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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    Sexuality is one of the most wonderful parts of

    being human. Why would anyone try to stifle it? Why would anyone twist something inherently beautiful into something dirty? It is not wrong or amoral to enjoy sex – to revel in lust and passion and desire. Wanting and being wanted are gifts. Acceptance, opening your body...
    Aurinne Aurinne 36-40, F 14 Responses Sep 19

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    Why not sexuality be treated like just other

    emotion. You fall in love and get hurt. You weep. You laugh. You trust and fail. Similarly, you get aroused and do sex. If this was made such simple to understand and emote, am sure the kinkiness found in it would never had room to exist. Scarcity leads to maddening urge of...
    thesnug thesnug 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 27

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    I think we are rather open about sexuality here

    in Sweden. But still, I think a lot of people judge others who are not the same as them. We all have different needs. :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 15

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    Does anyone else find it strange

    that when a man is spotted in an adult store he is often (not always) labeled a sick perv. But when a woman is shopping in an adult store it is often (not always) hot or sexy... But it is said that men think of sex more than women so shouldn't it be acceptable to find a man...
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 20 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm strongly against sexual repression.

    It starts in childhood and that's why we have so many weirdos now. Free your mind.
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 30

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    I'm not a heterosexual,

    homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, nor any other sexuals for that matter. I am Janelle. I love and **** whoever I want. I am just Janelle.
    IamJanelle IamJanelle 26-30, F 9 Responses Sep 24

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure 26-30, F 30 Responses Oct 6

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    I feel that if both parties are happy with the

    arrangement and having their needs and wants met then it's all good. If no one outside of the unit is affected negatively then go, do, lick, slap, twiddle.... To your heart's content.
    Myjuju Myjuju 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 16

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    I wish I could let go anywhere

    and everywhere without having to be scared of being caught and put my good girl reputation in jeopardy. I feel no shame in dehumanizing myself as his pet. I find nothing wrong with being owned, all of my decisions is his decision. I know I'm not abused, even if he treats me...
    MissMasque MissMasque 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Happy lovers play let's use each other tonight.

    ....it's normal. .. Keeps relationship alive
    goof223 goof223 51-55, F 11 Responses Dec 2

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    If a female friend or acquaintance - no matter

    what age or what she looked like, came to me and said "look I'd like you to know that my marriage has been sexless for 20 years and I am very lonely sexually and am craving the touch of another human being and was wondering if you would have sex with me no strings attached?" I...
    Elcoman115 Elcoman115 51-55, M 1 Response Dec 2

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 21 Responses Feb 25

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    We do. Our society today has all these ideas on

    how the perfect person should be and they try to create it. I personally don't think it matters weather you're straight or gay because I mean, you're still a person so who cares. If what ever sexuality you are makes you as happy as you can be, then go for it. Be happy because...
    kaitlyn1994 kaitlyn1994 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 15

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    I think the world is all about society

    and career and family......I'm a single woman at 37...your thoughts?
    Ilona77 Ilona77 36-40, F 13 Responses Nov 4

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    I sometimes wonder what it would be like

    if we lived according to our sexual instincts. I've sometimes imagined a world where it was normal to be naked and people can just have sex with whoever they feel like (provided that they are of a suitable age and are receptive). I think it would be very interesting to say the...
    truthhurts511 truthhurts511 22-25, F 12 Responses Jul 12

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 32 Responses Sep 11

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    We should be able to have sex with animals!

    Wait... Can we? Because I already do it with my dog!
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 18

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    kerencc12 kerencc12 26-30, F 22 hrs ago

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    yeah !come to think of it its a natural process

    for which man and a woman have equal desires ..people need to be just carefull as why are they into the act for pleasure or procreation ..and let people decide what they want!
    romell romell 41-45, M Dec 2

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Jul 29

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    theDPking theDPking 31-35, M 20 Responses 1 day ago

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    http://www.experienceproject.

    com/groups/Bicurious-Bisexual-In-NYC/954235
    marilife marilife 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 28

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 15 Responses Feb 12

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    I hate the way that I am made to feel like I'm

    trouble just because I like to stay single and sleep with who ever I like... get stuffed people!
    LolaGracesSecret LolaGracesSecret 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 2

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    I love having sex. does

    that make me a bad person?
    SirReptitious SirReptitious 31-35, M 5 Responses Nov 15

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 77 Responses Aug 9

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    The title is self explanatory.

