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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    Me & Mine

    I'm lucky. However you look at it. I was chosen before I knew what choice was, by 2 people who love me unconditionally. My own mother and father couldn't be together (loooooooong story) so gave me up for adoption. 2 months later I was chosen from a white wooden cot by 2...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    I don't really love my grandmother from the way

    she is. I just don't. I don't feel guilty for it either. I do love one of my best friends grandmothers though. His grandmother is amazing and I treat her like family. Just because you have their blood doesn't mean you are related in your heart.
    Darkflowers Darkflowers 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Happy I have let go of some miserable people in

    my life. Really let go. I am not angry or vengeful. Not anymore anyway. I held onto those feelings for a little too long. I still see some of them. When we talk I can feel the energy around me change. They feel like black holes to me. They suck all my positivity and energy away...
    DarkestTrance DarkestTrance 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 26

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    Well I given up on my family,

    I left my mom, ignore my father for so long, and I always felt so left out from my brothers and sister. I was never close with my father, I was never his little girl and never the little boy he wanted. I had finally hit a breaking point around the age of 7. I finally had...
    DaylightAly DaylightAly 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    Biology, that's all it is.

    Emptiness. An emotionless connection that links me to a man I know nothing about. There's no love, no bond, only DNA that links me to a man that I can honestly say I'm a bit ashamed of. My last name, the only thing he has ever given me. The only thing I will ever take from him...
    AshtonnnJ AshtonnnJ 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    I can sing a song about that.

    My biological mum told me when I was 7, I had to call my biological dad to say him he's not my dad anymore, the one who adopted me is. She isn't a mother to me. She lied to me my whole life and that isn't the thing you do, when you are in a loving Family. Now I live with the men...
    BlaBla01 BlaBla01 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

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    My family asked me to move out the day

    after graduation. For a while, my sister would talk to me but now my parents have convinced her that I'm just plain evil. I don't talk to any of them and haven't since June. The closest thing I have left is my friends. It is sort of liberating, being able to pick who you...
    mybonerandme mybonerandme 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 17

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    I know its a cliche but its true.

    Family to me is like a wolfpack. Not related to everyone but everyone is still close. You protect each other, care for each other, and life would be hard without them
    TCrawford02 TCrawford02 18-21, M Jan 21

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    I'm one of the youngest of 6 half-siblings.

    ""Siblings"", because they don't even greet me on my birthday.
    Sharkkie Sharkkie 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    SpudKat SpudKat 18-21 1 Response Mar 28

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    I don't want it to affect me anymore.

    I'm related to a family that doesn't really give a **** about me & thinks nothing of me. I'd give & they'd take but not appreciate. They pretend & lie. I can kick myself for always making the same mistake over & over again; giving them chances & trusting them. Maybe because...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    My birth parents were 15

    and 16, so I was always going to be taken into care as a baby. 1972 was very different to these days! Thankfully, I was adopted almost at birth, at 3 weeks old - not that I remember it! Lol. Never made any attempts to trace my birth parents, because I view my mam and dad to be...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I would say this has been the case

    for most of my life ..okay when I was a child between the ages of zero to eighteen then its mandatory you need you family that surround of family ,to nurture and protect and support .its funny though how when you get past that age its like all the parental responsibility is...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I have a very strange family dynamic with an

    uncle in jail since forever and my oldest cousin dead. That cousin actually threatened me and three of my friends one night. At gunpoint he started playing mindgames with my friend. When she wasn't scared, he asked her to tell him how many letters my name had. She answered and...
    ThreeIII ThreeIII 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    In ways, I kind of wish I could be more like my

    Grandpa. He was the glue to our dysfunctional family. Doesn't matter who stole, abused, used, or disrespected.... He always wanted everyone together under one roof. I was too young to understand a lot of things. The day he died, was when everything changed forever. The glue was...
    Philli8807 Philli8807 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 24

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    No It Doesn't.

