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    Ashamed And Scared...

    Hello.  I'm 28 years old and have been married for 2 1/2 years, together 4 1/2. I'm pretty sure I've made a mistake by marrying my husband and I feel HORRIBLE about it.  He is very good to me.  We almost never fight.  He shares the chores with me, loves to...
    shamednpain shamednpain 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 10, 2010

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    10+ Yrs, 4 Kids Not Sure What I Want

    I am 30 my husband is 42, we got married when I was 19 and he was 31 !!!!!! Yes you are reading that correctly ..... We have 4 children together (10, 6, 3 and 17 months), and Iove him. He is a great father, and very generous husband. But I am not in love with him, and not even...
    Luvmy4Kids Luvmy4Kids 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2010

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    I don't know what I ever saw in the man I

    married. I had an affair and my husband found out. We went to counseling. The counselor even wondered why we were together, we are such opposites. I filed for divorce last year, and he wouldn't leave and made life under the same roof hell! Then we have one good weekend, I decide...
    anavay anavay 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 1

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    For Less Than a Good Reason

    I want a divorce, but unlike most of you I’m not sure I have good cause. I can and do have sex with my wife as often as I want. She has done nothing wrong. I want her to be a different person, but don’t want to force her to change. I feel she doesn...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 6 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    Why Can't I Just Get It Through My Head, It's Over, It's Over Now...

    I am going to lose my mind. I can't stand living with my codgerly husband anymore. He is hostile and venomous and I don't like the way he speaks to our children. He is manipulative and self centered, and acts like a child himself. When we split up (again and finally) he will...
    Bananafone Bananafone 46-50, F Aug 4, 2010

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    No one ever talks about how a separation works.

    People don't discuss these things.. They're married, they separate, all anyone knows is that they're not together anymore. Apparently in real life, with money and budgets and bills and at least one person having to get hundreds of dollars together for deposits and starting...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 9

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    I Love My Husband But Im Ready To Move On

    i have been maried for 13years and together a total of 20. i am 35 yrs old. u do the math. i want things for my life that my husband don't. like i want to run my own business and become a millionaire. i cant do this and b a dedicated wife. my husband says hes content with...
    imsweetnsalty imsweetnsalty 31-35, F 8 Responses Dec 24, 2011

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    I just asked to get divorced

    and I don't know why I did not feel bad about it. I felt heartless. I have been with him for 5 years and married him for another 5 years. No children. We have been separated for 15 months now but we have seen each other frequently. I guess I was too young when I married him and...
    supportlady supportlady 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    Not now. I am buying time

    because I have two very young daughters (2 year old & 7 month old) and it is not the best step to take right now, from a financial point of view. The first thing to do is to work on my business plan. I had always hoped to work part time and take care of the kids when they are...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F Sep 28

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    I am tired of the fighting.

    The stress. All the verbal abuse. I just want out!
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 28

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    Can't Afford It, But Want Her to Go!

    To sum it up, I've been in a sexless mariage for over 10 years.  The only sexual drive that my wife had was back when the hormones of first love was flowing, after that all the drive was mine for over ten years now.  A year after her drive slowed, she started to exhibit...
    pusherseven pusherseven 41-45 17 Responses Feb 21, 2009

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    On My Way

    so I have decided I will be on my way to go ahead with a divorce. After many years of trying to make it work, I am giving up and I am numb. For the past 5 years I have been in a sexless, verbally abusive marriage and I've had enough. In fact the only time my husband and I have...
    jojoizz jojoizz 31-35 6 Responses Aug 14, 2011

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    This Year Needs to End ...

    My husband moved out in January but we are still legally married. We're not even legally seperated. I want to sign those papers and get on with my life, but there are reason that I can't talk about that is keeping us married for at least the end of this yr. I met a great guy that...
    SomeOneInTheWorld SomeOneInTheWorld 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 28, 2007

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    I Want A Divorce But Am Afraid Of What's To Come....

    I totally, completely and absolutely want a divorce. There's no if's, and's or but's about it...I *have* to divorce him. I can't stand when he's around. Not that I hate him or wish him harm. He just makes me so completely on-edge, anxious and drives me into a full blown panic...
    juliannagoldenstein juliannagoldenstein 36-40 7 Responses Jan 16, 2013

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    I been married 9yrs and i separate last yr with

    my husband for 5 months. Well we decided to try and make it work for the kids. At first it was great. We were dating again and enjoying our time together. Then after a few months he went right back to his old ways. I want out of this marriage cause i was happier the 5 months we...
    boysofmyheart boysofmyheart 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 17

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    I find myself becoming this horrible person.

    I don't even want to be around me. I need so badly for this to be over. He's never home anymore, but he makes it clear he still doesn't want a divorce. I think it's just painful for him to be here. When he is here, we either don't talk at all or we fight about stupid stuff. We...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    I never wanted to get to a point

    where I resented him. But more and more I'm getting that way. He keeps telling me that I should try to learn to love him, but hates when I compare that to an arranged marriage. He tells me I'm going through a phrase when I say I'm not at a point in my life where I'm mature...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Most of the time we are best friends.

