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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 26 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    Does anyone else find it strange

    that when a man is spotted in an adult store he is often (not always) labeled a sick perv. But when a woman is shopping in an adult store it is often (not always) hot or sexy... But it is said that men think of sex more than women so shouldn't it be acceptable to find a man...
    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 19 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 78 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 41-45, F 14 Responses May 15, 2014

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    People should do what turns them on don't hold

    back people make your sex life the most exciting sexual fun time you can have!
    hawksguy30 hawksguy30 26-30, M 5 Responses Jun 11

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    Far far to many rules!

    Just have fun in love and s%&
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 28

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    I'm not a heterosexual,

    homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, nor any other sexuals for that matter. I am Janelle. I love and **** whoever I want. I am just Janelle.
    IamJanelle IamJanelle 26-30, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses May 22, 2014

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    I've recently been wanting to put myself out

    there but I'm too afraid that I'm going to overstep and make whoever I'm with uncomfortable.
    theartist102 theartist102 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I'm trying to find new nasty things me

    and my boyfriend can try any ideas..
    lovelykorbin lovelykorbin 26-30, F 12 Responses Jun 4

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    why limit yourself based on the views of others

    and society they dont know you like you do and if your not a little open with what you may or may not be interested in then you can never find or discover yourself and potential end up with a partner the truly don't understand you and you will end up living a lie and all ways...
    thatx1xguy thatx1xguy 22-25, M Jun 20

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    I think the problem here is the word 'rules',

    that implies so many negative and controlling connotations. It seems that at the age that sexual urges begin to present in children is around the time when children have "set out" on thinking more on their own, a good time for rebellious attitudes to emerge and the attitude of...
    squeezenbiteme squeezenbiteme 31-35, M 2 Responses May 16

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 24 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    hi everyone im married

    and i have 2 children. im 24 and struggling with my sexuality. my husband is adventurous and likes to try most things and my 1st reaction is no to most things because i care what other people think even tho i dont tell anyone. ive just realised that most things he wants to do i...
    leahftp leahftp 22-25, F 13 Responses May 26

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    To me it is all about fun,

    and enjoying it. I try to keep an open mind, even if I dont always understand different fetisches. But who am I to say what is right and wrong? :p
    StockholmblondiE StockholmblondiE 22-25, F 13 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure 31-35, F 24 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    is it wrong that I like sex?

    because society says it is wrong, even though everyone has sex because it is a wonderful and beautiful thing, we still get condemned for it, how stupid
    Dman989 Dman989 22-25, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    mrx : hey me: hi Mrx: blah blah blah me:

    blah blah blah mrx :are you virgin ? me : nope mrx : where are you from ? me: India mrx: what ???,you are from India and you are not a virgin ? it's a shame to India me : shut up (blinking) :O :O :O :- :- now what ? I haven't committed a biggest sin stop being such an...
    insatiable02 insatiable02 18-21, F 18 Responses Apr 12

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    Story of my life! Like

    why do we have to label and categorize everything about ourselves? Just to fit into tiny little boxes that society hands out to us as out normal shield? No thank you. I am going to love whomever I choose for the reasons I see fit and no one can tell me otherwise.
    MyDaddysSpecialGirl MyDaddysSpecialGirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 22, 2014

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    i have alot of trouble getting in the mood

    after having my children. my husband gets turned on like a light bulb but he only has to touch my leg and i flinch. almost like if he kept going it would be unwanted and rapelike i guess. before the kids all he had to do was look at me and off we went. now he will set the mood...
    leahftp leahftp 22-25, F 9 Responses May 27

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    At my 40yr mark this year I rediscovered my

    sexuality. The only difference from my 20's? I finally had an idea of what I liked.... soft bondage & domination. Exceptionally hard, in a small LDS town, to find a compatible partner w similar likes/dislikes. It's very taboo here. *Side note, I liked it PRIOR to 50 Shades of...
    jules021775 jules021775 36-40, F 19 Responses 6 days ago

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    Okay.... I see why we have the rules.

