I Think My Husband Is Gay

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    So I guess my first experience will be the one

    I'm most recently facing. I've been with my husband for four yrs married a year and half roughly. For the most part things are good. Besides the fact that about five months ago I had to keep his phone while he was at work cause mine was broke. He works out of town for a...
    Tiffortiffany Tiffortiffany
    26-30, F
    6 Responses May 28, 2015

    I Believe My Husband Is Gay

    I have been married to my husband for 4yrs. Over the last few months, we have really not been able to connect. I have been asked by others if my husband was gay. I found pop ups on his computer about gay stuff. He clears his cell phone call log and text messages daily. His...
    stuck317 stuck317
    5 Responses Aug 12, 2013

    Dazed And Confused

    I have been married for 14 years and we have 2 daughters. Off and on I have the feeling he is cheating and then it will pass. So then I assume its me being paranoid. I have to admit that I have low self esteem and have feelings of depression all because for his lack of desire...
    tmeyers06 tmeyers06
    7 Responses Sep 14, 2012

    What A Faker

    My husband lies to me, us secretive about his whereabouts and who he's with. He uses the lie he's our with clients bur he left his email open and I saw that he meets up with friends. He has unhappy close relationships with a couple of guys he never wants to socialize with me...
    Jade012 Jade012
    4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

    We have had anal sex

    and I noticed a difference. God help me for thinking it, but I believe he is gay. I feel it in the pit of my stomach. I asked as best as I could I mentioned what I saw and he still denied it. Than he said we weren't going to that anymore. He got so defensive, said this...
    Luuz Luuz
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Feb 10, 2015

    I've been married for two years

    and had no clue or any suspicion. Lately he's been accusing me of cheating and shirt with me. Found his profile on meet me talking to 19 year old men about meeting them and sucking them my husband is 30 btw. Then I also find webcams on charurbate biinohio and man hunt .com. I'm...
    MarleyandMe1 MarleyandMe1
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Aug 25, 2014

    My Husband Is Gay

    I recently found out that my husband is gay. We are now separated but both very unhappy and finding it difficult to communicate with each other. We have three children who are with me and don't know the reasons why we have split up - they seem to be coping remarkably well. I am...
    5 Responses Jan 16, 2013

    Torn Between Leaving Him And Staying With Him

    I dont know where to start......This is my first time posting one of these. I think my boyfriend of 6 years may be gay or bi and may be cheating on me. But i love him so much that i honestly can not even imagine my life with out him. Reasons why I think he may be bi/gay and...
    confusedpleasehelp confusedpleasehelp
    10 Responses Oct 10, 2012

    I knew my husband was kinky

    and I was okay with that because I am too. While I was at work the other night my husband was craiglisting a cross dressing man. After going through his emails more, I found that he not only likes trannys, but grannys too. He was craiglising 70 year old women while he was at...
    rmitchell86 rmitchell86
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 5, 2014
    confusedinthesouth confusedinthesouth
    31-35, F
    Apr 28, 2014

    I Think My Husband Is Bi :(

    We been together for going on 4 years 2 years in our merriage he's been working at his job for 3 and he's been getting close with his guy co worker I been noticing things like doing his hair and cleaning his butt good before leaving to work and he changes at work and goes In the...
    Crissy91 Crissy91
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 29, 2012

    I met my husband when I was 23 I loved him the

    first time I saw him we both knew we were ment to be he had a lot of baggage but I knew we could always work through anything there was so much love and caring he was deployed for a year before we got married we have been married for 6 years this may recently he has questioned...
    browneyes84 browneyes84
    31-35, F
    21 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    Oh No

    hii have not done anything about it yet as im still trying to get my head together.i have only been married 3 months when i went you use his lap top to find that he has been looking on web sites how to meet gay men.i don't know what to do:(
    bullen518 bullen518
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Apr 10, 2011

    Why Doesn't He Just Come Out?

