I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

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    Why do we let ourselves live by other peoples

    ideals on how we should live our sexual lives..?
    amypure amypure
    31-35, F
    16 Responses Oct 6, 2014

    mrx : hey me: hi Mrx: blah blah blah me:

    blah blah blah mrx :are you virgin ? me : nope mrx : where are you from ? me: India mrx: what ???,you are from India and you are not a virgin ? it's a shame to India me : shut up (blinking) :O :O :O :- :- now what ? I haven't committed a biggest sin stop being such an...
    insatiable02 insatiable02
    18-21, F
    20 Responses Apr 12, 2015

    We really do, and it SUCKS.

    It's something natural and beautiful and a great way to connect with people. These double standards and stereotypes bother me, your sexuality is important it's a way to explore and know more about yourself, if you save yourself up until marriage and you find out sex isn't what...
    tanyavalensi tanyavalensi
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Dec 14, 2015

    I hate how some guys can't

    even talk about sex or lingerie because they think it makes them pervy... GET OVER IT!!
    KindOfPoisonous2 KindOfPoisonous2
    18-21, F
    29 Responses Feb 24

    I need a man who looks at me,

    as i lie before him, and thinks to himself "What kind of noises would i like her to make today.." P/s: You and i, we can make the world jealous, baby..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    17 Responses Mar 13
    bigunsatx bigunsatx
    36-40, M
    12 Responses Mar 8

    i am travelling in a public transport right now.

    .a night journey from Jaipur to Delhi, its a sleeper semi-Delux bus.. sleeper seat just opp. to me is occupied by a couple and the seatid covered my a thin curtain..as the bus started its journey the couple ignited their love fire..nd i am watching a live show of them..their...
    MysteriousLion MysteriousLion
    22-25, M
    Apr 21
    Yeonico Yeonico
    18-21, F
    10 Responses Apr 19

    Let's be naughty!I want to be naughty with you.

    Are you naughty?I love being naughty...I'm a naughty person!I'm so naughty!I get a little naughty sometimes...We've all thought, heard, or have used those lines or something similar before to describe our interest in flirtation or sex. And I've been giving some thought to this...
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78
    36-40, F
    22 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Like Women are Un Lady Like

    for having more than one sex partner at a time
    TooTricky2Trick TooTricky2Trick
    41-45, M
    1 Response Mar 24

    I definitely think there needs to be a female

    equivalent of Viagra. It would probably save a lot of marriages.
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed
    22-25, F
    28 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    I am not good with rules.

    My sexuality belongs to me and I do as I please. Why should it be wrong to be with any person you want? If you want to give of yourself no one should have anything to say about it.
    JoyMason JoyMason
    36-40, F
    31 Responses Oct 5, 2015

    Damn it. So I'm newly married.

    My husband doesn't have the sex drive I do & he's extremely passive to say the least. So I talked to him tonight because sex, when it does happen, feels like a routine. It's boring to be completely honest. So I bring up spicing things up (not sure where to start w him - he has...
    whatalifetolive whatalifetolive
    41-45, F
    39 Responses Jan 26

    Why do you have to wait

    until 18 to have sex? It's weird. If you are ready then don't torture your body and let it have some pleasure. Everybody deserves it.
    natalypetrvicki natalypetrvicki
    18-21, F
    20 Responses Feb 7

    This subject has been a real killer in my sex

    life. I know it's a good idea to be safe and somewhat cautious when selecting a partner to have sex with but come on, there has to be a way to get over that and actually enjoy sex. Even if it's not a long term thing, I want to be able to have a fling here and there since "the...
    Releasinginyour Releasinginyour
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 5

    Our society in general,

    especially the older generations, are too hypocritical. What is publicly condemned as 'sinful' or 'immoral' is what 99% of them are secretly enjoying, but of course, the public image requires them to be pure as water. I think it's evident how wrong it is to suppress the kids...
    SnowWhiteBea SnowWhiteBea
    31-35, F
    18 Responses Oct 28, 2015

    Sexuality is actually a really complicated

    topic. Like there's so many different kinds. If we're talking about like homosexuality and asexuality. Not sexual intercourse
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 14

    DDLG/BDSM/sexuality shaming So,

    for the past year or so, I've had a private instagram account (well, I say private, but it wasn't private. I just had no one I knew following me) and I uploaded anything and everything that represented a part of me. (bdsm photos, ddlg quotes, petplay collars and leashes and...
    harleyquinn16 harleyquinn16
    22-25, F
    23 Responses Dec 4, 2015

    after a break of 1 hour round 2 begans.

