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I Think Men and Women Can Just Be Friends

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    The Friendship Can Be Desexualised.

    I have several colleagues who are happy relating to me in a non sexual way. I like a repartee. I like debate. Sex is a prime motivator, but it doesn't have to figure in all relationships.
    aoutdouze aoutdouze 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2013

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    Just because my best friend is a guy doesn't

    mean that we are dating, going to date, or even want to date, he is just my friend, stop making it into more than it is...
    anovasiangel anovasiangel 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I learned at an early age from my younger

    brother & cousins that guys are more fun to hang around with. I also learned that there is less drama in most cases.
    graeff120 graeff120 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 30

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    How to speak to women?

    ! Would you suggest this guide hmm...
    eplife eplife 31-35, M 3 Responses May 1

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    Men and Women Can Be Friends

    I know that men and women can be friends, but I have to say that it is rare to be friends with a guy that doesn't at least once try to hit on you.  It does happen though.  I have had many male friends in my life and prefer to be around men than women.  But, almost...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    How Silly

    I just read one of the funniest and yet poignant stories. EP Link Some people get so hung up on details and they miss the bigger picture. The author describes herself as "his maid." But, clearly, this is out of love and affection. Some might say that he's in charge and...
    NoLongerHere NoLongerHere 41-45, M 3 Responses May 2, 2012

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    Of course people can be friends in general

    but I think what people don't realize is once you have to say "let's just be friends" there are a lot of people that will still try to be romantic and go after the other, that or it will just be too heartbreaking for them to accept. As a whole yes they can be friends but if you...
    Franchise1107 Franchise1107 16-17, M Aug 4

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    Dinosaurfanatic Dinosaurfanatic 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    Why not? My two best friends are guys

    and we're only friends
    JalenFrankie616 JalenFrankie616 13-15, F Jun 17

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    It Annoys Me When Guy/Girl Friendships Always Turn Into Romance In The Media

    Seriously... in almost every movie I see, or book I read, when there is a guy who is best friends with a girl... they fall in love. (ex. Ron and Hermione in Harry Potter) I mean why can't they just be really close friends, does the media really think a guy and a girl can't be...
    ForeverEternal ForeverEternal 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Sure We Can Be Friends.

    I don't see why not.I have a few female friends and they are just that...friends.  We don't see each other sexually, I don't try to hit on them every chance I get and they don't do that to me.  I've never tried to get fresh with them or say out of the way **** to them.  We are...
    RagingSkillet RagingSkillet 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 26, 2012

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    Yep. A concept my former wife could never get

    her head round. Much of my work has a 80/20 ratio of women to men. Does that mean none of them can be friends?
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 2 Responses May 12

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    I totally believe in this.

    The person I consider to be my closest friend is a man and I would honestly be lost without him. I have lots of friends and they are a mix of male and female. Several of these are men who I have known since my school days and we get along really well and enjoy each others...
    Turnturn Turnturn 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    In my old school, All throughout kindergarten

    and grade school my best friend was a dude, his name was Dasani (yes like the water) . ^^ we were the best of friends almost inseparable. But I can't really know for sure considering we were young and he may of had a crush on me that I hadn't known of. ^^
    thanamesnyaa thanamesnyaa 16-17, F Jul 7

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    Me and my best friend

    who is male, have just been friends for 12-13 years. We are both 19 years old, but I'm older then him by 8 months. We sort of act like a couple but we're not. We have seen each other naked but have never done anything sexual. We've slept in each other's beds and I can...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    sometimes people that you think they love you ,

    they are actually trying to make you a little stupid so it's better if we just try to get along as friends.
    starglaze124 starglaze124 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    I hate it when people start asking "Are you two

    dating cause you two are always together?" NO. It is possible to just be very close friends with a girl when you're a guy. I usually am very close with 1 girl and then we kinda grow apart but then I find another girl with who I get close with pretty quickly. The girls I get...
    TheTiredOne TheTiredOne 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    I have two guyfriends

    who I'm super close with. One asked me out, but I rejected him, as I'm not ready to move on from my old bf who is soon moving to another country (thats why we had to break up). But one thing I always tell him is that we should stay friends because I don't like him that way...
    SteffXRocker SteffXRocker 13-15, F 1 Response May 11

