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I Want a Better Self Esteem

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    My self esteem is non-existent.

    I feel so horrible about myself almost all the time. (I'm bipolar and I sometimes have an inflated self esteem during manic episodes) but other than that I am so ashamed of myself. I am chubby, but I'm not fat. I'm ugly. I'm so hideous. If I could change everything about myself...
    becxboo becxboo 16-17, F Aug 6, 2014

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    Sometimes I feel attractive

    and believe I have a good figure, but then I look into reflections and see a big girl with an ugly face, well not an unattractive face, why?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 19, 2014

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    Trying

    I’ve been wearing a jacket lately at I’ve put on a bit while dealing with this tumor/surgery thing over the last few months. I know it doesn’t hide anything and that I shouldn’t care but deep down it bothers me if something doesn’t fit the same. OMG...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality 36-40, F 1 Response May 30, 2008

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    Better Self Esteem

    I want better self esteem because I get made so easily and I want to control it better and I want to control it better but its hard for me to control my anger sometimes and I hate that I am working on that each and everyday I try so hard not to get made but its not easily its...
    tiara1992 tiara1992 18-21, F Sep 4, 2011

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    Insecure

    Lately I've become very distrusting of new women in my life. I sense that they feel threatened by me. I sense they dislike me. But more importantly and disturbingly, I am afraid that is simply a reflection of how much I feel threatened by them. I've been noticing that I feel...
    Octarine Octarine 31-35, F Jul 20, 2012

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    I am really sad that I am about to give up what

    I want, just because I am an outcast who will never fit in.
    SmujeeZ SmujeeZ 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 7, 2014

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    You are absolutely amazing!

    It just may not show itself yet…
    nojokeintended nojokeintended 36-40, M Oct 30, 2014

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    Who Doesn't?  I...

    Who doesn't?  I'm sure we could all use a little extra here and there.
    Plum Plum 26-30, F May 27, 2008

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    The Bottle In the Logo

    I really do wish it where real. For all of the people who need it. [IMG]http://www.vision.org/visionmedia/uploadedImages/Home/Latest_Issue/Latest_Issue_Staging/AW_SelfEsteem.jpg[/IMG] But, I don't think it would work, for everyone, even if it where real. I think I...
    Hairstyle Hairstyle 22-25, M Dec 22, 2007

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    I Do!

    oh, how much difference will that make in my life! i want a better self-esteem since it is fast becoming so rare among all of us. that will make me feel better about myself. i will stop hating myself and might start loving myself! i will be more successful and i will not be...
    madamoiselle madamoiselle 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 27, 2008

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    Positive Thinking

    I found a couple things that can help self esteem is to set goals and create a habit of thinking positively.  By trying to have a more positive outlook and perspective on life our self esteem can grow. We can build self esteem through exercise, reading, writing, setting...
    findinme findinme 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 10, 2008

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    Ugh I hate overthinking things.

    It just makes me think that I'm not good enough for him. That he's way out of league...
    Chrels Chrels 22-25, F Nov 23, 2014

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    My boyfriend doesn't understand

    why I hate myself. I'm 5 feet 3 inches and 212 pounds. Overweight, average looking without makeup. I just wanna be the perfect me but if I just wanna vent he turns it into a lecture...
    annajvbanana annajvbanana 16-17, F Mar 18

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    I Hate Myself

    I have a relatively good job. I have a loving mother, sisters, brother and a boyfriend, but somehow I am never fully happy. I feel empty inside and I don't know what to do or why. I feel guilty for half of the things that I do. I never seem to say the right things or do the right...
    Nafrica Nafrica 22-25, F Apr 16, 2012

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    Sometimes Compliments Are The Nicest Thing A Person Can Do For Another

    Whenever I feel like nothing about me is good, those moments where I feel like I'm ugly and unnecessary, I always think back to one compliment that I received from a total stranger one day. I work at McDonald's... in particular, I'm normally in the drive thru. With our store...
    Cinnasticks Cinnasticks 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2012

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    How to build self esteem,

    finish the things you have started. Trust me on this.
    ruberbandball ruberbandball 22-25, M Apr 2, 2014

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    Learning To Take It...

    I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've never learned to take compliments, because I never believed I deserved them. Now I've finally met a wonderful woman who thinks the world of me. The pickle is I don't know how to not only believe what she tells me, but to also think it myself.
    damonengel damonengel 22-25, M 1 Response May 9, 2010

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    Will I Ever Get "enough" Self Esteem?

    I'm 21 years old. I have a job, an amazing husband, and our 1 year old daughter, I love them to pieces but my self esteem is low I think. I've never really felt good about myself or how I look. Is there anything I can do to maybe raise my self esteem? Thanks!
    luvofanimals09 luvofanimals09 18-21, F Nov 7, 2011

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    I've been to see someone today

    who specialises in Leadership programmes, mainly because I keep getting knocked back for promotion, but also because I know I have a really low self-esteem and for the life of me I can't see what others see in me. Anyway, I'm actually now a little bit scared! After an hours...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 5, 2014

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    Cant Handle This Imperfection..

