I Want a Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 442 People

    I want a divorce, but I can't bear to share

    custody of our daughter. I went through this once with my son, I can't don't again. I'm stupid for marrying after the first went south. I thought I was smarter than this.
    Amnjourney Amnjourney
    31-35, F
    Apr 11, 2015

    I am trying to do the right thing in ending my

    marriage by addressing the issues with my wife and at the same time be compassionate.  I've brought up the main issues and even said I wanted a divorce and do not get any response that is useful from her.   I do not not know whether she understands what I'm saying or...
    uncorkyoursoul uncorkyoursoul
    56-60, M
    8 Responses Nov 12, 2015

    So Many Similarities.

    I browsed the stories here, and there are so many similarities to my own. I'm going to skip the details, because I am pretty emotional right now and I have some things I just need to get out. Damnit. I always told myself I'd only get married once. I thought love would take us...
    ShellOfAMan ShellOfAMan
    4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

    I really want a divorce.

    I do not feel like I love my husband at all anymore. We haven't had sex in 3 years we don't even sleep together. I feel like he is dragging me down. Economically I would be MUCH better off on my own. I rarely feel like I can talk to him since he is usually in a bad mood. We are...
    Lillith13 Lillith13
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 5, 2015

    Is This Far Enough Yet

    The exhaustion of being married to someone with narcissistic personality disorder, the fear of that narcissistic rage, the guilt of thinking how stupid was I to get myself into this, the humiliation of my family asking why did I marry this man... I wish there was a simply...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Sep 15, 2013

    Now beginning the attorney selection process.

    It actually feels good, like I am doing something rather than complaining!
    DeepXP DeepXP
    2 Responses May 28, 2015

    One Month Into Separation

    I moved out January 5th of this year. I know I do not want to go back. I am ready to move forward. Met with an attorney today, make sure I am not doing anything or have done anything that would put me in a bad position legally. Turns out I am a good candidate for a dissolution...
    Rachmiel Rachmiel
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 5, 2013

    He won't accept a divorce right

    now he says. He says he can't handle it emotionally or mentally, so we're going to separate. I don't see the point of dragging this out longer. I think he is still struggling with understanding why this is happening. Hes having a hard time understanding why I want to finally...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7
    26-30, F
    Jun 9, 2014

    "Just when the caterpillar thought the world

    was over, it became a butterfly" Read the quote the other day n it seemed fitting. I dedicate it to my EP friends Wishing you well in your journey to be butterflies x
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    Mar 16, 2015

    Want Help?

    Do you want a divorce? Are you and your spouse not seeing eye to eye? Would you like some advice on if you should file for divorce? I want to hear from you! A nationally syndicated talk show is looking to help couples out with their big decision. email me - tv.6000@yahoo.com I...
    Television00 Television00
    1 Response Aug 14, 2008

    Yep i cant do this anymore.

    Im sick of feeling ugly and you turning me into this person im not. Im not evil and vindictive but years of feeling like **** and all the times you put these fake ******* before me have changed me. I asked you to love me but thats to much. I asked to be put first still to much...
    WhisperingEchoes WhisperingEchoes
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Dec 2, 2015

    I love my husband. I always will.

    I know that. He is a wonderful father to our son, and loves him deeply. Seeing them together gives me hope, but I know I can no longer hold on to a marriage like this. My husband refuses to listen to me when I tell him that some things that he say or some actions that he does...
    thanatophobic thanatophobic
    22-25, F
    Aug 22, 2015

    I'm 38, disabled wife is 48,

    I'm emotionally divorced, lonely, poor, but have 3 kids so it's my duty to stay, but unhappily? IDK what to do!
    jgoffe10 jgoffe10
    41-45, M
    Jan 8, 2015

    On My Way

    so I have decided I will be on my way to go ahead with a divorce. After many years of trying to make it work, I am giving up and I am numb. For the past 5 years I have been in a sexless, verbally abusive marriage and I've had enough. In fact the only time my husband and I have...
    jojoizz jojoizz
    5 Responses Aug 14, 2011

    Thought I Had It Right This Time...

    I feel like Satan Jr. We both know the marriage suck but she doesn't know I'm planning a divorce. We've only been married a year but we've both been burned before and now instead of working together, it's obvious we're looking out for oour own interests first. I can't trust her...
    Icebound Icebound
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2008

    It happened last night.

    She got angry at me for something unrelated to the heavy topic I wanted to discuss. She threatened me... again. This time I called her out. She tried to change her tune. I told her that she, nor I are happy and I do not see that atmosphere changing. I was fairly well prepared...
    Fluxification Fluxification
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    After 10 years, the end of this miserable

    marriage is coming to the end. We decide to sell the house and go our ways.
    deleted deleted
    Aug 27, 2015

    I don't know where else to turn!

