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I Unhappily Married

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    What Is Going On

    This is what my father in law said when he came to visit me. I was made to feel really intimidated and pressured in my own home. How am I supposed to say anything to him, he will always defend and support his daughter. Nobody knows what i feel and i can't cope with it
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    Confused Mother Of 2, Deep Beat Husband

    I have been married for 6 years now and have 2 amazing children.  My husband was injured almost 3 years ago and has been home on disability.  He can still get around and help with the house. However,  he does very little to help.    I work full...
    nowwhattodo nowwhattodo 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2010

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    Sad, Lonely and Confused

    So I can't believe I'm here, but here I am. I am so unhappy in my marriage. I still love my husband sometimes but more and more often I find that I despise him. I never knew someone's soulmate could turn around and be so incredibly selfish. He is fourty years old and completely...
    sad1 sad1 36-40 3 Responses Mar 20, 2009

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    So Unhappy In My Marriage

    I have been in this marriage for close to 30 years. We have had no intimate contact since the mid 1990s. He has a short fuse and blows up over the littlest thing. He controls everything. If I step out of line he will blow up at me. He decides which vehicles I am "allowed" to...
    needstofindsomeonetolove needstofindsomeonetolove 51-55 3 Responses Mar 28, 2012

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    Unhappily Married

    i have been married for 6 years with 2 small children, whom i love and adore; but i have to say the more that life goes on; i just hate being married to my husband; i don't think that i have ever met such a lazy, sloppy, selfish, good for nothing excuse for a human being in my...
    mcquay mcquay 36-40 3 Responses Oct 9, 2008

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    Newly Wed

    I am new to this. I am 20 years old and married and pregnant. I am also unhappy. He always works. He tells me that he works for me so he can take care of me but because we are newly wed I just want to be taken care. Given some tender care. Loved but not smothered. But it seems he...
    Sweety06 Sweety06 18-21 Oct 10, 2008

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    Failure In Marriage...

    It seems that bad decisions are following my way of life.  My first marriage ended after 2 years with a overposessed ex-wife. My current marriage is with a woman that's 10 years younger than me (I am 37).  We were roommates for 3 years, then spilled...
    FailedAgain FailedAgain 36-40 2 Responses Jan 18, 2009

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    Is this normal ? I have been married 5 years

    with 3 children and 2 children from a precious relationship. I thought I met the man of my dreams! I am happy when he is at work but when he returns I feel like I am walking on egg shells. Nothing I do is ever good enough. I run 3 businesses from home plus look after the...
    skyblue75 skyblue75 36-40, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I Guess This Is Me

    is it my own fault? i stopped xdressing at my wifes request 1 years ago should i have carried on i think so now thinking of all those wasted yours when i could have been a woman if she accpets me as one, that is fine i wouldnt mind living as 2 old women together it is...
    christinemelody christinemelody 56-60, T Apr 4, 2013

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    Journey Together

    I don't want anyone to think I've got a bad life, I've got a great one, but I'm unhappily married and always have been. I was very abused by my parents and just wanted out. I had next to no social skills and certaintly didn't know what to look for in a marriage partner. I had no...
    abbie11 abbie11 46-50 Mar 27, 2012

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    My Husband Is A Demon.

    First of all, I'm super relieved that there is a site where I can vent; this was the first site that came up after I googled: 'I hate my husband'. Well, I've been with my husband for 6 years; have been married since December 2012. Why I got married? Well, I ask myself that...
    MyLittleLambs13 MyLittleLambs13 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    No Support

    I am finding everything so hard, i have no friends and no support. I am trying to get things moving in splitting up with my wife. But I have to do it all in almost secret because nobody knows really what is happening. My wife has friends and her parents, i have just me
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    Unhappily Married

    hello..first time here so bear with me. I have been married for 20 years and I am so unhappy. There is so much missing in my marriage..affection..laughter..just talking. My husband is a very OCD type person and i never feel like I ever do anything right in his eyes. I used to be...
    ja45 ja45 41-45 2 Responses Mar 17, 2009

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    Wrong Answer

    my wife asks me things but its clear from the outset she only wants one answer, what she wants,an example of this was last night she asked me if i wanted a meal with her parents,i have been stalling over the last week or so to give an answer, so i told her i wasnt really bothered...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    This Is My Sad Life

    I have been married for 15 years, and I'm so ******* unhappy. I feel sorry for my unhappy, miserable, husband and I thinks thats why I stay.
    ladyiebee6 ladyiebee6 41-45 1 Response May 5, 2011

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    Is It Possible to Regain Trust?

