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I Think My Husband Hates Me

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    What Am I Doing Wrong?

    My husband of 8 years tears me down every second ...belittles me, when we are alone infront of friends , even in front of the kids... it's my fault the truck won't start... or is the phone burning up yet? Or you broke this on the truck... you didn't do this right..ect ect...
    distant33 distant33 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    All I've felt is that I've been doing something

    wrong. When I met my husband 4 1/2 years ago I came across some weird emails. Dating website emails. Didn't really think too much of it. I found out we were pregnant while we were both in Afghanistan and came back to the states and waited for him to come back. After living...
    wornsweater wornsweater 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I Know My Husband Hates Me

    he loved his co-workers instead of me. yes LOVED..he has since been fired and blames me and now hes even more meaner to me. Clams up for days won't speak to me. When I get my meds he is all happy as long as I share and pretends to like me. He will snuggle with me on the couch...
    cannotwin cannotwin 61-65, F 6 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    He Is Just Not Nice

    Our 6 yr anniversary is coming in September and we have a 4 yr old son. All he does now is play with RC cars. He still doesn't sleep with me. Sex is super impersonal when we have it once a month. All he wants to talk about his his damn RC cars. If I say anything to him about...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 29, 2013

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    Overpowering Househusband

    I am writing about my experience as quickly as possible because I know as soon as my husband comes back he will lie next to me to simply see what I am doing. Anyway I have been married for 5 years I have two beautiful children and my husband is a stay at home father. As a father...
    nad12345 nad12345 36-40 1 Response May 17, 2013

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    A Hated Wife ...

    I have finally come to the conclusion that my husband hates me.  I started blogging about it if anyone would like to follow. www.hatedwife.wordpress.com It's where I vent and go to blow off steam since I have no-one to talk to.  Everyone thinks we have an awesome...
    Ahatedwife Ahatedwife 36-40 Sep 21, 2010

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    I Do Everything Wrong

    I was reading a few of the entries here. Wow, its amazing that other wives feel and are being treated the same way. I do what ever I can for him and it never seems to be good enough!!! He is a mamas boy. He has to be at his mothers house every day ... she is not sick...
    mome23 mome23 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    Husband used to text me all the time from work

    now he barely does and I ask him why an he says he's busy but I see him on Facebook commenting to people. And he keeps saying he doesn't want to fight so I tell him then I'm getting rid of this messenger you told me to get. He's probably bored of me he doesn't even say hello...
    LovelyT10 LovelyT10 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    Follow Your Gut!

    I got married when I was a naive and super sheltered 19 year old. I believed my Marine boyfriend when he started talking marriage and love so when he wanted to sleep with me I thought I was in a fairy tale and it would all end up happily.....not so much when afterwards he...
    mom10 mom10 41-45 1 Response Jan 13, 2013

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    My husband and I argue alllllll the time.

    We've only been married just over 3 years. He had an affair 6 months after we got married, about a year after that, we separated and I moved out and had an affair also. Anyway, I mean, we argue 5 seconds after were done having sex. Mostly, he picks them. And when I argue about...
    ThatConfusedGirl ThatConfusedGirl 22-25, F 1 Response May 26

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    Girls..What Do You Think?

    I have worked very hard (since I was 14, I am now 44). People see me as successful and that thing came easy. The people who understand me really like me, but I have just as many people that hate me,mostly women. Many people hurt my feelings by leaving me out or gossiping about me...
    sunshine88888 sunshine88888 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    All I tried to do was be nice to him all day

    because I so desperately want it to work because I really love him he jus doesn't care nemore at all I tell him what I want and he says he jus wants to do the opposite he's to the point were he doesn't want it to work he says he loves me but I can tell it's over that's all he...
    ugotmeigotu ugotmeigotu 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Feeling Alone

    Wednesday it will be four years I have been w/ my husband. We have only been married for a year. I got pregnant after a year of dating. He did not want to have a family and pressured me to have an abortion. I could not bring myself to do it. My pregnancy was very hard. he was not...
    Cherryann27 Cherryann27 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    jgopin jgopin 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2013

