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I Wait For Someone to Talk to Me First

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    I can be pretty shy about initiating

    conversation with people. It's just something that I have to keep working on.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    "What if they didnt wanna talk?

    " "What if im bothering them with my texts?" "What if they wanna stop talking now but im keeping the convo going?" "What if theyre not interested in talking to me?" "What if...." "What if...." "What if...."
    Valencia Valencia 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 9, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 27, 2015

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    Unless you're someone

    who I REALLY want to talk to, I usually wait for other people to message me. I'm too shy and awkward to message first.
    Lynne246 Lynne246 13-15, F Oct 4, 2015

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    Because I'm used to people not wanting to talk

    to me. I guess you could say that I let people talk to me at their own risk.
    misanthropicpessimist misanthropicpessimist 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 16, 2015

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    I always wait for someone to talk to me first

    yet no one ever talks to me. Forever alone.
    virgo1234 virgo1234 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 3, 2015

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    It's not something I want to be doing,

    it's just I'm so terribly shy that I feel that the person I'm wanting to talk to won't like me or think I'm all desperate and stuff... Which is why I turned to EP...
    Whiskeylovexxx Whiskeylovexxx 22-25, F 19 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    I Feel No Obligation

    I have a certain distaste for human beings initially. I don't seek people out because I am easily disappointed in the people I meet. I am already often approached by people, and I get the weed through them based on the impression they leave. It is not at all to say that I am shy...
    MysteriousMysteries MysteriousMysteries 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2014

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    I suppose I like to stay on the periphery

    when I meet new people and try and understand what makes them tick rather than going in ham fisted. I want to know their values and their personality primarily to see if I want to engage with them but also to know what to talk about.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 18, 2015

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    I am an engineer. I don't start conversations

    well, but I can respond well and can carry on a conversation. Sometimes, however, I talk about stuff that no one is interested in and just need the subject changed.
    AdviceCannon AdviceCannon 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 11, 2015

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    Even if I don't really care about it,

    it feels a little bit relieving to receive a message from some random body talking first. And it would feel even more releaving if once I reply there was a dialogue attached to it instead of somebody cutting my satisfaction down to just a single message followed by an end of...
    LonelyPassenger LonelyPassenger 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 11, 2015

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    I'm not even a shy person the least bit!

    But when I get on social media I'm so bashful to message someone. Ugh why is that? I'm such a wuss
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition 18-21, F 11 Responses Jul 16, 2015

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    MyLostProperty MyLostProperty 16-17, M 5 Responses Jun 22, 2015

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    I don't know if it's a habit

    or part of my personality. I am generally reluctant to initiate conversations. People often think I am not interested in talking but actually I am just shy. I wait for people to initiate conversation with me.May be it's due to fear of rejection or fear of being ignored. I am a...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    allychef allychef 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    And wait.. and wait..

    And wait.. And wait.. Gosh I'm a loner :/ aha
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Only on EP.That's because I never become

    friends with them if I talk to them first.Most ignored my message and some just stopped replying after 2 or 3 lines :3
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 22, 2015

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    MacKiiY MacKiiY 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 13, 2015

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    Most of the time I feel like I annoy people

    just by messaging them. I don't know if I do annoy them but I feel like I do.. That's why I don't often message people first, I mean if people never talk to me and I would always be trying to talk to them then it would make me a annoying person, right? So yeah I like when...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    The reason why I wait someone to talk to me

    first because before (2 yrs ago) when I said hi/hello to someone they snob me so then I was like all righty then, no more saying hi/hello first to people (unless they're my friends)
    anon189 anon189 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2015

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    I always feel like im bothering them.

    It feels like no ever wants to actually talk to me, and get to know me. Idk..
    XxToxicKissesxX XxToxicKissesxX 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 2, 2015

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    ...and I'm a pansy for it.

