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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    I am learning more and more to love the person

    not what is between their legs or how they present. It's just about loving each other
    AndroTaylor AndroTaylor 18-21 Aug 21

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    Yet again reading an internet article about

    cheating via Yahoo and this time. It was about why middle aged women cheat. Badically they are bored, this comes from research done reading emails in Ashley Madison. Bored! Duh, I have been writing that since I've been here. One man here actually said to me, so what if you're...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 9 Responses Aug 18

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    FairWindz FairWindz 41-45, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I was home alone one day with my cousin

    and we had guys over and then we started drinking and then they we had sex. Have you ever done that
    emmalacelle emmalacelle 13-15, F 7 Responses Aug 10

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    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 9 Responses May 8, 2013

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    About 10 years ago I was walking downtown on a

    busy street and I passed a very handsome man. We smiled at each other and made eye contact, he was just gorgeous. After we passed each other I heard a voice behind me say "excuse me miss"? I turned to see this man walking back towards me. His hands were clasped together in a...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 19 Responses Jun 6

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    What do you think, is there to many?

    What would you change?
    mrmarine mrmarine 46-50, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I want to share about some emails I have

    received here from women, although it is very few. A female from India wrote me and said she thinks monogamy is awful, but that's all they are allowed. She said she just does what she needs and understands me. Another female wrote me and said she is not happy. She has been...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    loveneverdies1 loveneverdies1 18-21, F 18 Responses a week ago

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    Yes ! And now trying to break

    that rules What a weird situation
    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 14

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 35 Responses Jul 29

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    Many married women I know are not happy with

    their sex lives, or they are just not doing it with their husbands. Many though do not talk about it so it's hard to know. I am one of those women, I do not talk about it except recently to my sister and shouting through the roof tops about it here. I have told my husband every...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 21 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Just could find a better title.

    . There's something you need to know when we are talking about sex. Sex is important especially when you're in a relationship with your partner, at least to me. =) It is a basic human need afterall and a lot of time it makes not only you but also your partner feel great...
    jessycarcher jessycarcher 22-25, F 6 Responses May 31

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    Everyone will at one point be sexually active,

    it's not something to be ashamed about
    kiinnn kiinnn 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 22

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    Can you imagine what a happier world we would

    have if every single human being was allowed to have sex with whom they wanted, maybe they want to and maybe they don't, but each human should decide for them-self, always. And humans should never violate another human. Take those two fundamental rights and respect them...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 18 Responses Jun 23

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    Not my kind of title

    but i digress.. I've noticed that sexually, most men focus more on pleasing themselves when with a woman The woman focuses more on pleasing the man. Maybe when a woman is with a woman they focus on pleasing each other... who knows
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F 22 Responses Jul 9

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    I think we put to much pressure on wanting to

    be in a relationship rather than just enjoying someone's company. I've been forced out of great relationships because they believe talking for over two weeks needs a title. :/
    Nior18 Nior18 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 17

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    Yes, i do think we do.

    I mean why do we care what someone does behind of closed door. I mean sex is something that should be pleasurable and you can't really control your sexuality and your fantasies how aver kinky they are. I mean i am 16 and pansexual, and kinky, and a masochist and i was...
    MayaMoonShadow MayaMoonShadow 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 2

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    I hate the terms and limits to our sexuality.

    Im not strait, bisexual, lesbian or asexual. I'm not a label, i'm me and i like it my way. One word can not possibly explain me.
    RogueBarroness RogueBarroness 22-25, F 8 Responses May 3

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    For those who have not been having sex with the

    same one person for 15 years or more can't express what long term or serial monogamy is like, I'd even say 10, but 15 is a good long time. For those who divorced ever, and got remarried can't say that serial monogamy is the way to go, I'll give them monogamy but I bet they...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 13

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    I don't believe people should have to be sexual

    with just one person at once even when married I will want a very open relationship.
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 13

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    The only thing which I can't take it off my

    head sex **** the rules just enjoy it till you live :-
    Rifkyroshan Rifkyroshan 26-30, M Jul 15

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    Has anyone else noticed

    that our culture has some really backwards ideas about what's "taboo," "normal," and "kinky?" For example, apparently these days it's considered "kinky" or a "fetish" for a female to fantasize about getting pregnant and having a baby. Wuht? I mean, as far as sexual desires go...
    EyeOfHorus EyeOfHorus 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 8

