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I Think More Parents Need to Tell Their Kids No

It may not be easy to say no but being a parent means that you are not their friend. 2,402 People

    Especially in public.

    But not only tell them no. More important do not ever repeat yourself on that. If you are in a store and your child wants something say no we won't buy it one time but never get into a discussion about it. You are the parent and the child has to do what you say.
    GrandmaM GrandmaM 70+, F 7 Responses Feb 15

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    The Keys to a Happy Childhood

    Having reasonable limits. Be consistent.  Don't be afraid of the word "NO" its a great word. Having reasonably high expectations (They need something to live up to so they can be genuinely proud of themselves.) Having a structured environment...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 6 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    We have a ten year old daughter

    and she is hearing no quite often. I think even more important is that kids understand that no means no and there will be no further discussion but that they have to listen the first time.
    lovingrain lovingrain 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 12, 2014

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    I hate it when I see whiney little brats in the

    store crying because they didn't get the newest cod or the next gta! Like WTF? You. Shouldn't have it from all the **** in it!
    TheAnonymousTroll TheAnonymousTroll 13-15, M 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    Little Helpers

    I dont know what other parents do when it comes to household chores; I have never poled my friends.  But I thought I would throw this out there. Kids love to be little helpers.  The younger you start them out the better. Cleaning day is Saturday morning...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 18 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    our youngest is 14 years old thinks she can do

    what ever when ever she wants, she is talking to a 19 year old who happens to be her older sisters ex bf. my 14 year thinks that its perfectly fine for her to talk to him and hang out with him and her mother does think anything of it but I'm the one that says no, now if the boy...
    BaldCock79 BaldCock79 36-40, M 4 Responses May 13

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    The parents have been in the world

    so much longer than their children, although the child always thinks they are right and that they will do whatever they argue about anyway. It needs to be put out there so much more. when a parent says NO, they mean it and that's because they have so much more life experience...
    charrlotte charrlotte 13-15 4 Responses May 18

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    Too many parents don't

    even know HOW TO parent -.-
    ModifiedMamaofTwo ModifiedMamaofTwo 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Watched how a boy maybe 6 years old made a loud

    and noisy tantrum about some sweets and the mother just said ok and let him have what he wants. Sometimes I ask myself: Who is in charge in such a family? the kids or the parents?
    Nickgermany Nickgermany 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 10

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    As in my husband - kids would eat muffins

    and doughnuts for breakfast every day 'because that's what they wanted'. Meanwhile I become the mean parent who insist on something like oatmeal, fruit and some protein.
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    It's Disgusting

    I see it all the time first hand, with the children I babysit. If they want something, they pitch a fit until their parent gives in to them. When I was a child, if I began throwing a fit over something stupid, my mother would say "If you don't stop crying, I'll give you something...
    EmoSpazAttacks EmoSpazAttacks 18-21, F 11 Responses Jul 19, 2011

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    Oh Yeah!!!!

    The other day I went with my foster kids (age two and three) to a play centre with my friend and her "spirited" as she likes to say, two year old. Afterwards we went to Mcdonalds for lunch. The whole of the time at the play centre her daughter was throwing tantrums...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 57 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    It's not going to kill your kids to tell them

    no. Things should be EARNED, not always given.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2014

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    Stop Being a Pushover!

    When you decide on something, that is the final decision.  You are the parent.  Unfortunately, so many parents don't get this.  Then they create brats that the rest of the world has to endure.  I don't want to hear your kid having a tantrum in Target, or in a...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 8 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    Most Parents Dont Have The Time Today

    I feel that in todays time,most parents have so little spare time to really train their children,I read somewhere that one of the big problems facing the Kruger Park, is that there are so many young male elephants, that have grown up without parents,and they have no idea how to...
    jemmy60 jemmy60 66-70, M 2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    I can't stand how kids

    now a days are just so snobby and they act more like adults than kids. :/ I just don't get why they are so concerned with weight, brands, and looks! Like be kids please! We have enough snobby adults in this world as it is.
    Seabluestar Seabluestar 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    Tell our kids no! Way more needs to be done

    then that. We are becoming a society that is raising a bunch of criminals. Every bad behaviour that a child has these days can be diagnosed as a syndrome or disorder. Children need to be fearful of consequences, but thanks to our government taking the control away from...
    kidRosie kidRosie 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2014

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    No is a fact of life.

    They'll hear it as an adult and it'll be less traumatic for them if they know what No means.
    AuntieShani AuntieShani 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 27, 2014

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    I know this girl (7 years old)

    who physically cuts the Inside of her throat somehow (I don't know how but she does) and coughed up blood when her parents say no for any reason. They said they couldn't take her to ballet practice cause both parents had to work and she coughed up blood so bad that both of them...
    Beatenrodent Beatenrodent 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2014

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    The parents are why kids are like this.

    ..everyone uses the same emotional discipline thing yet it almost never works...All the kids in this world are clowns who do not care about their future. The good children I did meet probably got a good spanking from time to time...Physical discipline is the best when not taken...
    Beerus Beerus 22-25, M Aug 20

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    July 4th Parties - Drunk 10 Year Old!

