who Cannot Communicate With Someone Who Loves Them

    Except we're gonna do this with numbers. Scale from 1 to 10. 10 means relationship rocks, 1 means it sucks, 0 means it totally sucksSo far in my mind:a) Anything less than or equal to 6 means we gotta work on it, Baby.b) Anything less than or equal to 3 means we really gotta...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 Jan 10, 2010

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    Effective Communication

    "Three questions can help measure the effectiveness in any communication:" "To what degree does the message sent equal the message received? In essence, the first question is: Is the message understood? "Does the communication achieve the intended effect of the communicator...
    quietbeauty quietbeauty 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2010

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    Poison

    I've been wanting to write a story about communication and since several things have happened in the past few days that it reminded me of why I wanted to write in this group in the first place.Poison is the only way I can describe what bad communication is. I'm not one to have...
    strivingtobeabetterme strivingtobeabetterme 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    I believe good communication

    and honesty are possible the best traits anyone can have.
    hannahmac4 hannahmac4 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 2

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    Communication

    Communication,The lack of,Today's biggest problem,We've got the gear,Trouble is,We don't use it.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Feb 8, 2012

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    Communcation Problems In Relationship. Boyfriend Sweeps Things Under Rug.

    I think the best thing to do is be quiet. If I don’t know what to say to him or how to address our problems how can we resolve anything? They always say that communication is the key to any relationship. Well what if ours is lacking? Is that fixable? The only person I want to...
    alyssadeare alyssadeare 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2012

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    Just A Shell (Story 95)

    My husband is 23 years older than me and feels we don't communicate. He likes to talk. I like to look into his eyes (which has always been hard for me) and listen. I communicate nonverbally, but no one understands that language. People think you're lying if you don't look at...
    LadyIndiscretion LadyIndiscretion 31-35, F Jun 23, 2013

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    You Own Me

    You are still so big inside of me. I asked you for a favor and you requested I add you to my IM buddy list. Is this a channel you want to open? I feel you are doing this to say you want to hear more from me. You haven't said anything, but opening this channel speaks volumes to me...
    tinymind tinymind 41-45, M Aug 16, 2013

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    The Bicycle

    The Bicycle Though mostly we walked, while we at Hanna Center (MENLO PARK) we did have a half a dozen or more bicycles John Guilaumin kept patched together. He taught us how to patch a tire or fix a broken link, but as such, they were a pile of junk. Fr. Reagan’s friend, the...
    troika6 troika6 70+, M Aug 6, 2012

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    Seriously communication is key- I will only try

    so hard before u r no longer worth my time, energy or caring. Why should I be left frustrated, hurt or angry because u r an idiot that can't express themselves. Trust me I will communicate with u up until the moment I say good bye!
    sara273 sara273 26-30, F Mar 11

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    My Boyfriend Has Minimal Communication Skills And It's Getting Worse...

    I am 25 years old and have been dating a man ten years my senior. He has two children from a previous relationship, but I love them and care for them as if they're my own even though I accept and understand that they never will be. I've had the gasps and glares from people when...
    afriendinme afriendinme 26-30 2 Responses Dec 27, 2012

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    Lack Of Communication!!

    there are just so many problems nowadays, that could be solved in relationships and friendships and so on, if people could just learn to communicate with each other!!!
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    We Communicate Like This??!

    We learn, don’t we? At school, in the playground, when we’re young. We learn: try not to worry about other people so much. Hopefully we have good friends who we can communicate with, who support us, who we fight for. But here, this is a whole new school. Stumbling in...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet 36-40, F Jun 18, 2012

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    Does Breaking Communication Help?

    Many a time we feel we can break communication abruptly and move out a person forever. Does it help? It will not help as the other person will keep wondering why you did it. so any interactions need a formal closure. it could end with BYE or SEE YOU or OVER AND OUT. Even if...
    giftafamily giftafamily 41-45 Aug 26, 2012

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    Nobody talks to each other these days!

    People talk about other people but won't tell them the problem! Say how you feel and let them know what you think! At the end of the day if people don't like it or leave you well they're the one with the problem not you! If they can't deal with it then that just shows that they...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    Amen!! Always has been

    and always will be.
    John0406 John0406 61-65, M 1 Response Jun 16

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    Yes Heartpounder, I'm Talking About You...

    When we have a problem, you and I both need to go right to each other and not handle that any other way :-) No, we don't have a problem right now.  I'm just saying :-D   Note the very notion of this post contradicts itself cause I didn't private message her, but that...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 2 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    Keep in touch with your friends always coz lack

    of communication is the starting of every misunderstand and dispute...
    Jibran789 Jibran789 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 16

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    Lack Of Communication

    By having lack of communication is where the problem starts = It is our biggest problem!!!
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr 36-40, F May 20, 2011

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    Communication Breakdown, It's Always The Same....

    Communication and understanding, the two things we humans lack now nows. This is the reason the world is moving backwards not forwards, open your ears and your minds....
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Wow... learning right

    now about different personality types and dangerous mixes. Communication and barriers in different personality types is a big part of relationship breakdown. So, this is news to me...
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 2

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    It was rather amusing today,

    I was concentrating on a book I was reading called "Kite Runner" (amazing book btw) and I hear a teacher from a distant shouting at a kid, I know for a sure this kid has learning difficulties and problems so I dropped the book and observed. I mean come on..kicking a kid out of...
    lifecanbebeautiful lifecanbebeautiful 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 6

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    Miscommunication

    You only hear what you want. You never really hear what I am saying. You refuse to listen. If I ask you to pick up after yourself, you hear me calling you a slob. If I ask you not to smoke in the car with our children, you hear me calling you a bad parent. If I tell you how...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    Like It's Another Language...

    We can barely communicate. She is so defensive about everything. She never sides with me even when I am right. I back her up when someone questions her, but she will never agrees with me. It just feels like she is so defensive at all times. I don't try to make her defensive...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 16, 2012

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    I know this is a completely bitchy rant about my boyfriend that he doesn't really deserve but it's in my heart and has been in my mind for a few years now at the least so I guess I...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    And I don't know where to go. What to research. How to change. My biggest problem is that I am a major prude. If someone looks at me with their eyes a certain way, I instantly...
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    anonnimus anonnimus 22-25 1 Response Jul 4

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    I am having girlfriend problems... Sort of... It's been a long and painful summer between me and my girlfriend's family's not. Us specifically but are family's they can't and...
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