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I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

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    Perfect Pairing

    Just as a wine would accompany a meal to add to and enhance the experience, having a lover who is also a best friend would be perfect to for the experience! Its great to have good sex and it good to have a close friend, but if you can combine the two it would be most excellent...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    You Are Quite A Man!

    Hush now my darling Let me ease your fears Saved up held by you Over all these long years... Close your eyes and dream On just what will transpire When you and I meet And we share our fire! If you were a knight I was a lady fair You rescued me nobleman Simply because you care! If...
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    Sex is so very important.

    A lover whom is kind, even self sacrificing is essential, and to mirror that equally so. Friendliness is sometimes vague, so it has to be sincere. It also has to be believable.
    Desartes Desartes 22-25, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I think this may be my single greatest wish in

    life,after immortality and world domination :S.Every time I think of it,I get this unique warm feeling all trough my body.It is one of those few thoughts that cheers me up every time I think of it. I cringe when thinking to have a blank,soulless girl thats only good for screwing...
    Jittler Jittler 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 6

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    When it happens and i find the right guy I

    would want him to be my best friend and the person I feel comfortable telling anything to..the only thing that worrys me if i find this is that if our relationship ends,I would have lost my lover as well as my best friend :/ and that sucks.
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 2 Responses May 27

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    Okay, maybe I kinda over exaggerated about

    everything in my Long distance relationship. We'll my "boyfriend" posted a picture on Instagram and it said he took the photo at some navy base. That's when I thought it was a summer program or something. Maybe that was the reason he couldn't answer me. Then I got slapped in...
    sweetlove2014 sweetlove2014 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I would love for him to be my best friend first

    and then slowly overtime we fall madly in love. He would be my homie, my bestie, my lover. Our relationship would be far from boring, because we connected from the beginning because of our personalities. We would play videos games, joke around and kiss for hours.
    CheyenneScott CheyenneScott 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 6

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    I want someone who will understand me like I

    will understand him. I want someone who will think I'm beautiful and I will be the only one girl his heart wants. I want a man who will cuddle with me, kiss me, make love to me, and spend a life with me. I want to nurture him and give him all of my affection.
    SeanaO SeanaO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 26

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    I am lucky to say I have this,

    my lover is definitely my best friend. I joined EP almost a year ago (under a different profile). My first profile was very sexual in nature and I made a lot of friends and exchanged photos etc. Then in the middle of last year, my stepdaughter attempted suicide, the way I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jan 16

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    Have I been lucky or perhaps unlucky?

    Or am I just odd?  To date every lover I have had has been a best friend first and a lover second.  I'm not sure why it worked out like that.  It certainly wasn't intentional or a conscious thought on my part.  I guess I just tend to end up with people who I am friends with...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 3

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    I found myself having an affair with a man

    who has a girlfriend. I wanted it to be just that one time because I get attached, but he kept instigating and I kept seeing him. He has been out of touch now that his girl is back from a very long vacation and my heart is breaking. I know what I did was not the smartest, but I...
    earthyogi earthyogi 41-45, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Sands Of Time

    Time has come to meet me here It brings with it the drips of tears Those times of happiness oh so dear And the sadness that has made many sears My heart cries out "WAIT" oh so clear As I long for the woman without a face of leer and hope that my heart is not left sheered...
    inChange inChange 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    I am so very sexual being.

    I enjoy physical love, and hope that I can find a friend in my lover. Fellow feeling I'd important, as well as kindness and panache.
    Bourgault Bourgault 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 16

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    There ain't nothing better.

    Soul-Mate. Someone who fully understands you, protects you. You protect each other. You share such a deep special bond.
    NovaScotia902 NovaScotia902 22-25 1 Response Jun 20

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    An age different couple married 20 years knows

    the meaning of how to be lovers and BEST friends at the same time....I love that 6
    dextermlap dextermlap 46-50, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Your Beauty....My Lady!