    ATTENTION PARENTS: YOU NEED TO SUPERVISE YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!!!  I have a major problem with parents that attend social events only to forget that they brought their kids. Parents - you are responsible for you kids like it or not. When my...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    Oh Yes

    I really do think that more parents need to tell their kids no. I was told no almost all the freakin' time, was it upsetting? Yes, you bet it was, but believe me when I say this, if I had done half the things I see kids/teenagers doing these days, my parents would of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 14, 2013

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    Yep.. I bought a box of pooptarts

    and came down to find my brother eating the last one.. Now I wouldn't have minded but the fact that he didn't ask, he burnt it and then he threw it in the bin just makes me wanna scream in his face... When I came down I said those are my pop tarts and he runs away mum calls him...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 2, 2014

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    Stop lying to ur kids about Santa clause

    and the Easter bunny. Making them view life as roses and daisies and when they're hit with the real world they become depressed. See my kids? I will tell them what they need to hear not what we as a society must tell them to keep them happy. Truth hurts my kids will learn how...
    ADeepPerspective ADeepPerspective 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Here We Go

     i wrote this as a reply in a private message (no i wont tell you what the other message said....thats rude). but i thought my reply fit best here:   well, i said i wasnt implying you (as far as being in a better position). well actually i said implicating, but i used...
    antiyou antiyou 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    Don'T Be Afraid To Say No In A Loving Way, And Mean It

    http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2006242?q=training+children&p=par http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102012121?q=training+children&p=par http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2011811?q=training+children&p=par http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2008564#h=0:0-28:182
    seotelkniwt seotelkniwt 61-65, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Maybe I m too old school

    but I m still amazed by these kids talking about relationship. I mean really ??😧😧😧😧😧😩😩😩😳😳😳😫😫😫😫 Focus on school instead of getting failing grades over people who won't even care about 10-15 years from now. Stop wasting time, energy...
    Toohottohandle1 Toohottohandle1 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    Yeah I technically can't talk

    since im 13 (my age says 18 I know but really im 13) but yeah this little seven year old down the street from me her name is Courtney she is so bratty and stuck up and me and my friend (we live next to each other) talk about how if she was her or my kid we would've popped her...
    Countrybae Countrybae 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    If parents are going to be good at telling

    their kids no, it would be good to start by telling themselves no. Why parents are so bad at it is because they don't start with themselves.
    Illuminatetheworld Illuminatetheworld 41-45, M Jan 9, 2014

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    it doesn't set them up good

    for later life to always say yes, THEN they'll wonder why life doesn't always go their way, "adversity" teaches some things :-)
    cashetty69 cashetty69 51-55, M 6 days ago

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    emeraldtriangle420 emeraldtriangle420 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 28, 2014

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    A while back, I was talking to a teacher

    who teaches at my old high school while both of us were waiting for our vehicles to be serviced. When the subject of discipline came up, we both agreed that there's a major problem these days with parents not telling their children no, with him seeing the results firsthand...
    BLACKTIGER75 BLACKTIGER75 36-40, M 5 Responses May 13

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    My younger sister's best friend has the worst

    attitude of any child i have ever met. She has zero respect, and i'm not just talking about her elders, she doesn't even respect her peers. Everything they do is her decision and it often ends up with the girls getting into trouble. However every time they do get into trouble...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 28, 2014

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    I'm the Most Terrible Mommy Ever!

      Because I have the nerve to not buy my kid candy at the checkout counter. To make her wait for special occasions for gifts. To teach her to say "please" and "thank you" and to share. To make her do something constructive and imaginative after...
    cutefactory cutefactory 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    It's a Way of Life

    Saying no will not make your children hate you. It will give them boundaries. I was told no and was spanked *gasp* when I knowingly did something I wasn't supposed to. It is not hurting your child to keep them within reasonable boundaries and safety. No should be a household word...
    knowledgeworthhaving knowledgeworthhaving 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Its Not Too Late to Start...

    Although the older the child the more resistance you may run into.  I think the easist method is to train your children from birth that no one gets what they want all the time and that they are no exception to this rule.  When my toddler attempts to throw a fit...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 30 Responses Jun 13, 2009

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    I know a parent that never tells her kids no.

    I mean just last night she let a 17 year old boy spend the night with her 13 year old daughter. They were in the room together for the whole night and half the day. She didn't check on then one time. She always has a 15 year old daughter that she let's run free. Let's her stay...
    timberland1972 timberland1972 41-45 1 Response Apr 11

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    I was at the store today

    and I watched 2 screaming girls whine and beg and put on such a spoiled tantrum until their dad bought them almost everything they wanted. All I kept thinking was please take these kids outside and whup their little bottoms. I really don't think us kids want our parents to be...
    doodlebug224 doodlebug224 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    Causing A Scene In Public

    I work part time in retail and I cannot begin to explain the amount of times that I have seen a child throw a HUGE tantrum due to not getting what they want. Whether it be a chocolate bar they see at the cash desk or a comforter set that they just "need or [they] will die!", most...
    tr3ats tr3ats 22-25 1 Response Aug 30, 2013

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    This. http://addins.

    kwwl.com/blogs/anchormom/2015/04/the-entitlement-generation
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    Most Everytime I Go Out

    Most every time I go out to the store I hear someone's kid screaming. Some kids cry because they are tired or hungry. Other throw fits because they are spoiled. I am a parent and actively raised my kids. I know the difference between tired, hungry and spoiled "I want it...
    CrazyWaterSpring CrazyWaterSpring 51-55, M 5 Responses Feb 14, 2013

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    I have noticed a sizeable number of children

    behaving like spoilt little shitz! Although. That may say more about their parents than the children themselves..
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 6, 2014

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