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I Wait For Someone to Talk to Me First

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    MrLazyCloud MrLazyCloud 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 21

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    olahjagger olahjagger 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    She is gazing at you

    so tenderly, Drowning you in sparkling conversation, Gay and witty, and her eyes Absorbing you with their yearning. But last night she was using all her skill To give me secretly her little foot Under the tablecloth for me to caress. Alexander Pushkin, Russian, 1799-1837
    breathingeasy breathingeasy 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    See, for me, I CHOSE to wait

    for someone to talk to me first. Why? Because whenever I approached someone, online or IRL, I get passed up/ignored/disrespected. I'm over it. I stay silent, I watch body language. My feelings don't get hurt that way.
    VyxnnGoRawr VyxnnGoRawr 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    Yeah, i do but it never happen,

    looks like i'm not very attractive for others to make first step and start conversation...shame on me :-)
    leuconoe leuconoe 31-35, M Apr 27

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    I Feel No Obligation

    I have a certain distaste for human beings initially. I don't seek people out because I am easily disappointed in the people I meet. I am already often approached by people, and I get the weed through them based on the impression they leave. It is not at all to say that I am shy...
    MysteriousMysteries MysteriousMysteries 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    I think it's because I'm

    so awkward and shy when I first talk to someone.
    mynameiskris mynameiskris 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    MyLostProperty MyLostProperty 16-17, M 4 Responses Jun 22

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    dopegirlfromanotherworld dopegirlfromanotherworld 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Cosmic0Potato Cosmic0Potato 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 20

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    there are lots of times

    that I really want to talk to someone but I won't I am worried about being annoying and coming across as needy. then I push some people away if I care to much because I expect things to end badly.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I always wait for someone to talk to me first

    yet no one ever talks to me. Forever alone.
    virgo1234 virgo1234 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 3

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    Eventually, Maybe

    She sits perched on a stool, chewing a fingernail. ย Her coffee steams in front of her, silly paper sleeve against the countertop like pants around ankles.I can see she's noticed me, but then, she's noticed me every day for the last two weeks. ย Her eyes are dense, her body lithe...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    This way I know for sure

    that they actually want to talk to me. I've done the opposite before and most of the time I out that I reached for them at an inappropriate time, or with grimaces... Anyways, I just feel more comfortable this way. In fact, all of the classmates I talk to nowadays were the ones...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F May 15

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    I can talk to any other person

    as much as possible. But when it comes to you I'm speechless. Maybe I'm just afraid. Afraid that I might say the wrong thing. Afraid that I might bother or annoy you. It's sad to know that you don't enjoy talking to me as much as I do talking with you.
    Crazygirl92 Crazygirl92 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 9

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    There are a few reasons to this.

    I'm rather shy and find it difficult to start a conversation. Also I'm afraid that I'll bother someone by starting to talk uninvited. Furthermore I make friends easily, at least online, and tend to get in touch with more people than I can maintain. Letting others approach me is...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M Jun 22

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    ...

    ....   *looks around*   ........   *awkward silence*
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 43 Responses Sep 23, 2008

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    "What if they didnt wanna talk?

    " "What if im bothering them with my texts?" "What if they wanna stop talking now but im keeping the convo going?" "What if theyre not interested in talking to me?" "What if...." "What if...." "What if...."
    Sublevarse Sublevarse 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 9

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    metuel metuel 26-30, T Jul 17, 2014

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    I'm kind of shy about starting conversations

    with people. Especially when I get asked, "What's up?" or "Wyd?" I never know how to respond. ๐Ÿ˜ต Ironically in real life I talk too much..
    joshbeaudoin joshbeaudoin 16-17, M Jul 16, 2014

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    It's almost impossible

    for me to initiate a conversation most of the time. Most of the times I've tried its always awkward. If you don't talk to me first I don't know what to say to you so I simply refrain from doing so. It's part of my social anxiety and is part of the reason I have no friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 26

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    katimarie katimarie 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    alyssabay alyssabay 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    unless I need to know something

    and theyre taking too long . I'm impatient .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    Yes on E.p.I am very careful these days.

