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I Unhappily Married

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    12 Years Of Misery

    There were red flags from the begining of the marriage. He had two children from a previous relationship and still lived at home with his mom and dad. I was looking at the potential I thioughty he had. Has the years went on I realized he never had a plan for us. After being...
    bxlb bxlb 36-40 1 Response Mar 23, 2013

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    What Is Going On

    This is what my father in law said when he came to visit me. I was made to feel really intimidated and pressured in my own home. How am I supposed to say anything to him, he will always defend and support his daughter. Nobody knows what i feel and i can't cope with it
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    I Can't Talk To My Wife.

    This might seem strange but i just can't talk to my wife, i just clam up and the words just won't come out, then after i feel really frustrated that i couldn't say anything. I guess it's mostly because of the way things have been in the past especially with her bad temper and...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2012

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    Unhappily Married

     We havent been married long. About a yr and half. We had our problems in the beginning with him lying to me and now the trust is shot for me. Our sex life is horrible. I suspect hes bi. He had told me that his first wife also thought he was gay. Its very hard having sex...
    Irelandclover Irelandclover 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    Is It Possible to Regain Trust?

    I married my long time lover and have been married 22 years.  He has verbally abused me, been unkind, unfair, yet he has also been a dream man -much of the time.  He was raised by a controlling, disrespectful father.  I am a people pleaser , plus I could not...
    bellaella bellaella 46-50 6 Responses Feb 3, 2009

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    I Guess This Is Me

    is it my own fault? i stopped xdressing at my wifes request 1 years ago should i have carried on i think so now thinking of all those wasted yours when i could have been a woman if she accpets me as one, that is fine i wouldnt mind living as 2 old women together it is...
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T Apr 4, 2013

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    Very Confused

    I have been married for 3 years now. It was nice at first, he was (and  still is ) a very nice guy. Loved me very much. However we come from very different backgrounds and have some different values. There are many things that keep us apart. About six months ago we had a...
    spring87 spring87 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    Sad, Lonely and Confused

    So I can't believe I'm here, but here I am. I am so unhappy in my marriage. I still love my husband sometimes but more and more often I find that I despise him. I never knew someone's soulmate could turn around and be so incredibly selfish. He is fourty years old and completely...
    sad1 sad1 36-40 3 Responses Mar 20, 2009

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    This Is My Sad Life

    I have been married for 15 years, and I'm so ******* unhappy. I feel sorry for my unhappy, miserable, husband and I thinks thats why I stay.
    ladyiebee6 ladyiebee6 41-45 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    Unhappy In My Marriage

    I am a 34 years old woman. and I've been married for 15 years and have 3 children 11,14,16. I feel the only good thing that has come out of this marriage is my children. Though I have a long list of unhappy moments, I will name just a few. 4years ago my husband cheated. When I...
    Blueklm Blueklm 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    Unhappily Married

    i have been married for 6 years with 2 small children, whom i love and adore; but i have to say the more that life goes on; i just hate being married to my husband; i don't think that i have ever met such a lazy, sloppy, selfish, good for nothing excuse for a human being in my...
    mcquay mcquay 36-40 2 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    Thinking It May Already Be Over

    Me and my husband were highschool sweethearts, we have 2 children, and have been married for 7 months now, we use to laugh with each other and play around and were so in love, but now every time we try to joke with each other we fight, the littlest things make us fight, it got a...
    Tinacart Tinacart 18-21 Feb 2, 2013

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    So Unhappy In My Marriage

    I have been in this marriage for close to 30 years. We have had no intimate contact since the mid 1990s. He has a short fuse and blows up over the littlest thing. He controls everything. If I step out of line he will blow up at me. He decides which vehicles I am "allowed" to...
    needstofindsomeonetolove needstofindsomeonetolove 51-55 3 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    It's sad that I married someone despite

    everyone in my life telling me not too. I'm now in a marriage where everyday I find more reasons not to love home. Regretting means not having my wonderful daughter.
    rloves rloves 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    Is this normal ? I have been married 5 years

    with 3 children and 2 children from a precious relationship. I thought I met the man of my dreams! I am happy when he is at work but when he returns I feel like I am walking on egg shells. Nothing I do is ever good enough. I run 3 businesses from home plus look after the...
    skyblue75 skyblue75 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    Newly Wed

