I Try Not to Judge

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    A dear friend of mine was doing some things

    that hurt me. I had a frank discussion first to let her know they hurt me and to ask why she was doing this. I just don't understand the behavior. Now I'm cut off for being judgmental. I was asking why. How can I judge what I dint fully understand
    mrennie61 mrennie61
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 16, 2014

    I try not to judge without getting to know the

    person first! First impressions don't count neither because that person could have been having a bad day, get to know the person! Something I learn
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

    It's Wrong

    I don't like people judging me (even though they do anyway) because I'm older, because I'm fat or for whatever other reason they can come up with. How I look, how I live my life is not for anyone to judge. How other people want to live...is not for me to judge either or for...
    RubyLane RubyLane
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 4, 2012

    Honestly who doesn't judge?

    Subconsciously we all do judge just in a different manner don't you think? Judging can be positive or negative but judging is classified as a bad thing because people only voice the negative things that they judge.
    RebelFighter RebelFighter
    16-17, F
    Aug 25, 2015

    Always That One

    I usually don't judge people at all!! But sometimes there's always this one person who eats at my skin because of certain things they do. Like the immoral, wrong and pathetic reasons to hurt someone else. If you've hurt someone I care about and you come up with a lame...
    HazelEyedWolf HazelEyedWolf
    18-21, F
    Nov 21, 2013

    I Try

    I really do try not to judge people.. I' don't always succeed, but at least I've realized it's wrong to judge people, and I know when I do it.. So, now I try to control it... which it several steps ahead of most of this planet's population.
    WorldlySheep WorldlySheep
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 11, 2007

    I admit, a lot of times I judge people based on

    the way they look. But, then afterwards I feel bad because you just have no idea what he/she is going through. But, a lot of times I don't judge you unless I really know you.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 9, 2015

    I Am Not God

    In my eyes I have no right to sit back and judge people. Behind every person is a story. To look at someone and judge them would be implying that I know their entire life story.  I accept people for what they are. Everybody has a story, and their story has moulded them into...
    amyjo3 amyjo3
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2009

    Judge and Jury

    I try not to Judge because I don't want people to Judge me.  Not only do people Judge other people but they have there own little jury going on also. 
    dixie934 dixie934
    41-45, F
    Nov 12, 2007

    Dictionary Definition Of The Word Judgement

    The ability to make a decision and form an opinion objectively.
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti
    36-40, F
    Dec 26, 2012

    Judging Others

    "Do not judge, or you to will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Matthew 7:1-2
    confusedchristian confusedchristian
    18-21, F
    Jun 15, 2010

    I Try Not To Judge...but I Still Do

    It is very hard to not judge people. Your just going along with your life, minding your own business, and some loud obnoxious person, will pass by, and you will make judgments about them and their behavior, their upbringing. I go to the local market to buy groceries, and this...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    1 Response Mar 13, 2011

    The Truth Of The Matter Really

    is that a lot of people in life have taken the Christian principle "Judge not lest ye be judged" and used it and abused it to drastic proportions allowing themselves to get away with all kinds of things in life. There is a huge difference between disliking a choice someone made...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti
    36-40, F
    Dec 26, 2012

    I am only responsible

    for myself, not others. Judgment is reserved for the soul within each individual.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 2, 2015

    Try Anyways

    I try  not to judge....  to each their own. live in peace be  who you are leave me alone and ill leave you alone
    MeltedFlowers MeltedFlowers
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 29, 2010


    For everyone who abuses the principle "Do not judge me" that the world has been doing to not feel guilty of things they want to do, you need to stop riding the fence on this. I don't think or say "Do not judge me". But I notice everybody who says "Do not judge" supports judgement...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti
    36-40, F
    Jan 19, 2013

    I'm not saying I "judge" people,

    also not saying that I don "judge" people. I'm saying I look at certain kinds of people in a certain way. people who look and act in a certain way don't expect to be stereotyped, and get mad when people putt them in that stereotype. It's just annoying - you don't want to be...
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    22-25, F
    Dec 4, 2014

    I Try Not to Judge...

    ... because there is always a reason why someone is this or that way. A reason I probably will never know. And so do I have my reasons why Im the person I am. And I wouldnt want to be judged because of that. Its not always easy but everyday I try a little bit more to be objective...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 29, 2008

    I Try...but

    There are just somethings that just seem so wrong on so many levels to me. Murder, rape, ******...I'm sure there are others but these things seem heinous to me. I just cannot wrap my mind around them. I can't understand them...I hope I never have to. Certain groups on here are...
    SweetlyLingering SweetlyLingering
    70+, F
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2012

    Why Judge?

    I know everyone does it--it's human nature--but it's really not necessary to judge people. Chances are, your impression is completely wrong, and then you end up thinking something of someone that is entirely false. I'm friends with a lot of eclectic people thanks to my striving...
    Yellowrhapsody Yellowrhapsody
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2008

    I Try My Hardest...

