I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    Blood only means you're related.

    Loyalty and trust make you a family.
    KOOLKAT446 KOOLKAT446
    16-17, T
    Dec 13, 2015

    I realized this when my parents basically

    abandoned me after I started living as a woman. So **** them, is what I'm saying. It's the people who stick by you that matter
    emyleejane emyleejane
    26-30, T
    4 Responses Apr 27, 2015

    One person Have turned my entire family against

    me with lies and manipulation. Now they all hate me. There are really heartless people i n this world. I still move with love though. I dont really care about the lies and manipulation in the past, I just want them to stop the lying and trying to isolate me.
    Destinyhope30 Destinyhope30
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Apr 6

    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere
    66-70, F
    6 Responses May 23, 2014

    What I want for Christmas (or maybe before)is a

    best friend.It's been so long now(👼) and still no one fills that space.Really starting to think such a friendship will never come again for me.
    holywren holywren
    56-60, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2015

    Blood means nothing to me.

    I lost my mother at a young age and my father and his new wife couldn't wait to get rid of me. I have never felt loved by anyone in my immediate or extended family except my grandmother. My biological mom's mother. She died 25 years ago. I have all but been written off by...
    pjay2015 pjay2015
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Aug 27, 2015

    I sometimes wonder if it's weird

    for me to love everybody else more than I love my own family...
    earthe1 earthe1
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 25, 2015
    DoughnutVader DoughnutVader
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Dec 31, 2015

    Tonight my father came over to my house to

    convince me to leave my girlfriend. He doesn't approve of our relationship. He offered me money (again) to end the relationship because he believes I'm only with her for money. The first time he said this I was very angry. I told him that it was disgusting and that I didn't want...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89
    26-30
    18 Responses Nov 12, 2014

    As the door unlocks, my legs shiver in fear.

    I constantly look through the gap of the door at the base to watch a shadow and if my door gets open. I live those moments in fear
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Oct 22, 2015

    I had (and part of me still believes) never to

    give up on family. But as I grew older, I realized some people don't deserve your love or compassion. I've tried to have a good relationship with my mother for so long. She won't allow it. She's stubborn, rude, abusive, and hateful. I finally came to terms with this when she...
    neonstitches neonstitches
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    When I was 12, my dad quit his job to become a

    professional golfer. We'd always been really close, but when he told me, it felt like I'd been shot in the chest. He didn't ask my mom out any of our family members before he made his decision, and he didn't care that we were upset. In fact, he would get angry at my mom and I if...
    Ohmygothness Ohmygothness
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    Nothing against my parents

    but my friends have been there for me during my toughest times. I just found it easier to share with them. Likewise.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 2, 2015

    Just because we are "family" doesn't mean they

    care... I've found more love out of my in-a-way vicious cat than relatives... Most of the advice I get though has been from teachers and counselors. They seem to care, in a way, more about me...
    Sil833 Sil833
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 16, 2015

    Your family isn't always there

    for you. Sometimes they ignore you if you're different. They keep saying "we have the power over you. Over what you wear, what you eat" etc. It feels like you are controlled by them. You don't get to pick and choose your family, you are stuck with them. Your friends are always...
    PresidentUnicorn PresidentUnicorn
    13-15, T
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Mar 12, 2013

    I am the youngest of five

    and I haven't seen my siblings or my "mother's" side of the family in a decade. Initially it was their choice not to see me--I was fifteen and decided to move in with my father and step-mother. After I got my license to drive, I drove all the way out there to see my quadriplegic...
    seelensauger seelensauger
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 31, 2014

    A letter to my father.

    My dear father, You have been gone a long time now,but I know that you will read that letter,you are reading as I am writing.I wish that I had had the knowledge and confidence to write that letter when you were still alive,but knowledge,confidence and wisdom often appear late...
    berangere berangere
    66-70, F
    4 Responses Dec 10, 2014

    Blood doesnt mean your family You have to earn

    that - John Winchester - Dean Winchester - SuperNatural
    Conversely Conversely
    18-21, F
    Nov 18, 2015

    I believe that blood is not always thinker

    than water. How do you feel?
    royalkonz royalkonz
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Nov 9, 2014

    There are some people in my life

    that I now know are not truly part of my family. Family is the group of people who love you, blood or no blood. Being related to me doesn't automatically make you my family. That only comes from mutual love and respect.
    sierra1997 sierra1997
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 28

    Idk. I can't wrap my head around anyone having

    a CHILD, A LIVING HUMAN, and not caring about them. Never calling them, asking about them, wanting to make sure they're okay every night. As a parent, you're the first person to be everything for them and lead by example, show them what they deserve in life. You're...
    SaintInHell SaintInHell
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    Experienced this yesterday at Thanksgiving.

    ..new friends who are old souls. A safety there when you mention a piece of your past ten years ago and it's like they were right there with you.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

    I was always told that whatever happens in this

    family is no ones business. It was us kids who where supposed to make mom and dad happy. Forget about us being happy. My parents just tried to redo their childhoods with ours. I don't know what a childhood is, I don't now what happy is. I do know what being whipped and punched...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 7, 2015

    So my father has never been in my life,

    and I intend to keep it that way. We may be blood, but that doesn't mean *hit to me. So it really bothers me when your family steps out of your life and wants NOTHING to do with you one second, then the next they are acting like they have AUTHORITY over you. And I'm just like...
    shadow10999 shadow10999
    13-15, F
    Nov 19, 2015

    I think love means you would give up your life

    for someone's without a second thought,no matter who they are, and the only people I would do that for is my mom and my best friend Seabass ( I've known him for 10 years) not even my own twin sister
    dominick6 dominick6
    16-17, M
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

    I'm not crazy about Thanksgiving.

