I Think You Must Be Depressed To Understand Depression

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    I've listened to the song "How Do You Get That

    Lonely" by Blaine Larsen. It's a song about a 18 year old boy who committed suicide Unexpectingly. It goes: How do you get that lonely, how do you hurt that bad To make you make the call, that havin' no life at all Is better than the life that you had How do you feel so empty...
    TheEnduringSunrise TheEnduringSunrise
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 25, 2015

    If someone has never experienced depression.

    ..then they have NO idea how bad it can be & have no business trying to tell anyone who had/has depression to just "snap out of it." Or "What do you have to be depressed about?" Then there's my favorite "There are people worse off than you." Really??? I care about other...
    RubyLane RubyLane
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Nov 23, 2015

    they say you cant judge a book by its cover,

    you cant feel it by reading it you need to walk more than a mile in that persons shoes and never judge or say i know how are feeling. ask do you want to talk about it? nobody has ever asked me that and i need that
    catnip5 catnip5
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015
    Aamir316 Aamir316
    26-30, M
    Jul 23, 2015

    I'm so freaked out, there is a women

    that lives next door, I have a crush on her, although she is twice my age, but I just can't help my self starting a conversation with her every time I get a chance. But then, It is her daughter who hits on me, the worst thing is that even her mother who is my crush thinks that...
    Aamir316 Aamir316
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jul 27, 2015

    Jimi The Sensitive Genius

     I think a person has to be depressed to truly understand what it is.  People think it is sadness but it is not.  People think it's self-loathing which it's not.  People think it's anxiety but it's not.  Depressed people are sad more often, they...
    ReformedAutomaton ReformedAutomaton
    41-45, M
    6 Responses Dec 26, 2009

    Totally Agree With The Title Of This Group

    I've battled with depression since high school! Now i'm 22 and in college. I still struggle with it. The lack of energy or motivation to do anything, feeling like **** all the time, not wanting to talk to anyone or even see anyone, etc... It really, really, sucks! I hate feeling...
    carriewolf12 carriewolf12
    26-30, T
    1 Response Sep 5, 2011

    My friends say they understand my depression

    but I don't really think they have been depressed for real. They don't always understand my pain.
    Music4Us Music4Us
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 1, 2015

    I try to tell my friends what it's like to be

    depressed but unless they have been themselves they don't understand. It's just so hard to explain unless you've been there. I think people who've never been depressed always want to know the "reason" why you're depressed, as though they can get rid of one thing and make...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 13, 2014

    True. This goes for everything.

    You can't understand someone unless you've been through the same stuff they have.
    weirdcharlie weirdcharlie
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2015

    It is raining heavily here in Texas .

    Somehow I always experience an increase in depression when it is raining. Intellectually I know that rain is necessary for things to grow, but I wish it would never rain.
    texassvt texassvt
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

    I just saw this performance by a young lady

    who has been battling anxiety/depression her whole life ... I hope it inspires you ... you can see it in her face .... she's fighting the fear ... and she wins!!!! http://youtu.be/XO-abUhL_Ws
    GuruGoddess GuruGoddess
    26-30, F
    Mar 7, 2015

    A few friends told me,

    that even though i'm always smiling, always laughing, always giggling as if i'm the most optimistic in the world; I don't actually look happy. At first, I was confused, I did not understand why they would say that, and how did I appear to be unhappy in anyway? I'm usually the...
    deleted deleted
    Oct 28, 2015

    I Cannot "snap Out Of It"

    So, I went on a couple of dates with this new guy, and I've told him that I'm depressed. I'm not ashamed of it. It's an illness, just like diabetes or cancer, and I need help for it. We get into a conversation about it. He says, "Well, aren't you happy when . . ." and...
    IAmReaching IAmReaching
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Jan 16, 2010

    Just Ignore Me.

    When I'm depressed, I really don't want you to try to make me feel better.  I don't want you to talk to me.  I don't want you to worry about me.  I want you to pretend that everything is fine and dandy.  It is NOT your job to fix me.  And when I say...
    DopeyGirl DopeyGirl
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Jan 14, 2010

    I am about to open my heart completely in here.

    Today I am living one of the worst days of my life and yes. It's depression, this ghost that has been haunting my life for a long time in my "relatively" short life. I am posting here because I need people that have depression to understand me, not that it's self-pity or what...
    Allaloneandpoisoned Allaloneandpoisoned
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2014

    I Agree.

