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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    When I was 12, my dad quit his job to become a

    professional golfer. We'd always been really close, but when he told me, it felt like I'd been shot in the chest. He didn't ask my mom out any of our family members before he made his decision, and he didn't care that we were upset. In fact, he would get angry at my mom and I if...
    Ohmygothness Ohmygothness 13-15, F 5 Responses Oct 7, 2015

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    Sometimes, your own family won't give a flip

    about you, and the people that actually care, love you, and won't hurt you are strangers. Some Family members will tear you apart, claiming it's because they love you. ' Love' my butt. In times the best family you can ever have is a friend, or even a stranger. 'We are a loving...
    shadow10999 shadow10999 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

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    I've come to realize

    that blood doesn't make a family. BUT it makes a really great smoothie!
    zmedleff1 zmedleff1 41-45 3 Responses Jan 4, 2015

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    Because, more often than not,

    I find myself having to reach out to my friends as a result of hurt caused by those of my own blood.
    sophiebelle27 sophiebelle27 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 31, 2015

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    http://dancetillweresick.

    tumblr.com/post/138411419264/hplyrikz-everything-i-love-here
    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It makes a biological connection

    that people call family or associate as family . But since the idea of family has certain characteristics .... Someone you meet whose a complete stranger could become more family to you than your family ever was
    SoleExecutioner SoleExecutioner 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 5, 2015

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    Blood only means you're related.

    Loyalty and trust make you a family.
    KOOLKAT446 KOOLKAT446 13-15, T 1 Response Dec 13, 2015

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    I'm not crazy about Thanksgiving.

    In my family, thanksgiving is mostly distant family members you haven't spoken to in months all at a table going on about how much they miss you and haven't seen you in so long. Why does it have to be a holiday before I speak to 99% of my family ? When I reach out to them...
    3dayweekend 3dayweekend 16-17, M 2 Responses Nov 12, 2015

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    What I want for Christmas (or maybe before)is a

    best friend.It's been so long now(👼) and still no one fills that space.Really starting to think such a friendship will never come again for me.
    holywren holywren 51-55 1 Response Nov 4, 2015

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    I look extremely extremely old

    and aged like I'm 7000 years of age ..I look like an extremely old woman and there nothing I can do about my physical image ..I hate to see the reflection of my physical image in the mirror and every time I meet my reflection in the mirror I get lots of sadness and disparity ..I...
    Inthedark16 Inthedark16 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 15

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    It's been a decade that I walk into my parent's

    house every evening after work and there's no facial expression. I have reached that stage where I no more expect them to express or show love. May be just a smile can make a difference? Sometimes they are all chirpy and loving but 95% of the times, there's no expression. I go...
    angelsworld7 angelsworld7 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2015

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    My really close friends

    that stick with me through Thick and thin, they're part of my family. They're not blood related, but they're most definitely my family.
    AmeliaC2001 AmeliaC2001 13-15, F Jan 7

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    A letter to my father.

    My dear father, You have been gone a long time now,but I know that you will read that letter,you are reading as I am writing.I wish that I had had the knowledge and confidence to write that letter when you were still alive,but knowledge,confidence and wisdom often appear late...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 6 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    Blood doesnt mean your family You have to earn

    that - John Winchester - Dean Winchester - SuperNatural
    Conversely Conversely 18-21, F Nov 18, 2015

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    I love my family, but sometimes I feel

    that I want to live miles ago from my relatives... i feel guilty to think this, but I believe they never had a good influence on me... Are very negative (especially my mom)...
    AdorabileVenezia AdorabileVenezia 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    Tonight my father came over to my house to

    convince me to leave my girlfriend. He doesn't approve of our relationship. He offered me money (again) to end the relationship because he believes I'm only with her for money. The first time he said this I was very angry. I told him that it was disgusting and that I didn't want...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 26-30 18 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    So my father has never been in my life,

    and I intend to keep it that way. We may be blood, but that doesn't mean *hit to me. So it really bothers me when your family steps out of your life and wants NOTHING to do with you one second, then the next they are acting like they have AUTHORITY over you. And I'm just like...
    shadow10999 shadow10999 13-15, F Nov 19, 2015

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    Aside from my parents,

    sister and grandparents, I don't care at all for the rest of my family. I would let my cousins die if it was to save one of my friends. Even though we know each other pretty well, I feel more affection towards people who aren't even my blood.
    ElectricArabella ElectricArabella 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 27, 2015