    I married my long time lover and have been married 22 years.  He has verbally abused me, been unkind, unfair, yet he has also been a dream man -much of the time.  He was raised by a controlling, disrespectful father.  I am a people pleaser , plus I could not...
    bellaella bellaella 46-50 6 Responses Feb 3, 2009

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    Unhappily Married

     We havent been married long. About a yr and half. We had our problems in the beginning with him lying to me and now the trust is shot for me. Our sex life is horrible. I suspect hes bi. He had told me that his first wife also thought he was gay. Its very hard having sex...
    Irelandclover Irelandclover 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 9, 2008

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    Unhappy In My Marriage

    I am a 34 years old woman. and I've been married for 15 years and have 3 children 11,14,16. I feel the only good thing that has come out of this marriage is my children. Though I have a long list of unhappy moments, I will name just a few. 4years ago my husband cheated. When I...
    Blueklm Blueklm 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    Don't Know What To Do

    My husband and I have been married for about 3 yrs and after being married I have been in and out of the hospital for deppresion for the 1st yr, after the going through a yr of trying to find the right meds we moved into our own home we got through the state. We lived there for 1...
    mickiecakes mickiecakes 31-35, F Mar 16, 2012

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    Thinking It May Already Be Over

    Me and my husband were highschool sweethearts, we have 2 children, and have been married for 7 months now, we use to laugh with each other and play around and were so in love, but now every time we try to joke with each other we fight, the littlest things make us fight, it got a...
    Tinacart Tinacart 18-21 Feb 2, 2013

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    Hi. I just need to get this off my chest,

    and I don't know who to turn to. I have a therapist, and she's great, but expensive. I have been married for 19 years. Most of those years have been difficult. My husband and I have 3 children. I am 42, he will turn 46 soon. I am a stay-at-home-mom. This is what I always...
    kat2027 kat2027 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    Very Confused

    I have been married for 3 years now. It was nice at first, he was (and  still is ) a very nice guy. Loved me very much. However we come from very different backgrounds and have some different values. There are many things that keep us apart. About six months ago we had a...
    spring87 spring87 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2009

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    I Can't Talk To My Wife.

    This might seem strange but i just can't talk to my wife, i just clam up and the words just won't come out, then after i feel really frustrated that i couldn't say anything. I guess it's mostly because of the way things have been in the past especially with her bad temper and...
    steed66 steed66 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 15, 2012

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    12 Years Of Misery

    There were red flags from the begining of the marriage. He had two children from a previous relationship and still lived at home with his mom and dad. I was looking at the potential I thioughty he had. Has the years went on I realized he never had a plan for us. After being...
    bxlb bxlb 36-40 1 Response Mar 23, 2013

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    Two Weeks ; Too Soon

    My husband and I have been married for only two weeks, and from the second that we signed those papers I've been growing increasingly unhappier. I have no idea why. He has never been anything but wonderful to me. He treats me like an absolute princess - but for some reason I...
    bbbrie bbbrie 18-21 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I'm married - for too many years - but don't want to grow old alone. Not the best reason to stay in a marriage, I know. He is a nice man and I do wish I could love him the way he...
    RestlessMe1957 RestlessMe1957 56-60, F 8 Responses Jul 7

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    Hell yeah...no way I wanna spend rest of my life feeling miserable...I am already married to myself lol I wonder if I ever marry another human being ( I am all up to aliens tho...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F Jul 9

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    Ok... So tomorrow is my birthday Andy husband of only 1 1/2 yrs forgets and doesn't bother rescheduling his on call work schedule.., my feelings are so hurt bc he didnt do **** for...
    BumMagnet BumMagnet 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    I know this borders on selfish but here's what I secretly wish: Once, just once when I ask my husband for help with something (like cleaning the house for example) he says "Sure...
    hotdamndame hotdamndame 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 4

