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I Think My Marriage Is Over

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    Let's face it. Nearing the end of your marriage

    is difficult to recognize. I found it very useful to look at the grievance process of divorce. I hope the best for everybody. While it's upsetting to read other couples problems on here, I realize more that I'm not alone.
    wildworld12 wildworld12 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Too Much

    Let me start by saying that I absolutely adore my wife.  She is strong and funny.  Intelligent and motivated.  Wonderful to the kids.   My love for her is honest and pure.  But sometimes love just isn't enough.  Lately we have been going through a really hard time.  I feel...
    allwork4 allwork4 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 22, 2012

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    I Think My Marriage Is Over

    We have been married for 10 years.About 8 months ago I noticed my wife was always keeping her phone close by and texting alot.She never did that before.I confronted her about it and she admitted that she was back in contact with her first love and she will always love him.Then...
    stangman1 stangman1 36-40, M 5 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    And I Did It

    i went out drinking with a work buddy last week and didn't get home til the sun was up the next day. while that is bad enough i made it worse by not calling to say i'd be late. i really don't remember too much except that i was having a great time until i realized i was too drunk...
    doitagain doitagain 36-40, M 5 Responses Jun 30, 2008

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    I Don't Care If We Make It Or Not.

    My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we have 2 kids. Over the last 2 years I have had multiple emotional meltdowns in which I feel like getting married was a mistake and that if I don't get out I will suffocate. During these times of weakness and...
    eitakyeltneb eitakyeltneb 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6, 2009

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    I Know My Marriage Is Over

    Greetings. I am at the stage where I do not mind if my "Husban" finds this mail. I have been married 6 years and the first 5.5 of them were not that great. I can honestly stay i hate my husband. Im angry and unhappy in my relationship with my husband. It all started 2yrs after...
    Clairify17 Clairify17 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 18, 2012

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    The Castle....................................................

    The castle is now the dungeon.  Neither of us want to be here. The woman i knew and married, who was once my best friend, is now someone i do not recognize.  And all the kings horses, and all the kings men, cant put it back together again.
    AZBowlman AZBowlman 46-50, M Dec 23, 2009

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    I Feel Like A Failure

    Im young still, only 27, and this is my first marriage. I have never been one to fall in love quickly and this was the first time where I was the more "invested" partner, feelings wise. My partner and I were together about a year when he proposed. I thought we were moving quickly...
    omzzigevoli omzzigevoli 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    The Ambivalence Continues............(Should I Stay Or Should I Go-Go??)

    So I think its about week three of the great return and still the ambivalence continues, should I be working harder to stay with my Husband, or should I take the chance and leave? In corner one: The Husband Trying hard to make changes Driving me nuts by reminding me verbally...
    Jossy1 Jossy1 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 27, 2013

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    I Dont Know How To Walk Away!

    My husben and I have been together for more then 20 yr. we have not slept in the same bed in 3yrs. He love his computer and his privet time. I tried to tell him it was over and he gave me that line you are my best friend  and I love you. I feel its more of habit being together...
    tsol73 tsol73 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23, 2012

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    Why Does Everything Get Twisted Around That Its All My Fault

    Just don't know where to start, theres been so many arguments recently it's driving me crazy. nothing ever seems to get sorted they just pile up on top of each other & I don't know how to change things. He won't talk a problem through & blames me for everything, when things are...
    jeeno13 jeeno13 51-55, F 3 Responses Jun 16, 2011

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    I Think It's Over!!

    Its really sad when you finally realize that your marriage is over, or in my case it never really was there.. I wish I had followed my thought process in the very beginning rather than follow my heart...I knew better... I should have never moved in, or got married to my husband...
    cooki66 cooki66 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2013

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    A Message From My Dad

      I'm sitting here in my chair at 930 on the island. the music of choice -loud enough to drown out the baseball game - is I am a rock -Simon and Garfunkel. This year this song has poignancy. At my father's memorial service it was the last song played. My dad's favorite...
    gdgtgrl gdgtgrl 41-45, F 12 Responses Aug 17, 2008

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    I want to catch my husband cheating

    as he won't admit it to me despite the number of times I've asked him and he has sworn to his mother on her grave he's not cheating should I ask him again or pay a high price for surveillance which will be quite costly?? And bank statements don't lie he says he eats out with his...
    sfjf sfjf 36-40, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I Made A Mistake

    I have been married for 18 years and we have had out problems and no matter how bad we came through. He cheated and I forgave, he let me down I forgave. I think I have had a midlife crisis, I got to close to someone over email an I recognised it and ended it. All done before...
    Spuddytat38 Spuddytat38 41-45 3 Responses Jun 17, 2012

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    My Life

    My husband has a Gambling problem his out all night at the casino comes home n starts fight for more money
    Angelkumar Angelkumar 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2012

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    Anything Left After 2 Yrs?

