I Value Comfortable Silence

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    deleted deleted
    Jan 30

    No Point In...

    ...filling every gap with words. Silences are natural pauses, and shouldn't be filled with mindless chatter, just because they're there. I appreciate, if you're friends, when you just don't talk. When you're both thinking, or sitting calmly. It's nice, and shows you're real...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 21, 2013

    Silence Is Golden

    I value comfortable silence.  When I'm around others and they chatter nonstop about meaningless things, it gets on my last nerve.  I enjoy intelligent conversations but have never felt the need to keep talking and trying to force myself to keep it going out of...
    Insomniac Insomniac
    51-55, F
    May 5, 2008

    I love this. this is the best.

    like you don't even have to try hard. haha. xD i wasn't really a good talker. i just love to be silent with someone and be comfortable with it. ;D
    yayepisoverimsad yayepisoverimsad
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 30

    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    Aug 12, 2015

    The Sound of Brunch

    I was having brunch with a friend of mine last weekend and at one point during the meal, I looked up and noticed that we hadn't said much for a good stretch of time.  I was tempted to break the silence, but she looked so peaceful that I just relaxed and enjoyed that silence...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Oct 5, 2007

    Peaceful Silence

    Usually it was at night, when we have spent the entire day together talking and talking and done everything, we would just lie together in silence after the goodnight and the night kiss and before the peaceful sleep cuddling.. This I call comfortable silence, not awkward, we...
    MissGaga MissGaga
    22-25, F
    Jul 23, 2012

    A Lazy Day.

    I hear people ask "What is a perfect day off for you?" and I must admit that as I age my answer to this question has changed as well. I have a stress packed job and I am learning that with life as it is today even home isn't the safe haven to destress it once was. I find myself...
    hunnydipz hunnydipz
    51-55, M
    Dec 16, 2011

    Value Peace And Quiet

    Isn't it nice to just be quiet?
    someotherme someotherme
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Oct 26, 2011

    Quiet Comfortable Moments

    I enjoy comfortable silences. It didn't strike me until a few weeks ago that not everyone can enjoy comfortable silences, or see value in them. I prefer to just be, rather than fill the time/space with random chatter for the sake of noise.
    Rhan Rhan
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 26, 2007
    kamachulu kamachulu
    22-25, M
    Aug 8, 2014

    I Love Comfortable Silences. ...

    I love comfortable silences. unfortunately, they're a rare occurance. But that's ok, i'm ok with listening so feel free to talk.
    Oblivion Oblivion
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 13, 2007

    So Very Unawkward

    For some reason many people find silent moments awkward. Well, if nothing needs to be said at that particular time, then-- uh, that's fine with me. I have no problem sitting in silence with a group of people, if anything it can be quite fascinating... (teehee)   Then of...
    realitychallenged realitychallenged
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Apr 29, 2008

    Sometimes they're silent

    because they're listening Even when nothing is being said Their actions will eventually speak volumes And it's only in their silence will you get to truly know them So let them be silent.
    deleted deleted
    Jul 3, 2015

    I don't like it when people force me to talk.

    I like to have my downtime.
    bard66 bard66
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2014

    I'm about to take a bath to awakening my senses

    & make me feel brand new. I love baths's!!!
    aubreylovell aubreylovell
    18-21, F
    Apr 14, 2015

    Silence, the Forgotten Realm ‘There is a

    moment, before I sit down to work, that I feel a very keen sense of empathy. It is from this, almost heartbreaking, point that words begin to flow.’ ~ Gabriela Blandy The beauty of creative writing is seen in its power to awaken imagination, emotion and pathos – facets...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling
    56-60, M
    Dec 28, 2013

    One Reason

    If you are with someone and the silence feel awkward, it means you are not close enough with that person.
    Airlangga Airlangga
    1 Response May 10, 2013

    Just Peaceful

    I know I'm with someone who knows and loves me when we can just sit and be, not have to fill the silence with chatter.  The long spaces in between conversations can be just as satisfying as the conversation itself. We're thinking our own thoughts, we're looking...
    Fallflower Fallflower
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Dec 30, 2008

    Silence is soothing. Silence is peace.

    Silence is divine. The more silent you are, the more you can hear yourself think, and the more you can help yourself heal. Somewhere deep inside, you already know this is true. Think for a moment …
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    Short Sweet And To The Point....

    Have always since very young loved just being quiet, happy and content to sit quietly observe or be deep into my own thoughts... it's a natural sort of meditation...and very comfortable educational as well. Thanks !
    13MrHappy 13MrHappy
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jun 29, 2012

    I prefer it actually.

