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I Think Life Is Too Short to Be In An Unhappy Marriage

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    So Do Something, If You '..think Life Is Too Short To Be In An Unhappy Marriage'

    If you’re marriage is unhappy, think what you can do about it. What is within your power to change to make it better? It involves at least two people. Don’t just assume life’s too short and so it’s time to leave, it’s only one way to resolve things.
    Hypericum Hypericum 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    The Lessons We Share and Learn

    I was raised in a ultra traditional household - mother cooked every meal, father worked, sports, love, family, church ... blah blah blah. My parents have now been married 42 years. Of those 42 years - my father cheated on my mother for 20 of those years. It was not until I...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    TOO True

    I'VE BEEN DIVORCED ALMOST 13 YEARS AND I DON'T REGRET IT FOR A MINUTE. I'D RATHER BE ALONE THAN MISERABLE. I JUST MARRIED THE WRONG MAN HOWEVER. I BELIEVE IN LOVE AND COMMITMENT, BUT THOSE THINGS ARE RARE AND TAKE A SPECIAL INDIVIDUAL TO HONOR THEM, ESPECIALLY IN TODAY'S SEXUALLY...
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2008

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    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen 56-60, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Is This It?

    Good Morning, I have only been married for 18 months and I am very unhappy. I am considering walking away. My husband is not a bad man. I just have no desire to be with him. Unsure where to go from here. But life is too short. x
    saucyjaguar0 saucyjaguar0 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2012

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    Why Stay?

    Long story short: after I learned some of the skills and techniques to make a happy marriage, my then wife was not interested, so I LEFT.
    jimrich jimrich 70+, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2011

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    Relief

    In May of 2009 I will have been married for 7 years. We have a beautiful, smart, sweet six year old daughter who is the center our our lives, yet we share nothing together aside from the roof over our heads. We have slept in separate rooms for almost 6 of those seven years, and...
    7yearitch 7yearitch 31-35 5 Responses Nov 29, 2008

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    Being True To Myself.

    I was married to a man for almost 8 years. He is gay and used me to be socially accaptable in our southern communtiy. I am not going to be used anymore and I am going to be happy. I ended the marriage and am finding my self esteem.
    brickbybrick1111 brickbybrick1111 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    Married 38 Years And Very Happy

    My main reason for entering was chat area is mainly to gain advice for my son who has just seperated after 10 years, I started researching why people do not stay married and found there are many reasons, most of them are because of selfishness and some are because some think...
    RobWilbow RobWilbow 56-60, M 3 Responses May 11, 2010

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    Totally In Love But Wife Is Emotionless.

    Let me start by saying that Im an awesome husband, I do everything there is to do, I put my beautiful wife on the highest of all pedastools I worship the ground she walks on and yet no reward.  I don't want a pat on the back, a treat or for her to bow down to be, but I feel I...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 23, 2011

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    Seems I'm The One Who Keeps Causing The Unhappiness....what To Do??

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker 41-45, M Nov 14, 2012

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    Towards The End!

    This is my second marriage. That alone is a hard thing for me. My first marriage lasted ten years, but he turned out gay.  My second marriage, I thought would be the one to last forever. I lived in Germany and he lived in England, both Americans working for the military...
    pyromonkeysgirl pyromonkeysgirl 26-30 Jul 8, 2010

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    Annoying Lover

    I don't know if there is a such thing, all I do is shower my wife with love but Im starting to feel like maybe im over doing it.  Sure there are tons of women who want attention love and affection but not my wife lol.  She is just a lil rough around the edges but nothing i do...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    Best Friends No Intimacy.... Big Problem

    I have been with my husband for almost 17 yrs, married for 12.  Up until a year and a half ago.... we were still like newly weds... but now, all the intimacy has gone out of the relationship.  He is a wonderful guy, great Dad, helps out around the house, we don't fight...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    What To Do When Your Marriage Is Over?

    I have what appears to be a good life. My husband is a good provider and I do not want for any thing. The problem is that he is a sex addict and as cliche as that sounds, it is a horrible reality for me.  Are there any women out there going thru the same with your husband...
    kadu2 kadu2 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2011

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    Dog On a Nail

    ever here the story about the whining dog on the porch sitting with his owner?  the passerby asks "why is your dog whining?"  response was bc he is laying on a nail.  "why doesn't he move"...it doesn't hurt enough to move"....this is how I...
    summers2008 summers2008 46-50 5 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Change Isn't Always An Option

    Before you go giving someone advice about how they should just leave and blah blah blah, you should consider that there are many circumstances you don't know about. In some cases, you simply must do whatever you have to, and capture and cherish every little moment of happiness...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 27, 2011

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    Is It To Much To Ask?

    I work all day, worry about the bills, the kids, and how we are going to buy grocerys. My husband does none of those things. So is it to much to ask to have clean towels every, and clean dishes? He has not a worry in the world and I hate him for it! I have no respect for his...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Appearances Can Be Deceiving

    I'm not one to knock the idea of marriage in general. I do believe it's a wonderful ideal. It's an overwhelming commitment to vow to spend the rest of your life with someone, to love & honor them, through good times & bad. To share that with someone must be one of the...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    Bewildered and Fatigued

    Hi Group, Never joined one of these before but I have never been this far down to the end of my sanity rope before.  I have been married for nearly 20, dated for a prior 2 years.  I am so deeply saddened to say (and know) that I clearly married the wrong person. ...
    JohnInc JohnInc 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Unsure

    I have only been married for a little more than a year, dated 2 yrs. prior.  Technically we are still newly weds, however getting him to have sex with me is almost impossible.  When we do, there is no passion or romance.  I asked him if he was cheating, if it...
    Judy1973 Judy1973 36-40 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    Tired of My Husband!

