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I Think My Husband Is Gay

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    I Believe My Husband Is Gay

    Life has become crazy for me since January 2013, I was married for 15 years and three children. It has been weird in our marriage since day one. When we first got married I use to catch him online looking at gay ****. He would say he was just curious. I would ask him not to do...
    Bonnie1001 Bonnie1001 51-55, F 9 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    Is it gay for one man to email other man Lonely

    and pickle ( drunk). By the way both men are married
    dolphintree94 dolphintree94 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    Very Sad And Confused

    Over the course of our 16 year marriage I have found magazines internet history and videos of gay ****.  When I have confronted him with this he gets very despondent and cries telling me how much he loves me and that he is sorry for effing my life up!  He tells me that...
    banshee1972 banshee1972 36-40, F 22 Responses Jul 18, 2010

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    How Do I Know For Sure?

    I have been married for 28 years. I have long suspected my husband is gay. Recently, within the last couple of years, I have been wrestling with this and trying to figure out 1) How do I know for sure, 2) He would never, ever tell me if he was and 3) What should I do? He has...
    NeedInsight NeedInsight 46-50 10 Responses Feb 25, 2013

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    What Will Be

    I know my HB is Gay. He doesnt want to admit it though. We have a really open marriage. He has for the first time since 12 years found a male friend, he found him by accident on the net while looking for a woman, but dudnt run away. Now he has a kind a relationship with him which...
    Reapect Reapect 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 9, 2013

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    I Think My Husband Is Gay

    ive been with my man for 13 years and we got married 8 weeks ago. we have an 11 year old daughter. i went on his laptop 3 weeks ago when he was in bed just because it was closer to mine and when i opened it there was a page open (gaydar) a gay dating site. i was gobsmacked so...
    shocked11 shocked11 31-35 14 Responses Nov 28, 2011

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    I Am Really Confused

    I am pregnant with our second child and came home from work and asked to see his phone. I saw pictures of his private areas posted on a men seeking men website! I asked him about it and he said he doesn't know what he was thinking but was disgusted and ashamed and was not gay! We...
    Abrow032 Abrow032 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2012

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    Both Confused...

    Warning:  This is hard to read because it jumps around alot and is sort of frantic, I guess...I'm ranting alot... Well, recently my husband of less than a year has begun making confessions, little by little.  First it was that he liked trannies, which I'm ok with...
    sevenofnine sevenofnine 26-30, F 15 Responses Mar 25, 2009

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    Oh No

    hii have not done anything about it yet as im still trying to get my head together.i have only been married 3 months when i went you use his lap top to find that he has been looking on web sites how to meet gay men.i don't know what to do:(
    bullen518 bullen518 36-40, F 14 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    I think my husband is gay.

    Just my gut feeling
    dolphintree94 dolphintree94 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    I Believe My Husband Is Gay

    I have been married to my husband for 4yrs. Over the last few months, we have really not been able to connect. I have been asked by others if my husband was gay. I found pop ups on his computer about gay stuff. He clears his cell phone call log and text messages daily. His...
    stuck317 stuck317 41-45 3 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    I Think My Husband Is Bi :(

    We been together for going on 4 years 2 years in our merriage he's been working at his job for 3 and he's been getting close with his guy co worker I been noticing things like doing his hair and cleaning his butt good before leaving to work and he changes at work and goes In the...
    Crissy91 Crissy91 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2012

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    Looking For Woman To Share Story For Paid Magazine Feature.

    If you married a man and found out he was gay. Married a man knowing he was gay or found out your partner was gay and stayed with him anyway then please respond. Am searching for a woman to conduct a generously PAID interview with and to be featured in a magazine. Feature will be...
    lozzieb lozzieb 18-21 Oct 7, 2011

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    Coming Out Story

    Hi! You may find this interesting.  Please pass this on too... it can be helpful to someone http://www.amazon.com/Figuring-Out-N-S-B/dp/0979216303 http://www.myspace.com/figuringitoutbook Figuring IT Out by NSB - A Coming Out Story. This books has been rated with 4.6...
    grehyzz grehyzz 26-30 3 Responses Dec 2, 2008

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    Open Marriage But Not Open

    I am currently separated from my husband of 22 years.. In the course of those years we made love maybe 10 times... (Producing 2 kid) His interest in sex was never great but i excused that and focused on other things that we enjoyed together such as restaurants and movies, our...
    Olive66 Olive66 46-50, F 10 Responses Mar 31, 2013

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    Feel So Betrayed

    I have been married for 5 weeks. we have a beautiful baby boy 14 months old and were going to start trying for another soon enough. To put a long story short I have found two profiles he has created. very explicated pictures and true profile details.... as well as being in our...
    Brokendk Brokendk 31-35 3 Responses Nov 19, 2013

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    Torn Between Leaving Him And Staying With Him

    I dont know where to start......This is my first time posting one of these. I think my boyfriend of 6 years may be gay or bi and may be cheating on me. But i love him so much that i honestly can not even imagine my life with out him. Reasons why I think he may be bi/gay and...
    confusedpleasehelp confusedpleasehelp 22-25 8 Responses Oct 10, 2012

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    I Think My Fiance Is Gay But Hides It Very Good.

