I Think My Husband Has Aspergers

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 181 People

    This Is All New To Me!

    I have been married to my husband for 21 years.  We have one son together and I had two children when we got married. Even before we were married, I knew that something was not right with him.  He had a bad temper and the way he addressed people at times blew me away.  He has...
    Briggitte Briggitte
    56-60
    5 Responses Jan 30, 2012

    Are You An NT Partner Of Someone With Aspergers Syndrome?

    I am setting up a website specifically for the neuro-typical (NT) partners of people who have Aspergers Syndrome. I want to find out what things would be of most value on the site. If you are an NT partner (as I am) and have felt lonely, confused, crazy, stupid, depressed - and...
    Mercgirl007 Mercgirl007
    56-60
    1 Response Sep 5, 2013

    My husband was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum

    Disorder this summer. I feel relief at knowing this and depressed when I think about the long haul ahead. I want emotional connection and unique, timely emotional responses from him. I think I'm going through a grieving process.
    tay152 tay152
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2015

    My husband has aspergers

    and bipolar disorder. I have bipolar disorder and suffer abandonment issues from my childhood due to losing both my parents very young. We have a one year old little girl and another baby on the way. Reasons I want to divorce my husband are this: 1. He never wants to do anything...
    BriMcD BriMcD
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 26, 2014

    I am dating a man with Aspergers,

    and am looking to educate myself and learn how to better understand him and us. I want to be closer to him and want him to be closer to me how do I accomplish this?
    littlemisspoe littlemisspoe
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2015

    DSM IV

    Diagnostic Criteria for 299.80 Asperger's Disorder [The following is from Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders: DSM IV] (I) Qualitative impairment in social interaction, as manifested by at least two of the following: (A) marked impairments in the use of...
    wannashareit wannashareit
    51-55, M
    1 Response Feb 13, 2013

    As an experienced Speech Language Pathologist,

    with expertise in working with children on the spectrum, I first became very concerned when my now 12 year old was 16 months, wondering if he was presenting with Asperger's... He presented with some hallmark traits, however, with sensory integration therapy, I disregarded, put...
    1lyttleton 1lyttleton
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    Husband And Children With Aspergers

    I have been marriedfor 19 years and didn't know anything about aspergers or autism when I married. Boy do I know a lot now. My husband is aspergers (undiagnosed, I don't think that he wants to do anything about it but says that he is autistic). I have two teenagers with autism...
    aspergerswife aspergerswife
    41-45
    3 Responses Dec 29, 2010

      I am new to this site.

    I have been married for a few months now. I love my husband, but we have been having a difficult time. Here are a few traits of my husband: 1. He has been having a very difficult time responding to my emotions. The slightest display of emotions - like crying or difference in...
    elizabethwoods elizabethwoods
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 10, 2014

    Can'T Take A Joke!

    All silly stories and funny jokes are lost on my husband. It's a,waste of time to even tell him anything funny. He often just makes a fake sounding laugh or looks blankly at me. It's really sad that he cannot laugh! Last night I made a joke about how he was wearing an old...
    Duchess3 Duchess3
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2013

    I am 31 and my husband is 31

    as well?we are a gay couple? for the last 7 years My husband has been aware of his Aspergers Diagnosis and I, Have done a very extensive amount of research on AS. I do what I can to help him but I end up being the villain in every argument?I tell him how the lack of action and...
    KnightOfTheMadHatter KnightOfTheMadHatter
    31-35, M
    Feb 22, 2015

    So, unfortunately as it is with

    so many of these stories, things are not going much better than when I found this page and started writing my experiences. Not much has changed since my first story. My husband still doesn't help with anything, he has had mostly unsteady employment and is constantly getting...
    Cindermoon Cindermoon
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

    Now the question is, what do I do about it.

    Honestly, he can be a good guy, always works a job and does let me handle the finances, so that is a good trait. However, lately, its becoming more obvious that he is purposely sabotaging our relationship and I think he truly hates women. His current boss is going through a...
    melvis2222 melvis2222
    51-55
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2014

    Why I Believe That My Husband Has Aspergers...

