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I Wanna Feel Needed

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    Desperate Measures..

    There's a lot of stuff i'm going to vent in this post. Okay, so I've always wanted someone to need me, I think everyone does! in fact no i think people need it themselves, but every time i come close to it i get scared and i do panic. Basically I've cheated on a few people, and i...
    makegoodchoices makegoodchoices 18-21, F Jul 9, 2012

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    My Happiness On The Outside Is Just A Facade For My Pain On The Inside

    I love my best friend but I dont know if she loves me back..Every time I show Any compassion in get rejected or shutdown idk what to do anymore I'm only 18 and both my parents blame me for their problems and stress..I'm useless and lost I think I want to end everything right now...
    johndoe116 johndoe116 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 7, 2012

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    Sometimes...

    my bf doesn't make me feel needed. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't care if I'm here when he gets home. Sometimes I want him to grab me & hold me tight & say, "Baby, I'm so glad you are here. I need you." Sometimes I feel like he is so self-reliant that it doesn...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Nov 25, 2007

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    Lost My Best Friend In The Bitterness

    I never felt appreciated in my relationship. And now that it's over after 12 years I don't care. I miss my wife always and feel like I deserve the pain. I hurt myself and her still by trying to save something that's already dead. No counselour can help someone who doesn't...
    Bigdaddymclovin Bigdaddymclovin 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 15, 2012

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    I am fifty divorced and wonder

    if there is such a thing as a true soul mate or does god send u several And if u squander them is that it? I believe in meditation and mindfulness but lately I am overwhelmed with life and decisions. I have no children and am having trouble finding meaning in life. Really seeing...
    johnnyz63 johnnyz63 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 29

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    Why Do I Want To Feel Needed ?

    I realized that I want people to need me. I really like the feeling of people needing me. I'm not power-hungry or anything, but when people need me for something it makes me feel really good about myself. But no one really needs me these days and I'm getting depressed. What...
    nivanvc nivanvc 36-40, M Aug 29, 2013

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    What's Wrong With Me?

    Honestly.. I just feel like I always do something wrong when it comes to relationships. It's all sad, really.. I mean, my longest relationship ever was two and a half months.. To me, that's pathetic. And not only that, but every guy I talk to ends up wanting me for sex and that...
    WeArePilots WeArePilots 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24, 2012

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    I Really Want To.....but Hesitations Keeps Me....

    I wanna feel needed by others because their warm love and warm hugs really set me away or drifting away........but my hesitations keeps me blocking when im doing it.........i'd really like to but....i just can't do it.....sorry for my english...my english is really messy sorry...
    darkrealm01 darkrealm01 16-18, M 1 Response Jan 2, 2008

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    " Take Me Into Your Arms "

    Take me into your arms my love, hold me tight, Make love to me throughout the night. Show me that I am yours and that you are mine, Forever until the end of time. Show me you love me like no other, Let us always care for one another. You are that special someone that I have been...
    nivanvc nivanvc 36-40, M Aug 29, 2013

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    I Try Over And Over To Get In Voled With Some One

    I try to get in volved with some one so I be need . And it seems I am not get in where. Some one wanted me and then it don't last long. I am with some one . But are time is not the same time. When he is on and then I am off. I just wanted to be wanted in someone life. I hope some...
    ladywolf123 ladywolf123 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2012

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    Happy

    I love going out of my way to make someone I care about smile and laugh and I just don't have the option any more. I loved when I would be told that I was needed next to that person or else they couldn't have a good night or sleep. I loved having a girl telling me how safe they...
    KidYamamoto KidYamamoto 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

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    For Something Other Than What I Was Used For

    I wanna feel needed Not needed as a punching bag when my father had one of his rages Not needed for when my father wanted to more sex then he already got from my mom Not needed as something to kept in the house under 24/7 supervision not being able to go anywhere Not needed as...
    InmemoryofLifelessStar InmemoryofLifelessStar 18-21, F 1 Response May 3, 2011

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    Back Burner

    I am the type of person that people put on the back burner. I'm not someone that they look forward to talking to. I'm not someone that they go out of their way to spend time with. I hate that feeling. I have been that way all growing up. People would find it easy to cancel things...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 6, 2013

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    Wanna Feel Needed?

    Be useful, be attractive, listen to what is needed, and fulfill that.  It really is that simple.
    KatzNYammer KatzNYammer 61-65, M Oct 25, 2011

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    It was like I've been single

    for 3 years.. And everyday feels like nobody needs me.. And suicidal thoughts sinks in.. I don't know, need a friend.
    yalalast yalalast 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 7

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    It's Really All I Ever Wanted

    It's been very long really. I'm had been a backstage actor in my whole life (metaphorically), and today I got my first truly sincere "Thanks" from a friend at school, not just a monotonous chore-like one.  The sense of happiness was really overwhelming! It's really awesome...
    SilverTrace SilverTrace 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 14, 2010

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    Its Not a Control Thing...