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    My husband often comes home pissy. He's rude and snaps at me if I say anything or ask what's going on. I never have any idea why. It's really a crappy feeling.
    layladay layladay 36-40, F Jul 5

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    Explaining that you will no longer tolerate being spoken to rudely,disrespected , de valued ...... Which is met with the most demeaning attitude /tone/ arm crossed eye rolling...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    I find it really insulting that when you share your depth of despair with your situation , wether you've been in it years or months that people lack empathy You know when someone...
    fivefoottall fivefoottall 46-50, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    We are so deep in debt. Today my wife borrowed some money to go to the casino with her friend. I'm sick of how much she spends. She has no brains when it comes to money.
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Unhappily married but comfortable. I would leave in a heartbeat if not for my 3 young girls. I have no where to go with them. Really a sucky situation.
    Hotmessmama3 Hotmessmama3 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    I've been with my fiancé for almost four years and we're raising my three year old son together. He's the only father my son has ever known, and he's an amazing dad. The hitch in...
    HeathenPoet HeathenPoet 36-40, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    Ok, so I know I am young but I really want to get Married. I don't know anyone who would wamt to Marry me but lets talk
    AruraRose AruraRose 16-17, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I've been married for 5 years and have 2 kids together but we never made love. Just now i found out that he is gay and confront to him, he addmited it, he was seeing someone...
    Linklink Linklink 31-35, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I've been with my bf for 6.5 years now and we recently watched a documentary where this guy who filmed all these weddings goes back to the people years and years later and...
    danielle1423 danielle1423 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    On 17th of April I met a guy on the street I was driving my car with my cousin and he was in his car beside me on the traffic stop sign , he asked me to stop and we started...
    sisikuci sisikuci 26-30, F Jul 11

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    I was posting in the "Married but Lonely" section and have several posts there that give my perspective on my marriage. After being in that group for a while I realized through...
    Olivia2014 Olivia2014 31-35, F 9 Responses Jul 7

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    I am married and I have this theory. My theory is that the longer two people are married, the more likely they are to have different sex drives, causing a great influx of "I live...
    MarcRider MarcRider 46-50, M 11 Responses Jul 8

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    Marriage is a curse. That's what it seems like now a days. As soon as you get married it seems all this fun and love just dies. You're bound by the law. I have no problem staying...
    WintersSoldier WintersSoldier 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 12

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    I know I'm young, but my mom got married younger than me and I want to engaged now for a few years and get married like 22 or 23. Then have a kid at 28 and one at 30. I know things...
    EvelynElf EvelynElf 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I've been with my other half for 9 years. When we first started dating we seemed to argue about everything, now we hardly argue. We've just had a beautiful little boy and people...
    Wintermagpie Wintermagpie 26-30 Jun 30

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    I am 24. I've been married to my husband for just over 2 years. We have no children. We met in college, dated for only 6 months before getting engaged, and were married almost 2...
    swimcoachpro swimcoachpro 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 1

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    This is not infatuation, I've been infatuated before and this is completely different...I've been married 3 and 1/2 years and I love my husband though we have a rocky marriage...
    galaxyrea galaxyrea 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Looking back at my life, I'm very surprised I never made the "mistake" of getting married and/or having kids too early on in life. I call it a mistake because, for me, it would...
    TrailrunnerMN TrailrunnerMN 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Before married him, I accepted that he was likely to get bigger. I admitted to myself, and then to others (especially his mom) that I was not responsible for his weight and I never...
    biali biali 31-35 Jul 2

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    Every time I meet someone new...whether it be someone I'm interested in or just a guy meet, they think I'm married. Even when I tell them I'm not they don't believe me. I don't...
    Beautysedge420 Beautysedge420 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    About 18 years ago, I met an amazing guy. We really connected & had amazing chemistry. At the time he had a set 3 mo old twin boys & I discovered that I was pregnant by my ex. So...
    Angeeb Angeeb 41-45, F 1 Response 3 days ago