    What wonderful summer day. We both rise early. I go outside to mow the lawn and do some yard work. I return inside the house and promptly get in the shower. Once all freshened I enter our room, there you are sitting on the bed humming to yourself as you paint your toes...
    NorthernMan1966 NorthernMan1966 46-50, M 7 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Lover And Friend

    I want a guy who shares my interests and passions.a soul mate who wants to do things with me,share experiences.to be the "other half " of me.Some one I can trust completely,whom I can confide in, and be myself,no pretense,Someone who doesn't want to rule or control me,who just...
    CMA1234 CMA1234 46-50, F 16 Responses Dec 12, 2011

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    You have to be a happy with yourself

    before you can share yourself with another. Or else you enmesh yourself and you both lose each other
    wiseprotector wiseprotector 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 13

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    I cant believe I'm posting this,

    but if you truely want a lover who is your best friend you need to become true best friends before you become lovers. This means waiting to have sexual intimacy until you have emotional intimacy. If you dont wait, move on to the next.
    ahorsespal ahorsespal 41-45, M 9 Responses Jun 6

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    I believe I met this person yesterday,

    last evening, June 21, 2014, on the first day of summer. It was a wonderful, memory-filled evening. We met through a Christian singles website about ten days prior, and while cautiously awaiting last night were quite suspecting that God was the Author of this hookup. It's the...
    LivingDavid LivingDavid 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 22

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    We (me and my husband) very different.

    We use to talk in the beginning and we could share some ideas or opinions. Now we don't talk unless we complain or remind that something needs to be done. It would be great relationship if 2 people have a lot in common and can share many things, can enjoy similar activities...
    LeahNl LeahNl 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Why is this so hard? No man thinks this way

    about women. I have all these great moments I have been waiting to have with my best friend. But I am still alone. Men want to use women like chewing gum. How can you build a secure, happy, funfilled, passionate life with that?
    sincitysaint sincitysaint 36-40, F 8 Responses May 26

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    Always wanted a boy best friend

    that you didn't have to be serious with, it would be so much less drama than girls tbf. Boy best friend; definition of cute- for me ☺️
    colexo colexo 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Stolen Moments

    Like all relationships mine is not perfect. We work on it. Go through our ups and downs. I get frustrated. He gets frustrated. We distance ourselves but then we grow closer. And it seems that every time we grow closer its from a stolen moment. The early morning coffees snuggling...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 8 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    I'm So Glad Your With Me

    I so want to find the perfect woman for me , one that I miss when she's not there and cherish always . She'd be my pal to have fun with and tell all my secrets to . We can share lifes joys and sorrows and build each other up , cheer and comfort each other . We could be happy...
    Tanengreen Tanengreen 36-40, M 13 Responses Jan 28, 2010

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    i want a lover like my dream girl i love u very

    much but who is she i d'nt know if u so response me............
    vinayloveboy vinayloveboy 18-21, M 1 Response 19 hrs ago

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    You inspired the deepest most profound poetry I

    never thought I had the ability to write. You inspired the deepest most profound feelings that led me into an obsession with you. As much as I tried to reach you, you were always outside of my grasp. You were the inspiration behind thoughts and actions that could have destroyed...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Personally from past relationships,

    the relationship ends as lovers but we are still great friends. I always go into a relationship with a great friendship because a relationship is to me, An intense and awesome friendship above 'bestfriends' so basically what I'm saying is I don't date at random and I like to...
    MisssValentine MisssValentine 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    Lol who doesn't ? Sadly,

    all my BFFs are females and I'm not bi , I'm damn straight. Love guys with those cheeky, charming smile and kind eyes ahhhh~~~ niceeee. >>>> referring to my darling. He's the best
    KywenM1997 KywenM1997 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 12

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    I wish my bestfriend(girlfriend) would be able

    to come over and spend the night without any suspicions
    Drea0o0 Drea0o0 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I have liked this girl ever

    since junior high. It's so bad that they appear in my dreams. She's a really good friend of mine and i'm afraid of losing her by taking it too far. Sometimes i feel this is all in my head.
    dantheman0118 dantheman0118 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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    My Best Friend

    I once shared a year with a person who was, indeed my best friend. We shared every moment that we could. We made love with a passion that was beyond compare. we Talked into the wee hours, we danced, we made stir-fry at three in the morning and ate it before going to work after a...
    brokerichard brokerichard 56-60, M 4 Responses May 8, 2012

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    MissAyyy MissAyyy 13-15, F 12 Responses Jun 21

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    keflo keflo 36-40, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    ...Wishful Thinking...