    We cant be together for a day without fighting, bickering, having to escape to separate rooms. Its always over stupid things, usually him finding fault with something small I did or said that SHOULD have been done or said another way... I think why did I waste all this time on a...
    flitter90 flitter90 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2011

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    My husband and I decided to have a break

    for a month he now tells me he needs more time as a part of him wants me to move on yet the other doesn't want me to. He says he cares very much for me and cares for me but in a certain way. He moved in with his parents. I'm confused I don't know whether he's cheating on me he...
    sfjf sfjf 36-40, F 59 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Think It Is Time To Give-up

    I and my wife are married for 4 years. In the first year, everything used to be fine by her, and I used to be enough, but after that time I fell unable to attend her demands. I am an engineer and all the expenses in the house are my charge, even though she works and have a pretty...
    mrponciano mrponciano 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 28, 2012

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    I Really Don't Where To Start

    Seriously, I really don't where to start.. I found this forum by searching online "I think My Marriage is Over" and I wanted an outlet. Here's my story I met this girl at work where both of us were traveling consultants at that time. We both were in mid 20s, loved traveling...
    goinguns goinguns 36-40, M 3 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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    I Think My Marriage Is Over

    We have been together for 17 years and married for 5 of these, we have 3 lovely children together, but the last few years i have been struggling with my feelings. I believe i love my husband but really dont feel that im in love with him anymore and havent if im honest fro about 3...
    cn02vbz cn02vbz 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2009

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    Chipping Away

    Please, stop chipping away at me. I don't know why you insist on hurting me, because I refuse to live under your control. Refuse to simply back down and follow your dictates. This is not how love is supposed to be, this battle field of barbs thrown back and forth. You should...
    ElleNoir ElleNoir 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Trying To Make Things Right.

    Hello. I'm a young gentleman that's been married for almost 2 years now. I'm married to one of my high schools friends I met up after high school. I'm 22 and she's 21. We have no children. We met up and everything was great, she had a job, chores, and seems fit to be married...
    subduedone subduedone 22-25 1 Response Sep 4, 2012

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    I'm Just Tired

    My husband and I fight all the time. I'm just so tired of it. At least several times a week, we are fighting about something. I know it's not healthy for our daughter to be around that. I guess I just hate the fact that she will eventually have divorced parents. But I know that...
    Court80 Court80 31-35 1 Response Apr 16, 2011

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    I don't trust myself right now.

    ..but I know I'm not happy. I don't want to do the wrong thing. I just care enough for both of us to want us both to be happy. We are not happy. I don't want to have sex with him. It's not fair to him. I just flinch when he touches me. I think I just can't connect with him...
    goodnightangel goodnightangel 36-40, F Jan 28

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    I Think After 17 Years, the Last 5 of Which Have Been Basically Sexless I Have Stopped Caring Or Trying.

    I don't think there is any one thing that happened to get me here.  It's a combination of so many things that make me realize this marriage is killing me slowly.  I've been complaining about it for 6 years now and yet I'm still in it??  I told my husband 3 years...
    searching4answer searching4answer 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    Questioning My 10 Year Marriage

      My husband and I have two weeks holidays with only three days left until we both return to 'our life' as I like to call it. Having so much time together really scared me because we get to see a lot of the negative issues present in our marriage. For one, we have nothing...
    complicatedandconfused complicatedandconfused 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    She Does Not Care

    Hello, I have been married for 6 yrs. I adore my wife. We used to share a deep connection. Both previously married we both thought we got each other. She took a job that requires a lot of travel. I have been very accommodating for years. Throughout that time she has all but...
    cstagath cstagath 41-45 2 Responses Feb 22, 2012

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    I Am Devastated But My Marriage Is Over After 6 Weeks

    I really don't have anybody to talk to about this as I feel like such an idiot.  I knew we were not suited two years ago. We dated for almost 3 years before we married. The truth is I take all the shifts I can at work (I am a Nurse) so, I can get away from him...
    blueeyes71 blueeyes71 36-40 6 Responses May 25, 2009

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    My Fairytale Has Turned Into A Nightmare!

