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I Wait For Someone to Talk to Me First

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    People think I'm a total snob

    because I don't talk to them first. I'm the quiet type that don't do talking to people first cause I think if I do approach first they'll think that I'm seeking for attention which is not. I'm afraid to talk to strangers first because they say strangers are scary and they also...
    RedHwaiting RedHwaiting 18-21, F Feb 16

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    I don't know if it's a habit

    or part of my personality. I am generally reluctant to initiate conversations. People often think I am not interested in talking but actually I am just shy. I wait for people to initiate conversation with me.May be it's due to fear of rejection or fear of being ignored. I am a...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    This way I know for sure

    that they actually want to talk to me. I've done the opposite before and most of the time I out that I reached for them at an inappropriate time, or with grimaces... Anyways, I just feel more comfortable this way. In fact, all of the classmates I talk to nowadays were the ones...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F May 15

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    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2014

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    alyssabay alyssabay 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I am really shy with anyone I would like to see

    more of. In the past I have been totally oblivious and not realized someone was interested in me. Everyone is afraid of rejection so instead of just asking to go for coffee or a drink which would be clear that they at least enjoy your company they "hint" in various ways. Those I...
    opal5opal opal5opal 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    I never message people first.

    Most of my circle added me before I added them. There are just a few I added first just a very few. I don't want to seem like a creeper or a perve so I usually don't message anyone first.
    tornsin tornsin 31-35, M May 1

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    When you cant stop thinking about some one-

    and even tho you know the only way itll ever happen is if you make a move. So its never gona happen, just thinking about them is nice :) totally smitten with an older person who will never notice me- unless i make myself noticeable.....
    FAIRYboobs FAIRYboobs 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Eventually, Maybe

    She sits perched on a stool, chewing a fingernail. Β Her coffee steams in front of her, silly paper sleeve against the countertop like pants around ankles.I can see she's noticed me, but then, she's noticed me every day for the last two weeks. Β Her eyes are dense, her body lithe...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 9 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    I'm too shy to message people,

    so I wait for them to message me first.
    HeterosexualTransexual HeterosexualTransexual 18-21, T Mar 8

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    I wait for people who just needs a friend to

    talk to .. Alway been good at listening to others and helping when I can :)
    william2490 william2490 22-25, M Mar 9

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    olahjagger olahjagger 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Yes on E.p.I am very careful these days.

    I have had requests to tell my secrets from at least two people new in my circle.I have refused and these people have stopped contacting me.I wonder if they are the same person with different accounts.
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 46-50, F 10 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    JadenLangVageta JadenLangVageta 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 3, 2014

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    It's just a habit because i talk to

    so many people, I forget to talk to them
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I can talk to any other person

    as much as possible. But when it comes to you I'm speechless. Maybe I'm just afraid. Afraid that I might say the wrong thing. Afraid that I might bother or annoy you. It's sad to know that you don't enjoy talking to me as much as I do talking with you.
    Crazygirl92 Crazygirl92 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 9

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    peppit peppit 36-40, M Mar 8

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    unless I need to know something

    and theyre taking too long . I'm impatient .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    "What if they didnt wanna talk?

    " "What if im bothering them with my texts?" "What if they wanna stop talking now but im keeping the convo going?" "What if theyre not interested in talking to me?" "What if...." "What if...." "What if...."
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 9

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    I do this most of the time.

    Then I get angry at myself for being afraid
    fjgreen95 fjgreen95 18-21, F Mar 9

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    I wait for others to message me first now.

    I tried to introduce myself to others and make the first move. But I must have done something wrong. I tried to open up and introduce myself. I tried to let people know what I enjoyed the only way I thought you could. I was unaware I you shouldn't be doing that. I did not know...
    planter715 planter715 51-55, M Mar 8

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    I always feel like im bothering them.

    It feels like no ever wants to actually talk to me, and get to know me. Idk..
    XxAngelInTheDarkxX XxAngelInTheDarkxX 13-15, F 3 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    Yeah, i do but it never happen,

    looks like i'm not very attractive for others to make first step and start conversation...shame on me :-)
    leuconoe leuconoe 31-35, M Apr 27

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    She is gazing at you

    so tenderly, Drowning you in sparkling conversation, Gay and witty, and her eyes Absorbing you with their yearning. But last night she was using all her skill To give me secretly her little foot Under the tablecloth for me to caress. Alexander Pushkin, Russian, 1799-1837
    breathingeasy breathingeasy 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    I always feel like I'm bothering people.

