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I Think More Parents Need to Tell Their Kids No

It may not be easy to say no but being a parent means that you are not their friend. 1,513 People

    No You Can't

    Some children are just so spoilt they don't appreciate anything and always want more and more possessions and money. Then they grow up and become even more selfish.
    AtomicWater AtomicWater 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 13, 2010

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    Ashton.

    I was 18 when I had my son Ashton. He was such a wonderful baby to begin with, very mild manner. But as all babies do, he got rowdy and loud. I learned however, that discipling my child would be best for him and myself. Telling him no, smaking his hand if he was reaching for...
    OGWilliams OGWilliams 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    Shopping Trips

    I have 4 wonderful children. They are Justin(14),flin(10),Tom(6) and my girl who is (16) but won't be in this story. Justin is the worst when it comes to behavior and he tries to say he has ADHD but I don't know. I will get him tested. Anyway, in shopping trips I have found that...
    soccerelf88 soccerelf88 22-25, F Oct 25, 2011

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    I Have A Very Simple Mantra

    They'll get over it. They don't need everything they want and it's only going to get worse the more you give in to them. We parents are here to provide that discipline, aren't we?
    MissVida MissVida 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    Ahh. The Lovely Word No!

    So I'm a big sis. I have two little sisters, Emmie(10 and Sophie(7 almost 8). Emmie has learned to be independent, Sophie, well she's a problem. She's almost 8! My mom babies her everyday! My mom helps her make her twin-size bed! Good God! When I was 8yrs old I had learned to...
    TopKitten TopKitten 13-15, F Jun 3, 2012

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    Little Helpers

    I dont know what other parents do when it comes to household chores; I have never poled my friends.  But I thought I would throw this out there. Kids love to be little helpers.  The younger you start them out the better. Cleaning day is Saturday morning...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 17 Responses Jun 15, 2009

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    What Damage We Have Caused.

    When I was a child, it was normal to hear the word NO!  That was back before the ages of psychologists and supposed child development specialists intervention.  The original thought to protect children from abuse was a good one but what happened was too many people got...
    Michellewhois Michellewhois 56-60 4 Responses Aug 17, 2009

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    Maybe I m too old school

    but I m still amazed by these kids talking about relationship. I mean really ??😧😧😧😧😧😩😩😩😳😳😳😫😫😫😫 Focus on school instead of getting failing grades over people who won't even care about 10-15 years from now. Stop wasting time, energy...
    Toohottohandle1 Toohottohandle1 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 25

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    Single Parent

    I sit here relaxing tonight. I am determined to live my life out there. For the last 20 years i have had the best job in the world being a single mom. I just celebrated my 41 birthday, what did my son get me a wonderful card stating that i am the best mom and he knows that i put...
    slh84403 slh84403 41-45, F May 27, 2013

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    "you Don't Have Kids So You Wouldn't Know"

    Urgh. I hate it when people say this. Yes, I can appreciate that having kids does give you extra insight... But I don't believe that simply giving birth or taking custody of children, or even legally being considered the "parent" means that you suddenly know exactly how to care...
    DustMite DustMite 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    I'm Gonna Be a Bad Mother......

    I had a friend who worked at a daycare center a few years ago and, no matter what the child was doing, they were not allowed to tell the kids no. It didn't matter if one kid was hurting another, they weren't allowed to say no.... I think there is a line to draw in discipline...
    MadisonAgain MadisonAgain 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 9, 2009

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    Reasonable Expectations?

    Well here I am in New Zealand,visiting my new grandchildren.I was here almost 3 years ago, to see my first granddaughter,now here I am on the occasion of the first birthday and christening of the second grand daughter. In a way it has been an eye opening experiance,first to see...
    jemmy60 jemmy60 66-70, M 1 Response Mar 10, 2013

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    I'm the Most Terrible Mommy Ever!

