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I Want a Better Self Esteem

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    Positive Thinking: Deepest Roots

    People these days speak a lot about thinking positive, but without really knowing the TRUE meaning of positive thinking. Being Positive is not all about pretending everything is okay. It is about turning a negative experience into a positive one by find a lesson or reward in...
    SouthsideBalla SouthsideBalla M 2 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    Who Doesn't?  I...

    Who doesn't?  I'm sure we could all use a little extra here and there.
    Plum Plum 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    When Will I Ever Stop Caring What Other People Think Of Me?????

    Probably never, because i have no self esteem. I get depressed so easily. My work is very slow right now..yes i'm very lucky that i get to work with animals which i absolutely adore, but the slow periods are unbearable for me. I'm someone who has to be busy, and feel...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    My self esteem is non-existent.

    I feel so horrible about myself almost all the time. (I'm bipolar and I sometimes have an inflated self esteem during manic episodes) but other than that I am so ashamed of myself. I am chubby, but I'm not fat. I'm ugly. I'm so hideous. If I could change everything about myself...
    becxboo becxboo 16-17, F Aug 6

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    I Do!

    oh, how much difference will that make in my life! i want a better self-esteem since it is fast becoming so rare among all of us. that will make me feel better about myself. i will stop hating myself and might start loving myself! i will be more successful and i will not be...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-18, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2008

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    I Hate Myself

    I have a relatively good job. I have a loving mother, sisters, brother and a boyfriend, but somehow I am never fully happy. I feel empty inside and I don't know what to do or why. I feel guilty for half of the things that I do. I never seem to say the right things or do the right...
    Nafrica Nafrica 22-25, F Apr 16, 2012

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    Learning To Take It...

    I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've never learned to take compliments, because I never believed I deserved them. Now I've finally met a wonderful woman who thinks the world of me. The pickle is I don't know how to not only believe what she tells me, but to also think it myself.
    damonengel damonengel 22-25, M 1 Response May 9, 2010

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    Trying

    I’ve been wearing a jacket lately at I’ve put on a bit while dealing with this tumor/surgery thing over the last few months. I know it doesn’t hide anything and that I shouldn’t care but deep down it bothers me if something doesn’t fit the same. OMG...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 1 Response May 30, 2008

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    Cant Handle This Imperfection..

    I'm not perfect...never have been...never will be...but I've learned to accept this.when something about me..is pointed out...it hurts me...very badly..I can't take it...I think about it for long periods of time..I start thinking..and then I point my own flaws too...it hurts..so...
    rainbowskittlezz rainbowskittlezz 13-15, F Jul 25, 2013

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    Sometimes Compliments Are The Nicest Thing A Person Can Do For Another

    Whenever I feel like nothing about me is good, those moments where I feel like I'm ugly and unnecessary, I always think back to one compliment that I received from a total stranger one day. I work at McDonald's... in particular, I'm normally in the drive thru. With our store...
    Cinnasticks Cinnasticks 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2012

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    How to build self esteem,

    finish the things you have started. Trust me on this.
    ruberbandball ruberbandball 22-25, M Apr 2

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    I am really sad that I am about to give up what

    I want, just because I am an outcast who will never fit in.
    SmujeeZ SmujeeZ 22-25, M Apr 7

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    Better Self Esteem

    I want better self esteem because I get made so easily and I want to control it better and I want to control it better but its hard for me to control my anger sometimes and I hate that I am working on that each and everyday I try so hard not to get made but its not easily its...
    tiara1992 tiara1992 18-21, F Sep 4, 2011

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    Will I Ever Get "enough" Self Esteem?

    I'm 21 years old. I have a job, an amazing husband, and our 1 year old daughter, I love them to pieces but my self esteem is low I think. I've never really felt good about myself or how I look. Is there anything I can do to maybe raise my self esteem? Thanks!
    luvofanimals09 luvofanimals09 18-21, F Nov 7, 2011

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    Positive Thinking

    I found a couple things that can help self esteem is to set goals and create a habit of thinking positively.  By trying to have a more positive outlook and perspective on life our self esteem can grow. We can build self esteem through exercise, reading, writing, setting...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Insecure

    Lately I've become very distrusting of new women in my life. I sense that they feel threatened by me. I sense they dislike me. But more importantly and disturbingly, I am afraid that is simply a reflection of how much I feel threatened by them. I've been noticing that I feel...
    Octarine Octarine 31-35, F Jul 20, 2012

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    The Bottle In the Logo

    I really do wish it where real. For all of the people who need it. [IMG]http://www.vision.org/visionmedia/uploadedImages/Home/Latest_Issue/Latest_Issue_Staging/AW_SelfEsteem.jpg[/IMG] But, I don't think it would work, for everyone, even if it where real. I think I...
    Hairstyle Hairstyle 22-25, M Dec 22, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    I've been invited to apply for a very prestigious position at work and it would be a huge opportunity personally and professionally. The fact that my name is on an incredibly short...
    thelasttoknow thelasttoknow 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    Lack of confidence and low self esteem...I've had low self esteem and confidence as long as i can remember... I think i was born with it...I've never believed in myself and don't...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    Here I am, a single overweight mom and teacher at the age of 38. Been single since ex H left me for office **** at 7 months pregnant. So yeah that is depressing and I used to be...
    smcordova smcordova 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 23