    I'm not perfect...never have been...never will be...but I've learned to accept this.when something about me..is pointed out...it hurts me...very badly..I can't take it...I think about it for long periods of time..I start thinking..and then I point my own flaws too...it hurts..so...
    rainbowskittlezz rainbowskittlezz 16-17, F Jul 25, 2013

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    When Will I Ever Stop Caring What Other People Think Of Me?????

    Probably never, because i have no self esteem. I get depressed so easily. My work is very slow right now..yes i'm very lucky that i get to work with animals which i absolutely adore, but the slow periods are unbearable for me. I'm someone who has to be busy, and feel...
    prettyinpink prettyinpink 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    Positive Thinking: Deepest Roots

    People these days speak a lot about thinking positive, but without really knowing the TRUE meaning of positive thinking. Being Positive is not all about pretending everything is okay. It is about turning a negative experience into a positive one by find a lesson or reward in...
    SouthsideBalla SouthsideBalla M 2 Responses Apr 27, 2008

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    All my life, I have looked in the mirror and said "I can be better, I can look better, look at how any things I can change!". It started I guess when I was in the 4th grade, and...
    vanstable123 vanstable123 13-15, M 6 days ago

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    People with high self-esteem they don't compare themselves to others.
    Zelaleme Zelaleme 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 9

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    i think my low self esteem stemmed from my mother always saying negative things to me all the time. i got accepted to a university a few weeks ago and she was upset that the school...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    Ever since i gained weight i have absolutely hated my body and the problem is i can't lose it again because of my stomach issues and super low metabolism urgh. I hate looking at...
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 17

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    It sucks to be afraid to walk alone at school without friends, its awkward to go shopping alone, its embarrassing to eat alone at the cafeteria. My old profile pic was the only pic...
    Annaambrose Annaambrose 16-17 1 Response Apr 10

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    I have doses of self esteem that appear on occasion. But it would be awesome if it were more of a regular thing.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Apr 19

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    Don't get me wrong, I do make fun of others, but it's not for self-esteem. It''s to establish eh pecking order.
    karlmartink karlmartink 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 27

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    I have Aspergers which means I can be shy, with very low self esteem & lack confidence, I feel ugly and unwanted. I'm here because I'd like to meet genuine people & make friends...
    Scarletjaki Scarletjaki 36-40, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    It's so hard to have self confidence when my self esteem is close to none existence. I need to get a job, but every time I go in for an interview I get so nervous that I stutter...
    sierraladeirdre sierraladeirdre 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    I have always been that shy girl when I was younger I was really outgoing like any normal 1st-5th grader would be, but around 6th-7th grade I got told by some seniors in my school...
    cbanda123 cbanda123 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 7

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    So I was sitting in class today and my friend was drawing. She kept putting her self down about it. She was saying what she drew was horrible and that she had "absolutely no...
    YourNotSoImaginaryFriend YourNotSoImaginaryFriend 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 24

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    Does anyone know how to gain self confidence? I've been dealing with this problem for over 5 years. I sometimes feel as if im too nice to others, or just let myself go..I let...
    yasminesaleh00 yasminesaleh00 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    8whenever i go to in any functions o or ceremony so i feel My self so boring l feel that there is any problem in myself I am not likes other my dressup is not gorgeous me should...
    123reshu90 123reshu90 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 26

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    is it any wonder I have trust Issues? You close yourself off from people because you've been betrayed enough times that you throw up walls to protect yourself. Then somebody...
    RestlessWarrior1 RestlessWarrior1 46-50, M 1 Response Apr 13

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    I can't help it. I've always been the tallest/biggest girl in my class and all my friends took dance and or been in some sport while I just focused on my studies more and my...
    awayfromlife awayfromlife 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    this morning i decided to snap pictures of myself and when I look at them i just felt and overwhelming desire to cry. Out of two hundred pictures, all of them look bad. All i want...
    xboo15 xboo15 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 20

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    my Mother always discourage me . When ever i started talking with my younges she always try to keep me silent why????what she want why i cant speak my words why she do this????~~
    123reshu90 123reshu90 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    my bf stared at another girl so hard he damn near broke his neck.... i was right there and when i said damn, he replied I'll look at anything i want. i really want to leave him...
    sheenbean23 sheenbean23 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 11

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    I was never a popular girl. I never well be. I stand up for myself but I hate fighting. I've always been at the bottom of the food chain, and when being at the bottom of the food...
    Zeffernissle Zeffernissle 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 23

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    just made my step into opening up. energymistmove.com I started this to become nore self-confident. Maybe you feel inspired. Love to read comments.
    energymustmove energymustmove 18-21, F Apr 24

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    No, I'm not taking a picture of me, yes, I have self hatred for EVERYTHING I do!!
    StevieOakley14 StevieOakley14 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Since when my childhood I was always shy and I still am.I want to change this but I don't know where to start.A lot of people will say that my life was pretty easy because I always...
    loveandmorelove loveandmorelove 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 14