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    Men Being Abused In America

    1 IN 4 WOMEN, 1 IN 9 MEN IN UNITED STATES ARE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES In households with incomes under $15,000 per year, 35.5% of women and 20.7% of men suffered violence from an intimate partner. 43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    I Think All People Are

    but the statistics on men are limited by the fact that it's not common or accepted for them to speak up about it. They're told to grow a thicker skin, that it's a woman thing to be used and abuse, as if anyone deserves that sort of treatment. As if their "man card" will be...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers 18-21, T 3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    By Some Women

    They are tricked and taken advantage of when it comes to some women. The nice ones in my mind seem to mostly be attracted to girls that could care less about them. Some men are used to make the girl's boyfriend jealous, other men are verbally abused my their wives, etc even when...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    I Call For the Return of Equality!

    It really pains me to see how men are treated in everyday life and I now think that a lot of men have just grown to accept it as normal or they do not challenge it through fear of being labeled a chauvinist. Men seem to be treated terribly and women just seem to get away with...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 8 Responses Oct 14, 2008

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    Caring

    There are many men today who have caring and compassionate hearts and just like a woman they to are being used and abused. I have read many stories on EP about men who have been truly hurt, used and abused by there partners and I find it heartbreaking. These men have given their...
    RESCUE RESCUE 61-65, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2008

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    And Its Fun For Me.....

     I really enjoy using and abusing men. I love having a man pay me more attention each time I do,Seems to keep them wrapped around my pinky.  I would never  intentionally hurt them,I do warn them I am this way.Its not my fault they choose to play.
    blackcat blackcat 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Me Too

    Not only are men used and abused we are also misunderstood and stereotyped. Cheers!  
    Nanoose Nanoose 51-55, M 3 Responses Jan 5, 2010

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    My Daddy Was, And I Know Other Guys

    It's very infuriating for me to know that some guys actually put up with being physically abused and just take it because they are too embarrassed that other men will think there wusses. Or maybe they take it because they go by the "don't hit girls" rule.  I used to have a ex...
    HaleyBloodRedRose1995 HaleyBloodRedRose1995 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 26, 2011

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    Time To End Non-religious Circumcisions

    Some years ago, the death of one girl in Egypt from a circumcision caused an international firestorm that forced the Egyptian government to act. But is male circumcision any safer? It apparently is considerably less safe! In our own backyard over a hundred boys a year are dying...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity 51-55, M 25 Responses Aug 27, 2010

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    The Shocking Truth About Domestic Violence, Part One

    For decades feminists have ferociously villified the whole male sex over domestic violence. They have portrayed marriage as dangerous for women because it pairs them with those violent beasts known as men. They have forced laws and customs of police enforcement that facilitate...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity 51-55, M 2 Responses Jan 14, 2011

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    The Business Of Relationships

    I found this quote online that quite nicely wraps up my take on the whole "his money for her lovin" aspect of marriage. The disclaimer is that I am indeed one of those men who is paid well and through personal habits and good genes happens to be getting better looking with age...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan 36-40, M 9 Responses Jan 28, 2011

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    Girlpower Too Far

    i think men are taking a very submissive role these days and i see many of my friends being pushed around and abused by women. They are afraid to retaliate in ANY way to avoid been seen as a chauvanist, we need equality back please
    Donalh Donalh 22-25, M 8 Responses Sep 18, 2008

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    I Madder Then Hell and I'm Going to Take It Any More!

    That's it! Today I go home I am going to tell her to stop washing my freakin clothes and for God sake stop making my **&^% dinner! I can see now that I am being used and abused! She always says she irons my shirts because she likes for me to look nice! What a load of crap...
    JustSillyStuff JustSillyStuff 46-50, T 8 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Mother's Wisdom

    My mother and I were discussing one of my male friends, who was dating a woman whom no one else trusted. I wondered why we were all so harsh on her; she seemed decent, and really, none of us knew her that well. She responded in a surprising manner: "If a man is financially...
    auroramaru auroramaru 46-50, F 12 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    LilAnnie LilAnnie 56-60, F 3 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    I once believed this.

    Until one day out fishing at a near by pond where I had never caught any thing but insect bites it came to Me that this was My whole problem,I kept fishing in the same pond over and over.Now I look for ladies who are happy and love and respect Herself 1st.These are qualities We...
    The1960texan The1960texan 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Men Are Used and Abused Alot More Than You Think

    Men are expected in general to be providers.  Alot of women take advantage of that and expect the man to do everything for them and use them.  Other men are abused with crazy women that beat on them and cry domestic violence if the man fights back.  I would not...
    haydenrules haydenrules 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2009

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    They Love It

    they love it or they wouldnt come back for more
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    My Ex-girlfriend Was Very Violent

    I’m a big guy, so I feel ashamed of admitting that I was abused by my little girlfriend. My friends all thought that I was so lucky to have a women like her. Only my roommate knew at the time. My girlfriend would get mad if another girl would say something to me or if I didn...
    Fordguy2011 Fordguy2011 18-21, M 5 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    Don't Use Men...appreciate Them.

    I am absolutely sick of cutsie little princesses. They enjoy sucking in all of the nice men,  wearing them out and then throwing them away. My efforts to help them assert themselves again take years. STOP IT NOW!
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 15 Responses Sep 28, 2008

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    A Shell

    Not to say that men are not strong and not able to handle an awful lot, but when we as women constantly berate...and verbally abuse men for all the things they "don't" do they become defeated and stop trying. Men like to be acknowledged and supported....why give them such a hard...
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    I Wasn't Always Like This

    I used to be a generous man. I used to be truthful to a fault. Once upon a time, I was happy and giving of my time and help to others. I used to be one of those "live and let live" types. And then I married. My dedication to truth and giving was my foundation, and I thought...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 22, 2011

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    Don't Hurt Your Brothers...