    In my family, thanksgiving is mostly distant family members you haven't spoken to in months all at a table going on about how much they miss you and haven't seen you in so long. Why does it have to be a holiday before I speak to 99% of my family ? When I reach out to them...
    3dayweekend 3dayweekend
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 12, 2015

    I was told by someone close to me

    that no one will ever care for me or love me more than I will. At first I thought that's not true my family loves me way more that I do. (HA) It's amazing (and almost sad) how I realized how wrong I was. Little back story, I went to a school for a long time where people...
    miazhane miazhane
    18-21, F
    Apr 16

    Because, more often than not,

    I find myself having to reach out to my friends as a result of hurt caused by those of my own blood.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Oct 31, 2015

    Again, relating to my father.

    A life-long story of sadness and toxicity, unfortunately.
    TValentine TValentine
    56-60, M
    Mar 30

    My family treats me like dirt under their shoes.

    They think I'm an unwanted child, since I was an accident, and they already had my brother. When I was 12 years old, I met someone named Ilona, she became my best friend and changed my life. She was like a sister I never had, and I soon realized, she was the only person I loved...
    lunablue13 lunablue13
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 20, 2014

    Nope not at all. The people I consider family

    are not related to me by blood. The ones I spend birthdays, Christmases, Thanksgivings. We are each others rocks, shoulders to cry on. We do anything and everything possible for each other. Nothing could make us closer than we are. We love each other and that's all we need.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 29, 2015

    The bond that links your true family is not one

    of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof. ~Richard Bach
    MissMeliscious MissMeliscious
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 16, 2015

    Always kick me when I'm down every chance they

    got! Over something my dad went to prison for that had nothing to do with me! They called me retarded, ugly, called a criminal before they even gave me a chance. I couldn't get away from them. They were my momma, my aunts, a uncle, cousins, my cousin's brother even! until I said...
    phenom0086 phenom0086
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2015

    I love my family, but sometimes I feel

    that I want to live miles ago from my relatives... i feel guilty to think this, but I believe they never had a good influence on me... Are very negative (especially my mom)...
    AdorabileVenezia AdorabileVenezia
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 29, 2015

    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss
    51-55, F
    6 Responses Dec 13, 2013
    John1455 John1455
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Mar 7

    It makes a biological connection

    that people call family or associate as family . But since the idea of family has certain characteristics .... Someone you meet whose a complete stranger could become more family to you than your family ever was
    SoleExecutioner SoleExecutioner
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    With my blood relatives,

    we just don't love eachother, we are too dysfuctional and we don't understand eachother.They put on all these smiles and pretend we're a loving family and bullshit, but they know we're not. Just because you share the same DNA doesn't mean that you instantly love, trust and...
    WolfConstellation WolfConstellation
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 18

    Close friends, online

    or not, become family. I don't believe blood defines anything besides that you're alive.
    Kkgunny Kkgunny
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    to me ive come to realize.

    friends can be more like family than actually family its ****** up but true i can count on then more than family anyone. else
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 8, 2014

    Absolutely not, like s great man

    once said. "Family doesn't start with blood, but it doesn't end with it either." Supernatural............ They're killing off everyone...
    YouCantEscapeMyDemons YouCantEscapeMyDemons
    16-17, M
    4 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    This is hard for me but I wanted to write it.

    It's my first experience post, but this has been in my head my whole life.My family do not care about me.Three years ago I became sick. I won't go into the details, but it meant three years of undiagnosed hell. I couldn't eat or talk from the condition. I was alone and scared...
    Stormryder Stormryder
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 8
    polylove0210 polylove0210
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 8

    My really close friends

    that stick with me through Thick and thin, they're part of my family. They're not blood related, but they're most definitely my family.
    AmeliaC2002 AmeliaC2002
    13-15, F
    Jan 7

    Long time ago, when i was 8,

    I was told, "Do not talk about what happened. Do not mention it." I then was quiet. I still am quiet about it.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    I've come to realize

    that blood doesn't make a family. BUT it makes a really great smoothie!
    zmedleff1 zmedleff1
    41-45
    3 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    Sometimes, your own family won't give a flip

    about you, and the people that actually care, love you, and won't hurt you are strangers. Some Family members will tear you apart, claiming it's because they love you. ' Love' my butt. In times the best family you can ever have is a friend, or even a stranger. 'We are a loving...
    shadow10999 shadow10999
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    I look extremely extremely old

    and aged like I'm 7000 years of age ..I look like an extremely old woman and there nothing I can do about my physical image ..I hate to see the reflection of my physical image in the mirror and every time I meet my reflection in the mirror I get lots of sadness and disparity ..I...
    Inthedark16 Inthedark16
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Jan 15

    It's been a decade that I walk into my parent's

    house every evening after work and there's no facial expression. I have reached that stage where I no more expect them to express or show love. May be just a smile can make a difference? Sometimes they are all chirpy and loving but 95% of the times, there's no expression. I go...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 20, 2015
    Seblett Seblett
    16-17, F
    Aug 27, 2014

    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89
    26-30
    3 Responses May 2, 2014

    Me and two of my siblings were adapted,

    so my parents had three kids and adopted three I was taught from an early age that blood doesn't make a family love does
    PanamanianPenguin PanamanianPenguin
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 24, 2015
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