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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    Does anyone else find it strange

    that when a man is spotted in an adult store he is often (not always) labeled a sick perv. But when a woman is shopping in an adult store it is often (not always) hot or sexy... But it is said that men think of sex more than women so shouldn't it be acceptable to find a man...
    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 19 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    I really don't get. If you love someone

    and that person loves you back there shouldn't be a law preventing it from happening. We are all people no matter what race, culture, sexuality, or religion we are , so why does it matter so much? Some people really need to see what the world truly is instead of thinking what it...
    crazymornings crazymornings 18-21, F 14 Responses Feb 19, 2014

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 51-55, F 33 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    It seems like most men I know,

    work with or run into have to go out of their way to act manly, and talk how men should talk and do the things men should do and very proudly put down anything that isn't allowed in the man bubble. Like yoga, gardening,vegetarianism,genuinely caring about women, taking care of...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Indeed we create way too many rules around

    sexuality. As long as people stay safe that's the main thing and that it's equally pleasurable :)
    tangledweb94 tangledweb94 18-21, M Jan 28

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    poisedjaber poisedjaber 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 7

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    Sexuality is one of the most wonderful parts of

    being human. Why would anyone try to stifle it? Why would anyone twist something inherently beautiful into something dirty? It is not wrong or amoral to enjoy sex – to revel in lust and passion and desire. Wanting and being wanted are gifts. Acceptance, opening your body...
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    Story of my life! Like

    why do we have to label and categorize everything about ourselves? Just to fit into tiny little boxes that society hands out to us as out normal shield? No thank you. I am going to love whomever I choose for the reasons I see fit and no one can tell me otherwise.
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    Im getting the tramp stamp ives always wanted!

    Im should be doing it around Wednesday or Tuesday and will change my pic. It involves a girl giving oral.
    jiltedgirl jiltedgirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 19

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    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 14 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Is the expression of desire,

    want, lust from a woman that isn't overtly flaunting herself surprising? A woman having set standards, high intelligence, and knowing what she desires but selective about how and when she expresses it is really that extraordinary? When she does express it, why is it...
    JustNyx JustNyx 36-40, F 18 Responses Jan 11

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    Sometimes I think that women are born with a

    ticking clock around their necks....reminding the world about what's the best time for them to get pregnant and how they must fulfill their destiny by reproducing at the ideal time. Please mind that the emphasis is not even on raising a child, but on biologically producing it...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F Mar 23

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    I wrote out a really long

    and intelligent rant on how messed up society is, but nevermind guys.
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    pambam42 pambam42 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    Gender rules are stupid.

    If a guy wants to do ballet or likes boy bands, it's fine, and if a girl likes karate and scream music then it's fine too!
    laurabaillie16 laurabaillie16 13-15, F 5 Responses Apr 3

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 14 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    mrx : hey me: hi Mrx: blah blah blah me:

    blah blah blah mrx :are you virgin ? me : nope mrx : where are you from ? me: India mrx: what ???,you are from India and you are not a virgin ? it's a shame to India me : shut up (blinking) :O :O :O :- :- now what ? I haven't committed a biggest sin stop being such an...
    insatiable02 insatiable02 18-21, F 17 Responses Apr 12

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 79 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    I think animals are better off

    than us because sex for them is a simple physical act to reproduce and expand. But for us, it is complicated as hell. This makes me think whether our evolved intellectual brain is a boon or curse in disguise! We all know we are born from an act of sex, it has introduced us to...
    Erevos Erevos 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 29 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    Traditionally, it's said

    that men are more visually stimulated and women are more emotionally stimulated. i've found that women are very reluctant to admit to being turned on visually. I think that's a shame.I am extremely visually stimulated woman. I love watching **** and seeing nakedness on any...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I'm in a mmf bisexual open relationship.

    meaning I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend.
    experienceisknowledge experienceisknowledge 26-30, M Feb 23

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    I feel that if both parties are happy with the

    arrangement and having their needs and wants met then it's all good. If no one outside of the unit is affected negatively then go, do, lick, slap, twiddle.... To your heart's content.
    Myjuju Myjuju 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    ...like what is considered "mature"

    or not when something could truly be very bonding...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 13

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    OrchidsNuBlu OrchidsNuBlu 36-40, F 45 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Sexuality should be as open

    as possible - ties in with the right to freedom of expression - express those naughty desires!
    Miriam4Fun Miriam4Fun 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    I wish society would be more open about self

    sucking guys. personally I have the ability and im obsessed with it. people always tell me to perform for them whether in their house or public im known around as an advocate to embrace your talents whether its weird , gross etc to societies standards. people dont even realize...
    nronic1 nronic1 18-21, M 6 Responses Apr 12

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    I consider myself "straight" (placed in

    inverted commas because I am well aware of the socio-historically constructed nature of sexuality as outline by Foucault etc.), but I want to know if it's a common fantasy straight guys have to dominate a cute feminine crossdresser or transgendered individual? I DON'T want to...
    ProXyOne ProXyOne 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 5

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    Why are people so stuck with x,

    y, z gender and how it should behave? Look at the rainbow man! they are NOT just different colors, it's a spectrum- each color merges into the other and emerges as something else. There are no boundaries. It's ok to be "diffused" like that. I ******* loose my mind when people...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 23 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    People who engage in polygamy,

    people who enjoy being spanked while restrained, people who enjoy feet, people who enjoy being in body suits, people who enjoy sex only in public, people who enjoy roleplaying, people who enjoy costumes, people who enjoy being dominated, people who enjoy "vanilla" sex, people...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I hate the way that I am made to feel like I'm

    trouble just because I like to stay single and sleep with who ever I like... get stuffed people!
    LolaGracesSecret LolaGracesSecret 31-35, F 17 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I say if everyone involved is consenting

    and no one is harmed, go ahead.
    ducksoftheuniverse ducksoftheuniverse 13-15, M 3 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I think it would have been

    so cool to have been a caveman.Life was short and life was hard. When you wanted to enjoy a woman, you just did it, when ever and how much you wanted too.No rules or any expectations, just good old fashion doing it,for the sake of, just doing it.
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    Mastermind12345 Mastermind12345 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 23

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    if your single and it feels right go with it

    that's my opinion.if no one is getting hurt then do it.
    broken8888 broken8888 26-30, M 1 Response 41 mins ago

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses May 22, 2014

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    One of my friends wants to play

    and doesn't have EP. Message me for how to reach her.
    endlesslycurious endlesslycurious 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 25

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    We should be able to have sex with animals!

    Wait... Can we? Because I already do it with my dog!
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    Can anyone suggest any good books

    and or suggestions on overcoming sexual repression? I feel very misguided, and overly uncomfortable. Thanks
    Aj03 Aj03 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 25

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    I was raised in a nudist

    and sexuality positive home, meaning that while growing up I could ask my parents any questions I had without ever being ashamed of who I am. Growing up in that lifestyle, I feel no different than any other person I know.
    OscarMC OscarMC 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 6

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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