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I Think My Husband Is Gay

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    Both Confused...

    Warning:  This is hard to read because it jumps around alot and is sort of frantic, I guess...I'm ranting alot... Well, recently my husband of less than a year has begun making confessions, little by little.  First it was that he liked trannies, which I'm ok with...
    sevenofnine sevenofnine 26-30, F 15 Responses Mar 25, 2009

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    Feel So Betrayed

    I have been married for 5 weeks. we have a beautiful baby boy 14 months old and were going to start trying for another soon enough. To put a long story short I have found two profiles he has created. very explicated pictures and true profile details.... as well as being in our...
    Brokendk Brokendk 31-35 3 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Confused

    I have been married for just over a year. And I have found many clues to my husband being bi but I'm not sure how to handle or confront him about it. I love him so much but I'm so confused. Should I leave him or stay with him we already have to adorable lil boys. I have found...
    Mrsconfusedwife Mrsconfusedwife 22-25 5 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Torn Between Leaving Him And Staying With Him

    I dont know where to start......This is my first time posting one of these. I think my boyfriend of 6 years may be gay or bi and may be cheating on me. But i love him so much that i honestly can not even imagine my life with out him. Reasons why I think he may be bi/gay and...
    confusedpleasehelp confusedpleasehelp 22-25 9 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    Absolutely No Evidence...

    15 years. No sex in 10 years. Very little after the 2nd year. No explanation, nothing. If I want it, he says, I should ask for it. I never did. Never will. He is home most of the time, very secretive, very cagey. No evidence of cheating, or ****, no really close male friends...
    benami313 benami313 46-50, F 11 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    I Am Really Confused

    I am pregnant with our second child and came home from work and asked to see his phone. I saw pictures of his private areas posted on a men seeking men website! I asked him about it and he said he doesn't know what he was thinking but was disgusted and ashamed and was not gay! We...
    Abrow032 Abrow032 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 25, 2012

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    As i sit here and type this post I am in

    disbelief. I recently found out that the person I was once married to and been with for 5 years is gay or bi. I am now starting to realize little things he had done for example bookmark gay **** and I recently discovered an email he had sent to an unknown source from craigslist...
    Distraught89 Distraught89 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I've been married for two years

    and had no clue or any suspicion. Lately he's been accusing me of cheating and shirt with me. Found his profile on meet me talking to 19 year old men about meeting them and sucking them my husband is 30 btw. Then I also find webcams on charurbate biinohio and man hunt .com. I'm...
    MarleyandMe1 MarleyandMe1 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    I'm a gay man, and I have met many married guys

    over the years that live a secret life. Regrettably I have been the "other person" before. I have seen how it hurts everyone involved. If I had to summarize my advice to married women, if you are unhappy, you need to confront any suspicions. If counseling is an option, then...
    aguythatknows aguythatknows 41-45, M 7 Responses Mar 12, 2014

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    Why Doesn't He Just Come Out?

    In September 2012 we will celebrate our 25th anniversary. We have not had sex for at least 10 years. My husband secretly ( I found it on his computer) enjoys gay ****, but says he's not gay. I really believe he loves me in his own way, but that he married me to prove to the world...
    webster1953 webster1953 56-60 10 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I Am A Gay Husband..

    Hello, I would like to share my story. I am 26 years old, married for 2 years now and together with my wife for 3 years. I am gay or bisexual more to be gay. I am still in the closet. Nobody knows anything about me, being in a society and culture where gays are not so welcomed...
    youngpharaoh45 youngpharaoh45 26-30, M 11 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    when my husband and i first met the sex was

    amazing and he kissed me passionately alll the time. In the three years we have been married we have a great relationship except that our sex life is terrible. I am always the one throwing a fit and then we have sex. I have cried and told him how i felt and he has remained quiet...
    scaredliz scaredliz 41-45, F 3 Responses May 30, 2014

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    I Think Mine Is Gay Too.

