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I Value Comfortable Silence

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    Karnkuluu

    Yea me too They talk **** all dayI can't stand it, and know whatthe blackfellas' wow they can do it non stop or get me this get me that.They mind rape ya
    peterStralia peterStralia 56-60, M Jun 8, 2012

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    penguinswon penguinswon 51-55 5 Responses Feb 11, 2008

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    I Love Comfortable Silences. ...

    I love comfortable silences. unfortunately, they're a rare occurance. But that's ok, i'm ok with listening so feel free to talk.
    Oblivion Oblivion 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2007

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    Credits To Paul Simon

    And in the naked light I saw Ten thousand people maybe more People talking without speaking People hearing without speaking People writing songs that voices never shared And no one dared Disturb the sounds of silence.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 2, 2012

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    It's 3a.m. What Is That Strange Noise Or Shall I Say Silence!

    The tv or radio typically goes on right after the coffee pot and off when the sleep timer turns it off. I rarely experience quiet, silence serenity. Amazing how waking at 3am became a blessing not a curse. I am able to feel an amazing calmness and self awareness. I truly believe...
    Momof3rlb Momof3rlb 51-55 Jun 12, 2012

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    dreamificational dreamificational 36-40, F Dec 18, 2009

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    Nature

    i love the sound of nature birds chirping and singing songs of their hearts, that is truely peacful to me. it is my comfortable silence. when i need a break from my family, i go outside and listen to the sounds. the wind blowing the at the palm trees forcing them to sway back and...
    apml apml 16-17, F Mar 15, 2012

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    More Than...

    ... I value conversations.I wish I could spend entire days engulfed in the peace provided by silence, avoiding meaningless conversations that I engage in just to be polite.That's probably why I like spending so much time on EP... I can communicate while keeping silence (except...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 22, 2012

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    The Sound Of Silence

    It is a wonderful sound. Silence.  When my sweetie is curled up on the couch with a book and I am sitting in a chair reading a book and you hear nothing.  No noise.  No doors slamming from children running in and out. No television or radio on.  Even the cats are curled up...
    KingofSwords KingofSwords 56-60, M 1 Response Oct 21, 2011

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    A Lazy Day.

    I hear people ask "What is a perfect day off for you?" and I must admit that as I age my answer to this question has changed as well. I have a stress packed job and I am learning that with life as it is today even home isn't the safe haven to destress it once was. I find myself...
    hunnydipz hunnydipz 51-55, M Dec 16, 2011

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    So Very Unawkward

    For some reason many people find silent moments awkward. Well, if nothing needs to be said at that particular time, then-- uh, that's fine with me. I have no problem sitting in silence with a group of people, if anything it can be quite fascinating... (teehee)   Then of...
    realitychallenged realitychallenged 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Sharing The Silence

    I believe that a true friend should be able to just sit and comfortably enjoy the silence with you, even appreciate it. If you cant sit in silence, without feeling awkward, its not really a comfortable friendship. And I don't see the worth of friends whom you can't be comfortable...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F Mar 25, 2013

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    Value Peace And Quiet

    Isn't it nice to just be quiet?
    someotherme someotherme 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 26, 2011

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    Quiet Comfortable Moments

    I enjoy comfortable silences. It didn't strike me until a few weeks ago that not everyone can enjoy comfortable silences, or see value in them. I prefer to just be, rather than fill the time/space with random chatter for the sake of noise.
    Rhan Rhan 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 26, 2007

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    Comfortable and Quet Is Nice

    Sometimes when I'm  going through a comfortable silence with someone; I'll think about how nice and quiet things are.  Then, I'll make eye contact for a moment to see if I think maybe they're thinking the same thing.  Other times I'll just go far away in my...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2007

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    Precious Moments.....

      Those kinds of moments are precious...no need for words....just enjoying the natural beauty all around and peacefulness...can't ask for more!!...
    Sophie1610 Sophie1610 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 21, 2009

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    A 1000 Words With One Meaning

    This night I dreamed about a person that I was very much in love with, I still care about him. In my dream I said nothing, a long silence was there while he was standing in front of me. After some time I said: 'I love you'. No other words had any meaning anymore, no other words...
    Kiowa Kiowa 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    One of the nicest things is being able to sit

    around with somebody I care about. Not having to say a single word but just enjoying each other's company.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    No Point In...

