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I Value Comfortable Silence

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    Sharing The Silence

    I believe that a true friend should be able to just sit and comfortably enjoy the silence with you, even appreciate it. If you cant sit in silence, without feeling awkward, its not really a comfortable friendship. And I don't see the worth of friends whom you can't be comfortable...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F Mar 25, 2013

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    So Very Unawkward

    For some reason many people find silent moments awkward. Well, if nothing needs to be said at that particular time, then-- uh, that's fine with me. I have no problem sitting in silence with a group of people, if anything it can be quite fascinating... (teehee)   Then of...
    realitychallenged realitychallenged 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 29, 2008

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    Silence speaks louder

    than thousands words. When you sit with your loved one and he is not saying anything. Just look at you and trace every inch of yourself with his eyes. When you are so sad that you don't need him to tell you be okay thousand times but his arms hugging you is comforting enough...
    shinebeforesunrise08 shinebeforesunrise08 18-21, F Feb 9

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    Why Do People Always Need Noise?

    This is something I never understood. Why do most people have a constant, incessant need for some noise-making machine to be on in the background, or to be chattering away, or whatever else will fill all possible silences? Why aren't people okay with being quiet with themselves...
    nosouvenirs nosouvenirs 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 10, 2008

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    SlickRick83 SlickRick83 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 9, 2014

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    One Reason

    If you are with someone and the silence feel awkward, it means you are not close enough with that person.
    Airlangga Airlangga 18-21 1 Response May 10, 2013

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    Karnkuluu

    Yea me too They talk **** all dayI can't stand it, and know whatthe blackfellas' wow they can do it non stop or get me this get me that.They mind rape ya
    peterStralia peterStralia 56-60, M Jun 8, 2012

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    Peace

    its nice when you can find silence with someone you are close to. be it boyfriend or best friend, its nice that we dont feel we have to fill a space with chatter, we can just be ourselves.
    JulySunSoul JulySunSoul 26-30, F Oct 31, 2011

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    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 1 Response Mar 22

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    No Point In...

    ...filling every gap with words. Silences are natural pauses, and shouldn't be filled with mindless chatter, just because they're there. I appreciate, if you're friends, when you just don't talk. When you're both thinking, or sitting calmly. It's nice, and shows you're real...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 21, 2013

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    Just because we are together,

    doesn't mean we have to fill every moment with talk. Silence can speak just as loudly.
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds 31-35, F Oct 15, 2014

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    Silence, the Forgotten Realm ‘There is a

    moment, before I sit down to work, that I feel a very keen sense of empathy. It is from this, almost heartbreaking, point that words begin to flow.’ ~ Gabriela Blandy The beauty of creative writing is seen in its power to awaken imagination, emotion and pathos – facets...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M Dec 28, 2013

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    What's Wrong With Silence?

    Seriously, why do some people not like silence? If you are comfortable enough to be with someone and not have to say anything at all, then what's wrong with it? It's beautiful and one of the most amazing moments ever. I miss it... I miss my ex...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 14, 2007

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    Shhh Don't Ruin the Moment. . .

    One thing that I learned in my last relationship is that the beauty of a moment doesn't always have to include commentary.  Some of the most beautiful experiences for me have been while watching a sunrise or sunset with a very special person where no words exchanged...
    fungirlmmm fungirlmmm 41-45, F 23 Responses Oct 12, 2008

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    I Love Comfortable Silences. ...

    I love comfortable silences. unfortunately, they're a rare occurance. But that's ok, i'm ok with listening so feel free to talk.
    Oblivion Oblivion 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 13, 2007

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    Peaceful Silence

    Usually it was at night, when we have spent the entire day together talking and talking and done everything, we would just lie together in silence after the goodnight and the night kiss and before the peaceful sleep cuddling.. This I call comfortable silence, not awkward, we...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F Jul 23, 2012

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    Short Sweet And To The Point....

    Have always since very young loved just being quiet, happy and content to sit quietly observe or be deep into my own thoughts... it's a natural sort of meditation...and very comfortable educational as well. Thanks !
    13MrHappy 13MrHappy 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 29, 2012

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    I'm about to take a bath to awakening my senses

    & make me feel brand new. I love baths's!!!
    aubreylovell aubreylovell 16-17, F Apr 14

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    Silence Can Be Golden

    There are some days when the only sounds you want to hear is the wind and/or the rain. I can appreciate being out in the middle of nowhere just laying back looking up at the stars listening to nature in all its glory have a symphony without modern involvement. I couldn't...
    PrairieDog71 PrairieDog71 41-45, M Jun 9, 2012

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    The Sound of Brunch

    I was having brunch with a friend of mine last weekend and at one point during the meal, I looked up and noticed that we hadn't said much for a good stretch of time.  I was tempted to break the silence, but she looked so peaceful that I just relaxed and enjoyed that silence...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 5, 2007

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      Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.
    sweat0wet sweat0wet 51-55, M Jun 6, 2012

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    kamachulu kamachulu 22-25, M Aug 8, 2014

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    I Often Have Little to Say

    I don't mean to say that I don't have thoughts.  I think a lot, much of it is the kind of stuff you don't have great or lengthy conversations about, at least not with most people.  As an example, there isn't a huge number of people out there who are interested in...
    secondrule secondrule 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 7, 2007