    Why is sex such a big deal? speaking in the most primitive sense, every living creature is physically and psychologically equipped to procreate. Sex might be a result of our inherent need to reproduce but most people have sex because it's pleasurable and fun...also, It's a major...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 41-45, F 14 Responses May 15

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    I wrote out a really long

    and intelligent rant on how messed up society is, but nevermind guys.
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 46-50, F 37 Responses Aug 4

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    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 10 Responses May 8, 2013

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    i think! sex is nothing special

    and virginity is nothing to mention, it's sad how people can repeat stupid things in our head until it become part of our life even though we know it's not true, i wish girls didn't get infected with that so guys wouldn't feel special when they have sex with virgin, i wish guys...
    eighth eighth 18-21, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm not anti-religious

    but we can thank Freud and Christianity for scaring people with being labeled sinful and being looked at as an a aberration for even thinking sex was enjoyable.
    LTEP69 LTEP69 51-55, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses May 22

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    Our 29 Year Age Difference!

    Hello, I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We meet on AgeMeet.com.We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing years and he's my best friend and the most wonderful boyfriend! We have a lot in common believe it or not, we want the same...
    fergiecc11 fergiecc11 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 13

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    I will be the first to admit there are some

    things that I just will never be into at all. But I do think at times repressing ones desires can be very psychologically harmful. I am finding fun, safe, and discreet outlets for mine.
    ElieHanok ElieHanok 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 9

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    To me it is all about fun,

    and enjoying it. I try to keep an open mind, even if I dont always understand different fetisches. But who am I to say what is right and wrong? :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 15 Responses Oct 13

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    How come society makes us feel bad

    for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are wicked and no BS censorship either.
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 28

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    How do marriages become a bore.

    ...wife bore, husband bore Manipulation, lies....
    happy10101 happy10101 51-55, F 7 Responses Nov 2

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    orchids2blu orchids2blu 36-40, F 40 Responses 3 days ago

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    Open. I've been fantasizing about it

    for a little while now... And I think that I could possibly do it.... Except that I know it would destroy my wife, whom I love. I keep thinking.... If I could have a chance at one of these lovely ladies that I see every single day.... If I could just have a chance at...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Dec 5

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 9 Responses Jul 14

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    A few years ago, my friend's older brother had

    a big party at his house. He had lots of people there. Many who were just friends of friends that none of us really knew. My friend and I hung out in the basement and tried to avoid the guys when they started to get really hardcore drunk and the pills came out. It was fun...
    howlingrivermoon howlingrivermoon 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 29

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    Woke up in such a frisky mood

    and I'm all alone. My right hand is gonna GET IT now!
    biggunsatx biggunsatx 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 25

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    Story of my life! Like

    why do we have to label and categorize everything about ourselves? Just to fit into tiny little boxes that society hands out to us as out normal shield? No thank you. I am going to love whomever I choose for the reasons I see fit and no one can tell me otherwise.
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22

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    I 100% agree with this group.

    far too many rules and regulations. There is a lot of social BS and stigma making us do and act what doesn't feel natural to us!!!
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 20

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    Why do so many people judge others based on

    their sexual habits??? It's sad. I blame civilizations history of man manipulating religion for his own gain as the main contributor to this state. What really is right or wrong when it comes to personal choice? If it's consensual can it actually be bad? I can consent to give my...
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 12 Responses Jun 18

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 15

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    People who engage in polygamy,

    people who enjoy being spanked while restrained, people who enjoy feet, people who enjoy being in body suits, people who enjoy sex only in public, people who enjoy roleplaying, people who enjoy costumes, people who enjoy being dominated, people who enjoy "vanilla" sex, people...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 20

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    WOW, tried to post a story

    and it was IMMEDIATELY removed by EP! Perhaps because it was critical of them?
    time4fun time4fun 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 23

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