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 36-40, F 16 Responses May 15

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    panthrax00 panthrax00 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 4

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 71 Responses Aug 9

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 46-50, F 39 Responses Aug 4

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 15

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    I wish I could let go anywhere

    and everywhere without having to be scared of being caught and put my good girl reputation in jeopardy. I feel no shame in dehumanizing myself as his pet. I find nothing wrong with being owned, all of my decisions is his decision. I know I'm not abused, even if he treats me...
    MissMasque MissMasque 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses May 22

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 19 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    A friend here pointed out

    that I seem to think that if all women were "un-fenced" or didn't have marriage vows to worry about they would think like me. He's right, I do think that. I'm not sure why. I guess I think women WANT to be more open, they just won't allow themselves to talk about it. Most women...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 5

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 11 Responses Jul 14

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 15 Responses Feb 12

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    So people are not cans

    and we can't put labels on them so I believe there should be no labels or rules or nothing. Let us and all be free :)
    Lanachristine Lanachristine 18-21, F 11 Responses Jan 14

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    Why do so many people judge others based on

    their sexual habits??? It's sad. I blame civilizations history of man manipulating religion for his own gain as the main contributor to this state. What really is right or wrong when it comes to personal choice? If it's consensual can it actually be bad? I can consent to give my...
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 13 Responses Jun 18

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    I wanted to share the similarities between

    and sexless marriage, and open marriages. I felt like writing them since I found myself in a debate if sorts regarding the two. My personal definition of an open marriage is "opening the marriage" meaning open up, discuss the act of sex not being between just the couple. Your...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 11 Responses Jun 13

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    I am of the opinion that

    as long as it is between consenting adults, there should be no rules for something as personal as sex. There is war, hunger, violence, and homelessness to spend energy on. Stay out of a persons bedroom.
    3dogmatic 3dogmatic 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    I think there should only be one rule,

    informed consent required. Now as to why there are so many rules, well in my humble opinion it is simple, men can not cope with the female sex drive so seek to limit it with rules. Basically men can not keep up, and that makes them feel lesser beings so they use their strength...
    thickyholden thickyholden 51-55, M 5 Responses Jul 13

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    My thoughts in this may come off

    as arrogant, I have certainly been accused of that before. Being a female rocks. I can visit any site and say F for female and I'm in hot prusuit. This is with just a brief description, no picture. The men behind these profiles are really "selling" themselves. Oh, but we females...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    I sometimes wonder what it would be like

    if we lived according to our sexual instincts. I've sometimes imagined a world where it was normal to be naked and people can just have sex with whoever they feel like (provided that they are of a suitable age and are receptive). I think it would be very interesting to say the...
    truthhurts511 truthhurts511 22-25, F 15 Responses Jul 12

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    Assuming everyone involved consents,

    is there really anything wrong with having public sex?
    HStoner HStoner 51-55, M 13 Responses Jul 20

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    We do without the ep police taking down

    anything remotely sexual. Tick the over 18 option makes no difference. What is the point of joining adult sections when you can not write an adult story?
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 29

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    I tried like hell to share my sexual awakening

    if you will with my husband, include him. He's not as free spirited as I am it seems. I refuse to be restricted though, like two love birds in a cage, nope. I'm removing the door on that cage, will be free when I see fit and will always come home. If he's gone one day, I'll be...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 12

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    There are only two reasons I want to have sex

    with other men besides my husband. One, monogamy sucks, and two, some men want to have sex with me. Very simple really. So why so many rules?
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 31

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    Where else to ask... The head of my penis is

    pretty numb. I'd say it's always been like this but I noticed it in my mid-twenties after a major surgery that damaged a few of my nerves and don't recall what it was like before. I'm otherwise normal and fully functional. Erotic literature that I have read talks about the...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Helping Men Understand

    I have been messaged enough times here by men asking me to help them understand why I want to have sex with another man besides my husband. Enough times that I want to answer here in a story. Of course my husband asks the same. Why would I want to do that? Am I happy? Am I bored...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 37 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    I'm strongly against sexual repression.

    It starts in childhood and that's why we have so many weirdos now. Free your mind.
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 30

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 15

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 23 Responses Feb 25

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