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    A 1000 Words With One Meaning

    This night I dreamed about a person that I was very much in love with, I still care about him. In my dream I said nothing, a long silence was there while he was standing in front of me. After some time I said: 'I love you'. No other words had any meaning anymore, no other words...
    Kiowa Kiowa 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 2, 2008

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    Credits To Paul Simon

    And in the naked light I saw Ten thousand people maybe more People talking without speaking People hearing without speaking People writing songs that voices never shared And no one dared Disturb the sounds of silence.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 2, 2012

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    Let's

     ..................
    DreamingTaoTiger DreamingTaoTiger 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    La Cygne

    Silence And three atmospheres, A whistle from a far. Silence, At the stadium many cheers, The boy racers car. Silence, A peacefulness so serene, A sublime feeling unmatched. Silence, From the waters so keen, My turn to nestle them till hatched. Silence, Here I am a queen on...
    bonizil bonizil 22-25, F Apr 6, 2013

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    Tinboxdoll Tinboxdoll 36-40, F Mar 8

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    I don't like it when people force me to talk.

    I like to have my downtime.
    bard66 bard66 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 11, 2014

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    A Lazy Day.

    I hear people ask "What is a perfect day off for you?" and I must admit that as I age my answer to this question has changed as well. I have a stress packed job and I am learning that with life as it is today even home isn't the safe haven to destress it once was. I find myself...
    hunnydipz hunnydipz 51-55, M Dec 16, 2011

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    Silence Is Golden

    I value comfortable silence.  When I'm around others and they chatter nonstop about meaningless things, it gets on my last nerve.  I enjoy intelligent conversations but have never felt the need to keep talking and trying to force myself to keep it going out of...
    Insomniac Insomniac 51-55, F May 5, 2008

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    True...

    Someone put it quite nicely when they said "The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had".    
    Candita Candita 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 15, 2007

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    Hmmm, I hate when someone can't just sit in

    silence peacefully, or the silence is so awkward someone has to say something...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 24

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    dreamificational dreamificational 36-40, F Dec 18, 2009

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    Comfortable and Quet Is Nice

    Sometimes when I'm  going through a comfortable silence with someone; I'll think about how nice and quiet things are.  Then, I'll make eye contact for a moment to see if I think maybe they're thinking the same thing.  Other times I'll just go far away in my...
    silvermystics silvermystics 51-55, F 1 Response Jun 26, 2007

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    Just Peaceful

    I know I'm with someone who knows and loves me when we can just sit and be, not have to fill the silence with chatter.  The long spaces in between conversations can be just as satisfying as the conversation itself. We're thinking our own thoughts, we're looking...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 14 Responses Dec 30, 2008

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    It's 3a.m. What Is That Strange Noise Or Shall I Say Silence!

    The tv or radio typically goes on right after the coffee pot and off when the sleep timer turns it off. I rarely experience quiet, silence serenity. Amazing how waking at 3am became a blessing not a curse. I am able to feel an amazing calmness and self awareness. I truly believe...
    Momof3rlb Momof3rlb 51-55 Jun 12, 2012

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    Just Accept It

    It's so beautiful when you are don't feel under pressure to say something. It just happens naturally. Silence shouldn't make us uncomfortable, we should just accept it.
    Qeenofsolitude Qeenofsolitude 13-15 Apr 5, 2012

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    It's the only way to know you are comfortable

    around someone. No words are better sometimes I feel
    Van1015 Van1015 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2014

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    One of the nicest things is being able to sit

    around with somebody I care about. Not having to say a single word but just enjoying each other's company.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21 1 Response Jul 26, 2014

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    “We went down into the silent garden.

    Dawn is the time when nothing breathes, the hour of silence. Everything is transfixed, only the light moves.” ― Leonora Carrington
    jml2000 jml2000 56-60, M Sep 13, 2014

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    Quiet Comfortable Moments

    I enjoy comfortable silences. It didn't strike me until a few weeks ago that not everyone can enjoy comfortable silences, or see value in them. I prefer to just be, rather than fill the time/space with random chatter for the sake of noise.
    Rhan Rhan 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 26, 2007

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    It's when you want to enjoy your surroundings

    and your thoughts then somebody just starts nagging you about your thoughts and keeps asking whether it's about him/her...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    The Search For Nothing.

    I really appreciate when I can sit alone in my room and just have silence. Then go on the search for nothing. :-) I love it.
    CreedenceGold CreedenceGold 18-21, M 1 Response May 7, 2012

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    So Shut It

    I'm kidding. I think that statement just makes the silence awkward if you tell it to someone who doesn't get you or your humor. I've never been able to enjoy a comfortable silence with anyone I didn't know. Then again, there are those I do know who I still sit in awkward silence...
    itworkedintheory itworkedintheory 31-35 1 Response May 23, 2012

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    "certain people make silence

    so beautiful n comfortable.. " I had dinner with my brother one evening and he said those words to me.. as we were enjoying the food and the cool wind of the ocean with a soulful song accompanied us, he broke his silence suddenly, expressing his appreciation on the soothing...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i 70+, M 1 Response Mar 26

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