    I have had requests to tell my secrets from at least two people new in my circle.I have refused and these people have stopped contacting me.I wonder if they are the same person with different accounts.
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 10 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I never message people first.

    Most of my circle added me before I added them. There are just a few I added first just a very few. I don't want to seem like a creeper or a perve so I usually don't message anyone first.
    tornsin tornsin 31-35, M May 1

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    Most of the time I feel like I annoy people

    just by messaging them. I don't know if I do annoy them but I feel like I do.. That's why I don't often message people first, I mean if people never talk to me and I would always be trying to talk to them then it would make me a annoying person, right? So yeah I like when...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2014

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    And wait.. and wait..

    And wait.. And wait.. Gosh I'm a loner :/ aha
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I always feel like im bothering them.

    It feels like no ever wants to actually talk to me, and get to know me. Idk..
    XxSuicidalKissesxX XxSuicidalKissesxX 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 2

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    When you cant stop thinking about some one-

    and even tho you know the only way itll ever happen is if you make a move. So its never gona happen, just thinking about them is nice :) totally smitten with an older person who will never notice me- unless i make myself noticeable.....
    FAIRYboobs FAIRYboobs 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Story of my life. I can never be the first to

    start a conversation. I just don't know how! I feel as if the other person will be annoyed by me suddenly talking to them out of the blue. It's a stupid idea but, that's the first thing I feel every time I consider approaching someone. Damn my awkwardness.
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    It's not a fear of mine to message first,

    I just don't. I like being approached instead of being the approacher.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 2, 2014

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    Usually I do, like if someone says alright well

    I have to go, talk to you some other time? Or talk to you tomorrow? I'll be like yeah sure sounds good. And then I wait, and wait some more waiting for them to respond. Because I'm almost never busy, but I don't know if the other person is, and Id rather not disrupt them so I...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    Yeah... It's pretty rough just keeping to

    myself instead of going out there and initiating a conversation. I don't know why I keep expecting some random person to message me, so I should probably go out there and tale some risks. Screw the fear of being rejected. Nothing's gonna change.
    VoidFunk VoidFunk 18-21, M May 4

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    Excuse me Ma'am ... could I have my people

    schedule a time to get together with your people ... for the purpose of scheduling a time for our people to get together ... to arrange a time for us to get together?
    questionWeaver questionWeaver 56-60, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    I know...major problem.

    ..but that's how it is...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F Mar 13

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    If you want to talk to me,

    you might have to message me first. I'm not good at messaging first or starting conversations. Sorry.
    Shynerdwriter66 Shynerdwriter66 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 22

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    I'm the kind of person

    that will not make the first move. This doesn't necessarily apply to romantic gestures, but in other circumstances as well. I would spot a pretty interesting character in class, or see someone reading a book I just finished, and I feel the urge to approach them. But I don't. And...
    puddleoftears93 puddleoftears93 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    mssparkles mssparkles 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    I do have a habit of waiting

    for people to talk to me first most of the time. I'm rather shy so it's always been hard for me to initiate things.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    I just dont want you to think

    that I run after you. I dont want you to think that I am a desperate women. Though I missed talking to you. But you cant never know how I'm wanting to talk to you!
    gnehs28 gnehs28 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 11

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    Depends, when I know you,

    I talk until you kick me out, but elsewise I am just shy. :o I am not good in making friends, not that I need it, I have some very good ones, but sometimes it would be awesome. :o
    Seinaru Seinaru 18-21, M Jun 22

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    I always feel like I'm bothering people.

    And I don't want to seem annoying so I wait for them to talk to me. But then I worry that they'll think I don't want to talk of they always have to message me first. I can't win! :(
    ShesSimplyKenny ShesSimplyKenny 18-21, F May 12

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    It's just a habit because i talk to

    so many people, I forget to talk to them
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    Julieccaa Julieccaa 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12

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