    .curtains intact properly, lights are dim nd couple has started foreplay and i m watchin them through a thin piece of cloth...lets see how long they can make out..;)
    MysteriousLion MysteriousLion
    22-25, M
    Apr 21

    At my 40yr mark this year I rediscovered my

    sexuality. The only difference from my 20's? I finally had an idea of what I liked.... soft bondage & domination. Exceptionally hard, in a small LDS town, to find a compatible partner w similar likes/dislikes. It's very taboo here. *Side note, I liked it PRIOR to 50 Shades of...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    11 Responses Jun 24, 2015

    We are sexual beings,

    yet if we explore our sexuality we are viewed negatively. I don't get that.
    bawstenbrewin bawstenbrewin
    18-21, F
    16 Responses Mar 5

    I need advice. I have been in a relationship

    with my boyfriend for over two years and have never been cared for by a sweeter, kinder person. We have the most loving relationship in every aspect EXCEPT sex. I think he is very attractive but I cringe every time he touches me, even kisses me. It's not that he's horrible, I...
    AlikiStarlette AlikiStarlette
    22-25, F
    27 Responses Mar 22

    I turn away from the sex scenes,

    skip through it, leave the room or avoid the movie/show all together. Just because the people behind the mass media has a convoluted and spoiled understanding of what sex is it doesn't mean it has to be spoiled for me. I know that sex was made for marriage and that its design...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed
    31-35, M
    1 Response Mar 18

    I notice a lot on this site that

    if a women talks about s*x or is open about her s*x life that she's automatically labeled a man or a s*ut like damn a women can't like sex or talk about it..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    17 Responses Jan 17

    No rule no hold backs.

    .. That is me, however I don't get what I need. I AM NOT ASKING FOR CHATS! Just expressing. I am married my husband is reserved, I ask, I communicate I give directions.... Sweet Jesus man!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    31 Responses Dec 16, 2014

    Female Sexuality

    I believe that we create too many rules around sexuality. Sexuality is something to be enjoyed and explored, but for many of us it is killed before we even get a proper chance to understand it. Especially in the case of female sexuality. Sex sells, we all know it. So woman has...
    Lullacus Lullacus
    22-25, F
    20 Responses May 8, 2013

    I'm tired of people having to say "It's not

    like he/she 'chose' to be gay," as an argument to justify why someone likes someone else of the same gender. Why should it fuckking matter?! So she likes a woman. He likes a man. She likes a man dressed as a woman and the possibilities go on.. Whether it is a choice or something...
    TeraLocura TeraLocura
    22-25, F
    19 Responses Sep 8, 2015

    Love making is an art form.

    And I enjoy being a talented artist.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    14 Responses Mar 12

    There shouldn't be any rules.

    Do what you like and feel comfortable with and don't let anyone else stop you or make it feel wrong.
    funluvnangel funluvnangel
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Apr 3

    Has it ever crossed you mind

    as a husband to buy sexy lingerie for you wife? so that one glimpse is enough to arouse you. has anyone tried that here?
    raghavangp raghavangp
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 30

    Don't rush. We are not in a hurry,

    babe. ... Man up and go down!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    30 Responses Mar 14

    I am insanely attracted to large inner labia.

    I think they are sexy beyond words and deserve more appreciation.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 15

    I think most people are prudes like I'm not

    totally innocent and I don't think you should wave your junk around in public but these ppl make rules about stuff and it's like just back off its my life
    KittyCakeBooty KittyCakeBooty
    13-15, F
    4 Responses Mar 10

    I hate it how my desires

    as a human being are judged. Who are you to tell me what I prefer because of a social standard?
    littleMissLiz21 littleMissLiz21
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Feb 4

    They say people who have multiple sex partners

    before getting tied down are more likely to be dissatisfied with their marriage. I'd like to take this with a grain of salt. After reading this article did I want to make a run for another four year commitment to celibacy? Of course, there's nothing more I want than to be...
    WhatTheMEL WhatTheMEL
    26-30, F
    23 Responses Oct 3, 2015

    I'm constantly hearing crap from friends

    and family for my sexual preferences. I'm guessing the old saying "you don't know if you like it til you try it" was never popular around here. No one even seems remotely interested in educating themselves in something new.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    24 Responses May 6, 2015