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    I Have No More Hope Or Faith Left In My Husband Or My Marriage

    This may sound crazy but I dreamt of my husband the week before I met him. I dreamt that my best friend and I were going to meet our future husbands and that we both would have boys. I never seen them but only heard they're voices and seen the event in my dream. Well it happened...
    Shegavegoodsunflower Shegavegoodsunflower 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    I Think My Husband Hates Me

    Wow. I read all your stories and actually got teary-eyed. I am going through the same thing. My husband and I have been married 16 years and have four children together. Although I have never been a priority in his life, I still love him and long for the day when he'll put me...
    cmclovelyday cmclovelyday 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 9, 2010

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    Where To Go From Here......

    I think I am finally starting to accept the fact that my 14 year marriage is doomed. I don't know what I did to make him hate me so much. We have 4 beautiful children we both adore. According to him I am too demanding because I would give anything to have him cuddle up next to me...
    hopeisfaith hopeisfaith 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 30, 2013

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    Abandoned For The Oilfields

    In January of 2012 my husband and I both decided it would be a great opportunity for him to accept a job in the oilfields of Williston, ND so we could get caught up on bills, pay off some debt and save a little money, too. Little did I know that the money would completely replace...
    Austin17 Austin17 26-30, F 3 Responses May 12, 2013

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    What Did I Do To You Today?

    Hubby is constantly complaining that we don't spend enough time together. Saturday I had to work an 11 hr shift, and then work 5-1 sunday. When I got home sunday, we had 2-3 hrs to ourselves, I thought great we have some time together. I came in from work, after recieving a text...
    tinkerbell2067 tinkerbell2067 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    5 years ago i was a stup*d 15 year old

    who fell in love with a guy. Got pregnant of him . 5 years i've trying to make it work i've trying to always make him happy . I love him very much , i want to leave his side but i cant . Anyways we have a daugther shes 3 years old , and she is my main reason why i want to make...
    milk10274 milk10274 18-21, F Feb 17

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    My husband and I are like oil

    and vinegar. He is very disrespectful. He accuses me of cheating and not just cheating but cheating with his friends his family women and strangers and co workers. Pretty much anyone. He tells me hates me, that I ruined his life that his life would be perfect if I wasn't there...
    missunderstood84 missunderstood84 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 22

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    We loved each other and I thought he was the

    prince of my dreams.and we married ..all I wanted was a family for ourselves. The first gap between us fell when I was pregnant with our first baby.i had to leave overseas for delivery and I stayed away for 6 months...when I came back, he was different! I guess mistake I on my...
    tearymom tearymom 26-30 1 Response Dec 5, 2013

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    I Just Dont Know What Im Doing Wrong"(

    When i met my hubby everything was great, it was nothing but laughs we got married and things couldnt get better... But when i got pregnant he changed, and once our son was born even worst.... We fight alot more now than before i had to get a job to help with the car payments i...
    alwaysthinkingofus alwaysthinkingofus 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Hostile Angry Husband

    I will try to make a long story short..... in 1998 my first husband, whom I had divorced for drinking and cheating, died in a car accident. We had 1 daughter, then in Dec of 1999 The man who I was married to at the time died in a car accident as well, He was not kind and loving...
    pheonix10 pheonix10 41-45, F 19 Responses Nov 2, 2009

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    It's not an old story

    but I never thought that he'll use the kids against me. I left because I had enough of his philandering while accusing me of having an affair aside from abusing me when I refused to share a bed with him. Yes, he's putting his own dirt on my very clean face so his guilt will...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    No Love

    So i come home to see a history of **** sites and him tryingto get back in contact with hs ex , i was found out he signed onto dating sites , i just cant take this heartache anymore why is it so hard to leave somepne that doesnt love u
    alone121906 alone121906 18-21 1 Response Dec 3, 2013

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    I have been married for 7 years this may my

    husband has always been an awesome man to me but lately I see he get irritated if I ask him to do something for me. In the past he always did and more now it seems to bring me a bottle of water is a big issue. He has told me that I think it's always all about me and what I...
    sangria45 sangria45 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    What more is there to think.

