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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    I think a marriage license should be like a

    driver's license - renewable every 5 years. Till death do us part sounds like a prison sentence!
    PopcornForDinner PopcornForDinner 46-50, F 38 Responses Aug 4

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    As long as proper consent is in place,

    I think there should be no rules about sex and sexuality. By creating all these rules we exclude and isolate those who have different preferences sexually.
    Rose11231 Rose11231 18-21, F 11 Responses Jul 14

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    I hate the terms and limits to our sexuality.

    Im not strait, bisexual, lesbian or asexual. I'm not a label, i'm me and i like it my way. One word can not possibly explain me.
    RogueBarroness RogueBarroness 22-25, F 8 Responses May 3

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    EP Allie? Censor much?

    Much too much. That's ok, I shared my story in the comment section below after trying to figure out what words I am banned from using.
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 21

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    Can you imagine what a happier world we would

    have if every single human being was allowed to have sex with whom they wanted, maybe they want to and maybe they don't, but each human should decide for them-self, always. And humans should never violate another human. Take those two fundamental rights and respect them...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 17 Responses Jun 23

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    It has been brought to me by many people

    that my fiancé and I should have sex, we have ha sex before while we were dating..what do you guys think
    JazzyBaby321 JazzyBaby321 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 4

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    I feel that if both parties are happy with the

    arrangement and having their needs and wants met then it's all good. If no one outside of the unit is affected negatively then go, do, lick, slap, twiddle.... To your heart's content.
    Myjuju Myjuju 36-40, F 14 Responses Sep 16

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    Many married women I know are not happy with

    their sex lives, or they are just not doing it with their husbands. Many though do not talk about it so it's hard to know. I am one of those women, I do not talk about it except recently to my sister and shouting through the roof tops about it here. I have told my husband every...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 21 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I think it's unrealistic to get married

    and then expect that one person to meet all your needs, for decades and decades. I think we need to reconsider monogamy. I would be willing to share a man with his legal wife. If she wants the ring and the piece of paper, fine. They probably also have a mortgage and kids and...
    TheTruthIfItKillsMe TheTruthIfItKillsMe 46-50, F 24 Responses Feb 25

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    Helping Men Understand

    I have been messaged enough times here by men asking me to help them understand why I want to have sex with another man besides my husband. Enough times that I want to answer here in a story. Of course my husband asks the same. Why would I want to do that? Am I happy? Am I bored...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 37 Responses Dec 9, 2013

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    i love to be dominated during sex.

    What could be more sexy then a man taking control. sex is supposed to be about exploring new things. there are no rules! just have fun and learn new things everyday.
    damonsmommy damonsmommy 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 15

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    Has anyone else noticed

    that our culture has some really backwards ideas about what's "taboo," "normal," and "kinky?" For example, apparently these days it's considered "kinky" or a "fetish" for a female to fantasize about getting pregnant and having a baby. Wuht? I mean, as far as sexual desires go...
    EyeOfHorus EyeOfHorus 41-45, M 10 Responses Aug 8

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    I wish I could let go anywhere

    and everywhere without having to be scared of being caught and put my good girl reputation in jeopardy. I feel no shame in dehumanizing myself as his pet. I find nothing wrong with being owned, all of my decisions is his decision. I know I'm not abused, even if he treats me...
    MissMasque MissMasque 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    I want to share about some emails I have

    received here from women, although it is very few. A female from India wrote me and said she thinks monogamy is awful, but that's all they are allowed. She said she just does what she needs and understands me. Another female wrote me and said she is not happy. She has been...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I'm strongly against sexual repression.

    It starts in childhood and that's why we have so many weirdos now. Free your mind.
    dirtydarkness dirtydarkness 26-30, F 11 Responses Jun 30

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    And all the wrong people get to make the rules.

