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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    My best-friend is like my sister

    and we often joke around that she's my Asian sister and that I'm the long lost Chan (that's her last name) of the family. I have an uncle who is Greek and we chat up a storm while drinking tea. I have a pair of Aussie Godparents who are in no way related to me but are better...
    MindvsHeartAJ MindvsHeartAJ 18-21, T Jun 9

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    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I have a very close group of friends.

    Jardine, Lavigne, Costello, and (the late) Hale. We've been through a hell of a lot together. Love, death, rape, bullies, starving, homelessness, abuse, sickness, fights, make ups, and break ups. But no matter what, you will all have an incredibly special place in my heart...
    GermanWildChild GermanWildChild 13-15, F 2 Responses May 29

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I would definitely say I am the black sheep of

    my family and quite frankly I am happy with that. I don't want to be associated with them. I never felt like I belonged in my family. To me blood has never made a family. I am much closer to my friends and know that they would do more for me then my so called family would. The...
    HalfwaybtwnHeavenandHell HalfwaybtwnHeavenandHell 41-45, F 1 Response May 8

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    Since I'm never good enough

    for my family and they all hate me I think it's about time I start tearing them apart see how they like not having anyone to look to when they need it people say and eye for an eye is bad how bout an eye for everything people must suffer for what they do I hate my family they...
    renguard renguard 16-17, M Jun 17

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    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    Blood wise, I have no family.

    They didn't die or anything tragic, but they chose to not be involved in my life. My biological dad, the ***** donor, chose to leave and after 14 years I realized that its better he's gone. When him and his side left, my family got small. Down to my mom, brother, uncle and...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Being adopted, I really do believe

    that blood doesn't make a family. I have a pretty awesome adoptive family. Yeah, we have our ups and downs, our wins and our losses, but we have overcome so much, together as a whole extended family unit, it's quite hard to see the foundation crumble any time soon. :)
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    You can't chose your family,

    but it doesn't mean you have to put up with their bullshit!
    CookieeMONSTA CookieeMONSTA 18-21, F 6 Responses Jun 21

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    We may be related, but we are not family.

    Everywhere I here people insisting because a person is family, or related, you have to be nice to them. Be kind. Offer help. But why should I? Just because I was born into your family or you were born into mine, doesn't mean you deserve special privileges. It doesn't mean I'm...
    RedAngelic RedAngelic 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    I am saddened that I can't ever forgive my

    sister! She tried to apology for all The wrongs she did toward my two boys and I! But I still don't talk to her nor I ever plan on to... But it has affect the family because I'm to stubborn to make peace with her
    stressfreelife stressfreelife 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 4

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    I can't stand the family I was born in.

    They dislike my personality in terms of character and appearance. They ***** about the decisions and mistakes that I make. I mean I turn eighteen the first of November. Are you going to keep treating me like an infant? I get bitched for being 'lazy'. I'm not. I didn't know that...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    But in a good way.. I am adopted,

    living with my new family since 22 years.. And they are so much nicer than my biological parents.. And my Grandma has me (non-related) and three other grandchildren that are actually related to her.. But I do care much more for her than the other three, and I am not even from...
    Ortolan Ortolan 26-30, F Mar 31

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    I can't forgive my sister

    for all the lies she spread about me! We haven't spoken in over two years and plan on keeping it that way! But it's affecting the family and the family are aware now that's she's the problem and sneaky sibling! But still wants me to move on and start talking to her!
    stressfreelife stressfreelife 31-35, F 3 Responses May 27

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    whats the use if you don't ask.

    . if you don't visit my father? no you are not a family! our neighbors and friends are the family then!!!
    Mashtap Mashtap 22-25, M Jun 5

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    Yes, that is so true.