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by...
    JohnBobMac JohnBobMac 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 12

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    No matter how hard I try, I just can't boost my self-esteem, When I look at myself, I see this hideous person with an ugly nose, huge lips, thick eyebrows, small squinty eyes...
    MLW1123 MLW1123 18-21 Jul 22

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    I have been thinking about receiving psychotherapy for months now regarding my emotional instability and attitudes toward myself and my environment. I constantly feel disconnected...
    pflz91 pflz91 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    My low self esteem affects my relationship with my bf in a negative way. I try not to show the fact that I have low confidence but he still gets upset at me for it. It also affects...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 5

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    This all started when I was in middle school because I had and still struggle with my weight because back in middle school I was pretty much overweight my entire life. In middle...
    Jordanbeautiful Jordanbeautiful 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    Im 16 y/o with 160cm & 40.6 kg, im considered underweight. But idk my friends like to make a joke about fat and they keep calling me fat & say they didnt mean it, and some even...
    saffaismail saffaismail 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    I'm that girl that likes to take pictures just to get the compliments. It boots my self esteem! And gives me more confidence in my every day life. There are those that give me a...
    youdontknowmylife youdontknowmylife 18-21, F 9 Responses Aug 3

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    Having acne lowered my confidence and self-esteem when I try to mingle with girls.
    sammylow sammylow 16-17, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm a shy person. I want more self-confidence. well, I had joined a theater club in my school to boost up my self-confidence. It worked tough, but sometimes I think I'm still lack...
    gytriajeng gytriajeng 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I went to the beach wearing a bikini for the first time in months. Surprisingly, I felt super confident and cute! I wish more days were like this. I love the feeling of being...
    PrincessAphrodite PrincessAphrodite 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 7

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    I am 27. A month ago I left a five year relationship due to the treatment I received. The first year was okay, then the lying started. He lied about talking to other women, he lied...
    tippbrown198623 tippbrown198623 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 9

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    I'm sick in the head and I can't fix it I think I will start to get better but then it comes back even worse than before I need help with this and have no one to turn to cause...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F Jul 25

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    All my life, I've felt like I'm second-rate, that the people around me (friends, family) are more interesting, more intelligent, more attractive, funnier, stronger, kinder, and I'm...
    JHeit JHeit 18-21, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Doctors send so much time trying to make people feel good about them self. Some people only have a very limited amount of things to feel about. When the job you have been at for 2...
    Linndsay Linndsay 26-30 Jul 22

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    I constantly criticize my self. I hate how I look and hate how I act around people some times. I always say stupid things and even find my own self annoying some times. I feel like...
    Cartwheel3694 Cartwheel3694 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing. I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to...
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3

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    I've been bullied since I was 11, kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    I don't need to live my life waiting or trying to be "good enough" because I am already "good enough" right now, right now I am perfect and I will always be perfect for me. -self...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm not good enough never have been and never will be I wish people understood how bad im struggling right now going out tonight to a bar with friends sucks enough since I don't...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    Beauty has a vast definition. It differs from one person to another. I am cynical when it comes to compliments given to me. I can't help it but to disagree even knowing everyone...
    MarieAiko MarieAiko 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I hate being skinny. I wish I was thicker. It's much more attractive. I hate having fast metabolism I want I gain weight. I don't think I will ever love myself.
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    I've grown up being bullied because I was always overweight. I wasn't the perfect size, I didn't wear a boat load of makeup. I didn't wear the popular brand name clothing. every...
    abbyhh25 abbyhh25 16-17, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is my first post so I guess pardon me if I'm not doing this correctly.. Uh. I'm eighteen, and I've been dealing with Body Dysmorphic Disorder for quite a while now. And it's...
    vvolfyy vvolfyy 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 6

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    guys i have a huge prob with my self confidence i cant do anything i even dont speak at all in my dancing classess pls i need some help so i can express my self moree and stop...
    gaha26 gaha26 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    Think the reason I have been in abusive relationships is because I'm I lack self confidence . Everyone else says I'm beautiful and I don't see it . Everyone else says I'm smart and...
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have no self confidence. I have always sucked at social relationships or any social encounter. I'm 5'4 always been shorter then everyone at school. People would make fun of me. I...
    furquijo101 furquijo101 16-17, M 3 Responses Jul 25

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    Have had a very rough last few days and now I feel like there's nothing that can make it better. Don't know what there's left to do but right now all I want to do is give up on...
    ladyyukihime ladyyukihime 18-21, F Jul 28

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    Well more like I want to be comfortable in my own body. I really want to be able to take my clothes off and not be self conscious in front of people. Like in the locker room for...
    maria20144 maria20144 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I wonder if I'll ever be that girl that a guy has to look at twice just to make sure I'm real. I just wonder if any guy will be able to see me, and think I'm worth something. That...
    sarahgirl94 sarahgirl94 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 3