    I am new to this. I am 20 years old and married and pregnant. I am also unhappy. He always works. He tells me that he works for me so he can take care of me but because we are newly wed I just want to be taken care. Given some tender care. Loved but not smothered. But it seems he...
    Sweety06 Sweety06 18-21 Oct 10, 2008

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    Failure In Marriage...

    It seems that bad decisions are following my way of life.  My first marriage ended after 2 years with a overposessed ex-wife. My current marriage is with a woman that's 10 years younger than me (I am 37).  We were roommates for 3 years, then spilled...
    FailedAgain FailedAgain 36-40 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Unhappily Married

    hello..first time here so bear with me. I have been married for 20 years and I am so unhappy. There is so much missing in my marriage..affection..laughter..just talking. My husband is a very OCD type person and i never feel like I ever do anything right in his eyes. I used to be...
    ja45 ja45 41-45 2 Responses Mar 17, 2009

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    Journey Together

    I don't want anyone to think I've got a bad life, I've got a great one, but I'm unhappily married and always have been. I was very abused by my parents and just wanted out. I had next to no social skills and certaintly didn't know what to look for in a marriage partner. I had no...
    abbie11 abbie11 46-50 Mar 27, 2012

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    My Husband Is A Demon.

    First of all, I'm super relieved that there is a site where I can vent; this was the first site that came up after I googled: 'I hate my husband'. Well, I've been with my husband for 6 years; have been married since December 2012. Why I got married? Well, I ask myself that...
    MyLittleLambs13 MyLittleLambs13 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Two Weeks ; Too Soon

    My husband and I have been married for only two weeks, and from the second that we signed those papers I've been growing increasingly unhappier. I have no idea why. He has never been anything but wonderful to me. He treats me like an absolute princess - but for some reason I...
    bbbrie bbbrie 18-21 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    No Support

    I am finding everything so hard, i have no friends and no support. I am trying to get things moving in splitting up with my wife. But I have to do it all in almost secret because nobody knows really what is happening. My wife has friends and her parents, i have just me
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    Don't Know What To Do

    My husband and I have been married for about 3 yrs and after being married I have been in and out of the hospital for deppresion for the 1st yr, after the going through a yr of trying to find the right meds we moved into our own home we got through the state. We lived there for 1...
    mickiecakes mickiecakes 31-35, F Mar 16, 2012

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    Wrong Answer

    my wife asks me things but its clear from the outset she only wants one answer, what she wants,an example of this was last night she asked me if i wanted a meal with her parents,i have been stalling over the last week or so to give an answer, so i told her i wasnt really bothered...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    I think dudes cheat when theyre married

    because they get bored of their wife after awhile. What yall think?
    kstewartt kstewartt 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Hi. I just need to get this off my chest,

    and I don't know who to turn to. I have a therapist, and she's great, but expensive. I have been married for 19 years. Most of those years have been difficult. My husband and I have 3 children. I am 42, he will turn 46 soon. I am a stay-at-home-mom. This is what I always...
    kat2027 kat2027 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    Confused Mother Of 2, Deep Beat Husband

    I have been married for 6 years now and have 2 amazing children.  My husband was injured almost 3 years ago and has been home on disability.  He can still get around and help with the house. However,  he does very little to help.    I work full...
    nowwhattodo nowwhattodo 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Now, I would like to get married and spend the rest of my life with someone, but I would rather spend my life with someone I'll be happy with, and who'll be happy with me. What's...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M Aug 18

