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I Think Nice Guys Finish Last

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    I Am A Nice Guy

    I am a nice guy and it seems like every girl i meet just wants to be friends.  I do not like how I get put in the friend zone so quickly.  My best friend, now, completely crushed my heart after about a month of leading me on.  She makes horrible dating choices (mostly drug...
    Hank1992 Hank1992 18-21, M 3 Responses Jan 1, 2012

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    But Do Nice Guys Like Nice Girls ?

    I always used to wonder. I'm a woman who always knew I wanted the good guy, never gave the "bad boys" the time of day---I'm not a masochist---and always said what I meant and meant what I said. But I wasn't a cheerleader, or homecoming queen contender, I was the quiet, cute girl...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 11 Responses Apr 20, 2011

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    I know they do, all women ever say is 'oh i

    want a nice guy'what they REALLY mean is 'so i can make hi my friend while i go for ******** and then ***** about them to him'Or"so i can ignore them when it suits me, then act like a total b*tch when they're too busy to talk to me"Being a nice guy these days gets you jacksh*t.I...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M Jul 20

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    But Not Always Cos They Are Nice!!

    im writing this story with the headling "but not always cos they are nice!!" is cos it can be for many reasons!!! now i know from my own perspective, that iv'e been called a nice guy many times but iv'e also had a few occasions where women or girls in school have asked me out...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 6 Responses Jan 4, 2011

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    Still Trying After All These Years.

    There are many sides to me. One side is wild, another is dark, and still another is a wee bit crazy. These are all minor to the biggest part of me which is "The Nice Guy". I know now that it is because the way I was raised is the reason why I am a nice guy. I am secure in knowing...
    Bearheart68 Bearheart68 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 31, 2012

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    People Aren't Fair To Nice Guys

    One person ordered some cards off of me. I let her wait till order come to pay for them. When they came she said I need more cards like a whole in the head! I gather that means she doesn't want them now! Is it correct she don't want them?
    aquarius3 aquarius3 61-65 Oct 18, 2013

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    Always

    Being nice doesn't seem worth it. I've tried to do the right thing and be nice for as long as I can remember and so far it hasn't paid off. Yet when I look around all the *** holes, cheaters, and slackers are the ones who seem to succeed. Nice guys like me always finish last...
    Nemo17 Nemo17 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 26, 2012

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    Nice Guys Finish 1st, It's Just A Really Long Race.

    Nice guys finish first. You know how guys have hot girls that they have sex with and cute girls that they marry? It's kind of like that with us females to guys. Sure, we may date "douchebag" guys, but we always end up marrying a sweetheart. Think about it. Have you ever heard a...
    sweetXOheart sweetXOheart 22-25, F 8 Responses Jul 9, 2012

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    Kinda sad to say it,

    but they really do. Doesn't mean I'm a douche, personally speaking.
    RoddyB7589 RoddyB7589 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 9

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    An Article, By Anonymous (Replicated Across A Number Of Websites - Source Unknown)

    Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless ***** for dumping him." I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like ****, because THEY, the "Nice Guy...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Nov 7, 2010

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    Experience has shown me this time

    and time again. Sadly. :(
    IncompletelyBroken IncompletelyBroken 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 8

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    Try And Change Me. I Dare You. I Double Dare You.

    I read some stories in this group, how some people gave up being nice, how some believe that being a nice guy is a bad thing. I don't care. I'm not good looking or anything, I probably am not gonna be rich, I'm not a smooth talker, all I have is a really good heart. If someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 14, 2012

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    I'm a big guy and I don't mind that

    although it gets kinda lonely I have no problem with my size and I find myself rather hilarious. I'm just wondering where all the girls are that are looking for a good guy
    the1ak the1ak 31-35, M Jul 9

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    punchandpie punchandpie 22-25 1 Response Apr 29

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    Real Nice Guys Don't Finish Last; Guys Who Think They Are Nice Do.

