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I Want a Better Self Esteem

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 491 People

    Sometimes Compliments Are The Nicest Thing A Person Can Do For Another

    Whenever I feel like nothing about me is good, those moments where I feel like I'm ugly and unnecessary, I always think back to one compliment that I received from a total stranger one day. I work at McDonald's... in particular, I'm normally in the drive thru. With our store...
    Cinnasticks Cinnasticks 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2012

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    Will I Ever Get "enough" Self Esteem?

    I'm 21 years old. I have a job, an amazing husband, and our 1 year old daughter, I love them to pieces but my self esteem is low I think. I've never really felt good about myself or how I look. Is there anything I can do to maybe raise my self esteem? Thanks!
    luvofanimals09 luvofanimals09 18-21, F Nov 7, 2011

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    Learning To Take It...

    I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've never learned to take compliments, because I never believed I deserved them. Now I've finally met a wonderful woman who thinks the world of me. The pickle is I don't know how to not only believe what she tells me, but to also think it myself.
    damonengel damonengel 22-25, M 1 Response May 9, 2010

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    I am really sad that I am about to give up what

    I want, just because I am an outcast who will never fit in.
    SmujeeZ SmujeeZ 22-25, M Apr 7

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    Insecure

    Lately I've become very distrusting of new women in my life. I sense that they feel threatened by me. I sense they dislike me. But more importantly and disturbingly, I am afraid that is simply a reflection of how much I feel threatened by them. I've been noticing that I feel...
    Octarine Octarine 31-35, F Jul 20, 2012

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    Positive Thinking: Deepest Roots

    People these days speak a lot about thinking positive, but without really knowing the TRUE meaning of positive thinking. Being Positive is not all about pretending everything is okay. It is about turning a negative experience into a positive one by find a lesson or reward in...
    SouthsideBalla SouthsideBalla M 2 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    When Will I Ever Stop Caring What Other People Think Of Me?????

    Probably never, because i have no self esteem. I get depressed so easily. My work is very slow right now..yes i'm very lucky that i get to work with animals which i absolutely adore, but the slow periods are unbearable for me. I'm someone who has to be busy, and feel...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    Positive Thinking

    I found a couple things that can help self esteem is to set goals and create a habit of thinking positively.  By trying to have a more positive outlook and perspective on life our self esteem can grow. We can build self esteem through exercise, reading, writing, setting...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    I Do!

    oh, how much difference will that make in my life! i want a better self-esteem since it is fast becoming so rare among all of us. that will make me feel better about myself. i will stop hating myself and might start loving myself! i will be more successful and i will not be...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-18, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2008

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    Cant Handle This Imperfection..

    I'm not perfect...never have been...never will be...but I've learned to accept this.when something about me..is pointed out...it hurts me...very badly..I can't take it...I think about it for long periods of time..I start thinking..and then I point my own flaws too...it hurts..so...
    rainbowskittlezz rainbowskittlezz 13-15, F Jul 25, 2013

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    The Bottle In the Logo

    I really do wish it where real. For all of the people who need it. [IMG]http://www.vision.org/visionmedia/uploadedImages/Home/Latest_Issue/Latest_Issue_Staging/AW_SelfEsteem.jpg[/IMG] But, I don't think it would work, for everyone, even if it where real. I think I...
    Hairstyle Hairstyle 22-25, M Dec 22, 2007

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    I Hate Myself

    I have a relatively good job. I have a loving mother, sisters, brother and a boyfriend, but somehow I am never fully happy. I feel empty inside and I don't know what to do or why. I feel guilty for half of the things that I do. I never seem to say the right things or do the right...
    Nafrica Nafrica 22-25, F Apr 16, 2012

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    Trying

    I’ve been wearing a jacket lately at I’ve put on a bit while dealing with this tumor/surgery thing over the last few months. I know it doesn’t hide anything and that I shouldn’t care but deep down it bothers me if something doesn’t fit the same. OMG...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 1 Response May 30, 2008

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    How to build self esteem,

    finish the things you have started. Trust me on this.
    ruberbandball ruberbandball 22-25, M Apr 2

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    Who Doesn't?  I...

    Who doesn't?  I'm sure we could all use a little extra here and there.
    Plum Plum 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    My self esteem is non-existent.

    I feel so horrible about myself almost all the time. (I'm bipolar and I sometimes have an inflated self esteem during manic episodes) but other than that I am so ashamed of myself. I am chubby, but I'm not fat. I'm ugly. I'm so hideous. If I could change everything about myself...
    becxboo becxboo 16-17, F Aug 6

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    Better Self Esteem

    I want better self esteem because I get made so easily and I want to control it better and I want to control it better but its hard for me to control my anger sometimes and I hate that I am working on that each and everyday I try so hard not to get made but its not easily its...
    tiara1992 tiara1992 18-21, F Sep 4, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I have a hard time in life and relationships in general because i have a really low self esteem, idk why this is, i just know its there and i can't do anything about it.. Ive tried...
    Cheesyboy Cheesyboy 18-21, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I have discovered that this is my biggest flaw and challenge in life. Low self-esteem truly affects me and causes me both physical and mental distress that is unbearable much of...
    misscoffee misscoffee 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    i dont really have much self esteem anymore. i used to be really fat but even then, I was happy and I felt pretty. nowdays, i dont. it's like, everyone tells me im pretty and that...
    TrueLondon TrueLondon 18-21, F Sep 3

