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I Think Men and Women Can Just Be Friends

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    In my life I have had many more women friends

    than guy friends. Probably because I always had women around....and no brothers. After getting Married and moving out of state, I lost touch with the friends I had. I'd like to meet some platonic friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 9, 2014

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    I've had guy friends in the past to now,

    some whom I'm still friends with till this day. And I've dealt with guys who treated me as though I was their girlfriend and that was so stressful. It doesn't make any sense to automatically make someone your girlfriend or boyfriend when you've just met them either virtually or...
    Cutiepeachpie Cutiepeachpie 22-25, F May 6

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    For whatever reason, I usually find it easier

    to talk to woman. I don't know about texting since I've never had an Internet friend, but in real life, I find it easier to talk to the ladies. I am not effeminate in any way. I'm just more at home. Maybe it's a competition thing. Or possibly, I have more grace for woman than I...
    cdbrez cdbrez 46-50, M Feb 8

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    Friendship Over Desire...

    Or the desire for friendship. I'm one of those who cherishes friendship -or a good intellectual relationship- above the desire to have sex with a woman. Even when I would seriously desire the woman in question. I also have a few (two, to be exact) pretty close woman friends...
    jimmyrudyjump jimmyrudyjump 51-55, M 23 Responses Feb 20, 2011

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    Absolutely.. I have several male friends

    that I don't have a romantic interest in or vice versa. We can talk or even hang out without it ever crossing the line. They are my eyes and ears to the male perspective. A single girl without flirting skills needs these peeps.
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    My best friend in the entire world is a guy,

    he's like family to me in that, he has my unconditional love. However I could never date him. It's not that I'm not attracted to him, it's that we've been so honest with each other that if could never be comfortable being intimate with him. He's told me everything he finds...
    immorethanmymistakes immorethanmymistakes 16-17, F 2 Responses May 14, 2014

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    How Silly

    I just read one of the funniest and yet poignant stories. EP Link Some people get so hung up on details and they miss the bigger picture. The author describes herself as "his maid." But, clearly, this is out of love and affection. Some might say that he's in charge and...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere 41-45, M 3 Responses May 2, 2012

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    Apparently not only can they not be friends

    but the man has to turn into a total jerk as well.... Why must things be so complicated.....
    nstar1983 nstar1983 31-35, F 6 Responses May 15

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    I think a girl and guy can be just friendsI

    don't have many guy friends though and find it difficult to make friendship with men as I am not sure how to behave I get accused of flirting a lot even though I don't mean to and don't find the man attractive I have not had much experience as I haveno brothers and not many...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 1

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    I think it is possible,

    but in a lot of cases...someone is eventually going to catch the feels.
    bombchu bombchu 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I don't see why not. I have male friends.

    It bothers me when people say they can't. Yeah, because all of them are going to fall in love with me, even the gay ones, because I'm so fecking flawless. ( -_-)/
    InvaderGashloog InvaderGashloog 70+, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2014

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    If they're good enough to be your

    boyfriend/girlfriend, then they're good enough to be your friend. Just because you might get turned down on a date, don't turn down the chance of a great friendship also.
    dragonchixx dragonchixx 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    I'm looking for a girl

    that can be friend.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 25

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    I am really starting to disagree with this

    statement, sexual tension always seems to get in the way.....
    nstar1983 nstar1983 31-35, F 38 Responses May 6

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    Most of my friends are men.

    Girls can get Caty sometimes. Don't get me wrong I have girlfriends but very little. Men are just easier to talk to for me.
    trixypix1 trixypix1 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14, 2014

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    SO, we hung out for a bit,

    got to know each other fairly well (IMO) and we have quite a number of things in common. We got a lot wasted one night, and with her screaming "F me!" I wasn't about to disappoint a lady who makes such bold demands. Both of us were quite mature about the whole situation and have...
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    It Annoys Me When Guy/Girl Friendships Always Turn Into Romance In The Media

    Seriously... in almost every movie I see, or book I read, when there is a guy who is best friends with a girl... they fall in love. (ex. Ron and Hermione in Harry Potter) I mean why can't they just be really close friends, does the media really think a guy and a girl can't be...
    ForeverEternal ForeverEternal 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Just because my best friend is a guy doesn't

    mean that we are dating, going to date, or even want to date, he is just my friend, stop making it into more than it is...
    anovasiangel anovasiangel 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2014

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    I hate it when people start asking "Are you two

    dating cause you two are always together?" NO. It is possible to just be very close friends with a girl when you're a guy. I usually am very close with 1 girl and then we kinda grow apart but then I find another girl with who I get close with pretty quickly. The girls I get...
    TheTiredOne TheTiredOne 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I'd rather make a friend

    than just about anything else. Loneliness is cured by having friends that understand you; not by sex. If you don't think men and women can be friends you're missing out—although it does take two people for friendship to work.
    ZeroCircle ZeroCircle 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 25, 2014

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    I have several male friends

    who were just that. A one stage I actually shared a house with 2 men neither of whom I was sleeping with & to this day are still friends & still haven't slept with. I now share with a male friend who was. FWB but he doesn't do the relationship thing & I don't do the FWB thing...
    JediWitch JediWitch 56-60, F 2 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    Yea I agree with this

    but my boyfriend calls me a hoe if I have a guy as a friend I mean I don't see no harm as long as I'm being loyal he should trust me.
    teenworldgonebad teenworldgonebad 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 5

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    Men and women should be friends.

