I Wait For Someone to Talk to Me First

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    I always feel like im bothering them.

    It feels like no ever wants to actually talk to me, and get to know me. Idk..
    XxToxicKissesxX XxToxicKissesxX
    13-15, F
    3 Responses Jun 2, 2015

    I Feel No Obligation

    I have a certain distaste for human beings initially. I don't seek people out because I am easily disappointed in the people I meet. I am already often approached by people, and I get the weed through them based on the impression they leave. It is not at all to say that I am shy...
    MysteriousMysteries MysteriousMysteries
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 26, 2011
    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 16, 2014

    I miss getting messages

    that aren't just small talk or somebody not knowing what to say. I'm getting better when people don't know what to say but it never turns into anything. I miss those people who emailed me and started conversations that you're very deep conversations or interesting conversations...
    CosmicEvan CosmicEvan
    22-25, T
    Nov 11, 2015
    sab0127 sab0127
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 20, 2015

    Im really bad at starting a conversation,

    and I hate small talk. Needless to say, this makes me both unable to message anybody without annoying the hell out of myself, and makes it hard to talk to people when they rely on small talk. ~ Lys ♪
    LysChan LysChan
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 26

    It is rare for me to start a conversation in a

    back-and-forth chat. I wait for someone else to start the back-and-forth. This is one of the reasons some online think I'm shy. I do have shy moments but I am outgoing more than I am shy.
    loveismyfriend loveismyfriend
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 23

    It's not something I want to be doing,

    it's just I'm so terribly shy that I feel that the person I'm wanting to talk to won't like me or think I'm all desperate and stuff... Which is why I turned to EP...
    Whiskeylovexxx Whiskeylovexxx
    26-30, F
    12 Responses Nov 10, 2015

    Most of the time I feel like I annoy people

    just by messaging them. I don't know if I do annoy them but I feel like I do.. That's why I don't often message people first, I mean if people never talk to me and I would always be trying to talk to them then it would make me a annoying person, right? So yeah I like when...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    I'm not even a shy person the least bit!

    But when I get on social media I'm so bashful to message someone. Ugh why is that? I'm such a wuss
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Jul 16, 2015

    I hate bothering people

    so I wait for them to start up a conversation. It makes me seem antisocial but I talk to anyone that wants to talk. I just don't speak first.
    sierraseptember sierraseptember
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 17

    Only on EP.That's because I never become

    friends with them if I talk to them first.Most ignored my message and some just stopped replying after 2 or 3 lines :3
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Nov 22, 2015

    See, for me, I CHOSE to wait

    for someone to talk to me first. Why? Because whenever I approached someone, online or IRL, I get passed up/ignored/disrespected. I'm over it. I stay silent, I watch body language. My feelings don't get hurt that way.
    VyxnnGoRawr VyxnnGoRawr
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jul 16, 2014

    I'm the kind of person

    that will not make the first move. This doesn't necessarily apply to romantic gestures, but in other circumstances as well. I would spot a pretty interesting character in class, or see someone reading a book I just finished, and I feel the urge to approach them. But I don't. And...
    puddleoftears93 puddleoftears93
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    There are some days where I wouldn't mind

    talking to people first both in real life and on the internet, checking up on them and having a great conversation but most days I'd wonder if it's a good timing or if they're busy. I wouldn't want to interrupt whatever it is they're doing so I just do my own thing and let them...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 26

    It's not that I do it intentionally,

    it's just that I'm really shy. Unless someone initiates the conversation odds are I won't talk to them.
    Josimms23 Josimms23
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    It's just a habit because i talk to

    so many people, I forget to talk to them
    BIaziken BIaziken
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Dec 14, 2014
    deleted deleted
    Jul 16, 2015

    I do this most of the time.

    Then I get angry at myself for being afraid
    deleted deleted
    Mar 9, 2015

    I'm really not good at contacting people first.

    I feel so awkward doing it. It's just that I'm really shy and I have social anxiety. Social things aren't easy in the first place, so contacting someone first is a very difficult and stressful thing for me.
    purpleglitter01 purpleglitter01
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 16

    Eventually, Maybe

    She sits perched on a stool, chewing a fingernail.  Her coffee steams in front of her, silly paper sleeve against the countertop like pants around ankles.I can see she's noticed me, but then, she's noticed me every day for the last two weeks.  Her eyes are dense, her body lithe...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jan 25, 2012

    People think I don't want to talk to them

    but if they knew all it took was to say something first that I actually have alot to say.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 17

    I like saying hi to anyone,

    you would be surprised at how many great chats I have. Those who don't reply miss out
    Al74 Al74
    41-45, M
    1 Response Nov 11, 2015

    The reason why I wait someone to talk to me

    first because before (2 yrs ago) when I said hi/hello to someone they snob me so then I was like all righty then, no more saying hi/hello first to people (unless they're my friends)
    anon189 anon189
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Nov 9, 2015