    I think people confuse clinical depression with the feeling of being "depressed", and I truly believe that it is impossible for others to understand unless they have been through it. I also think that in today's society people are more likely to seek medical help for simply...
    evapilot1 evapilot1
    6 Responses Oct 25, 2013

    I Hope You Never Understand Me

    I have suffered from depression for about 10 years now. I learned years ago that the only people who can really understand it are people who have been depressed or still are.
    BittenDog BittenDog
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 2, 2011

    I'm Not Even Sure That Depressed People Understand...

    I've been there and back.  I was diagnosed with multiple major permanent disorders, which seemed to stick with me for over a decade.  And then, one day I decided to struggle against it as if I had nothing to lose.  I guess I figured that if I had lived with it as...
    zenandi zenandi
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2010

    Does anyone else suffer from hyperhidrosis

    or excessive sweating? This is such a depressive condition to suffer from.
    pbarn pbarn
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 15, 2016

    it doesn't help to be nice.

    i haven't done anything bad to anybody the end result is a ****** job that breeds depression.
    mikemettal mikemettal
    26-30, M
    Nov 3, 2015

    Help Me! I Hate This Site! I Cannot Navigate It And I Do Not Have The Patience

    Hello, I came to this site hoping to find a support group for what I am going through. Apparntly one does not exist, and I cant figure out how to make one. I'm feeling very alone and frustrated now. I Have been married now for 2 years to my best friend and the most amazing and...
    ThatOneGrl ThatOneGrl
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2010

    People think that it's

    so easy to battle depression when it's not. So many recommend exercising, going out, getting a new hobby or eating healthy. Yet how can someone do that when their depression closes that path for them. "It's just in your head!" "it's a phase! you'll grow out of it" Yes it's in...
    carazami carazami
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    That's why we need you!

    Talk about depression, suicide, mental illnesses. Bulying, abandonment... and much more http://live-another-day.boards.net/
    driftingalone driftingalone
    18-21, F
    Jan 23, 2016

    I Think You Must Be Depressed To Understand Depression - Really?

     I Think You Must Be Depressed To Understand Depression    I don't really agree with this, it is like saying you must be an alcoholic to understand alcoholism, or a rapist to understand rape or a child molester to understand child molestation.  I think...
    DeepForest DeepForest
    12 Responses Feb 21, 2010

    i feel that there isn't any social networking

    site were its acceptable and okay to speak about yourself and your illness
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 16, 2015

    who enjoys running? it helps me with my

    depression. I have not done it for couple of years but going to start again this year :)
    pbarn pbarn
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    Happy People, I'm Ok Without You "knowing How I Feel"

    Allow me to borrow from my dear life mentor once again. I have had clinical/ ****** life circumstantial depression for over 20 years now. This song makes me laugh again, because Moz writes about depressive autonomy SO well. He lives it and so he knows it. Have a bonding moment...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    38 Responses Jan 14, 2010

    ...or At Least Have A Very Open Mind

    ......which is sadly one of the hardest things to find.The taboo about depression is alive and kicking in 2010.In the offline world it is hard to talk about it without frequently having these "life experts" who don´t know what depression is,  telling you it is...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2010

    You might be able to empathize,

    but that's it. I think to truly understand how something is, you would have to have experienced it firsthand.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    Depressed & Depression

    If a person never suffered from depression, they may understand but they don't know what it's like.  Mental illness is not understood by many and some people lack empathy for the one's who are suffering from it.  When some people hear that some ...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Oct 7, 2010

    I agree here. I've been very depressed due to

    various events going on in life, such as a break up, feeling lonely and feeling like I'm not good enough for anything. Sometimes I stay in bed all day. I feel like I'm stuck. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
    starsareblind89 starsareblind89
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

    Depression Is A Highly Misunderstood Illness

    I think the title to this group is a bit misleading.  I wouldn't exactly say you must be "depressed" to understand depression because quiet frankly people throw that word around ever chance they get.  I do think, however, you have to be in or have been in a state of...
    Lighthouse Lighthouse
    36-40, F
    19 Responses Jun 28, 2010
    pbarn pbarn
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016

    i have been severly depressed

    for a long time. it made me think of depression in a whole new perspective. it is so so hard and itit take a lot of time to break free from... i think it is possible but very hard to just imagine how it feels like,
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 15, 2014

    Black Dog Days Vs. Lou Reed Lows

    Everybody has a down day now and then. Winston Churchill, whose depression was actually clinical and very severe, labelled his down days "black dog days". I tend to experience the occasional black dog day now that I'm medicated and I am very lucky that I survived what I refer to...
    lolasinn7 lolasinn7
    26-30, F
    Jun 28, 2010
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