    And I don't want to seem annoying so I wait for them to talk to me. But then I worry that they'll think I don't want to talk of they always have to message me first. I can't win! :(
    ShesSimplyKenny ShesSimplyKenny 18-21, F May 12

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    Usually I do, like if someone says alright well

    I have to go, talk to you some other time? Or talk to you tomorrow? I'll be like yeah sure sounds good. And then I wait, and wait some more waiting for them to respond. Because I'm almost never busy, but I don't know if the other person is, and Id rather not disrupt them so I...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    Excuse me Ma'am ... could I have my people

    schedule a time to get together with your people ... for the purpose of scheduling a time for our people to get together ... to arrange a time for us to get together?
    questionWeaver questionWeaver 56-60, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    Julieccaa Julieccaa 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12

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    metuel metuel 26-30, T Jul 17, 2014

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    Story of my life. I can never be the first to

    start a conversation. I just don't know how! I feel as if the other person will be annoyed by me suddenly talking to them out of the blue. It's a stupid idea but, that's the first thing I feel every time I consider approaching someone. Damn my awkwardness.
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    I'm kind of shy about starting conversations

    with people. Especially when I get asked, "What's up?" or "Wyd?" I never know how to respond. 😡 Ironically in real life I talk too much..
    joshbeaudoin joshbeaudoin 16-17, M Jul 16, 2014

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    ...

    ....   *looks around*   ........   *awkward silence*
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 43 Responses Sep 23, 2008

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    I usually do that... Because the couple of times

    that I have reached out to someone, I didn't get a response. Oh well. I will just wait for the messages to come to me. πŸ˜ƒ But really, people shouldn't post that they want someone to talk to if they aren't going to reply to the person that tries to have a convo!! 😝 lol
    deleted deleted 26-30 Dec 7, 2014

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    I met this quiet man at a social event.

    I didn't think much about it. We didn't really talk. But next thing I knew, he adds me online the same day and sends me a message. He messages me almost every night after work since then. He's really nice, sweet, and fun to talk to. It's crazy. I haven't had this kind of...
    olahjagger olahjagger 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 26

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    I know...major problem.

    ..but that's how it is...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F Mar 13

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    Yeah... It's pretty rough just keeping to

    myself instead of going out there and initiating a conversation. I don't know why I keep expecting some random person to message me, so I should probably go out there and tale some risks. Screw the fear of being rejected. Nothing's gonna change.
    VoidFunk VoidFunk 18-21, M May 4

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    I do have a habit of waiting

    for people to talk to me first most of the time. I'm rather shy so it's always been hard for me to initiate things.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 5 Responses Apr 27

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    I Feel No Obligation

    I have a certain distaste for human beings initially. I don't seek people out because I am easily disappointed in the people I meet. I am already often approached by people, and I get the weed through them based on the impression they leave. It is not at all to say that I am shy...
    MysteriousMysteries MysteriousMysteries 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    I do this because I don't know how I start to

    say first what I talk about . I couldn't do that.
    nimkansiri nimkansiri 22-25, F Mar 9

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    It's almost impossible

    for me to initiate a conversation most of the time. Most of the times I've tried its always awkward. If you don't talk to me first I don't know what to say to you so I simply refrain from doing so. It's part of my social anxiety and is part of the reason I have no friends.
    SimplyTori SimplyTori 16-17, F 7 Responses Apr 26

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    And wait.. and wait..

    And wait.. And wait.. Gosh I'm a loner :/ aha
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    there are lots of times

    that I really want to talk to someone but I won't I am worried about being annoying and coming across as needy. then I push some people away if I care to much because I expect things to end badly.
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    It's just something I've always done.

    My comfort zone doesn't include initiating conversations, it is actually very hard for me to do so. I wait patiently for people to contact me first, and then it goes from there. Same thing with adding people to my circle, I don't add people who haven't added me first. The...
    DrKittyNinjaBunny DrKittyNinjaBunny 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I just dont want you to think

    that I run after you. I dont want you to think that I am a desperate women. Though I missed talking to you. But you cant never know how I'm wanting to talk to you!
    gnehs28 gnehs28 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 11

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    Most of the time I feel like I annoy people

    just by messaging them. I don't know if I do annoy them but I feel like I do.. That's why I don't often message people first, I mean if people never talk to me and I would always be trying to talk to them then it would make me a annoying person, right? So yeah I like when...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    katimarie katimarie 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 26

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