    Why not? As long as you guys are not smashing each other. Yes they can be friends.
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    I am in a relationship

    for many years now. I have 1 good male friend. I have 3 good male friends. While not typical, it is definitely possible to be just friends.
    BillMyRoom BillMyRoom 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 24

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    Jovanite Jovanite 13-15, M 5 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I really want a male friend.

    It'll be nice to have a male voice of reasoning sometimes.
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 12, 2014

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    My female friends always assume

    that I'm hanging out with a guy because I want to date him. They assume I'm kind to the opposite gender for sex. It gets annoying, but I can understand. Our generation is obsessed with such things.
    Anonliljokergirl Anonliljokergirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    cassiecc11 cassiecc11 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2014

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    I don't get a long with most females well due

    to all the drama and im just not super girly.. I'd rather be doing things outside with the boys.. I've had great guy friends growing up.
    rustydiamond22 rustydiamond22 26-30, F 5 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I think so. Just bc you have a vagina doesn't

    mean I want to sleep with you. I have lots of female friends that I never came on to. Now not everyone is like that but for me I can be friends with most females.
    RastaGotSoul RastaGotSoul 22-25, M 5 Responses May 16

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I would love to find a man

    who can just be my friend. We get along and everything is cool and then they always make **** weird.
    AmayaHoo AmayaHoo 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Yes we can be friends I have female friends

    that that we are just friends and no more then that .
    Wildman43055 Wildman43055 46-50, M Feb 14

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    Sure We Can Be Friends.

    I don't see why not.I have a few female friends and they are just that...friends.  We don't see each other sexually, I don't try to hit on them every chance I get and they don't do that to me.  I've never tried to get fresh with them or say out of the way **** to them.  We are...
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 26, 2012

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    I believe this can be possible.

    It's just most things are revolving around sex, and it doesn't have to be. It's quite unfair to only have that possibility with a gay man.
    NaomiSunshine NaomiSunshine 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    Do you realize that a woman's "I'll be ready in

    five minutes." and a guy's " I'll be home in five minutes." are exactly the same?
    texaspilot texaspilot 46-50, M 11 Responses May 27

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    So I've recently met a few men on here

    that I can, perhaps, be just friends with. I've been just friends with men in the past. Only once did a friendship end without a reason given. I know what the circumstances were and I don't hold it against him. I forgave him years ago. I was a willing participant and I take...
    ttbridge ttbridge 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    Every time I talk to a guy on here,

    he quits talking to me once I say I have a boyfriend. Like we can't just be friends. I know they can't be approaching me because they actually want to date me/sex me because I'm pretty. They have to be desperate.
    x0UnionJack0x x0UnionJack0x 22-25, F 12 Responses May 14, 2014

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    Absolutely! I've got some awesome guy friends

    and I wouldn't ever change anything about it. Friendship does not see any boundaries, it's just different people hitting it off together and being there for you when you need a friend. Ofcourse life happens and everyone gets too busy but your true friends will always be there...
    travelbug1 travelbug1 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    The ibky reason why thus current society thinks

    that people form the oppisite genders i s because we have to to the stupid conclusion that girl can't keeps their legs shut and the the mand mind is always on the gutter.
    AlexV0707 AlexV0707 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 5

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    Since I was in grade school,

    my friends have been 90% male. There were only 5-7 girls since I have been in grade school that I got along with. My best friend is a male and we have been friends for over 10yrs but there has never been anything intimate between us. We have a brother/sister relationship but...
    Navia55 Navia55 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    I wish there were more men

    and women in the world who could understand this. In my teenage years I had more focus on having male friends. I appreciate their objectivity and simplicity in helping me assess any difficult situation. Female friends are great to cry around with, and with male friends --- if...
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe 41-45, F 1 Response May 16

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    Can a man and a woman just be friends?

    The age old question?hmmm it's a tough one because it's stirs up so much controversy. I want to think I believe that it can be accomplished by mutual respect. I think as soon as you cross the line with sexual questions about how do you like it in the bedroom or stuff of that...
    Eyesshut78 Eyesshut78 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Men and Women Can Be Friends

    I know that men and women can be friends, but I have to say that it is rare to be friends with a guy that doesn't at least once try to hit on you.  It does happen though.  I have had many male friends in my life and prefer to be around men than women.  But, almost...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    One of my best friends is a girl

    and I wouldn't change a thing about our relationship. It is fantastic! Why does everything have to be about sex, come on peeps!
    ThePeoplesChamp ThePeoplesChamp 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 17, 2014

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