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I Value My Independence

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    Well...

    Beyond 'Independence' allowed or disallowed by state/country, I'm choosing to address another aspect. I've held a full time job since I was 16.  I've paid for everything since then.  The freedoms, liberties and yes, independence your own income affords you is...
    LickingLollies LickingLollies 16-17, F Oct 15, 2007

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    I do value independence

    but would like to have a partner. I don't think the family is wrong. If a married couple has a child it's his obligation to take care of it. Don't have sex with someone you don't love and custody , child support and welfare won't be an issue. Same if she has a good job and the...
    sirnatural sirnatural 36-40, M Jun 28, 2015

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    It Is Written In The Stars

    Just checked Rob Brezsney's "Free Will Astrology" sight for this week's horoscope, and I received the most precious reading.  It is absolutely what I needed to hear:   Historians trace the origin of Poland as a nation to the year 966. It mostly thrived...
    juan1966 juan1966 46-50, M 6 Responses Feb 17, 2010

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    Having had lost it for much of the first half

    of my life, I'll be damned if I'll ever relinquist it again. I have it, it's nobody else's to take or compromise in any way. I refuse to be effectly enslaved for what's left of my life. Life is too short to live miserably and in somebody else's shadow, to sacrifice my own needs...
    bitabyss bitabyss 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2013

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    Regretable

    i value my independence but i had to give it up. for safety and to make others happy. i plan to get it back one day soon when i am completely ready to carry on and my life is stable again.i hate being controlled. i have no other choice right now.i know things will fall into...
    freeangel freeangel 31-35, F 1 Response May 5, 2010

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    Can a person value their independence entirely

    too much? I have been keeping journals for about two years to date and have learned so much about myself in the process. I used to be dependent to a certain degree, but I have learned that doesn't quite work for me well. I have learned to become independent, and although I...
    Joyfulone1 Joyfulone1 41-45, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2014

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    Not Giving It Up Again

    Independence is something everyone should value like a pile of gold. I had it, lost it and got it back and now I don't think it will ever be far from my side. It's not like I when to jail and had the door close behind me, I gave it up slowly, like sand falling through an hour...
    loopnscc loopnscc 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2011

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    Independence

    Independence,Value it,Where would I be?Without it,Goodness knows,Hope,I never find out,I wanna live.
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket 46-50, M Mar 2, 2012

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    Independence Is Life..

    I almost died spiritually recently. I have Cerebral Palsy and I have no right to have my own life due to uptight Australian government regulations on in-home support/personal care and agency rules. I will fight for my rights forever, please support me.
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 10, 2009

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    I am starting my 2nd year of college

    and am moving off campus to live. I'm kind of anxious because there is more independence and freedom involved, but I hope I can gain some valuable life lessons throughout it all. It's both an exciting and nervous feeling.
    StayCalmImYours StayCalmImYours 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    Until

    It is the opposite of flags and hymns, it is a sentiment with deep roots. I get nervous when I am claimed even by a person I like. Freedom rules my inner world, the only space there is where I feel safe enough because nobody can see me there. In that still expanding realm I...
    moreandless moreandless 56-60, M Nov 22, 2010

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    I think the girl who is able to earn her own

    living and pay her own way should be as happy as anybody on earth. The sense of independence and security is very sweet....to say the least...
    LadyHeartnMind LadyHeartnMind 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2015

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    The Pull Of The Tide

    I realize that one could simply sum up my chaotic state of mind as nothing more than a typical midlife crisis.  Nonetheless, from where I stand today, the landscape before me is awash in a sea of questions.  The tide is pulling me out, and though I seem steady on the...
    juan1966 juan1966 46-50, M 9 Responses May 4, 2010

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    Strong Minded Woman

    I will never make an excuse for who I am. I am strong I am independent I am a woman I value the traits that I have I am a strong, independent woman and I value myself.
    Beautifulnbroken Beautifulnbroken 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2013

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    It Works For Me

    One of the benefits of maturing is seeing yourself accurately.  In my 20s I tried to be what I thought others wanted me to be, my 30s were a time of introspection spent figuring out what I wanted and needed to live the life I was meant to live. I spent very little, almost no...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 8, 2012

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    I have an issue with giving my independence

    away. Specifically being a stay at home wife!! I know it's horrid way of thinking but I see it as a form of prostitution like an exchange for them providing security. I have a problem accepting to be taken care of financially and feel submissive. "Man take care of me and now...
    Impulse11 Impulse11 36-40, F Aug 3, 2015

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    Taking My Freedom Back!

    A couple of days ago, the person I have been renting a room from made several remarks to me regarding my belongings. It took those 2 remarks to make a decision to leave from there. My husband and I have a property 60 miles from where I have my small cleaning business and it makes...
    cherokee59 cherokee59 56-60, F 5 Responses Sep 17, 2010

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    Not That I Have That Much

    But i value what i have ... i pay my bills but i dont have my own account because its safer that way . I plan on getting my temp packet soon .. i have to have dr's permission to do that since i have bipolar and all   I do live on my own with my two children . I dont have...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F Jun 23, 2007

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