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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 8 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I've had several families on the streets

    growing up and I've always been closer to them than my blood family. I don't really know who they are. My street family is stronger than bond by blood. I don't if I want to go back and learn who they are more or keep moving. Haven't decided yet.
    PartyGuy21 PartyGuy21 18-21, M Mar 2

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 6 Responses May 2, 2014

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    If it did, I would be able to talk to my mom

    and dad. I would be able to make friends in the world. I would not live in fear. In a real family, parents don't have favorites. In a real family, everyone cares for each other. If I had a real family, I would not have been able to leave for 2 days and come back without anyone...
    LostandHopless123 LostandHopless123 13-15, F 4 Responses Feb 12

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    I was adopted by a family

    when I was 3 and honestly, I've had little to no desire to find my birth mother or father. It was an open adoption, and in all my years they've not made any attempts to contact me. My adoptive family is white, and unfortunately I know that they've faced tribulations, but they...
    AllyKatz03 AllyKatz03 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 16

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    Blood isn't family but true friends are :) those

    who understand you, the hurt, the pain, the days when you want it to all end, yet they are still there with a hug and loving word :)
    krystalkool84 krystalkool84 26-30, F Feb 18

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    DangBobby DangBobby 18-21, M Mar 20

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    I believe that blood is not always thinker

    than water. How do you feel?
    royalkonz royalkonz 22-25, M 7 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    to me ive come to realize.

    friends can be more like family than actually family its ****** up but true i can count on then more than family anyone. else
    jameswertman12 jameswertman12 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 3

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    Blood Is Thicker Than Water.. But So Is Syrup And At Least That's Sweeter!

    As the youngest member of my family, I've often thought of myself as an inconvenience. I wouldn't say they hated me. They just didn't include me. Until one member of the "Best Friends" section of the family tried to stab the rest of the family in the back. And then they HAD to...
    AuraMoon AuraMoon 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2014

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    Very true I see it in my bfs family his baby

    brother was adopted at 10 months after his parents died in a car crash. He is treated no different than rest the kids I have to admit he's our pet.
    sassygirl15 sassygirl15 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    Me & Mine

    I'm lucky. However you look at it. I was chosen before I knew what choice was, by 2 people who love me unconditionally. My own mother and father couldn't be together (loooooooong story) so gave me up for adoption. 2 months later I was chosen from a white wooden cot by 2...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2010

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    My family treats me like dirt under their shoes.

    They think I'm an unwanted child, since I was an accident, and they already had my brother. When I was 12 years old, I met someone named Ilona, she became my best friend and changed my life. She was like a sister I never had, and I soon realized, she was the only person I loved...
    lunablue13 lunablue13 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I know that only to good

    because Marie or maria in german is not my blood sister but my adopted one. But that never even stoped me for a sec to love her like she was my sister from the beginning. Love is a matter of your heart and your feelings not about blood.
    JennyG16 JennyG16 13-15, F Mar 21

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    I feel like the author of an american tragedy.

    It was 315 am. A time when most americans were either working to keep the wealthy wealthy or asleep hoping that the cold would not wake them but one disabled male was up fighting swollen gums and a runny nose using tea bags plus garlic seeped in vinegar if antiseptic mouth...
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Mar 19

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    My best friend Z is a little brother to me.

    I'm only older by a few months, but he's still my little brother. I am an honorary member of his family. Loved and accepted, I have come to the realization that family is who you decide to let into your heart. My soon to be husband is my family. The most important part.
    NotSoAngelic NotSoAngelic 18-21, F Mar 20

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    Family isn't always blood.

    It's the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what. Box you are part of my family me and the girls love you xx
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 2

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    I used to be reallh close to my aunt,

    I wished she was my mom, she was so nice and cool! And then my parents stopped visiting her... I didn't see her for 5 years and she NEVER ask about me, like she doesnt care. I feel hurt, angry but I miss her. I'm going to see her next weekend.. it's going to be so weirddd I...
    coco3700 coco3700 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    Experienced this yesterday at Thanksgiving.

    ..new friends who are old souls. A safety there when you mention a piece of your past ten years ago and it's like they were right there with you.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Aug 27, 2014

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    I am the youngest of five

    and I haven't seen my siblings or my "mother's" side of the family in a decade. Initially it was their choice not to see me--I was fifteen and decided to move in with my father and step-mother. After I got my license to drive, I drove all the way out there to see my quadriplegic...
    seelensauger seelensauger 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    My older brother and I look alike,

    but that's where the smiliarities end. We've never gotten along and it's to the point where I consider my cat more family than him. :/
    minioreosarebomb minioreosarebomb 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    Blood does not make a family.

