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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    there is far too much hate in this world

    towards those that don't follow a straight life style and what's worse is that ppl think we can be "fixed" with treatment or religion finding god won't fix me, cus I'm not broken!
    leahaha leahaha 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    deleted deleted 26-30 44 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    What age do you think a person should be

    allowed to have legal sex with whomever they want or "of age"? I'm in the US and I don't think 18 is cutting it. To me 13 14 sounds better. what do you think?
    BrutalNoodle BrutalNoodle 16-17, F 11 Responses May 16

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    I feel that if both parties are happy with the

    arrangement and having their needs and wants met then it's all good. If no one outside of the unit is affected negatively then go, do, lick, slap, twiddle.... To your heart's content.
    Myjuju Myjuju 36-40, F 12 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 14 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I'm constantly hearing crap from friends

    and family for my sexual preferences. I'm guessing the old saying "you don't know if you like it til you try it" was never popular around here. No one even seems remotely interested in educating themselves in something new.
    MyCircus MyCircus 26-30, F 31 Responses May 6

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I had full on period sex/menstrual sex/red tide

    sex- should I be embarrassed? I think I stained his sheets- we had a good laugh about it. It seemed pretty passionate but there was a lot of drugs involved so who even knows. Hope I see him again- our sex is always so good.
    piratewoman666 piratewoman666 22-25, T 4 Responses May 10

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 41-45, F 14 Responses May 15, 2014

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 29 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    I'm not a heterosexual,

    homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, nor any other sexuals for that matter. I am Janelle. I love and **** whoever I want. I am just Janelle.
    IamJanelle IamJanelle 26-30, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm in a mmf bisexual open relationship.

    meaning I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend.
    experienceisknowledge experienceisknowledge 26-30, M Feb 23

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 51-55, F 32 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    if your single and it feels right go with it

    that's my opinion.if no one is getting hurt then do it.
    broken8888 broken8888 26-30, M 5 Responses May 6

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    People who say that sex rules is good are dads

    or closed minded or men with low self confidence who like the rules to keep their women around, stop making the world sad place to please your mental problems.
    eighth eighth 18-21, M 5 Responses May 16

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 26 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    pambam42 pambam42 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    Can anyone suggest any good books

    and or suggestions on overcoming sexual repression? I feel very misguided, and overly uncomfortable. Thanks
    Aj03 Aj03 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 25

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    Is the expression of desire,

    want, lust from a woman that isn't overtly flaunting herself surprising? A woman having set standards, high intelligence, and knowing what she desires but selective about how and when she expresses it is really that extraordinary? When she does express it, why is it...
    JustNyx JustNyx 36-40, F 17 Responses Jan 11

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    I think the problem here is the word 'rules',

    that implies so many negative and controlling connotations. It seems that at the age that sexual urges begin to present in children is around the time when children have "set out" on thinking more on their own, a good time for rebellious attitudes to emerge and the attitude of...
    squeezenbiteme squeezenbiteme 31-35, M 2 Responses May 16

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    We should be able to have sex with animals!

    Wait... Can we? Because I already do it with my dog!
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    mrx : hey me: hi Mrx: blah blah blah me:

    blah blah blah mrx :are you virgin ? me : nope mrx : where are you from ? me: India mrx: what ???,you are from India and you are not a virgin ? it's a shame to India me : shut up (blinking) :O :O :O :- :- now what ? I haven't committed a biggest sin stop being such an...
    insatiable02 insatiable02 18-21, F 18 Responses Apr 12

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    I think we are rather open about sexuality here

    in Sweden. But still, I think a lot of people judge others who are not the same as them. We all have different needs. :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    poisedjaber poisedjaber 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 7

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    hi everyone im married

    and i have 2 children. im 24 and struggling with my sexuality. my husband is adventurous and likes to try most things and my 1st reaction is no to most things because i care what other people think even tho i dont tell anyone. ive just realised that most things he wants to do i...
    leahftp leahftp 22-25, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    http://youtu.be/n32YYJW9y64

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    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 6 Responses Feb 22

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    Does anyone else find it strange

    that when a man is spotted in an adult store he is often (not always) labeled a sick perv. But when a woman is shopping in an adult store it is often (not always) hot or sexy... But it is said that men think of sex more than women so shouldn't it be acceptable to find a man...
    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 19 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    I hate the way that I am made to feel like I'm

    trouble just because I like to stay single and sleep with who ever I like... get stuffed people!
    LolaGracesSecret LolaGracesSecret 31-35, F 17 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I think in todays world,

    With its constant revolving and with it comes more change by the days as they go by. I think with that, people will change with it but some do not. Change is something I view as a big black hole, something that I can't truly see through or see where the 'end' to it is. I view...
    Traveller96 Traveller96 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    i have alot of trouble getting in the mood

    after having my children. my husband gets turned on like a light bulb but he only has to touch my leg and i flinch. almost like if he kept going it would be unwanted and rapelike i guess. before the kids all he had to do was look at me and off we went. now he will set the mood...
    leahftp leahftp 22-25, F 9 Responses 3 days ago

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    Story of my life! Like

    why do we have to label and categorize everything about ourselves? Just to fit into tiny little boxes that society hands out to us as out normal shield? No thank you. I am going to love whomever I choose for the reasons I see fit and no one can tell me otherwise.
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    Sexuality is one of the most wonderful parts of

    being human. Why would anyone try to stifle it? Why would anyone twist something inherently beautiful into something dirty? It is not wrong or amoral to enjoy sex – to revel in lust and passion and desire. Wanting and being wanted are gifts. Acceptance, opening your body...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    Sometimes I think that women are born with a

    ticking clock around their necks....reminding the world about what's the best time for them to get pregnant and how they must fulfill their destiny by reproducing at the ideal time. Please mind that the emphasis is not even on raising a child, but on biologically producing it...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F Mar 23

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    Traditionally, it's said

    that men are more visually stimulated and women are more emotionally stimulated. i've found that women are very reluctant to admit to being turned on visually. I think that's a shame.I am extremely visually stimulated woman. I love watching **** and seeing nakedness on any...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 14 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 10 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    being sexy is not a crime.

    ..its good to open yourself and share it makes you mentally free
    nawtyzaky12 nawtyzaky12 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 12

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    Gender rules are stupid.

    If a guy wants to do ballet or likes boy bands, it's fine, and if a girl likes karate and scream music then it's fine too!
    laurabaillie16 laurabaillie16 13-15, F 5 Responses Apr 3

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 79 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    septemberh septemberh 13-15, F 3 Responses May 20

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 13 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    It seems like most men I know,

    work with or run into have to go out of their way to act manly, and talk how men should talk and do the things men should do and very proudly put down anything that isn't allowed in the man bubble. Like yoga, gardening,vegetarianism,genuinely caring about women, taking care of...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 24 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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