    ...filling every gap with words. Silences are natural pauses, and shouldn't be filled with mindless chatter, just because they're there. I appreciate, if you're friends, when you just don't talk. When you're both thinking, or sitting calmly. It's nice, and shows you're real...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 21, 2013

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    kamachulu kamachulu 22-25, M Aug 8

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    Peaceful And Still

    Comfortable silence?  What is it?  I wanted to share a story about the silence I heard today, so I looked for a group to join and write in.  I found quite a few groups for silence experiences, but this one seemed more to my liking.  I haven't read any other experiences yet, I...
    darknight darknight 46-50, M Oct 8, 2011

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    So Shut It

    I'm kidding. I think that statement just makes the silence awkward if you tell it to someone who doesn't get you or your humor. I've never been able to enjoy a comfortable silence with anyone I didn't know. Then again, there are those I do know who I still sit in awkward silence...
    Sinaname Sinaname 26-30 1 Response May 23, 2012

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    Silence Sometimes Says So Much

    I am okay with silence, being with someone, but not having to talk all the time. Watching life go by, out the car window, or at her horses. It's okay and we both like it.
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M Sep 16, 2010

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    La Cygne

    Silence And three atmospheres, A whistle from a far. Silence, At the stadium many cheers, The boy racers car. Silence, A peacefulness so serene, A sublime feeling unmatched. Silence, From the waters so keen, My turn to nestle them till hatched. Silence, Here I am a queen on...
    bonizil bonizil 22-25, F Apr 6, 2013

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    Just Accept It

    It's so beautiful when you are don't feel under pressure to say something. It just happens naturally. Silence shouldn't make us uncomfortable, we should just accept it.
    Qeenofsolitude Qeenofsolitude 13-15 Apr 5, 2012

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    The Unspoken Word Gesture Deed

    To be close enough to someone to simply feel their presence close and warm as you read by the fire, perhaps a head leaning against you, or in your lap, maybe only sharing a blanket and the fire. Yet it is rich with what lays between you. Times such as this are worth their weight...
    Mountainman923518 Mountainman923518 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 12, 2008

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    I Often Have Little to Say

    I don't mean to say that I don't have thoughts.  I think a lot, much of it is the kind of stuff you don't have great or lengthy conversations about, at least not with most people.  As an example, there isn't a huge number of people out there who are interested in...
    secondrule secondrule 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 7, 2007

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    Why Do People Always Need Noise?

    This is something I never understood. Why do most people have a constant, incessant need for some noise-making machine to be on in the background, or to be chattering away, or whatever else will fill all possible silences? Why aren't people okay with being quiet with themselves...
    nosouvenirs nosouvenirs 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 10, 2008

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    The Sound of Brunch

    I was having brunch with a friend of mine last weekend and at one point during the meal, I looked up and noticed that we hadn't said much for a good stretch of time.  I was tempted to break the silence, but she looked so peaceful that I just relaxed and enjoyed that silence...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 5, 2007

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    A Special Relationship

    It doesn't happen often or with everyone I am friends with, but being able to be comfortably silent with someone special is a rare and wonderful gift.... and I'm happy to say i have that with my best friend
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 21, 2011

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    It's Nice

    Just listening to the silence, only the sound of breathing in the background. It's beautiful, and comforting. And doesn't have the awkward stares or smiles and averting eyes or finger tapping. It's nice.
    JonFurniss JonFurniss 18-21, M 2 Responses May 17, 2008

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    Shhh Don't Ruin the Moment. . .

    One thing that I learned in my last relationship is that the beauty of a moment doesn't always have to include commentary.  Some of the most beautiful experiences for me have been while watching a sunrise or sunset with a very special person where no words exchanged...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 23 Responses Oct 12, 2008

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    Serenity...

    Comfortable silence is wonderful both by yourself and with good company. When with company and the silence is comfortable, that indicates a very special bond. I've met a lot of people who don't like it, though, maybe due to discomfort with connecting with someone on that higher...
    kiuz645 kiuz645 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 18, 2010

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    I don't like it when people force me to talk.

