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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    kolo1463 kolo1463 22-25, F 38 Responses Aug 13

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    I know its a cliche but its true.

    Family to me is like a wolfpack. Not related to everyone but everyone is still close. You protect each other, care for each other, and life would be hard without them
    TCrawford02 TCrawford02 18-21, M Jan 21

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    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 9

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    In middle school my friends (from 7th

    and 8th grade) and I would sit together at lunch and talk about random things. They also had my back against the mean girls. I told them that I considered them my metaphorical family.
    NE3NE3 NE3NE3 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I've never felt better,

    physically and mentally. Cutting ties has been a great decision. I posted my experience, so if you're curious please read it.
    WaterOx WaterOx 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 7

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    My true family are my best friends,

    whether theyre beside mee or somewhere around the world c:
    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F Jun 27

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    "The blood of the covenant is thicker

    than the water of the womb." Friends are more important than Family.
    Wolffang7 Wolffang7 22-25, T 2 Responses Jun 13

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    While my mom was dying,

    friends I've met through different Military installations went out of their way for me and my mom'a well being. They were selfless though they have little. While family did nothing. Judgmental, rude, selfish, and made it a living hell. Family is not always blood.
    CaptureEverything CaptureEverything 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    My friends have always been my family.

    They are the family you choose to have, not what you're born into. I love my blood family but I am a black sheep and we don't often see eye to eye. Your friends are the people who get you. Friends are the family I can always be myself with and feel comfortable around. They...
    MikjallFimbultyr MikjallFimbultyr 36-40, M 3 Responses Aug 13

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    I used to like my family,

    but then I made real friends who showed me what a real family feels like.
    lukkaz lukkaz 18-21 3 Responses Sep 21

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    Being an only child, friends with siblings find

    this hard to understand, I have high expectations for my friends because I consider them family.
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 11

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    The ship doesn't always answer the helm.

    The helm isn't always the sound answer for a ship. The pigeons near the church don't worry about public lavatories.
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    Blood wise, I have no family.

    They didn't die or anything tragic, but they chose to not be involved in my life. My biological dad, the ***** donor, chose to leave and after 14 years I realized that its better he's gone. When him and his side left, my family got small. Down to my mom, brother, uncle and...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    There are many of us

    who can't share their innermost thoughts with their family as they fear what they might say Hopefully my family is not like that in most matters.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 8

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    I am saddened that I can't ever forgive my

    sister! She tried to apology for all The wrongs she did toward my two boys and I! But I still don't talk to her nor I ever plan on to... But it has affect the family because I'm to stubborn to make peace with her
    stressfreelife stressfreelife 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 4

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    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M Apr 15

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    Blood can bite too hard.

    Family should heal. Not bite. Thank God for pals. They dont always agree. But i aint always calm. So who can blame them. Lmao.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I can't stand the family I was born in.

    They dislike my personality in terms of character and appearance. They ***** about the decisions and mistakes that I make. I mean I turn eighteen the first of November. Are you going to keep treating me like an infant? I get bitched for being 'lazy'. I'm not. I didn't know that...
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    For me it never will.

    I mean, i hate the half of my family and the other half i can barely stand. But i have some friends that i would die for and kill for. So i am able to love other people, i am not a psychopath, but my family, just no
    ThatBlueOwl ThatBlueOwl 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 13

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    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    In my life I've come to learn Just

    because blood is thicker than water doesn't mean water isn't kinder than blood
    PoetryGirl101 PoetryGirl101 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Biology, that's all it is.

    Emptiness. An emotionless connection that links me to a man I know nothing about. There's no love, no bond, only DNA that links me to a man that I can honestly say I'm a bit ashamed of. My last name, the only thing he has ever given me. The only thing I will ever take from him...
    AshtonnnJ AshtonnnJ 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    Blood just means you are very slightly more

    related to them in comparison to the rest of the world. My "family" have defiantly made this easy to realize. I am not saying I don't love them. I do but sadly I have come to the point where some of my friends have surpassed them. My closest friends are my family. When I'm...
    Raven628 Raven628 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 19

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    We may be related, but we are not family.

    Everywhere I here people insisting because a person is family, or related, you have to be nice to them. Be kind. Offer help. But why should I? Just because I was born into your family or you were born into mine, doesn't mean you deserve special privileges. It doesn't mean I'm...
    RedAngelic RedAngelic 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    Life Goes On

    It all comes down to saying that your neighboor is you closest family. The more you get along with the people surrounding you the more the more you reveal your selves to each other, caring and being always there when needed. As for your own siblings, as I have experienced it...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Who made the rule saying you have to

    love/respect people who are related to you? Please.
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Aug 27

