I Usually Don't Initiate Conversations

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    Not only do I not even know what to say,

    I usually run out of stuff to say. I'm not very good with words. I always want to talk to people but actually going through with it is so hard. I'm just really scared I won't know what to say or how to react.
    dogbrat dogbrat
    16-17, F
    Jun 1, 2014

    It's Not That Scary, You're Overthinking The Worry In Your Mind.

    Used to be like this incarnate, where as now I'm alot better. However, do any of you get that feeling like, if you initiated a conversation, you're just "bothering someone", because you feel "if they wanted to talk to you, they'd talk to you first"? It's a silly reason...
    Jiemusu Jiemusu
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2010

    I Fret Too Much About What I Say And It Translates To This...awkwardness.

    I don't start conversations because, well, I'm just no good at it. I've never been a terribly social person, and find that I have quite a lot of anxiety when considering approaching or talking to someone new.    I'm the type of person who'll sit and stare at the phone for...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2011

    I always want to talk to people

    but fear that I'll annoy them, no matter how often they tell me that I don't annoy them. I feel like people are just burdened by me and would prefer if I disappeared.
    Graeve Graeve
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jun 3, 2014

    I'd Like To, But...

    I usually don't like being too much of a bother to people, and that even goes for on EP. Even if I want to talk to someone, I usually feel like I'm bothering them, so I just wait for them to send me a message, if they ever do. Don't take this behavior as seeming uninterested...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jul 26, 2009

    Age Seems To Matter

    With me, I simply cannot talk to people who are my age. I can't connect with them. That's why I want to skip a grade, but Mother Dear won't let me because she thinks I'm stupid enough to not be able to tell if I'm leaving with a molester. Anyways, I don't follow trends because...
    MayFalls MayFalls
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 31, 2013

    I Never Do.

    I'd much rather have people initiate the conversation because I typically tend to be shy around strangers. Like I have no problem with my friends but with people I don't know I find starting them to be extremely awkward and embarrassing for some reason >.<
    KawaiiDoll KawaiiDoll
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 14, 2011

    I Wonder What To Talk About

    It's just hard for me to start conversations. I'll just wonder what I might say. Once someone gets me talking, then the words and thoughts just start to flow. But it takes a bit of effort to get past the first hurdle.
    hithrppl hithrppl
    26-30, M
    May 6, 2012

    Because Most People Don't Understand How It Works....

    For a long time I thought I was the one with the problem, but I've realized a lot of other people are the problem. Most people I've come across don't understand the way a conversation is supposed to work. One person says something, and the other person is supposed to respond and...
    explainit2me explainit2me
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 6, 2011

    I'm Too Shy.

    And I think naaaah they wouldn't want to talk to me. I just say to myself if they wanted to talk to me then they would speak to me first. So I just mostly leave people alone, because I feel like I'm annoying them when I talk to them and I don't like to be an annoying person...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Feb 19, 2012

    It's so bad of me. I always let people call me

    or text me first. I hardly ever make the first call/text unless it's my parents or bestfriend.
    Asdfghjklasdfghjklllllll Asdfghjklasdfghjklllllll
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 3, 2014
    fakeisforbidden fakeisforbidden
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    I feel like if someone wants to talk to me,

    they would. Whenever I initiate a friendship I feel like it's fake or the other person would have never wanted it in the first place. It always makes me nervous and uncomfortable around new people. I always need reassurance that I'm not completely annoying them
    turbur turbur
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 3, 2014

    I'm Not Shy.

    I wouldn't call myself shy, even tho people think so. When i meet someone new i rarely talk but that's not a fear or something, i just like to analyze people. I'm not a kind of person who trusts in first impression, i analyze them till i figure out are they worth or not, i mean...
    cocoharoche cocoharoche
    22-25, F
    May 29, 2011

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