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I Want a Divorce

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    We're separating. He's still quite opposed to

    the idea, but he's cooperated so far. We've spent the last month splitting up bills. He's moving out, so he's been handling starting everything new for himself, and I've had to switch everything here into my name. It's all so expensive. He's moving out within the week though...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 28, 2014

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    On My Way

    so I have decided I will be on my way to go ahead with a divorce. After many years of trying to make it work, I am giving up and I am numb. For the past 5 years I have been in a sexless, verbally abusive marriage and I've had enough. In fact the only time my husband and I have...
    jojoizz jojoizz 31-35 5 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    Not now. I am buying time

    because I have two very young daughters (2 year old & 7 month old) and it is not the best step to take right now, from a financial point of view. The first thing to do is to work on my business plan. I had always hoped to work part time and take care of the kids when they are...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2014

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    I want a divorce. I dont think i can live with

    my husband anymore and my mother in law. I cant stand these two people.
    Prulla Prulla 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2014

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    Television00 Television00 31-35 1 Response Aug 14, 2008

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    Not now. I am buying time

    because I have two very young daughters (2 year old & 7 month old) and it is not the best step to take right now, from a financial point of view. The first thing to do is to work on my business plan. I had always hoped to work part time and take care of the kids when they are...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F Sep 28, 2014

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    In need of self help book recommendations to

    cope with future contact The funding has been cut to the charity offering me counselling after my marriage was destroyed by domestic abuse. I've learnt that the physiological abuse has destroyed me more and now recognise I married a narcissistic man. I still have to resolve...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    My husband and I have no passion in our

    marriage. We have basically no matching interests. We do not see eye to eye at all. He wants kids someday, while I do not. Meanwhile, I am starting the first phases of my escape plan. I am going back to work full time to establish financial independence and save up money for...
    saturnsdaughter saturnsdaughter 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 9, 2014

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    So Many Similarities.

    I browsed the stories here, and there are so many similarities to my own. I'm going to skip the details, because I am pretty emotional right now and I have some things I just need to get out. Damnit. I always told myself I'd only get married once. I thought love would take us...
    ShellOfAMan ShellOfAMan 31-35 4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    I have been thinking about divorce in the back

    of my mind for at least a year. He is lazy & an alcoholic. We have two young boys. We have been fighting since he left work on Wednesday and he is off until Monday. I am hoping to hold off discussing divorce until February, but I don't know if I can make it another week with him...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Step One the Final Straw

    For those of you who know me, I've had a final straw moment. For those who don't know me, see my story under "Living in a Sexless Marriage" and "can't afford.." here in "I Want a Divorce"   So, I had a final straw moment. I know it...
    pusherseven pusherseven 41-45 13 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    I finally gave in. After 1-2 years empty

    divorce threats, I finally agreed. Over the past 2 years he did a great job of making me feel trapped. He worked, I stayed home with the kids. He held that over my head with every fight. He earned the income and I was the live-in cook, nanny and maid in exchange for room and...
    Luckymomof2boys Luckymomof2boys 31-35, F 9 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    I never wanted to get to a point

    where I resented him. But more and more I'm getting that way. He keeps telling me that I should try to learn to love him, but hates when I compare that to an arranged marriage. He tells me I'm going through a phrase when I say I'm not at a point in my life where I'm mature...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    Hey I've not posted

    for a while I've relief in support from those jn my circle. But times are changing and for lost if reasons I've had a period where a lot if my friends have gone n cut their support. In most cases I understand it but I miss it. So I'm opening up again to connect with people. I...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 29, 2014

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    Is It Time To Give Up On Your Marriage?

     This is a vexed question for many here on this experience.  Divorce advice on the Net ranges along the continuum from one end (Go now!) to the other (Never leave!).  The following article sums up my perspective on the issue.  I hope it may be helpful to...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 13 Responses Aug 19, 2010

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    Is This Far Enough Yet

    The exhaustion of being married to someone with narcissistic personality disorder, the fear of that narcissistic rage, the guilt of thinking how stupid was I to get myself into this, the humiliation of my family asking why did I marry this man... I wish there was a simply...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Ashamed And Scared...