    This, to me, is the ideal..to be so connected and bonded to someone intimately..to have them know your very soul inside and out..to feel comfortable with them on every level..and to have their love for you be reflected in a variety of ways that goes beyond a "typical...
    Misfitbrokentoy Misfitbrokentoy 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    I'd rather live by myself,

    than marry someone just cuz it's what everyone else does. I wanna be happy in a relationship.
    ghostfox16 ghostfox16 16-17, M 2 Responses Jun 18

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    I started dating a boy I know from the 4-H fair

    and my sister and her husband and my mom and dad knows him but thing is my mom said he has to call me first and I just wish he would call when he has time.
    jamie1013 jamie1013 13-15, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Such A Difference...

    Having that person that you are so completely comfortable with, that person that literally puts a smile on your face because you know they are truly your support. That person that is your rock. But is also your lover. It's an amazing feeling. Everyone truly deserves this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 26, 2010

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    is it too much to ask?

    ???????looking for 13-15 girl
    mustafakhattak mustafakhattak 13-15, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Yes. That way we grow together

    and compliment each other, as well as each being a strong and independent individual who is positive optimistic acceptive of changes
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Wouldn't That Be Cool?

    Like, just having someone for you that is someone you trust wholeheartedly. I saw this post on instagram that said..."work on building friendships, not love. Then maybe you will marry your best friend." I daydream...a lot. And maybe I have unrealistic expectations in my head...
    universesoul universesoul 16-17, F 7 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    I just keep thinking of Jenna

    and Matt from 13 Going on 30 ❤️
    GigiCoeli GigiCoeli 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Holding hands. Isn't

    that such a nice feeling to hold the hand of the girl you love, or at least wanting to. Hold my hand she says, as she grabs my hand, and looks into my eyes, trying to read my mind, what's up, I ask . You know John, you are such a strange man to work out, why, I ask, because, in...
    JohnCrighton JohnCrighton 51-55, M 1 Response Mar 4

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    I want to kiss and be kissed - long,

    sweet, hungry kisses. I want your arms around me, pressing me close. I want to feel your hands and mouth caressing the contours of my body. And I also want to be able to banter with you, match wits, talk about ideas. Am I just being greedy, or expecting too much?
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 9 Responses Mar 31

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    I have a lover that is also my bestfriend!

    ❤❤❤ sucks his trip got extended a couple more days. But it's all good! Daddy will be home soon and I will be ignoring all of you EP people 😍😍
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Yes, exactly what I want a lover

    and best friend to hold and touch me in a loving way .
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 31

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    I want somebody who is my other half

    but my best friend. I'm trying to find my Spock to my uhura.:) I want somebody I can talk,vent and be downright nerdy with.I want to feel complete.:)
    cherryBloosom95 cherryBloosom95 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    You know what I think ,

    I think the best lovers are those who know you inside out , who've grown with you and seen what you're capable of , yes they are your true friend indeed . I want my best friend to be my lover
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 28

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    I'll be 23 this November

    and I've never in my life dated a girl for more than 2 weeks, i don't know if its a plaque on me or something i do, they just tend to leave me and when i try to approach another, they never like me i get rejected all the time i have only male friends, but it would feel way...
    donpuzzo donpuzzo 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 16

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    it would be sooo nice to have

    that one special person in my life that i could count on. a man that truly cares about me inside and out. a man that accepts my flaws and will love me for me. a man that wont care whether or not im dolled up or if im walking around the house in old sweat pants with my hair...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 1

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    dfries63 dfries63 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 1

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    She is staying with me for a week while my parents are out of town and she wears really short shorts and low cut tank tops around the house and I really just want to push her...
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    I always had one, but we always became obsessive, possessive with each other. So I ended the friendships. I experienced 2 like that. I haven't had that ONE best friend since I was...
    wheelsxoxo wheelsxoxo 22-25, F Jul 3

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