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    Unhappily Married

    hello..first time here so bear with me. I have been married for 20 years and I am so unhappy. There is so much missing in my marriage..affection..laughter..just talking. My husband is a very OCD type person and i never feel like I ever do anything right in his eyes. I used to be...
    ja45 ja45 41-45 2 Responses Mar 17, 2009

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    Thinking It May Already Be Over

    Me and my husband were highschool sweethearts, we have 2 children, and have been married for 7 months now, we use to laugh with each other and play around and were so in love, but now every time we try to joke with each other we fight, the littlest things make us fight, it got a...
    Tinacart Tinacart 18-21 Feb 2, 2013

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    So Unhappy In My Marriage

    I have been in this marriage for close to 30 years. We have had no intimate contact since the mid 1990s. He has a short fuse and blows up over the littlest thing. He controls everything. If I step out of line he will blow up at me. He decides which vehicles I am "allowed" to...
    needstofindsomeonetolove needstofindsomeonetolove 51-55 3 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Unhappily Married

     We havent been married long. About a yr and half. We had our problems in the beginning with him lying to me and now the trust is shot for me. Our sex life is horrible. I suspect hes bi. He had told me that his first wife also thought he was gay. Its very hard having sex...
    Irelandclover Irelandclover 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    I Can't Talk To My Wife.

    This might seem strange but i just can't talk to my wife, i just clam up and the words just won't come out, then after i feel really frustrated that i couldn't say anything. I guess it's mostly because of the way things have been in the past especially with her bad temper and...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 15, 2012

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    Don't Know What To Do

    My husband and I have been married for about 3 yrs and after being married I have been in and out of the hospital for deppresion for the 1st yr, after the going through a yr of trying to find the right meds we moved into our own home we got through the state. We lived there for 1...
    mickiecakes mickiecakes 31-35, F Mar 16, 2012

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    Very Confused

    I have been married for 3 years now. It was nice at first, he was (and  still is ) a very nice guy. Loved me very much. However we come from very different backgrounds and have some different values. There are many things that keep us apart. About six months ago we had a...
    spring87 spring87 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    I Guess This Is Me

    is it my own fault? i stopped xdressing at my wifes request 1 years ago should i have carried on i think so now thinking of all those wasted yours when i could have been a woman if she accpets me as one, that is fine i wouldnt mind living as 2 old women together it is...
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T Apr 4, 2013

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    My Husband Is A Demon.

    First of all, I'm super relieved that there is a site where I can vent; this was the first site that came up after I googled: 'I hate my husband'. Well, I've been with my husband for 6 years; have been married since December 2012. Why I got married? Well, I ask myself that...
    MyLittleLambs13 MyLittleLambs13 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Unhappily Married

    i have been married for 6 years with 2 small children, whom i love and adore; but i have to say the more that life goes on; i just hate being married to my husband; i don't think that i have ever met such a lazy, sloppy, selfish, good for nothing excuse for a human being in my...
    mcquay mcquay 36-40 3 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    Journey Together

    I don't want anyone to think I've got a bad life, I've got a great one, but I'm unhappily married and always have been. I was very abused by my parents and just wanted out. I had next to no social skills and certaintly didn't know what to look for in a marriage partner. I had no...
    abbie11 abbie11 46-50 Mar 27, 2012

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    Sad, Lonely and Confused

    So I can't believe I'm here, but here I am. I am so unhappy in my marriage. I still love my husband sometimes but more and more often I find that I despise him. I never knew someone's soulmate could turn around and be so incredibly selfish. He is fourty years old and completely...
    sad1 sad1 36-40 3 Responses Mar 20, 2009

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    Failure In Marriage...