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    My birth parents were 15

    and 16, so I was always going to be taken into care as a baby. 1972 was very different to these days! Thankfully, I was adopted almost at birth, at 3 weeks old - not that I remember it! Lol. Never made any attempts to trace my birth parents, because I view my mam and dad to be...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    Blood doesn't make up family love does

    because if your birth mom or doesn't give a damn about you but your adoption my does who's your real mom
    brooke2468 brooke2468 18-21, F Jan 28

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    I lost most of my immediate family in a 3 year

    time span before I was 43. Even before this, I was blessed to have people in my life that I consider family, though we have no biological connection. My best friend since grade school's family has been like my own for over 30 years. Her siblings are like my siblings, and her...
    RaverFan RaverFan 41-45 3 Responses Jul 2

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    Me & Mine

    I'm lucky. However you look at it. I was chosen before I knew what choice was, by 2 people who love me unconditionally. My own mother and father couldn't be together (loooooooong story) so gave me up for adoption. 2 months later I was chosen from a white wooden cot by 2...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 7 Responses May 2

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    Blood Is Thicker Than Water.. But So Is Syrup And At Least That's Sweeter!

    As the youngest member of my family, I've often thought of myself as an inconvenience. I wouldn't say they hated me. They just didn't include me. Until one member of the "Best Friends" section of the family tried to stab the rest of the family in the back. And then they HAD to...
    AuraMoon AuraMoon 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    I can sing a song about that.

    My biological mum told me when I was 7, I had to call my biological dad to say him he's not my dad anymore, the one who adopted me is. She isn't a mother to me. She lied to me my whole life and that isn't the thing you do, when you are in a loving Family. Now I live with the men...
    BlaBla01 BlaBla01 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    Silfverberg Silfverberg 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 27

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    Since I don't have any known family member left,

    my friends have become a second family to me, and now I have a baby of my own and a husband. I couldn't be happier right now :)
    AceKlein1992 AceKlein1992 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 13

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    You can't chose your family,

    but it doesn't mean you have to put up with their bullshit!
    CookieeMONSTA CookieeMONSTA 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 21

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    Im glad this is the only place i can vent out

    my feelings/life Im tired of having family that think its just family they can stay for free not paying nothing and also back stabbing the way we live in our house to others gets on my nerves all i see is they take advantage of being family and think its ok to come live with you...
    grace125 grace125 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    This is so true I believe family is someone

    who stands by you and helps and supports you. I prefer family by choice and not just who youre stuck with.. Although some members of my family are decent
    Theheavyheart Theheavyheart 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 7

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    Blood is one bond we can not break.

    It's essential for health reasons or to understand the history of how you got here. Blood relation can also lend a sense of belonging in the sense that you see similar physical or behavioral features in yourself as in your family. But creating a family, creating the...
    warp9pnt9 warp9pnt9 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 30

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    My parents and family doesn't exactly treat me

    the best. My best friend and my boyfriend's parents treat me so well. I consider them closer family than my real blood family. They know more about me and will actually let me talk to them if I ever need anything(:
    saxophonegal22 saxophonegal22 13-15, F Jul 2

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    My life is pretty dysfunctional,

    I must admit. I'm born out of wedlock. My bio mother cheated on my father for another sh|tty man and left us for America. I hated her since then. Until now, if only she knew. If only I have the guts to say that to her. But I want peace. My loving dad met my step mom, who I call...
    jesssaying1997 jesssaying1997 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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    Aside from my sister,

    I've had far closer relationships with my friends than anyone I'm related to. I don't trust hardly anyone anymore, but I'd trust my friends over my family any day. To quote Bobby Singer, "Family don't end with blood".
    mhenson144 mhenson144 22-25, M 3 Responses Sep 7

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    For me blood is only a biological link through

    DNA to someone else. Spiritually you may have never met your parents before this lifetime. Real family are the ones that are there for you in every sense of bad times. You can't always count on them to be there for the good times because they might be rather busy in their...
    Jericho7 Jericho7 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 22

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    SophieeJordan SophieeJordan 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Since I'm never good enough

    for my family and they all hate me I think it's about time I start tearing them apart see how they like not having anyone to look to when they need it people say and eye for an eye is bad how bout an eye for everything people must suffer for what they do I hate my family they...
    renguard renguard 16-17, M Jun 17

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    I have a few friends

    who are adopted and usually when people don't know this and understand it I have seen them act like it's a bad thing but adoptive families are families too, friends r family, and family CAN be family if you love them, the realization that family is made by love is the best...
    JustKeepSpinning JustKeepSpinning 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 9

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I can relate, my family is

    so distant and the only thing in the world I want is a close family. I'm 31 no boyfriend no kids so that doesn't seem in the realm of possibility right now. Working on it
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 9 Responses May 23

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    Being adopted, I really do believe

    that blood doesn't make a family. I have a pretty awesome adoptive family. Yeah, we have our ups and downs, our wins and our losses, but we have overcome so much, together as a whole extended family unit, it's quite hard to see the foundation crumble any time soon. :)
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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