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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    I hate the way that I am made to feel like I'm

    trouble just because I like to stay single and sleep with who ever I like... get stuffed people!
    LolaGracesSecret LolaGracesSecret 31-35, F 15 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 41-45, F 14 Responses May 15, 2014

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure 26-30, F 29 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    The title is self explanatory.

    Why is sex such a big deal? speaking in the most primitive sense, every living creature is physically and psychologically equipped to procreate. Sex might be a result of our inherent need to reproduce but most people have sex because it's pleasurable and fun...also, It's a major...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Open. I've been fantasizing about it

    for a little while now... And I think that I could possibly do it.... Except that I know it would destroy my wife, whom I love. I keep thinking.... If I could have a chance at one of these lovely ladies that I see every single day.... If I could just have a chance at...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    Why do so many people judge others based on

    their sexual habits??? It's sad. I blame civilizations history of man manipulating religion for his own gain as the main contributor to this state. What really is right or wrong when it comes to personal choice? If it's consensual can it actually be bad? I can consent to give my...
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 12 Responses Jun 18, 2014

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I wrote out a really long

    and intelligent rant on how messed up society is, but nevermind guys.
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Story of my life! Like

    why do we have to label and categorize everything about ourselves? Just to fit into tiny little boxes that society hands out to us as out normal shield? No thank you. I am going to love whomever I choose for the reasons I see fit and no one can tell me otherwise.
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    We should be able to have sex with animals!

    Wait... Can we? Because I already do it with my dog!
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 11 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 10 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    How come society makes us feel bad

    for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are wicked and no BS censorship either.
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 28, 2014

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    theDPking theDPking 31-35, M 23 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    Sexuality should be as open

    as possible - ties in with the right to freedom of expression - express those naughty desires!
    Miriam4Fun Miriam4Fun 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 79 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    To me it is all about fun,

    and enjoying it. I try to keep an open mind, even if I dont always understand different fetisches. But who am I to say what is right and wrong? :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 14 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    http://www.experienceproject.

    com/groups/Bicurious-Bisexual-In-NYC/954235
    marilife marilife 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Why is it that women are looked upon

    as loose, or whørìsh, if they exude sexuality? Sexuality and men is simply man being man. In the same thought, I have found that men support the idea of women exuding sêxuality, but they hope and expect you to be a whö_ré because of it. I know people will say generalizing...
    lilminxx lilminxx 22-25, F 14 Responses 6 days ago

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 51-55, F 36 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    I sometimes wonder what it would be like

    if we lived according to our sexual instincts. I've sometimes imagined a world where it was normal to be naked and people can just have sex with whoever they feel like (provided that they are of a suitable age and are receptive). I think it would be very interesting to say the...
    truthhurts511 truthhurts511 22-25, F 12 Responses Jul 12, 2014

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    Happy lovers play let's use each other tonight.

    ....it's normal. .. Keeps relationship alive
    goof223 goof223 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    yeah !come to think of it its a natural process

    for which man and a woman have equal desires ..people need to be just carefull as why are they into the act for pleasure or procreation ..and let people decide what they want!
    romell romell 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 2, 2014

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    OrchidsNuBlu OrchidsNuBlu 36-40, F 46 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 14 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    I feel that if both parties are happy with the

    arrangement and having their needs and wants met then it's all good. If no one outside of the unit is affected negatively then go, do, lick, slap, twiddle.... To your heart's content.
    Myjuju Myjuju 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    Sexuality is one of the most wonderful parts of

    being human. Why would anyone try to stifle it? Why would anyone twist something inherently beautiful into something dirty? It is not wrong or amoral to enjoy sex – to revel in lust and passion and desire. Wanting and being wanted are gifts. Acceptance, opening your body...
    Aurinne Aurinne 36-40, F 14 Responses Sep 19, 2014

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    Im getting the tramp stamp ives always wanted!