    ..he picks at something all the time. My jokes, my clothes, the fact that I can't party like him and our friends, the things I say, the way the house looks, the fact that I am still in school. My husband complains about me at least 3 times a day. Never once do I get any notice...
    aceventura21 aceventura21 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    My husband and I have had a rocky relationship

    from the very beginning, but there was this brief period where we were actually pretty happy, then he did a tour in Afghanistan and came back so…cold. The first day he was home I was so excited to see him and he seemed happy to see me and our daughter, but literally the next...
    downbythebay94 downbythebay94 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    Today when my husband came home from work I

    thought I would pull out all the stops...wore something skimpy, nibbled his shoulders, and ran my hands up and down his chest. He pushed me away....AGAIN! He told me he had more important things to worry about than keeping spice in our marriage.... I feel so unwanted, ugly, and...
    Lmm14 Lmm14 31-35, F 16 Responses Feb 24

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    Hello... I just joined the group

    and feel so glad to find a group where I can feel safe being honest about my marriage. My husband hates me. We were happy at one point and I think I hate him too at times, though we have 2 kids and are good at faking it. He is successful, a Naval Officer (and full of himself...
    MissyCA MissyCA 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Its new years eve and im crying

    why ive just been beaten with a broom by my husband simply for asking to spend new years with me and the kids as he went drinking on xmay , he beats me and walks off , he does not care for me and I cant leave cos the kids but I cannot do this anymore every second day I am...
    alone121906 alone121906 18-21 21 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    Abused , Alone

    My husband began beating me when i was 4 months pregnant with my first , since than he beaten me constanstly over nothing and says its my fault . I ve gained since ive given birth and its been 2years and i havent lost my baby weight and im always getting called a fat ***** , and...
    alone121906 alone121906 18-21 2 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    So I met my husband 9 years ago

    and fell deeply in love immediately I had a son from a previous relationship and he accepted me and my son told me I'm the woman of his dreams that he loved me and couldn't imagine being with another woman so in a matter of a year we had a so. Together than 9 months after my...
    canadian4 canadian4 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Why Does He Hate Me?

    He rolls his eyes when I talk to him. He always tells me I complain about everything even if it's not complaining. He gets mad when I'm sick (I get sick often). He tells me to shut up when he's mad. He tells me that he doesn't want to come home from work because I'm at home. He...
    notsoglad notsoglad 31-35 53 Responses Sep 6, 2010

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    He is a Marine and has been in corporals course

    for a week now, pretty much like boot camp for corporals who want to become sergeants. I know he has been stressed and tired, but that does not seem like a good reason to act the way he does. He is annoyed by everything I do/say. He says I lack common sense. We haven't had sex...
    BluePhoenix005 BluePhoenix005 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    He Is Full Of Hate For Everything

    He is hate filled He stomps around the house to demand respect He doesn't take responsibility for anything he does wrong He treats my son , who moved back in after graduating from college like a piece of ****. He doesn't want to be happy, no matter what HELP....
    Lgale Lgale 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    The last 2 years have been horrible.

    He's been acting very suspecies. And the other day he left his computer on and he never does. And of course he has it password protected. So I lock the room door and looked through it and I found alot of **** and Webcam hooked up. I only have a couple mins to do my spy work...
    Eileen01 Eileen01 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 2

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    Husband has not spoken to me in four days

    after him getting upset with me over the weekend. I can only say sorry so many times and when I asked if he's gonna talk to me his response maybe eventually. What he is mad over just amazes me be side we have been in worse situations before and he's never ever not spoken to me...
    jordysings jordysings 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 25

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    My Husband Hates Me...

