I Think Men Are Used and Abused

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    My Ex-girlfriend Was Very Violent

    I’m a big guy, so I feel ashamed of admitting that I was abused by my little girlfriend. My friends all thought that I was so lucky to have a women like her. Only my roommate knew at the time. My girlfriend would get mad if another girl would say something to me or if I didn...
    Fordguy2011 Fordguy2011
    18-21, M
    5 Responses Apr 27, 2011

    My Daddy Was, And I Know Other Guys

    It's very infuriating for me to know that some guys actually put up with being physically abused and just take it because they are too embarrassed that other men will think there wusses. Or maybe they take it because they go by the "don't hit girls" rule.  I used to have a ex...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 26, 2011

    Although There Is No Research To Back This Up..

    Perhaps I am wrong, but I am inclined to believe there are as many men abused as women.  However men tend to remain silent about what they have endured due to the way our society views abused men.     It seems men do not have the same type of freedom that women have...
    sherry123456789 sherry123456789
    46-50, F
    24 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    Men Are Used and Abused Alot More Than You Think

    Men are expected in general to be providers.  Alot of women take advantage of that and expect the man to do everything for them and use them.  Other men are abused with crazy women that beat on them and cry domestic violence if the man fights back.  I would not...
    haydenrules haydenrules
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Feb 11, 2009

    I Wasn't Always Like This

    I used to be a generous man. I used to be truthful to a fault. Once upon a time, I was happy and giving of my time and help to others. I used to be one of those "live and let live" types. And then I married. My dedication to truth and giving was my foundation, and I thought...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Mar 22, 2011

    I Call For the Return of Equality!

    It really pains me to see how men are treated in everyday life and I now think that a lot of men have just grown to accept it as normal or they do not challenge it through fear of being labeled a chauvinist. Men seem to be treated terribly and women just seem to get away with...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Oct 14, 2008

    Not Talked About As Much As It Should Be,

     I see way to many women who use and abuse men mentally more then anything and it's frustrating cause they don't think they deserve or need to be protected as if standing up to those women makes them weak or something. I wish more people would talk about it and do more about...
    BeTheBestMe BeTheBestMe
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Apr 21, 2009

    Time To End Non-religious Circumcisions

    Some years ago, the death of one girl in Egypt from a circumcision caused an international firestorm that forced the Egyptian government to act. But is male circumcision any safer? It apparently is considerably less safe! In our own backyard over a hundred boys a year are dying...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity
    51-55, M
    18 Responses Aug 27, 2010

    By Some Women

    They are tricked and taken advantage of when it comes to some women. The nice ones in my mind seem to mostly be attracted to girls that could care less about them. Some men are used to make the girl's boyfriend jealous, other men are verbally abused my their wives, etc even when...
    stripesANDsunshine stripesANDsunshine
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    They Love It

    they love it or they wouldnt come back for more
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Aug 6, 2008
    LilAnnie LilAnnie
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2012

    Girlpower Too Far

    i think men are taking a very submissive role these days and i see many of my friends being pushed around and abused by women. They are afraid to retaliate in ANY way to avoid been seen as a chauvanist, we need equality back please
    Donalh Donalh
    22-25, M
    8 Responses Sep 18, 2008

    True. Not just I think,

    but I believe and I know, as I experience, and as I experienced.
    Pianist1090 Pianist1090
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 23, 2015

    Feminism Has a Lot To Answer For!

    I think that feminism has given many women the right to act in an unbelievably selfish way. A lot of women have stopped appreciating men for being men by encroaching into their world.  I think that they have managed to not only leave our men feeling used and abused but they...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Aug 7, 2008

    Me Too

    Not only are men used and abused we are also misunderstood and stereotyped. Cheers!  
    Nanoose Nanoose
    56-60, M
    3 Responses Jan 5, 2010

    A Lot of Men Are Abused...

    I originally wrote this as a response to a quote from someone that domestic violence against men is nowhere near as prevelant as domestic violence against women but I ended up telling the story that happened to me and it felt good to finally tell it so here we go...
    chrisuk chrisuk
    22-25
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2009

    I once believed this.

    Until one day out fishing at a near by pond where I had never caught any thing but insect bites it came to Me that this was My whole problem,I kept fishing in the same pond over and over.Now I look for ladies who are happy and love and respect Herself 1st.These are qualities We...
    The1960texan The1960texan
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Dec 28, 2013

    Don't Use Men...appreciate Them.

