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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 8 Responses May 23, 2014

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    And my blood-bound relatives are not family to

    me at all. Most of my life, my mom shut me out and pretended like I was nothing but a piece of useless garbage. She would even say things along that line sometimes. My step-dad is occasionally physically abusive and both my mom and step-dad are emotionally abusive. I feel lonely...
    SamanthaJC SamanthaJC 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F 8 Responses Jan 4

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    berangere berangere 66-70, F 1 Response May 19

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    Family is where your heart belongs.

    My parents were awful when I grew up. I found someone I could trust and call "mom" and for the first time I felt understood and accepted even though we aren't related. It's important what you feel and not what's written in your birth certificate.
    SnowInSummer SnowInSummer 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Tonight my father came over to my house to

    convince me to leave my girlfriend. He doesn't approve of our relationship. He offered me money (again) to end the relationship because he believes I'm only with her for money. The first time he said this I was very angry. I told him that it was disgusting and that I didn't want...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 19 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I think because I lost my parents

    and I don't have any brothers or sisters I see my friends as my family
    mirajane123 mirajane123 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    If it did, I would be able to talk to my mom

    and dad. I would be able to make friends in the world. I would not live in fear. In a real family, parents don't have favorites. In a real family, everyone cares for each other. If I had a real family, I would not have been able to leave for 2 days and come back without anyone...
    LostandHopless123 LostandHopless123 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 12

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    DangBobby DangBobby 18-21, M Mar 20

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    So today I got in **** with one of my teachers

    in school .. She got the vice principal to talk to me and after that I pretty much felt **** throughout the entire day .. She told me that I hadn't done **** in the whole year and that I have to get Straight A's in my next tests or else she'll get the principal after me... After...
    KenjaminL KenjaminL 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 23

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    The bond that links your true family is not one

    of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof. ~Richard Bach
    MissMeliscious MissMeliscious 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16

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    I'm not really sure what a family is supposed

    to be like. For me it's weird to say I love you and all that. I was raised to be able to handle hurtful words and I never really had words of encouragement or heard words of love growing up. It's weird for someone to tell me they love me or say words of affection to me. Ive...
    dashuria dashuria 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 8, 2014

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    So this back story might take a while.

    My Mom has had to deal with abuse from her parents and siblings for her whole life. Mostly from her older brother. However, her parents have always taken the brother's side. In turn, she has been outcast from her family, went through a period of severe depression, and went to...
    Ariomelody42 Ariomelody42 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 24

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    Friends are the family you choose

    for yourself, the ones that stick by you time after time, they don't care if you stuffed up today, tomorrow or last week they're there anyway. They will be there regardless. A shoulder to cry on, a familiar face that greets you warmly, a better place to be.
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    I am the youngest of five

    and I haven't seen my siblings or my "mother's" side of the family in a decade. Initially it was their choice not to see me--I was fifteen and decided to move in with my father and step-mother. After I got my license to drive, I drove all the way out there to see my quadriplegic...
    seelensauger seelensauger 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    And I'm far from it. I will tell you everything

    sincerely and straight up. But, here in Ecuador, I've realized that blood never really makes the family although it can be a huge factor. I have made a family in New York. We all belonged to eachother. We all were there for eachother. And we all loved eachother freely and...
    ConLocura ConLocura 18-21, F Mar 25

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    I've come to realize

    that blood doesn't make a family. BUT it makes a really great smoothie!
    zmedleff1 zmedleff1 41-45 3 Responses Jan 4

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    I feel like my 3 best friends are more like

    family to me than my actual blood related family. When my friends found out I had a girlfriend, they loved and supported me. But when my "family" found out, they almost threw me out on the street.
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    I've had several families on the streets

    growing up and I've always been closer to them than my blood family. I don't really know who they are. My street family is stronger than bond by blood. I don't if I want to go back and learn who they are more or keep moving. Haven't decided yet.
    PartyGuy21 PartyGuy21 18-21, M Mar 2

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    Experienced this yesterday at Thanksgiving.