    I have my suspiciuos of my boyfriend being gay but haven't confronted him and don't know how. Well me have been together for almost 3 years and we have a 6 myth old daughter. We have always had our arguments since we got together and our differences in ways we r to much alike and...
    babydoll120191 babydoll120191 22-25 7 Responses Apr 1, 2013

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    I'm a gay man, and I have met many married guys

    over the years. Reading these questions and experiences posted here makes me want to help if I can. Unfortunately I have been the "other person" before, and nobody seems to win in this situation except the cheating husband. If I had to summarize my advice to married women, I...
    aguythatknows aguythatknows 41-45, M Mar 12

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    Absolutely No Evidence...

    15 years. No sex in 10 years. Very little after the 2nd year. No explanation, nothing. If I want it, he says, I should ask for it. I never did. Never will. He is home most of the time, very secretive, very cagey. No evidence of cheating, or ****, no really close male friends...
    benami313 benami313 41-45, F 11 Responses Sep 3, 2013

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    I Think Mine Is Gay Too.

    I have meen maried to my husband for 39 years and for the last twenty five of those I have had my suspicions. I left him eight years ago but we have stayed friends. I never once asked him if he had any gay tendencies. Our sex life during the time we were together was never very...
    scarlet20 scarlet20 56-60 3 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    Why Doesn't He Just Come Out?

    In September 2012 we will celebrate our 25th anniversary. We have not had sex for at least 10 years. My husband secretly ( I found it on his computer) enjoys gay ****, but says he's not gay. I really believe he loves me in his own way, but that he married me to prove to the world...
    webster1953 webster1953 56-60 10 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    I'm a producer on a daytime talk show that deals with conflicts and resolutions. If you'd like to be a guest, please send me a message sharing your story and leave your contact information. Thank you
    TalkshowNY TalkshowNY 31-35, M Jun 25, 2012

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    I have felt like this

    for a very long time and dont know what to do. I have been with my husband for 5 years and have been married for almost 2 years. we have had an almost non existent sex life for about 4 years and he chalked that up to the fact that we wernt married (he is very christian) and...
    annoyed28 annoyed28 26-30 6 Responses Mar 6

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    I Am A Gay Husband..

    Hello, I would like to share my story. I am 26 years old, married for 2 years now and together with my wife for 3 years. I am gay or bisexual more to be gay. I am still in the closet. Nobody knows anything about me, being in a society and culture where gays are not so welcomed...
    youngpharaoh45 youngpharaoh45 26-30, M 11 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    My Husband Is Gay

    I recently found out that my husband is gay. We are now separated but both very unhappy and finding it difficult to communicate with each other. We have three children who are with me and don't know the reasons why we have split up - they seem to be coping remarkably well. I am...
    5 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    What To Do If You Think Your Husband Is Bi-sexual

    I am glad that I found this site. Somehow I felt that it was really real ( the situation where I am now)and it does happen. Don’t know where to start. But I feel so hurt and depressed. I’ve been carrying this pain for almost a year. I don’t know if I am right with my...
    simplygerthrude simplygerthrude 31-35, F 7 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    I Also Think My Husband Is Gay

    First off, mediocre sex became non-existent soon after we got married. But what I really notice is how he tries to dress me up in ways that are simply not me...almost as if he would like to dress that way himself. (in colourful and extra-revealing clothes). he swears a lot - in...
    mwottor mwottor 46-50, F 1 Response Oct 24, 2010

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    But I Am Ok

    I wrote before that we opened up to each other. What I'm not sure if I mentioned was what the emotional impact was. I wasn't ready. It still hurts. Sometimes I feel used. Others loved. I'm sure U cd see Y used. Its the love part that can B confusing. I feel loved bec...... Even...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 19, 2011

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    Confused

    I have been married for just over a year. And I have found many clues to my husband being bi but I'm not sure how to handle or confront him about it. I love him so much but I'm so confused. Should I leave him or stay with him we already have to adorable lil boys. I have found...
    Mrsconfusedwife Mrsconfusedwife 22-25 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    What A Faker

    My husband lies to me, us secretive about his whereabouts and who he's with. He uses the lie he's our with clients bur he left his email open and I saw that he meets up with friends. He has unhappy close relationships with a couple of guys he never wants to socialize with me...
    Jade012 Jade012 31-35 4 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    After 21 Years

