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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    sparia24 sparia24 18-21, F 14 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    Sex is not dirty or discussing

    or indeed sinful. It's like guns don't kill people, people do. Sex isn't perverted people are. I know the religious views but they are mans fears. David had 3 wives, 100s of concubines, Solomon was his love child to Bethsheba, you cat tell me God doesn't understand sexuality...
    Freddie61 Freddie61 51-55, M 3 Responses Mar 5

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    Helping Men Understand

    I have been messaged enough times here by men asking me to help them understand why I want to have sex with another man besides my husband. Enough times that I want to answer here in a story. Of course my husband asks the same. Why would I want to do that? Am I happy? Am I bored...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 34 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    Straight, gay, bisexual,

    pansexual, asexual....who cares? Be who you are and don't listen to ignorant people...you are not supposed to be certain way...you are supposed to be you...
    Teodora27 Teodora27 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I don't believe people should have to be sexual

    with just one person at once even when married I will want a very open relationship.
    littletesa littletesa 26-30, F 14 Responses Apr 13

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    ****** me off when people put others into boxes.

    Like we are all sexual. Come on.
    Petunia164 Petunia164 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 13

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    I've started dating an amazing guy we've been

    talking and hanging out (professionally, work environment) for almost three months and have yet to be intimate. He says he wants to continue to wait because neither of us have gotten to know anyone else so emotionally before physically but I am SO tired of waiting. I'm a sexual...
    penilane penilane 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 26

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    Monogamous...why? Monogamy

    and life long pair bonding is rare in the animal kingdom. Humans tend to be very sexual beings...as long as we come home to same person, I do not see an issue with an open relationship. Stay safe and emotions out of the way.
    Eastsidegirl101 Eastsidegirl101 36-40, F 10 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    Too Sexual?

    I have always felt that there is something wrong with me. I am a female and I think about sex almost constantly. I almost always want it. It is a rare thing for me NOT to want it. I basically feel like somehow I got a teenage boy's hormones in regards to sex. So is there...
    deleted deleted 26-30 22 Responses Sep 10, 2012

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    I like to TRADE pics of my girlfriend

    if you do to we can trade reach out
    jsoul93 jsoul93 26-30 1 Response Feb 5

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    I think society has shaped

    and molded sex into what they want it be. Sex should be something shared between however many consenting people. It should be free and powerful and spiritual. Yea, its cool to have a one night stand every once and while. I feel like nobody can tell you how to please YOUR body...
    Addictivethickness Addictivethickness 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 21

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 17 Responses Feb 12

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    I Think It'S Crazy To Pretend To Be Monogamous , Are Sexuality Is Primal And As That, It Should Have The Same Right To Express Its Self As Freely As Reason. If We Could Find A Way For Reason To Handle And Accept This Just As R Nature.

    I think it's crazy to pretend to be monogamous , are sexuality is primal and as that, it should have the same right to express its self as freely as reason. If we could find a way for reason to handle and accept this just as r nature.
    LLB24 LLB24 41-45, F 13 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    So people are not cans

    and we can't put labels on them so I believe there should be no labels or rules or nothing. Let us and all be free :)
    baebaeboo baebaeboo 16-17, F 10 Responses Jan 14

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    All these "rules" are swirling around my mind.

    All the ones I was taught by Christians when I was a kid, the ones they would tell me now if they knew about my asking to open my marriage. The rules of my marriage vows, the rules my husband tried to make me abide by, the rules of being a swinger, the rules my husbands swinger...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    I really don't get. If you love someone

    and that person loves you back there shouldn't be a law preventing it from happening. We are all people no matter what race, culture, sexuality, or religion we are , so why does it matter so much? Some people really need to see what the world truly is instead of thinking what it...
    SomeoneWhoBeenThroughIt SomeoneWhoBeenThroughIt 18-21, F 14 Responses Feb 19

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    yeah guess sure should be

    as natural as drinkin water with adequate checks!
    romell romell 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 6

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    Damn, I like writing in this experience group.