    People are always wanting to talk and force conversations and it's awkward. I'm fine sitting in silence with others or by myself. World is noisy enough as it is.
    Ordinarylady Ordinarylady
    22-25, F
    Mar 7

    "certain people make silence

    so beautiful n comfortable.. " I had dinner with my brother one evening and he said those words to me.. as we were enjoying the food and the cool wind of the ocean with a soulful song accompanied us, he broke his silence suddenly, expressing his appreciation on the soothing...
    FaitAccomp1i FaitAccomp1i
    70+, M
    1 Response Mar 26, 2015


    Someone put it quite nicely when they said "The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had".    
    Candita Candita
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Aug 15, 2007


    DreamingTaoTiger DreamingTaoTiger
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 7, 2013

    “We went down into the silent garden.

    Dawn is the time when nothing breathes, the hour of silence. Everything is transfixed, only the light moves.” ― Leonora Carrington
    jml2000 jml2000
    61-65, M
    Sep 13, 2014

    Sharing The Silence

    I believe that a true friend should be able to just sit and comfortably enjoy the silence with you, even appreciate it. If you cant sit in silence, without feeling awkward, its not really a comfortable friendship. And I don't see the worth of friends whom you can't be comfortable...
    Lullacus Lullacus
    22-25, F
    Mar 25, 2013

    La Cygne

    Silence And three atmospheres, A whistle from a far. Silence, At the stadium many cheers, The boy racers car. Silence, A peacefulness so serene, A sublime feeling unmatched. Silence, From the waters so keen, My turn to nestle them till hatched. Silence, Here I am a queen on...
    bonizil bonizil
    22-25, F
    Apr 6, 2013
    dreamificational dreamificational
    36-40, F
    Dec 18, 2009

    Credits To Paul Simon

    And in the naked light I saw Ten thousand people maybe more People talking without speaking People hearing without speaking People writing songs that voices never shared And no one dared Disturb the sounds of silence.
    deleted deleted
    Sep 2, 2012

    The most comfortable silence : a kiss between

    two souls enjoying each other.
    4biandu 4biandu
    31-35, F
    Aug 5, 2015

    "I think that's when you know you've found

    someone really special. When you can just shut the **** up for a minute and share a comfortable silence" -Mia Wallas, Pulp Fiction
    AlwaysRestless AlwaysRestless
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 10, 2015

    Just because we are together,

    doesn't mean we have to fill every moment with talk. Silence can speak just as loudly.
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds
    31-35, F
    Oct 15, 2014

    silence is underrated.

    .. it can a great thing if you let it be... usually in groups silence can be awkward, its hardly comfortable... but when I am by myself, I love staying in silence.. it clears all distractions and that can feel freeing if you let it be.
    Darasi Darasi
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 3

    It's the only way to know you are comfortable

    around someone. No words are better sometimes I feel
    Van1015 Van1015
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 25, 2014

    Comfortable and Quet Is Nice

    Sometimes when I'm  going through a comfortable silence with someone; I'll think about how nice and quiet things are.  Then, I'll make eye contact for a moment to see if I think maybe they're thinking the same thing.  Other times I'll just go far away in my...
    silvermystics silvermystics
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jun 26, 2007

    Why Do People Always Need Noise?

    This is something I never understood. Why do most people have a constant, incessant need for some noise-making machine to be on in the background, or to be chattering away, or whatever else will fill all possible silences? Why aren't people okay with being quiet with themselves...
    nosouvenirs nosouvenirs
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 10, 2008

    Silence speaks louder

    than thousands words. When you sit with your loved one and he is not saying anything. Just look at you and trace every inch of yourself with his eyes. When you are so sad that you don't need him to tell you be okay thousand times but his arms hugging you is comforting enough...
    shinebeforesunrise08 shinebeforesunrise08
    22-25, F
    Feb 9, 2015
    Diggemzz Diggemzz
    31-35, M
    Oct 9, 2014

    It's when you want to enjoy your surroundings

    and your thoughts then somebody just starts nagging you about your thoughts and keeps asking whether it's about him/her...
    wiredwolf wiredwolf
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 30, 2015


    its nice when you can find silence with someone you are close to. be it boyfriend or best friend, its nice that we dont feel we have to fill a space with chatter, we can just be ourselves.
    JulySunSoul JulySunSoul
    26-30, F
    Oct 31, 2011

    One of the nicest things is being able to sit

    around with somebody I care about. Not having to say a single word but just enjoying each other's company.
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity
    1 Response Jul 26, 2014

    I find myself just sitting in my computer chair,

    in silence, spacing out, quite often. It's relaxing.
    PsychGirl94 PsychGirl94
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 4, 2015

    Hmmm, I hate when someone can't just sit in

    silence peacefully, or the silence is so awkward someone has to say something...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 24, 2015

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