    Hello.  I'm 28 years old and have been married for 2 1/2 years, together 4 1/2. I'm pretty sure I've made a mistake by marrying my husband and I feel HORRIBLE about it.  He is very good to me.  We almost never fight.  He shares the chores with me, loves to...
    shamednpain shamednpain 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 10, 2010

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    I backed out twice already.

    Had the papers notorized and off they went. Twice! He said he wanted to go to therapy. I said ok. Instead he ended up going to the studio every chance he could get with his loser brother. Didn't even attempt to make an appointment. Now he says he only wants to see a Christian...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 17

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    I am tired of the fighting.

    The stress. All the verbal abuse. I just want out!
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2014

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    I've been married for 16 years

    but I have had it. I am done with his mind games. I am tired if him hurting me. He says he still loves me but than treats me like ****. How can you claim to love someone but continue to hurt them? I just don't understand.
    Timetobeme Timetobeme 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 6, 2014

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    I want a divorce, but I can't bear to share

    custody of our daughter. I went through this once with my son, I can't don't again. I'm stupid for marrying after the first went south. I thought I was smarter than this.
    Amnjourney Amnjourney 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    I really want a divorce.

    I do not feel like I love my husband at all anymore. We haven't had sex in 3 years we don't even sleep together. I feel like he is dragging me down. Economically I would be MUCH better off on my own. I rarely feel like I can talk to him since he is usually in a bad mood. We are...
    Lillith13 Lillith13 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    Can't Afford It, But Want Her to Go!

    To sum it up, I've been in a sexless mariage for over 10 years.  The only sexual drive that my wife had was back when the hormones of first love was flowing, after that all the drive was mine for over ten years now.  A year after her drive slowed, she started to exhibit...
    pusherseven pusherseven 41-45 17 Responses Feb 21, 2009

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    I have completely and confidently decided I

    want a divorce from my husband of 10 years. It hasn't always been bad times, but I've never really felt that true love feeling and I want complete happiness. Life is too short to spend it with someone you're just content with. And I want to start over by myself and become a...
    raedavis raedavis 31-35, F 37 Responses Jul 31, 2014

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    I'm 38, disabled wife is 48,

    I'm emotionally divorced, lonely, poor, but have 3 kids so it's my duty to stay, but unhappily? IDK what to do!
    jgoffe10 jgoffe10 36-40, M Jan 8

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    Once the anger drains.

    ..and three weeks later you still feel nothing....I think it is safe to say...you don't love him anymore and it may be time to go.
    noetluv noetluv 26-30, F Jan 21

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    I want to divorce my husband bc he's mentally,

    and verbally abusive. The problem is I have any money to afford an attorney, and I don't want to try to fight him in court alone. Does anyone have any advice?
    umakemehappy umakemehappy 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    Need Some Serious Advice

    Okay, so me and my husband have been together since 1988, married in 2006. Have a business together. I am 43, he is 62. I am considering leaving him and have been for about 3 years now. I'm just not sure where to start. I love him, but I am not in love with him. I know that...
    cntfndlve cntfndlve 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    All the criminal trails are over.

    So the mud slinging and fear has reduced a little. The custody of the children will be finalised in January. We will have to go back a few times to check girls are ok with contact and ready to move to next stage. But it's now more stable. So next step is divorce. I will meet...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    After years of really crummy experiences in my

    marriage, I want out. I've begun to feel almost claustrophobic in my own skin. I recently discovered what people mean with they say they are "numb". Honestly it was kind of scary when I realized it. I told my wife I wanted a divorce. She's been taking it really hard. I can see...
    Jemo75 Jemo75 36-40 7 Responses Jun 16, 2014

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    This is hard. I want him gone now.

