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I Used To Be In A Sexless Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 83 People

    Letting Go

    I have just left a very long sexless marriage, and so i sympathize with everyone still struggling with the sexless marriage problem.I know the decisions are tough, and it is a very difficult decision to face, because the options are to either repair the marriage or leave. And...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    12 Responses Oct 24, 2011

    Going Forward....

    On October 27th, I finally left my loveless marriage of 43 years..I am in the process of healing, and many of my friends here have said, simply go forward , don't look back..just get on with living the life you were deprived of for so many years. The problem with that is, there...
    neuilly neuilly
    61-65, F
    7 Responses Nov 13, 2011

    My Journey To A Fulfilled Marriage

    My husband and I chose not to have sex before we were married. We had relations our wedding night, but it was a chore for me. I thought it would be more than what it was, but I thought I was tired.. it's ok.  So on the honeymoon, we played again but I was frequently dry.  And...
    ANewCreation4Him ANewCreation4Him
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 24, 2013

    Depressing Anniversary

    I moved out of my ex-wife's life on January 1, 2012. I was immediately embraced by the love of friends and family, many of whom I had not seen much of during my 2 1/2 attempt at marriage. Not really ready to post the reasons that the marriage ended at that particular time...
    Treyrr Treyrr
    31-35, M
    Jan 3, 2013

    He is so obsessed with house cleaning Argh.

    His day off. All day to be together but he barely speaks to me. Afternoon: Im in bed - he doesn't join, i nap. Finally he sits with me after dinner. Conversation: yard work & house work! I hint for change of subject almost a dozen times before i finally lose it, chug the rest...
    stufy stufy
    1 Response Aug 26, 2014

    On the 21 Oct it will be exactly 1-year

    since I moved out. I'm thinking a lot about this year. It's been the hardest year of my life! Everyone said that divorce is tough. But I somehow kept thinking it would be easier for me. I (naïvely) thought that because neither party had been unfaithful and, that we were trying...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    Looking Forward To A Day....

    Well I haven't joined the world of a wonderful sex life yet or any at all for that matter, but I'm working on it.... I don't quite fit into the sexless marriage group now, and I don't quite fit here either, but this is probably a little more me since I've been thinking that I...
    bk1010 bk1010
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 30, 2011

    In a Christian marriage a couple should submit

    there bodies to each other. The exception is an agreed upon period of abstinence for sake of prayer and spiritual growth.
    stufy stufy
    1 Response May 25, 2014

    I Was A Co-dependent Enabler To A Very Very Selfish Person.

    Just thinking - I was a co-dependent enabler to a very very selfish person.Wow.  My husband was like a spoiled child with no rules or boundaries. And, the more I did for him the more he didn’t love me. Um, I would have thought that would be backwards but hey, what do I know...
    Backlite Backlite
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Oct 26, 2011

    ...and in the morning we woke together (not in

    separate rooms!) and he told the dream he just had. That hasn't happened since i don't remember when and its a little thing but means a lot. It was a strange dream about work and we were cracking up! Today his goodbye was very sweet. I hope i can deserve these positive...
    stufy stufy
    1 Response Jul 23, 2014

    Yes, Sexless Marriage Is Repairable

    Let's start an optimists group for those rare souls who have braved sexless marriage and emerged with their relationship intact and intimacy restored. Yes it is possible! No, it's not easy. And it's not always worth it. But for those with a lot to lose, and as much to gain, there...
    porcpuffer porcpuffer
    41-45, M
    10 Responses Oct 24, 2011

    Left A Sexless Marriage - But Still Angry

    i've had my husband move out and i anticipate a divorce in the following year - i feel that this is the right thing. no sex, no intimacy for a loooong time. any idea on how to let go of anger? i am seeing a therapist. i held on, and hoped for a long time, that our marriage...
    Gazell Gazell
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2012

    The End

    This morning, my divorce was granted. Strangely, I feel no jubilation, no real happiness. No regrets, just sorry that it had to bethis way.Twenty-three years.I want to express my gratitude to all the people I have corresponded with here.To Nitwitty, Whenif, Flyingstone...
    theaterlover theaterlover
    61-65, M
    5 Responses Jan 20, 2012

    Something has changed

    since just a few weeks ago. Im different and i dont know why. I have wanted to change for a long long time. And finally its happening. I love him again. Not the infatuated in-love. Some loves start off with a lot of passion. My didnt. But it grew gradually. Then it stopped...
    stufy stufy
    4 Responses May 23, 2014
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