I Think My Husband Hates Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 702 People

    WE have been married going on 3 years.

    But we have been together since 2006/07. I lost my job back in June so now we have money problems. He works 2 jobs now and I know he is tired and stressing. He gets angry at the dumbest stuff and blows up! I ask him to talk about it, he shuts down and won't talk about it. When I...
    GorditaDiosa GorditaDiosa
    3 Responses Mar 13, 2015

    He hates me, he's mean

    and is now crazy over xbox game destiny, last night I found a fly in my coffee. My heart is broken, he used to love me, when he asks me what he's doibg wrong I have dates , times and proof . that makes him mad he then starts getting loud because ge knows I don't want...
    sadddgirlll sadddgirlll
    1 Response Jun 21, 2015

    I feel like I am begging him to give me his

    attention everyday. and I know that's not right.. he won't even talk to me. and is asleep in another room. I never have anyone to talk to about this because I don't want anyone thinking he's a bad person. because he's not. our relationship is just I don't know. maybe the love...
    sovigilant sovigilant
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 25, 2016

    Well, he says he does,

    anyway. He also says that I'm a worthless w**re, a c***, and a fat cow who won't get her lazy *** up to do anything all while he's complaining that I won't leave him alone so he can just rest. He says he wants me to die. He gives graphic details of how he'd like to be a part...
    suisquirrel suisquirrel
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    I am waiting and wanting a compliment from my

    husband. One could say I'm longing for one.
    prang777 prang777
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 22, 2014

    We have only just been married a month.

    Before we got married everything was perfect. We were all over each other. Now I feel like he wants nothing to do with me. I had to give up my job to move into our new home closer to his job. He complains to me about the house being messy all the time when I clean it everyday...
    Blackcat01 Blackcat01
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    Im not sure what's real anymore,

    he mskes stupid mistakes then refuses to take blame for it. Then tonight he messed up bad it will effect our finance future, so he says I told him TO DO it, LIE Im so frustrated and scared , hes out of control, then he blames my pain pills, I hsve a tumor again, so many other...
    sadddgirlll sadddgirlll
    Aug 21, 2015

    I have been married for 7 years this may my

    husband has always been an awesome man to me but lately I see he get irritated if I ask him to do something for me. In the past he always did and more now it seems to bring me a bottle of water is a big issue. He has told me that I think it's always all about me and what I...
    sangria45 sangria45
    41-45, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2014

    I've recently been diagnosed with breast cancer

    and I'm pregnant. My husband was supportive at first, but now he has turned into a very cruel and hurtful person. He's constantly yelling at our 2.5 year old boy for no reason calling him names I tell him to stop and then it gets turned on me. Tonight I noticed my little guy had...
    fightlikeagirl fightlikeagirl
    26-30, F
    4 Responses May 3, 2015

    intamacy really dosnt exist anymore.

    nothing feels the same. he used to be the best lover ive ever had until i found out hes cheating. now sex feels like im just doing it just to keep him from running to her for that very min. even tho i know hell go back to her anyway. ive begged him to stop cheating he says he...
    solost413 solost413
    1 Response Jan 31, 2016

    I tried everything he just seem

    so miserable with me around I'm staying for the children
    Graceof5 Graceof5
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    It's not an old story

    but I never thought that he'll use the kids against me. I left because I had enough of his philandering while accusing me of having an affair aside from abusing me when I refused to share a bed with him. Yes, he's putting his own dirt on my very clean face so his guilt will...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2014
    prang777 prang777
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 1, 2014

    I wish my husband was the same

    as before he became Ill he was diagnosed with lupus and had accident in hospital left him with nerve damage so this last 3 1/2 years have been tough I do absolutely every single thing in our house and life but we argue every minute of the day I try not to the best I can but...
    TheGraceOf5 TheGraceOf5
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 10, 2016

    Married 3 years. We are

    both emotionally unavailable, we are both struggling with the same thoughts that we hate each other. (Or so he says) I don't even know where to start, we just fight about everything. It's hurtful and draining. He accuses me of "making him do everything", but his lists include...
    BrindleWulf BrindleWulf
    26-30, F
    Feb 13, 2016

    I think my husband hates me.