    A long time ago I was a married man with a six month old daughter. I recently got out of the Navy and was attempting to resettle. My biological family lied to me. They did nothing to help us and kicked us out after three days. My then wife was very eager to help with...
    SilverPagan SilverPagan 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 20, 2014

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    My family and I, both immediate

    and distant, don't always get along. So I gave up. They can have their issues and drama. When I am done I'm moving OUT of the states and somewhere like England. Or Australia. Somewhere far far away. And change my name. And my contact info. And stay away from family. I don't like...
    jxlecler jxlecler 16-17, M 3 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    I have a little sister.

    She isn't my blood but she is as much of my sister as my sister. She is my family. Always and forever.
    NewBeginnings5 NewBeginnings5 26-30 1 Response Jan 4

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    A letter to my father.

    My dear father, You have been gone a long time now,but I know that you will read that letter,you are reading as I am writing.I wish that I had had the knowledge and confidence to write that letter when you were still alive,but knowledge,confidence and wisdom often appear late...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 9 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    Friends are the family you choose

    for yourself, the ones that stick by you time after time, they don't care if you stuffed up today, tomorrow or last week they're there anyway. They will be there regardless. A shoulder to cry on, a familiar face that greets you warmly, a better place to be.
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 7

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    And I'm far from it. I will tell you everything

    sincerely and straight up. But, here in Ecuador, I've realized that blood never really makes the family although it can be a huge factor. I have made a family in New York. We all belonged to eachother. We all were there for eachother. And we all loved eachother freely and...
    ConLocura ConLocura 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    When I am at school, I don't say I am with my

    friends. I say I am with my family. We are not related by blood, but we are by heart, because we are there for each other no matter what.
    Naty73 Naty73 13-15, M 1 Response Mar 21

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    Hello! I have definitely found this out!

    You know a family is suppose to be a special thing. These are suppose to be people who come on this earth naturally equipped to be there for you. They are all suppose to be your first loves. The ones who you learn how to love other people in the world from. People who are...
    glassfire100 glassfire100 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 19, 2014

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    I'm closer with my friends (baes) :*

    than I am with my family
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 17

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    I have an aunt who lives in another country

    but is here now. She normally is never at our holidays but this year she is. And she wants to complain that people who aren't blood relatives will be at our Christmas celebration. Let me tell you something. The lady she wanted to complain about is more family to me then this...
    Env06 Env06 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2014

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    I think because I lost my parents

    and I don't have any brothers or sisters I see my friends as my family
    mirajane123 mirajane123 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    Sometimes family can be worst

    than your friends. the greed, selfishness, lies its horrible. My family, I love them but the rumors that goes around and them being two-face really breaks my heart. I'm big on family but some days I can't look members in the face without a glare. They do things behind your back...
    latrice2173 latrice2173 22-25, F Feb 3

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    Tonight my father came over to my house to

    convince me to leave my girlfriend. He doesn't approve of our relationship. He offered me money (again) to end the relationship because he believes I'm only with her for money. The first time he said this I was very angry. I told him that it was disgusting and that I didn't want...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 19 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    Well here we are! Christmas day!

    Internally I'm pretty freaking happy! I've got something productive to look forward to, and I have some pretty awesome friends! :) ;) But here I am, sitting in my room after retreating from the nothing that is my immediate family! My mom always cries on holidays.. Today all of...
    Holdontothefire Holdontothefire 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    undeniablyMe undeniablyMe 22-25, F 8 Responses Jan 4

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Family isn't always blood.

    It's the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and will love you no matter what and you feel like you are my family you no who you are xx
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    I'm not really sure what a family is supposed

    to be like. For me it's weird to say I love you and all that. I was raised to be able to handle hurtful words and I never really had words of encouragement or heard words of love growing up. It's weird for someone to tell me they love me or say words of affection to me. Ive...
    dashuria dashuria 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 8, 2014

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    I feel like my 3 best friends are more like

    family to me than my actual blood related family. When my friends found out I had a girlfriend, they loved and supported me. But when my "family" found out, they almost threw me out on the street.
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    A few years ago, my brother acquired this very

    odd friend, Erik. He was sheepish, and quite frankly, abnormal. Yet, he was so sweet and well mannered. They were buds for a while, and finally he started coming over to the house often, staying for the weekends. When we would take him back home on Sunday night, he would make...
    loveVSlust loveVSlust 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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