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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    Drummer8280 Drummer8280 22-25, M 1 Response May 20

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    I'm learning as I get older what turns me on,

    and I keep finding new things. Being sexy is a state if mind, it not about size, shape, or model looks. It's about feeling pretty from inside. I feel good inside, enjoying life!!
    TxRocker TxRocker 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Can you imagine what a happier world we would

    have if every single human being was allowed to have sex with whom they wanted, maybe they want to and maybe they don't, but each human should decide for them-self, always. And humans should never violate another human. Take those two fundamental rights and respect them...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 16 Responses Jun 23

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    Not my kind of title

    but i digress.. I've noticed that sexually, most men focus more on pleasing themselves when with a woman The woman focuses more on pleasing the man. Maybe when a woman is with a woman they focus on pleasing each other... who knows
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F 21 Responses Jul 9

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 15

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    Helping Men Understand

    I have been messaged enough times here by men asking me to help them understand why I want to have sex with another man besides my husband. Enough times that I want to answer here in a story. Of course my husband asks the same. Why would I want to do that? Am I happy? Am I bored...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 37 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    I sometimes wonder what it would be like

    if we lived according to our sexual instincts. I've sometimes imagined a world where it was normal to be naked and people can just have sex with whoever they feel like (provided that they are of a suitable age and are receptive). I think it would be very interesting to say the...
    truthhurts511 truthhurts511 22-25, F 16 Responses Jul 12

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    I love my husband, but I have been having sex

    with just him for over a decade. I would much rather have sex with a different man every other month than to have sex with my husband as much as I do. I don't want or need to have sex with a different man as much as I do it with my husband either. I really just want to play...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 14 Responses Apr 12

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    I'm an extremely sexual woman to be 47 years

    old. I just realized a few months ago, after thinking I was accidentally peeing on myself, that I'm a major Squirter. I'm talking MAJOR. after feeling relief that I was peeing on myself, now I'm faced with the fact that I can't even cough, sneeze or laugh without squirting on...
    LadyDi66 LadyDi66 46-50, F 20 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    Monogamous...why? Monogamy

    and life long pair bonding is rare in the animal kingdom. Humans tend to be very sexual beings...as long as we come home to same person, I do not see an issue with an open relationship. Stay safe and emotions out of the way.
    Eastsidegirl101 Eastsidegirl101 36-40, F 9 Responses Dec 15, 2013

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 16 Responses Feb 12

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    I want to be open to new experience,

    no one can forbid me of my sexuality. it's very healthy to have fantasies.
    jellykiss jellykiss 22-25, F 45 Responses 2 days ago

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    Assuming everyone involved consents,

    is there really anything wrong with having public sex?
    HStoner HStoner 51-55, M 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 16-17, F 9 Responses Jul 14

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    Why do so many people judge others based on

    their sexual habits??? It's sad. I blame civilizations history of man manipulating religion for his own gain as the main contributor to this state. What really is right or wrong when it comes to personal choice? If it's consensual can it actually be bad? I can consent to give my...
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 18

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    I want to love and have sex the way

    that makes sense to me. Why do I have to follow the "status quo?" Why IS there a status quo? Every relationship is different. It sucks that everyone thinks there is only ONE way to have a good relationship. I also think we worry to much about labeling a person's sexuality...
    bisexualman79 bisexualman79 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 8

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    There are only two reasons I want to have sex

    with other men besides my husband. One, monogamy sucks, and two, some men want to have sex with me. Very simple really. So why so many rules?
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 31

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    Just could find a better title.

    . There's something you need to know when we are talking about sex. Sex is important especially when you're in a relationship with your partner, at least to me. =) It is a basic human need afterall and a lot of time it makes not only you but also your partner feel great...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F 5 Responses May 31

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 15

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    I don't believe people should have to be sexual

    with just one person at once even when married I will want a very open relationship.
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 13

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    I think society has shaped

    and molded sex into what they want it be. Sex should be something shared between however many consenting people. It should be free and powerful and spiritual. Yea, its cool to have a one night stand every once and while. I feel like nobody can tell you how to please YOUR body...
    ConfidentLee ConfidentLee 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 21

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    The only thing which I can't take it off my

    head sex **** the rules just enjoy it till you live :-
    Rifkyroshan Rifkyroshan 26-30, M Jul 15

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    dmedina513 dmedina513 36-40, M 1 Response May 26

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    I wanted to share the similarities between

    and sexless marriage, and open marriages. I felt like writing them since I found myself in a debate if sorts regarding the two. My personal definition of an open marriage is "opening the marriage" meaning open up, discuss the act of sex not being between just the couple. Your...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 11 Responses Jun 13

