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I 've Been In Love And Betrayed

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    It's amazing how easily some people can fake

    feelings. A few years ago now I was betrayed by a woman who claimed to love me while secretly doing it with her ex and subsequently having a kid with him.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 2

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    My last girlfriend before my wife got pregnant

    by another guy. I had an engagement ring in layaway and had an elaborate engagement planned out. It was a pretty devastating event in my life
    jgentry712 jgentry712 46-50, M 2 Responses Nov 21

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    Have You Ever Been In Love....and Betrayed??

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    genglicious genglicious 26-30, F 14 Responses Sep 1, 2010

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    I am in love with you.

    But you are no longer in love with me. Yeah, sure you say you love me. But you don't. Haven't been for most of our marriage. Why did you marry me? Why did you have to be with her? You messed everything up- not me- so why am I the one hurting?
    BlueEyedFaye BlueEyedFaye 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 23

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    I will never trust my heart to another ever

    again. People are too cruel for there to be such a thing as true love.
    treyn65 treyn65 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 3

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    November 11, 2014 I received a call from a lady

    telling me that her husband and my wife were involved in an affair. Her husband had come clean and told her everything. I checked our phone bill and sure enough there were over a thousand text messages and 8.5hrs of calls in just the first 10 days of the new billing cycle. Many...
    jgentry712 jgentry712 46-50, M 14 Responses Nov 26

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    I was living wit a guy we were engaged

    for almost a yr til one day I came home early to surprise him but come to my surprise he was married to his babymomma n she was pregnant wit there second child smh #painfordays
    cecegee1990 cecegee1990 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 10

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    I found this recently

    and want to share. I did not write it--I can't remember who did: " If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth."
    Sinfulkisses869 Sinfulkisses869 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 10

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    Worst Feeling Ever...

    Back many moons ago while still in college, I was in a 5 1/2 year long relationship with a woman who upon first meeting, had a 10 month old little girl named Madeleine. After six months of dating, she finally told me that she had a daughter as I was always wondering why we were...
    idlewatcher idlewatcher 31-35, M 37 Responses Sep 1, 2010

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    I was so young when I went down the isle with

    him and said, "I do." He never told me he had been with many while we were engaged. I was just a silly girl. Not until a few years ago did I get this information. He had been in contact with an old girlfriend the whole entire time. And that now explains why I have been in a...
    1HisMsAdler 1HisMsAdler 41-45, F 8 Responses Nov 27

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    How Does One Ever Begin To Trust Again?

    How does one ever begin to trust again? They say if you fall off a bike or a horse you should get right back on. What if you break your leg or arm in that fall? Sure that bone will heal in time, but it is not the same as having your heart broken. We give ourselves to others...
    EbonyLady EbonyLady 41-45, F 6 Responses Oct 5, 2012

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    I've been married four years,

    but lately my husband ignores me, and I know he's having sex with a girl from his office. It sucks.
    HarmonyCHILL HarmonyCHILL 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 3

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    I found out my boyfriend had a relationship

    with another woman and so in love with her.. My heart broke... I cried out loud... I'm hurt... So hurt... My heart broken into pieces ...
    vavaeast vavaeast 31-35, F 11 Responses Nov 8

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    Fool me once, shame on me,

    but the trick is to not get fooled twice. If I never get emotionally attached to anyone again, it'll be too soon. Now that I know myself and my strengths, I am happy to say that I don't need anyone but myself, because in the end, I'm all I need.
    CloseButNoGuitar CloseButNoGuitar 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 21

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    Don't get I to a relationship

    if you can't give it your all. Your absolute 100%. Relationships take work. There must be love, trust, honesty, faith, understanding, and loyalty. If you can't do any of that, you're setting yourself up for failure and to hurt the other person.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30

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    I keep wanting to text him.