    [insert profanity of your choice here]
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 16 Responses Feb 12

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    Fear! It keeps us safe

    but can also crush our spirit. This is the case with starting a business, trying an extreme sport and also in expressing our sexual desires when in a relationship. We set all these boundaries attempting to force trust and we don't realise that it's actually cooking up a...
    dafunkofamadhatter dafunkofamadhatter 26-30, M Sep 16

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 33 Responses Jul 29

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    Yes sexuality: the sexual habits

    and desires of a person. If it's consensual between adults then leave it alone. Why do people feel they have to judge others based on a choice made by someone else. If consensual adults want to be together, leave them alone. If one or both is married then that is their...
    Rainbowsandrain Rainbowsandrain 41-45, F 18 Responses May 15

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    For those who have not been having sex with the

    same one person for 15 years or more can't express what long term or serial monogamy is like, I'd even say 10, but 15 is a good long time. For those who divorced ever, and got remarried can't say that serial monogamy is the way to go, I'll give them monogamy but I bet they...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 13

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    Yet again reading an internet article about

    cheating via Yahoo and this time. It was about why middle aged women cheat. Badically they are bored, this comes from research done reading emails in Ashley Madison. Bored! Duh, I have been writing that since I've been here. One man here actually said to me, so what if you're...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 9 Responses Aug 18

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    I don't believe people should have to be sexual

    with just one person at once even when married I will want a very open relationship.
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Apr 13

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    To feel the passion of another human is

    such a beautiful thing. We all have likes and dislikes. We all have needs and wants. Who is anyone to determine and dictate what is right for someone else. It is NOT wrong to want to feel someone next to you, exploring you and you them in return. Imagine giving someone...
    imalright71 imalright71 41-45, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    FairWindz FairWindz 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 28

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    I wanted to share the similarities between

    and sexless marriage, and open marriages. I felt like writing them since I found myself in a debate if sorts regarding the two. My personal definition of an open marriage is "opening the marriage" meaning open up, discuss the act of sex not being between just the couple. Your...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 11 Responses Jun 13

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    Yes ! And now trying to break

    that rules What a weird situation
    fauxlady fauxlady 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 14

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    Why do so many people judge others based on

    their sexual habits??? It's sad. I blame civilizations history of man manipulating religion for his own gain as the main contributor to this state. What really is right or wrong when it comes to personal choice? If it's consensual can it actually be bad? I can consent to give my...
    Roxy1114 Roxy1114 31-35, F 12 Responses Jun 18

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    About 10 years ago I was walking downtown on a

    busy street and I passed a very handsome man. We smiled at each other and made eye contact, he was just gorgeous. After we passed each other I heard a voice behind me say "excuse me miss"? I turned to see this man walking back towards me. His hands were clasped together in a...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 19 Responses Jun 6

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    Everyone of all ages

    and colours should love each other! In my dream society there are no rules, no marriages and absolutely no clothes!
    libertinette libertinette 22-25, F 77 Responses Aug 9

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    Where else to ask... The head of my penis is

    pretty numb. I'd say it's always been like this but I noticed it in my mid-twenties after a major surgery that damaged a few of my nerves and don't recall what it was like before. I'm otherwise normal and fully functional. Erotic literature that I have read talks about the...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 25

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    We do without the ep police taking down

    anything remotely sexual. Tick the over 18 option makes no difference. What is the point of joining adult sections when you can not write an adult story?
    vampirish vampirish 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 29

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    That is one reason why I love sex.

    I ignore the rules. I fantasize about many things that are considered taboo. I used to fantasize about having sex with male relatives. Giving a blow jog to a stranger on the subway is another one I like to fantasize about. But before you get too excited, I don't care to act out...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses May 22

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    There should only be three:- 1.