    I like to have my downtime.
    bard66 bard66 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    Silence Can Be Golden

    There are some days when the only sounds you want to hear is the wind and/or the rain. I can appreciate being out in the middle of nowhere just laying back looking up at the stars listening to nature in all its glory have a symphony without modern involvement. I couldn't...
    PrairieDog71 PrairieDog71 41-45, M Jun 9, 2012

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    One Reason

    If you are with someone and the silence feel awkward, it means you are not close enough with that person.
    Awanputih Awanputih 18-21 1 Response May 10, 2013

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    Just Peaceful

    I know I'm with someone who knows and loves me when we can just sit and be, not have to fill the silence with chatter.  The long spaces in between conversations can be just as satisfying as the conversation itself. We're thinking our own thoughts, we're looking...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 13 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    A Rare Thing.

    Every chance I get, I spend by myself now. Living in this house drives me crazy and when I'm home alone, I cherish all of that time. I used to wake up at 5am when everyone was asleep, and just lay on the couch in the living room in silence. I miss when I could do that. Now that...
    Undefinedsystem Undefinedsystem 16-17, M Nov 12, 2011

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    It's the only way to know you are comfortable

    around someone. No words are better sometimes I feel
    Van1015 Van1015 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    Silence, the Forgotten Realm ‘There is a

    moment, before I sit down to work, that I feel a very keen sense of empathy. It is from this, almost heartbreaking, point that words begin to flow.’ ~ Gabriela Blandy The beauty of creative writing is seen in its power to awaken imagination, emotion and pathos – facets...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M Dec 28, 2013

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    Short Sweet And To The Point....

    Have always since very young loved just being quiet, happy and content to sit quietly observe or be deep into my own thoughts... it's a natural sort of meditation...and very comfortable educational as well. Thanks !
    13MrHappy 13MrHappy 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    Let's

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    DreamingTaoTiger DreamingTaoTiger 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    Do We Have To Speak?

    I hate when people feel the need to talk. They feel the need to inform you of obvious things like "Nice weather we're having," when there is nothing else to say.  I prefer to be silent. It gives me time to think and clear my head. To me its like I am at peace, especially when I...
    InTheFire InTheFire 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15, 2011

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    The Search For Nothing.

    I really appreciate when I can sit alone in my room and just have silence. Then go on the search for nothing. :-) I love it.
    CreedenceGold CreedenceGold 18-21, M 1 Response May 7, 2012

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    Peaceful Silence

    Usually it was at night, when we have spent the entire day together talking and talking and done everything, we would just lie together in silence after the goodnight and the night kiss and before the peaceful sleep cuddling.. This I call comfortable silence, not awkward, we...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F Jul 23, 2012

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    Silence Is Golden

     The first time I really remember appreciating silence was after becoming a member of the Congregational Church. After the ceremony I went for a walk along the beach with my parents and the sunset was magnificent. We stood in silence and I was in awe of the moment - it felt...
    glenara glenara 66-70, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2009

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    True...

    Someone put it quite nicely when they said "The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had".    
    Candita Candita 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 15, 2007

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    Peace

    its nice when you can find silence with someone you are close to. be it boyfriend or best friend, its nice that we dont feel we have to fill a space with chatter, we can just be ourselves.
    JulySunSoul JulySunSoul 26-30, F Oct 31, 2011

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    What's Wrong With Silence?

    Seriously, why do some people not like silence? If you are comfortable enough to be with someone and not have to say anything at all, then what's wrong with it? It's beautiful and one of the most amazing moments ever. I miss it... I miss my ex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    Silence Is Golden

    I value comfortable silence.  When I'm around others and they chatter nonstop about meaningless things, it gets on my last nerve.  I enjoy intelligent conversations but have never felt the need to keep talking and trying to force myself to keep it going out of...
    Insomniac Insomniac 51-55, F May 5, 2008

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      Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.
    sweat0wet sweat0wet 51-55, M Jun 6, 2012

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    Sunsets

    Some of my fondest memories in a relationship I have been in has been the times when we haven't spoken. There is nothing better than just enjoying sitting and watching the sun set over the lake from the bench in the park. Pure bliss lies not in the words we speak, but in the...
    sunandstars sunandstars 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2008

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