Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 7,589 People

    I don't have a lot of friends

    but the ones that I do have are truly of the highest quality. They have been there for me and gone to bat for me in ways even my parents never have. It is often said that we shouldn't take family for granted but I say never take your friends for granted. Many times they can be...
    LOMD LOMD 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 14

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My family treats me like dirt under their shoes.

    They think I'm an unwanted child, since I was an accident, and they already had my brother. When I was 12 years old, I met someone named Ilona, she became my best friend and changed my life. She was like a sister I never had, and I soon realized, she was the only person I loved...
    lunablue13 lunablue13 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Life Goes On

    It all comes down to saying that your neighboor is you closest family. The more you get along with the people surrounding you the more the more you reveal your selves to each other, caring and being always there when needed. As for your own siblings, as I have experienced it...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I can relate, my family is

    so distant and the only thing in the world I want is a close family. I'm 31 no boyfriend no kids so that doesn't seem in the realm of possibility right now. Working on it
    missquietriot missquietriot 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Blood does not make a family.

    A long time ago I was a married man with a six month old daughter. I recently got out of the Navy and was attempting to resettle. My biological family lied to me. They did nothing to help us and kicked us out after three days. My then wife was very eager to help with...
    SilverPagan SilverPagan 51-55, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 9 Responses May 23

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Blood doesn't make a family.

    Depending on the amount it makes it smaller
    ChangingFaces5 ChangingFaces5 22-25 1 Response Nov 29

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I'm not really sure what a family is supposed

    to be like. For me it's weird to say I love you and all that. I was raised to be able to handle hurtful words and I never really had words of encouragement or heard words of love growing up. It's weird for someone to tell me they love me or say words of affection to me. Ive...
    dashuria dashuria 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    They beg for my thoughts

    and issues, but I never tell. Is it because I feel that they're an issue? Or am I the only issue that should have concern about it? I don't tell them my issues, thoughts, concerns because I feel they can not help, don't care to help, or don't truly care to know. Am I wrong...
    Am3917 Am3917 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I feel like my 3 best friends are more like

    family to me than my actual blood related family. When my friends found out I had a girlfriend, they loved and supported me. But when my "family" found out, they almost threw me out on the street.
    originalitydied originalitydied 13-15, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I cannot live in this house anymore.

    It is so emotionally draining and I can’t do it anymore. When we move out of here, I’m officially cutting my whole dads side of the family off. They are toxic and unsupportive and I cannot do it anymore. No matter how much they say they will support anything I do, they don...
    n0rthernwind n0rthernwind 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Tonight my father came over to my house to

    convince me to leave my girlfriend. He doesn't approve of our relationship. He offered me money (again) to end the relationship because he believes I'm only with her for money. The first time he said this I was very angry. I told him that it was disgusting and that I didn't want...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 21 Responses Nov 12

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I can sing a song about that.

    My biological mum told me when I was 7, I had to call my biological dad to say him he's not my dad anymore, the one who adopted me is. She isn't a mother to me. She lied to me my whole life and that isn't the thing you do, when you are in a loving Family. Now I live with the men...
    BlaBla01 BlaBla01 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    "You will lose friends

    but family is forever" what a lie that is what mu father raises me on i believed that for awhile then i was 6 and my parents split the thing is they where never married and my dad owned the house so he kicked my mom out and locked the door we had no where to go my sister(who has...
    Musicislife13417 Musicislife13417 13-15 3 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 7 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A few years ago, my brother acquired this very

    odd friend, Erik. He was sheepish, and quite frankly, abnormal. Yet, he was so sweet and well mannered. They were buds for a while, and finally he started coming over to the house often, staying for the weekends. When we would take him back home on Sunday night, he would make...
    loveVSlust loveVSlust 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Blood Is Thicker Than Water.. But So Is Syrup And At Least That's Sweeter!

    As the youngest member of my family, I've often thought of myself as an inconvenience. I wouldn't say they hated me. They just didn't include me. Until one member of the "Best Friends" section of the family tried to stab the rest of the family in the back. And then they HAD to...
    AuraMoon AuraMoon 41-45, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My grandfather recently passed away

    and my aunts on my mothers side showed their true colors. My mom is the eldest of 13 children in her family and she had 7 children of her own. She's been married the longest out of all of my relatives and has never caused problems. After my grandpa passed, a few of my aunts...
    Aliceinwonderland87 Aliceinwonderland87 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 21

    Your Response

    Cancel

    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 6 Responses Mar 12, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    And it continues... Had a brief conversation

    with my brother today. If you've read my past experiences you will know that my parents don't approve of my new girlfriend and my father tried to bribe me to leave her. I was giving my brother an update of what was happening between my Dad and I so he understood why I didn't...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 3 Responses Nov 27

    Your Response

    Cancel

    While my mom was dying,

    friends I've met through different Military installations went out of their way for me and my mom'a well being. They were selfless though they have little. While family did nothing. Judgmental, rude, selfish, and made it a living hell. Family is not always blood.
    CaptureEverything CaptureEverything 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Seblett Seblett 13-15, F Aug 27

    Your Response

    Cancel

    i don't know if this makes sense but.

    earlier this year, me and my brother found out that my brother wasn't my dad's son. and we realised that that was the reason that they had a real tough relationship unlike me and my dad. my mum was still indeed his mother making him a half-brother of mine. his biological dad...
    Roan1990 Roan1990 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 21

    Your Response

    Cancel
    kolo1463 kolo1463 22-25, F 36 Responses Aug 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Me & Mine

    I'm lucky. However you look at it. I was chosen before I knew what choice was, by 2 people who love me unconditionally. My own mother and father couldn't be together (loooooooong story) so gave me up for adoption. 2 months later I was chosen from a white wooden cot by 2...
    PaleAngel PaleAngel 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Experienced this yesterday at Thanksgiving.