    Im should be doing it around Wednesday or Tuesday and will change my pic. It involves a girl giving oral.
    jiltedgirl jiltedgirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Mastermind12345 Mastermind12345 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    We do. If I was to say

    that I look and act like Hugh Jackman in the Wolverine most of the time, you'd call me a manly man. If I said that I like to fantasise about being a girl or something, you'd call me gay. I don't particularly stray too far from the heteronorm. But every once in a month, I like...
    JacobStark JacobStark 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why not sexuality be treated like just other

    emotion. You fall in love and get hurt. You weep. You laugh. You trust and fail. Similarly, you get aroused and do sex. If this was made such simple to understand and emote, am sure the kinkiness found in it would never had room to exist. Scarcity leads to maddening urge of...
    thesnug thesnug 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 27, 2014

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    One of my friends wants to play

    and doesn't have EP. Message me for how to reach her.
    endlesslycurious endlesslycurious 26-30, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm not anti-religious

    but we can thank Freud and Christianity for scaring people with being labeled sinful and being looked at as an a aberration for even thinking sex was enjoyable.
    LTEP69 LTEP69 56-60, M 3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    I think we are rather open about sexuality here

    in Sweden. But still, I think a lot of people judge others who are not the same as them. We all have different needs. :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Is the expression of desire,

    want, lust from a woman that isn't overtly flaunting herself surprising? A woman having set standards, high intelligence, and knowing what she desires but selective about how and when she expresses it is really that extraordinary? When she does express it, why is it...
    Nyx1978 Nyx1978 36-40, F 14 Responses Jan 11

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    I think it would have been

    so cool to have been a caveman.Life was short and life was hard. When you wanted to enjoy a woman, you just did it, when ever and how much you wanted too.No rules or any expectations, just good old fashion doing it,for the sake of, just doing it.
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    i think! sex is nothing special

    and virginity is nothing to mention, it's sad how people can repeat stupid things in our head until it become part of our life even though we know it's not true, i wish girls didn't get infected with that so guys wouldn't feel special when they have sex with virgin, i wish guys...
    eighth eighth 18-21, M 5 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I'm strongly against sexual repression.

    It starts in childhood and that's why we have so many weirdos now. Free your mind.
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 32 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    I'm not a heterosexual,

    homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, nor any other sexuals for that matter. I am Janelle. I love and **** whoever I want. I am just Janelle.
    IamJanelle IamJanelle 26-30, F 9 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Indeed we create way too many rules around

    sexuality. As long as people stay safe that's the main thing and that it's equally pleasurable :)
    tangledweb94 tangledweb94 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    WOW, tried to post a story

    and it was IMMEDIATELY removed by EP! Perhaps because it was critical of them?
    time4fun time4fun 46-50, M 4 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 22 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    Traditionally, it's said

    that men are more visually stimulated and women are more emotionally stimulated. i've found that women are very reluctant to admit to being turned on visually. I think that's a shame.I am extremely visually stimulated woman. I love watching **** and seeing nakedness on any...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 12 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Why are people so stuck with x,

    y, z gender and how it should behave? Look at the rainbow man! they are NOT just different colors, it's a spectrum- each color merges into the other and emerges as something else. There are no boundaries. It's ok to be "diffused" like that. I ******* loose my mind when people...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 14 Responses Feb 12, 2014

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    Sex among consenting adults is totally fine.

    The only people who should be concerned with what you're doing with your junk are the people you're currently ******* with. Anyone else is just being nosy or a perv
    Annamania1 Annamania1 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 13

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    I 100% agree with this group.

    far too many rules and regulations. There is a lot of social BS and stigma making us do and act what doesn't feel natural to us!!!
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 20, 2014

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 28 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    I consider myself "straight" (placed in

    inverted commas because I am well aware of the socio-historically constructed nature of sexuality as outline by Foucault etc.), but I want to know if it's a common fantasy straight guys have to dominate a cute feminine crossdresser or transgendered individual? I DON'T want to...
    ProXyOne ProXyOne 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 5

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