    No it doesn't. I was never close with my family members, not even when I was a kid. I always thought that people who looked like you, had the same genes, were the only people who you could really call family, but I was wrong. I have recently became friends with a girl I met...
    Dai200 Dai200 18-21, M 6 Responses Aug 14, 2012

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    But in a good way.. I am adopted,

    living with my new family since 22 years.. And they are so much nicer than my biological parents.. And my Grandma has me (non-related) and three other grandchildren that are actually related to her.. But I do care much more for her than the other three, and I am not even from...
    Ortolan Ortolan 26-30, F Mar 31

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I love my family. Even

    when they annoy me to death, though there are parts of my family I would rather not count. My biological mother's family hate my father. For moving us to a safer place after my mother's death when I was five, for falling in love with my step mother, they don't like any of us. I...
    DeJeKlu DeJeKlu 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    Blood is thicker than water is true

    but it doesn't create relationships
    jose51 jose51 18-21, M Mar 29

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    In my life I've come to learn Just

    because blood is thicker than water doesn't mean water isn't kinder than blood
    PoetryGirl101 PoetryGirl101 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    My mother died when I was fourteen.

    ... I miss her to this very day. My father and I were left to fend for ourselves... Thankfully, my aunts and uncles were there for my family in our time of need.
    AdelaideHayashi AdelaideHayashi 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I can relate, my family is

    so distant and the only thing in the world I want is a close family. I'm 31 no boyfriend no kids so that doesn't seem in the realm of possibility right now. Working on it
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    While my mom was dying,

    friends I've met through different Military installations went out of their way for me and my mom'a well being. They were selfless though they have little. While family did nothing. Judgmental, rude, selfish, and made it a living hell. Family is not always blood.
    CaptureEverything CaptureEverything 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    funnygirl32226 funnygirl32226 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I've never really liked the phrase,

    "blood is thicker than water" because I think it's complete BS. Coming out of someone's vagina, or having similar DNA doesn't create a relationship. Love can only be achieved through genuine understanding, trust, and bonding with one another.
    maribear maribear 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I don't have a family.

    There's nothing more than blood that links me to the people that I'm unfortunate enough to live with. These people are petty, they are racist, small minded and ******* pathetic. I'm the odd one out because I dropped out of school, got into rap and rock, moved out at 16 and...
    TheSchemingPuppeteer TheSchemingPuppeteer 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I don't mean this in a negative sense.

    .. I mean that my friends at school are like family to me. For some reason, I'm far more comfortable talking to them about anything than I am with my family, which is odd, because I have a really good relationship (for someone my age, anyway) with my family! I guess it's because...
    EponymousAnonymous EponymousAnonymous 13-15 1 Response Apr 7

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    Coworkers. . . My job

    as much work as I do getting paid really **** for it has made me realize somethings. I've met some people that have become like family to me. Their opinions mean more to me than some of my family. I'm one of the younger ones on the job and my manager (Ashley) has asked me for...
    TaurasiWade TaurasiWade 18-21, F Apr 6

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    I love my blood family.

    They raised me the best they could but I, in all essential ways am very different from them. My mother is from an almost rural area near Little Rock. Then my father is from Chicago. The values of my family are extremely different from mine. Some of my cousins avoid me because...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    My best friend and I are dating cousins.

    .. We've always been close friends since we met... In high school, I was the jock, he was socially awkward... He was like a kid brother... He moved away for college, and met a girl who didn't like that I always told him to stand up for himself, and not get pushed around...
    Solanteris Solanteris 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 18

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    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    Blood doesn't always make a family.