    I have meen maried to my husband for 39 years and for the last twenty five of those I have had my suspicions. I left him eight years ago but we have stayed friends. I never once asked him if he had any gay tendencies. Our sex life during the time we were together was never very...
    scarlet20 scarlet20 56-60 5 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    I Think My Husband Is Bi :(

    We been together for going on 4 years 2 years in our merriage he's been working at his job for 3 and he's been getting close with his guy co worker I been noticing things like doing his hair and cleaning his butt good before leaving to work and he changes at work and goes In the...
    Crissy91 Crissy91 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    confusedinthesouth confusedinthesouth 26-30, F Apr 28, 2014

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    I Also Think My Husband Is Gay

    First off, mediocre sex became non-existent soon after we got married. But what I really notice is how he tries to dress me up in ways that are simply not me...almost as if he would like to dress that way himself. (in colourful and extra-revealing clothes). he swears a lot - in...
    mwottor mwottor 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    I'm a producer on a daytime talk show that deals with conflicts and resolutions. If you'd like to be a guest, please send me a message sharing your story and leave your contact information. Thank you
    TalkshowNY TalkshowNY 31-35, M 1 Response Jun 25, 2012

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    Dazed And Confused

    I have been married for 14 years and we have 2 daughters. Off and on I have the feeling he is cheating and then it will pass. So then I assume its me being paranoid. I have to admit that I have low self esteem and have feelings of depression all because for his lack of desire...
    tmeyers06 tmeyers06 41-45 7 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    I Think My Fiance Is Gay But Hides It Very Good.

    I have my suspiciuos of my boyfriend being gay but haven't confronted him and don't know how. Well me have been together for almost 3 years and we have a 6 myth old daughter. We have always had our arguments since we got together and our differences in ways we r to much alike and...
    babydoll120191 babydoll120191 22-25 7 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    How Do I Know For Sure?

    I have been married for 28 years. I have long suspected my husband is gay. Recently, within the last couple of years, I have been wrestling with this and trying to figure out 1) How do I know for sure, 2) He would never, ever tell me if he was and 3) What should I do? He has...
    NeedInsight NeedInsight 46-50 10 Responses Feb 25, 2013

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    Very Sad And Confused

    Over the course of our 16 year marriage I have found magazines internet history and videos of gay ****.  When I have confronted him with this he gets very despondent and cries telling me how much he loves me and that he is sorry for effing my life up!  He tells me that...
    banshee1972 banshee1972 36-40, F 26 Responses Jul 18, 2010

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    I Believe My Husband Is Gay

    Life has become crazy for me since January 2013, I was married for 15 years and three children. It has been weird in our marriage since day one. When we first got married I use to catch him online looking at gay ****. He would say he was just curious. I would ask him not to do...
    Bonnie1001 Bonnie1001 51-55, F 15 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    What A Faker

    My husband lies to me, us secretive about his whereabouts and who he's with. He uses the lie he's our with clients bur he left his email open and I saw that he meets up with friends. He has unhappy close relationships with a couple of guys he never wants to socialize with me...
    Jade012 Jade012 31-35 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    I Believe My Husband Is Gay

    I have been married to my husband for 4yrs. Over the last few months, we have really not been able to connect. I have been asked by others if my husband was gay. I found pop ups on his computer about gay stuff. He clears his cell phone call log and text messages daily. His...
    stuck317 stuck317 46-50 5 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    What To Do If You Think Your Husband Is Bi-sexual

    I am glad that I found this site. Somehow I felt that it was really real ( the situation where I am now)and it does happen. Don’t know where to start. But I feel so hurt and depressed. I’ve been carrying this pain for almost a year. I don’t know if I am right with my...
    simplygerthrude simplygerthrude 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    To make a long story short,

    I found emails between my boyfriend (12 yrs, long distance for 10) answering & posting M4M ads on craigslist. It took almost a year for him to finally admit that 'yes, I've had some bisexual experiences." He's never told anyone...he's a man's man....never in a million years...
    ilashes ilashes 41-45, F 8 Responses May 2, 2014

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    He doesn't touch me and he is ok with me

    getting it anywhere else.
    shortandstacked shortandstacked 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    He Was Sexually Abused As A Boy

    My Hub and I have had a very ruff last few years,.. we are seperated now and he has just begun telling me that all his sexual encounters before meeting me ( at 19 ) was w other boys. It started when he was maybe 10.... he had an older boy  do things , hes choosen to do...
    hebrokemyheart hebrokemyheart 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 30, 2010

