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    Unhappily Married

    hello..first time here so bear with me. I have been married for 20 years and I am so unhappy. There is so much missing in my marriage..affection..laughter..just talking. My husband is a very OCD type person and i never feel like I ever do anything right in his eyes. I used to be...
    ja45 ja45 41-45 2 Responses Mar 17, 2009

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    Is this normal ? I have been married 5 years

    with 3 children and 2 children from a precious relationship. I thought I met the man of my dreams! I am happy when he is at work but when he returns I feel like I am walking on egg shells. Nothing I do is ever good enough. I run 3 businesses from home plus look after the...
    skyblue75 skyblue75 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    Wrong Answer

    my wife asks me things but its clear from the outset she only wants one answer, what she wants,an example of this was last night she asked me if i wanted a meal with her parents,i have been stalling over the last week or so to give an answer, so i told her i wasnt really bothered...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    It's sad that I married someone despite

    everyone in my life telling me not too. I'm now in a marriage where everyday I find more reasons not to love home. Regretting means not having my wonderful daughter.
    rloves rloves 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    Unhappily Married

     We havent been married long. About a yr and half. We had our problems in the beginning with him lying to me and now the trust is shot for me. Our sex life is horrible. I suspect hes bi. He had told me that his first wife also thought he was gay. Its very hard having sex...
    Irelandclover Irelandclover 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    Don't Know What To Do

    My husband and I have been married for about 3 yrs and after being married I have been in and out of the hospital for deppresion for the 1st yr, after the going through a yr of trying to find the right meds we moved into our own home we got through the state. We lived there for 1...
    mickiecakes mickiecakes 31-35, F Mar 16, 2012

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    Unhappy In My Marriage

    I am a 34 years old woman. and I've been married for 15 years and have 3 children 11,14,16. I feel the only good thing that has come out of this marriage is my children. Though I have a long list of unhappy moments, I will name just a few. 4years ago my husband cheated. When I...
    Blueklm Blueklm 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    This Is My Sad Life

    I have been married for 15 years, and I'm so ******* unhappy. I feel sorry for my unhappy, miserable, husband and I thinks thats why I stay.
    ladyiebee6 ladyiebee6 41-45 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    No Support

    I am finding everything so hard, i have no friends and no support. I am trying to get things moving in splitting up with my wife. But I have to do it all in almost secret because nobody knows really what is happening. My wife has friends and her parents, i have just me
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    Hi. I just need to get this off my chest,

    and I don't know who to turn to. I have a therapist, and she's great, but expensive. I have been married for 19 years. Most of those years have been difficult. My husband and I have 3 children. I am 42, he will turn 46 soon. I am a stay-at-home-mom. This is what I always...
    kat2027 kat2027 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    Unhappily Married

    i have been married for 6 years with 2 small children, whom i love and adore; but i have to say the more that life goes on; i just hate being married to my husband; i don't think that i have ever met such a lazy, sloppy, selfish, good for nothing excuse for a human being in my...
    mcquay mcquay 36-40 2 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    I Can't Talk To My Wife.

    This might seem strange but i just can't talk to my wife, i just clam up and the words just won't come out, then after i feel really frustrated that i couldn't say anything. I guess it's mostly because of the way things have been in the past especially with her bad temper and...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2012

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    Thinking It May Already Be Over

    Me and my husband were highschool sweethearts, we have 2 children, and have been married for 7 months now, we use to laugh with each other and play around and were so in love, but now every time we try to joke with each other we fight, the littlest things make us fight, it got a...
    Tinacart Tinacart 18-21 Feb 2, 2013

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    I think dudes cheat when theyre married

    because they get bored of their wife after awhile. What yall think?
    kstewartt kstewartt 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    Very Confused

    I have been married for 3 years now. It was nice at first, he was (and  still is ) a very nice guy. Loved me very much. However we come from very different backgrounds and have some different values. There are many things that keep us apart. About six months ago we had a...
    spring87 spring87 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    12 Years Of Misery

    There were red flags from the begining of the marriage. He had two children from a previous relationship and still lived at home with his mom and dad. I was looking at the potential I thioughty he had. Has the years went on I realized he never had a plan for us. After being...
    bxlb bxlb 36-40 1 Response Mar 23, 2013

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    I Guess This Is Me

    is it my own fault? i stopped xdressing at my wifes request 1 years ago should i have carried on i think so now thinking of all those wasted yours when i could have been a woman if she accpets me as one, that is fine i wouldnt mind living as 2 old women together it is...
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T Apr 4, 2013

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    Confused Mother Of 2, Deep Beat Husband

    I have been married for 6 years now and have 2 amazing children.  My husband was injured almost 3 years ago and has been home on disability.  He can still get around and help with the house. However,  he does very little to help.    I work full...
    nowwhattodo nowwhattodo 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Newly Wed

    I am new to this. I am 20 years old and married and pregnant. I am also unhappy. He always works. He tells me that he works for me so he can take care of me but because we are newly wed I just want to be taken care. Given some tender care. Loved but not smothered. But it seems he...
    Sweety06 Sweety06 18-21 Oct 10, 2008

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    My Husband Is A Demon.