    But I'm not yet financially stable enough, I need a full time job again after giving up my business a few weeks ago. I need to move house in the next few weeks which will cost loads. He has the car. I have two children. He makes me so unhappy and it's at that point where I wanna...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    "Just when the caterpillar thought the world

    was over, it became a butterfly" Read the quote the other day n it seemed fitting. I dedicate it to my EP friends Wishing you well in your journey to be butterflies x
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F Mar 16

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    Just came back from solicitors with the

    estimated costs for divorcing my ex. I'm staggered. I fear I my be tied to him forever. I don't see how I can pay the fees and raise two children. I'm overwhelmed.
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2014

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    It happened last night.

    She got angry at me for something unrelated to the heavy topic I wanted to discuss. She threatened me... again. This time I called her out. She tried to change her tune. I told her that she, nor I are happy and I do not see that atmosphere changing. I was fairly well prepared...
    Fluxification Fluxification 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    Anyone else thrown nearly a pack of Christmas

    cards away where you've automatically written you ex's name after the "love from"? It's the funny things that strike you once you agree to end a marriage. Like Christmas cards. Although it's kinda nice ripping them up knowing that's not your reality anymore !!
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 18, 2014

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    I been married 9yrs and i separate last yr with

    my husband for 5 months. Well we decided to try and make it work for the kids. At first it was great. We were dating again and enjoying our time together. Then after a few months he went right back to his old ways. I want out of this marriage cause i was happier the 5 months we...
    boysofmyheart boysofmyheart 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2014

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    Yea, I am tired of being tied down to you.

    I feel trapped in this marriage. The reason I watch these flicks is because I know that you are spying on me. And plus its what I want to do to these bit---ches out here. Oh, I almost forgot, what's the real reason that you got mad at Sarah. Is it because you thought she...
    bigsarge6996 bigsarge6996 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    Thought I Had It Right This Time...

    I feel like Satan Jr. We both know the marriage suck but she doesn't know I'm planning a divorce. We've only been married a year but we've both been burned before and now instead of working together, it's obvious we're looking out for oour own interests first. I can't trust her...
    Icebound Icebound 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    I find myself becoming this horrible person.

    I don't even want to be around me. I need so badly for this to be over. He's never home anymore, but he makes it clear he still doesn't want a divorce. I think it's just painful for him to be here. When he is here, we either don't talk at all or we fight about stupid stuff. We...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    I don't know what I ever saw in the man I

    married. I had an affair and my husband found out. We went to counseling. The counselor even wondered why we were together, we are such opposites. I filed for divorce last year, and he wouldn't leave and made life under the same roof hell! Then we have one good weekend, I decide...
    anavay anavay 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    I told him about wanting a divorce,

    I swear that's the hardest thing I've had to do in my life. I hate to see him hurting, this was never my intention when I married him. I still care for him, in just not in love anymore.
    BrokenCats BrokenCats 26-30, F Feb 22

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    He won't accept a divorce right

    now he says. He says he can't handle it emotionally or mentally, so we're going to separate. I don't see the point of dragging this out longer. I think he is still struggling with understanding why this is happening. Hes having a hard time understanding why I want to finally...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F Jun 9, 2014

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    One Month Into Separation

    I moved out January 5th of this year. I know I do not want to go back. I am ready to move forward. Met with an attorney today, make sure I am not doing anything or have done anything that would put me in a bad position legally. Turns out I am a good candidate for a dissolution...
    Rachmiel Rachmiel 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 5, 2013

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    I Want A Divorce But Am Afraid Of What's To Come....

    I totally, completely and absolutely want a divorce. There's no if's, and's or but's about it...I *have* to divorce him. I can't stand when he's around. Not that I hate him or wish him harm. He just makes me so completely on-edge, anxious and drives me into a full blown panic...
    juliannagoldenstein juliannagoldenstein 36-40 6 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    I Want to Leave Unhappy Marriage But Scared

     iam 25years old and I have been married for almost 4 years. I am a mother of 2 years old. My husband is very hard to get along with. In another words, he is an a++hole. He is always in bad mood and curse me and my son out(sometimes seriously and sometimes with...
    kiki0202 kiki0202 22-25 8 Responses Dec 22, 2008

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