    For some years I had an idea that my husband could be gay, he denied it over and over. Then after 21 years of marriage he said he was leaving but still denied he was gay. Only after finding out who he was living with did he finally admit that he was sort of, not really, but...
    Jenellen Jenellen 46-50 9 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    He Was Sexually Abused As A Boy

    My Hub and I have had a very ruff last few years,.. we are seperated now and he has just begun telling me that all his sexual encounters before meeting me ( at 19 ) was w other boys. It started when he was maybe 10.... he had an older boy  do things , hes choosen to do...
    hebrokemyheart hebrokemyheart 36-40, F 8 Responses Mar 30, 2010

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    Dazed And Confused

    I have been married for 14 years and we have 2 daughters. Off and on I have the feeling he is cheating and then it will pass. So then I assume its me being paranoid. I have to admit that I have low self esteem and have feelings of depression all because for his lack of desire...
    tmeyers06 tmeyers06 41-45 6 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    When I was in 5th grade I had a dream that I was gay. I woke up and knew that every thing was okay. Because In my house gay wasn't good. It was a hard lifestyle that I guess I...
    olivias78 olivias78 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I don't know why but I've been wanting a damn girl
    R3b3llion32 R3b3llion32 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    I used to have a gay friend and enjoyed confiding in him and would support him, then i found out he was telling people my business so the friendship ended Other times If Ive...
    Paulchanning Paulchanning 41-45, M Apr 5

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    Who cares? I don't understand how someone could be AGAINST gay rights. Everybody deserves a chance to be happy and if it's with the same sex who cares??? Seriously what is with...
    NonexistantSoul NonexistantSoul 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    So I think im gay... An i would really like some teens that are going through something like this to like help me out a bit, or just chat or whatever. Message me for my username
    G1996 G1996 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    Hey. It's so hard to find a sincere gay friend. Been in a great gay relationship for more than 5 great years. It ended and I moved and just can't get along. So much good memories...
    TheJayBoer TheJayBoer 26-30, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Straight guys think I'm weird and straight girls only want me as an accessory I feel I can only talk to people who are gay now! I hate being gay :( did I mention the stress that...
    Hotblondey Hotblondey 13-15, M 37 mins ago

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    *Walks up to counter* “Hi, I would like to order a man, athletic build, cute face- maybe with a little scuff on it;), very kind, charming, and intelligent; and that will be all...
    MW1321 MW1321 18-21, M 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    About a year ago my husband had an emotional affair saw the woman on a few occasions and texted her frequently until he was caught. My daughter and I frequent a store here usually...
    saltyorsweet saltyorsweet 31-35, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    The first time I knew I was gay was the age of 11. The second I realised it I ran to my room and started crying until my eyes hurt, I remember this day so clearly because it was...
    Takino Takino 16-17, M 6 Responses Apr 11

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    I have been dating my husband 11 yrs before our marriage in 2011. I always knew he was different than most men, a great listener, sensitive, eager to please and extremely nice...
    carmen2014 carmen2014 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    To the Indians out here,I am an 18 year old crossdresser. Height 5 feet 7 inch and 47 kg weight. I have a slim body and femaleish curves. I am now living away from my family which...
    AparnaRoy AparnaRoy 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    I have had many gay experiences but I still doubt I am gay. My featured gay experience was in the summer after 6th grade. I was going to a summer camp that we went swimming in...
    1kk347 1kk347 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    So, that kid I have in my circle commented on one of my stories here which reminded me of this old group I have forgotten! This group has reminded me of a conversation I had...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    Hi ! I am a closeted gay - sort of. I knew that I've been gay my whole life cuz I've never been curious about women. I came out to my friends recently and I had expected they'd...
    ThinkerDude ThinkerDude 13-15, M 5 Responses Mar 21

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    So, a little about me.... I am 21 years old and am from America. My parents are from Mexico and are somewhat conservative. They believe in family honor and take action if...
    MagicalDenial MagicalDenial 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    Last night I asked my mum."ma what do you think of ppl who are gay?" She replied "I think tht there is nothing wrong with it cos it's a life choice but it's a choice I will not...
    batsygurl2109 batsygurl2109 13-15, F Mar 19

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    Yes it is not all glamour and glitz, my marriage is going on five years in April and I will be done with it as I have been cheated on the past two years with my husband having a...
    JRyanNYC JRyanNYC 22-25, M Mar 22

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    I have been gay for as long as I remembered. But of course, I thought that I was Bi (at first) and told myself that it's something that would be kept as a secret forever and...
    PrezEmmanuel PrezEmmanuel 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 26

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    So, I am gay, but man do I wish I wasn't. I come from a Christian family, live with a Christian roommate, and am Christian myself, which obviously brings up problems. Besides...
    Tallguy3050 Tallguy3050 22-25, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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