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    Your family isn't always there

    for you. Sometimes they ignore you if you're different. They keep saying "we have the power over you. Over what you wear, what you eat" etc. It feels like you are controlled by them. You don't get to pick and choose your family, you are stuck with them. Your friends are always...
    PresidentUnicorn PresidentUnicorn 13-15, T 2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

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    I realized this when my parents basically

    abandoned me after I started living as a woman. So **** them, is what I'm saying. It's the people who stick by you that matter
    emyleejane emyleejane 26-30, T 5 Responses Apr 27, 2015

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    They will say they did their best And

    yuppies will agree But yuppies never saw Damage done covertly And will say suck it up So they are the jihadist type Supporting tradition Not cures
    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I believe that blood is not always thinker

    than water. How do you feel?
    royalkonz royalkonz 22-25, M 6 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    Nothing against my parents

    but my friends have been there for me during my toughest times. I just found it easier to share with them. Likewise.
    angelsworld7 angelsworld7 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2015

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    I am the youngest of five

    and I haven't seen my siblings or my "mother's" side of the family in a decade. Initially it was their choice not to see me--I was fifteen and decided to move in with my father and step-mother. After I got my license to drive, I drove all the way out there to see my quadriplegic...
    seelensauger seelensauger 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I was always told that whatever happens in this

    family is no ones business. It was us kids who where supposed to make mom and dad happy. Forget about us being happy. My parents just tried to redo their childhoods with ours. I don't know what a childhood is, I don't now what happy is. I do know what being whipped and punched...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 7, 2015

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    Absolutely not, like s great man

    once said. "Family doesn't start with blood, but it doesn't end with it either." Supernatural............ They're killing off everyone...
    YouCantEscapeMyDemons YouCantEscapeMyDemons 13-15, M 4 Responses Jun 5, 2015

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    I had (and part of me still believes) never to

    give up on family. But as I grew older, I realized some people don't deserve your love or compassion. I've tried to have a good relationship with my mother for so long. She won't allow it. She's stubborn, rude, abusive, and hateful. I finally came to terms with this when she...
    neonstitches neonstitches 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 22, 2015

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    The bond that links your true family is not one

    of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof. ~Richard Bach
    MissMeliscious MissMeliscious 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16, 2015

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 7 Responses May 23, 2014

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    Just because we are "family" doesn't mean they

    care... I've found more love out of my in-a-way vicious cat than relatives... Most of the advice I get though has been from teachers and counselors. They seem to care, in a way, more about me...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F 2 Responses May 16, 2015

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    Close friends, online

    or not, become family. I don't believe blood defines anything besides that you're alive.
    Kkgunny Kkgunny 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 5, 2015

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    to me ive come to realize.

    friends can be more like family than actually family its ****** up but true i can count on then more than family anyone. else
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 3, 2015

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 26-30 5 Responses May 2, 2014

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    This is hard for me but I wanted to write it.

    It's my first experience post, but this has been in my head my whole life.My family do not care about me.Three years ago I became sick. I won't go into the details, but it meant three years of undiagnosed hell. I couldn't eat or talk from the condition. I was alone and scared...
    Stormryder Stormryder 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    Me and two of my siblings were adapted,

    so my parents had three kids and adopted three I was taught from an early age that blood doesn't make a family love does
    PanamanianPenguin PanamanianPenguin 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 24, 2015

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    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M Apr 15, 2014

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    The feeling of acceptance

    and security we get when we connect with a good friend is the universe's way of apologizing for our families.
    RememberTomorrow RememberTomorrow 31-35, M 6 Responses Oct 23, 2015

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    Idk. I can't wrap my head around anyone having

    a CHILD, A LIVING HUMAN, and not caring about them. Never calling them, asking about them, wanting to make sure they're okay every night. As a parent, you're the first person to be everything for them and lead by example, show them what they deserve in life. You're...
    SaintInHell SaintInHell 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    http://dancetillweresick.

    tumblr.com/post/138411215684/hplyrikz-clear-your-mind-here
    JustBipolarMe JustBipolarMe 46-50, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    As the door unlocks, my legs shiver in fear.

    I constantly look through the gap of the door at the base to watch a shadow and if my door gets open. I live those moments in fear
    angelsworld7 angelsworld7 31-35, F Oct 22, 2015

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    only person whom i care about in my family is

    my Nan, she raised me when others refused. blood doesnt make a family, the bonds you create make one.
    Curiouscatbug Curiouscatbug 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 28, 2015

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