    My best friend. Is my sister. She is not of my blood. She gives me love and advice and she cares about me with all of her heart. I love her. My own brother isn't like that. He is rude and obnoxious and I'm sure he wouldn't care for me if I left. It's upsetting really. I would...
    Diana14R Diana14R 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    At this point, I don’t see how important it

    is to keep in touch with my mother. She always got hurtful things to say to me and she’s not there for me when times are rough or when times are good. She’s just not there. She calls me sometimes so I can help her in her job. And recently, I told her that she hurts me, she...
    CantatriceChauve CantatriceChauve 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 8

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    My family is made up of many many people

    who I share no blood relation to. I have step siblings whom I call my siblings. I have an aunt who raised me that I call my mom. An uncle who I call my dad. It's not about how these people are connected to my blood line or heritage but how they cared for me throughout my life. I...
    HopefullRomantic HopefullRomantic 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 14

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    Life Goes On

    It all comes down to saying that your neighboor is you closest family. The more you get along with the people surrounding you the more the more you reveal your selves to each other, caring and being always there when needed. As for your own siblings, as I have experienced it...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F Nov 27, 2013

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    Missed Out

    Blood does not automatically mean family. There needs to be more than that. Time spent together, love, and memories mean family.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 29, 2013

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    I'm adopted. This is one of the things I

    learned at a young age. At first the only people I applied it to was the people I live with. I have come to realize they don't always have my back. After this break through it became hard to trust. I do have people that care about me now. My pack. They are my new family.
    lostfollower lostfollower 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    Blood is one bond we can not break.

    It's essential for health reasons or to understand the history of how you got here. Blood relation can also lend a sense of belonging in the sense that you see similar physical or behavioral features in yourself as in your family. But creating a family, creating the...
    warp9pnt9 warp9pnt9 36-40, M 5 Responses Mar 30

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    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    Dear Mother. I have found it!

    Your kidlogger. Very creative to betray your 18 year old daughter. I must say, I always wanted to be able to trust you, I was so jealous everytime I see my friends talking to their mother about their life, or hugging, or just have a conversation. But I gave up on you since a few...
    Littlegirl99 Littlegirl99 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Blood wise, I have no family.

    They didn't die or anything tragic, but they chose to not be involved in my life. My biological dad, the ***** donor, chose to leave and after 14 years I realized that its better he's gone. When him and his side left, my family got small. Down to my mom, brother, uncle and...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24

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    Who's to tell us who is

    and who isn't our family? My biological family other than my little brother teat me like a slave and hurt me for doing wrong...but I have a mother now, a father who loves me, a sister who wants the best for me and of course my little brother is still there. I may be only related...
    MistressJ96 MistressJ96 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Blood Is Thicker Than Water.. But So Is Syrup And At Least That's Sweeter!

    As the youngest member of my family, I've often thought of myself as an inconvenience. I wouldn't say they hated me. They just didn't include me. Until one member of the "Best Friends" section of the family tried to stab the rest of the family in the back. And then they HAD to...
    AuraMoon AuraMoon 41-45, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Define Family ✧

    I learned a long time ago that just because you share the same blood, doesn't make it a family. Families aren't supposed to be vindictive and selfish, they're not supposed to lie every time they open their mouth, they're not supposed to put you down and make you feel like...
    AnnoyingTiger888 AnnoyingTiger888 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Being adopted, I really do believe

    that blood doesn't make a family. I have a pretty awesome adoptive family. Yeah, we have our ups and downs, our wins and our losses, but we have overcome so much, together as a whole extended family unit, it's quite hard to see the foundation crumble any time soon. :)
    minidisaster minidisaster 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    blood does not make family,

    I have so much family and they could careless about me, or anyone but them selves, they are so caught up in their own crap, they do not care about the harm they cause, they are beyond selfish, and they know it and do not care, I have disowned a lot of my family because of their...
    DarkThornedLilyRose43 DarkThornedLilyRose43 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    From the moment were born,

    we're told who to love, just because they are "family." **** that. I don't care who you are, family or not, if you screw me over, you can expect nothing from me. Sure, you'll pretty much always have that person, because you are "blood," but that doesn't mean you HAVE to consider...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    Blood doesn't make up family love does

    because if your birth mom or doesn't give a damn about you but your adoption my does who's your real mom
    brooke2468 brooke2468 18-21, F Jan 28

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