    I have no idea why it needs

    so many rules and morals and bullshit. Theres only one rule that really counts: dont hurt anyone! No violence, no force – just have fun, as much as possible. Thats how i was raised and thats how i live. And believe me its fun!
    poiuztrkjhgf poiuztrkjhgf
    18-21, F
    24 Responses Dec 2, 2015

    I dont mind those rules cuz its fun to break

    them :) But sure noone needs more than 1 rule which is: anything goes... as long as its fun for both!
    sexxie99aussie sexxie99aussie
    18-21, F
    26 Responses Sep 11, 2014

    People judge others too much

    because they like different things! People need to realise there is nothing wrong with being adventuring and trying taboo's! Personally, I have no limits and am open for anything! Others think im f***ed up because i like animals and water sports! Seriously, its 21st century...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    18 Responses Jun 16, 2015
    bigunsatx bigunsatx
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Mar 7

    i am travelling in a public transport right now.

    .a night journey from Jaipur to Delhi, its a sleeper semi-Delux bus.. sleeper seat just opp. to me is occupied by a couple and the seatid covered my a thin curtain..as the bus started its journey the couple ignited their love fire..nd i am watching a live show of them..their...
    MysteriousLion MysteriousLion
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Apr 21

    Dude, try going down a waterslide without water.

    Then you'll understand how important foreplay is. P/s: And the best foreplay always starts with "Good Morning, beautiful". ---6am in this part of the world,now :)
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    14 Responses Mar 19

    Lets chat as much as we can,

    let us get connect to many members whom we always wanted to talk, i am up for any type of chat..i would love to know about you first rather than small chats..i am up for any topic., discussion anything
    MysteriousLion MysteriousLion
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 30

    How many people would you have Sex with today

    if you could get away with it ?
    TooTricky2Trick TooTricky2Trick
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Apr 1

    Have anyone here been to one of those illegal

    clubs where sex and women is a trade? something like wife exchange or sort of stuffs? I had only heard of these kind of stuffs but never really been one, but have sort of been into one....sort of...There it was a game, like wives are let to walk on a tramp with whatever sexy...
    swtlve swtlve
    22-25
    Apr 16

    Really babe? With all those sexy texts i sent

    you the whole day today, you came home at 10, ran on the treadmill for an hour and now lying in your towel watching Netflix?? I don't mean to sound like a dude, but it has been 2-3 days and i'm having trouble concentrating!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    15 Responses Mar 16

    You know I'm f*cking pissed

    so I'm an escort so everyone automatically assumes I have s*x with all the guys I go on dates with I went on about 30 dates and I only slept with 5 of the guys most of the guys just want a hot young girl to talk to about there problems or show me off to there friends so no I'm...
    heyitsmaddie heyitsmaddie
    18-21, F
    30 Responses Feb 8

    Just relax, do what you want to do.

    ..stop putting others down for something you might not understand or don't agree with. Stop applying your own personal rules and opinions on to everyone else. Live your own life and let everyone else live theirs.
    TheGreatKate TheGreatKate
    22-25, F
    18 Responses Dec 8, 2015

    There's nothing wrong with being a woman

    who enjoys being thoroughly enjoyed, there's nothing wrong with loving c*ocks, and dirty stories and enjoying our basic impulses.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    23 Responses Feb 10

    yes and gay marriage is

    so wrong why can't you all be happy how you chose to live.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 14
    imalright71 imalright71
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Apr 2

    Hi, girls. I am hot guy,

    add me pls, skype - mengak
    mengak mengak
    26-30, M
    Apr 10

    Just an observation here.

    It seems, for me anyways, that posting something sexual is what draws people into conversation w me. Since getting married and become more tame I get less and less intersection. However, how much of a good convo am I missing if that's the only thing that draws you in. Just...
    whatalifetolive whatalifetolive
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Mar 20

    What is wrong with me loving the art of s*x

    and crave it? Or me playing with myself while I look at p*rn? It doesn't make a man or fake it just makes me a horny little girl;) so screw me..
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    17 Responses Mar 13

    Last week was memorable.

    I ended up staying with my grand parents and I thought it would be hectic but it turned out to be the most memorable.. They are totally with my nudity..had a great week with them...
    swtlve swtlve
    22-25
    Apr 16
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