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I Think Men Are Used and Abused

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    A Shell

    Not to say that men are not strong and not able to handle an awful lot, but when we as women constantly berate...and verbally abuse men for all the things they "don't" do they become defeated and stop trying. Men like to be acknowledged and supported....why give them such a hard...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    Caring

    There are many men today who have caring and compassionate hearts and just like a woman they to are being used and abused. I have read many stories on EP about men who have been truly hurt, used and abused by there partners and I find it heartbreaking. These men have given their...
    RESCUE RESCUE 61-65, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2008

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    They Love It

    they love it or they wouldnt come back for more
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Pretty much title says it all.

    ... Sad thing is, it's our fault (((women))) who allowed it to happen.....
    EyeDontGiveAHoot EyeDontGiveAHoot 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    I Madder Then Hell and I'm Going to Take It Any More!

    That's it! Today I go home I am going to tell her to stop washing my freakin clothes and for God sake stop making my **&^% dinner! I can see now that I am being used and abused! She always says she irons my shirts because she likes for me to look nice! What a load of crap...
    JustSillyStuff JustSillyStuff 46-50, T 8 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    True. Not just I think,

    but I believe and I know, as I experience, and as I experienced.
    Pianist1090 Pianist1090 18-21, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    By Some Women

    They are tricked and taken advantage of when it comes to some women. The nice ones in my mind seem to mostly be attracted to girls that could care less about them. Some men are used to make the girl's boyfriend jealous, other men are verbally abused my their wives, etc even when...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    And Its Fun For Me.....

     I really enjoy using and abusing men. I love having a man pay me more attention each time I do,Seems to keep them wrapped around my pinky.  I would never  intentionally hurt them,I do warn them I am this way.Its not my fault they choose to play.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    LilAnnie LilAnnie 56-60, F 3 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    I Wasn't Always Like This

    I used to be a generous man. I used to be truthful to a fault. Once upon a time, I was happy and giving of my time and help to others. I used to be one of those "live and let live" types. And then I married. My dedication to truth and giving was my foundation, and I thought...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 22, 2011

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    I Think All People Are

    but the statistics on men are limited by the fact that it's not common or accepted for them to speak up about it. They're told to grow a thicker skin, that it's a woman thing to be used and abuse, as if anyone deserves that sort of treatment. As if their "man card" will be...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers 22-25, T 3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    The Business Of Relationships

    I found this quote online that quite nicely wraps up my take on the whole "his money for her lovin" aspect of marriage. The disclaimer is that I am indeed one of those men who is paid well and through personal habits and good genes happens to be getting better looking with age...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan 36-40, M 9 Responses Jan 28, 2011

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    The Shocking Truth About Domestic Violence, Part One

    For decades feminists have ferociously villified the whole male sex over domestic violence. They have portrayed marriage as dangerous for women because it pairs them with those violent beasts known as men. They have forced laws and customs of police enforcement that facilitate...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity 51-55, M 2 Responses Jan 14, 2011

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    My Ex-girlfriend Was Very Violent

    I’m a big guy, so I feel ashamed of admitting that I was abused by my little girlfriend. My friends all thought that I was so lucky to have a women like her. Only my roommate knew at the time. My girlfriend would get mad if another girl would say something to me or if I didn...
    Fordguy2011 Fordguy2011 18-21, M 5 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    Men Are Used and Abused Alot More Than You Think

    Men are expected in general to be providers.  Alot of women take advantage of that and expect the man to do everything for them and use them.  Other men are abused with crazy women that beat on them and cry domestic violence if the man fights back.  I would not...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2009

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    Not Talked About As Much As It Should Be,

     I see way to many women who use and abuse men mentally more then anything and it's frustrating cause they don't think they deserve or need to be protected as if standing up to those women makes them weak or something. I wish more people would talk about it and do more about...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    Don't Hurt Your Brothers...

    Yes.Men are not just genitals or bank balances. I'm speaking to all genders with this advice. I am a BDSM Mistress and I treat all males with respect.Respect Men and They (Most Likely) Will Honour You.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    Men Being Abused In America

    1 IN 4 WOMEN, 1 IN 9 MEN IN UNITED STATES ARE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES In households with incomes under $15,000 per year, 35.5% of women and 20.7% of men suffered violence from an intimate partner. 43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    Time To End Non-religious Circumcisions

    Some years ago, the death of one girl in Egypt from a circumcision caused an international firestorm that forced the Egyptian government to act. But is male circumcision any safer? It apparently is considerably less safe! In our own backyard over a hundred boys a year are dying...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity 51-55, M 25 Responses Aug 27, 2010

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    A Lot of Men Are Abused...

    I originally wrote this as a response to a quote from someone that domestic violence against men is nowhere near as prevelant as domestic violence against women but I ended up telling the story that happened to me and it felt good to finally tell it so here we go...
    chrisuk chrisuk 22-25 2 Responses Mar 13, 2009

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    I once believed this.

