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I Think Life Is Too Short to Be In An Unhappy Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 237 People

    Unsure

    I have only been married for a little more than a year, dated 2 yrs. prior.  Technically we are still newly weds, however getting him to have sex with me is almost impossible.  When we do, there is no passion or romance.  I asked him if he was cheating, if it...
    Judy1973 Judy1973 36-40 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    Bewildered and Fatigued

    Hi Group, Never joined one of these before but I have never been this far down to the end of my sanity rope before.  I have been married for nearly 20, dated for a prior 2 years.  I am so deeply saddened to say (and know) that I clearly married the wrong person. ...
    JohnInc JohnInc 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    The Lessons We Share and Learn

    I was raised in a ultra traditional household - mother cooked every meal, father worked, sports, love, family, church ... blah blah blah. My parents have now been married 42 years. Of those 42 years - my father cheated on my mother for 20 of those years. It was not until I...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Dog On a Nail

    ever here the story about the whining dog on the porch sitting with his owner?  the passerby asks "why is your dog whining?"  response was bc he is laying on a nail.  "why doesn't he move"...it doesn't hurt enough to move"....this is how I...
    summers2008 summers2008 46-50 5 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Being True To Myself.

    I was married to a man for almost 8 years. He is gay and used me to be socially accaptable in our southern communtiy. I am not going to be used anymore and I am going to be happy. I ended the marriage and am finding my self esteem.
    brickbybrick1111 brickbybrick1111 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    Loveless Marriage

    I have been married for 10years and it has been a disaster from the start. I thought stupidly I had met someone reliable and honest boy was I wrong!! From the first day of moving in together I thought I had married an other person I didnt know. This person was cruel and...
    SHELLY161 SHELLY161 41-45 1 Response Sep 3, 2012

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    Tired of My Husband!

    I am tired of my husband! I don't love him and never did! I don't know what to do about it. He says he will do something stupid if I leave. I am getting to the point of no return. I hate to have sex with him. I long for someone to love and someone that I am attracted to also...
    celestialangel celestialangel 46-50, F 18 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    Relief

    In May of 2009 I will have been married for 7 years. We have a beautiful, smart, sweet six year old daughter who is the center our our lives, yet we share nothing together aside from the roof over our heads. We have slept in separate rooms for almost 6 of those seven years, and...
    7yearitch 7yearitch 31-35 5 Responses Nov 29, 2008

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    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen 56-60, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    What To Do When Your Marriage Is Over?

    I have what appears to be a good life. My husband is a good provider and I do not want for any thing. The problem is that he is a sex addict and as cliche as that sounds, it is a horrible reality for me.  Are there any women out there going thru the same with your husband...
    kadu2 kadu2 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2011

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    Appearances Can Be Deceiving

    I'm not one to knock the idea of marriage in general. I do believe it's a wonderful ideal. It's an overwhelming commitment to vow to spend the rest of your life with someone, to love & honor them, through good times & bad. To share that with someone must be one of the...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    Is It To Much To Ask?

    I work all day, worry about the bills, the kids, and how we are going to buy grocerys. My husband does none of those things. So is it to much to ask to have clean towels every, and clean dishes? He has not a worry in the world and I hate him for it! I have no respect for his...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Change Isn't Always An Option

    Before you go giving someone advice about how they should just leave and blah blah blah, you should consider that there are many circumstances you don't know about. In some cases, you simply must do whatever you have to, and capture and cherish every little moment of happiness...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 27, 2011

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    Stuck Between Doing What's Right And Wanting To Be Happy....

    I've been married for 10 years. I got pregnant in an early age. Because of the guilt we followed what our parents want us to do, we got married! I bore another child the following year. I'm now 27 and could not found anything in common with my husband. I was just 17...
    liberteamour liberteamour 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    Bpack Bpack 31-35 Dec 14, 2014

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    Best Friends No Intimacy.... Big Problem

    I have been with my husband for almost 17 yrs, married for 12.  Up until a year and a half ago.... we were still like newly weds... but now, all the intimacy has gone out of the relationship.  He is a wonderful guy, great Dad, helps out around the house, we don't fight...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    Towards The End!

    This is my second marriage. That alone is a hard thing for me. My first marriage lasted ten years, but he turned out gay.  My second marriage, I thought would be the one to last forever. I lived in Germany and he lived in England, both Americans working for the military...
    pyromonkeysgirl pyromonkeysgirl 26-30 Jul 8, 2010

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    So Do Something, If You '..think Life Is Too Short To Be In An Unhappy Marriage'

    If you’re marriage is unhappy, think what you can do about it. What is within your power to change to make it better? It involves at least two people. Don’t just assume life’s too short and so it’s time to leave, it’s only one way to resolve things.
    Hypericum Hypericum 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    Seems I'm The One Who Keeps Causing The Unhappiness....what To Do??

