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I Wait For Someone to Talk to Me First

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    And wait.. and wait..

    And wait.. And wait.. Gosh I'm a loner :/ aha
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I'm not even a shy person the least bit!

    But when I get on social media I'm so bashful to message someone. Ugh why is that? I'm such a wuss
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition 18-21, F 12 Responses Jul 16

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    There are a few reasons to this.

    I'm rather shy and find it difficult to start a conversation. Also I'm afraid that I'll bother someone by starting to talk uninvited. Furthermore I make friends easily, at least online, and tend to get in touch with more people than I can maintain. Letting others approach me is...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M Jun 22

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    I do have a habit of waiting

    for people to talk to me first most of the time. I'm rather shy so it's always been hard for me to initiate things.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Usually when entering a new social environment,

    such as a new school class, a new social club, etc., I talk to strangers first to know them because I just hurry to get new friends and can't wait others to talk to me first. I enjoy to be talked to first but usually I feel they are too late to wait for me. But in a street or a...
    ExileMyself ExileMyself 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I do not just talk to people.

    .. I make it look as if I want to talk to them so they will talk to me first. I am horrible at socializing I always say the wrong words and all this crazy slang is not helping. 11 friendships lost in a group just because I said something wrong. I know one guy purposely got all...
    Shilfer Shilfer 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 27

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    It's much easier this way.

    In the past, I've dared to make the first move but I always felt like I was wasting my time. Now I just await messages to be sent to me, at least I know that person actually wants to speak to me.
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    I think it's because I'm

    so awkward and shy when I first talk to someone.
    mynameiskris mynameiskris 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    Most of the time I feel like I annoy people

    just by messaging them. I don't know if I do annoy them but I feel like I do.. That's why I don't often message people first, I mean if people never talk to me and I would always be trying to talk to them then it would make me a annoying person, right? So yeah I like when...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    It's almost impossible

    for me to initiate a conversation most of the time. Most of the times I've tried its always awkward. If you don't talk to me first I don't know what to say to you so I simply refrain from doing so. It's part of my social anxiety and is part of the reason I have no friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 26

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    It's not a fear of mine to message first,

    I just don't. I like being approached instead of being the approacher.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 2, 2014

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I do this most of the time.

    Then I get angry at myself for being afraid
    Jene95 Jene95 18-21, F Mar 9

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    alyssabay alyssabay 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    "What if they didnt wanna talk?

    " "What if im bothering them with my texts?" "What if they wanna stop talking now but im keeping the convo going?" "What if theyre not interested in talking to me?" "What if...." "What if...." "What if...."
    Sublevarse Sublevarse 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 9

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    Excuse me Ma'am ... could I have my people

    schedule a time to get together with your people ... for the purpose of scheduling a time for our people to get together ... to arrange a time for us to get together?
    questionWeaver questionWeaver 56-60, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Junechoco Junechoco 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    mssparkles mssparkles 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    Amberyoyo Amberyoyo 22-25, M 1 Response a week ago

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    She is gazing at you

    so tenderly, Drowning you in sparkling conversation, Gay and witty, and her eyes Absorbing you with their yearning. But last night she was using all her skill To give me secretly her little foot Under the tablecloth for me to caress. Alexander Pushkin, Russian, 1799-1837
    breathingeasy breathingeasy 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    MyLostProperty MyLostProperty 16-17, M 4 Responses Jun 22

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    I always wait for someone to talk to me first

    yet no one ever talks to me. Forever alone.
    virgo1234 virgo1234 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 3

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    I'm the kind of person

    that will not make the first move. This doesn't necessarily apply to romantic gestures, but in other circumstances as well. I would spot a pretty interesting character in class, or see someone reading a book I just finished, and I feel the urge to approach them. But I don't. And...
    puddleoftears93 puddleoftears93 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I met this quiet man at a social event.