    Its hard for me to understand how he can shut down ten years of love to be with someone else without any kind of mourning period. Im have a hard time cutting all mental ties, why is it so seemingly easy for him? I knew we were not doing good anymore, I let my issues put a strain...
    sleepingbeauty13 sleepingbeauty13 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 28

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    I'm so hurt I'm afraid I'll give in.

    last night I broke down mentally because I hated myself for putting myself through this mess and not ending it. the thought of moving on hurts, and the thought of staying makes me hate myself.
    evynray evynray 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    Betrayal, Another Learning Experience

    It helps you to make decisions that you might otherwise delay when it comes to that person. It makes you not trust them anymore. It helps you to come to terms with the person in your mind with thoughts you may have been struggling with. It gives you a gut perspective about...
    phatnhapi phatnhapi 56-60, F 1 Response Oct 17, 2013

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    A new survey has revealed

    that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The study, conducted by online younger women older men dating site www.agemeet.com , collected data from 53,233 users with the...
    Katycc11 Katycc11 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 27

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    Six years ago, I dated a terrible person.

    Sure, he was sweet and loving at first - the perfect guy - but not long after we started dating, he changed. He was verbally abusive, calling me every horrible name you can think of. He'd stay out late almost every night claiming he was "hanging out with friends", when he was...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 27

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    This is an update. My ex recently said he made

    the biggest mistake of his life, and that he loves me more than anything or anyone ever. Bla bla bla...Pfft. He had six months after our big fight and he started cheating on me to realize he was making a mistake..He kicked me out if what was to be our family home. Ultimately, to...
    sleepingbeauty13 sleepingbeauty13 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I Read This Somewhere

    “When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sa...t down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking...
    Angelwithbrokenwingsxo Angelwithbrokenwingsxo 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 28, 2013

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    After 3 years, he cheated on me in Afghanistan.

    I gave him everything. And he cheated on me. Not just like a one night stand type of thing...he told everyone we were broken up and was dating a girl in his unit in Afghanistan for about 3 months. It truly broke my heart. That was the last time I was going to give him a second...
    ObviouslyAlex ObviouslyAlex 18-21, F 15 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    How was I betrayed in love?

    No, my wife did not cheat on me, as far as I know. I feel betrayed by her lies. Many little lies pertaining to our money and how she spends it. Little amounts and bigger amounts, all unaccounted for. We had a budget that we made together. She has never been able to abide...
    Aeonian Aeonian 51-55, M 7 Responses Jun 14

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    Let me just get a reality check.

    If the woman who you had a child with married another man you had no idea she'd been with and told him that your child was his. Then told you to **** off. Would you EVER give that woman another chance? What if it likely was your only chance at being in your son's life?
    MissinMySon MissinMySon 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 8

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    please help me get over someone.

    .. its been 4 weeks since the breakup... its killing me and i cant move on... i feel numb and unable to do anything... she was everything to me for 4 years.. and now she simply left... i need serious help...
    anonymous941994 anonymous941994 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    If you're afraid to be hurt again,

    then you're afraid to be loved again. Don't let hearts that didn't love you, keep you from the one that will.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M Apr 30

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    It's been 7 years. She cheated.

    I forgave. She left. Since then I've come to know that she was cheating all our married life. I don't love her anymore. In fact, I rarely think of her, and I've grown to the point where I wish her no harm and have no ill will. However, I do wonder if I'll ever truly be in love...
    CaliforniaDr CaliforniaDr 36-40, M 5 Responses Jul 23

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    So u love her... That's okay 'cause she loves u

    too, but then u realize, u are the giver... She takes it all never to return anything. That's another form of betrayal
    Joerobert2 Joerobert2 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 9

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    I didn’t think I would post about this one

    so soon. But I hate having it hanging over my head so I’m just going to do it. I was with my last boyfriend for 5 years and 9 months. We lived together for the past few years. We broke up about two months ago. We had plans to get married, have children, grow old, everything...
    peachespicnic peachespicnic 22-25, F 21 Responses Mar 26

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    The last time I was on EP was quite a long time

    ago when I wrote a small paragraph thanking everyone who had read "My Story" and gave me tremendous support. Though I was overjoyed to have received such warm and thoughtful comments filled with encouragement, I was sad and caught up in the emotional distress of a heartbreak...
    amcintyre94 amcintyre94 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    adeleccaa adeleccaa 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I really need someone to talk too.

