I Think Men Are Used and Abused

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    Feminism Has a Lot To Answer For!

    I think that feminism has given many women the right to act in an unbelievably selfish way. A lot of women have stopped appreciating men for being men by encroaching into their world.  I think that they have managed to not only leave our men feeling used and abused but they...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Aug 7, 2008

    Caring

    There are many men today who have caring and compassionate hearts and just like a woman they to are being used and abused. I have read many stories on EP about men who have been truly hurt, used and abused by there partners and I find it heartbreaking. These men have given their...
    RESCUE RESCUE
    61-65, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2008

    Not Talked About As Much As It Should Be,

     I see way to many women who use and abuse men mentally more then anything and it's frustrating cause they don't think they deserve or need to be protected as if standing up to those women makes them weak or something. I wish more people would talk about it and do more about...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Apr 21, 2009

    Don't Use Men...appreciate Them.

    I am absolutely sick of cutsie little princesses. They enjoy sucking in all of the nice men,  wearing them out and then throwing them away. My efforts to help them assert themselves again take years. STOP IT NOW!
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    15 Responses Sep 28, 2008

    The Business Of Relationships

    I found this quote online that quite nicely wraps up my take on the whole "his money for her lovin" aspect of marriage. The disclaimer is that I am indeed one of those men who is paid well and through personal habits and good genes happens to be getting better looking with age...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Jan 28, 2011

    The Shocking Truth About Domestic Violence, Part One

    For decades feminists have ferociously villified the whole male sex over domestic violence. They have portrayed marriage as dangerous for women because it pairs them with those violent beasts known as men. They have forced laws and customs of police enforcement that facilitate...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2011

    They Love It

    they love it or they wouldnt come back for more
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    A Lot of Men Are Abused...

    I originally wrote this as a response to a quote from someone that domestic violence against men is nowhere near as prevelant as domestic violence against women but I ended up telling the story that happened to me and it felt good to finally tell it so here we go...
    chrisuk chrisuk
    22-25
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2009

    Although There Is No Research To Back This Up..

    Perhaps I am wrong, but I am inclined to believe there are as many men abused as women.  However men tend to remain silent about what they have endured due to the way our society views abused men.     It seems men do not have the same type of freedom that women have...
    sherry123456789 sherry123456789
    46-50, F
    22 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    True. Not just I think,

    but I believe and I know, as I experience, and as I experienced.
    Pianist1090 Pianist1090
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 23, 2015

    I Madder Then Hell and I'm Going to Take It Any More!

    That's it! Today I go home I am going to tell her to stop washing my freakin clothes and for God sake stop making my **&^% dinner! I can see now that I am being used and abused! She always says she irons my shirts because she likes for me to look nice! What a load of crap...
    JustSillyStuff JustSillyStuff
    46-50, T
    8 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I once believed this.

    Until one day out fishing at a near by pond where I had never caught any thing but insect bites it came to Me that this was My whole problem,I kept fishing in the same pond over and over.Now I look for ladies who are happy and love and respect Herself 1st.These are qualities We...
    The1960texan The1960texan
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    And Its Fun For Me.....

     I really enjoy using and abusing men. I love having a man pay me more attention each time I do,Seems to keep them wrapped around my pinky.  I would never  intentionally hurt them,I do warn them I am this way.Its not my fault they choose to play.
    blackcat blackcat
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I Think All People Are

    but the statistics on men are limited by the fact that it's not common or accepted for them to speak up about it. They're told to grow a thicker skin, that it's a woman thing to be used and abuse, as if anyone deserves that sort of treatment. As if their "man card" will be...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers
    22-25, T
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

    By Some Women

    They are tricked and taken advantage of when it comes to some women. The nice ones in my mind seem to mostly be attracted to girls that could care less about them. Some men are used to make the girl's boyfriend jealous, other men are verbally abused my their wives, etc even when...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2008
    LilAnnie LilAnnie
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2012

    I Call For the Return of Equality!

    It really pains me to see how men are treated in everyday life and I now think that a lot of men have just grown to accept it as normal or they do not challenge it through fear of being labeled a chauvinist. Men seem to be treated terribly and women just seem to get away with...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Oct 14, 2008

    Time To End Non-religious Circumcisions

    Some years ago, the death of one girl in Egypt from a circumcision caused an international firestorm that forced the Egyptian government to act. But is male circumcision any safer? It apparently is considerably less safe! In our own backyard over a hundred boys a year are dying...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity
    51-55, M
    18 Responses Aug 27, 2010

    Yes You Are Poor Babies!!!

    Men are used and abused for many things.  Some women use men as a meal ticket while others use them as their protector while still others use them for their on sexual gratification. One of my EP friends I think put it best in one of his stories when he said if a woman acts...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    46-50, F
    61 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I Wasn't Always Like This

    I used to be a generous man. I used to be truthful to a fault. Once upon a time, I was happy and giving of my time and help to others. I used to be one of those "live and let live" types. And then I married. My dedication to truth and giving was my foundation, and I thought...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan
    36-40, M
    3 Responses Mar 22, 2011

    Men Are Used and Abused Alot More Than You Think

    Men are expected in general to be providers.  Alot of women take advantage of that and expect the man to do everything for them and use them.  Other men are abused with crazy women that beat on them and cry domestic violence if the man fights back.  I would not...
    haydenrules haydenrules
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2009

    Girls and women **** with men

    even more than some men do to women in my opinion. At least when guys do, its pretty obvious. I really hate it when girls play with my emotions, they don't know how far what they did or said went. I guess I'm a little sensitive, and my past experiences of rejection when I was in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    Mother's Wisdom

    My mother and I were discussing one of my male friends, who was dating a woman whom no one else trusted. I wondered why we were all so harsh on her; she seemed decent, and really, none of us knew her that well. She responded in a surprising manner: "If a man is financially...
    auroramaru auroramaru
    46-50, F
    12 Responses Apr 25, 2012

    Me Too

    Not only are men used and abused we are also misunderstood and stereotyped. Cheers!  
    Nanoose Nanoose
    61-65, M
    3 Responses Jan 5, 2010

    Men Being Abused In America

    1 IN 4 WOMEN, 1 IN 9 MEN IN UNITED STATES ARE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES In households with incomes under $15,000 per year, 35.5% of women and 20.7% of men suffered violence from an intimate partner. 43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Apr 4, 2012

    My Ex-girlfriend Was Very Violent

    I’m a big guy, so I feel ashamed of admitting that I was abused by my little girlfriend. My friends all thought that I was so lucky to have a women like her. Only my roommate knew at the time. My girlfriend would get mad if another girl would say something to me or if I didn...
    Fordguy2011 Fordguy2011
    18-21, M
    5 Responses Apr 27, 2011

    Girlpower Too Far

    i think men are taking a very submissive role these days and i see many of my friends being pushed around and abused by women. They are afraid to retaliate in ANY way to avoid been seen as a chauvanist, we need equality back please
    Donalh Donalh
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Sep 18, 2008

    My Daddy Was, And I Know Other Guys

    It's very infuriating for me to know that some guys actually put up with being physically abused and just take it because they are too embarrassed that other men will think there wusses. Or maybe they take it because they go by the "don't hit girls" rule.  I used to have a ex...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 26, 2011

    Don't Hurt Your Brothers...

    Yes.Men are not just genitals or bank balances. I'm speaking to all genders with this advice. I am a BDSM Mistress and I treat all males with respect.Respect Men and They (Most Likely) Will Honour You.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid
    36-40
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2013
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