    ....My childhood was REALLY bad. My current husband also had a childhood similar to mine but was not as lucky as me and his life took a different path. I graduated high school joined the ARMY and finished collage. I was going to refrain from making the same choices my parents...
    Lsngthsbttle Lsngthsbttle
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    She talks to herself

    because he is just not willing to listen. She cries in the bathroom because he can't stand her tears. They make him angry. He thinks she is blaming him silently. She doesn't want to do that. It's just her eyes expressing what her lips can't
    somwherebetweenheartnhead somwherebetweenheartnhead
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 23, 2015

    I Have No More Hope Or Faith Left In My Husband Or My Marriage

    This may sound crazy but I dreamt of my husband the week before I met him. I dreamt that my best friend and I were going to meet our future husbands and that we both would have boys. I never seen them but only heard they're voices and seen the event in my dream. Well it happened...
    Shegavegoodsunflower Shegavegoodsunflower
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Mar 16, 2013

    I really do sometimes ,

    he shows more anger and negativity than his living side. I feel uncomfortable around him
    caseybarbarino caseybarbarino
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 23, 2015

    Why Does He Hate Me?

    He rolls his eyes when I talk to him. He always tells me I complain about everything even if it's not complaining. He gets mad when I'm sick (I get sick often). He tells me to shut up when he's mad. He tells me that he doesn't want to come home from work because I'm at home. He...
    notsoglad notsoglad
    73 Responses Sep 6, 2010

    15 years ago my husband went far away.

    About three months he didn´t call me, I never got one reaction from him so I thought he has left me. Actually I was very happy that he was away because he has cheaten my each day during our marriage. He didn´t take me like a woman. He even didn´t take me like a human. He took...
    Loretta78 Loretta78
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 1, 2015

    Feeling Alone

    Wednesday it will be four years I have been w/ my husband. We have only been married for a year. I got pregnant after a year of dating. He did not want to have a family and pressured me to have an abortion. I could not bring myself to do it. My pregnancy was very hard. he was not...
    Cherryann27 Cherryann27
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Dec 2, 2013

    He Is Just Not Nice

    Our 6 yr anniversary is coming in September and we have a 4 yr old son. All he does now is play with RC cars. He still doesn't sleep with me. Sex is super impersonal when we have it once a month. All he wants to talk about his his damn RC cars. If I say anything to him about...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses May 29, 2013

    I think it's the age difference 14years,

    he thinks he's my father every thing has to be his way our he completely melts down cussing yelling name calling, he basically said he settled for me , then called me stupid, it's heart breaking, I walk on egg shells all day everyday worrying what's going to **** him off today...
    kellyamb kellyamb
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 19, 2015

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    kimcc11aa kimcc11aa
    26-30, F
    Jan 20, 2016

    All I do is sit at home.

    Maybe clean, take some pictures if I feel pretty that day, or watch TV. I have no inspiratioin to write anything lately, or to draw (not that I was ever a very good artist before). I can't even make myself go on a walk, or to the gym. Hell, I can't even make myself leave this...
    younghoped younghoped
    22-25, F
    Sep 28, 2015

    I've been married for two almost two years.

    I have two children. I feel like I'm losing my mind. my husband is very controlling. And very critical. I thought that over time we would find our rhythm. But the longer we are together the harder things get. He works like 3 days a week and barely makes any money. I feel so...
    gracethisis gracethisis
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 14, 2014

    I met my husband in 2004 sweetest man you

    could ever meet. Till you become apart of his life. Before we got married he was pretty good. Buy it's funny he was skeptical about getting married because he said woman always change. Well in my case he has changed. He gets so upset for no reason. An example. One time I forgot...
    orangepledge01 orangepledge01
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Dec 18, 2013

    What more is there to think.