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    I always feel like I have to compare myself to other people. It gets under my skin all the time. It eats away at me everyday. It kills me and I have no remedy to get rid of it or...
    thesorrybumblebee thesorrybumblebee 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 24

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    There was a small time in my life that my confidence started to bloom. I modeled for a few photographers, I was happy with the way I looked minus a few things if course. I...
    MarKri MarKri 22-25, F Sep 7

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    Ive been battling self-conscious and low self esteem for sometime now.. Hav u ever experienced asking ur seatmate or friends for answers for exams or seatwork? And soon finds out...
    Chiscuit Chiscuit 26-30, F Aug 25

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    I've been having some thoughts about this for a few days now, which I might have partly reflected in comments I've made here and there, can't remember... What I've been thinking...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 27

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    every time I trust someone it blows up in my face. I trust fairly easily tho. plus I have such low self esteem I think I'm fat.... ugly.... a mistake..... hurt everyone I meet
    ashleysokolik ashleysokolik 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 26

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    My self-esteem is like a rock. The higher you bring it up, the harder it comes down .-.
    SilenceInBlackAndWhite SilenceInBlackAndWhite 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Everyone who is a little bit closer to me knows how low self esteem i have. It is unbelievable actually. There's no part on me that I'm satisfied with. I mean physically. And...
    anrim654 anrim654 18-21, F Aug 27

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    My self esteem is lower than ever now.......
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    My self esteem is lower than ever now.......
    CatWithScars CatWithScars 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 28

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    my self esteem is so low that i cry in public when i see someone pretty and wish i were them. never tell yourself that you are ugly. never, ever, compare yourself to someone. not...
    xenababy7 xenababy7 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    The root of my depression is a self love problem. I have no self esteem left. It's just gone. He asked why I always pick myself part, he told me that I'm perfect the way I am but I...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've always had a rather low self-esteem. Rather it's my face or my body, I just never seem to be happy with anything. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to go out in...
    daughtersofanarchy daughtersofanarchy 16-17, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've hit rock bottom again. I hate absolutely everything. I refuse to have my pictures taken and I won't even take a pic of myself anymore. Its hard to even look in the mirror. I'm...
    OverWorkedWoman OverWorkedWoman 18-21, F 9 Responses 4 days ago

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    She beat herself up From her weight to her toes From the size of her thighs To the shape of her nose- And on her walk home When she was alone She’d talk to herself In the...
    samemay54 samemay54 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 27

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    I have very low self esteem I am recently out of a marriage that ended after five years I feel like I don't really deserve to be loved like something's wrong with me. I was in a...
    1sweetnurse 1sweetnurse 31-35, F 6 Responses Sep 12

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    Stevie Wonder - for once in my life Listen to this song, read the lyrics and then imagine you singing it to your self, magical will happen lol... On the real though, love to me...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 6 hrs ago

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    I hate pouring my heart out to the one person that lets me call her my best friend just to have her take what I poured out and flush it down a toilet. I need better friends...
    Justjonathan Justjonathan 16-17, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I've been married for 5 years now and I need out because I feel BORED and I have lost attraction for my husband... He is always broke and never has money to help out..always asking...
    voguetouch voguetouch 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    My goal: to be the person I want to be with in more ways then one... With this in mind I find myself getting anxiety from a place of self perfectionism, but then I take a step...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    There is literally nothing attractive about me. Physically or personality wise. Don't worry if you're reading this, you don't have to try to make me feel better. It doesn't work.
    ModernJob ModernJob 16-17, M Aug 31

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    I really do. Growing up being told that you're a failure and never going to amount to anything tends to have that effect on someone. On a side note since my esteem is so low it...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 9

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    I view myself as having low worth so I automatically think people are judging me as low in worth, weird, freakish, complex,?so much stuff. I wish I had more self confidence.
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I have had them since I was very young and I been hurt so many times. It's hard for me to trust almost anyone. So don't take it personal it's just the way that I am. The low self...
    Wolfy14 Wolfy14 16-17, F Aug 26

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    I feel that I have less of everything. I'm not pretty, smart, talented and no boy wants to date me. I have acne, uncooperative hair and my smile is crooked. My body is not that of...
    sunsetcountdown sunsetcountdown 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    I have trouble trusting people which stops me from having any kind of relationship. I want someone to talk to but I know I won't open up at all. I had to talk myself to putting...
    BoMolly BoMolly 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    I used to just chill around and let stuff happen as they happen, so lately, I have taken it into my own hands to go and get myself fit, I am by no means unfit, just not what I...
    SturgyZA SturgyZA 13-15, M Aug 29

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    Sometimes I think nothing can bother me and I keep feeding my self with all the knowledge I come across But than I started to look at my body closely Before when I was able to...
    hunlove hunlove 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 12

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    I feel like I would have more self-confidence if people just didn't walk up to me an call me ugly. I've been at my locker at school and guys have come up and said right to my face...
    Igot7starlightarmy Igot7starlightarmy 16-17, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    Blonder hair, flat chest, tv says bigger is better... South beach, sugar free, vogue says thinner is better
    chantellehorne14 chantellehorne14 13-15, F 6 Responses Sep 8

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