    My husband and I have been together for 12 years.  Our love has been a fairytale from the beginning.  Together we set and accomplished so many goals and dreams.  We were soul mates, lovers and best friends.  We worked hard for the life we had and were blessed with two amazing...
    MrsFaithful MrsFaithful 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 22, 2011

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    I Woke Up

    I woke up this morning and realized how very tired of the entire process of being married I am. You see last evening I almost died while my husband slept. He slept because he was so very tired from sleeping all morning and so needed more sleep. But, that doesn't stop things...
    ElleNoir ElleNoir 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2013

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    How Long Do You Wait?

    I have been married for five years. My husband has not worked at all for the last three. He worked only part time the second year we were married. He pays no bills and our house is not very clean. He hoards toys and spends all day re-painting hot wheel cars. I come home for...
    AnnaLeonette AnnaLeonette 46-50 1 Response Feb 4, 2013

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    Cant feel happy lately!

    My husband and I don't communicate and just argue about everything. Im starting to feel that one of us is gonna give up soon.
    lilixis lilixis 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Maybe It's Me Maybe It's Him...maybe It's Both Of Us.

    I'm 30 yrs old and will be married for 12 yrs this September. I don't know if it's me or him or just us together. I just don't know what the deal is. Were both walking on egg shells hoping not to **** the other one off. It seems this is never going to get better. I think it might...
    jessicabarela51 jessicabarela51 26-30 1 Response Aug 18, 2010

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    This Isn't A Marriage

    We're 16 years in. We have 3 children 14 to 7. He has several children (28 to 20) from his first marriage who only speak to me since he was never a Dad to them before I came along. I think mostly I stay because I know how much worse things could be. We don't fight often. He...
    momanon222 momanon222 36-40, F Sep 18, 2012

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    How Do I Leave My Husband?

    So I have been living with my H again after our separation of a month (and I spent some time with the OM). Currently I am not in contact with the OM but I am beginning to miss things about him. I look at my H who is trying so hard in many ways, he is doing all the right things...
    Jossy1 Jossy1 41-45, F 3 Responses Feb 10, 2013

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    Very Sad and Confused

    After 20 years of marriage it looks as though it is over. Totally devastated. Would like to share similar experience and try to come to terms with what has happened.The world at present seems a very lonely place and any help for me to understand the situation would be much...
    aloneagainornot aloneagainornot 56-60 1 Response Aug 15, 2008

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    Its been really bad for almost 3 years.

    Now that I told my husband I want a divorce he thinks I'm giving up too soon. We are christian and he keeps saying that he has woken up and recognizes his faults. That God can make a MIRACLE?!! He keeps insisting that he is a new man. And that I need to allow God to fix our...
    roomate7 roomate7 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 7

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    Is It Time To Walk Away

    My husband and I have been married 5 years in the last 5 years he has only worked maybe a grand total of 2 years. Over the past few years the arguements have gotten increasingly worse the first time he shoved me into a chair during an arguement, that escalated into him bending my...
    confusednindiana confusednindiana 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    It's Over...

    As Roy Orbison once sang, "It's over, it's over, it's Ooover.....", so is my marriage.  Tonight is the night I talked to my kids about it.  They understood as they witness my husband jump down my throat the second he walked through the door.  My oldest...
    Cheleanne Cheleanne 66-70, F 19 Responses May 11, 2008

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    I'm 28 single and sick and tired of men who take love for granted who think marriage is a game. I want a marriage that lasts, even without love I just want a friend and his...
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    To a point where I am so insecure, and over-think and over-analyze situations. I am cautious with every move I make, every word I say. And I hate it.
    niknak7 niknak7 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I feel.. Drained. I feel like a can't cope anymore and I'm just shutting everyone out. I have no friends anymore, because my old bestfriend just used me.. And my other friend...
    ImChelsea ImChelsea 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 10

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    I guess i would love it. That would give me a chance to live a normal life. Not to yearn for love like a puppy. To be a normal teen. To live and not care But i guess that my past...
    LunaOanaAris LunaOanaAris 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    My wife and I haven't had sex for 15 years now - it's both our faults, mine as much as hers, if not more. She had two difficult pregnancies, and one of our children was born with a...
    jamespople jamespople 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I'm a little bit tired of sexlessness one-up-manship that's been taking place in this forum recently. We haven't had sex in 15 months.... Reply: that's nothing We've had sex...
    elkclan elkclan 41-45, F 22 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    Those who do not have to deal with this situation must find it odd that those of us who do, express such deep sadness and longing. How often do the comments suggested the simple...
    DumbLondoner DumbLondoner 51-55, M 18 Responses Apr 14

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