    I had a fight with my boyfriend yesterday and he hasn't called me to say sorry or anything. I just need someone to talk too. It's too much on my heart, I'm gonna break. It's sad I can't even talk to him.
    LE17 LE17 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 9

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    My story is rather complicated -

    but simply put, I was betrayed when my wife started an emotional affair with a married man.
    Mike405 Mike405 46-50, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    in this vulnerable moment,

    all I want is someone to hold me silently, without saying a word, for as long as I need.
    evynray evynray 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    It was a hard lesson

    for me to learn that someone who says they love me and I've been so close to for years could betray me. It left me wondering if I wanted to even put myself in the position of possibly being hurt again but I came to the conclusion that keeping my heart open to the possibility of...
    didyouseethat didyouseethat 41-45, F 9 Responses Aug 4

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    peace2014 peace2014 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 30

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    I was cheated on, when I forgave was my mistake,

    I have reason to believe he constantly talked to other girls the whole time, but he used me for every dime he could get out of me, all the time breaking down my spirit and killing the person i was before i got with him My stupid mistake, i finally got away two weeks ago, and am...
    ImJustJen ImJustJen 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 7

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    So of course I went back to him

    because he swore to me and cried to me he was going to change and begged for another chance. I love him so of course I went back. I found out he has more dating websites. My daughters bday was this month and he was messaging these girls the same day of my daughters bday and...
    Ireallycantsay Ireallycantsay 22-25, F 11 Responses May 8

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    ok, I chose this topic

    because it happened to me for the first time in my life as an adult. looking back at my old life, I was popular, sexy, kind, loving, generous, but I was not easy. I've been living in good life and didn't need men to support me. I had and still high self esteem. I knew in my...
    dj7930 dj7930 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 13

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    I'd kind of given up on love

    because my life was such a disaster at the time. But I hired a dog walker who turned into my girlfriend who turned into my wife. She was a single mom so I became a father in the deal. I felt so much love I could barely believe it. Then she betrayed me in every way possible. But...
    Pathfinder108 Pathfinder108 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I was gullible and a vulnerable queen to

    promises. Perhaps, it is because I had this craving that no one else could feed but the man that took the vows with me. I only wanted a complete family. I don't want my children to heal a deep-seethed emptiness which is beyond measure. I did not only love but was fooled. I was...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    Love can be strange, Love can be rough,

    When you get in range, It can be enough. Love is to feel, Love is for the heart, When it's surreal, Two will never part.
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 1

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    My heart was shredded & minced,

    then placed back inside my chest with the expectation that it should somehow know how to beat again.
    kittysaurus kittysaurus 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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    About a few years ago I was going out with this

    guy from school, we were both into each other, had sex a lot but we were quiet about it, no one knew about our relationship but about 8 months into the relationship and I walk into Maths class to find him kissing another women, I dropped my stuff on the floor and I was in shock...
    Mary4you Mary4you 18-21, F 13 Responses Sep 8

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    Sometimes the best way to appreciate something

    is to be without it for a while. But don't push me away and expect me to still be there when you come back.
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M Apr 27

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    I consider myself pretty easy to get along with

    and because of this I get a lot of people claiming to date me or want to date me (online of course). While these are fun and games most of the time just waiting for them to forget me I do take real relationships very seriously. Though I've had many flings I think I've been in...
    Plungeintoadream Plungeintoadream 18-21, F Nov 2

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    back in 2013, I met my first love

    and we've been together like 3 month. I still remember the first time he came to my life and said that he will love me forever but I could never imagine that his 'forever' is going to be that short. One day, he told something ti my best friend he said that he is in live with her...
    despressedfatgirl despressedfatgirl 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 26

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    I'm not one for dualism,

    and trying to distinguish my mind from my body in a clean cut way is impossible. But there's no other way to explain how I could feel so detached from this person who betrayed trust, my loyalty, my everything...even his touch doesn't feel familiar and warm anymore...but I still...
    evynray evynray 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 13

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    It sucks when you miss

    that person so much that you look through old photos, old text messages, even old statuses. And it brings a smile to your face, but then the hurt comes back and you know you shouldn't be looking back, but you can't help it because they really meant something to you and you...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 3 Responses May 4

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    Donnacc12 Donnacc12 26-30, F Dec 3

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