    We get along just great. I love going out with him fishing, hunting and camping. The sad part is we don't do anything a normal married couple would do. We don't have an intimate relationship, no kisses, no hugs no nothing. We fight about the same things over and over and I have...
    yesenia25 yesenia25 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 2

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    I have completely and confidently decided I

    want a divorce from my husband of 10 years. It hasn't always been bad times, but I've never really felt that true love feeling and I want complete happiness. Life is too short to spend it with someone you're just content with. And I want to start over by myself and become a...
    raedavis raedavis 31-35, F 38 Responses Jul 31

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    Do I tell my divorce attorney

    that I am having an affair? Nobody else knows. I would assume she would keep that confident but would it complicate things further?
    janedoe227 janedoe227 46-50, F 1 Response May 8

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    We've been married a little over a year.

    It was a shotgun wedding. I was pressured into getting married because I was pregnant. I honestly never believed in marriage but I didn't think I had a choice. I had a hard pregnancy, I could no long work. My mom told me I could come home and bring my bf too as long as we got...
    SassyStecher SassyStecher 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 15

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    My husband and I have no passion in our

    marriage. We have basically no matching interests. We do not see eye to eye at all. He wants kids someday, while I do not. Meanwhile, I am starting the first phases of my escape plan. I am going back to work full time to establish financial independence and save up money for...
    saturnsdaughter saturnsdaughter 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 9

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    Some Days I Do

    Some days I don't.  The "do" days are becoming more common.  It seems that we have drifted apart and can't find anything that can bring us back together.  I'm holding on because I don't want to be a statistic.
    snugglebunny156 snugglebunny156 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 16, 2008

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    So Many Similarities.

    I browsed the stories here, and there are so many similarities to my own. I'm going to skip the details, because I am pretty emotional right now and I have some things I just need to get out. Damnit. I always told myself I'd only get married once. I thought love would take us...
    ShellOfAMan ShellOfAMan 31-35 4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    I Want to Leave Unhappy Marriage But Scared

     iam 25years old and I have been married for almost 4 years. I am a mother of 2 years old. My husband is very hard to get along with. In another words, he is an a++hole. He is always in bad mood and curse me and my son out(sometimes seriously and sometimes with...
    kiki0202 kiki0202 22-25 8 Responses Dec 22, 2008

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    Is This Far Enough Yet

    The exhaustion of being married to someone with narcissistic personality disorder, the fear of that narcissistic rage, the guilt of thinking how stupid was I to get myself into this, the humiliation of my family asking why did I marry this man... I wish there was a simply...
    shydragonfly shydragonfly 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 15, 2013

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    Not now. I am buying time

    because I have two very young daughters (2 year old & 7 month old) and it is not the best step to take right now, from a financial point of view. The first thing to do is to work on my business plan. I had always hoped to work part time and take care of the kids when they are...
    Nathee Nathee 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 28

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    I want a divorce... I can't stand the person

    I'm with any longer... I can't stand myself I want to divorce myself... To let myself know how much I hate her to tell her how dumb she is very ever thinking I would really love her.... I want to divorce myself... Put myself out of this misery... I'm disgusted with the person I...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I've read millions of blogs

    and articles about knowing when it's time for divorce or things to know before you get divorced. Almost every single one if them has kids involved and the marriage has been a fairly long. But we don't have kids... We've been together for 6 years and almost married for a year...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 1 Response May 31

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    We met when i was 16

    and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and once school was done, we married and i moved to our first duty assignment. We were so happy. everything and I do mean...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    I want à divorce and im affraid to.

    Im not happy with my wife, and I don't see things changin anytime soon. I don't know what devorce is like im only 21. I imagin it is hard but the way my wife treats me isnt worth living in missery the rest of my life. Help?
    hurtingbahd hurtingbahd 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 31

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    Divorce, Sure I'd Love One!

    I wish that I could file for divorce. I have been married almost 14 years and a stay at home mom for 10. He is 9 years older than me and thinks he is my father! I sleep in a different room and we haven't had sex in 2or 3 years (not that I miss sex with him it was...
    libbie libbie 31-35, F 11 Responses May 1, 2008

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    We're separating. He's still quite opposed to

    the idea, but he's cooperated so far. We've spent the last month splitting up bills. He's moving out, so he's been handling starting everything new for himself, and I've had to switch everything here into my name. It's all so expensive. He's moving out within the week though...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    Need Some Serious Advice

    Okay, so me and my husband have been together since 1988, married in 2006. Have a business together. I am 43, he is 62. I am considering leaving him and have been for about 3 years now. I'm just not sure where to start. I love him, but I am not in love with him. I know that...
    cntfndlve cntfndlve 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 26, 2013

