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I 've Come To Realize That Blood Doesn't Make A Family

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    I would go to the ends of the earth

    and back for my friends. In everyday-life, I am a horrible friend. In everyday-life, I avoid seeing them face-to-face.... actually anything that involves me having to put pants on.... If I message back at all, it's to bail on a social outing, and sometimes I don't speak to or...
    TheBlasphemousOptimist TheBlasphemousOptimist 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 25

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    berangere berangere 66-70, F 1 Response May 19

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    Blood means nothing to me.

    I lost my mother at a young age and my father and his new wife couldn't wait to get rid of me. I have never felt loved by anyone in my immediate or extended family except my grandmother. My biological mom's mother. She died 25 years ago. I have all but been written off by...
    pjay2015 pjay2015 46-50, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    My family are dysfunctional.

    I have few friends but I trust them with my life.
    uberfuzz uberfuzz 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 7

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    bluehappyness bluehappyness 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 21

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    Family is where your heart belongs.

    My parents were awful when I grew up. I found someone I could trust and call "mom" and for the first time I felt understood and accepted even though we aren't related. It's important what you feel and not what's written in your birth certificate.
    BloodRedRiver BloodRedRiver 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    DNA doesn't make a Family Love does

    which means if u love someone and u love that person u should consider them a family member
    Vswagger Vswagger 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 24

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    Me and two of my siblings were adapted,

    so my parents had three kids and adopted three I was taught from an early age that blood doesn't make a family love does
    PanamanianPenguin PanamanianPenguin 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 24

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    so I don't know if it is correct

    for me not to love my family because people always say family's love is unconditional but reading the hunger games (I know it'll sound silly) which I read like three years ago, Katniss said she was only sure to love prim, and no one else, so can I feel the same Way? I don't feel...
    chocolatecream1 chocolatecream1 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    The bond that links your true family is not one

    of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof. ~Richard Bach
    MissMeliscious MissMeliscious 26-30, F 3 Responses May 16

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    Three kids and they do not

    even care if I exist, yet I brought them up and worked hard to give them a good upbringing. Their cheating lecherous lying mother done the damage. An evil black widow with her manipulative tentacles everywhere to get what she wants. To think I divorced the ***** around 1980 and...
    Thesoutherner Thesoutherner 66-70, M 6 Responses Jun 22

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    Absolutely not, like s great man

    once said. "Family doesn't start with blood, but it doesn't end with it either." Supernatural............ They're killing off everyone...
    YouCantEscapeMyDemons YouCantEscapeMyDemons 13-15, M 4 Responses Jun 5

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    Close friends, online

    or not, become family. I don't believe blood defines anything besides that you're alive.
    Kkgunny Kkgunny 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 5

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    I am the youngest of five

    and I haven't seen my siblings or my "mother's" side of the family in a decade. Initially it was their choice not to see me--I was fifteen and decided to move in with my father and step-mother. After I got my license to drive, I drove all the way out there to see my quadriplegic...
    seelensauger seelensauger 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I found out when I was 8

    that my dad wasn't my really dad. I'll always call him dad but he isn't my blood. He brought me up from being 3 months in my moms tummy and hasn't ever left my side. My real dad left me as soon as he found out about the pregnancy. My dad (stepdad) will be the only father I...
    jessicanorth jessicanorth 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    I am hurting because I want my mom to love

    and acknowledge me but she won't. It's a pain I'm trying to live with.
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 26

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    I've had to work against my family my whole

    life. They always set me back and were about as supportive as a training bra. Moving out of my parent's house was the best decision I could have made. The extra separation allowed me to grow unhindered. I worked hard to be where I am today and none of the credit can go to anyone...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 26-30 6 Responses May 2, 2014

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    Aside from my parents,

    sister and grandparents, I don't care at all for the rest of my family. I would let my cousins die if it was to save one of my friends. Even though we know each other pretty well, I feel more affection towards people who aren't even my blood.
    ElectricArabella ElectricArabella 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's unfortunate, really.

    My family is gigantic, some I haven't ever met, most I have and that's a shame because I can safely say I don't approve of 90% of them. Except immediate family, they're very different to myself and they feel more like old friends that you don't really want, rather than a family...
    HmmLife HmmLife 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 8

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    My stepbrothers are my real siblings

    if anyone says otherwise I'll tear their head off. Same with my stepmother they are part of me now and I don't want to lose them.
    silent62 silent62 13-15, F Jul 13

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    This group is so true

    as the below will show. I have had the perfect day it started it off not great but then I got a message from MOB saying she will help me do my errands and her and her children come and pick me up, she drops me back off saying she is going for some lunch I then message her...
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    It's somebody who is willing to stay by your

    side when you need it the most.
    TheKillingPerfection TheKillingPerfection 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 23

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    Experienced this yesterday at Thanksgiving.

