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I Think Life Is Too Short to Be In An Unhappy Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 284 People

    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen 56-60, F 2 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Being True To Myself.

    I was married to a man for almost 8 years. He is gay and used me to be socially accaptable in our southern communtiy. I am not going to be used anymore and I am going to be happy. I ended the marriage and am finding my self esteem.
    brickbybrick1111 brickbybrick1111 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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    What To Do When Your Marriage Is Over?

    I have what appears to be a good life. My husband is a good provider and I do not want for any thing. The problem is that he is a sex addict and as cliche as that sounds, it is a horrible reality for me.  Are there any women out there going thru the same with your husband...
    kadu2 kadu2 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 7, 2011

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    Is This It?

    Good Morning, I have only been married for 18 months and I am very unhappy. I am considering walking away. My husband is not a bad man. I just have no desire to be with him. Unsure where to go from here. But life is too short. x
    saucyjaguar0 saucyjaguar0 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 28, 2012

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    Bewildered and Fatigued

    Hi Group, Never joined one of these before but I have never been this far down to the end of my sanity rope before.  I have been married for nearly 20, dated for a prior 2 years.  I am so deeply saddened to say (and know) that I clearly married the wrong person. ...
    JohnInc JohnInc 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Annoying Lover

    I don't know if there is a such thing, all I do is shower my wife with love but Im starting to feel like maybe im over doing it.  Sure there are tons of women who want attention love and affection but not my wife lol.  She is just a lil rough around the edges but nothing i do...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 9, 2012

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    Totally In Love But Wife Is Emotionless.

    Let me start by saying that Im an awesome husband, I do everything there is to do, I put my beautiful wife on the highest of all pedastools I worship the ground she walks on and yet no reward.  I don't want a pat on the back, a treat or for her to bow down to be, but I feel I...
    taylorgang24 taylorgang24 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 23, 2011

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    Queen of Bad Choices

    I was going to write how I got to this point but it became way too long.  I am 59 years old, married for the last 36 years to the same man and have been unhappy for probably 30 of them.  Different years were different degrees of unhappiness but unhappy all the same...
    BadChoiceQueen BadChoiceQueen 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2009

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    Appearances Can Be Deceiving

    I'm not one to knock the idea of marriage in general. I do believe it's a wonderful ideal. It's an overwhelming commitment to vow to spend the rest of your life with someone, to love & honor them, through good times & bad. To share that with someone must be one of the...
    SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy 51-55, F 7 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    Loveless Marriage

    I have been married for 10years and it has been a disaster from the start. I thought stupidly I had met someone reliable and honest boy was I wrong!! From the first day of moving in together I thought I had married an other person I didnt know. This person was cruel and...
    SHELLY161 SHELLY161 41-45 1 Response Sep 3, 2012

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    True Colors

    We got married way too fast.  Two weeks after we were married, he showed his true colors.  I understand that I made my bed and have to lie in it and all that.  I took vows and really tried to make the marriage work.  It's been almost two years now and I know...
    2weekslater 2weekslater 36-40 3 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    Dog On a Nail

    ever here the story about the whining dog on the porch sitting with his owner?  the passerby asks "why is your dog whining?"  response was bc he is laying on a nail.  "why doesn't he move"...it doesn't hurt enough to move"....this is how I...
    summers2008 summers2008 46-50 5 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Seems I'm The One Who Keeps Causing The Unhappiness....what To Do??

    Ok, here’s my story…though I’m giving a shortened version. First marriage ended in divorce after seven or so years w/ no children. Can’t offer a huge explanation except to say we did not communicate as I would have liked. But, I was already feeling inside that there was...
    bikerbiker bikerbiker 41-45, M Nov 14, 2012

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    Change Isn't Always An Option

    Before you go giving someone advice about how they should just leave and blah blah blah, you should consider that there are many circumstances you don't know about. In some cases, you simply must do whatever you have to, and capture and cherish every little moment of happiness...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 27, 2011

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    Why Stay?

    Long story short: after I learned some of the skills and techniques to make a happy marriage, my then wife was not interested, so I LEFT.
    jimrich jimrich 66-70, M 1 Response Jan 28, 2011

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    Stuck Between Doing What's Right And Wanting To Be Happy....

    I've been married for 10 years. I got pregnant in an early age. Because of the guilt we followed what our parents want us to do, we got married! I bore another child the following year. I'm now 27 and could not found anything in common with my husband. I was just 17...
    liberteamour liberteamour 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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    Tired of My Husband!

    I am tired of my husband! I don't love him and never did! I don't know what to do about it. He says he will do something stupid if I leave. I am getting to the point of no return. I hate to have sex with him. I long for someone to love and someone that I am attracted to also...
    celestialangel celestialangel 46-50, F 18 Responses Aug 18, 2008

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    Bpack Bpack 31-35 Dec 14, 2014

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    Towards The End!