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    I want to divorce my husband bc he's mentally,

    and verbally abusive. The problem is I have any money to afford an attorney, and I don't want to try to fight him in court alone. Does anyone have any advice?
    umakemehappy umakemehappy 31-35, F 8 hrs ago

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    He Is Perfect, But I Still Want to Leave Him? I'm Soo Frustrated!i

     I want a Divorce, Even though I feel I am Making the Biggest Mistake in my Life! I have it all. Materialistically Speaking! We have Nooo Financial problems. I have my Dream house and Car. He is Sweat ( Sometimes ) with Me, and I know He loves me. He does Not Cheat on me...
    ParadiseDream ParadiseDream 26-30, F 7 Responses May 14, 2009

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    I had gotten married

    because I was pregnant even though I was 7 months pregnant and he cheated on me, I still felt like I had to marry him. We have been married about 2 years and I am miserable. I am wanting to complete my masters in nursing and he says no, I don't want any more kids and he says...
    strn11 strn11 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    Step One the Final Straw

    For those of you who know me, I've had a final straw moment. For those who don't know me, see my story under "Living in a Sexless Marriage" and "can't afford.." here in "I Want a Divorce"   So, I had a final straw moment. I know it...
    pusherseven pusherseven 41-45 13 Responses Feb 25, 2009

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    Ugh my stupid husband is

    such a petulant child. Tomorrow is my sons 5th birthday and I have been working for the past 4 weeks while my husband did nothing whatsoever to help. Tonight I was doing last minute preparations by wrapping jus gifts from us, getting a card and baking cupcakes for his class...
    VBLOVE1106 VBLOVE1106 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Hey I've not posted

    for a while I've relief in support from those jn my circle. But times are changing and for lost if reasons I've had a period where a lot if my friends have gone n cut their support. In most cases I understand it but I miss it. So I'm opening up again to connect with people. I...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    One Month Into Separation

    I moved out January 5th of this year. I know I do not want to go back. I am ready to move forward. Met with an attorney today, make sure I am not doing anything or have done anything that would put me in a bad position legally. Turns out I am a good candidate for a dissolution...
    Rachmiel Rachmiel 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 5, 2013

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    I'm done. I can't do it anymore.

    This is not working, hasn't ever really worked, and I feel like by staying I'm delaying the inevitable. Just slowly ripping the bandaid.. it's killing us both. I need out, but I have no idea how to initiate this conversation. We've discussed our issues of course, been to...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses May 18

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    Is It Time To Give Up On Your Marriage?

     This is a vexed question for many here on this experience.  Divorce advice on the Net ranges along the continuum from one end (Go now!) to the other (Never leave!).  The following article sums up my perspective on the issue.  I hope it may be helpful to...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 15 Responses Aug 19, 2010

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    I've been married for 16 years

    but I have had it. I am done with his mind games. I am tired if him hurting me. He says he still loves me but than treats me like ****. How can you claim to love someone but continue to hurt them? I just don't understand.
    Timetobeme Timetobeme 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    After years of really crummy experiences in my

    marriage, I want out. I've begun to feel almost claustrophobic in my own skin. I recently discovered what people mean with they say they are "numb". Honestly it was kind of scary when I realized it. I told my wife I wanted a divorce. She's been taking it really hard. I can see...
    Jemo75 Jemo75 36-40 7 Responses Jun 16

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    Television00 Television00 31-35 1 Response Aug 14, 2008

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    Random thoughts for today: Planning a

    post-divorce budget is probably the most challenging thing ever. There will never be enough money. We're separating. He's not exactly on board, but he's cooperative. It's something. We've got about a month left before he moves out. In the meantime I've got to get the spare...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 1 Response May 22

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    Thought I Had It Right This Time...

    I feel like Satan Jr. We both know the marriage suck but she doesn't know I'm planning a divorce. We've only been married a year but we've both been burned before and now instead of working together, it's obvious we're looking out for oour own interests first. I can't trust her...
    Icebound Icebound 41-45, M 3 Responses Jul 1, 2008

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    He won't accept a divorce right

    now he says. He says he can't handle it emotionally or mentally, so we're going to separate. I don't see the point of dragging this out longer. I think he is still struggling with understanding why this is happening. Hes having a hard time understanding why I want to finally...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F Jun 9

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    It happened last night.

    She got angry at me for something unrelated to the heavy topic I wanted to discuss. She threatened me... again. This time I called her out. She tried to change her tune. I told her that she, nor I are happy and I do not see that atmosphere changing. I was fairly well prepared...
    Fluxification Fluxification 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 22

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    This is hard. I want him gone now.

    But I'm not yet financially stable enough, I need a full time job again after giving up my business a few weeks ago. I need to move house in the next few weeks which will cost loads. He has the car. I have two children. He makes me so unhappy and it's at that point where I wanna...
    foreverWantingMore foreverWantingMore 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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