      Because I have the nerve to not buy my kid candy at the checkout counter. To make her wait for special occasions for gifts. To teach her to say "please" and "thank you" and to share. To make her do something constructive and imaginative after...
    cutefactory cutefactory 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    It's not going to kill your kids to tell them

    no. Things should be EARNED, not always given.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 3

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    I'm Not a Mother

    In fact I'm only 16, but parents really need to tell their kids no! It will just screw them up in the future. They will think they can get away with everything, and soon they will be calling you names and all this.
    musared musared 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 23, 2009

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    Love My Kids

    I might be a parent that should tell her kids yes more. I expect a certain behavior from them and if they are out of line they stand in the corner or pay a fine. Yep, a fine. If they don't want to stand in the corner the price is a quarter. On the other hand, I am also teaching...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 4, 2012

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    Parents Behind The Door

    Tonight i find my self in a weird place it could be the silence in my house could be the negativity that's in the air heck i can even blame the weather.that's not the problem in this case.its not about blaming someone its about realizing and opening your eyes to what is really...
    write4voice write4voice 13-15, F Jan 14, 2013

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    One For Mummies

    Being a guy and in the UK - might be different in the States but I doubt it - I find that Mothers are responsible for an awful lot of divorces. I don't in anyway shape or form blame my mother for mine! Fathers are naturally drawn to daughters and mothers to sons...... ...
    Aarbie Aarbie 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 30, 2009

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    The Kid Who Isn't Told No...

    ... later becomes the a--hole blasting his stereo in the apartment next to you or the obnoxuous yuppie whose inane chatter can be heard clean across any room whenever they think they might have something to say... The parents of these kids raise them to think other people and...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 7 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    You Get What You Teach

    Everytime I see some poor idiot on one of those day time talk shows crying because their child is verbally/physically abusive and disrespectful to them, I just laugh.  It's completely ridiculous that anyone would tolerate such a thing.  News flash to my generation: ...
    IcarusFalling IcarusFalling 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 13, 2009

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    You Can't Have Everything You Want

    I sometimes wished that parents were a bit more disciplined with children. I have seen children become really rude, bratty, & mean to people, & family members, if they don't get what they want. So some parents try to avoid a fussy child by just giving them what they want. The...
    ConcealedChivalrousHeart ConcealedChivalrousHeart 18-21, F Oct 23, 2010

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    Exactly the Opposite

    The more free the kids grow - the better they will develop further in life. Look at Japan. They know that VERY WELL.
    Thought1 Thought1 22-25 11 Responses Aug 15, 2009

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    Don'T Be Afraid To Say No In A Loving Way, And Mean It

    http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2006242?q=training+children&p=par http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102012121?q=training+children&p=par http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2011811?q=training+children&p=par http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2008564#h=0:0-28:182
    seotelkniwt seotelkniwt 61-65, F Jun 25, 2013

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    Ahh. The Lovely Word No!

    So I'm a big sis. I have two little sisters, Emmie(10 and Sophie(7 almost 8). Emmie has learned to be independent, Sophie, well she's a problem. She's almost 8! My mom babies her everyday! My mom helps her make her twin-size bed! Good God! When I was 8yrs old I had learned to...
    TopKitten TopKitten 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 3, 2012

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    The Parental Skills Test: What Would You Do With/to This Child?

    Now what would you do with a boy like this? There is a boy who is 16 years old, turning 17 very soon. He is in grade 11. Up until now, he has missed nearly 2 and a half months of school...where was he? god knows, he was skipping class, participating in bad activities (you all...
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    Its Not Too Late to Start...

    Although the older the child the more resistance you may run into.  I think the easist method is to train your children from birth that no one gets what they want all the time and that they are no exception to this rule.  When my toddler attempts to throw a fit...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 30 Responses Jun 13, 2009

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    Rule #1 Just Say No!