    The people who have stood by me have not always been my family. I consider them such because there are no other words to describe that bond we have and the support they give.
    Nuovinzi Nuovinzi 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 11

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    My life is pretty dysfunctional,

    I must admit. I'm born out of wedlock. My bio mother cheated on my father for another sh|tty man and left us for America. I hated her since then. Until now, if only she knew. If only I have the guts to say that to her. But I want peace. My loving dad met my step mom, who I call...
    jesssaying1997 jesssaying1997 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Im glad this is the only place i can vent out

    my feelings/life Im tired of having family that think its just family they can stay for free not paying nothing and also back stabbing the way we live in our house to others gets on my nerves all i see is they take advantage of being family and think its ok to come live with you...
    grace125 grace125 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 10 Responses May 23

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    Sad but true. Why?

    ?? EP Link
    converted converted 46-50, M Jun 11

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    Blood just means you are very slightly more

    related to them in comparison to the rest of the world. My "family" have defiantly made this easy to realize. I am not saying I don't love them. I do but sadly I have come to the point where some of my friends have surpassed them. My closest friends are my family. When I'm...
    Raven628 Raven628 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 19

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    For me blood is only a biological link through

    DNA to someone else. Spiritually you may have never met your parents before this lifetime. Real family are the ones that are there for you in every sense of bad times. You can't always count on them to be there for the good times because they might be rather busy in their...
    Jericho7 Jericho7 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 22

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    Biology, that's all it is.

    Emptiness. An emotionless connection that links me to a man I know nothing about. There's no love, no bond, only DNA that links me to a man that I can honestly say I'm a bit ashamed of. My last name, the only thing he has ever given me. The only thing I will ever take from him...
    AshtonnnJ AshtonnnJ 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    I know its a cliche but its true.

    Family to me is like a wolfpack. Not related to everyone but everyone is still close. You protect each other, care for each other, and life would be hard without them
    TCrawford02 TCrawford02 18-21, M Jan 21

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    I did it to myself again.

    I expected that my Mom would do what all good Moms would do and when she (unsurprisingly) didn't, I got hurt. Why am I in such subconscious denial that I still expect a normal reaction from her? It's my birthday on Monday. I'm as excited as any newly turned 25 year old should...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 4 Responses May 30

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    In my life I've come to learn Just

    because blood is thicker than water doesn't mean water isn't kinder than blood
    PoetryGirl101 PoetryGirl101 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    i've met a friend that

    after i've graduated i still want to be with, and woud change my choice of countries to go to college, so we can stay together and i wouldnt do that for a BF, its a reason i dont believe in HS relationships, and she wants to go to the same uni too. we are alot alike but...
    storylover6 storylover6 13-15, F May 5

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    "The blood of the covenant is thicker

    than the water of the womb." Friends are more important than Family.
    Wolffang7 Wolffang7 22-25, T 2 Responses Jun 13

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    My family would be deemed the quirkiest

    and most unorthodox. Sometimes I wonder if I'm the bad daughter. My father was an alcoholic that beat my brother and stepmother. Gave up drinking but still calls and behaves like a child, whining and making everything about him. My mother abandoned us when we were kids...
    Theboisterous Theboisterous 26-30, F 1 Response May 26

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    My true family are my best friends,

    whether theyre beside mee or somewhere around the world c:
    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F Jun 27

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    I lost most of my immediate family in a 3 year

    time span before I was 43. Even before this, I was blessed to have people in my life that I consider family, though we have no biological connection. My best friend since grade school's family has been like my own for over 30 years. Her siblings are like my siblings, and her...
    RaverFan RaverFan 41-45 3 Responses Jul 2

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    My birth parents were 15

    and 16, so I was always going to be taken into care as a baby. 1972 was very different to these days! Thankfully, I was adopted almost at birth, at 3 weeks old - not that I remember it! Lol. Never made any attempts to trace my birth parents, because I view my mam and dad to be...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I can sing a song about that.