    I didn't think much about it. We didn't really talk. But next thing I knew, he adds me online the same day and sends me a message. He messages me almost every night after work since then. He's really nice, sweet, and fun to talk to. It's crazy. I haven't had this kind of...
    olahjagger olahjagger 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 26

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    When you cant stop thinking about some one-

    and even tho you know the only way itll ever happen is if you make a move. So its never gona happen, just thinking about them is nice :) totally smitten with an older person who will never notice me- unless i make myself noticeable.....
    FAIRYboobs FAIRYboobs 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    I Feel No Obligation

    I have a certain distaste for human beings initially. I don't seek people out because I am easily disappointed in the people I meet. I am already often approached by people, and I get the weed through them based on the impression they leave. It is not at all to say that I am shy...
    MysteriousMysteries MysteriousMysteries 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    Yes on E.p.I am very careful these days.

    I have had requests to tell my secrets from at least two people new in my circle.I have refused and these people have stopped contacting me.I wonder if they are the same person with different accounts.
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 10 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    See, for me, I CHOSE to wait

    for someone to talk to me first. Why? Because whenever I approached someone, online or IRL, I get passed up/ignored/disrespected. I'm over it. I stay silent, I watch body language. My feelings don't get hurt that way.
    VyxnnGoRawr VyxnnGoRawr 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    If I start the conversation ;

    that is if I can even start a conversation in the first place , I will just start thinking that maybe I'm being a bother and that i should just stop talking for some reason .and that makes me want to be the one talked to first . im also a shy person when we r face to face , I'm...
    Lihlya Lihlya 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    There's always a feeling in the back of my mind

    that if I talk to someone first I'm either bothering them, being a creep or being annoying. Not only can I be extremely shy at first but I have a genuine fear of opening up to people or initiating conversation. Reason being is that I'm afraid that they will always have someone...
    SweetPea204 SweetPea204 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 17

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    .. sometimes we need some people to talk to .

    . just to free our mind from some thoughts that always come back.
    laulala laulala 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 17

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    I always feel like im bothering them.

    It feels like no ever wants to actually talk to me, and get to know me. Idk..
    XxSuicidalKissesxX XxSuicidalKissesxX 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 2

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Julieccaa Julieccaa 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12

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    If you want to talk to me,

    you might have to message me first. I'm not good at messaging first or starting conversations. Sorry.
    Shynerdwriter66 Shynerdwriter66 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 22

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    Story of my life. I can never be the first to

    start a conversation. I just don't know how! I feel as if the other person will be annoyed by me suddenly talking to them out of the blue. It's a stupid idea but, that's the first thing I feel every time I consider approaching someone. Damn my awkwardness.
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    Depends, when I know you,

    I talk until you kick me out, but elsewise I am just shy. :o I am not good in making friends, not that I need it, I have some very good ones, but sometimes it would be awesome. :o
    Seinaru Seinaru 18-21, M Jun 22

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    I can talk to any other person

    as much as possible. But when it comes to you I'm speechless. Maybe I'm just afraid. Afraid that I might say the wrong thing. Afraid that I might bother or annoy you. It's sad to know that you don't enjoy talking to me as much as I do talking with you.
    Crazygirl92 Crazygirl92 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 9

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    I don't know if it's a habit

    or part of my personality. I am generally reluctant to initiate conversations. People often think I am not interested in talking but actually I am just shy. I wait for people to initiate conversation with me.May be it's due to fear of rejection or fear of being ignored. I am a...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    Cosmic0Potato Cosmic0Potato 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 20

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    MusicalOD MusicalOD 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    Amberyoyo Amberyoyo 22-25, M Jul 16

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    I'm a bit shy and it makes it hard to start a

    conversation with someone I don't know. Online can be harder because there isn't an icebreaker in the vicinity to talk about. I'm open and honest once I get to know someone but getting to that point can be hard. I enjoy connecting to people, just find it difficult to figure...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 16

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    there are lots of times

    that I really want to talk to someone but I won't I am worried about being annoying and coming across as needy. then I push some people away if I care to much because I expect things to end badly.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    This way I know for sure

    that they actually want to talk to me. I've done the opposite before and most of the time I out that I reached for them at an inappropriate time, or with grimaces... Anyways, I just feel more comfortable this way. In fact, all of the classmates I talk to nowadays were the ones...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F 1 Response May 15

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    I'm kind of shy about starting conversations

    with people. Especially when I get asked, "What's up?" or "Wyd?" I never know how to respond. 😵 Ironically in real life I talk too much..
    joshbeaudoin joshbeaudoin 16-17, M Jul 16, 2014

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