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    Open Marriage But Not Open

    I am currently separated from my husband of 22 years.. In the course of those years we made love maybe 10 times... (Producing 2 kid) His interest in sex was never great but i excused that and focused on other things that we enjoyed together such as restaurants and movies, our...
    Olive66 Olive66 46-50, F 11 Responses Mar 31, 2013

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    I knew my husband was kinky

    and I was okay with that because I am too. While I was at work the other night my husband was craiglisting a cross dressing man. After going through his emails more, I found that he not only likes trannys, but grannys too. He was craiglising 70 year old women while he was at...
    rmitchell86 rmitchell86 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    After 21 Years

    For some years I had an idea that my husband could be gay, he denied it over and over. Then after 21 years of marriage he said he was leaving but still denied he was gay. Only after finding out who he was living with did he finally admit that he was sort of, not really, but...
    Jenellen Jenellen 46-50 9 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    We have had anal sex

    and I noticed a difference. God help me for thinking it, but I believe he is gay. I feel it in the pit of my stomach. I asked as best as I could I mentioned what I saw and he still denied it. Than he said we weren't going to that anymore. He got so defensive, said this...
    Luuz Luuz 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    I have felt like this

    for a very long time and dont know what to do. I have been with my husband for 5 years and have been married for almost 2 years. we have had an almost non existent sex life for about 4 years and he chalked that up to the fact that we wernt married (he is very christian) and...
    annoyed28 annoyed28 26-30 6 Responses Mar 6, 2014

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    What Will Be

    I know my HB is Gay. He doesnt want to admit it though. We have a really open marriage. He has for the first time since 12 years found a male friend, he found him by accident on the net while looking for a woman, but dudnt run away. Now he has a kind a relationship with him which...
    Reapect Reapect 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    I've been married for 14 years.

    On 5/12/14 my husband confessed going onto gay chats and talking to gay men. He admits talking to a particular gay man and he was telling me about some sort of emotional bond between them. He said that was his first "gay" experience and he felt scared. He told me that he stopped...
    SoniaBG SoniaBG 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    Oh No

    hii have not done anything about it yet as im still trying to get my head together.i have only been married 3 months when i went you use his lap top to find that he has been looking on web sites how to meet gay men.i don't know what to do:(
    bullen518 bullen518 36-40, F 14 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    All my life i had t connecting and open up to people friendship wise. Probably because of pas experiences of being rejected and hurt by others. Nowadays i keep to myself most of...
    Musicisabless Musicisabless 22-25, F Apr 13

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    I'm still young to know if i'm a lesbian or not, or even bi . I have much doubt. Well, I've had boyfriends and none has ever made me fall i love. Maybe i did those relationship...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 days ago

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    Here is my stance on homosexuality and gay marriage. I believe it is a sin based on these scriptures. (I have more to say though) "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman...
    Ahumblefollower Ahumblefollower 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I really hate the fact how half the people on this planet hate gay/bi sexual people! It really does make my blood boil how they just judge just like that and when they tell me what...
    Saaarrraaah Saaarrraaah 16-17, F 8 Responses Apr 6

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    near the beginning of the year my friend told me he was gay and eventually I told him I was to, and that led to us hooking up a couple of times and we both really enjoyed it but...
    juanblancho juanblancho 13-15, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I think every gay or bi man needs a lesbian best friend.
    jmmoosey jmmoosey 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 14

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    I'm frustrated. I'm frustrated the gay community has labels. I'm frustrated that so often being spiritual isn't something gay people talk about. I'm frustrated most gay people I've...
    VilhoDog13 VilhoDog13 22-25, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I can only imagine how hard it can be for gay people to be accepted by the society. I'm not gay myself, but I absolutely support gay rights. It must be awful to be gay and to know...
    HereIam2000 HereIam2000 13-15, M 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I'm not gay yet. But all the talk about gay marriage, and open gay activities has gotten me interested. I looked at gay **** online, it appears to be fun, nothing objectionable...
    nothingon nothingon 61-65, M 3 hrs ago

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