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I Used to Be Afraid of Losing Someone

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    What Is There To Lose... ?

    When someone walks away out of fear that they are not good enough to keep you, what is there TO lose? Consider and discuss.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F Apr 29, 2010

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    Losing Everything

    I have lost a lot of things in my life. I grew up as a daddy's lil girl. Then my parents got divorced but I still saw my dad every other weekend. Until, one day he didn't show up. I was heart broken. I remember I didn't talk or anything to anyone. I haven't saw my dad now in 10...
    poppyluvver poppyluvver 13-15, F Apr 26, 2010

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    I Used to Live In Fear of Being Alone

    Becuase I went through so much abandonment as a young child & up, I used to be consumed with fear of being alone.  Then my mom died when I was 22 - which felt like the 2nd time she was taken from me (I was kidnapped & held against my will by my dad for a while). ...
    kylae77 kylae77 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2009

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    Moving On

    My Advice to a Heart Broken Confessor:   Please, please, please focus on doing things that make you feel good about yourself, other than seeking a man...well, have fun with guys...but focus on your inner joys....and external beauty as well. Mourn the loss of a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 4, 2009

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    My Dad Is My World

    Im very close with my dad i mean his my best frend, i dont mind loosing my boyfrend over my dad coz i just dont want to leave his sight not even for 2 minutes. He has a drinking problem and recently his been vomiting blood and doesnt want to admit that its becoz he...
    Lehoko Lehoko 22-25 Apr 29, 2010

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    Coping With the Fear of Losing a Romantic Interest

    Yes, this fear once gripped me and here are the thoughts I have developed to help me overcome this fear. Yes, I have shared it with others here. Believe in your ability to handle a break  up IF you should ever have to. Promise yourself that IF you ever do break up that you...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 14, 2009

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    Lost But Hoping To Gain

    i have lost a lot in my life... A family, friends, love... i lost the relationship i shared with my mom after my parents split... she was my best friend.. i spoke to her about every joy and sorrow i had... she would sit and listen me out and hug me when i needed it. we would...
    sharoo20 sharoo20 18-21, F Apr 29, 2010

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    I ask for strength that I can bear the pain of losing someone I can't have...I must be strong to finally let go of him, but deep in my heart I want to hold on, but am I so crazy...
    hannagrace hannagrace 31-35, F Aug 30

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    I'm afraid that someone I know will see me on here...
    panikki panikki 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    how can i move on ? how to deal the pain of losing someone you actually never had? i can't let go but i have to...
    hannagrace hannagrace 31-35, F 5 Responses Sep 1

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    In the last several years I have become afraid of almost everything. I never used to be afraid of anything. I am somewhat disgusted with myself for being afraid because it allows...
    lost762 lost762 51-55, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    I don't want to because I already had a horribly break up to someone I actually loved for real for the first time since I was 8 I'm 14 now but there's one probly I'm attracted to...
    drew725 drew725 13-15, M 36 mins ago

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    Just picture it, A eighteen year old girl living on her own, had a job at a very playful furniture store, had no rules or limitations. Gets hit by a car. After Two and a half...
    perilousindenvers perilousindenvers 18-21, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I have known this person for about 5 or 6 years. I won't say how I met him because it will give away who he is and how I know him. When we first met, I was afraid to talk to him or...
    BreeRenee2 BreeRenee2 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    My boyfriend & I been together for 7months. He's 21 turning 22 I'm 18. me and my boyfriend were attached to each other literally to the hips our world only revolved around each...
    CandiceRx3 CandiceRx3 18-21, F 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    It has affected my relationships so much and not just my love type of relationships but friendships as well...I just can't seem to open up am bubbly,life of the party but I can't...
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F 11 hrs ago

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    The closer I get to someone the more i trust them to talk about the problems i have and of course i end up pushing them away after that. It's my problem and sometimes it is my...
    BeautifulCatastr0phe BeautifulCatastr0phe 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

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    I recently just began a relationship with a man in prison that I've known my entire life. My mother passed away when I was 17 and his mother kind of took me in and helped me...
    prayingforeternity prayingforeternity 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Very Clearly It used to rain practically all winter & all spring. Then it would stop for the summer & fall & begin again. I remember that up until a couple years ago, it used...
    deadmoon deadmoon 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    I always get hugs from friends and family and their nice, but for once I just want a really special hug from someone that I'm in love with and who sincerely thinks that I'm special...
    jamie1292 jamie1292 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 18

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    I have fallen in love with this person who has so completely melted my heart it isn't even funny. I am not a romantic or mushy person by nature, but this man brings out the best in...
    Oldiesbutgoldies Oldiesbutgoldies 16-17, F Aug 25

