I Think Life Is Too Short to Be In An Unhappy Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 331 People

    Unsure

    I have only been married for a little more than a year, dated 2 yrs. prior.  Technically we are still newly weds, however getting him to have sex with me is almost impossible.  When we do, there is no passion or romance.  I asked him if he was cheating, if it...
    Judy1973 Judy1973
    36-40
    3 Responses May 5, 2009

    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2009
    Bpack Bpack
    31-35
    Dec 14, 2014

    It is a life commitment though,

    and it's more than worth just a little perseverence
    TValentine TValentine
    56-60, M
    1 Response Mar 21

    Is It To Much To Ask?

    I work all day, worry about the bills, the kids, and how we are going to buy grocerys. My husband does none of those things. So is it to much to ask to have clean towels every, and clean dishes? He has not a worry in the world and I hate him for it! I have no respect for his...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    True Colors

    We got married way too fast.  Two weeks after we were married, he showed his true colors.  I understand that I made my bed and have to lie in it and all that.  I took vows and really tried to make the marriage work.  It's been almost two years now and I know...
    2weekslater 2weekslater
    36-40
    3 Responses Oct 2, 2008

    Stuck Between Doing What's Right And Wanting To Be Happy....

    I've been married for 10 years. I got pregnant in an early age. Because of the guilt we followed what our parents want us to do, we got married! I bore another child the following year. I'm now 27 and could not found anything in common with my husband. I was just 17...
    liberteamour liberteamour
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Feb 18, 2010

    Seems I'm The One Who Keeps Causing The Unhappiness....what To Do??

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker
    41-45, M
    Nov 14, 2012

    Change Isn't Always An Option

    Before you go giving someone advice about how they should just leave and blah blah blah, you should consider that there are many circumstances you don't know about. In some cases, you simply must do whatever you have to, and capture and cherish every little moment of happiness...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2011

    Appearances Can Be Deceiving

    I'm not one to knock the idea of marriage in general. I do believe it's a wonderful ideal. It's an overwhelming commitment to vow to spend the rest of your life with someone, to love & honor them, through good times & bad. To share that with someone must be one of the...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

    The Lessons We Share and Learn

    I was raised in a ultra traditional household - mother cooked every meal, father worked, sports, love, family, church ... blah blah blah. My parents have now been married 42 years. Of those 42 years - my father cheated on my mother for 20 of those years. It was not until I...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 3, 2009

    Married 38 Years And Very Happy

    My main reason for entering was chat area is mainly to gain advice for my son who has just seperated after 10 years, I started researching why people do not stay married and found there are many reasons, most of them are because of selfishness and some are because some think...
    RobWilbow RobWilbow
    56-60, M
    3 Responses May 11, 2010

    Loveless Marriage

    I have been married for 10years and it has been a disaster from the start. I thought stupidly I had met someone reliable and honest boy was I wrong!! From the first day of moving in together I thought I had married an other person I didnt know. This person was cruel and...
    SHELLY161 SHELLY161
    41-45
    1 Response Sep 3, 2012

    Being True To Myself.

    I was married to a man for almost 8 years. He is gay and used me to be socially accaptable in our southern communtiy. I am not going to be used anymore and I am going to be happy. I ended the marriage and am finding my self esteem.
    brickbybrick1111 brickbybrick1111
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

    Towards The End!

    This is my second marriage. That alone is a hard thing for me. My first marriage lasted ten years, but he turned out gay.  My second marriage, I thought would be the one to last forever. I lived in Germany and he lived in England, both Americans working for the military...
    pyromonkeysgirl pyromonkeysgirl
    26-30
    Jul 8, 2010

    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen
    56-60, F
    3 Responses Sep 13, 2009

    Dog On a Nail

    ever here the story about the whining dog on the porch sitting with his owner?  the passerby asks "why is your dog whining?"  response was bc he is laying on a nail.  "why doesn't he move"...it doesn't hurt enough to move"....this is how I...
    summers2008 summers2008
    46-50
    5 Responses Jun 25, 2009

    So Do Something, If You '..think Life Is Too Short To Be In An Unhappy Marriage'

    If you’re marriage is unhappy, think what you can do about it. What is within your power to change to make it better? It involves at least two people. Don’t just assume life’s too short and so it’s time to leave, it’s only one way to resolve things.
    Hypericum Hypericum
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Sep 15, 2011

    Relief

    In May of 2009 I will have been married for 7 years. We have a beautiful, smart, sweet six year old daughter who is the center our our lives, yet we share nothing together aside from the roof over our heads. We have slept in separate rooms for almost 6 of those seven years, and...
    7yearitch 7yearitch
    31-35
    5 Responses Nov 29, 2008

    Best Friends No Intimacy.... Big Problem

    I have been with my husband for almost 17 yrs, married for 12.  Up until a year and a half ago.... we were still like newly weds... but now, all the intimacy has gone out of the relationship.  He is a wonderful guy, great Dad, helps out around the house, we don't fight...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses May 9, 2009

    Is This It?

    Good Morning, I have only been married for 18 months and I am very unhappy. I am considering walking away. My husband is not a bad man. I just have no desire to be with him. Unsure where to go from here. But life is too short. x
    saucyjaguar0 saucyjaguar0
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 28, 2012

    Annoying Lover

    I don't know if there is a such thing, all I do is shower my wife with love but Im starting to feel like maybe im over doing it.  Sure there are tons of women who want attention love and affection but not my wife lol.  She is just a lil rough around the edges but nothing i do...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

    What To Do When Your Marriage Is Over?

    I have what appears to be a good life. My husband is a good provider and I do not want for any thing. The problem is that he is a sex addict and as cliche as that sounds, it is a horrible reality for me.  Are there any women out there going thru the same with your husband...
    kadu2 kadu2
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 7, 2011

    Tired of My Husband!

    I am tired of my husband! I don't love him and never did! I don't know what to do about it. He says he will do something stupid if I leave. I am getting to the point of no return. I hate to have sex with him. I long for someone to love and someone that I am attracted to also...
    celestialangel celestialangel
    46-50, F
    18 Responses Aug 18, 2008

    Totally In Love But Wife Is Emotionless.

    Let me start by saying that Im an awesome husband, I do everything there is to do, I put my beautiful wife on the highest of all pedastools I worship the ground she walks on and yet no reward.  I don't want a pat on the back, a treat or for her to bow down to be, but I feel I...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Jul 23, 2011

    Bewildered and Fatigued

    Hi Group, Never joined one of these before but I have never been this far down to the end of my sanity rope before.  I have been married for nearly 20, dated for a prior 2 years.  I am so deeply saddened to say (and know) that I clearly married the wrong person. ...
    JohnInc JohnInc
    41-45, M
    9 Responses Nov 9, 2008

    Why Stay?

    Long story short: after I learned some of the skills and techniques to make a happy marriage, my then wife was not interested, so I LEFT.
    jimrich jimrich
    70+, M
    1 Response Jan 28, 2011
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