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I Used To Be In A Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 79 People

    Parents say to wait until marriage to have sex

    - no explanation. This book gives those explanations. People need to hear what it says on issues of sexuality, marriage, and celibacy. It has impacted marriages in incredible ways. Couples will just want to tell everybody the path to a loving marriage. What does it mean to be...
    sum1ab sum1ab 46-50, F Jul 19

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    ...and in the morning we woke together (not in

    separate rooms!) and he told the dream he just had. That hasn't happened since i don't remember when and its a little thing but means a lot. It was a strange dream about work and we were cracking up! Today his goodbye was very sweet. I hope i can deserve these positive...
    sum1ab sum1ab 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    In a Christian marriage a couple should submit

    there bodies to each other. The exception is an agreed upon period of abstinence for sake of prayer and spiritual growth.
    sum1ab sum1ab 46-50, F 1 Response May 25

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    Going Forward....

    On October 27th, I finally left my loveless marriage of 43 years..I am in the process of healing, and many of my friends here have said, simply go forward , don't look back..just get on with living the life you were deprived of for so many years. The problem with that is, there...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 7 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    Something has changed

    since just a few weeks ago. Im different and i dont know why. I have wanted to change for a long long time. And finally its happening. I love him again. Not the infatuated in-love. Some loves start off with a lot of passion. My didnt. But it grew gradually. Then it stopped...
    sum1ab sum1ab 46-50, F 5 Responses May 23

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    Yes, Sexless Marriage Is Repairable

    Let's start an optimists group for those rare souls who have braved sexless marriage and emerged with their relationship intact and intimacy restored. Yes it is possible! No, it's not easy. And it's not always worth it. But for those with a lot to lose, and as much to gain, there...
    porcpuffer porcpuffer 41-45, M 11 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    The End

    This morning, my divorce was granted. Strangely, I feel no jubilation, no real happiness. No regrets, just sorry that it had to bethis way.Twenty-three years.I want to express my gratitude to all the people I have corresponded with here.To Nitwitty, Whenif, Flyingstone...
    theaterlover theaterlover 61-65, M 7 Responses Jan 20, 2012

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    He is so obsessed with house cleaning Argh.

    His day off. All day to be together but he barely speaks to me. Afternoon: Im in bed - he doesn't join, i nap. Finally he sits with me after dinner. Conversation: yard work & house work! I hint for change of subject almost a dozen times before i finally lose it, chug the rest...
    sum1ab sum1ab 46-50, F 3 days ago

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    I Was A Co-dependent Enabler To A Very Very Selfish Person.

    Just thinking - I was a co-dependent enabler to a very very selfish person.Wow.  My husband was like a spoiled child with no rules or boundaries. And, the more I did for him the more he didn’t love me. Um, I would have thought that would be backwards but hey, what do I know...
    Backlite Backlite 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 26, 2011

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    Letting Go

    I have just left a very long sexless marriage, and so i sympathize with everyone still struggling with the sexless marriage problem.I know the decisions are tough, and it is a very difficult decision to face, because the options are to either repair the marriage or leave. And...
    neuilly neuilly 61-65, F 12 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 11 Responses Jul 30

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    So I was on here struggling with the topics of living in a sexless marriage, being sexually frustrated and feeling disrespected not too long ago. Although I would still love much...
    picadilly1970 picadilly1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 30

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    I just came to EP, looking for solace as a OW. I found myself looking at "I live in a sexless marriage" stories. Made me think, 49k people have something to say. Maybe, just maybe...
    greeneyes41 greeneyes41 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    Hello everyone. I've not been here in over a year. If you read my other two post then I can tell you that nothing has changed. Same S different day as they say. It is now my...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 14 Responses Aug 6

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    I am in a sexless marriage that leaves that part of me completely unsatisfied, yet i cannot leave my husband because i love and respect him in every other way... I have a very high...
    AphroditeComplex AphroditeComplex 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 9

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    I'm a woman age 40 in a sexless marriage. Married almost four years and I bet we haven't even had sex two dozen times; sleep in separate beds, but I love him still. Well, I've...
    blondi73 blondi73 36-40, F 9 Responses Aug 14

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 12 Responses a week ago

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    I haven't had sex with my wife in almost a year. In the meantime I've cheated on her with other men about 6 times. After being not just sexless but affection less for over 6 months...
    Jasonpresten2 Jasonpresten2 31-35, M 8 Responses Aug 3

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    I live in a sexless marriage because I don't even have a husband and I'm not even married ._. ...... I live in a sexless marriage -crys
    ponycupcake ponycupcake 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 4