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    Here we go.. i was a strong and independent woman until i got married.. 5 years marriage drown me to the deepest dark sticky mud and it is really hard to get out.. Sex is really...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    Not even sure what to type here. All I can say is that I accept the blame. I blame myself. And..., I will likely die wearing the chains I've forged for myself, as the weight of...
    TheHiker TheHiker 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 31

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    Right now. I'm not exactly hating my husband. Sometimes I do. I feel bad for it. He's a good man. But sometimes he's a complete jerk. The life we've lived has been the life he...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 4 Responses Aug 1

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    This is what i forgot to discuss with my husband before i said "YES": 1. how we gonna dealing with our financial, how open are you about it. 2. How we plan to raise our kids. 3...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    What you all think about "Silent treatment" or "Speak only when its necessary" is it can make everything worsen or make him "THINK.."?? he just left the house.. and im going to...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    Just a question do u think it is alright to send a message to someone you have been with for 20 years and tell them you are leaving them
    boy01234 boy01234 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 6

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    I cant sleep.. I remember 6 years ago.. I went to 24 hours starbucks with my bestfriends.. So much laughter, i dont have any broken heart, i was once free from depression or...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    Another silent night.. :/ i tried to find something to do so im not drown in this overwhelming situation... I made homemade curry, fried chicken and rice for dinner tonight.. My...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    New progress.. He agreed with marriage counseling, the appoinment is 2 weeks from now ... out of no where.. he came to me and hold my hands and he admitted that he blew out of...
    Isurvive14 Isurvive14 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    While gone for a work trip I ended up getting close to an instructor an we shared a few hot an passionate nights together. We both felt alive and the happiest in a long time. We...
    tdymedic tdymedic 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 10

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    Yes I do. I have been married for 9 yrs and seem to have lost that should have been there. I crave intimacy and don't know if I am going to get it.
    sweetgal42 sweetgal42 41-45, F 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I'm 27, with no kids.....just a dog. I've been married for almost 2 years, but I've been unhappy the entire time. We were together for 2 years before we got married, and I was...
    wishihadatimemachine wishihadatimemachine 26-30, F Aug 12

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    I think it's really sad that I've seen alot of women get romantically involved with married men. As a single person like myself, I feel like it's not really worth it because you're...
    texaschic35 texaschic35 31-35, F Aug 15

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    If you are married and try to flirt with me or whatever that is inappropriate keep it moving. I will not talk to a married man that made a sacred vowel before God, I feel like its...
    bootsie85 bootsie85 26-30, F Jul 30

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    i have been with my fiance for almost 3 years and we decided to get married this year. the wedding is 8/30. i am 20 and she is 22. we love each other and i want nothing more than...
    thatguyoverthere93 thatguyoverthere93 18-21, M Aug 13

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    I met my wife through a Christian dating service called "Equally Yoked." I wanted to meet someone who had the same beliefs and values as I did. She and I hit it off from the first...
    ludix ludix 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 31

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    Of course we have self doubt & yes, I share that self doubt about getting married again. I was married for 12 yrs & divorced now for 4. I would love to get married again one day...
    IntomeYousee IntomeYousee 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4

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    My wife and I have been married since 1973. I love her as much as (if not more than) the day I married her. I would never even think of cheating on her! We have an adult married...
    RockinPop60 RockinPop60 56-60, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I am not married. I can't really see it ever happening to be honest. If I did ever get married I would want a very low-key affair. I hate being the centre of attention so the idea...
    SarcasticCommentLoading SarcasticCommentLoading 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I have been married for 10 years, together for 14. My husband and I have two children together. Almost our entire relationship he has worked two jobs, almost never home and even...
    dragonflydreams dragonflydreams 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    i love a guy.. i'm loving him since 5 years.. n he love me too.. but i behaved in such a way that he never knew that i love him.. after 5 long years i decided to confess.. since he...
    9lilly 9lilly 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    Internet is full of stories of people falling in love with someone else while married to their husband or wife's. Most of the stories proclaim that their husbands or wives were...
    arwhap13 arwhap13 31-35, M 4 Responses Jul 31