    I took the criteria for Aspergers Syndrome and analyzed my husband´s behaviour:(I) Qualitative impairment in social interaction, as manifested by at least two of the following:(A) marked impairments in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as eye-to-eye gaze, facial...
    Habitate Habitate
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 3, 2013

    Is There Any Help That Will Make A Real Difference???

    Hi, I just read a couple of pieces posted her about having a husband with Aspergers... I met my husband online. We married relatively fast and I moved across the world, quite literally, as he had children from a previous marriage. On our honeymoon he displayed some very odd and...
    nyazau nyazau
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2013

    I am sooo glad i read all the comments!

    probably a bit out of date but it is reassuring me! my husband has similar traits. When i think about some of the things: he does argue and completely mis the point, and doesn't really empathize with any of my 'complaints'. he does forget things. Sometimes its as if he is just...
    holloway17 holloway17
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 12, 2014

    A Marriage Of One

    'Those who stay in a relationship with an Asperger’s-afflicted mate should do everything possible to be independent socially and financially' - Karin Friedemann Salem-News.com The warning bells should have gone off when I first met my future parents-in-law over lunch at their...
    Butterfly48 Butterfly48
    46-50
    6 Responses Aug 7, 2012

    Should I leave my asperger husband?

    I have been married for 9 years and have 2 boys. My youngest has autism and does not talk. My kids prefers to be with me as my husband rarely spends time with them. Ever since we got married having sex was very robotic and very rare. In fact we had sex on my peak ovulation just...
    Angell2014 Angell2014
    41-45, F
    Apr 2, 2014

    Are Silent Treatments An Asperger Trait?

    Silent treatments have always been a form of punishment that I recieved since beginning of our marriage. I used to beg and beg for him to speak to me. He would shut me out. I never knew how to deal with it, so I started apologizing for things I didn't even do or say just to...
    jipped jipped
    51-55, F
    12 Responses Mar 8, 2013

    What Is This?

    The best thing about this forum is how therapeutic it is. I find myself stressed a lot lately. There aren't very many people who I feel I can talk to about this. I wish I could find a support group to vent and sort some of these thoughts. I feel lost a lot when it comes to a...
    1HotMama82 1HotMama82
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 20, 2013

    We are in the process of having our 4 yo son

    diagnosed. I expressed concern to husband that I was worried my sister had undiagnosed aspergers. He opened up about his concerns of his own undiagnosed aspergers. I hadn't even clicked before. But now it's like all the illusions have been shattered. Everything makes so much...
    littlebirdgirl littlebirdgirl
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 28, 2014

    We Both Know He Is An Aspie, But Its Not Always Bad

    I get so tired of all the negativeness. Yes it is incredibly difficult to live with an aspie, be it husband or wife, daughter or son. But my relationship is healthier and less dysfunctional than the marriage I witnessed between my two NT (neuro-typical) parents. My aspie is...
    Cindermoon Cindermoon
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 18, 2013

    Should I leave my asperger husband?

    I have been married for 9 years and have 2 boys. My youngest has autism and does not talk. My kids prefers to be with me as my husband rarely spends time with them. Ever since we got married having sex was very robotic and very rare. In fact we had sex on my peak ovulation just...
    Angell2014 Angell2014
    41-45, F
    Apr 2, 2014

    Aarrgh!

    Beyond Exasperated By: Me Written on May 15th, 2013 Dont know how long I can hang in there. Met my husband 6 years ago. parents eccentric as they come.. His little boy charm won me over at first and he pursued me like crazy. Now he pursues his computer and the field of finance...
    kkmmy kkmmy
    51-55, F
    2 Responses May 15, 2013

    Tired

    Four long years and I am tired. Every word that comes out of my mouth turns into an argument with him. Everything offends him. I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells just to avoid an inevitable disagreement. Today's flavor was a simple question, "Hey what took you so...
    1HotMama82 1HotMama82
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 15, 2013

    New Found Sanity And Insanity All In One Week

    My long term partner. We have been together 15 years, started to attend couples counseling this year to see if we could expand our tool box to make our relationship work. I pretty much had one foot out the door. I was going to be Forty and had been to my own counseling for a few...
    pdlrofdrms pdlrofdrms
    36-40
    1 Response Dec 4, 2012

    I just told my husband I felt there was

    distance between us... He fell asleep *sigh*. How do you cope with the loneliness?
    sazzlejanee sazzlejanee
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2014

    Should I leave my asperger husband?

