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I Wait For Someone to Talk to Me First

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 3,787 People

    I Feel No Obligation

    I have a certain distaste for human beings initially. I don't seek people out because I am easily disappointed in the people I meet. I am already often approached by people, and I get the weed through them based on the impression they leave. It is not at all to say that I am shy...
    MysteriousMysteries MysteriousMysteries 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 26, 2011

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    I dont know what to do anymore.

    But i want to improve.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jul 1, 2014

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    MeeeKazz MeeeKazz 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    I don't talk to people first

    if I do it's really rare because I feel like I am bothering them or something so I wait for people to text me first I always been like this
    Hiddenamoungus Hiddenamoungus 13-15, F Jun 7, 2014

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    I'm too shy to message people,

    so I wait for them to message me first.
    StraightShemale StraightShemale 18-21, T 1 Response Oct 16, 2014

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    No. I'm lying. I'd rather get in there with a

    preemptive strike. To all those who share this experiance..."HI"
    idabos idabos 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    So Annoying

    This is the most annoying thing about myself. I will not talk to anybody first, even if I desperately want to. I spent a whole year trying to talk to this one guy I liked, and I never did. It's been 2 years and I still haven't. We also have 3 classes together now...
    taylor468 taylor468 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    As a rule yes. I was raised not to "bother"

    people and it is amazing how that mindset remains even at this age. I work at it, but my awkwardness tends to be off-putting to most. I still chalk one up for me every time I try though. lol There are a few circumstances in which I feel no hesitation. I work at home but for a...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    Its been a while now,

    so no one has messaged me :/ hey people lets chat? Ladies message me
    Es9899 Es9899 18-21, M Oct 11, 2014

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    I'm too shy. I'm so shy.

    It's annoying.
    emipurple emipurple 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 2, 2014

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    I'm pretty nice and open minded towards people

    but unless you're next to me in real life and I can read reactions and in some sense guess at what you're thinking I'm terrible at making the first move. you know? like how do I know that I won't talk about something that the other person may feel pained about. .... our...
    pikapup17 pikapup17 18-21 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    See, for me, I CHOSE to wait

    for someone to talk to me first. Why? Because whenever I approached someone, online or IRL, I get passed up/ignored/disrespected. I'm over it. I stay silent, I watch body language. My feelings don't get hurt that way.
    VyxnnGoRawr VyxnnGoRawr 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 16, 2014

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    ;A; even if there are people I want to talk to,

    I'll just wait or never have interaction. I'm painfully shy..
    MysticIllusions MysticIllusions 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    Is this wrong?? I don't think so.

    ..it's just my personality. I'm glad not everyone is like that else I wouldn't have anybody to talk to.
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I do this like all the time.

    I want to be able to approach people and say hi, even in just a message, but I always get nervous to do it. I feel like people are gonna think I'm weird or being creepy. I'm also really shy, so I always wait for someone to message me first
    lamaninja lamaninja 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 21, 2014

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    FrankietheCat FrankietheCat 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    Yes on E.p.I am very careful these days.

    I have had requests to tell my secrets from at least two people new in my circle.I have refused and these people have stopped contacting me.I wonder if they are the same person with different accounts.
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 12 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    No one messaging me ?

    Except only i message to people
    Ashleythecoolguy98 Ashleythecoolguy98 18-21, M Oct 7, 2014

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    It's just a habit because i talk to

    so many people, I forget to talk to them
    BIaziken BIaziken 26-30, F 7 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    It's just something I've always done.

    My comfort zone doesn't include initiating conversations, it is actually very hard for me to do so. I wait patiently for people to contact me first, and then it goes from there. Same thing with adding people to my circle, I don't add people who haven't added me first. The...
    DrKittyNinjaBunny DrKittyNinjaBunny 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    moriartyloveskittens moriartyloveskittens 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

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    Introverted But Not All The Time

    I never bother to talk to anyone let alone be the guy who try to start a conversation. I was bullied and labeled a second banana most of the time, once in a while when i try to add my opinion, they would either force me to shut up or disagree with me entirely. I am branded...
    MHInnocent MHInnocent 22-25, M Sep 22, 2010

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    I don't know if it's a habit

    or part of my personality. I am generally reluctant to initiate conversations. People often think I am not interested in talking but actually I am just shy. I wait for people to initiate conversation with me.May be it's due to fear of rejection or fear of being ignored. I am a...
    Susana1985 Susana1985 26-30, F 7 Responses Jun 20, 2014

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    Eventually, Maybe

    She sits perched on a stool, chewing a fingernail. Β Her coffee steams in front of her, silly paper sleeve against the countertop like pants around ankles.I can see she's noticed me, but then, she's noticed me every day for the last two weeks. Β Her eyes are dense, her body lithe...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 10 Responses Jan 25, 2012

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    ...