    I try my hardest not to judge others in my school. But half them are mean like hell :/ . I don't like being judged and don't like to judge others but I can't help it. I always feel like I'm being judged so why can't I judge others if they can judge me? but then i al;ways say...
    JennyNiceGirl JennyNiceGirl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 8, 2012

    I try to be open about things

    and try to understand people and other characteristics that are different from me and my world view. In other words, I don't want to make up my mind about something before getting to know about it: don't judge a book by its cover :P
    arai12 arai12
    18-21, F
    Jan 3

    I really do try. But this new hire at my work

    looks like a creeper. I just hope if my coworkers **** him off, he will spare me when he shoots up the place. I dern sure ain't picking on him.
    deleted deleted
    Oct 22, 2015

    I Do My Best And Wish Others Would Try As Well

    I do my very best to not judge people and I think it is very important. I have been judged and if there are not ramifications it is not really a problem, but it can be a horror if it does. I was fired for discriminatory reasons and I am currently trying to fight it, but it is a...
    BittenDog BittenDog
    46-50, M
    Nov 30, 2010
    FoxFan64 FoxFan64
    16-17, M
    Jun 19, 2015

    I Try.....

    I also try not to judge, before I have a chance to know someone. I have put my foot in my mouth so many times when I was younger . Before I learned to not judge until I've gone through the same thing. You don't know what you would do in the same situation as someone else until...
    daydreamin daydreamin
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2007

    You should never judge a book by it's cover.

    . you never know what you'll find once you begin to read the pages lolz
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 7, 2015

    I Can Not Judge You

    I have not lived your life.  I have not seen what you have seen.  I do not know your thought process. Of course i could make assumptions.... but you know what happens when you assume things. For me to judge your actions is ridiculous. How do i KNOW i would not react...
    Tacit Tacit
    22-25, F
    Jun 30, 2008

    Judging Vs Opinon

    I try not to judge how someone wants to live their life, but that does not mean I do not have an opinon on the subject.  A opinon is not a judgement.  I can disagree with you just as you can disagree with me.  This opens us up to a great discussion.  It is...
    allofus allofus
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 13, 2010

    Yes but sometimes I can't help it.

    If this someone looks dangerous in a way, I'd back off.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 15, 2015

    Because I Know Why I Shouldn't.

    I remember when me and my mum were in a shop and we saw this really thin woman, buying loads of chocolate and sweets. My mum said, "wow, I wish I could eat what I liked and be as thin as you!" and the woman laughed but then said, "I have a condition in which I can't gain any...
    FadedSilhouette FadedSilhouette
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 31, 2013

    I'm not a girl who would spread a rumor about

    somebody. In fact, I don't mix-in with any typical girl group at school at all. I try really hard to avoid them because every girl at my school likes girl talk, and girl talk is terrifying for a girl who doesn't want to say anything bad about someone.
    acitythatneverwakesup acitythatneverwakesup
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 4, 2014

    I'm trying to work on that

    because I've notice I'm always saying something about someone I know and how they are stupid or dating some one they should not and when I noticed that, I just smh at my dam self . I'm like chick you are in no position to Judge any one get a grip ... After all the follies and...
    Prettibrowngirl Prettibrowngirl
    70+, F
    May 16, 2015

    Acceptance Is a Form of Judgement

    I've always thought that accepting and judging were two different concepts.  If you accept someone as the they are, you're not judging, right?  Our friends have their opinions, our spouses another, even  the people we meet on the street.  What do we say when...
    goddessone goddessone
    41-45, F
    20 Responses Mar 4, 2008
    NomadAngel117 NomadAngel117
    18-21, M
    2 Responses May 3, 2015


    My room mate wished to introduce me to a family he has been helping out for a few years. He drove them around from place to place. He bought them food, clothes, listened to their problems and taught them a better way to do things. When we first drove up into their driveway... my...
    MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
    56-60, F
    1 Response Dec 2, 2012

    I used to go hang out in a Gas Station.

    Liked the Cashier Woman. She is kinda cool, kind, feed me always.. free. Friendly. Then I was stalk by someone sweet heart or Prep Girl. She came and be friends with her. They took each other picture on phone. She told me about a person name TOM David. That, he is been out of...
    abcdlabway abcdlabway
    56-60, F
    Dec 29, 2014

    It's A Challenge

    I try not to judge... It's really hard not to for me.. I was judged alot when I was younger..I know tht would give me sense of wht it feels like so I don't do it but I do.. My mom says I won't be liked..I'm trying harder not...it's hard not to find the bad things about someone...
    GuardianAngel9400 GuardianAngel9400
    13-15, F
    1 Response Aug 18, 2012

    I have two wonderful best friends

    that I love unconditionally, but one of them is a little bit closed-minded and criticizes me at least once every time we see each other. I don't really care but I do wish I could meet and have people more like myself around me. I love tolerant, free, genuine people.
    LifeTheCageDeathTheKey LifeTheCageDeathTheKey
    22-25, M
    Sep 27, 2014

    I'm usually very open minded

    but some people make it hard
    DiamondAuthority DiamondAuthority
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 14, 2015

    Judge and Be Judged

    I try not to automatically form an opinion about someone ..  but to look for the good in all people but its hard ... especially when people screw you over ....  i hate labels ... but as ive said many times people usually form an opinion of me right away good or bad...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    Aug 23, 2007
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