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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    I've never felt better,

    physically and mentally. Cutting ties has been a great decision. I posted my experience, so if you're curious please read it.
    WaterOx WaterOx 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 7

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    My mother and I got into a small spat

    because I consider some people my family. She's so hot headed about blood and marriage it drives me up the wall. Her 'half sister', my aunt, has another sister and I considered her my other aunt. Cause she's my aunts sister so why not? And her daughter my cousin cause why not...
    RyskerSein RyskerSein 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 8

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    In my life I've come to learn Just

    because blood is thicker than water doesn't mean water isn't kinder than blood
    PoetryGirl101 PoetryGirl101 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Blood Is Thicker Than Water.. But So Is Syrup And At Least That's Sweeter!

    As the youngest member of my family, I've often thought of myself as an inconvenience. I wouldn't say they hated me. They just didn't include me. Until one member of the "Best Friends" section of the family tried to stab the rest of the family in the back. And then they HAD to...
    AuraMoon AuraMoon 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Blood is one bond we can not break.

    It's essential for health reasons or to understand the history of how you got here. Blood relation can also lend a sense of belonging in the sense that you see similar physical or behavioral features in yourself as in your family. But creating a family, creating the...
    warp9pnt9 warp9pnt9 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 30

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    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M Apr 15

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    This is so true I believe family is someone

    who stands by you and helps and supports you. I prefer family by choice and not just who youre stuck with.. Although some members of my family are decent
    pxxp pxxp 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 7

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    SophieeJordan SophieeJordan 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 26

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    I know its a cliche but its true.

    Family to me is like a wolfpack. Not related to everyone but everyone is still close. You protect each other, care for each other, and life would be hard without them
    TCrawford02 TCrawford02 18-21, M Jan 21

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 9 Responses May 23

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    I think the best example of this is the

    Broadway musical and movie version of "Rent" it's absolutely amazing.
    nycbound98 nycbound98 16-17, M Oct 8

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    Me & Mine

    I'm lucky. However you look at it. I was chosen before I knew what choice was, by 2 people who love me unconditionally. My own mother and father couldn't be together (loooooooong story) so gave me up for adoption. 2 months later I was chosen from a white wooden cot by 2...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    Blood wise, I have no family.

    They didn't die or anything tragic, but they chose to not be involved in my life. My biological dad, the ***** donor, chose to leave and after 14 years I realized that its better he's gone. When him and his side left, my family got small. Down to my mom, brother, uncle and...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Who made the rule saying you have to

    love/respect people who are related to you? Please.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    Experienced this yesterday at Thanksgiving.

    ..new friends who are old souls. A safety there when you mention a piece of your past ten years ago and it's like they were right there with you.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 31-35, M 2 Responses Oct 13

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    I can relate, my family is

    so distant and the only thing in the world I want is a close family. I'm 31 no boyfriend no kids so that doesn't seem in the realm of possibility right now. Working on it
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    Being adopted, I really do believe

    that blood doesn't make a family. I have a pretty awesome adoptive family. Yeah, we have our ups and downs, our wins and our losses, but we have overcome so much, together as a whole extended family unit, it's quite hard to see the foundation crumble any time soon. :)
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    My life is pretty dysfunctional,

    I must admit. I'm born out of wedlock. My bio mother cheated on my father for another sh|tty man and left us for America. I hated her since then. Until now, if only she knew. If only I have the guts to say that to her. But I want peace. My loving dad met my step mom, who I call...
    jesssaying1997 jesssaying1997 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    In middle school my friends (from 7th

    and 8th grade) and I would sit together at lunch and talk about random things. They also had my back against the mean girls. I told them that I considered them my metaphorical family.
    NE3NE3 NE3NE3 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    There are many of us

    who can't share their innermost thoughts with their family as they fear what they might say Hopefully my family is not like that in most matters.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 8

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 9

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    I used to like my family,

    but then I made real friends who showed me what a real family feels like.
    lukkaz lukkaz 18-21 3 Responses Sep 21

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    For me it never will.

    I mean, i hate the half of my family and the other half i can barely stand. But i have some friends that i would die for and kill for. So i am able to love other people, i am not a psychopath, but my family, just no
    ThatBlueOwl ThatBlueOwl 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 13

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    I can't stand the family I was born in.

    They dislike my personality in terms of character and appearance. They ***** about the decisions and mistakes that I make. I mean I turn eighteen the first of November. Are you going to keep treating me like an infant? I get bitched for being 'lazy'. I'm not. I didn't know that...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 7 Responses May 2

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    Life Goes On

    It all comes down to saying that your neighboor is you closest family. The more you get along with the people surrounding you the more the more you reveal your selves to each other, caring and being always there when needed. As for your own siblings, as I have experienced it...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Hello! I have definitely found this out!