    ....   *looks around*   ........   *awkward silence*
    onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 43 Responses Sep 23, 2008

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    Our 29 Year Age Difference!

    We meet on AgeMeet.com , I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing years and he's my best friend and the most wonderful boyfriend! We have a lot in common believe it or not, we want the same things...
    amanda198812 amanda198812 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 9, 2014

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    And wait.. and wait..

    And wait.. And wait.. Gosh I'm a loner :/ aha
    ForeverKittenn ForeverKittenn 13-15, F 7 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    She is gazing at you

    so tenderly, Drowning you in sparkling conversation, Gay and witty, and her eyes Absorbing you with their yearning. But last night she was using all her skill To give me secretly her little foot Under the tablecloth for me to caress. Alexander Pushkin, Russian, 1799-1837
    breathingeasy breathingeasy 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    I don't like bothering people

    so I don't go up to them. Other times I don't want to be bothered with company so I just don't talk. For me it's usually one or the other. And the fact that going up to people even to ask for something simple like to borrow a pencil just bothers me. I get restless and fidget...
    BleedingOrchids BleedingOrchids 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    alinacc12 alinacc12 26-30, F Dec 15, 2014

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    Most of the time I feel like I annoy people

    just by messaging them. I don't know if I do annoy them but I feel like I do.. That's why I don't often message people first, I mean if people never talk to me and I would always be trying to talk to them then it would make me a annoying person, right? So yeah I like when...
    sweetiecake98 sweetiecake98 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    I am too shy and i dont know what to say.

    .. I couldnt start a conversation if i tried
    chocolatecurlz chocolatecurlz 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    I've probably missed out on

    so many friendships because I'm terrified of going up to someone and being rejected.
    Holmesdown Holmesdown 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    there are lots of times

    that I really want to talk to someone but I won't I am worried about being annoying and coming across as needy. then I push some people away if I care to much because I expect things to end badly.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    Some People know how to start a conversation &

    also how to carry on with it. Some just fail at both & end up writing stuff :)
    uselessguy uselessguy 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    Story of my life. I can never be the first to

    start a conversation. I just don't know how! I feel as if the other person will be annoyed by me suddenly talking to them out of the blue. It's a stupid idea but, that's the first thing I feel every time I consider approaching someone. Damn my awkwardness.
    Realitea Realitea 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carecc13 carecc13 26-30, F Dec 14, 2014

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    I usually do that... Because the couple of times

    that I have reached out to someone, I didn't get a response. Oh well. I will just wait for the messages to come to me. πŸ˜ƒ But really, people shouldn't post that they want someone to talk to if they aren't going to reply to the person that tries to have a convo!! 😝 lol
    Lyssak Lyssak 36-40, F Dec 7, 2014

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    why is it that i want to force myself to talk

    to someone then i say "**** it" an wait for them to talk to me first :/ is this a bad or natural habbit?
    irvinspider54 irvinspider54 16-17, M Dec 9, 2014

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    Which never happens of course xD

    but then if I start the conversation I'm afraid the other person won't shut up and I have to be polite and shake my head and pretend I'm interested. Then they give me a POP QUIZ on what they just told me. Then I'm screwed -_-
    ThatGuyEveryoneHates ThatGuyEveryoneHates 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 8, 2014

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    I'm kind of shy about starting conversations

    with people. Especially when I get asked, "What's up?" or "Wyd?" I never know how to respond. 😡 Ironically in real life I talk too much..
    joshbeaudoin joshbeaudoin 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 16, 2014

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    JadenLangVageta JadenLangVageta 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 3, 2014

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    Not always - but they at least have to do their

    fair share of opening the door.
    SilverSearching SilverSearching 26-30, M Oct 26, 2014

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    My love is 23 years older

    than me. We met a few years ago online via AgeMeet.com. It was totally platonic but I broke off contact due to doing other things in my life, I wasn't quite ready to explore my spirituality. At the beggining of the year we got back into contact and basically fell in love over...
    candycc12 candycc12 26-30, F Dec 8, 2014

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    I always do this mainly

    because when Ive initiated the conversation before when I was younger, I would always make a fool of myself cuz the other person wouldnt be interested in talking. I am always ready for a talk so now I always wait for someone to talk to me first. I never start the conversation...
    azngirl123 azngirl123 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    It just feels like the interest is genuine.

    Then again every once in a while I do get out of my way, I do message people first. Usually ends too quickly.
    BeatTheBest BeatTheBest 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 2, 2014

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    I never know what to say.

    Whenever I meet loved ones, I have to wait for them to say something or we'll sit in an awkward silence. Same goes with new people I meet.
    dilbert467 dilbert467 13-15, M Jan 5

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    It's not a fear of mine to message first,

    I just don't. I like being approached instead of being the approacher.
    JustCammy JustCammy 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 2, 2014

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    alyssabay alyssabay 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    metuel metuel 26-30, T Jul 17, 2014

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