    This is my second marriage. That alone is a hard thing for me. My first marriage lasted ten years, but he turned out gay.  My second marriage, I thought would be the one to last forever. I lived in Germany and he lived in England, both Americans working for the military...
    pyromonkeysgirl pyromonkeysgirl 26-30 Jul 8, 2010

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    The Lessons We Share and Learn

    I was raised in a ultra traditional household - mother cooked every meal, father worked, sports, love, family, church ... blah blah blah. My parents have now been married 42 years. Of those 42 years - my father cheated on my mother for 20 of those years. It was not until I...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Best Friends No Intimacy.... Big Problem

    I have been with my husband for almost 17 yrs, married for 12.  Up until a year and a half ago.... we were still like newly weds... but now, all the intimacy has gone out of the relationship.  He is a wonderful guy, great Dad, helps out around the house, we don't fight...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    So Do Something, If You '..think Life Is Too Short To Be In An Unhappy Marriage'

    If you’re marriage is unhappy, think what you can do about it. What is within your power to change to make it better? It involves at least two people. Don’t just assume life’s too short and so it’s time to leave, it’s only one way to resolve things.
    Hypericum Hypericum 56-60, M 5 Responses Sep 15, 2011

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    Married 38 Years And Very Happy

    My main reason for entering was chat area is mainly to gain advice for my son who has just seperated after 10 years, I started researching why people do not stay married and found there are many reasons, most of them are because of selfishness and some are because some think...
    RobWilbow RobWilbow 56-60, M 3 Responses May 11, 2010

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    Is It To Much To Ask?

    I work all day, worry about the bills, the kids, and how we are going to buy grocerys. My husband does none of those things. So is it to much to ask to have clean towels every, and clean dishes? He has not a worry in the world and I hate him for it! I have no respect for his...
    Whatinthellwasithinking Whatinthellwasithinking 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Relief

    In May of 2009 I will have been married for 7 years. We have a beautiful, smart, sweet six year old daughter who is the center our our lives, yet we share nothing together aside from the roof over our heads. We have slept in separate rooms for almost 6 of those seven years, and...
    7yearitch 7yearitch 31-35 5 Responses Nov 29, 2008

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    Unsure

    I have only been married for a little more than a year, dated 2 yrs. prior.  Technically we are still newly weds, however getting him to have sex with me is almost impossible.  When we do, there is no passion or romance.  I asked him if he was cheating, if it...
    Judy1973 Judy1973 36-40 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    There was a time when I wanted to work on my marriage.I felt hurt a lot but I persisted.Now I prefer to let my husband show his commitment to me.
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    I never get why people waste energy hating other people as the saying go's life is a box of chocolates if you don't like some ones flavour fine baby move on and find a different...
    CandiceAllcoxx CandiceAllcoxx 26-30, T 1 day ago

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    Think Life Jackets Should Be Worn By Kids and all people who cant swim........................
    hope1091 hope1091 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    So many people find me strange for taking an enormous interest in watching documenteries (spelled wrong?) about theories in regards to the purpose of life. But it isn't really an...
    Imaginatrix Imaginatrix 16-17, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    How I enjoy my wife's very short Pixie hair. She used to have goegeous beyond words silky soft shiny dark brown hair almost th her elbows which I cherished and loved to play with...
    Hairboy2015 Hairboy2015 41-45, M 2 days ago

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    I think life is random. People come and go. There is no reason behind it.
    BrokenAngel38 BrokenAngel38 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I would zing totm this experience that is almost invisible on ep. this is a good reminder that pain and loneliness are just sometimes a part of a larger project that can also have...
    LeighAd1 LeighAd1 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    You try to be something great. Then, you get f***** because people come to disappoint you. Some people won't even give you a chance to do anything you set your mind to because they...
    JK7448 JK7448 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    It never cease to amaze me how deep the basic animal instincts go in us humans, and how strong of a need people have to have the protection of a "heard", so to speak. I don't...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 66-70, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Another day another gone too young, Princess Diana, Whitney, now her daughter, these thinkers are too precious to be forgotten.I dream of a world where things such as love and...
    peoplesprincess peoplesprincess 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Yet right now I am too tired to even want to try to use my few hours after work to do anything.
    BrokenAngel38 BrokenAngel38 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    Life's too short, to simply waste, Slow it down, don't move with haste. Time is once, you get to spend, Carefully choose, every friend. Life's too short, to change careers...
    thequeend thequeend 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    I'm 158cm... I'm too short huh :o
    Rika39 Rika39 18-21, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    im a 4'8 chick!1!1! this story is too short just like me!1!1
    izzzy098 izzzy098 13-15, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Life seems so pointless. We grow up to go to school, get a job, and have kids so that they can do the same exact thing. For me, it’s been: eat, sleep, wake up, go to school...
    Morzz Morzz 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    for the days have spent, mostly I feel life is very confusing. that made me realize, happiness isn't permanent, they constantly change, everyday. for a second, your joy would turn...
    Sonnetxvii Sonnetxvii 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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