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    It is hard though. I have this one friend

    who is a girl, she is my best friend and I am hers. Everyone one we know says at one point or another "You guys should go out!" We look at each other and say "Eww that gross." Because we see each other as brother and sister. Plus deep down in our hearts, there are things that...
    RandomFriendGuy RandomFriendGuy 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 8

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    It's super easy, I mean of course depending on

    the person most will develop a crush, but it'll go away. I mean I have a couple of guy friends, but a girlfriend is a little bit more better, when you want to talk about some certain stuff.
    GeekLeak GeekLeak 13-15, F May 14

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    I Love Women!!

    It doesn't matter what gender you are,friends are friends!Some are just cuter than others!!!!
    Spitbak Spitbak 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 28, 2012

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    One of the only men who has stuck around

    for some time now (other than my boyfriend) is my good friend who is also a guy. We decided after fooling around a bit that we didn't want to loose our friendship and it's been four years now. We have had ups and downs and both our partners have had issues with us being...
    lovelylasscan lovelylasscan 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    I have always had tons of guy friends

    until I met my now husband. Now I'm forced to have just girl friends, so I only have 5 good friends now.
    Shortandsweets Shortandsweets 26-30, F 12 Responses May 11

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    When Harry Met Sally.

    Yes men and women can just be friends, because there doesn't have to be a sexual attraction between every man and woman.But maybe the question is, can a man and a woman be friends if one of them is attracted to the other? I think you can.When Harry Met Sally:Harry Burns: You...
    Abyss25 Abyss25 22-25, M 2 Responses Oct 12, 2011

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    It's Possible....

    My best friend, other then my husband, is a guy.  We met when we were in highschool.  We instantly clicked....and spent a lot of time together, talking, laughing and just being silly.  He would tell me about the girls he liked, and I would tell him about the guys that I...
    reallygoodperson reallygoodperson 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 30, 2011

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    When I think of this,

    this comes to mind :). http://www.collegehumor.com/embed/6666713/can-men-and-women-be-friends-survey
    Novemberman Novemberman 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 21

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    Women: what are you looking

    for on EP? Are there guys you've talked to that aren't interested in s*x? Have you enjoyed someone so much to text them? Men: what's your ideal woman? What considers you different than most men on here? If you were young would you go for older women, and vice versa?
    e3drummer e3drummer 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    My childhood best friend

    and I have been friends as long as I can remember. And we're just like brothers and sisters. It's very possible for two different people to be best friends who talk about anything in life. We can call each other at anytime, or hang up on each other on anytime.
    erissa35 erissa35 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    Of course! I have plenty of guy friends

    who i would never consider anything more
    WendyDarlin WendyDarlin 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    One of my best friends is a girl

    and I wouldn't change a thing about our relationship. It is fantastic! Why does everything have to be about sex, come on peeps!
    ThePeoplesChamp ThePeoplesChamp 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 17

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    Amazing Friends

    Of course men and woman can be friends. Some of the best friendships I have known have been with women. As a man they offer a view point that truly enriches my life. There are many things that these friendships even more valuable to me. I have had many times with a woman friend...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    I Know It'S True

    My husband and I have been just friends for years!!! Hahahaha Btw, is there an EP for "I crack myself up" ?
    lasch lasch 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2013

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    I don't see why not? Attraction can cause

    tension, but if two people are mature enough I don't see why they can't be friends
    CaptainBenza CaptainBenza 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 8

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    I have more male friends

    than females just because I was hurt in the past, but I've had to make friends with gay guys because yes they do get a crush on you and even tho you have said at the beginning of the relationship we are just friends they say that you are leading then up the garden parth so I don...
    tttopuk tttopuk 26-30, F 1 Response May 14

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    The ONLY way men and women can just be friends

    is if they are not at all attracted to each other. Instinct always wins.
    StellaNoir StellaNoir 31-35, F 7 Responses Mar 21

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    I do. But at the same time,

    if you like the guy, it's kind of difficult not to still have feelings for him and know that all you can ever be is just friends :/
    musicislife00 musicislife00 13-15, F May 14

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    90% of my friends are guys!