    But its nice to feel needed. It gives a feeling of working together to achieve a common goal.
    Xeno Xeno 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 11, 2007

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    Not Wanted....

    I have been in a relationship for almost 6 months and in the beginning it was absolutely fantastic, by far the best relationship that i ever had in my whole adult life and Ive been married before. Then the last couple of months he has backed off completely. Went from being with...
    dreamer0306 dreamer0306 26-30 4 Responses Jul 30, 2012

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    Am I Needed?

    My friend tells me, "**** off" to my face, after I spent well over 200 to get her back to her home and out of a bad situation. I reach out desperately trying to talk to others, I reach out to do anything, talk to them, make them feel better, happy... But yet that same thing I...
    Presence Presence 18-21 1 Response Apr 13, 2011

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    I Need

    I yearn to feel necessary and vital to someone's life. Like their day isn't complete if we haven't talked, kissed or made love.
    omgseriously omgseriously 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 2, 2012

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    ...what Is My Story?

    No seriously. What's my story? I have no idea what it is. I've never felt loved. I've never felt needed. I feel I'm just plain out alive... But I don't live. I smile a fake smile, just to not make my friends worry. Yeah, I do love my friends. But I don't believe they love me. At...
    yonelis07 yonelis07 16-17, F 2 Responses May 8, 2012

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    Not Looking Elsewhere Yet

    Feeling needed can be a good thing.   If you play on sports team or youre part of a show cast or you take care of your ailing aunt, you are needed in a good way.   In a case of need you want to be able to fulfill that need.   In a relationship if one is overwhelmed with the...
    clarkee clarkee 51-55 1 Response Jun 24, 2011

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    Not Used

    I guess I have a problem with the fact that Im needed to much. By family, friends, spouse and kids. I dont mind doing it but the problem I have is that when I need someone, there is not a soul around. I take care of everyone's problems, make everyone elses lives easier and listen...
    DelightfullyDistant DelightfullyDistant 26-30 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    Doesn't Everyone?

    Sometimes I think it's my worst obsession. I want everyone to feel like they need me so that I can dole out advice or love or whatever it is they're seeking. And I do it for selfish reasons. I want to feel loved, or feel like I have a purpose. But sometimes, when it's genuine...
    SweetbriarPoet SweetbriarPoet 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 7, 2008

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    Miss It

    It's always nice to feel needed by anyone, but I want to feel needed by the one who matters most. I want to know I'm important to her and that she cares. Feeling wanted and needed is great, it's one step down from love, something that I probably won't have anyone feel for me...
    SoMuchToSay SoMuchToSay 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 20, 2008

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    Tears Falling

    I was driving today to go to school, I cant help but think of him, the things he said last night, what I want in this relationship.it just makes me feel like Im dying inside, tears wont stop falling, everything just reminds me of him. I was hoping to hear from him today to know...
    2luvu 2luvu 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 23, 2012

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    I Don't Want To Feel Useless Anymore

    I sometimes wonder to myself is my life important I mean it is to me but is it to other people?. I have always tried to be helpful to people and do my best by them but more and more I have found that people just do not appreciate the things I do for them. For once I would love...
    gelroller gelroller 46-50, M Jul 7, 2012

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    Yes

    I desperately want to feel needed so i have been friends with someone for a couple of years now because she needs me. I met her while i made a brief stay in a mental hospital, she was a patient there as well. We became friends and when she got out we became something more than...
    ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick 46-50, M 15 Responses Dec 6, 2010

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    I Just Want Someone To Be Close To & To Talk To

    I just wish i could find a girl that likes me for who i am. i want to tell her about ep knowing that shell understand. i want to tell her about my fantasies an let her tell me about hers. i want a girl i can hold in my arms an tell her how much i love her. i need someone to help...
    robotredneck robotredneck 18-21, T Aug 2, 2012

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    I Just Want .... :/

    I just want to fee loved. I'm a shy guy. Who has a past, but not a bad one. I'm the type of guy who is a real romantic. the type of guy who every ex of their family loved me. I open doors for women. sex is the VERY last thing on my mind. I'm ex-army. and i'm a soldier for life...
    space8bound space8bound 22-25, M 4 Responses Dec 25, 2012

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    I'm sick of people not liking me

    when all I try to be is nice... maybe I try to hard, maybe I'm weird, or maybe I don't fit in... I want to be needed by my loved ones.... I HAVE to feel needed or else I don't think I have much purpose in this life.
    SeanaO SeanaO 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 17

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    Then Again...Maybe I Don't

    I am so desperate to feel wanted, needed by someone that I have resorted to going on here and adding hundreds of people randomly, usually women but then I almost never actually talk to any of them if they accept my friend request. Generally speaking the only people I ever talk to...
    ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick 46-50, M 5 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    Oh Boy ...