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    Alright, so.. Recently I feel like I am sort of losing myself and I don't know why. Over the past 3 months or so I guess, I feel like I'm becoming more axious, more perfectionistic...
    MissClueless MissClueless 16-17, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    I seriously don't know what to do. My chest is so heavy and I could literally cry at any moment. I let the person who broke me apart back into my life, thinking maybe he could...
    GabbyCot GabbyCot 18-21, F 6 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I don't know what it is but I have this really odd feeling that I can't shake. I'm used to getting a feeling like when something is bad is gonna happen. But this time it's...
    PierceTheOvercastKid PierceTheOvercastKid 22-25, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    All my life, Ive been alone. My father killed himself while I was a child, causing my mom into a depression. I was alone at night. Never comforted, never feeling loved or wanted. I...
    JustPlainScared JustPlainScared 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    4.5 yrs ago my husband of 12 yrs left me and our 3 kids for another woman. It was New Yrs and as I sat at home with our then 6 yr old daughter and 9 mo. Old twin boys I received a...
    strongerbytheday strongerbytheday 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    Growing up, many strange things used to happen around me. I'm not sure when I began to notice this.. thing that was following me around. At first it was sounds, shadows, and...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm afraid of falling in love or getting married cause of the way the relationships around me have ended
    Gian422 Gian422 18-21, M 15 hrs ago

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    For me, I don't like when people get close because I don't want them to know anything about me, not because I'm afraid of being hurt. I actually wish I was more talkative and had...
    Selphira Selphira 16-17, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I'm not afraid it's just I've loved people who don't return the affection "love is unrequited"(act 1 scene 1 of Romeo and Juliet)
    shaun987 shaun987 16-17, M 11 hrs ago

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    Here's my reasons and I need advice.my last day on closing time before I left to go on vacation it was raing pretty steadily outside of the grocery store I work for. Anyways my job...
    babyglp babyglp 46-50, M 40 mins ago

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    I lost my little brother to a heroin overdose two years ago. He was nineteen, only a year younger than me. I had no memory of a life without him. He was my best friend and we were...
    MonetChere MonetChere 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    Guys are not used to getting compliments often, or being pursued (except for your rare alpha male type. In fact, most of us just assume we are butt ******* ugly. (In general I...
    ctguitardude ctguitardude 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 7

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    My story begins in May of 2014. I had a small circle of friends online with which I hanged out with regularly, like every single day, even if it was to talk about our daily life...
    Gregory1990 Gregory1990 22-25, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Or let's just call it "I'm not afraid" because I used to fear EVERYTHING. that's what anxiety does to you. you stay home one day it turns into two weeks. Can't leave your room. Can...
    sevenforasecret sevenforasecret 18-21, F Aug 25

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    I haven’t been the person I used to be for a very long time. Probably close to 10 years and it’s killing me. I used to be so confident, happy, carefree, positive, calm...
    devilgray devilgray 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    I had this friend who was in a relationship but we became really close friends, we used to talk all day, this happened for almost 6 months but then everything changed,he became...
    tinna20 tinna20 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    Hi, I know people don't follow me on this site, why should they I am not popular. What I taught that only I felt turns out there are thousands of you guys who are the same as me...
    yashgup yashgup 22-25, M Aug 26

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected, every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    " my whole life I've been telling myself don't be afraid and it is only now that I am realizing how stupid that is. Don't be afraid is like saying don't move out of the way when...
    rachnixon rachnixon 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Every time something good happens with my life I just want to tell me dad. It sucks not being able to pick up the phone and talk to him. Every girl needs her father to look up to...
    OwnWhoYouAre OwnWhoYouAre 18-21, F 1 Response 45 mins ago

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    I am afraid of dieing without someone. I am afraid to be tortured. I am afraid of my only family member left dieing. I am afraid I will be stupid. Last but notleast I am afraid of...
    ginny1q1q ginny1q1q 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 28

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    Its been six years, and slowly slowly I think I am losing it a bit daily, I am trying to think straight and make it work but I don't know, what future holds. I think I am refusing...
    rockfordseagull rockfordseagull 22-25, M Aug 15

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    I'm a black woman,who used to look like Rasputia from the movie Norbit, until I got a makeover. I went from over 300 lbs to about 134 at 5'5.Losing weight was one of the best...
    msjennycraig msjennycraig 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    This is a silly thing to fear. I'm 39 years old, a veteran of two wars, and all sorts of other things that ought to make me fearless. Still, I'm afraid of rejection. It isn't...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Seems to me that alot of men I am around want it all A wife , a mistress , a freak , a mommy , a nurse I can only be ten things at one time I'm afraid I will never find a man...
    applesnbananas applesnbananas 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    It was on June 24 of this year that one of my oldest and closes friends took his own life. I remember it like it was yesterday, I was out at an even for feeding the hungry when I...