    Yes.Men are not just genitals or bank balances. I'm speaking to all genders with this advice. I am a BDSM Mistress and I treat all males with respect.Respect Men and They (Most Likely) Will Honour You.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid 36-40 3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    Although There Is No Research To Back This Up..

    Perhaps I am wrong, but I am inclined to believe there are as many men abused as women.  However men tend to remain silent about what they have endured due to the way our society views abused men.     It seems men do not have the same type of freedom that women have...
    sherry123456789 sherry123456789 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    Yes You Are Poor Babies!!!

    Men are used and abused for many things.  Some women use men as a meal ticket while others use them as their protector while still others use them for their on sexual gratification. One of my EP friends I think put it best in one of his stories when he said if a woman acts...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 67 Responses Aug 6, 2008

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    Not Talked About As Much As It Should Be,

     I see way to many women who use and abuse men mentally more then anything and it's frustrating cause they don't think they deserve or need to be protected as if standing up to those women makes them weak or something. I wish more people would talk about it and do more about...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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    A Lot of Men Are Abused...

    I originally wrote this as a response to a quote from someone that domestic violence against men is nowhere near as prevelant as domestic violence against women but I ended up telling the story that happened to me and it felt good to finally tell it so here we go...
    chrisuk chrisuk 22-25 2 Responses Mar 13, 2009

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    Feminism Has a Lot To Answer For!

    I think that feminism has given many women the right to act in an unbelievably selfish way. A lot of women have stopped appreciating men for being men by encroaching into their world.  I think that they have managed to not only leave our men feeling used and abused but they...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 14 Responses Aug 7, 2008

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    I think some men are pigs, but I think the same of some women. But I'm just here to ask why do guys look at every girls boobs and butt. I've been out with my ex before and he'd...
    confusedforever132 confusedforever132 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Weird since that is the physical gender I'm stuck with, but they are. Every time I post something that could go either way, some guy goes "that" way... It's really one of the...
    Christinamarie3095 Christinamarie3095 41-45, T 1 Response Nov 8

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    This thread is incredibly gender biased and one sided.
    AlwaysAnonnymous AlwaysAnonnymous 13-15, M 2 Responses Nov 9

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    I think guy men are amazing , there looks and the way they take care of themselves , and are so honest , the young guys so attractive , and the older guys to hot , but fun and...
    fromthem2mefromme2you fromthem2mefromme2you 31-35, M Nov 6

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    Most of my friends are men. Girls can get Caty sometimes. Don't get me wrong I have girlfriends but very little. Men are just easier to talk to for me.
    trixypix1 trixypix1 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 14

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    All people are equal but there are many differences between people.Those who think others are inferior are deeply insecure and need to ask themselves why. They need to grow up.
    Wulfstan Wulfstan 70+, M 3 Responses Nov 15

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    Who the hell do you think you are we are equal get that **** out of your head
    vanessa8786 vanessa8786 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 12

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    Eyes are definitely the first thing I notice about a person. Which makes sense I think, since usually when you talk to a person you look at their eyes. I also think eyes are...
    brimc7 brimc7 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 13

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    Eyes reflect the soul. I think eyes are beautiful no matter what color they are and they are the first thing i notice about a person :)
    glittz101 glittz101 18-21, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I think women are beautiful because God has made them that way and who care what size shape or color that the women is because in my mind all woman are beautiful in their own way
    shycreativeguy shycreativeguy 18-21, M Nov 10

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    If you think lesbians are hot then you'll love dirty ways to kiss (; http://youtu.be/7tOsW6yQjB4
    TheBellaBubbles TheBellaBubbles 16-17, F Nov 10

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    I think selfies are today's equivalent to carving "John was here" on a wall or tree bark. Equally narcissistic and stupid. At least trees are not harmed.
    Danceofhours Danceofhours 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 13

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    I think we are all here to inspire each other to our highest achievement, and to provide fertile ground for each of us to grow beyond our dreams. In this way we create a better...
    paulie138 paulie138 66-70, M 1 Response Nov 18

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    Haha kidding but I think boobs are pretty. I am not sexually attracted to others boobs but I love the look of mine in a tight tanktop without a bra..
    walkinwonder walkinwonder 16-17, F a week ago

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    I definitely think tattoos are extremely sexy. I have 4 of my own so far
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Men get a bad rap for not loving and feeling as much as us females and I just don't think that is true. I have seen men who fall head over heels in love with a woman, undoubtedly...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 16

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    Men don't get abused. Women get abused. Women get hit by mans all the time over some pity bull. Unless your a teenager boy then maybe but men don't get hit on. The only hit they...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 7

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    Oh yes! You should try a site called MeetMe. A cross between a chat room and a dating site. Wow there are some angry women on there!
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 1 Response Nov 6

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    I used to think that until I met you...
    Sweetchic5 Sweetchic5 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 7

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    I've found that these men grow up father kids, some of them daughters, and further this asinine way of thinking. I also hate to know there are girls growing up limited or feeling...
    LeaveITournes LeaveITournes 18-21 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I have yet to meet a nonasian woman into asian men, but its nice to know there are people out there who do. I must be looking in all the wrong places :(
    motu77 motu77 26-30