    Sometimes, some days I just feel as though I'm the only one in the world. No one says 'Hi' or anything, even though I say it to them. It's as though I'm just not here any more. My SO hardly says a word to me all day, she comes and gos as if she lives here alone. Some time the...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 18, 2008

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    I want to feel needed,

    I haven't in so long. I miss being the first and last thought on someone's mind, to get the random calls and text saying I miss you. I am a very loving kind person it has gotten me hurt but I still am a hopeless romantic deep down searching for my knight!
    tattoosandscars tattoosandscars 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I Am Needed

    Spent Saturday with my 19 month old nephew. He's like having a pet monkey - new trick every day. His latest thing is that every sentence begins with, "Is 'at _______?" He pointed to the toilet paper I was putting away and said, "Is 'at poop?" I winced and told him that was what...
    someonegotmyname someonegotmyname 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    Something's Missing..

    I THINK EVERYONE WANTS TO FEEL NEEDED. THEY WANT TO FEEL THAT THEY ARE JUST NOT HERE TO BE DOING THIS OR THAT. BUT FOR A PURPOSE. I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO FEEL NEEDED.JUST TO BE IMPORTANT TO SOMEONE. HOPEFULLY ONE DAY.
    countingshadows07 countingshadows07 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 4, 2010

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    Tell Me

    Tell me that you need me. Tell me why you need me. I wan to feel special. That you think of me every monet of the day. When you go to sleep. when you're having your lunch. That you can't stand a day not seeing me.Tell me you need to see me after your work is done. Tell me that...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2011

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    Having Truth

    I MARRIED AFTER 7YRS OF BEING A WIDOW,LOVED HIM SO MUCH,HE WAS AT FIRST A GREAT PERSON,HOWEVER SOON HE TURNED OUT TO BE A MAN WHO LOOKED FOR A KEEPER.HE CHEATED AND LIED LIED LIED,CHEATED.AFTER DIVORCE,WE STARTED TALKING NOT ONCE BUT 3 TIMES AND EVERY TIME HE WAS IN TROUBLE SOME...
    daugh daugh 51-55 Sep 27, 2012

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    Www.letsconfide.com

    www.letsconfide.com. A very helpful site which shares secrets,issues
    letsconfide letsconfide 26-30 Apr 4, 2012

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    I Would Rather Feel Wanted

    need is based out of necessitywant is more of a burning desire it seems to involve a choice where as a need sounds like desperation.choosing me because you want me of your own free will is much more attractive to me than choosing me because you "need" me.
    wack1985 wack1985 26-30, F Aug 27, 2012

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    My Heart's Words...

    Sometimes I wonder if love really exists but then I see your eyes; your smile; YOU and I just start to think If love didn't exist my hands wouldn't sweat my knees wouldn't tremble my stomach wouldn't get butterflies my heart wouldn't pound. I see you with her and I can't help but...
    yonelis07 yonelis07 16-17, F 1 Response May 10, 2012

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    Life After Divorce...

    I suddenly ended up getting divorced after nearly 10 years of a good marriage - have managed to sort my life out but feel the need to continue my goal of a good marriage and children. I thought we would be together forever, but she gave up too easily, in my view. We were going...
    yambam yambam 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 16, 2012

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    Wanna Be Somebody

    I want to join the US Army after four years of college. I want to join not only because my family is basically apart of the military but because I crave to be recognized and wanted. I see soldiers walking in their uniforms sometimes and I see people looking at them and I just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 1, 2012

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    I Dont

    i dont feel needed i would like to i really would i dont have people say that im needed or anything but i would love it i guess i want what i cant have tho oh well  
    Rebirth Rebirth 16-18, M 1 Response Aug 16, 2007

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    i want to feel like someone actually needs me

    like they look at me and say " ohh danmm i cant imagine life without her" I want to feel like people actually like me like i actually have a chance of dating someone i want to feel like some will care if they loose be if something happened to me i want to know how it feels like...
    Smilexoo Smilexoo 13-15, F Jun 25

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    Wanted

    Ok, so I've been seeing the same guy for 7 months now. We had our flings back in high school, and somehow reconnected 13 years later. We get along great, and he really balances me out as he is very easy going. I can't complain that he doesn't listen, because he actually remembers...
    pinkcocoa pinkcocoa 26-30, F Aug 19, 2012

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    Lovely Feeling

    Of course I do! Doesn't everyone? To know that you're needed, despite the hate and the rumours. It's a nice feeling and I love feeling it.
    Luangi Luangi 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2007

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    The Day My Mum Lost Me For Good.

    My mum always seems to be on my case, she always seems to side with my brother sticking up for him when he does something wrong.. am I not important? Do I not deserve defending sometimes? she sits there screaming at me. bitching about me behind my back. I give up on being...
    IamThereYouJustDontseeMe IamThereYouJustDontseeMe 16-17, F Aug 12, 2012

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    Don't Play With My Feelings

    It's so unfair... When i try to get over you, you get upset and tell me that you want me to always love you.... but you're married and i know you'd never love me romantically.... but still when you say that im important to you and that you don't want me to ignore him.... my heart...
    yakimochiyaki yakimochiyaki 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2011

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