    ..he picks at something all the time. My jokes, my clothes, the fact that I can't party like him and our friends, the things I say, the way the house looks, the fact that I am still in school. My husband complains about me at least 3 times a day. Never once do I get any notice...
    aceventura21 aceventura21
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 14, 2014

    for a long time i actually lived with this pain

    of thinking and feeling that my own husband hates me...i felt alone becaus i couldnt exactly go over to the neighbors and talk about it now could i? but this really helped me - i feel mcuh better about myself and it looks like there is new hope for our marriage! i worked on ME...
    katherine35 katherine35
    Sep 27, 2015

    It's so sad. How many of us women are being

    abused? Physically, mentally, emotionally,etc. Why do men think they can do this? What makes someone put up with it for years? You are better than this! You don't need him!
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 23, 2015

    My husband projects everything onto me.

    If he does something that hurts my feelings and I let him know his behavior/actions are hurtful, he says it is my fault for being too sensitive. I used to get a half hearted apology- now he just blows up and gets mean. He can't handle any type of criticism or negative feelings...
    Imarriedanonlychild Imarriedanonlychild
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    I Think My Husband Hates Me

    Wow. I read all your stories and actually got teary-eyed. I am going through the same thing. My husband and I have been married 16 years and have four children together. Although I have never been a priority in his life, I still love him and long for the day when he'll put me...
    cmclovelyday cmclovelyday
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Jul 9, 2010

    my husband uses me as his emotional punching

    bag. no matter how hard I try to make him happy and do everything for him besides wipe his *** and go to work, he treats me like I am an inconvienence all the time. Like he doesn't want me. This Is NOT the person I married. Last Friday, after being discharged from the hospital...
    wontgiveup2009 wontgiveup2009
    26-30, F
    Jul 8, 2015

    I married a man I loved more

    than anything in my life but he hates me completely and totally. He asked me what I am going to gift him for his birthday ( which by the way is 6 months away) when I said I haven't yet planned for it he said it why don't u just give me a divorce ... It would make me so happy...
    somwherebetweenheartnhead somwherebetweenheartnhead
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    I know my husband hates me.

    ...I make him miserable. We've only been married for 6 months and I know he regrets marrying me. By the time he realized I wasn't the one it was too late, he couldn't back out. So now we fight daily because he is constantly annoyed with me. My heart is broken but I just wait...
    MissMaeH MissMaeH
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    The only time he's nice to me is

    when he wants sex. He only talks to me if he's bored of playing computer games. He fantasises about having an affair and when i told him that made me feel insecure he got angry at me because it's not real and he would never have an affair. Tonight he called me nasty and selfish...
    aussiegirl2014 aussiegirl2014
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    Oh yea HE DOES... Theres always something wrong

    with the things i do or better yet stuff in my past..... I was invited to a Halloween party decided to show him a costume i wanted he said you dont look right bc ur not skinny i just put my head down bc i know im fat and ugly he doesnt put picture of us in his Facebook...
    Keilafuentes Keilafuentes
    31-35, F
    Oct 20, 2015

    So I met my husband 9 years ago

    and fell deeply in love immediately I had a son from a previous relationship and he accepted me and my son told me I'm the woman of his dreams that he loved me and couldn't imagine being with another woman so in a matter of a year we had a so. Together than 9 months after my...
    canadian4 canadian4
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 10, 2014

    Hostile Angry Husband

    I will try to make a long story short..... in 1998 my first husband, whom I had divorced for drinking and cheating, died in a car accident. We had 1 daughter, then in Dec of 1999 The man who I was married to at the time died in a car accident as well, He was not kind and loving...
    pheonix10 pheonix10
    41-45, F
    19 Responses Nov 2, 2009

    My husband and I have had a rocky relationship

    from the very beginning, but there was this brief period where we were actually pretty happy, then he did a tour in Afghanistan and came back so…cold. The first day he was home I was so excited to see him and he seemed happy to see me and our daughter, but literally the next...
    downbythebay94 downbythebay94
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jun 11, 2014

