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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    I am often horny, but i like to keep my sexual

    intercourse with people i have feelings for, some advice on how to control it when am mot in a single? recently got out of a long periode relationship.
    Annazfu Annazfu 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    deleted deleted 26-30 43 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Wondering the best way to pull a shy guy into

    his sexual self...... He said he's willing to try anything out of curiosity & I like flavor. Brought him out a little but keep in mind it only took 6wks to free him from sitting on the edge of my couch folded into himself barely making eye contact. Anyone remember being intro'd...
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 14 Responses 5 days ago

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    Its supposed to be about pleasure,

    why cant we just enjoy? I do agree that underage limits need to be set. I've got a pretty big thing against child abuse of any kind.
    Cougarpie Cougarpie 18-21, M 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    At my 40yr mark this year I rediscovered my

    sexuality. The only difference from my 20's? I finally had an idea of what I liked.... soft bondage & domination. Exceptionally hard, in a small LDS town, to find a compatible partner w similar likes/dislikes. It's very taboo here. *Side note, I liked it PRIOR to 50 Shades of...
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 22 Responses Jun 24

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    To me it is all about fun,

    and enjoying it. I try to keep an open mind, even if I dont always understand different fetisches. But who am I to say what is right and wrong? :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 13 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 51-55, F 31 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    OK, not my rules… So those you

    who read my posts (or maybe chat via message) know my ups and downs with my sex life with my wife. This past weekend had the makings of a great opportunity and it started well before crashing down. We have 4 kids and the two oldest and youngest were out of town for the weekend...
    alteregoeleven alteregoeleven 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 29

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    purplebatgirl purplebatgirl 26-30, F 9 Responses Jun 11

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    Just because I'm in sexuality

    and exploring does not mean I immediately want to swap pic or start of a conversation w your ****. I'm an intelligent person looking for someone "real" to talk to. Hold a conversation, be literate & be real.
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 21

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    anneloves anneloves 22-25, F 11 Responses May 28

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    alejandraberlin alejandraberlin 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 29 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    I have gotten the impression

    that North America has a very negative attitude towards sexuality. I was surprised by the lack of sex education in schools (I grew up in Europe) and also how this creates immature attitudes towards sex. Pleasure is a beautiful thing, regardless of what type of pleasure is sought...
    lilysworld lilysworld 18-21, F 12 Responses Jul 15

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    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 16 Responses May 8, 2013

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    No force. No kids. No pets.

    There. All the needed rules.
    Converted Converted 46-50, M 3 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    Tend to agree. Suspect monogomy may be more of

    a cultural constraint imposed by society. Even the Old Testament saints were freer in their sexual expression than what is considered a default value today.
    Wm4eroticfunwf Wm4eroticfunwf 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 10

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses May 22, 2014

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 41-45, F 14 Responses May 15, 2014

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    I hate the way that I am made to feel like I'm

    trouble just because I like to stay single and sleep with who ever I like... get stuffed people!
    LolaGracesSecret LolaGracesSecret 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    ninjacypher ninjacypher 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 10

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    I'm constantly hearing crap from friends

    and family for my sexual preferences. I'm guessing the old saying "you don't know if you like it til you try it" was never popular around here. No one even seems remotely interested in educating themselves in something new.
    deleted deleted 26-30 30 Responses May 6

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    Do you believe in God?

    The devil? In destiny or in fate? Do you believe, that naughty girls are made to take you as close to heaven as you can possibly get? Do you dream of resisting pleasures of the flesh? Or do you fantasize of giving in and letting your skin burn from my touch? When we met was that...
    loveCT loveCT 31-35, F 15 Responses Jun 30

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    We should be able to have sex with animals!