    I am tired of my husband! I don't love him and never did! I don't know what to do about it. He says he will do something stupid if I leave. I am getting to the point of no return. I hate to have sex with him. I long for someone to love and someone that I am attracted to also...
    celestialangel celestialangel 46-50, F 18 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    Stuck Between Doing What's Right And Wanting To Be Happy....

    I've been married for 10 years. I got pregnant in an early age. Because of the guilt we followed what our parents want us to do, we got married! I bore another child the following year. I'm now 27 and could not found anything in common with my husband. I was just 17...
    liberteamour liberteamour 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    True Colors

    We got married way too fast.  Two weeks after we were married, he showed his true colors.  I understand that I made my bed and have to lie in it and all that.  I took vows and really tried to make the marriage work.  It's been almost two years now and I know...
    2weekslater 2weekslater 36-40 3 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    Loveless Marriage

    I have been married for 10years and it has been a disaster from the start. I thought stupidly I had met someone reliable and honest boy was I wrong!! From the first day of moving in together I thought I had married an other person I didnt know. This person was cruel and...
    SHELLY161 SHELLY161 41-45 1 Response Sep 3, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Life is good! Life is way too short to worry so I'm going to life it with happiness and craziness. I don't care anymore what others think of me. Btw haters: SCREW YOU
    xsimplysara xsimplysara 16-17, F Sep 13

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    Life is short and pointless. Lately I find it extremely depressing to think like this. I don't think any job I hold or obtain can shake this feeling. It's sad... We all try to...
    Sometimesilence Sometimesilence 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    Hi im 23 years old and my boyfriend is old than me about 12 years he lives away from me more than 3000 milles its a long distances relationships even that he travel every 2-3 month...
    loooorin loooorin 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    Every journey requires provisions, so let piety be your provision in the journey from the life in this world to the Hereafter.by |abuishaan|
    abuishaan abuishaan 18-21, M Aug 24

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    Why do life have to be mess up First min it's great Next a it terrible When everything is great It gets took away How is life going to be at the end?
    RainbowWolf13 RainbowWolf13 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Why can't we do something else in life? I don't know how to ask I'm a eccentric person. Hmmm maybe what does college teach us? I want to go to college but why can't we do something...
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    I am unhappily married and contemplating divorce. I also have a major crush on another man. I should add - I don't fall for guys easily. They have to give me a lot of encouragement...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 6 Responses Sep 1

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    I struggle to make decisions on the spot at my age . It's really hard when a decision is not just straightforward but you have to consider all the circumstances . I barely sleep at...
    Juiceyangel333 Juiceyangel333 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    You haven't got forever! So do it now while you got time! Don't do it tomorrow as you'll never do it so whats stopping you from doing it at this present?Time is ticking away so use...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    My sister is a doctor and she's always busy, her husband is also a doctor. She always asks me to look after her 1 year old. I love my nephew. But sometimes they're asking for too...
    l3lackmamba l3lackmamba 18-21, F Aug 26

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    As struggles go, this too will come to an end. Enjoy it while it lasts! I try to bring this simple way of thinking in the beginning of each day.
    LovesWhimsy LovesWhimsy 41-45, F Sep 1

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    You start thinking that things are getting better when something happens in your life that makes you think that nothing -joys or sorrows can be permanent in life.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    When you start to think things are coming together then boom life ***** on you and you're left to try a pick up the pieces but I'm starting to think it's only gonna happen again...
    xxabiGAYlexx xxabiGAYlexx 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    I think it scares people away. Maybe they just can't deal with all the emotions I bring to the table. I feel like every emotion I feel is so strong. And I can jump from one emotion...
    Tigerlily53 Tigerlily53 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    It is what it is. We are just a species trying to make life as good as we can. Unfortunately we are still at the stage of looking out for ourselves rather than looking out for...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M Aug 26

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    Aside from the many The Office jokes I could put in this post... I'm gonna fight the urge. I really do feel like too much for people sometime. Most of the time actually. I feel...
    ifearsnowmen ifearsnowmen 18-21, M Aug 28

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    Then you said, 'you taste of cucumber and pineapple.' your voice trickling out over my lips. With an impish blush, I carelessly rebel, 'your kisses taste of coffee cake and...
    PaintedPoemCpl PaintedPoemCpl 36-40 Aug 31

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    Life is a ***** than it's over and all that frustration you dealt with is forgotten.
    Justadarkhole Justadarkhole 18-21, M Sep 2

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    but life goes :) live love and laugh
    chippylovemrchips chippylovemrchips 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Life can be cruel but it's how we deal with things after that makes us who we are!!
    tomishere84 tomishere84 26-30, M Sep 10

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    I think it is better to have no expectations from anyone.Then we can be satisfied with what we get.We have to understand that to be truly happy,we have to rely on ourselves and...
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    That one moment in life where it all changed. I can pinpoint the exact time and place and date. I just need a damn button to rewind and I could fix everything that ruined me.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    Just to go back to my wedding day and honeymoon. Best time of my life
    loveylaura loveylaura 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    shellseagirl shellseagirl 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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