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I Want a Better Self Esteem

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 591 People

    I Hate Myself

    I have a relatively good job. I have a loving mother, sisters, brother and a boyfriend, but somehow I am never fully happy. I feel empty inside and I don't know what to do or why. I feel guilty for half of the things that I do. I never seem to say the right things or do the right...
    Nafrica Nafrica 22-25, F Apr 16, 2012

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    I am really sad that I am about to give up what

    I want, just because I am an outcast who will never fit in.
    SmujeeZ SmujeeZ 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 7, 2014

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    Cant Handle This Imperfection..

    I'm not perfect...never have been...never will be...but I've learned to accept this.when something about me..is pointed out...it hurts me...very badly..I can't take it...I think about it for long periods of time..I start thinking..and then I point my own flaws too...it hurts..so...
    rainbowskittlezz rainbowskittlezz 16-17, F Jul 25, 2013

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    How to build self esteem,

    finish the things you have started. Trust me on this.
    ruberbandball ruberbandball 22-25, M Apr 2, 2014

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    Sometimes I feel attractive

    and believe I have a good figure, but then I look into reflections and see a big girl with an ugly face, well not an unattractive face, why?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    My self esteem is non-existent.

    I feel so horrible about myself almost all the time. (I'm bipolar and I sometimes have an inflated self esteem during manic episodes) but other than that I am so ashamed of myself. I am chubby, but I'm not fat. I'm ugly. I'm so hideous. If I could change everything about myself...
    becxboo becxboo 16-17, F Aug 6, 2014

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    You are absolutely amazing!

    It just may not show itself yet…
    nojokeintended nojokeintended 36-40, M Oct 30, 2014

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    The Bottle In the Logo

    I really do wish it where real. For all of the people who need it. [IMG]http://www.vision.org/visionmedia/uploadedImages/Home/Latest_Issue/Latest_Issue_Staging/AW_SelfEsteem.jpg[/IMG] But, I don't think it would work, for everyone, even if it where real. I think I...
    Hairstyle Hairstyle 22-25, M Dec 22, 2007

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    Ugh I hate overthinking things.

    It just makes me think that I'm not good enough for him. That he's way out of league...
    Chrels Chrels 22-25, F Nov 23, 2014

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    Better Self Esteem

    I want better self esteem because I get made so easily and I want to control it better and I want to control it better but its hard for me to control my anger sometimes and I hate that I am working on that each and everyday I try so hard not to get made but its not easily its...
    tiara1992 tiara1992 18-21, F Sep 4, 2011

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    Positive Thinking

    I found a couple things that can help self esteem is to set goals and create a habit of thinking positively.  By trying to have a more positive outlook and perspective on life our self esteem can grow. We can build self esteem through exercise, reading, writing, setting...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    My boyfriend doesn't understand

    why I hate myself. I'm 5 feet 3 inches and 212 pounds. Overweight, average looking without makeup. I just wanna be the perfect me but if I just wanna vent he turns it into a lecture...
    annajvbanana annajvbanana 18-21, F Mar 18

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    I've been to see someone today

    who specialises in Leadership programmes, mainly because I keep getting knocked back for promotion, but also because I know I have a really low self-esteem and for the life of me I can't see what others see in me. Anyway, I'm actually now a little bit scared! After an hours...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 5, 2014

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    Positive Thinking: Deepest Roots

    People these days speak a lot about thinking positive, but without really knowing the TRUE meaning of positive thinking. Being Positive is not all about pretending everything is okay. It is about turning a negative experience into a positive one by find a lesson or reward in...
    SouthsideBalla SouthsideBalla M 2 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    Converted Converted 46-50, M Jun 16

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    Will I Ever Get "enough" Self Esteem?

    I'm 21 years old. I have a job, an amazing husband, and our 1 year old daughter, I love them to pieces but my self esteem is low I think. I've never really felt good about myself or how I look. Is there anything I can do to maybe raise my self esteem? Thanks!
    luvofanimals09 luvofanimals09 18-21, F Nov 7, 2011

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    When Will I Ever Stop Caring What Other People Think Of Me?????

    Probably never, because i have no self esteem. I get depressed so easily. My work is very slow right now..yes i'm very lucky that i get to work with animals which i absolutely adore, but the slow periods are unbearable for me. I'm someone who has to be busy, and feel...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    Sometimes Compliments Are The Nicest Thing A Person Can Do For Another

    Whenever I feel like nothing about me is good, those moments where I feel like I'm ugly and unnecessary, I always think back to one compliment that I received from a total stranger one day. I work at McDonald's... in particular, I'm normally in the drive thru. With our store...
    Cinnasticks Cinnasticks 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2012

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    Who Doesn't?  I...

    Who doesn't?  I'm sure we could all use a little extra here and there.
    Plum Plum 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    Learning To Take It...

