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I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    Our society in general,

    especially the older generations, are too hypocritical. What is publicly condemned as 'sinful' or 'immoral' is what 99% of them are secretly enjoying, but of course, the public image requires them to be pure as water. I think it's evident how wrong it is to suppress the kids...
    SnowWhiteBea SnowWhiteBea 31-35, F 23 Responses Oct 28, 2015

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    We really do, and it SUCKS.

    It's something natural and beautiful and a great way to connect with people. These double standards and stereotypes bother me, your sexuality is important it's a way to explore and know more about yourself, if you save yourself up until marriage and you find out sex isn't what...
    tanyavalensi tanyavalensi 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 14, 2015

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    The most interesting sexual activity I'm

    familiar with is the "decanter." This is best done at a dinner party. A man is taken out of sight of the guests, catheterized, his bladder thoroughly cleansed, then filled with wine. No need for '47 Cheval Blanc or anything fancy; a bottle of Two Buck Chuck from Trader Joe's...
    HazelMotes HazelMotes 51-55, M 7 Responses Jan 26

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    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 22 Responses May 8, 2013

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    Two people meet and all of a sudden societal

    Rules dictates what happens. They have to be certain age, certain sex, race. If we just saw people as people with sexual needs that we could satisfy we'd all be so much happier.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    Ok....how many dates

    until you have sex? Tell me your number and your reason why!
    Indigololly Indigololly 31-35, F 45 Responses Jan 3

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    mengak mengak 26-30, M Feb 3

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    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie 18-21, F 28 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    Well the group title speaks

    for its self as some ignorant people believe that guys cant be bi but are actually gay lol no logic at all :) you should be able to do who/what you want without attaching a label to your sexuality
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 7

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    So what I like to date younger men.

    I enjoy their excitement it keeps me young.
    Ediblediane Ediblediane 36-40, F 17 Responses 4 days ago

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    DDLG/BDSM/sexuality shaming So,

    for the past year or so, I've had a private instagram account (well, I say private, but it wasn't private. I just had no one I knew following me) and I uploaded anything and everything that represented a part of me. (bdsm photos, ddlg quotes, petplay collars and leashes and...
    harleyquinn16 harleyquinn16 22-25, F 26 Responses Dec 4, 2015

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    I'm constantly hearing crap from friends

    and family for my sexual preferences. I'm guessing the old saying "you don't know if you like it til you try it" was never popular around here. No one even seems remotely interested in educating themselves in something new.
    deleted deleted 26-30 26 Responses May 6, 2015

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    I think everyone should have born

    as a bisexual or choose to be bisexual. In this way you ensure gender equality too.
    Maaren Maaren 16-17, M 4 Responses Dec 28, 2015

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure 31-35, F 22 Responses Oct 6, 2014

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    Why rules, It destroys all the fun,

    or was it breaking the rules that was fun. I don't care, sex is supposed to be fun, healthy and very nice
    niceskip niceskip 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    Can u add a friends with benefit on Facebook

    or is that clingy? We're in college, and I'm super new at this. We only had sex one time, and I've already added him on snapchat plus I have his number. Honestly we didn't define the relationship yet, but I'm sure it's safe to say we're friends with benefits because he wanted to...
    BasicGirlSally BasicGirlSally 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 3

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    yousentmeflying yousentmeflying 22-25, F 13 Responses Jan 3

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    I really live by the idea of live

    and let live, everyone should do what they love. I'm a 23 year old lesbian, my partner is a 47 year old bisexual transwoman. Many people make its very VERY clear that they don't approve of our relationship as it challenges their preconceived notions of sexuality, but we love...
    LesSara LesSara 22-25, F 6 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    This is about the women's right to terminate

    their pregnancy safely. Plz don't click if you find the topic offensive/ irrelevant to the group. There are a malicious people in every era. There are people who start war, sacrifice innocents for their personal agendas, steal from the poor, destroy the environment, kill...
    blasphemy666 blasphemy666 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 14

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    Why do you have to wait

    until 18 to have sex? It's weird. If you are ready then don't torture your body and let it have some pleasure. Everybody deserves it.
    natalypetrvicki natalypetrvicki 18-21, F 23 Responses 4 days ago

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    mrx : hey me: hi Mrx: blah blah blah me:

    blah blah blah mrx :are you virgin ? me : nope mrx : where are you from ? me: India mrx: what ???,you are from India and you are not a virgin ? it's a shame to India me : shut up (blinking) :O :O :O :- :- now what ? I haven't committed a biggest sin stop being such an...
    insatiable02 insatiable02 18-21, F 21 Responses Apr 12, 2015

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    At my 40yr mark this year I rediscovered my

    sexuality. The only difference from my 20's? I finally had an idea of what I liked.... soft bondage & domination. Exceptionally hard, in a small LDS town, to find a compatible partner w similar likes/dislikes. It's very taboo here. *Side note, I liked it PRIOR to 50 Shades of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Jun 24, 2015

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    TheQuirkyOne TheQuirkyOne 18-21, F 30 Responses Jan 6