    I am absolutely sick of cutsie little princesses. They enjoy sucking in all of the nice men,  wearing them out and then throwing them away. My efforts to help them assert themselves again take years. STOP IT NOW!
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    15 Responses Sep 28, 2008

    Girls and women **** with men

    even more than some men do to women in my opinion. At least when guys do, its pretty obvious. I really hate it when girls play with my emotions, they don't know how far what they did or said went. I guess I'm a little sensitive, and my past experiences of rejection when I was in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    The Shocking Truth About Domestic Violence, Part One

    For decades feminists have ferociously villified the whole male sex over domestic violence. They have portrayed marriage as dangerous for women because it pairs them with those violent beasts known as men. They have forced laws and customs of police enforcement that facilitate...
    conceptualclarity conceptualclarity
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2011

    Caring

    There are many men today who have caring and compassionate hearts and just like a woman they to are being used and abused. I have read many stories on EP about men who have been truly hurt, used and abused by there partners and I find it heartbreaking. These men have given their...
    RESCUE RESCUE
    61-65, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2008

    And Its Fun For Me.....

     I really enjoy using and abusing men. I love having a man pay me more attention each time I do,Seems to keep them wrapped around my pinky.  I would never  intentionally hurt them,I do warn them I am this way.Its not my fault they choose to play.
    blackcat blackcat
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I Madder Then Hell and I'm Going to Take It Any More!

    That's it! Today I go home I am going to tell her to stop washing my freakin clothes and for God sake stop making my **&^% dinner! I can see now that I am being used and abused! She always says she irons my shirts because she likes for me to look nice! What a load of crap...
    JustSillyStuff JustSillyStuff
    46-50, T
    8 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    I Think All People Are

    but the statistics on men are limited by the fact that it's not common or accepted for them to speak up about it. They're told to grow a thicker skin, that it's a woman thing to be used and abuse, as if anyone deserves that sort of treatment. As if their "man card" will be...
    SofiaGrowsFlowers SofiaGrowsFlowers
    22-25, T
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

    Yes You Are Poor Babies!!!

    Men are used and abused for many things.  Some women use men as a meal ticket while others use them as their protector while still others use them for their on sexual gratification. One of my EP friends I think put it best in one of his stories when he said if a woman acts...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
    41-45, F
    61 Responses Aug 6, 2008

    Mother's Wisdom

    My mother and I were discussing one of my male friends, who was dating a woman whom no one else trusted. I wondered why we were all so harsh on her; she seemed decent, and really, none of us knew her that well. She responded in a surprising manner: "If a man is financially...
    auroramaru auroramaru
    46-50, F
    12 Responses Apr 25, 2012

    The Business Of Relationships

    I found this quote online that quite nicely wraps up my take on the whole "his money for her lovin" aspect of marriage. The disclaimer is that I am indeed one of those men who is paid well and through personal habits and good genes happens to be getting better looking with age...
    SomeWiseMan SomeWiseMan
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Jan 28, 2011

    Men Being Abused In America

    1 IN 4 WOMEN, 1 IN 9 MEN IN UNITED STATES ARE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES In households with incomes under $15,000 per year, 35.5% of women and 20.7% of men suffered violence from an intimate partner. 43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non...
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Apr 4, 2012

    Don't Hurt Your Brothers...

    Yes.Men are not just genitals or bank balances. I'm speaking to all genders with this advice. I am a BDSM Mistress and I treat all males with respect.Respect Men and They (Most Likely) Will Honour You.
    TheWomanWhoDid TheWomanWhoDid
    36-40
    3 Responses Jan 7, 2013