    ..new friends who are old souls. A safety there when you mention a piece of your past ten years ago and it's like they were right there with you.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I had a difficult childhood

    as one of my parents passed away while I was 7. I recently live on another continent and haven't seen my family in more than a year. Although the country I live in ain't my place of birth, I have come to accept it as my hometown(even though I had to learn the language of this...
    cradleaway cradleaway 22-25 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    A letter to my father.

    My dear father, You have been gone a long time now,but I know that you will read that letter,you are reading as I am writing.I wish that I had had the knowledge and confidence to write that letter when you were still alive,but knowledge,confidence and wisdom often appear late...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 8 Responses Dec 10

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Yes it does... What do you think will provide

    oxygen to your internals... You would be dead otherwise.
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Hello! I have definitely found this out!

    You know a family is suppose to be a special thing. These are suppose to be people who come on this earth naturally equipped to be there for you. They are all suppose to be your first loves. The ones who you learn how to love other people in the world from. People who are...
    glassfire100 glassfire100 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 19

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I believe that blood is not always thinker

    than water. How do you feel?
    royalkonz royalkonz 22-25, M 9 Responses Nov 9

    Your Response

    Cancel

    We may be related, but we are not family.

    Everywhere I here people insisting because a person is family, or related, you have to be nice to them. Be kind. Offer help. But why should I? Just because I was born into your family or you were born into mine, doesn't mean you deserve special privileges. It doesn't mean I'm...
    RedAngelic RedAngelic 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 25

    Your Response

    Cancel

    There’s a vast difference between being blood

    relatives and being a family. I don’t believe that being one necessarily makes you the other. I have an ex-boyfriend, who has siblings, cousins, Aunts, Uncles and so on, and they are all very devoted to each other; they truly are a close-nit family, but I also have friends...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F Oct 30

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M Apr 15

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 6 Responses May 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    One more day, then my baby sister turns thirty.

    We have been estranged longer than we were "family". I used to feel so connected to her. I love her, I took care of her when our parents didn't. I always protected her and yet, somehow that hurt her. She is so damaged and my heart hurts when I think about it. I just wish we...
    Pharmalady Pharmalady 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 18

    Your Response

    Cancel

    my boys locked up and he's my brother.

    . though we share no blood cept that which we spilt. .. I miss him I wish I'd been a better friend with better advice.. He took the bullet and now he's paying the price. he's doing 15 at least half... days are slow life is empty. ..
    heysmellthis heysmellthis 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have not had contact with my family

    since I was 13 and to be honest I have never missed them. People say that blood is thicker than water...but it didn't matter to them and it matters little to me now. A family is someone who looks after you, stands by you, love you without needing a reason. My partner is a...
    ultimatehacker ultimatehacker 26-30, M 4 Responses Oct 20

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My birth parents were 15

    and 16, so I was always going to be taken into care as a baby. 1972 was very different to these days! Thankfully, I was adopted almost at birth, at 3 weeks old - not that I remember it! Lol. Never made any attempts to trace my birth parents, because I view my mam and dad to be...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 2

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Like any other human relationship,

    there has to be a conscious decision and willful effort to maintain and strengthen that relationship. Relatives - or "blood" - don't choose each other. It usually works out well, that they end up "liking" each other and everything. But when it doesn't work out like that? Boy is...
    FryyM FryyM 22-25, M 1 Response Nov 14

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Some people say you can choose your friends

    but you can't choose your family.I have to disagree sharing blood or the last name with someone will not have me treat them as family. Just like friends family are people in your life you like/love who you treat with respect and get it in return. They are people you trust and...
    DizzyGreenEyes DizzyGreenEyes 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 15

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have come to realize

    that blood doesn't make a family... And with 'blood', I mean genes. Seeing as relatives don't actually share blood at all. They just share genetics... Chromosomes and such. Inaccurate terminology aside, I don't believe biological relation makes a family. Its all relative to how...
    Lullacus Lullacus 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 10

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I am not close to my blood relatives at all.

    My parents had trouble encouraging me as a child, and the restrictions they put on me due to their fear makes me believe that they don't trust me or expect me to be capable of appropriate decision making. Their behaviour has continued into my adult life. When I inform them of...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 1 Response Oct 27

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Family isn't always blood.

    It's the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and will love you no matter what and you feel like you are my family you no who you are xx
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 13

    Your Response

    Cancel

    So true on so many levels!

    To me family is a word thrown around to allow u to b screwed over. At least in my world.
    aries1214 aries1214 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Blood wise, I have no family.

    They didn't die or anything tragic, but they chose to not be involved in my life. My biological dad, the ***** donor, chose to leave and after 14 years I realized that its better he's gone. When him and his side left, my family got small. Down to my mom, brother, uncle and...
    Santos21 Santos21 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I have an "adopted" family.

    Not legally but they know more about me than my own family. They know who I am under my mask. There are many of us ranging from 10-20. We are a family. They keep me from drowning in my life.
    hopewojo hopewojo 16-17, F Oct 18

    Your Response

    Cancel
    MTBlake33 MTBlake33 22-25, M Dec 11

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Even though we are blood,

    my family is NOT my family. I do not belong with them. I don't know most of my family. And I look forward to the day, when I have a family of my own. Right now my daughter and SO are the only family I've got.
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel