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I Used to Be Afraid of Losing Someone

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 72 People

    What Is There To Lose... ?

    When someone walks away out of fear that they are not good enough to keep you, what is there TO lose? Consider and discuss.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F Apr 29, 2010

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    ... And then everyone died.

    Literally, everyone but my mother. After the first three funerals (two of which were people I watched die), I've been desensitized to the loss. Now, I almost feel like a sociopath; I could watch someone die right in front of me, and not care. It happened to my uncle. I watched...
    SatelliteJack SatelliteJack 36-40, M Dec 15, 2014

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    I Used to Live In Fear of Being Alone

    Becuase I went through so much abandonment as a young child & up, I used to be consumed with fear of being alone.  Then my mom died when I was 22 - which felt like the 2nd time she was taken from me (I was kidnapped & held against my will by my dad for a while). ...
    kylae77 kylae77 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2009

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    Losing Everything

    I have lost a lot of things in my life. I grew up as a daddy's lil girl. Then my parents got divorced but I still saw my dad every other weekend. Until, one day he didn't show up. I was heart broken. I remember I didn't talk or anything to anyone. I haven't saw my dad now in 10...
    poppyluvver poppyluvver 13-15, F Apr 26, 2010

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    My Dad Is My World

    Im very close with my dad i mean his my best frend, i dont mind loosing my boyfrend over my dad coz i just dont want to leave his sight not even for 2 minutes. He has a drinking problem and recently his been vomiting blood and doesnt want to admit that its becoz he...
    Lehoko Lehoko 22-25 Apr 29, 2010

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    Moving On

    My Advice to a Heart Broken Confessor:   Please, please, please focus on doing things that make you feel good about yourself, other than seeking a man...well, have fun with guys...but focus on your inner joys....and external beauty as well. Mourn the loss of a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 4, 2009

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    Lost But Hoping To Gain

    i have lost a lot in my life... A family, friends, love... i lost the relationship i shared with my mom after my parents split... she was my best friend.. i spoke to her about every joy and sorrow i had... she would sit and listen me out and hug me when i needed it. we would...
    sharoo20 sharoo20 18-21, F Apr 29, 2010

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    Coping With the Fear of Losing a Romantic Interest

    Yes, this fear once gripped me and here are the thoughts I have developed to help me overcome this fear. Yes, I have shared it with others here. Believe in your ability to handle a break  up IF you should ever have to. Promise yourself that IF you ever do break up that you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 14, 2009

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