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    Everyone will at one point be sexually active,

    it's not something to be ashamed about
    kiinnn kiinnn 16-17, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don't think gays are right

    but you should let whoever be themselves don't change them to what you feel like they should be but lesbians are hot to me their the only ones I don't have a problem with
    daniel7268 daniel7268 13-15, M 3 Responses Jun 26

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    A friend here pointed out

    that I seem to think that if all women were "un-fenced" or didn't have marriage vows to worry about they would think like me. He's right, I do think that. I'm not sure why. I guess I think women WANT to be more open, they just won't allow themselves to talk about it. Most women...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 5

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    I am watching a talk show right now

    and it's about "your number" in this topic it's number of sexual partners. It has Snooki on it, a current pop culture female star and a two other women. Snooki says it's STILL thought that females with high numbers of partners are ***** while men are considered studs with...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 14 Responses Jun 3

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    Many married women I know are not happy with

    their sex lives, or they are just not doing it with their husbands. Many though do not talk about it so it's hard to know. I am one of those women, I do not talk about it except recently to my sister and shouting through the roof tops about it here. I have told my husband every...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 21 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I think there should only be one rule,

    informed consent required. Now as to why there are so many rules, well in my humble opinion it is simple, men can not cope with the female sex drive so seek to limit it with rules. Basically men can not keep up, and that makes them feel lesser beings so they use their strength...
    thickyholden thickyholden 51-55, M 3 Responses Jul 13

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 22 Responses Feb 25

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    My thoughts in this may come off

    as arrogant, I have certainly been accused of that before. Being a female rocks. I can visit any site and say F for female and I'm in hot prusuit. This is with just a brief description, no picture. The men behind these profiles are really "selling" themselves. Oh, but we females...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm strongly against sexual repression.

    It starts in childhood and that's why we have so many weirdos now. Free your mind.
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 30

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    So people are not cans

    and we can't put labels on them so I believe there should be no labels or rules or nothing. Let us and all be free :)
    Lanachristine Lanachristine 18-21, F 11 Responses Jan 14

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    It's ridiculous. I mean

    why are there so many rules it feels so ridiculous I'm almost paranoid about wanting sex because of all the rules.
    625Maelstrom 625Maelstrom 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 1

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses May 22

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 19 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I Think It'S Crazy To Pretend To Be Monogamous , Are Sexuality Is Primal And As That, It Should Have The Same Right To Express Its Self As Freely As Reason. If We Could Find A Way For Reason To Handle And Accept This Just As R Nature.

    I think it's crazy to pretend to be monogamous , are sexuality is primal and as that, it should have the same right to express its self as freely as reason. If we could find a way for reason to handle and accept this just as r nature.
    LLB24 LLB24 41-45, F 13 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Wanted to share some memorable comments I have

    received when I shared I wanted to open my marriage. -You do not deserve to be married -You should be happy you're a wife that has sex with your husband -do him a favor and just leave -he should leave your cheating butt -I get it I really do, in fact I want it too, but...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 20 Responses Jul 8

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    Have had 3 of my friends chatting to me tonight

    about the sex they have been getting in recent days. Seems like there is something in the air. Love that my mates are so open about this side of their lives. Much more profound friendships..
    Damon1974 Damon1974 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 26

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    I hate the terms and limits to our sexuality.

    Im not strait, bisexual, lesbian or asexual. I'm not a label, i'm me and i like it my way. One word can not possibly explain me.
    RogueBarroness RogueBarroness 22-25, F 8 Responses May 3

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    About 10 years ago I was walking downtown on a

    busy street and I passed a very handsome man. We smiled at each other and made eye contact, he was just gorgeous. After we passed each other I heard a voice behind me say "excuse me miss"? I turned to see this man walking back towards me. His hands were clasped together in a...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 20 Responses Jun 6

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    I do think we have to many rules

    and divisions when it comes to sexuality. Because of them I'm afraid of and confused about my own sexuality but have no one I feel comfortable talking to.
    MismatchedIdeas MismatchedIdeas 18-21, F 9 Responses Jun 30

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 36-40, F 17 Responses May 15

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    Do you like to be kissed

    after your partner has gone down on you?
    Harleydrifter Harleydrifter 31-35, M 13 Responses May 17

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    I really don't get. If you love someone

    and that person loves you back there shouldn't be a law preventing it from happening. We are all people no matter what race, culture, sexuality, or religion we are , so why does it matter so much? Some people really need to see what the world truly is instead of thinking what it...
    crazymornings crazymornings 18-21, F 13 Responses Feb 19

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