    In September 2012 we will celebrate our 25th anniversary. We have not had sex for at least 10 years. My husband secretly ( I found it on his computer) enjoys gay ****, but says he's not gay. I really believe he loves me in his own way, but that he married me to prove to the world...
    webster1953 webster1953
    10 Responses Jul 20, 2012

    when my husband and i first met the sex was

    amazing and he kissed me passionately alll the time. In the three years we have been married we have a great relationship except that our sex life is terrible. I am always the one throwing a fit and then we have sex. I have cried and told him how i felt and he has remained quiet...
    scaredliz scaredliz
    46-50, F
    3 Responses May 30, 2014

    I Think Mine Is Gay Too.

    I have meen maried to my husband for 39 years and for the last twenty five of those I have had my suspicions. I left him eight years ago but we have stayed friends. I never once asked him if he had any gay tendencies. Our sex life during the time we were together was never very...
    scarlet20 scarlet20
    5 Responses Mar 23, 2012

    I Also Think My Husband Is Gay

    First off, mediocre sex became non-existent soon after we got married. But what I really notice is how he tries to dress me up in ways that are simply not me...almost as if he would like to dress that way himself. (in colourful and extra-revealing clothes). he swears a lot - in...
    mwottor mwottor
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 24, 2010


    I have been married for just over a year. And I have found many clues to my husband being bi but I'm not sure how to handle or confront him about it. I love him so much but I'm so confused. Should I leave him or stay with him we already have to adorable lil boys. I have found...
    Mrsconfusedwife Mrsconfusedwife
    5 Responses Dec 2, 2012

    Absolutely No Evidence...

    15 years. No sex in 10 years. Very little after the 2nd year. No explanation, nothing. If I want it, he says, I should ask for it. I never did. Never will. He is home most of the time, very secretive, very cagey. No evidence of cheating, or ****, no really close male friends...
    benami313 benami313
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Sep 3, 2013

    I am afraid I am just coming to the realization

    that mine is gay as well. No intimacy. He works in an industry where he is away on a boat with all men for a month at a time. He hides everything. So many secrets so many lies. He sleeps on the couch and tells people I won't let him sleep in our bed. That's a lie. Now he wants...
    Christina1975 Christina1975
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016

    What To Do If You Think Your Husband Is Bi-sexual

    I am glad that I found this site. Somehow I felt that it was really real ( the situation where I am now)and it does happen. Don’t know where to start. But I feel so hurt and depressed. I’ve been carrying this pain for almost a year. I don’t know if I am right with my...
    simplygerthrude simplygerthrude
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    What Will Be

    I know my HB is Gay. He doesnt want to admit it though. We have a really open marriage. He has for the first time since 12 years found a male friend, he found him by accident on the net while looking for a woman, but dudnt run away. Now he has a kind a relationship with him which...
    Reapect Reapect
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 9, 2013

    Both Confused...

    Warning:  This is hard to read because it jumps around alot and is sort of frantic, I guess...I'm ranting alot... Well, recently my husband of less than a year has begun making confessions, little by little.  First it was that he liked trannies, which I'm ok with...
    sevenofnine sevenofnine
    26-30, F
    15 Responses Mar 25, 2009

    I am married for more

    than a year now. But me and my husband never had sex. We're sleeping in one room, kissing and cuddling the whole night but no sex. For how many times, I I tried to make moves but he refused, saying that we are not yet stable. That I need to have a permanent job, we should have...
    Aleks99 Aleks99
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jul 3, 2015

    How do u get through the pain,

    the disbelief, the fear, the rage? I am so depressed, is there anyone out there in the Corona, Ca area willing to meet n talk. I need to talk, to cry, to scream.
    BlueRose70 BlueRose70
    46-50, F
    May 30, 2015

    I have felt like this

    for a very long time and dont know what to do. I have been with my husband for 5 years and have been married for almost 2 years. we have had an almost non existent sex life for about 4 years and he chalked that up to the fact that we wernt married (he is very christian) and...
    annoyed28 annoyed28
    6 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    May I ask if there a prevailing thought in this

    community about men who participated in submissive gender roles with other men but can have a healthy traditional relationship with the past being just that. Just want to make sure I am going down a health
    Phred18 Phred18
    41-45, M
    Apr 6, 2016

    Open Marriage But Not Open

    I am currently separated from my husband of 22 years.. In the course of those years we made love maybe 10 times... (Producing 2 kid) His interest in sex was never great but i excused that and focused on other things that we enjoyed together such as restaurants and movies, our...
    Olive66 Olive66
    51-55, F
    11 Responses Mar 31, 2013

    I Think My Fiance Is Gay But Hides It Very Good.