    I have been married for 9 years and have 2 boys. My youngest has autism and does not talk. My kids prefers to be with me as my husband rarely spends time with them. Ever since we got married having sex was very robotic and very rare. In fact we had sex on my peak ovulation just...
    Angell2014 Angell2014
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2014

    Crazy 5 Years

    I married a very sweet and romantic guy 5 years ago.  While we were dating, he was a VERY different person and the moment we got married,it was a switch got thrown and he became a very different person.  He was still sweet and I know that he means well, but all of a...
    celesteanne celesteanne
    36-40
    8 Responses Sep 28, 2010

    Figured It Out Over 3 Decades Later

    Although he has never been formally diagnosed, i'm pretty certain my husband has Asperger's. He has very few social skills and the ones he has are creepy, he thinks about very few people outside of himself and cannot empathize at all. There are many other symptoms, but it all...
    momz42854 momz42854
    61-65, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2013

    Life is difficult, Everyday communication is

    painful. It's getting worse every week. I'm starting to dread the weekends, even though I'm glad to be off work.
    mandyisadiva mandyisadiva
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2014

    Should I leave my asperger husband?

    I have been married for 9 years and have 2 boys. My youngest has autism and does not talk. My kids prefers to be with me as my husband rarely spends time with them. Ever since we got married having sex was very robotic and very rare. In fact we had sex on my peak ovulation just...
    Angell2014 Angell2014
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2014

    I need help and advice I am happy to see this

    group and can say that I am not the crazy one. All I have been saying all this time did make sense My husband hasn't been diagnose yet as Aspie but after doing so much of googling and coming across this group I am pretty sure he has it I am married to him since 4 months, our...
    immortalhappiness immortalhappiness
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 3, 2014

    Should I leave my asperger husband?

    I have been married for 9 years and have 2 boys. My youngest has autism and does not talk. My kids prefers to be with me as my husband rarely spends time with them. Ever since we got married having sex was very robotic and very rare. In fact we had sex on my peak ovulation just...
    Angell2014 Angell2014
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2014

    I feel such sorrow and emptiness

    and am trying to wrap my head around it. He's not diagnosed or anything but I just keep having this gut feeling and the more I read about Aspergers, the more I think he may have it. We have been married for over a decade and there seemed to be something 'off' about him but I...
    moonbeamy moonbeamy
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Feb 26, 2014

    Does My Husband Have Aspergers? What Do You Think?

    I am not sure if my husband has Aspergers, but was wondering. 1. He doesn't register my emotions. He walked away to water the grass when I was crying and upset about something EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE AN AUTOMATED SPRINKLER SYSTEM. We do not generally fight and do not have a hostile...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 16, 2013

    New Website For NT Partners Of People Living With Aspergers - Help And Advice Needed Please!

    I found out this morning that I got the grant to enable me to set up a website specifically for the NT partners of those with Aspergers Syndrome. I applied for the grant because I feel very strongly that there is little support for this group of people. I spent SO many years...
    Mercgirl007 Mercgirl007
    56-60
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2013

    Aspergers

    I am hoping to attract people on EP that might be going through the same issues than myself. Someone sent me a comment suggesting the possibility that my husband might have Aspergers. I have been doing some research on this and everytime I see something that just completely...
    puggy puggy
    36-40
    15 Responses Dec 8, 2009

    The Aspergers Quotient

    I had my husband do the AQ last night and he scored a 29. According to this test, 32 and above means that you do have Aspergers. A score between 26 and 31 means that over 80% in this group also likely has Aspergers. Has anyone else used this test with an accurate diagnosis?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2013
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