    .... but omg, seriously, I don't quite understand why different places have different legal ages, why not just have 1 set age for everywhere ? I mean don't get me wrong, I don't think there is to many because lets face it, It's nice to have the protection and having sex is...
    RyRyOfAwesomeness RyRyOfAwesomeness 16-17, M 3 Responses May 16

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    I have done things I believe are wrong,

    and I have done things I have been told are wrong. my personal opinion at this time is that as long as it is consensual there is nothing wrong. now I do have some beliefs based on my religion, mainly that sex is reserved for marriage. this is why I say I have done things that...
    caer caer 31-35, M 5 Responses Jun 4

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 14 Responses Jan 15, 2014

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    To paraphrase the great philosopher Leo: "The

    rules are....there ain't no rules."
    averyryan7 averyryan7 31-35, M 2 Responses Jun 20

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 20

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 28 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 11 Responses May 28

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    deleted deleted 26-30 44 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    I think anal sex is fine

    as long as the women is ok with it
    Dman989 Dman989 22-25, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    Traditionally, it's said

    that men are more visually stimulated and women are more emotionally stimulated. i've found that women are very reluctant to admit to being turned on visually. I think that's a shame.I am extremely visually stimulated woman. I love watching **** and seeing nakedness on any...
    crazycontrolled crazycontrolled 36-40, F 11 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I hate the way that I am made to feel like I'm

    trouble just because I like to stay single and sleep with who ever I like... get stuffed people!
    LolaGracesSecret LolaGracesSecret 31-35, F 16 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Even the human body is considered wrong

    and sinful, how can you say that natural selection has created something explicit. We don't see other animals as sinful because they don't where clothes.
    Killerlemon Killerlemon 22-25, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    People who engage in polygamy,

    people who enjoy being spanked while restrained, people who enjoy feet, people who enjoy being in body suits, people who enjoy sex only in public, people who enjoy roleplaying, people who enjoy costumes, people who enjoy being dominated, people who enjoy "vanilla" sex, people...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    ashod ashod 26-30, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    OK, not my rules… So those you

    who read my posts (or maybe chat via message) know my ups and downs with my sex life with my wife. This past weekend had the makings of a great opportunity and it started well before crashing down. We have 4 kids and the two oldest and youngest were out of town for the weekend...
    alteregoeleven alteregoeleven 46-50, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Do you believe in God?

    The devil? In destiny or in fate? Do you believe, that naughty girls are made to take you as close to heaven as you can possibly get? Do you dream of resisting pleasures of the flesh? Or do you fantasize of giving in and letting your skin burn from my touch? When we met was that...
    loveCT loveCT 31-35, F 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I'm constantly hearing crap from friends

    and family for my sexual preferences. I'm guessing the old saying "you don't know if you like it til you try it" was never popular around here. No one even seems remotely interested in educating themselves in something new.
    deleted deleted 26-30 31 Responses May 6

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    What age do you think a person should be

    allowed to have legal sex with whomever they want or "of age"? I'm in the US and I don't think 18 is cutting it. To me 13 14 sounds better. what do you think?
    BrutalNoodle BrutalNoodle 16-17, F 14 Responses May 16

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    The older I get, the more I realize everyone

    doesn't know how to have sex; either in the sense of being non satisfying, uncompromising or just lacking any sense of imagination to turn the deed into more than a pump and dump. As a gay guy, I always told myself that I never just wanted a guy to hump and dump or vice versa. I...
    WarriorsHeart WarriorsHeart 22-25, M 5 Responses Jun 16

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    you know what else is weird,

    how come ************ is thought of as wrong it is proven that ************ improves emotional pain, it can relieve headaches and for men it will greatly decrease your chances of prostate cancer so why is it known as weird and why are there still people who believe it is a crime...
    Dman989 Dman989 22-25, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    i have no idea why it needs

    so many rules and morals and bullshit. theres only one rule that really counts: dont hurt anyone! no violence, no force – just have fun, as much as possible. thats how i was raised and thats how i live.
    milena2000 milena2000 13-15, F 17 Responses Jun 16

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    purplebatgirl purplebatgirl 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 15, 2014

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    I actually wrote an essay about this topic

    (sexuality in every aspect such as promiscuity and contraceptives, not solely sexual preference) and its relationship to Margaret Atwood's The Handmaid's Tale. It was honestly the best thing I've completed in school so far, and I put so much effort into it.
    leggyshay leggyshay 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 16

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