    I have my suspiciuos of my boyfriend being gay but haven't confronted him and don't know how. Well me have been together for almost 3 years and we have a 6 myth old daughter. We have always had our arguments since we got together and our differences in ways we r to much alike and...
    babydoll120191 babydoll120191
    7 Responses Apr 1, 2013

    I Am A Gay Husband..

    Hello, I would like to share my story. I am 26 years old, married for 2 years now and together with my wife for 3 years. I am gay or bisexual more to be gay. I am still in the closet. Nobody knows anything about me, being in a society and culture where gays are not so welcomed...
    youngpharaoh45 youngpharaoh45
    26-30, M
    11 Responses Oct 17, 2013

    I've been married for 14 years.

    On 5/12/14 my husband confessed going onto gay chats and talking to gay men. He admits talking to a particular gay man and he was telling me about some sort of emotional bond between them. He said that was his first "gay" experience and he felt scared. He told me that he stopped...
    SoniaBG SoniaBG
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2015

    I'm a gay man, and I have met many married guys

    over the years that live a secret life. Regrettably I have been the "other person" before. I have seen how it hurts everyone involved. If I had to summarize my advice to married women, if you are unhappy, you need to confront any suspicions. If counseling is an option, then...
    aguythatknows aguythatknows
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Mar 12, 2014

    After 21 Years

    For some years I had an idea that my husband could be gay, he denied it over and over. Then after 21 years of marriage he said he was leaving but still denied he was gay. Only after finding out who he was living with did he finally admit that he was sort of, not really, but...
    Jenellen Jenellen
    9 Responses Jun 18, 2012

    Very Sad And Confused

    Over the course of our 16 year marriage I have found magazines internet history and videos of gay ****.  When I have confronted him with this he gets very despondent and cries telling me how much he loves me and that he is sorry for effing my life up!  He tells me that...
    banshee1972 banshee1972
    36-40, F
    25 Responses Jul 18, 2010

    Feel So Betrayed

    I have been married for 5 weeks. we have a beautiful baby boy 14 months old and were going to start trying for another soon enough. To put a long story short I have found two profiles he has created. very explicated pictures and true profile details.... as well as being in our...
    Brokendk Brokendk
    3 Responses Nov 19, 2013

    I Am Really Confused

    I am pregnant with our second child and came home from work and asked to see his phone. I saw pictures of his private areas posted on a men seeking men website! I asked him about it and he said he doesn't know what he was thinking but was disgusted and ashamed and was not gay! We...
    Abrow032 Abrow032
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Sep 25, 2012

    How Do I Know For Sure?

    I have been married for 28 years. I have long suspected my husband is gay. Recently, within the last couple of years, I have been wrestling with this and trying to figure out 1) How do I know for sure, 2) He would never, ever tell me if he was and 3) What should I do? He has...
    NeedInsight NeedInsight
    9 Responses Feb 25, 2013

    I Believe My Husband Is Gay

    Life has become crazy for me since January 2013, I was married for 15 years and three children. It has been weird in our marriage since day one. When we first got married I use to catch him online looking at gay ****. He would say he was just curious. I would ask him not to do...
    Bonnie1001 Bonnie1001
    56-60, F
    13 Responses Jun 17, 2013

    To make a long story short,

    I found emails between my boyfriend (12 yrs, long distance for 10) answering & posting M4M ads on craigslist. It took almost a year for him to finally admit that 'yes, I've had some bisexual experiences." He's never told anyone...he's a man's man....never in a million years...
    ilashes ilashes
    46-50, F
    8 Responses May 2, 2014

    He Was Sexually Abused As A Boy

    My Hub and I have had a very ruff last few years,.. we are seperated now and he has just begun telling me that all his sexual encounters before meeting me ( at 19 ) was w other boys. It started when he was maybe 10.... he had an older boy  do things , hes choosen to do...
    hebrokemyheart hebrokemyheart
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Mar 30, 2010
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