    My husband tells me he hates me, he can't stand me. He tells me to go back home to my daddy's house and talks about my dad in the most horrible way. My daughter is mixed. He calls me a ****** lover. He told me once that she should be hung up in a tree like the ****** she is. He...
    angeleyes37130 angeleyes37130 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 15, 2011

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    I'm Lost

    My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have a son together. He has always been emotionally unavailable but I justified it because he had an abusive childhood. I've given up so much of what I consider a good marriage to be with him. I don't know if I even love him...
    Girlthirtysomething Girlthirtysomething 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    i work full time and make decent money.

    When i come home i cook clean and take care of my daughter, yet my husband who does not work treats my like im worthless. I moved to live closer to his family they all also hate me i dont understand all i do is give give give yet im never and will never be good enough for him...
    saintlouis2611 saintlouis2611 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    My Husband Hates Me

    As all relationships start its always love at first sight , everything lovey dovey , i have been with my partner for 5years married for 2 , and the last 2 years have been heartache and pain for me. I am the only one working 40hrs a week for our little family , coming home to me...
    alone121906 alone121906 18-21 3 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I think my husband hates me Iv'e been with my

    husband for 8 years, we have been married for almost 3. We got married on our 6 year anniversary. We are both recovering addicts. He with over 20 years and me with almost 9. He has always been so very loving and kind to me. He helped me through some of the hardest experiences...
    rawnerve rawnerve 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2013

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    I met my husband in 2004 sweetest man you

    could ever meet. Till you become apart of his life. Before we got married he was pretty good. Buy it's funny he was skeptical about getting married because he said woman always change. Well in my case he has changed. He gets so upset for no reason. An example. One time I forgot...
    orangepledge01 orangepledge01 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    Husband Hates Me

    My husband tells me I'm not a real wife He looked me in the eyes and said I'm the worst wife in the world. He curses me puts me down and gives me the silent treatment for days. He always puts me down I feel numb inside because I love him..I never yell back or ever say...
    realsis77 realsis77 36-40 2 Responses May 31, 2013

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    I'm Sad.

     My husband hates me and everything about me.  I don't understand why he doesn't just leave or let me leave.  We have a 14 month old daughter together, but even before that he hated me.  I thought the baby would bring us closer but it's done the opposite...
    PeaceOfChit PeaceOfChit 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2009

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    Sad

    Okay, me and my husband have been together for 5 yrs., within 2 moonths after meeting him I got pregnant ( I had just turned 21 , and was partying alot) so we never really got to know eachother . We married , it has been rocky from the begining .. but when I say I am going to...
    MyBrainHurts MyBrainHurts 26-30 5 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    My Husband Says I Have Miss Behave And I Deserve To Be Punish!!!!

    My husband doesn't like me we haven't been intimate for more than 6 months he acts like he doesn't care about me, he is always in a bad mood he says i need help, cause im crazy. when we meet 12 years ago I tough he was my soul mate, he has 3 boys he ex-wife is an alcoholic and...
    Marbella2 Marbella2 41-45 Mar 19, 2012

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    I Dont Know Whats Next

    im 27, graduating medical school to be a doc, no kids and married for 20months.  newlyweds right?   so my husband, graduating law school, and i have been separated on and off due to school across states, but we have been trying to make it work.  The last yr...
    hoping4hope hoping4hope 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    Ice Cold

    My husband will literally fall asleep next to me while I'm crying in my pillow. I have been terribly sick with the stomach flu the past 48 hours, and taking care of our 2 year old daughter. He comes home from work and turns on the tv and starts eating dinner completely ignoring...
    6 Responses Jan 31, 2013

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    I can't even be near my husband

    because he becomes aggravated and uncomfortable. He insults me sarcastically and tries to make me feel less than him. He controls me but doesn't let me know anything that he does. Keeps his home office, car, cellphone, computer, room, and business lock from me. But, his friends...
    adela75 adela75 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 19

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