    You might want to read this site to get some insight on the difference between good guys and nice guys. http://www.heartless-*******.com
    mbuch mbuch 46-50 2 Responses Nov 12, 2012

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    Why

    I do believe that nice guys finish last. Why is it that when your nice to most women they use you. They feel the need to tell you about the other guy or something. It seems like all the guys that treat the women like **** find the best women. Maybe I am just not seeing things...
    Percheron Percheron 41-45, M 30 Responses Feb 10, 2008

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    Taking A Stand

    I really don't know if this is the right way to do it but I'm tired of being the way I was, I've come to the conclusion that a lot of nice genuine good guys are used as basic doormats and this upset me a lot all thru my life I never felt good enough and trully just wished I could...
    surfking67 surfking67 22-25 Mar 31, 2012

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    I think it's my destiny.

    Always the friend, never the boyfriend. The type of guy my lady friends come to when their significant other has hurt them in some way. Basically, I'm the "shoulder to cry on." Not the boyfriend material. I suppose I don't mind it as much nowadays. I'm "the nice guy." And I'm...
    LReid23 LReid23 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 30

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    Best Piece of Advice I Ever Received

    I am probably the most forgiving person you'll ever meet.  However...and I do mean however I will share something with you that an old boss of mine once told me: Never mistake MY kindness for weakness!  I have always remembered that when I feel...
    TshirtNblujeans TshirtNblujeans 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 16, 2009

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    Beware of guys who label themselves

    as "Nice Guys" when in turn they are the real *****le. Real nice guys don't need to label themselves as such or say to you "nice guys finish last", they are caring and they are there for people they care about and love. If it feels right anyway it would work out. No extra...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 9

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    Nice Guys - Just Be Yourself!

    Being a nice girl, I was always jumping from relationship to relationship, fast and extreme. The simple thing I searched for was a guy who would appreciate and accept me as I am. Can I say all the guys I got involved with were jerks? Not exactly, but besides being incompatible...
    Belinda Belinda 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2012

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    Nice But Different = Lonely Loser

    I am a nice guy -- and I know it. I would never do anything to harm anyone. If given the chance I would treat any woman as the top quality person she is. The only problem is that because I did not fit the "standard" of guys during my early years I am now 46 and lonely...
    clingcom clingcom 51-55, M 14 Responses Apr 16, 2008

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    The Death Of A Nice Guy

    When I was growing up I remember many girls/women telling me that "it's what's on the inside that counts"... A fantastic lie, I fell for it for many years through many rejections and much pain. I kept believing that someday there would be someone who could see past my rather...
    Guyfire Guyfire 26-30, M 3 Responses May 1, 2011

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    Why Nice Guys Finish Last - Advice For Men From A Woman

    Taken From Answers.Com: ______________________  Answer We love nice guys! The problem is that many men think they are 'nice guys' when in fact, they aren't -- or they are and have many OTHER issues! I once dated a guy who insisted that he had been dumped many times simply...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Sep 10, 2010

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    So Sick Of This Myth.

    the problem is, most of the guys who claim to be "nice guys" are the ones who are desperate - they latch onto a girl, & then kiss her ***. & most of the time, she sees straight through it: you want to get into her pants. & it's creepy - this guy is constantly there when you turn...
    blehtolife blehtolife 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    But I Also Think Nice Women Finish Last Too

    What is it about humanity? Make people doubt your love for them and you destroy their self-esteem. But be too ready with love for them, and they're turned off. God people are weird.
    EternallyHopeful EternallyHopeful 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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    Dinner For Two, Party Of One

    I have fallen in love with a number of amazing girls who ended up rejecting me.  In fact, you could say I'm drowning in female friends that don't want to sleep with me.  Here are some...some field notes, you could call them.  I make no claims about whether they...
    salsadragon salsadragon 26-30 1 Response Jun 5, 2010

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    Its true even though I'm a girl I can't stand

    nice guys they creep me out you never know when there going to flip I think of them as a cereal killer but its one thing being. Nice and then being too nice its like OK enough
    123unhappyrefrian 123unhappyrefrian 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 2

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    Normal, Nice Guy

    I must admit, I am completely confused. I have been single for just over a year. Would love to go on a date or just spend some time with an attractive woman, but, I dont seem to be able to get a date. Now let me just throw this out there: I am an attractive guy, athletic figure...
    CanDo557 CanDo557 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    Okay there is a song

    for this! And guys and girls it's hilarious!!! It goes like this http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xfeys7Jfnx8 *Teacher teaches guys how to get girls and sings smoothly* "Nice guys finish last that's why I'll treat you like trash, It's not what I really wanna do, But you only date...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    Prove Me Wrong