    The only time they ever try anything is when we are stoned or wasted! And that's not often!
    SurpriseMeToday SurpriseMeToday 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    I don't get a long with most females well due

    to all the drama and im just not super girly.. I'd rather be doing things outside with the boys.. I've had great guy friends growing up.
    rustydiamond22 rustydiamond22 26-30, F 6 Responses May 14

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    Of Course

    I'm a man and I've had female "just friends" my whole life. I'm straight and I'm sexual, but I'm not interested in sleeping with every woman out there. It's not just about looks. There have been attractive women I have turned down because we didn't click or I ...
    anonyc anonyc 36-40, M 11 Responses Dec 15, 2008

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    I'd rather make a friend

    than just about anything else. Loneliness is cured by having friends that understand you; not by sex. If you don't think men and women can be friends you're missing out—although it does take two people for friendship to work.
    ZeroCircle ZeroCircle 31-35, M 7 Responses Jan 25

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    I don't see why not. At the end of the day,

    we are all human beings and we shouldn't be friends with someone based on gender. With the right mindset, some self-control and a good level of maturity, it's really not that difficult to be just friends with a girl. It's actually very healthy and beneficial. My best friend is a...
    Tarik19 Tarik19 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Friendship Over Desire...

    Or the desire for friendship. I'm one of those who cherishes friendship -or a good intellectual relationship- above the desire to have sex with a woman. Even when I would seriously desire the woman in question. I also have a few (two, to be exact) pretty close woman friends...
    jimmyrudyjump jimmyrudyjump 51-55, M 23 Responses Feb 20, 2011

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    My best friend in the entire world is a guy,

    he's like family to me in that, he has my unconditional love. However I could never date him. It's not that I'm not attracted to him, it's that we've been so honest with each other that if could never be comfortable being intimate with him. He's told me everything he finds...
    immorethanmymistakes immorethanmymistakes 16-17, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I can be the coolest chick you'll ever find.

    But I can also be the hottest girl you'll ever be with.. Well, that's a joke HAHAHAHA. Yeah, we can all be friends :)
    MyGosh MyGosh 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    Since I was in grade school,

    my friends have been 90% male. There were only 5-7 girls since I have been in grade school that I got along with. My best friend is a male and we have been friends for over 10yrs but there has never been anything intimate between us. We have a brother/sister relationship but...
    Navia55 Navia55 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 23

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    Duh! I have lots of male friends

    and we think of eachother as friends and nothing more than that. Well I'm bi/lesbian but yeah I don't like guys on that level anyways. So of course guys and girls can be 'just friends'.👫
    XxBellabixtch49xX XxBellabixtch49xX 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    Absolutely.. I have several male friends

    that I don't have a romantic interest in or vice versa. We can talk or even hang out without it ever crossing the line. They are my eyes and ears to the male perspective. A single girl without flirting skills needs these peeps.
    Jerseygirl72 Jerseygirl72 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    My female friends always assume

    that I'm hanging out with a guy because I want to date him. They assume I'm kind to the opposite gender for sex. It gets annoying, but I can understand. Our generation is obsessed with such things.
    Anonliljokergirl Anonliljokergirl 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 8

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    Every time I talk to a guy on here,

    he quits talking to me once I say I have a boyfriend. Like we can't just be friends. I know they can't be approaching me because they actually want to date me/sex me because I'm pretty. They have to be desperate.
    x0UnionJack0x x0UnionJack0x 22-25, F 15 Responses May 14

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    I think this can happen,

    but usually only for women. I find that in my experience, men usually find themselves attracted to the woman after a while & either want to sleep with her or become more serious. I used to be really close with a whole group of guys.. after a while, one asked to make out, one...
    michellemay michellemay 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    I Have Male Friends........

    and its great. i get along much better with males than i do with females. a few of them started out as dates but we didnt click for whatever reason but kept in touch and became good friends. one of them i grew up with and we have stayed in touch over the years. im not sexually...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    I really want a male friend.

    It'll be nice to have a male voice of reasoning sometimes.
    Shygirl917 Shygirl917 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 12

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