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker 41-45, M Nov 14, 2012

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    Married 38 Years And Very Happy

    My main reason for entering was chat area is mainly to gain advice for my son who has just seperated after 10 years, I started researching why people do not stay married and found there are many reasons, most of them are because of selfishness and some are because some think...
    RobWilbow RobWilbow 56-60, M 3 Responses May 11, 2010

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    Why Stay?

    Long story short: after I learned some of the skills and techniques to make a happy marriage, my then wife was not interested, so I LEFT.
    jimrich jimrich 70+, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2011

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    Is This It?

    Good Morning, I have only been married for 18 months and I am very unhappy. I am considering walking away. My husband is not a bad man. I just have no desire to be with him. Unsure where to go from here. But life is too short. x
    saucyjaguar0 saucyjaguar0 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2012

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    Annoying Lover

    I don't know if there is a such thing, all I do is shower my wife with love but Im starting to feel like maybe im over doing it.  Sure there are tons of women who want attention love and affection but not my wife lol.  She is just a lil rough around the edges but nothing i do...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    TOO True

    I'VE BEEN DIVORCED ALMOST 13 YEARS AND I DON'T REGRET IT FOR A MINUTE. I'D RATHER BE ALONE THAN MISERABLE. I JUST MARRIED THE WRONG MAN HOWEVER. I BELIEVE IN LOVE AND COMMITMENT, BUT THOSE THINGS ARE RARE AND TAKE A SPECIAL INDIVIDUAL TO HONOR THEM, ESPECIALLY IN TODAY'S SEXUALLY...
    fukkboii fukkboii 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2008

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    Totally In Love But Wife Is Emotionless.

    Let me start by saying that Im an awesome husband, I do everything there is to do, I put my beautiful wife on the highest of all pedastools I worship the ground she walks on and yet no reward.  I don't want a pat on the back, a treat or for her to bow down to be, but I feel I...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 23, 2011

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    True Colors

    We got married way too fast.  Two weeks after we were married, he showed his true colors.  I understand that I made my bed and have to lie in it and all that.  I took vows and really tried to make the marriage work.  It's been almost two years now and I know...
    2weekslater 2weekslater 36-40 3 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    Every night I thank the universe that I am alive to see another beautiful day. To be blunt, I don't take life very seriously. I used to care a lot about how people saw me, but I've...
    rachh4321 rachh4321 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Death never killed anyone that I know of - but I think life is trying to kill me, ever since I was born.
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 1 Response Jan 4

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    When I am laying on my deathbed, I want my memories to be full of laughter and light hearted fun and freedom. I want to remember that no matter what was going on in my life, I made...
    dreamingoptimist dreamingoptimist 22-25, F Dec 27, 2014

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    That is my way of getting over things now. Life is just to short.
    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    You don't know what you have until its gone how true that saying is. Enjoy and spend quality time with loved ones . Tell them how much you love them . Share and build memories...
    scoobie2412 scoobie2412 41-45 5 days ago

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    You grow up to realise life is not how it was portrayed to you. You don't just make friends who stick with you regardless. YOu dont go to school college and uni and be sorted for...
    surfdas surfdas 22-25, M Jan 14

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    In the mood for some self reflection tonight. Just hit a milestone a few months back (The Big 60). As much as age shouldn't haunt our lives, 60 reminds me that I have a lot fewer...
    Dave002 Dave002 56-60, M Jan 17

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    No matter what is going on in your life today, remember, it is only preparation. People come and go; situations rise and fall; it's all preparation for better things. You must...
    deephuman deephuman 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    A deep thought of mind, a minute of silence a over thought of nothingness, meaning nothing important most of the time. A over analysing/dissecting thought of mind searching for...
    deadly1 deadly1 26-30, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do...
    emmanuel04 emmanuel04 31-35, M 4 days ago

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    life has its ups and downs... I'm kind of inbetween
    Newgirl00 Newgirl00 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Life's confusing me deeply. I think I'm at crossroads in my life. I don't know what to do. I wonder how to get myself out of this.
    homayl homayl 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 8

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    I feel like ****, absolute ****. I have no idea what I going to do with my life. I'm not even sure what I am currently doing with it now. I've been lying to people, people who...
    blackenangels blackenangels 13-15 1 Response Jan 12

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    I am sitting in my room, thinking about the job I can't wait to quit, the money I have to pay for bills and car installments and credit card installments and all these things I...
    roryta roryta 26-30, F Jan 13

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    Everything about it from its smallest atoms to it largest natural creations, life is truly beautiful, it can get tough, but humans are tougher. I can honestly say I'm a lover of...
    Exotic1228 Exotic1228 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    All life does is throw curve balls at you to watch you struggle. It doesn't care if you deserve it or not. It just wants to see you crash and burn, to the point you don't want to...
    Idiedinside Idiedinside 13-15, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Life is http://9gag.com/gag/aoZoV43?ref=mobile.s.cp
    yoursorrow yoursorrow 18-21, M Jan 5

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    Any girl wearing a lifeguard uniform is attractive to me
    takeme2plz takeme2plz 18-21, M Jan 11

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