    I would like to think I'm a nice guy and I always feel like I'm finishing last. Everyone is in a relationship besides me, even when the boyfriends treats the girlfriend like crap she stays with him.
    shadow1013 shadow1013 22-25, M 2 Responses Nov 20, 2010

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    The type of guy that pull you closer

    when you try to walk away. The guy that comforts you when you cry. That guy who never tells you to leave no matter how man he is. The type of guy who lift up your chin and kisses you gently. Every girl no matter if she will admit it or not want she wants that guy.
    foreignindulgence foreignindulgence 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    Our Society

    Our Society these days.. lol
    livingfortoday livingfortoday 26-30, M 4 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    Sometimes I hate being the nice guy

    but it has it's perks sometimes.
    Novemberman Novemberman 22-25, M Mar 8

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    Women Want The Right Nice Guy

    Has anyone else noticed that most women vehemently disagree with the claim that nice guys finish last? Furthermore, a hefty chunk of men disagree with it as well. It seems to me that the individuals who insist that nice guys really do finish last are quite unwilling to entertain...
    CaliforniaViolet CaliforniaViolet 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    1. Anyone else think of the Green Day song?

    2. Until recently I always got a bunch of crap despite being helpful and fair dealing with people. I'm at a new school with a far better environment now so that helped.
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 13-15, F Apr 29

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    OneOfTheBruthas OneOfTheBruthas 26-30, M 8 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    alicep67904 alicep67904 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I'm not going to lie,

    there were times when I've treated the nice guy like crap. 😂 I'm not proud of it, but it has happen. I'd never do it now, though! 😏
    Rosieeeee Rosieeeee 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Becoming

    There is no reward, no payoff, for trying to lead a good life. Rather, it is a debt to pay, for the privilege of being alive.
    KeasbeyNights KeasbeyNights 22-25, M Oct 11, 2011

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    I'm Definitely Too Nice...

    Well, my story is simple.. ever since I hit the dating scene in 2006 I've been way too nice/clingy.  early on the relationships failed miserably but I slowly got better at being more independent and better.. but I'm still falling back into that rut of being too nice and a...
    classof2007 classof2007 18-21 9 Responses Feb 14, 2009

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    I use to believe that "nice guys finish last"

    rubbish. Then I realised I was racing towards the wrong goal. I changed it and won.
    jojo0915 jojo0915 31-35, M 1 Response May 24

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    Can't Be Bothered...

    Trying to bust this myth to all those guys who claim no girl wants you because you're too "nice"...so I'll let these guys do it fo you: http://youtu.be/5rZu-tBi7DM http://youtu.be/3VXXXX9iVPI They pretty much get it down to a T.
    blehtolife blehtolife 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2013

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    Why is it when I tell some guys no its like

    they don't hear it? Like really your only prolonging being denied. I say it nicely but when you keep pushing is when we have an issue
    maggielue maggielue 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    It's True!

    My boyfriend is one of the nice guys.  I'm the first girl he's had sex with and a serious relationship with.  It's so true about the nice guys finishing last.  My guy is the bestest boyfriend I've ever had and will ever have.  He makes me so happy, and I am so...
    NikilovesMarcel NikilovesMarcel 70+ 1 Response Feb 4, 2008

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    Duh. Look at america.

    And drug rings. Brothers working to wreck us. Sigh.
    AlmostDiscarded AlmostDiscarded 46-50, M Jul 9

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    Yeah - nice guys finish last .

    .. that is why we make the best lovers !
    shaggynz shaggynz 41-45, M 6 Responses Jul 8

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    When a girl says she wants a nice guy she's talking about a fun confident honest kind guy with a sense of humour... not an insecure drama queen who thinks we should throw ourselves...
    PinkP0werRanger PinkP0werRanger 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 13

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    I'm a feminist and I know that nice guys still exists. ✌️
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    I know they do, all women ever say is 'oh i want a nice guy'what they REALLY mean is 'so i can make hi my friend while i go for ******** and then ***** about them to him'Or"so i...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M Jul 20

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    I know there has to be guys who still have pure intentions with a girl. I know there has to be guys who respect girls.
    pattyricia pattyricia 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 10

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    Sometimes it would be nice to be your first priority.
    alyssaBee alyssaBee 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 18