    I want to separate from my spouse but don't know how since we live at a military base overseas and I have no income. I need some advice, any advice. I don't have any family members that my kids and I can stay with. What should I do? He should said to me to prove that I am...
    KelsiMonroe KelsiMonroe
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 1, 2015

    I Want to Leave Unhappy Marriage But Scared

     iam 25years old and I have been married for almost 4 years. I am a mother of 2 years old. My husband is very hard to get along with. In another words, he is an a++hole. He is always in bad mood and curse me and my son out(sometimes seriously and sometimes with...
    kiki0202 kiki0202
    8 Responses Dec 22, 2008

    Yea, I am tired of being tied down to you.

    I feel trapped in this marriage. The reason I watch these flicks is because I know that you are spying on me. And plus its what I want to do to these bit---ches out here. Oh, I almost forgot, what's the real reason that you got mad at Sarah. Is it because you thought she...
    bigsarge6996 bigsarge6996
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 10, 2015

    I told him about wanting a divorce,

    I swear that's the hardest thing I've had to do in my life. I hate to see him hurting, this was never my intention when I married him. I still care for him, in just not in love anymore.
    BrokenCats BrokenCats
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2015

    I find myself becoming this horrible person.

    I don't even want to be around me. I need so badly for this to be over. He's never home anymore, but he makes it clear he still doesn't want a divorce. I think it's just painful for him to be here. When he is here, we either don't talk at all or we fight about stupid stuff. We...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 14, 2014

    We have been married

    for 20 years and have a 10 y.o. together. We have been through many things together, like any couple I guess. In our marriage I am the one who leads and he is a follower. This is how we are and I think it suited us both. I think that during all these years my emotional needs...
    Miranam8 Miranam8
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Aug 27, 2015

    I have completely and confidently decided I

    want a divorce from my husband of 10 years. It hasn't always been bad times, but I've never really felt that true love feeling and I want complete happiness. Life is too short to spend it with someone you're just content with. And I want to start over by myself and become a...
    raedavis raedavis
    36-40, F
    35 Responses Jul 31, 2014

    Need Some Serious Advice

    Okay, so me and my husband have been together since 1988, married in 2006. Have a business together. I am 43, he is 62. I am considering leaving him and have been for about 3 years now. I'm just not sure where to start. I love him, but I am not in love with him. I know that...
    cntfndlve cntfndlve
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Jan 26, 2013

    The custody battle is over.

    18 months and my girls are now happy healthy and secure and cafcass can find no reason for their father not to have 40% custody. They can't see how hard I've worked to support my babies. The counselling they've had. The routine n live I've created around them. They just see...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Aug 25, 2015

    If you ask your loving husband

    who I dearly love; what made you fall in love with me 17 years ago and how does our love affect you now? He couldn't answer my question, he told me umm you're pretty body and beautiful face, you have a nice *** and you are a good worker! 😩 that's not what I asked you! What...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Dec 9, 2015

    Anyone else thrown nearly a pack of Christmas

    cards away where you've automatically written you ex's name after the "love from"? It's the funny things that strike you once you agree to end a marriage. Like Christmas cards. Although it's kinda nice ripping them up knowing that's not your reality anymore !!
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 18, 2014

    Once the anger drains.

    ..and three weeks later you still feel nothing....I think it is safe to say...you don't love him anymore and it may be time to go.
    noetluv noetluv
    26-30, F
    Jan 21, 2015

    In need of self help book recommendations to

    cope with future contact The funding has been cut to the charity offering me counselling after my marriage was destroyed by domestic abuse. I've learnt that the physiological abuse has destroyed me more and now recognise I married a narcissistic man. I still have to resolve...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 10, 2015

    Just came back from solicitors with the

    estimated costs for divorcing my ex. I'm staggered. I fear I my be tied to him forever. I don't see how I can pay the fees and raise two children. I'm overwhelmed.
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Nov 26, 2014

    I asked my husband for a divorce about 6 months

    ago. Even though I moved 450 miles away, We have been talking once in a while. He convinced me to give him one more chance. Cause he loves me and can't live without me. I have been back all of 4 days. And am regretting it.
    mommatrish mommatrish
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    kerenccaa kerenccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 15, 2015

    I posted previously, upset about the emptiness

    in my marriage, we were going to counceling at the time, but I'm done. She crossed the line with our last argument. Some words when spoken, can't be taken back. Sorry to quote song lyrics, but they are fitting. I realize that people say things they don't mean in the heat of an...
    climbyourarms climbyourarms
    36-40, M
    Dec 12, 2015