    My husband constantly argues with me

    and tells me I'm stupid and worthless. I work full time in a very demanding pharmacy I'm also a full time Mother. I'm loving, I make sure he has breakfast,lunch and dinner. I make sure the house is clean. When I notice he's trying to relax I take the kids to another room and let...
    Escobargirl240 Escobargirl240
    4 Responses Jan 25, 2015

    My experience is 10 years of being with a man

    who has never been able to make up his mind about being with me. We now are married with a beautiful 5yo boy and been separated two of those five years of marriage. I work 95 miles from Memphis and I'm at work all week. When I come home on the weekends, coming up in time to pick...
    Madrina81 Madrina81
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    What Did I Do To You Today?

    Hubby is constantly complaining that we don't spend enough time together. Saturday I had to work an 11 hr shift, and then work 5-1 sunday. When I got home sunday, we had 2-3 hrs to ourselves, I thought great we have some time together. I came in from work, after recieving a text...
    tinkerbell2067 tinkerbell2067
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2013

    No matter what I do, my husband yells at me.

    I just can't do anything right in his eyes. I feel like it's abusive. I often cry because of this yelling all of the time. Sometimes, I leave and drive around and cry some more. It's just not healthy. I'm trying to finish nursing school, but it's damn near impossible. He...
    cymoffett cymoffett
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2015

    Girls..What Do You Think?

    I have worked very hard (since I was 14, I am now 44). People see me as successful and that thing came easy. The people who understand me really like me, but I have just as many people that hate me,mostly women. Many people hurt my feelings by leaving me out or gossiping about me...
    sunshine88888 sunshine88888
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Sep 16, 2013

    All my husband do is call me names

    and curse at me. He always puts his children against me especially his daughter. He treats her like she is his wife and like I'm the ugly stepchild no one wants. He tells me all the time in front of her that she is better than me that she should never be trash like I am. I'm...
    Apjackson4 Apjackson4
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2016

    Well, I know he hates me!

    I can feel it just oozing from him! 21 years of marriage and he doesn't want to know a thing about me. He has ignored me for almost a year now. I only get dirty looks and grunts. He looks at me like he would love to smash my face in! I tiptoe around and serve and clean and do...
    Kaziana Kaziana
    1 Response May 12, 2015

    I know my husband hates me.

    In his eyes I am wrong all the time. I never received praise, only correction and it breaks my heart. I wish I was strong enough to not care but it has been going on so long that now I also hate myself. I wish I could dissappear. How did this become my life?
    Uselessandstupid Uselessandstupid
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jan 19, 2016


    Okay, me and my husband have been together for 5 yrs., within 2 moonths after meeting him I got pregnant ( I had just turned 21 , and was partying alot) so we never really got to know eachother . We married , it has been rocky from the begining .. but when I say I am going to...
    MyBrainHurts MyBrainHurts
    4 Responses Jun 2, 2009

    I feel so sad. One minute we are happy then the

    next he is shutting me out and yelling at me. I have no family and no one to talk to. When I try to talk to him, he gets angry and accuses me of being dramatic. So I don't. I don't know when he's gonna suddenly switch moods. 1. He's NEVER hit me--and he knows if he does I'll...
    ConfusedWife318 ConfusedWife318
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Aug 28, 2015

    Since my last post. I got

    so depressed by watching my husband care less and less about how much I was hurting. Three days ago I tried to speak to him, but all he could say is that he didn't have energy for this. Knowing he had completely given up on me, I decided to slit my wrist. I thought he had...
    Mickeyg888 Mickeyg888
    5 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    Husband used to text me all the time from work

    now he barely does and I ask him why an he says he's busy but I see him on Facebook commenting to people. And he keeps saying he doesn't want to fight so I tell him then I'm getting rid of this messenger you told me to get. He's probably bored of me he doesn't even say hello...
    LovelyT10 LovelyT10
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 23, 2014
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