    You know a family is suppose to be a special thing. These are suppose to be people who come on this earth naturally equipped to be there for you. They are all suppose to be your first loves. The ones who you learn how to love other people in the world from. People who are...
    glassfire100 glassfire100 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Aug 27

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    We may be related, but we are not family.

    Everywhere I here people insisting because a person is family, or related, you have to be nice to them. Be kind. Offer help. But why should I? Just because I was born into your family or you were born into mine, doesn't mean you deserve special privileges. It doesn't mean I'm...
    RedAngelic RedAngelic 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    My family treats me like dirt under their shoes.

    They think I'm an unwanted child, since I was an accident, and they already had my brother. When I was 12 years old, I met someone named Ilona, she became my best friend and changed my life. She was like a sister I never had, and I soon realized, she was the only person I loved...
    lunablue13 lunablue13 16-17, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Blood can bite too hard.

    Family should heal. Not bite. Thank God for pals. They dont always agree. But i aint always calm. So who can blame them. Lmao.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    Aside from my sister,

    I've had far closer relationships with my friends than anyone I'm related to. I don't trust hardly anyone anymore, but I'd trust my friends over my family any day. To quote Bobby Singer, "Family don't end with blood".
    mhenson144 mhenson144 22-25, M 3 Responses Sep 7

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    While my mom was dying,

    friends I've met through different Military installations went out of their way for me and my mom'a well being. They were selfless though they have little. While family did nothing. Judgmental, rude, selfish, and made it a living hell. Family is not always blood.
    CaptureEverything CaptureEverything 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I have an "adopted" family.

    Not legally but they know more about me than my own family. They know who I am under my mask. There are many of us ranging from 10-20. We are a family. They keep me from drowning in my life.
    hopewojo hopewojo 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    My birth parents were 15

    and 16, so I was always going to be taken into care as a baby. 1972 was very different to these days! Thankfully, I was adopted almost at birth, at 3 weeks old - not that I remember it! Lol. Never made any attempts to trace my birth parents, because I view my mam and dad to be...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I can sing a song about that.

    My biological mum told me when I was 7, I had to call my biological dad to say him he's not my dad anymore, the one who adopted me is. She isn't a mother to me. She lied to me my whole life and that isn't the thing you do, when you are in a loving Family. Now I live with the men...
    BlaBla01 BlaBla01 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    kolo1463 kolo1463 22-25, F 37 Responses Aug 13

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    Being an only child, friends with siblings find

    this hard to understand, I have high expectations for my friends because I consider them family.
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 11

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    Theres been a few times in my life

    when the realization of some truth has been strong enough to change my views for ever. The first time was when I found out that just because its written in a book, its not necessarily true. I really thought, as a kid, that there was a group of people in a building somewhere...
    RobertCarlos RobertCarlos 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 7

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    Since I don't have any known family member left,

    my friends have become a second family to me, and now I have a baby of my own and a husband. I couldn't be happier right now :)
    AceKlein1992 AceKlein1992 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 13

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    Truth. I feel a better family connection with

    complete strangers than I do with my mother. My friends are my family. My friend Alice, we both said that we'd rather have each other as sisters than have the family we do. I would give my life for my friends, whereas I would ask for some popcorn if some told me I had to watch...
    Rachlm214 Rachlm214 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 8

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    I have not had contact with my family

    since I was 13 and to be honest I have never missed them. People say that blood is thicker than water...but it didn't matter to them and it matters little to me now. A family is someone who looks after you, stands by you, love you without needing a reason. My partner is a...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My parents and family doesn't exactly treat me

    the best. My best friend and my boyfriend's parents treat me so well. I consider them closer family than my real blood family. They know more about me and will actually let me talk to them if I ever need anything(:
    saxophonegal22 saxophonegal22 13-15, F Jul 2

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    I know guys and gals from completely different

    ethnicity who would do more than I could ask of them while my own family would rather let me suffer than loose a penny.
    FallenPride FallenPride 22-25, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I'm not really sure what a family is supposed

    to be like. For me it's weird to say I love you and all that. I was raised to be able to handle hurtful words and I never really had words of encouragement or heard words of love growing up. It's weird for someone to tell me they love me or say words of affection to me. Ive...
    dashuria dashuria 13-15, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    Some people say you can choose your friends

    but you can't choose your family.I have to disagree sharing blood or the last name with someone will not have me treat them as family. Just like friends family are people in your life you like/love who you treat with respect and get it in return. They are people you trust and...
    DizzyGreenEyes DizzyGreenEyes 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 15

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    The ship doesn't always answer the helm.

    The helm isn't always the sound answer for a ship. The pigeons near the church don't worry about public lavatories.
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 9

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