    I've always believed that if someone wanted to talk to you, they would. Unfortunately, silence makes me question my self worth when most of the time the silence is just silence and not a reflection of something I did or didn't say. One day I'll learn.
    MsJessicaRabbit MsJessicaRabbit 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 11, 2015

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    There are some days where I wouldn't mind

    talking to people first both in real life and on the internet, checking up on them and having a great conversation but most days I'd wonder if it's a good timing or if they're busy. I wouldn't want to interrupt whatever it is they're doing so I just do my own thing and let them...
    LeneAna LeneAna 16-17, F Jan 26

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    I feel like I'm bothering someone

    when I say hi first. Whether in person or online. I don't want to feel like I'm bothering them but I do :/
    Myla723 Myla723 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 9, 2015

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    Erie23 Erie23 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 11, 2015

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    I feel like if someone is interested in talking

    to me they will, I think this is an insecurity thing as well..
    brayhix brayhix 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2015

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    See, for me, I CHOSE to wait

    for someone to talk to me first. Why? Because whenever I approached someone, online or IRL, I get passed up/ignored/disrespected. I'm over it. I stay silent, I watch body language. My feelings don't get hurt that way.
    VyxnnGoRawr VyxnnGoRawr 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 16, 2015

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    I do this more and more

    for the fear of rejection. However I do love talking and listening to people.
    cmbryan316 cmbryan316 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Eventually, Maybe

    She sits perched on a stool, chewing a fingernail.  Her coffee steams in front of her, silly paper sleeve against the countertop like pants around ankles.I can see she's noticed me, but then, she's noticed me every day for the last two weeks.  Her eyes are dense, her body lithe...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    Call it shyness or a fear of rejection

    but sometimes making the first move is an overly daunting prospect. Sometimes I will say like "hi" or something equally unimpressive to someone but generally I don't launch in to full blown conversations with people unless I'm certain that rejection from that person isn't on...
    RaiseYourWhat RaiseYourWhat 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 16, 2015

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    When you cant stop thinking about some one-

    and even tho you know the only way itll ever happen is if you make a move. So its never gona happen, just thinking about them is nice :) totally smitten with an older person who will never notice me- unless i make myself noticeable.....
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 2, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    annacc11 annacc11 26-30, F Sep 18, 2015

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    yolifeisgreat yolifeisgreat 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 10, 2015

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    Yes on E.p.I am very careful these days.

    I have had requests to tell my secrets from at least two people new in my circle.I have refused and these people have stopped contacting me.I wonder if they are the same person with different accounts.
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 9 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I can't start the conversation every damn time

    woman! you got lips speak damn it! lol hi but seriously don't allow the man to do everything
    Captain9Omega Captain9Omega 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 4, 2015

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    eioncc11 eioncc11 26-30, F Aug 12, 2015

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    Regardless of how much I desire to talk to

    that one person, I don't like the idea of texting them first... I do, however, appreciate and love the people who can and are willing to start a conversation!
    Dagymislife Dagymislife 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 2

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    I can talk to any other person

    as much as possible. But when it comes to you I'm speechless. Maybe I'm just afraid. Afraid that I might say the wrong thing. Afraid that I might bother or annoy you. It's sad to know that you don't enjoy talking to me as much as I do talking with you.
    Crazygirl92 Crazygirl92 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 9, 2015

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    cause sometimes I feel

    that people will get annoyed with me if I talk to them first.
    emswift emswift 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 11, 2015

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    Text me I'm a happy camper

    when I see messages in my inbox
    TheNextWnbaAllStar TheNextWnbaAllStar 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 10, 2015

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    I'm the kind of person

    that will not make the first move. This doesn't necessarily apply to romantic gestures, but in other circumstances as well. I would spot a pretty interesting character in class, or see someone reading a book I just finished, and I feel the urge to approach them. But I don't. And...
    puddleoftears93 puddleoftears93 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

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    I do this most of the time.

    Then I get angry at myself for being afraid
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 9, 2015

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    me too ! I hate to message first.

    I become worried that I'll probably not be replied too or the person won't read my message. Or I feel like a burden. I dont want to make people talk to me that a their choice.
    BarbiesMan BarbiesMan 31-35, M