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    Watching the new BBC adaptation of War

    and Peace, it made me appreciate how dishonest modern society is about sexuality. Sex is a fundamental aspect of sex, but the reverse is not necessarily true.
    coffeeguy80 coffeeguy80 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    I think people need to respect each other in

    order to have a healthy sexual relationship, but I don't believe love is always a factor. I often have sexual partners who agree with my view that sex can be something people do purely for the fun and enjoyment that go along with it without having to fall in love. Sometimes sex...
    AthiestLovesYou AthiestLovesYou 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 17

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    mengak mengak 26-30, M Jan 13

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    I have no idea why it needs

    so many rules and morals and bullshit. Theres only one rule that really counts: dont hurt anyone! No violence, no force – just have fun, as much as possible. Thats how i was raised and thats how i live. And believe me its fun!
    poiuztrkjhgf poiuztrkjhgf 18-21, F 31 Responses Dec 2, 2015

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    I notice a lot on this site that

    if a women talks about s*x or is open about her s*x life that she's automatically labeled a man or a s*ut like damn a women can't like sex or talk about it..
    jadagee jadagee 18-21, F 24 Responses Jan 17

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    Damn it. So I'm newly married.

    My husband doesn't have the sex drive I do & he's extremely passive to say the least. So I talked to him tonight because sex, when it does happen, feels like a routine. It's boring to be completely honest. So I bring up spicing things up (not sure where to start w him - he has...
    whatalifetolive whatalifetolive 36-40, F 58 Responses Jan 26

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    I am not good with rules.

    My sexuality belongs to me and I do as I please. Why should it be wrong to be with any person you want? If you want to give of yourself no one should have anything to say about it.
    JoyMason JoyMason 36-40, F 36 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    They say people who have multiple sex partners

    before getting tied down are more likely to be dissatisfied with their marriage. I'd like to take this with a grain of salt. After reading this article did I want to make a run for another four year commitment to celibacy? Of course, there's nothing more I want than to be...
    WhatTheMEL WhatTheMEL 26-30, F 23 Responses Oct 3, 2015

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    DESIREDATINGAGENCY101 DESIREDATINGAGENCY101 51-55, M Jan 25

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    There's nothing wrong with being a woman

    who enjoys being thoroughly enjoyed, there's nothing wrong with loving c*ocks, and dirty stories and enjoying our basic impulses.
    MmmLoveMeHarderBaby MmmLoveMeHarderBaby 26-30, F 26 Responses 1 day ago

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    I agree I think people are people we all enjoy

    different things at different times in our lives. We don't need rules to define that!
    deleted deleted 26-30 23 Responses Jul 29, 2014

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    If parents would teach their kids about sex,

    they wouldn't be going out to strangers looking to be taught and trying to find love. Again, society puts rules on us and we fail our children.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

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    I definitely think there needs to be a female

    equivalent of Viagra. It would probably save a lot of marriages.
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed 22-25, F 34 Responses Jul 11, 2015

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    Sitting here watching 50 shades of gray

    thinking of the amazingly attractive guy I started talking to bout a month ago.. He is my Mr Gray... His eyes his smile his personality his sexual needs n wants are him to a T!! If only me n him could have a red play room!
    chevyangel chevyangel 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2015

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    Ok I'm bi. The thing I hate most about being bi

    is those ******* stereotypes people assume about me. Because I'm bi I must be a hoe. Because I'm bi I must be attracted to everyone. Yeah right so guys and girls y'all beware if I'm being nice to you cuz I'm sooo totally into fking your brains out. I means WTF??? Like seriously...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Oct 27, 2015

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    armyman1001 armyman1001 36-40, M Jan 4

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    I hate it how my desires

    as a human being are judged. Who are you to tell me what I prefer because of a social standard?
    littleMissLiz21 littleMissLiz21 18-21, F 12 Responses Feb 4

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    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    deleted deleted 26-30 41 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    People judge others too much

    because they like different things! People need to realise there is nothing wrong with being adventuring and trying taboo's! Personally, I have no limits and am open for anything! Others think im f***ed up because i like animals and water sports! Seriously, its 21st century...
    deleted deleted 26-30 21 Responses Jun 16, 2015

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    Does anyone else find it strange

    that when a man is spotted in an adult store he is often (not always) labeled a sick perv. But when a woman is shopping in an adult store it is often (not always) hot or sexy... But it is said that men think of sex more than women so shouldn't it be acceptable to find a man...
    deleted deleted 26-30 18 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    What's the big deal about sex.

    Two people share an intimate part of their life together. If it's consensual, let it happen. Even married people want to explore after years with the same partner. If the two connect, let them explore. It doesn't mean the marriage is bad. It doesn't have to end. It's JUST sex.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 6

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    Let's be naughty!I want to be naughty with you.

    Are you naughty?I love being naughty...I'm a naughty person!I'm so naughty!I get a little naughty sometimes...We've all thought, heard, or have used those lines or something similar before to describe our interest in flirtation or sex. And I've been giving some thought to this...
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78 36-40, F 26 Responses Oct 31, 2015

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