    I finally gave in. After 1-2 years empty

    divorce threats, I finally agreed. Over the past 2 years he did a great job of making me feel trapped. He worked, I stayed home with the kids. He held that over my head with every fight. He earned the income and I was the live-in cook, nanny and maid in exchange for room and...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Dec 14, 2014

    Step One the Final Straw

    For those of you who know me, I've had a final straw moment. For those who don't know me, see my story under "Living in a Sexless Marriage" and "can't afford.." here in "I Want a Divorce"   So, I had a final straw moment. I know it...
    pusherseven pusherseven
    13 Responses Feb 25, 2009

    I am married 11 years.

    Why I want a divorce? I have been separated 15 months and I love it. I have the freedom to drive a car,see my family, and make my own decisions. I am finally free! He has a drug addiction. He did not want me to work. I could not drive the car... when we had one because he said...
    sweetwoman2006 sweetwoman2006
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    I have been thinking about a divorce

    for years now. My spouse has quite a temper and it doesn't take much to go from simple annoyance to shouting. The term 'pick your battles' does not mean much to her. Everything is worth fighting to the end for and it has put a real strain on me and our relationship. I've...
    Casimo Casimo
    41-45, M
    Apr 14, 2016

    I've been married for 16 years

    but I have had it. I am done with his mind games. I am tired if him hurting me. He says he still loves me but than treats me like ****. How can you claim to love someone but continue to hurt them? I just don't understand.
    Timetobeme Timetobeme
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2014

    Been married for 10 years,

    it's been a struggle for the past 9 to stay. We have a special needs child and I stay home to take care of her. I'm with her 24/7 while he works. I'm thankful that he has a good job but he just wants to work. He doesn't want to lift a finger around the house. I ask, beg, plead...
    tmletsrock tmletsrock
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 6, 2015

    After years of really crummy experiences in my

    marriage, I want out. I've begun to feel almost claustrophobic in my own skin. I recently discovered what people mean with they say they are "numb". Honestly it was kind of scary when I realized it. I told my wife I wanted a divorce. She's been taking it really hard. I can see...
    Jemo75 Jemo75
    7 Responses Jun 16, 2014

    I have been thinking about divorce in the back

    of my mind for at least a year. He is lazy & an alcoholic. We have two young boys. We have been fighting since he left work on Wednesday and he is off until Monday. I am hoping to hold off discussing divorce until February, but I don't know if I can make it another week with him...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 28, 2014

    I have never posted about this before,

    but I just cant take it any more. I have been married for 20 miserable years, and dont know if i can make it one more day. The ONLY problem in our marriage is sex. My wife doenst work, cant clean to save her life, and is lazy as hell. None of that bothers me. What kills is...
    jj95 jj95
    41-45, M
    1 Response Aug 9, 2015

    I Want A Divorce But Am Afraid Of What's To Come....

    I totally, completely and absolutely want a divorce. There's no if's, and's or but's about it...I *have* to divorce him. I can't stand when he's around. Not that I hate him or wish him harm. He just makes me so completely on-edge, anxious and drives me into a full blown panic...
    juliannagoldenstein juliannagoldenstein
    6 Responses Jan 16, 2013

    Today was the next round of counseling.

    Tonight there is a good chance my wife and I will seriously start talking divorce. Both of us were really honest today and it completely demonstrated why we should not be married. She has "high expectations" for me, which means I will always disappoint her. She says she...
    DeepXP DeepXP
    2 Responses May 27, 2015

    Is It Time To Give Up On Your Marriage?

     This is a vexed question for many here on this experience.  Divorce advice on the Net ranges along the continuum from one end (Go now!) to the other (Never leave!).  The following article sums up my perspective on the issue.  I hope it may be helpful to...
    enna30 enna30
    56-60, F
    11 Responses Aug 19, 2010

    Ashamed And Scared...

    Hello.  I'm 28 years old and have been married for 2 1/2 years, together 4 1/2. I'm pretty sure I've made a mistake by marrying my husband and I feel HORRIBLE about it.  He is very good to me.  We almost never fight.  He shares the chores with me, loves to...
    shamednpain shamednpain
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jun 10, 2010

    I backed out twice already.

    Had the papers notorized and off they went. Twice! He said he wanted to go to therapy. I said ok. Instead he ended up going to the studio every chance he could get with his loser brother. Didn't even attempt to make an appointment. Now he says he only wants to see a Christian...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 17, 2015
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