    I am 9 years older than my younger brother who is now a junior high student and living with my mom. When I was a small kid I can remember the feeling of what momma says goes and when she says no you better not argue! However, the way my brother is being brought up is completely...
    BraydonsMom07 BraydonsMom07 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 16, 2010

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    Just Say No

    I get angry listening to some kid screaming at a restuarnt because his/her psrents wont get them what they want, Tell the kids no and if they persist have them sit in the car while everyone in the resturant enjoys their meal. Or if you subscribe to spankings take the kid to the...
    leftiesroc leftiesroc 18-21, M Jul 3, 2011

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    Just Don't Follow My Example

    Today my throat hurts. I croak. My own hubby couldn't tell it was me on the phone! Why? Because yesterday I went EXORCIST on my kids! They were fighting and acting up, and I'd had ENOUGH! I half-growled and half yelled: Nooooooo! I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR ANY MORE FROM EITHER OF YOU...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 16 Responses Oct 25, 2010

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    Disrespect

    I made another post about being spanked as a child (something i support) and i don't think the problem is that parents don't tell their children no, its that they cave when the little brats start whining. Now I am not a parent and i have no intention of becoming one, so i must...
    Thefury Thefury 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 25, 2011

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    Stop Being a Pushover!

    When you decide on something, that is the final decision.  You are the parent.  Unfortunately, so many parents don't get this.  Then they create brats that the rest of the world has to endure.  I don't want to hear your kid having a tantrum in Target, or in a...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 9 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    Say, "because I Said So!" And Mean It,too

    It's not so much that parents need to tell their kids no as much as they need to answer the certain-to-follow whined, "But, WHY NO-OT?" My parents' answer was always the same. "Because I SAID SO!" Nowadays, even that doesn't hold water. At least it doesn't when parents don't...
    MaryJanine MaryJanine 56-60, F 1 Response May 24, 2013

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    Here We Go

     i wrote this as a reply in a private message (no i wont tell you what the other message said....thats rude). but i thought my reply fit best here:   well, i said i wasnt implying you (as far as being in a better position). well actually i said implicating, but i used...
    antiyou antiyou 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 25, 2009

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    Yeah, Really. . .

    I work at a daycare, so I see the product of spoiling all the time. There are a few sweethearts, and I would love to ask their parents what they did to make their kids so wonderful, but then there are kids who are so spoiled and mean. . . My boss told me how when one of the...
    SerenaDragonfly SerenaDragonfly 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 1, 2010

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    Oh Yeah!!!!

    The other day I went with my foster kids (age two and three) to a play centre with my friend and her "spirited" as she likes to say, two year old. Afterwards we went to Mcdonalds for lunch. The whole of the time at the play centre her daughter was throwing tantrums...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 57 Responses Oct 7, 2009

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    Ahh. The Lovely Word No!

    So I'm a big sis. I have two little sisters, Emmie(10) and Sophie(7 almost 8). Emmie has learned to be independent, Sophie, well she's a problem. She's almost 8! My mom babies her everyday! My mom helps her make her twin-size bed! Good God! When I was 8yrs old I had learned to...
    TopKitten TopKitten 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2012

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    Shopping Trips

    I have 4 wonderful children. They are Justin(14),flin(10),Tom(6) and my girl who is (16) but won't be in this story. Justin is the worst when it comes to behavior and he tries to say he has ADHD but I don't know. I will get him tested. Anyway, in shopping trips I have found that...
    soccerelf88 soccerelf88 22-25, F Oct 25, 2011

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    Ugh

    I work with children and you can tell the ones who are told the word NO verse the ones who have heard it. major difference , it kills me how when you tel parents your child smacked friends for days at a time and they smile and laugh really y are you laughing did i just miss...
    Tawny26 Tawny26 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 25, 2011

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    The Keys to a Happy Childhood

    Having reasonable limits. Be consistent.  Don't be afraid of the word "NO" its a great word. Having reasonably high expectations (They need something to live up to so they can be genuinely proud of themselves.) Having a structured environment...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 22, 2009

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    If parents are going to be good at telling

    their kids no, it would be good to start by telling themselves no. Why parents are so bad at it is because they don't start with themselves.
    Illuminatetheworld Illuminatetheworld 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 9

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    Not Just No, Hell No!