    My biological mum told me when I was 7, I had to call my biological dad to say him he's not my dad anymore, the one who adopted me is. She isn't a mother to me. She lied to me my whole life and that isn't the thing you do, when you are in a loving Family. Now I live with the men...
    BlaBla01 BlaBla01 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    I can relate, my family is

    so distant and the only thing in the world I want is a close family. I'm 31 no boyfriend no kids so that doesn't seem in the realm of possibility right now. Working on it
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    Blood Is Thicker Than Water.. But So Is Syrup And At Least That's Sweeter!

    As the youngest member of my family, I've often thought of myself as an inconvenience. I wouldn't say they hated me. They just didn't include me. Until one member of the "Best Friends" section of the family tried to stab the rest of the family in the back. And then they HAD to...
    AuraMoon AuraMoon 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    While my mom was dying,

    friends I've met through different Military installations went out of their way for me and my mom'a well being. They were selfless though they have little. While family did nothing. Judgmental, rude, selfish, and made it a living hell. Family is not always blood.
    CaptureEverything CaptureEverything 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Hello! I have definitely found this out!

    You know a family is suppose to be a special thing. These are suppose to be people who come on this earth naturally equipped to be there for you. They are all suppose to be your first loves. The ones who you learn how to love other people in the world from. People who are...
    glassfire100 glassfire100 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 9

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    It may sound like a cliche,

    but the people who you can count on when times get really rough, who you know will be there for you no matter what - those people are your family, regardless of whether it's a genetic connection. I can think of at least 5 people who are no blood relation to me, but who I have...
    headversusheart headversusheart 22-25, F 2 Responses May 5

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    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M Apr 15

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 7 Responses May 2

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    Silfverberg Silfverberg 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    Me & Mine

    I'm lucky. However you look at it. I was chosen before I knew what choice was, by 2 people who love me unconditionally. My own mother and father couldn't be together (loooooooong story) so gave me up for adoption. 2 months later I was chosen from a white wooden cot by 2...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    The saying blood is thicker

    than water doesn't apply to my family. When I was younger everyone seemed to get along and talk more but now its like we only see one another at funerals. I have cousins who don't even call or stop by so I just go on with my life as if they don't exist as well.
    strawberry38 strawberry38 36-40, F 6 Responses May 24

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    Blood doesn't make up family love does

    because if your birth mom or doesn't give a damn about you but your adoption my does who's your real mom
    brooke2468 brooke2468 18-21, F Jan 28

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    There are many of us

    who can't share their innermost thoughts with their family as they fear what they might say Hopefully my family is not like that in most matters.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 8

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    True. Many say dont disown my dad.

    They say they had it worse. Me asks how did they survive. They say pals or brag about on their will. Pals can be better than family. But real pals is rare. Me says adopt real pals as family. But dont copy family after adopting. Some pals need to be shed...
    converted converted 46-50, M Jun 9

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    Blood is one bond we can not break.

    It's essential for health reasons or to understand the history of how you got here. Blood relation can also lend a sense of belonging in the sense that you see similar physical or behavioral features in yourself as in your family. But creating a family, creating the...
    warp9pnt9 warp9pnt9 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 30

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    My parents and family doesn't exactly treat me

    the best. My best friend and my boyfriend's parents treat me so well. I consider them closer family than my real blood family. They know more about me and will actually let me talk to them if I ever need anything(:
    saxophonegal22 saxophonegal22 13-15, F Jul 2

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    I've never really liked the phrase,

    "blood is thicker than water" because I think it's complete BS. Coming out of someone's vagina, or having similar DNA doesn't create a relationship. Love can only be achieved through genuine understanding, trust, and bonding with one another.
    maribear maribear 18-21, F Mar 26

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    Since I have been abused by my "family" I have

    basically made my own. I have 2 big brothers, and a big sister in my real family. It hurts a lot when I'm betrayed or lose a friend because it's like losing a sibling. I have lost so many brothers and sisters I've lost count, and it really sucks.
    xMayesx xMayesx 13-15, M 3 Responses May 11

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