    Related Experiences

    And I will miss all of you. Thank you for the laughs, the advice, the images and most of all your friendship, no matter how brief the contact. Look after yourselves, hope to see...
    Hopespringseternal Hopespringseternal
    31-35, F
    Apr 21
    i write this to enshrine in electronic perpetuity. this is not written for any reason other than its what i feel. you know this is for you so i dont need to name you but the...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Apr 21
    i met someone crazy on ep today i dont know what happened this woman just started trolling me all of sudden abusive i stopped talking she created another account i am shocked...
    bimvim bimvim
    18-21, M
    Apr 21
    I don't think it's evil, but I think there are many problems with it. American medicine for example forces foreign doctors to learn medicine again in the U.S and they teach things...
    WhirlwindR WhirlwindR
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Apr 21
    i have been really lucky in my life to have met such amazing women. My Mom is one of the strongest women I've ever met, She was born in Venezuela and her parents divorced when she...
    WhirlwindR WhirlwindR
    22-25, M
    Apr 21
    I away s taught my children good manners
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 20
    No I am not. Today I noticed, I still have complicated issued when sexualism is mentioned. Because I was abused by my ex, didn't reconcile, he ended up commiting suicide
    Katerinafaith Katerinafaith
    18-21, F
    Apr 20
    When I was about...10 1/2 and down, I had a good family. I believed we all loved each other. Well. At 10 1/2 my dad got a night job. He always slept in the day. So he didn't spend...
    GodOfWords GodOfWords
    26-30, F
    Apr 19
    Its human responsibility for the dogs behavior! Dont ever blame the dog! Dogs just want love & attention & obviously the bad owner couldnt give that to them. Respect & care for...
    XXLovelyPoisonXX XXLovelyPoisonXX
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 19
    I've been in a game where the avatars are really life like and men are pretending to be female avatars to attract women who are into other real women and they keep freaking doing...
    pandoraspaw pandoraspaw
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 19
    My lab is my best friend. Always happy to see me after work, never judges me.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Apr 19
    A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control, she is measured by the way her body curves or doesn't curve, by where she is flat or straight or round, she is measured...
    AwakenEdge AwakenEdge
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Apr 18
    I was young. I was innocent. And I was a hell of a different person than I am now. I used to go home and do my homework. I used to think that all I needed to be happy was my...
    swimswamrun swimswamrun
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Apr 18
    I think eyes are Windows to the soul
    jarocho jarocho
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 16
    I don't know of this is sexual abuse or not I'm not sure. I have a fear of men and boys I'm ok with my brother and dad but with others no. It's just mainly guys and men that are...
    Mariavampiremm Mariavampiremm
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Apr 16
    Men are in charge of conducting themselves wisely when a woman offers herself to them. Just because a woman decides to give you a chance, to believe in you, to follow you and love...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed
    31-35, M
    Apr 16
    Everyone is judged on their looks but we in seem to be held to a higher standard. A discussion I had one time someone made the point that women have more of an advantage being able...
    nuwalker nuwalker
    66-70, M
    Apr 16
    ...and not only crazy people. I know of one guy on here that tries to con you out of your money. Send me $100 and I'll tell you who it is.
    GoneRogue GoneRogue
    41-45, M
    Apr 16
    You are brighter than a shooting star so shine wherever you are. Fill the darkest night with a brilliant light because it's time for you to shine. I love you all, and everyone in...
    FieryWolf FieryWolf
    16-17, F
    1 Response Apr 15
    Well what do you think, all are welcome!
    Atma33 Atma33
    22-25, M
    Apr 15
    where are the women we wanna make fun
    moudy12 moudy12
    18-21, M
    Apr 15
    he guys, im still pissed at cody, but things are beginning to look up, I started on youtubr, some bad influences are leaving my life, and some good ones are returning. netter yet...
    ZoeVoci ZoeVoci
    13-15, F
    1 Response Apr 13
    looking for some real friends for some fun talks and may be more .... pm me if you feel the same
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Apr 13
    I am ugly. I just know it, You know how we all have those people who are ugly and there friends will put on their facebook pictures they are gorgeous patronising them. Maybe two of...
    lenachubbychops lenachubbychops
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 13
    I finally found a man we started chatting about our selfs and I think we are going to click, I'm a little nervous because I'm never been with a man! I think talking is the way to...
    Girlylu Girlylu
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Apr 12
    I know I should delete Facebook. I know this. It hurts having it rubbed in my face that nobody gives a crap that I exist. I guess I like to torture myself about how insignificant...
    Myzery Myzery
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Apr 11
    It wasn't my dad. He is one of the very few good men I know. He is in his seventies now. I don't know if it was just me or how many he did it too. But he made me take down my...
    laurenhafjones4 laurenhafjones4
    16-17, F
    Apr 11
    Honestly, I have always been more comfortable in the company of women. Men are competitive and are always posturing and I never cared about those things, but as I worked with men...
    Move4Word Move4Word
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 11
    I feel like guys only want sex, not love. The truth is that I want it too but not in the way they want it. I am a virgin but I have done everything except sex and I love doing it...
    Bella2911 Bella2911
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 11
    I'm speaking about Aillin Wuornos(a serial killer) in this video. If you have little time,please watch this video. Thank you. https://youtu.be/58v4gZ0Fd4w She got excution and...
    genjiipiexx genjiipiexx
    31-35, F
    Apr 11
    Just got back on here wanting to talk to some guys. message me <3
    AustonMB AustonMB
    16-17, M
    1 Response Apr 11
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