    Wait... Can we? Because I already do it with my dog!
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    As a woman who is a submissive

    for her master, I completely agree with this. People hear about our relationship and are disgusted. Despite the fact I love doing this and we love each other and are consenting. How sexual we get shouldn't matter
    JessTheSub JessTheSub 18-21, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Traditionally, it's said

    that men are more visually stimulated and women are more emotionally stimulated. i've found that women are very reluctant to admit to being turned on visually. I think that's a shame.I am extremely visually stimulated woman. I love watching **** and seeing nakedness on any...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Im very open but I don't know

    why people are so uptight about it. So im bi prefer woman and I love wearing silk satin and lace. Sorry its such an issue. Im gonna be me.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    As I've gotten a little older I'm really

    starting to appreciate that everyone needs an outlet, and often it's sexual. Everyone deserves a good **** every now and then, no matter what they look like. And every time each of us gets this gratification, we're helping someone else do the same at the same time. I think that...
    davidparker9 davidparker9 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 10

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    Morals, Values and Sexuality.

    ............ Sexuality is viewed much differently now than it was when I was raised and I'm interested in getting some feedback from people in various age groups as to how they view this situation. Most people, at some point in time, use their sexuality for personal gain or...
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 14 Responses Jul 12

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    i have no idea why it needs

    so many rules and morals and bullshit. theres only one rule that really counts: dont hurt anyone! no violence, no force – just have fun, as much as possible. thats how i was raised and thats how i live.
    milena2000 milena2000 13-15, F 18 Responses Jun 16

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 79 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 24 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    GETTING MY MIND F*** ON!

    TY FRANK! God I've missed you! God you're good! Feeling… exhilarated, excited and OH MY GOD!
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I agree with this completely.

    I think society tries to impose upon us the accepted boundaries and limits that I feel should be set by the couple who are enjoying their sexual relationship. The things I find intoxicatingly sexual may not have the same effect of others, but when Im sharing that with who ever I...
    JoshC63 JoshC63 51-55, M 5 hrs ago

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    Does anyone else find it strange

    that when a man is spotted in an adult store he is often (not always) labeled a sick perv. But when a woman is shopping in an adult store it is often (not always) hot or sexy... But it is said that men think of sex more than women so shouldn't it be acceptable to find a man...
    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 19 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    So I apologize for my last post,

    I read it back after it posted and realized all the grammatical errors I created. Damn EP doesn't allow editing. I didn't sound very intelligent..... Just because I explore sexually doesn't mean I'm horny and want to see your ****. You're going to have to start off w a better...
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 7 Responses Jul 21

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    People who engage in polygamy,

    people who enjoy being spanked while restrained, people who enjoy feet, people who enjoy being in body suits, people who enjoy sex only in public, people who enjoy roleplaying, people who enjoy costumes, people who enjoy being dominated, people who enjoy "vanilla" sex, people...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I'm not a heterosexual,

    homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, nor any other sexuals for that matter. I am Janelle. I love and **** whoever I want. I am just Janelle.
    IamJanelle IamJanelle 26-30, F 9 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Story of my life! Like

    why do we have to label and categorize everything about ourselves? Just to fit into tiny little boxes that society hands out to us as out normal shield? No thank you. I am going to love whomever I choose for the reasons I see fit and no one can tell me otherwise.
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    the thing is after 9/11,

    everyone started becoming paranoid about everything, and as a result we've become the ultimate nanny state and have been feeding into relentlessly to the point where politicians have taken advantage of our emotional state to influence our focus away from what's more important...
    Gamegenie87 Gamegenie87 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 23

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    People judge others too much

    because they like different things! People need to realise there is nothing wrong with being adventuring and trying taboo's! Personally, I have no limits and am open for anything! Others think im f***ed up because i like animals and water sports! Seriously, its 21st century...
    deleted deleted 26-30 24 Responses Jun 16

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    Sexuality is one of the most wonderful parts of

    being human. Why would anyone try to stifle it? Why would anyone twist something inherently beautiful into something dirty? It is not wrong or amoral to enjoy sex – to revel in lust and passion and desire. Wanting and being wanted are gifts. Acceptance, opening your body...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    Sex isn't a video game,

    you don't get experience points just for having completed the task..... Beating the boss doesn't level you up. Just because you've been playing for 10 years doesn't mean you have mad skill. You have to grind for it (gamers know what I mean).
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 10

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    One extreme pet peeve of mine is

    when people automatically associate the female body with sexuality and sin. It's really harmful for everyone involved, especially young girls who are taught that their bodies are inherently sinful and dirty as soon as they begin to show any signs of puberty :/
    ForestNymphet ForestNymphet 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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