    Until one day out fishing at a near by pond where I had never caught any thing but insect bites it came to Me that this was My whole problem,I kept fishing in the same pond over and over.Now I look for ladies who are happy and love and respect Herself 1st.These are qualities We...
    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Don't Use Men...appreciate Them.

    I am absolutely sick of cutsie little princesses. They enjoy sucking in all of the nice men,  wearing them out and then throwing them away. My efforts to help them assert themselves again take years. STOP IT NOW!
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 15 Responses Sep 28, 2008

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    Yes You Are Poor Babies!!!

    Men are used and abused for many things.  Some women use men as a meal ticket while others use them as their protector while still others use them for their on sexual gratification. One of my EP friends I think put it best in one of his stories when he said if a woman acts...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 65 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Although There Is No Research To Back This Up..

    Perhaps I am wrong, but I am inclined to believe there are as many men abused as women.  However men tend to remain silent about what they have endured due to the way our society views abused men.     It seems men do not have the same type of freedom that women have...
    sherry123456789 sherry123456789 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    Girlpower Too Far

    i think men are taking a very submissive role these days and i see many of my friends being pushed around and abused by women. They are afraid to retaliate in ANY way to avoid been seen as a chauvanist, we need equality back please
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 8 Responses Sep 18, 2008

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    Mother's Wisdom

    My mother and I were discussing one of my male friends, who was dating a woman whom no one else trusted. I wondered why we were all so harsh on her; she seemed decent, and really, none of us knew her that well. She responded in a surprising manner: "If a man is financially...
    auroramaru auroramaru 46-50, F 12 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    I Call For the Return of Equality!

    It really pains me to see how men are treated in everyday life and I now think that a lot of men have just grown to accept it as normal or they do not challenge it through fear of being labeled a chauvinist. Men seem to be treated terribly and women just seem to get away with...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 14, 2008

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    Me Too

    Not only are men used and abused we are also misunderstood and stereotyped. Cheers!  
    Nanoose Nanoose 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    Feminism Has a Lot To Answer For!

    I think that feminism has given many women the right to act in an unbelievably selfish way. A lot of women have stopped appreciating men for being men by encroaching into their world.  I think that they have managed to not only leave our men feeling used and abused but they...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 13 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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    My Daddy Was, And I Know Other Guys

    It's very infuriating for me to know that some guys actually put up with being physically abused and just take it because they are too embarrassed that other men will think there wusses. Or maybe they take it because they go by the "don't hit girls" rule.  I used to have a ex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 26, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Just a questions. I was out at a "bro night" the other night and all they talked about was how hot other women were and how nice of assets they have. This makes me believe all men...
    LunaFox LunaFox 22-25, F 3 Responses May 3

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    I knew a guy who spent too much time getting close, tried to know every single thing about me, all details about my personality, he was even interested in knowing about my dreams...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 3

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    I do think that men can be jerks at time. However, I think for some they don't realise that they are being a jerk and don't mean to be. It is upsetting though because it hurts when...
    internationalkoala internationalkoala 18-21, F 1 Response May 12

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    Was reading a statistic yesterday about premature death, which was not from sickness.. But in tranffic, etc etc. And men were ALOT higher, something like 8x times more men than...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M May 1

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    It’s all exciting, but yet frightening when trying to date someone new. When you are used to one person for about five years, it’s definitely a new thing going out and dating...
    Haywee123 Haywee123 22-25, F May 3

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    Not just gay men but all men are hot. Its just that gay men enjoy the same things that I do.
    wanker1953 wanker1953 61-65, M 2 Responses May 6

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    I really thing gay men are hot especially hairy...
    itsPuma itsPuma 18-21, M May 7

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    I can't say I don't understand people's way of thinking, and maybe I don't think they are retarded but I do think it's unfortunate that they don't understand what it's like...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 6

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    SOCIAL EXPERIMENT: Men, if you tell a woman that "shes out of your league" 9 times out of 10 she won't disagree lol, try it sometime
    TOR0NTOguy TOR0NTOguy 22-25, M 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Ok man stop acting like women and act like a man. Take care of the women like you're supposed to, as the way it used to be stop crying men, women cry women wanted men to be more in...
    thomwhite59 thomwhite59 51-55, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Well, in simple, people at school are bad.
    havingfun89 havingfun89 16-17, M 4 days ago

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    We are not stupid...... we have come a long way....we are intelligent, strong...we are not inferior...we do not belong in the kitchen garbage any more....we do not need to stay...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 4 Responses May 3

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    Yes, tot a black woman their super exotic. I'm used to dark skin so white skin is an adventure I guess. lol
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    Peeps, before you get enraged and swing a hatchet at me, PLEASE hear me out: this is just an observation. I do NOT hate men, or anybody for that matter. Anyway, from what I have...
    Bibiana554 Bibiana554 56-60, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Well, since I am a gay man, I am strongly attracted to other men who are gay. When an adolescent, I enjoyed other boys and came to the conclusion that I was bisexual. I have NEVER...