    It seems that bad decisions are following my way of life.  My first marriage ended after 2 years with a overposessed ex-wife. My current marriage is with a woman that's 10 years younger than me (I am 37).  We were roommates for 3 years, then spilled...
    FailedAgain FailedAgain 36-40 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    12 Years Of Misery

    There were red flags from the begining of the marriage. He had two children from a previous relationship and still lived at home with his mom and dad. I was looking at the potential I thioughty he had. Has the years went on I realized he never had a plan for us. After being...
    bxlb bxlb 36-40 1 Response Mar 23, 2013

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    This Is My Sad Life

    I have been married for 15 years, and I'm so ******* unhappy. I feel sorry for my unhappy, miserable, husband and I thinks thats why I stay.
    ladyiebee6 ladyiebee6 41-45 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    Two Weeks ; Too Soon

    My husband and I have been married for only two weeks, and from the second that we signed those papers I've been growing increasingly unhappier. I have no idea why. He has never been anything but wonderful to me. He treats me like an absolute princess - but for some reason I...
    bbbrie bbbrie 18-21 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    Confused Mother Of 2, Deep Beat Husband

    I have been married for 6 years now and have 2 amazing children.  My husband was injured almost 3 years ago and has been home on disability.  He can still get around and help with the house. However,  he does very little to help.    I work full...
    nowwhattodo nowwhattodo 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Wrong Answer

    my wife asks me things but its clear from the outset she only wants one answer, what she wants,an example of this was last night she asked me if i wanted a meal with her parents,i have been stalling over the last week or so to give an answer, so i told her i wasnt really bothered...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 3 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    Hi. I just need to get this off my chest,

    and I don't know who to turn to. I have a therapist, and she's great, but expensive. I have been married for 19 years. Most of those years have been difficult. My husband and I have 3 children. I am 42, he will turn 46 soon. I am a stay-at-home-mom. This is what I always...
    kat2027 kat2027 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    No Support

    I am finding everything so hard, i have no friends and no support. I am trying to get things moving in splitting up with my wife. But I have to do it all in almost secret because nobody knows really what is happening. My wife has friends and her parents, i have just me
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    What Is Going On

    This is what my father in law said when he came to visit me. I was made to feel really intimidated and pressured in my own home. How am I supposed to say anything to him, he will always defend and support his daughter. Nobody knows what i feel and i can't cope with it
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    Newly Wed

    I am new to this. I am 20 years old and married and pregnant. I am also unhappy. He always works. He tells me that he works for me so he can take care of me but because we are newly wed I just want to be taken care. Given some tender care. Loved but not smothered. But it seems he...
    Sweety06 Sweety06 18-21 Oct 10, 2008

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    Unhappy In My Marriage

    I am a 34 years old woman. and I've been married for 15 years and have 3 children 11,14,16. I feel the only good thing that has come out of this marriage is my children. Though I have a long list of unhappy moments, I will name just a few. 4years ago my husband cheated. When I...
    Blueklm Blueklm 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    Is It Possible to Regain Trust?

    I married my long time lover and have been married 22 years.  He has verbally abused me, been unkind, unfair, yet he has also been a dream man -much of the time.  He was raised by a controlling, disrespectful father.  I am a people pleaser , plus I could not...
    bellaella bellaella 46-50 6 Responses Feb 3, 2009

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    Okay so I thought I might share some additional information about my situation. Like I said in the previous experience I have been married 22 years. Staying until my daughter...
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    Tyrea31 Tyrea31 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    Maurap Maurap 46-50, F Mar 22

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    HalfwaybtwnHeavenandHell HalfwaybtwnHeavenandHell 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    sava1993 sava1993 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I can't even watch commercials with proposals or wedding type shows or see pictures of people getting married or engagement photos without wanting to burst into tears. I have never...
    AshCatSilver AshCatSilver 31-35, F Apr 1

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    I rather get married in court because just the thought of standing in front of people and saying the wrong thing or something goes wrong scares me so much, almost scares me so much...
    Silverfeather1993 Silverfeather1993 18-21, F Apr 1

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    I wish women could propose to men for marriage. Because I know if I was the man in the relationship, I would've proposed already. Have you ever just hated yourself and wondered...
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