    Of age 2. Want to procreate, children need one of each sex as parents, otherwise they are damaged by peer pressure. 3. Want pleasure, do as you will harm none.
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I sometimes wonder what it would be like

    if we lived according to our sexual instincts. I've sometimes imagined a world where it was normal to be naked and people can just have sex with whoever they feel like (provided that they are of a suitable age and are receptive). I think it would be very interesting to say the...
    truthhurts511 truthhurts511 22-25, F 15 Responses Jul 12

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    Let's talk about sloppy buttsecks

    for a minute. Would you do it??
    biggunsatx biggunsatx 36-40, M 8 Responses Sep 12

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    So I was home alone one day with my cousin

    and we had guys over and then we started drinking and then they we had sex. Have you ever done that
    emmalacelle emmalacelle 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 10

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    A friend here pointed out

    that I seem to think that if all women were "un-fenced" or didn't have marriage vows to worry about they would think like me. He's right, I do think that. I'm not sure why. I guess I think women WANT to be more open, they just won't allow themselves to talk about it. Most women...
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 5

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    There are only two reasons I want to have sex

    with other men besides my husband. One, monogamy sucks, and two, some men want to have sex with me. Very simple really. So why so many rules?
    FrolickingFemale FrolickingFemale 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 31

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    I hate the perception of "*****" in society.

    Sleeping your way to the top- slutty. Sleeping with someone else's lover? -slutty. Sleeping around cause of bad self esteem -sad. Sleeping around because you love to have sex & want to experiment and try new things? -not slutty. As long as you're being safe, and not home...
    RMDk RMDk 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 15

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    I think we put to much pressure on wanting to

    be in a relationship rather than just enjoying someone's company. I've been forced out of great relationships because they believe talking for over two weeks needs a title. :/
    Nior18 Nior18 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 17

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    Lately (meaning in the last few years) I have

    been seeing young people (meaning children in their early and mid teens) seemingly in horrible angst about whether they are gay or straight. Hey, young'uns, chances are that you're getting a bit ahead of the horse you're trying to drive. Why shouldn't knowing whether you are...
    cornbreadandsorghum cornbreadandsorghum 70+, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    Sexuality is one of the most wonderful parts of

    being human. Why would anyone try to stifle it? Why would anyone twist something inherently beautiful into something dirty? It is not wrong or amoral to enjoy sex – to revel in lust and passion and desire. Wanting and being wanted are gifts. Acceptance, opening your body...
    Aurinne Aurinne 36-40, F 17 Responses Sep 19

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    What do you think, is there to many?

    What would you change?
    mrmarine mrmarine 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 29

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    Keeping It Classy

    I think there are too many rules about how women should act, think, feel, look, in regards to their sexuality. I think women start to believe that they should constantly worry about the impression and the image they give others....don't want to be too easy, don't want to look...
    ItsJustMe888 ItsJustMe888 31-35, F 21 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 38 Responses Sep 11

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    I have a friend who's looking

    for someone to play with tonight. Message me for her screen name.
    Xybots Xybots 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 21

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    What is the best way

    for a man to ask a woman out? Should he get to know someone or just come out and ask? Should he compliment first something he likes about a person? Do women like compliments about their figure or just about eyes, hair, intelligence, ect.?
    MC1228 MC1228 41-45, M 8 Responses Sep 19

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    loveneverdies1 loveneverdies1 18-21, F 17 Responses Aug 25

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    I'm not a heterosexual,

    homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, nor any other sexuals for that matter. I am Janelle. I love and **** whoever I want. I am just Janelle.
    IamJanelle IamJanelle 22-25, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am learning more and more to love the person

    not what is between their legs or how they present. It's just about loving each other
    AndroTaylor AndroTaylor 18-21 Aug 21

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    I find myself wondering more

    and more lately about an open marriage... I find myself wondering why that kind of freedom would feel like and if it would manifest itself differently. I've got game hahaha. Would I act on opportunities?!?! Dream on...
    mydreamsonly mydreamsonly 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 22

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    So, for anyone who has read my stories,

    you know that I want an unconventional sort of family in the future. I fully support a nude, sexually open family. I think that a family marriage bed is probably the best thing ever and I love the idea of sexual freedom in the house. That being said, I'm 25 and pure as fresh...
    eraticmoods eraticmoods 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 7

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    I firmly believe what happens between two

    consenting adults in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one else's business.
    Devinamaria Devinamaria 26-30, F 15 Responses Jan 15

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