    There's nothing that bothers more than some bratty kid having a temper tantrum because they're not getting what they want. If parents would tell their kids no every once in awhile, kids wouldn't act as frickin ridiculous as they do. It's not a crime to tell your kids no and have...
    mjme26 mjme26 18-21, F Oct 19, 2012

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    Most Parents Dont Have The Time Today

    I feel that in todays time,most parents have so little spare time to really train their children,I read somewhere that one of the big problems facing the Kruger Park, is that there are so many young male elephants, that have grown up without parents,and they have no idea how to...
    jemmy60 jemmy60 66-70, M 2 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    Causing A Scene In Public

    I work part time in retail and I cannot begin to explain the amount of times that I have seen a child throw a HUGE tantrum due to not getting what they want. Whether it be a chocolate bar they see at the cash desk or a comforter set that they just "need or [they] will die!", most...
    tr3ats tr3ats 22-25 Aug 30, 2013

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    It's a Way of Life

    Saying no will not make your children hate you. It will give them boundaries. I was told no and was spanked *gasp* when I knowingly did something I wasn't supposed to. It is not hurting your child to keep them within reasonable boundaries and safety. No should be a household word...
    knowledgeworthhaving knowledgeworthhaving 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26, 2009

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    Obviously

    I think this is the understatement of this year, half the reasons why i dont want kids are because of parents out in the world today i miss the older generation where my parents grew up where structure was given and there were no lazy parents who would just turn a blind eye as...
    trevillo trevillo 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 19, 2011

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    July 4th Parties - Drunk 10 Year Old!

    ATTENTION PARENTS: YOU NEED TO SUPERVISE YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!!!  I have a major problem with parents that attend social events only to forget that they brought their kids. Parents - you are responsible for you kids like it or not. When my...
    NoGodsNoMasters NoGodsNoMasters 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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    It's Disgusting

    I see it all the time first hand, with the children I babysit. If they want something, they pitch a fit until their parent gives in to them. When I was a child, if I began throwing a fit over something stupid, my mother would say "If you don't stop crying, I'll give you something...
    EmoSpazAttacks EmoSpazAttacks 18-21, F 11 Responses Jul 19, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I remember when I was working in Hong Kong in a family! This couple has 2 kids, the mother help the son to do the homework, and if he could not get it right she try to tell the...
    Bluejec19 Bluejec19 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I think that they should teach parenting as a compulsory subject to everyone. It's a good birth control for some and it would reduce the amount of people who are bad parents. It...
    thisisanick thisisanick 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    So I'm 19, have a younger brother (16) and he gets to do what ever he wants... Seems like he has it easier than I had when I was his age. When I was his age n younger id clean and...
    champagneroses champagneroses 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I think people should have children when they're ready. Only they know when that is. It's not really about whether the child is planned or not. I'm always thinking about how the...
    fairytalesandspiderwebs fairytalesandspiderwebs 18-21, F Apr 3

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    I'm 18, and I wish my parents would just kick me the **** out. I know they hate me. I don't blame them. I'm rude, ungrateful, I snap at them and talk down to them. I hae no pride...
    Sarfia Sarfia 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    How can they make some one feel so alone and hate themswlf so much i mean do they have heart? Why they act like they ******* care why is everyone so fake why we dont stop bullying...
    rawan99 rawan99 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 9

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    This is the truth. But we all have the option of doing this ourselves. Finding the good people of the world and helping those that are beaten down by those who slide by in life...
    crazynam321 crazynam321 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    Today i made a check list of what i like and what i do not like about my soon to be "hubby". Love is all about compromising right...
    toloveandtohold toloveandtohold 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I often get so furious at people that I lock my self up in a room and cry with rage; I sometimes end up biting myself or punching things, or slamming my head against a wall. I feel...
    rtyuiopqwe rtyuiopqwe 13-15, F Mar 31