    I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've never learned to take compliments, because I never believed I deserved them. Now I've finally met a wonderful woman who thinks the world of me. The pickle is I don't know how to not only believe what she tells me, but to also think it myself.
    damonengel damonengel 22-25, M 1 Response May 9, 2010

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    Trying

    I’ve been wearing a jacket lately at I’ve put on a bit while dealing with this tumor/surgery thing over the last few months. I know it doesn’t hide anything and that I shouldn’t care but deep down it bothers me if something doesn’t fit the same. OMG...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 1 Response May 30, 2008

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    I Do!

    oh, how much difference will that make in my life! i want a better self-esteem since it is fast becoming so rare among all of us. that will make me feel better about myself. i will stop hating myself and might start loving myself! i will be more successful and i will not be...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2008

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    Insecure

    Lately I've become very distrusting of new women in my life. I sense that they feel threatened by me. I sense they dislike me. But more importantly and disturbingly, I am afraid that is simply a reflection of how much I feel threatened by them. I've been noticing that I feel...
    Octarine Octarine 31-35, F Jul 20, 2012

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    I have low self esteem , thanks to my mom and my ex . My mom is the one who really gets to me . Even know she knows I went trough anorexia , she still calls me fat . Every time I...
    Pustinja Pustinja 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 hr ago

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    its definitely getting better but it's not quite there yet
    Captain9Omega Captain9Omega 18-21, M 15 hrs ago

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    This is all your fault mikey if only you wouldn't have hurt me maybe I'd be fine ...F-uck you man you hurt me now I want to hurt myself Bc you just had to get pleasure from...
    Allywall Allywall 13-15, F 17 hrs ago

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    I was raised being told that I was ugly and would never be loved by anyone because of it. Yeah. Gotta love family. I was extremely gullible and sheltered growing up. The words...
    SunshineMel SunshineMel 26-30, F 3 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    hey so I'm going on a limb here for myself. I'm 21 and want more self confidence. have always been a "small guy" and it sucks. I'm around 5ft 5 but weighs way less than average. i...
    adambabycakesbertrand adambabycakesbertrand 18-21, M 2 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    And honestly this is why I have a problem trusting people. one day one person says something to you and the next you FIND OUT something completely different. honestly if your gonna...
    aacbluey aacbluey 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    i really do wish i had more self confidence and then maybe i could find someone that loves me. but im always too worried that they wont love me because im too ugly..
    foxxglove foxxglove 13-15, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have incredible low self worth. I have been through a lot in my life, and I realize that I haven't lived that long of a life, but when your whole life you are made to believe...
    AlliesWorld AlliesWorld 22-25, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I got bullied in high school by a bunch of girls. They treated me really badly like someone who wasn't worthy of being their friends. My best friend, only nice friend, eventually...
    Justventingg Justventingg 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Before this year I've never worn a two piece bathing suit to a beach. My body is a road map of scars. Surgical scars. I've collected them as if they were stars, but, I have abused...
    Inevitablyflawed Inevitablyflawed 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    i am trying to love myself more and saying out loud that i am beautiful, thin (enough), creative, and passionate. and a good lover.
    cosmosdrift cosmosdrift 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    some days I don't even want to be seen knowing how fat I am. I've starved and that led to counceling. now I'm a depressed, self harmer. see what self confidence can do to a person...
    xXNeverGoodEnoughXx xXNeverGoodEnoughXx 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    I think I am looking down on my own self. Yes, I suffered a lot, but I already gave up in wallowing on self-pity. I don't want to attract NEGATIVE people ever again... I believe...
    greenamythese77 greenamythese77 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I have low self esteem because of the way people treated me especially people I was in relationships with mainly guys I feel like I have to settle because I probably won't find...
    spiritualvirgo82 spiritualvirgo82 31-35, F 5 days ago

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    I always fall into this pit, because of some constant reminders and also how people think/ can't trust my own arrangements. 😒
    Gayle93 Gayle93 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I have such a low self esteem, it's very frustrating. Recently I've fallen for a guy from my work and I can't even get myself to talk to him. Maybe he is married... How could I...
    DaNiZn DaNiZn 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    My friend is always mean to me, in a nice way. I went to practice one day and I was really mad because I had basically picked out off of my flaws. And she asked me what my...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have self confidence in alot of alleys however with me it starts with communication everytime I talk to people I feel like im always gonna blow a conversation because I feel when...
    aaronpayne aaronpayne 22-25, M Jul 27

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    I was overweight growing up. From when I was about 6 to sometime after I turned 12 when I began to realize how terrible my eating habits had gotten. After being about 160lbs in 5th...
    Elliearellano Elliearellano 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 26

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    Growing up my family were the only people that told me I was beautiful everyone else didn't see it that way it's like I never felt like I was good enough being a dark skin female I...
    morganwm09 morganwm09 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    I want more self confidence too I have allowed my husband to Robb me of everything. I need my self-confidence and my voice back.
    unhappywife16 unhappywife16 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 25