    ..new friends who are old souls. A safety there when you mention a piece of your past ten years ago and it's like they were right there with you.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    to me ive come to realize.

    friends can be more like family than actually family its ****** up but true i can count on then more than family anyone. else
    jameswertman12 jameswertman12 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 3

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    Blood isn't family but true friends are :) those

    who understand you, the hurt, the pain, the days when you want it to all end, yet they are still there with a hug and loving word :)
    krystalkool84 krystalkool84 31-35, F Feb 18

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    Yes, I have done it. I wrote a letter to my

    toxic mother telling her that I cut her off my life. I had also briefly explained the reasons for this "divorce", because I think it's very violent to just disappear from somebody's life. After I have done that, I felt the need to do a big clean up in my apartment, and re...
    CantatriceChauve CantatriceChauve 31-35, F 1 Response May 14

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    I believe that blood is not always thinker

    than water. How do you feel?
    royalkonz royalkonz 22-25, M 6 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    When I am at school, I don't say I am with my

    friends. I say I am with my family. We are not related by blood, but we are by heart, because we are there for each other no matter what.
    Naty73 Naty73 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    Hello! I have definitely found this out!

    You know a family is suppose to be a special thing. These are suppose to be people who come on this earth naturally equipped to be there for you. They are all suppose to be your first loves. The ones who you learn how to love other people in the world from. People who are...
    glassfire100 glassfire100 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 19, 2014

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    I feel like the author of an american tragedy.

    It was 315 am. A time when most americans were either working to keep the wealthy wealthy or asleep hoping that the cold would not wake them but one disabled male was up fighting swollen gums and a runny nose using tea bags plus garlic seeped in vinegar if antiseptic mouth...
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Mar 19

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    I'm closer with my friends (baes) :*

    than I am with my family
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    My family treats me like dirt under their shoes.

    They think I'm an unwanted child, since I was an accident, and they already had my brother. When I was 12 years old, I met someone named Ilona, she became my best friend and changed my life. She was like a sister I never had, and I soon realized, she was the only person I loved...
    lunablue13 lunablue13 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Aug 27, 2014

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    I have my family of choice from Alateen

    and they are my true family. My blood family aren't those that are there for me. It's my fellow Alanons and Alateens.
    bbybleu bbybleu 16-17, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I realized this when my parents basically

    abandoned me after I started living as a woman. So **** them, is what I'm saying. It's the people who stick by you that matter
    emyleejane emyleejane 26-30, T 6 Responses Apr 27

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    Me and two of my siblings were adapted,

    so my parents had three kids and adopted three I was taught from an early age that blood doesn't make a family love does
    PanamanianPenguin PanamanianPenguin 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    I was adopted by a family

    when I was 3 and honestly, I've had little to no desire to find my birth mother or father. It was an open adoption, and in all my years they've not made any attempts to contact me. My adoptive family is white, and unfortunately I know that they've faced tribulations, but they...
    AllyKatz03 AllyKatz03 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 16

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    Look at Lydia. We're not related,

    yet I treat her like my sister. ~ Lys ♪
    AssylaAidyl AssylaAidyl 18-21, F Apr 25

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    Nothing like a beautiful Sunday afternoon with

    family you haven't seen in 3 years. The view of the tops of their heads as they played on their phones the whole time really gave the air a sense of family.
    Bumblelion Bumblelion 31-35, M 4 Responses May 17

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    Very true I see it in my bfs family his baby

    brother was adopted at 10 months after his parents died in a car crash. He is treated no different than rest the kids I have to admit he's our pet.
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    I am hurting because I want my mom to love

    and acknowledge me but she won't. It's a pain I'm trying to live with.
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 26

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    My family has always ignored me

    and ostracized me and treated me differently than they treat each other. I've never been one of them. It has become worse now that I'm an adult and they have pretty much rejected me and treat me like I'm worthless. They have shown that they truly don't care. Thankfully I have...
    UnwantedPup UnwantedPup 31-35, T 1 Response Apr 25

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    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 6 Responses May 2, 2014

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    I had realized that my mother is toxic.

    She's always sending bad vibes. Negativity. She uses me but she doesn't like to spend time with me. It used to be painful, but I am okay with it now. I just want to cut her off from my life completely. I have done that for three months, and I finally felt free. But I have...
    CantatriceChauve CantatriceChauve 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Sometimes family can be worst

    than your friends. the greed, selfishness, lies its horrible. My family, I love them but the rumors that goes around and them being two-face really breaks my heart. I'm big on family but some days I can't look members in the face without a glare. They do things behind your back...
    latrice2173 latrice2173 22-25, F Feb 3

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