    First of all, I'm super relieved that there is a site where I can vent; this was the first site that came up after I googled: 'I hate my husband'. Well, I've been with my husband for 6 years; have been married since December 2012. Why I got married? Well, I ask myself that...
    MyLittleLambs13 MyLittleLambs13 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Two Weeks ; Too Soon

    My husband and I have been married for only two weeks, and from the second that we signed those papers I've been growing increasingly unhappier. I have no idea why. He has never been anything but wonderful to me. He treats me like an absolute princess - but for some reason I...
    bbbrie bbbrie 18-21 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    Sad, Lonely and Confused

    So I can't believe I'm here, but here I am. I am so unhappy in my marriage. I still love my husband sometimes but more and more often I find that I despise him. I never knew someone's soulmate could turn around and be so incredibly selfish. He is fourty years old and completely...
    sad1 sad1 36-40 3 Responses Mar 20, 2009

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    Journey Together

    I don't want anyone to think I've got a bad life, I've got a great one, but I'm unhappily married and always have been. I was very abused by my parents and just wanted out. I had next to no social skills and certaintly didn't know what to look for in a marriage partner. I had no...
    abbie11 abbie11 46-50 Mar 27, 2012

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    Is It Possible to Regain Trust?

    I married my long time lover and have been married 22 years.  He has verbally abused me, been unkind, unfair, yet he has also been a dream man -much of the time.  He was raised by a controlling, disrespectful father.  I am a people pleaser , plus I could not...
    bellaella bellaella 46-50 6 Responses Feb 3, 2009

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    So Unhappy In My Marriage

    I have been in this marriage for close to 30 years. We have had no intimate contact since the mid 1990s. He has a short fuse and blows up over the littlest thing. He controls everything. If I step out of line he will blow up at me. He decides which vehicles I am "allowed" to...
    needstofindsomeonetolove needstofindsomeonetolove 51-55 3 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Failure In Marriage...

    It seems that bad decisions are following my way of life.  My first marriage ended after 2 years with a overposessed ex-wife. My current marriage is with a woman that's 10 years younger than me (I am 37).  We were roommates for 3 years, then spilled...
    FailedAgain FailedAgain 36-40 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    What Is Going On

    This is what my father in law said when he came to visit me. I was made to feel really intimidated and pressured in my own home. How am I supposed to say anything to him, he will always defend and support his daughter. Nobody knows what i feel and i can't cope with it
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    And I can not apologize for the rest of my life for what I did. Either get over it or move on
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    Wow its been a while since i posted my last experience... My counseling doing pretty well now... Not perfect but seem make my life a bit better... Ive been in and out hospital in...
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    Hoping and wishing one day the right one will come along!
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    Dear my husband.If you don't love me and want a divorce ,why don't you just tell me then leave .why do you even stay,and keep lying to me. I will wait until my financial is sate...
    brokenheartcry brokenheartcry 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 13

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    So today we will have my grand daughters 2nd birthday party at our house Day already filled with trepidation as my abuser (narcisstic husband) of course couldn't do the 2 things...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 13

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    I come to this site , to share my experience and seek support and friendship from others whom have either experienced or are experiencing similar just as many others do However...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    ok i'm 21 years old i still go By my given name yes i'm a at home house wife yes i know he was gay from the get go we started it off as high school friends when we started college...
    thelostboyxxx thelostboyxxx 18-21 Sep 10

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    five years later i regret marrying my female partner ;-( i should never have married her, i married her after id been hurt by one man one betrayed me the other guy was a sexual...
    gypsylife2014 gypsylife2014 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    In December, my lovely fiance and I will be married. He is enlisting in the Army and I've never met someone as amazing and weirdly awesome. I just can't imagine being with anyone...
    WynonnaMarye WynonnaMarye 18-21, F 16 hrs ago

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    I have been married for 10 years, together for 14. My husband and I have two children together. Almost our entire relationship he has worked two jobs, almost never home and even...
    dragonflydreams dragonflydreams 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    So I got married 6 weeks ago today. As soon as we said I do all the love stopped. He is an alcoholic and promised to detox and go to treatment. He did do the detox and I stayed by...
    mischa1975 mischa1975 36-40, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    I'm 24 years old, married, and have 3 kids. My children are my life, there all I have left in this world. I'm married to a guy that drinks every other day. He suffers from anxiety...
    Precious2009 Precious2009 22-25, F Sep 9

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    i wanted to get married ,,but now im not too sure any more .maybe too many near misses ...but what ever the reason i dont know any more just sitting on the fence i guess..i know a...
    amie26 amie26 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 10

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    Hello Everyone, My first post here, and the first time I've ever expressed this to anyone. I've been going crazy inside for years now and feel like I'm going to explode if I don...
    theunfree theunfree 41-45, M 6 Responses Sep 12

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    Am I happily married? In some respects yes, in some respects no. I think that is a rather normal reaction for one who has been married 25 years.
    KnightMoves KnightMoves 46-50, M 10 Responses Aug 23

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    I am married. We just got married in April. I am about to deploy for 6 months (military duties). I am so nervous. I hope my husband will be able to hold us down until I get...
    Optimistic813 Optimistic813 22-25, F 10 Responses Aug 24

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    Hi all... I just wanted to share my experience and hope to get some feedback. I have been seeing a married man for almost 6 months now. Now he's just not anyone. He and I used...
    AvaLennon AvaLennon 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    I am going to be married to my love.But this is not happening grandly as I always wised for as we both belong to different caste(Its still a big issue in India) . Still I owe my...
    TrueLoverN TrueLoverN 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I married a man who is not who I thought he was and now I feel completely trapped .... I need a break ... I don't think I was meant to be married ... I give too much of myself and...
    season82 season82 31-35, F 23 Responses Aug 29

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    I am married on 2nd Sept. 2011. Now coming our third wedding anniversary on coming 2nd. Still we are couples and nobody come to our life (Children). May be this is the last wedding...
    tanoos tanoos 26-30, M Aug 30

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    I don't really admit it, and act as if am fine. But its hard to ignore the fact that my ex is getting married today. Am trying to stay away as much as possible but its kind of very...
    anonymousandlost anonymousandlost 22-25, F Aug 30

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