    ..new friends who are old souls. A safety there when you mention a piece of your past ten years ago and it's like they were right there with you.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Just because we are "family" doesn't mean they

    care... I've found more love out of my in-a-way vicious cat than relatives... Most of the advice I get though has been from teachers and counselors. They seem to care, in a way, more about me...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F 3 Responses May 16

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    It makes a biological connection

    that people call family or associate as family . But since the idea of family has certain characteristics .... Someone you meet whose a complete stranger could become more family to you than your family ever was
    SoleExecutioner SoleExecutioner 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    I have my family of choice from Alateen

    and they are my true family. My blood family aren't those that are there for me. It's my fellow Alanons and Alateens.
    bbybleu bbybleu 16-17, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I love my little sister,

    although we are not 'really' related. I hate the question "How many siblings do you have?" Because it's weird to answer: "Three. Erm. Two... Erm... actually only one..." .. My Dad isn't my biological father and he and my mum got divorced before I turned 5. But I always felt like...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    Nope not at all. The people I consider family

    are not related to me by blood. The ones I spend birthdays, Christmases, Thanksgivings. We are each others rocks, shoulders to cry on. We do anything and everything possible for each other. Nothing could make us closer than we are. We love each other and that's all we need.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 29

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    I've always had a sneaking suspicion

    that blood doesn't necessarily make family. Both my parents came from big families - eight brothers and sisters each.  Judging by the way my mother and father were treated by their own siblings during their lives - and the fact that, when my father died, none of his brothers...
    womaninbliss womaninbliss 51-55, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    U & Me forever this way www.

    nidhisuraj.com There are so many Love Stories in this world. Few stories become so famous but few are unsaid and been buried with time. Few others share their love stories with their friends, while some leave them as sweet memories for themselves within their hearts and few...
    evan003 evan003 18-21, F Jul 21

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    Tonight my father came over to my house to

    convince me to leave my girlfriend. He doesn't approve of our relationship. He offered me money (again) to end the relationship because he believes I'm only with her for money. The first time he said this I was very angry. I told him that it was disgusting and that I didn't want...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 26-30 18 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    only person whom i care about in my family is

    my Nan, she raised me when others refused. blood doesnt make a family, the bonds you create make one.
    Curiouscatbug Curiouscatbug 22-25, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've come to realize

    that blood doesn't make a family. BUT it makes a really great smoothie!
    zmedleff1 zmedleff1 41-45 3 Responses Jan 4

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    I have come to realize

    that blood does not make a family. I have blood family members who treat people on the side of the road better than they do myself, and than, I have friends/"Chosen family" that I have never met face-to-face who are more like a family to me. I am the type of person who will do...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    My sister's marriage is on the brink of divorce.

    She told me yesterday that she simply doesn't feel anything anymore for her husband. And I was so angry at her...I know it may sound strange: I should support her but I can't help it, I'm really angry. And here's the reason why: I don't want to lose my brother-in-law. When he...
    aloysia aloysia 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 4

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    Friends are the family you choose

    for yourself, the ones that stick by you time after time, they don't care if you stuffed up today, tomorrow or last week they're there anyway. They will be there regardless. A shoulder to cry on, a familiar face that greets you warmly, a better place to be.
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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    My family treats me like dirt under their shoes.

    They think I'm an unwanted child, since I was an accident, and they already had my brother. When I was 12 years old, I met someone named Ilona, she became my best friend and changed my life. She was like a sister I never had, and I soon realized, she was the only person I loved...
    lunablue13 lunablue13 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Well , family isn't made by blood bond ,

    it's made from a strong loyalty a pledge to protect each other and help one another . Tho I've experienced some families are just made up by lies and deception , to me my blood bond is nothing , my family is made by me , the few people I let close are the ones I call family and...
    icelus icelus 18-21, M Apr 15, 2014

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    I have people who arent blood family

    but i think that they deserve to be
    madisontuohey12 madisontuohey12 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    to me ive come to realize.

    friends can be more like family than actually family its ****** up but true i can count on then more than family anyone. else
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 3

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    Memories that simply will not go away.

    There are days when my mind is still full of sad memories,I have moved on in many ways but those memories remain and still haunt me. I was told by my older sister that my father made my mother pregnant to keep her home,stop her gallivanting.After my birth, my mother resumed her...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 7 Responses May 23, 2014

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    I believe that blood is not always thinker

    than water. How do you feel?
    royalkonz royalkonz 22-25, M 6 Responses Nov 9, 2014

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    A letter to my father.

    My dear father, You have been gone a long time now,but I know that you will read that letter,you are reading as I am writing.I wish that I had had the knowledge and confidence to write that letter when you were still alive,but knowledge,confidence and wisdom often appear late...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 7 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    Yes, I have done it. I wrote a letter to my

    toxic mother telling her that I cut her off my life. I had also briefly explained the reasons for this "divorce", because I think it's very violent to just disappear from somebody's life. After I have done that, I felt the need to do a big clean up in my apartment, and re...
    CantatriceChauve CantatriceChauve 31-35, F 1 Response May 14

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    They Say Blood Is Thicker Than Water

    I wonder how they came to this conclusion. This only applies to my sister as she is my soul mate. One person does not make up a family that is for sure. I may still have my mum but I have always had my issues with her that had carried through my childhood.
    HardingP119 HardingP119 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 12, 2013

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    I had (and part of me still believes) never to

    give up on family. But as I grew older, I realized some people don't deserve your love or compassion. I've tried to have a good relationship with my mother for so long. She won't allow it. She's stubborn, rude, abusive, and hateful. I finally came to terms with this when she...
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