    One of the things I'm not allowed to do is tell people in RL that my husband is ok with me stepping out. I want so badly to tell people, but I guess my husband wants others to think our marriage is picture perfect, butterflies and rainbows, a front really. Ok, I'll take it...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am looking for a single

    or attached female that can keep up with a good dirty chat. I want to make you c_m and you need to be able to make me c_m. I will share pics and vid and expect the same, but am. It a trader. Kick karmaandroberto Twit @karmaandroberto Tumb #kinkyincanada
    Karmaandroberto Karmaandroberto 36-40 Apr 7

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    I definitely agree our legislatures have

    created to many rules around sexuality. I have an open marriage and just love it that way.
    birthdaypartyforme birthdaypartyforme 41-45, F 7 Responses Apr 2

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 18 Responses Feb 25

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    There is something so inherently wrong with

    human beings and their massive hang up about sex. While many men and some women here write me and tell me they get it, others say I'm selfish for wanting sex outside my marriage and that my husband should divorce me for even bringing it up. Really? my husband and I should split...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 18 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Be who you want to be,

    love who you want to love, live how you want, make your time as happy as you can.
    addictedtoweightlifting addictedtoweightlifting 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 17

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    A friend here pointed out

    that I seem to think that if all women were "un-fenced" or didn't have marriage vows to worry about they would think like me. He's right, I do think that. I'm not sure why. I guess I think women WANT to be more open, they just won't allow themselves to talk about it. Most women...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 5

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    I was looking up historical information about

    Valentine. Now I knew he was a Roman priest and the patron saint of love and happy marriage. What I didn't know was that he was executed by Claudius II for promoting monogamous Christian marriage. Claudius felt that monogamous marriage would affect his soldiers. Romans were...
    Adam4Eve Adam4Eve 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 14

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    There are only two reasons I want to have sex

    with other men besides my husband. One, monogamy sucks, and two, some men want to have sex with me. Very simple really. So why so many rules?
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 31

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    Need some advice from the ladies on how to make

    my wife fall in love with me all over again. I adore her, we have two young kids and have been married for 15 years. The spark is gone and I need help!! Please -any and all advice, feedback or experiences from you ladies would be mucho appreciated. Little about me-tall...
    catdaddywolf catdaddywolf 41-45, M 5 Responses Feb 20

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    Anything They Can Do...I Can Do~

    I don't write too many posts about sex and this will be one of the few. So, here it goes. I've always been different from other women when it comes to sex. Perhaps this was because I was rasied around three heterosexual brothers who were much older and very sexually premiscuous...
    hillbillycrone hillbillycrone 51-55, F 15 Responses Aug 25, 2012

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    Why would hide/ignore something

    that is basic need for our survival since beginning of the world?
    constantinople90 constantinople90 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 6

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    Many married women I know are not happy with

    their sex lives, or they are just not doing it with their husbands. Many though do not talk about it so it's hard to know. I am one of those women, I do not talk about it except recently to my sister and shouting through the roof tops about it here. I have told my husband every...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 19 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I think sex is something sacred

    and should be treated that way but I also believe we need to quit hiding it! Who cares what you like? It's no one else place to decide what turns you on is wrong or gross. I believe as long as you're not forcing someone into something do what you want! **** societies idea of...
    LivviyLove LivviyLove 16-17, F 5 Responses Feb 5

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    And who makes these golden rules?

    That people are consenting and above the age of consent is all anyone needs to know. The rest is no-one else's business. People are generally uptight about what they want but can't have or really want, consciously or subconsciously, but are denying themselves. Mostly that's the...
    gardenofdreams gardenofdreams 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 3

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    I'm an executive and single mother to a twen.

    I have a successful career and many think that I have my life all figured out. I'm the kind of woman most men wish to have at home however I'm not thinking about settling anytime soon. Actually I have a dark side. I enjoy s** a lot and very experimental by nature. Whenever I'm...
    BeeHyve BeeHyve 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 26

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    I seem to get men questioning my willingness to

    open my marriage both ways. They ask, is your husband allowed to have sex with who he wants just like you're asking him to do? Why is this even a question? Why do I get asked this? Is this a normal response a man would ask? Am I allowed to as well? I'm very confused as to why...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 13 Responses Apr 15

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    Free

    First off I would probably consider myself straight. But I also don't like putting labels on sexuality, I'm female and only had sex with a girl once, but have had several other sexual encounters with girls. People always ask if I'm bisexual and I respond with I like who I like...
    Revekahd Revekahd 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Honesty Would Take Us Farther

    Sex feels good.  Duh! Not all sex is created equal. There's the one night stand.   Making love.  Down and dirty.  The quicky.  The night of passion you never wish to end.   All different, yet all fabulous in their own way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 23 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    I think we create rules to suit us.

    If you look at ancient Greek artifacts like vases and frescos you can clearly see women in sporting events wearing what are basically bikinis. A lot of their skin is showing but they aren't considered hyper sexual or anything. Fast forward. Look at Victorian age women. Covered...
    docjohn93 docjohn93 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 7

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    I'm an extremely sexual woman to be 47 years

    old. I just realized a few months ago, after thinking I was accidentally peeing on myself, that I'm a major Squirter. I'm talking MAJOR. after feeling relief that I was peeing on myself, now I'm faced with the fact that I can't even cough, sneeze or laugh without squirting on...
    LadyDi66 LadyDi66 46-50, F 21 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Why are guys the only ones

    that are allowed to be sexual? Girls crave it too.
    xoxoxxoo xoxoxxoo 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 9

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    In our society, sex is a taboo

    for girls. If they have multiple partners, they're a ****. If guys do, it's an accomplishment? I disagree. We all have a longing to be loved and accepted for who we are. Both guys and girls can seek this from sexual intercourse. Their bodies, presence, and being are being...
    keepitkrill keepitkrill 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    Sex is sensual simplicity.

    ... and us black british men are indeed sensual... ROUGH...but sensual ...;)
    MrBritEbony MrBritEbony 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 12

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    Only One Rule

    Respect and be honest with everyone you have sex with and love with every fibre of your being, in every way you can.  
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 14 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 19 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    If there weren't stereotypes against gay

    or bi people I might easily be one of those but the fact that certain not so good images surround these sexualities is a major factor to my sexual orientation, hetrosexual.
    DickieG DickieG 13-15, M 4 Responses Feb 24

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 17 Responses Jan 15

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    Taking A Few Risks Here

    I have had multiple occasions where friends have intercourse with me on the same room. They know I was awake, even having conversations with me during heir action. I am going to watch and a record a BDSM session (not partake in it). I think being a **** director may be my calling...
    RobinBird426 RobinBird426 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    I have a Puritanical view of seks I contend

    that we would all be better off if we adopted a Puritanical view of seks. This is not religious dogma. I think that the Puritans had a healthier view of seksuality than we do today. Let me explain. The Puritans get a bad rap The Puritans are viewed as the epitome of...
    YourFriendRyan YourFriendRyan 36-40 3 Responses Mar 5

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    I have considered myself straight my entire

    life. Now, at the age of 20, I am dating a woman. She is amazing and I am so in love. It has been a whirlwind couple of months because I have basically introduced her to my entire family and was dealing with that. It was very scary at first bc I wasn't sure if I would be...
    Melly24 Melly24 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 28

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    I love my husband, but I have been having sex

    with just him for over a decade. I would much rather have sex with a different man every other month than to have sex with my husband as much as I do. I don't want or need to have sex with a different man as much as I do it with my husband either. I really just want to play...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 12

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    Absolutely. I think there's too many calls

    for labels. I don't think everyone will fit in that tidy little box that people might hope. To look at me, people assume I'm straight. After talking with me they assume I'm Bi... but for me? I think I'm just me. I feel attracted to who I'm attracted to. It may be a guy.... It...
    misscrystalclear87 misscrystalclear87 26-30, F 6 Responses Jan 15

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