    I don't know if it's a habit

    or part of my personality. I am generally reluctant to initiate conversations. People often think I am not interested in talking but actually I am just shy. I wait for people to initiate conversation with me.May be it's due to fear of rejection or fear of being ignored. I am a...
    Susana1985 Susana1985
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 20, 2014
    Mk12345678910 Mk12345678910
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Mar 30
    allychef allychef
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    I have absolutely no idea how to start

    conversations or just not be awkward in general. I blame it all on my last 3 years of high school. I went from a public high school of 400 people in my class to a private christian school with less than 30 people in my class. The whole high school in itself had barely over 70...
    chasingsunsets chasingsunsets
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 18

    When you cant stop thinking about some one-

    and even tho you know the only way itll ever happen is if you make a move. So its never gona happen, just thinking about them is nice :) totally smitten with an older person who will never notice me- unless i make myself noticeable.....
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Apr 2, 2015

    Text me I'm a happy camper

    when I see messages in my inbox
    TheNextWnbaAllStar TheNextWnbaAllStar
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    cause sometimes I feel

    that people will get annoyed with me if I talk to them first.
    emswift emswift
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    Call it shyness or a fear of rejection

    but sometimes making the first move is an overly daunting prospect. Sometimes I will say like "hi" or something equally unimpressive to someone but generally I don't launch in to full blown conversations with people unless I'm certain that rejection from that person isn't on...
    RaiseYourWhat RaiseYourWhat
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 16, 2015

    It's almost impossible

    for me to initiate a conversation most of the time. Most of the times I've tried its always awkward. If you don't talk to me first I don't know what to say to you so I simply refrain from doing so. It's part of my social anxiety and is part of the reason I have no friends.
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Apr 26, 2015

    Because I'm used to people not wanting to talk

    to me. I guess you could say that I let people talk to me at their own risk.
    misanthropicpessimist misanthropicpessimist
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2015

    Unless you're someone

    who I REALLY want to talk to, I usually wait for other people to message me. I'm too shy and awkward to message first.
    Lynne246 Lynne246
    16-17, F
    Oct 4, 2015

    At school, I'm a huge introvert,

    but when someone talks to me, I become an extrovert. Plus it's really difficult for me to start the conversation because when I do, I feel pressured to be the one to lead the conversation, so it's very difficult on me.
    Weirdestone Weirdestone
    18-21, F
    Apr 17
    yolifeisgreat yolifeisgreat
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 10, 2015

    I wait cuz I don't know what to say,

    and I also know that people have a life to live and are sometimes busy.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 15

    Regardless of how much I desire to talk to

    that one person, I don't like the idea of texting them first... I do, however, appreciate and love the people who can and are willing to start a conversation!
    Dagymislife Dagymislife
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 2

    Tired of always starting the conversation.

    It's time to feel a little wanted x)
    deleted deleted
    Aug 3, 2015

    It was once said...usually attributed to

    Abraham Lincoln, that "It is better to remain silent and thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt"! I appreciate the sentiment because I like for others to open up the conversation first, especially at parties or gatherings where I don't know anyone. I am an...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 15
    cieloissky cieloissky
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 16

    And wait.. and wait..

    And wait.. And wait.. Gosh I'm a loner :/ aha
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn
    13-15, F
    7 Responses Dec 15, 2014
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 27, 2015

    What does it mean when you stop texting someone

    and they quit texting you back?
    sagespoo sagespoo
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Apr 15

    I can talk to any other person

    as much as possible. But when it comes to you I'm speechless. Maybe I'm just afraid. Afraid that I might say the wrong thing. Afraid that I might bother or annoy you. It's sad to know that you don't enjoy talking to me as much as I do talking with you.
    Crazygirl92 Crazygirl92
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 9, 2015

    I can be pretty shy about initiating

    conversation with people. It's just something that I have to keep working on.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 25
    JayTheU JayTheU
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 2
    MyLostProperty MyLostProperty
    16-17, M
    5 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    That most of the time gets me no

    where i end up waiting a long time😳 being "shy" is what i do best.
    deleted deleted
    Mar 3

    I hate starting conversations woth people im

    not familliar with. Im a total anti-social person when it comes to strangers, and i easily become socially awkward too. Im more of an introvert (obviously). Thats one of the reasons i created this account
    Heyoitsme Heyoitsme
    16-17, F
    Apr 17

    I can't start the conversation every damn time

    woman! you got lips speak damn it! lol hi but seriously don't allow the man to do everything
    Captain9Omega Captain9Omega
    22-25, M
    1 Response Aug 4, 2015

    I needs someone to talk me openly.

    I will also talk openly
    domslaveboy domslaveboy
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 17
    Erie23 Erie23
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2015

    I always wait for someone to talk to me first

    yet no one ever talks to me. Forever alone.
    virgo1234 virgo1234
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 3, 2015

    I do this more and more

    for the fear of rejection. However I do love talking and listening to people.
    cmbryan316 cmbryan316
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jan 25
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