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    I have an idea that will solve all of our sexless marriage problems. Let's start a sexless marriage group meeting next door to the sexaholics anonymous meeting. If were lucky it...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 9 Responses Aug 16

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    Short comings, short sex drive, short of expressing love are all part of Sexless Marriage. Denial and refusal are very familiar. Pay attention to your spouse's messages. My s/m...
    musicinme musicinme 56-60, F 7 Responses Aug 19

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    Hello...I just joined and I'm in a sexless marriage...UGH...I'm not really happy being in this marriage..this is not what I want in a marriage..there is no closeness with my...
    kimmmmmy kimmmmmy 41-45, F 31 Responses Aug 5

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    Here goes...I found EP doing a search about sexless marriages so here I am, my first story. I've been married 15 years to a man who in the beginning had me believing he could not...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 14 Responses Aug 15

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    Bear with me because this may seem off topic, but it isn't. I've been recently thinking about death. Yesterday, my post sexless marriage lover had to put his beloved dog of 14...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    My Story Part 1 I joined the group shortly after I decided what I do about my sexless marriage. I did not need to vent but just wanted some communication and the only one...
    TheFullMoon TheFullMoon 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 1

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    Before my second marriage last year, we agreed it would be a sexless marriage. Companionship, travel, respect, and sharing are so important. We ask the Lord for His guidance and...
    Len1932 Len1932 70+, M 15 Responses Aug 4

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    So last night my sister and her beau were here spending the night from out of town (had a funeral to go to.) We were chatting, and H says he "uglified" himself to try to get rid of...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 12 Responses Aug 16

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    Sexless Marriage may have been just the start. I have just about accepted that as long as I’m married there will be no sex. Given some special circumstances, I cannot leave...
    actionjake actionjake 56-60, M 5 Responses Aug 16

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    Oh well my secret is out and as much as I hate to say it I live in a sexless marriage. My story does not quite start like a fairytale as when we met we were both recovering from...
    mysteryjourney mysteryjourney 36-40, M 6 Responses Aug 16

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2014/06/7-ways-to-avoid-having-a-sexless-marriage/
    Dreamgirl75 Dreamgirl75 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 30

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    "I don't like me. I also, despite my outward persona, think I am the most important to ever breathe air." I read this on a blog. It resonated with me, maybe it will resonate...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 6

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    Hi I'm a Christian husband in a sexless marriage. the problem im running into is my wife has been giving me excuses for years now. She has the same excuses like, tired, headache...
    qonfused qonfused 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 6

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    My hubby came home from a long stressful day at work. Had a couple of drinks, the usual come down after that kind of day. Kids were still awake. When it was time to go to bed, I...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 26 Responses Aug 8

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    i m living a sexless marriage from last 1 year. am tired and frustrated with this
    marierosemario marierosemario 31-35, F Aug 8

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    How many of us refused have trust issues with our spouse. While she says she has never cheated, and I have no proof or even small clues, I just have a suspicion that eats away at...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M Aug 12

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    Well here it goes,... I Live in a sexless Marriage! I have never admitted it to anyone. I HATE it!! I have been married for 28 years and I have four kids, 3 college and one in...
    mizazzy mizazzy 46-50, F 24 Responses Aug 16

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    it's been quite awhile since I have posted on here...probably months now...last time I had just had a really bad day and vented on here and got some really hurtful private messages...
    suenit suenit 56-60, F 4 Responses Aug 16

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    Does anyone else notice a sharp increase in people who are NOT in sexless marriages that are jumping in to tell us all what we are doing wrong? Is there a troll convention in town...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 18 Responses a week ago

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    A sexless marriage is like a gift you are not allowed to unwrap! What is the point of giving me a gift if I can't enjoy it?
    chasingdreamss83 chasingdreamss83 31-35, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    Not necessarily a sexless marriage, but one lacking intimacy. I have sex often...not as much as I would like, but often. I think I'm an above average sexual guy, so I kind of...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    Is there any woman out there who lived in a sexless marriage and they were able to fix this problem? I just don't want to believe that my only option is divorce! WTF?
    Brownie27 Brownie27 26-30, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    OK, so I don't actually have a totally a sexless marriage but here's my input & what we have that others don't have. Communication. We've been together for 20 years, married for 13...
    Xlandria61 Xlandria61 61-65, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Anyone else had to deal with this? What is he trying to do? Recently, I decided to try and make it work yet again between my husband and I. As all sexless marriages go, there are...
    KittyInDisguise KittyInDisguise 31-35, F 5 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Life after ILIASM I used to be a regular here. I found this group was very supportive and it really helped me regain some perspective and find the courage to leave my relationship...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Aug 19

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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
    Endthegame Endthegame 41-45, M 28 Responses Aug 15

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