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I Want a Lover Who Is Also My Best Friend

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    I want someone who will understand me like I

    will understand him. I want someone who will think I'm beautiful and I will be the only one girl his heart wants. I want a man who will cuddle with me, kiss me, make love to me, and spend a life with me. I want to nurture him and give him all of my affection.
    SeanaO SeanaO 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 26

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    You inspired the deepest most profound poetry I

    never thought I had the ability to write. You inspired the deepest most profound feelings that led me into an obsession with you. As much as I tried to reach you, you were always outside of my grasp. You were the inspiration behind thoughts and actions that could have destroyed...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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    I thought that we were best friends till he

    told me "no your just my lover not my best friend, my ex is my best friend" i never felt so much pain before.
    mskaylee24 mskaylee24 22-25, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    keflo keflo 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 19

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    I just keep thinking of Jenna

    and Matt from 13 Going on 30 ❤️
    GigiCoeli GigiCoeli 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    So I grew up with this girl my whole life

    and she and I live in 2 different states. And when we got to see each other tonight I could tell she kinda liked me. And btw we are 14. So she shows me her room and we go In there and we both go on her bed and we are talking. And her younger brother and sister come in there and...
    Imthe55 Imthe55 13-15, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    i want a lover like my dream girl i love u very

    much but who is she i d'nt know if u so response me............
    vinayloveboy vinayloveboy 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 24

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    I started dating a boy I know from the 4-H fair

    and my sister and her husband and my mom and dad knows him but thing is my mom said he has to call me first and I just wish he would call when he has time.
    jamie1013 jamie1013 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I always do it , i like people

    and when they like me back , i let them in , i tell them everything about me , thinking that they wouldn't care , that they love me and wouldn't want me to lie to them , but i am always wrong , apparently eating disorders , cuts and mental illnesses are a huge turn off for...
    Iammyownworstenemy Iammyownworstenemy 22-25, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Perfect Pairing

    Just as a wine would accompany a meal to add to and enhance the experience, having a lover who is also a best friend would be perfect to for the experience! Its great to have good sex and it good to have a close friend, but if you can combine the two it would be most excellent...
    soulrunher soulrunher 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    I found myself having an affair with a man

    who has a girlfriend. I wanted it to be just that one time because I get attached, but he kept instigating and I kept seeing him. He has been out of touch now that his girl is back from a very long vacation and my heart is breaking. I know what I did was not the smartest, but I...
    earthyogi earthyogi 41-45, F 9 Responses Jul 23

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    is it too much to ask?

    ???????looking for 13-15 girl
    mustafakhattak mustafakhattak 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 21

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    Okay, maybe I kinda over exaggerated about

    everything in my Long distance relationship. We'll my "boyfriend" posted a picture on Instagram and it said he took the photo at some navy base. That's when I thought it was a summer program or something. Maybe that was the reason he couldn't answer me. Then I got slapped in...
    sweetlove2014 sweetlove2014 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 19

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    I cant believe I'm posting this,

    but if you truely want a lover who is your best friend you need to become true best friends before you become lovers. This means waiting to have sexual intimacy until you have emotional intimacy. If you dont wait, move on to the next.
    ahorsespal ahorsespal 41-45, M 9 Responses Jun 6

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    I want to be with someone

    who loves me for who I am not what I can do for them sexually. Sometimes being pretty and good looking attracts all the wrong guys and finding a guy to love me aside from me being pretty is not easy. I want to be married to my best friend. I believe love is friendship set on...
    flowerloverxxv flowerloverxxv 22-25, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    This is my dream!!! In a perfect world,

    this would happen! Hopefully I get to be lucky enough for this to happen!
    tsg96 tsg96 18-21, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Yes, exactly what I want a lover

    and best friend to hold and touch me in a loving way .
    JamieleeEchelon JamieleeEchelon 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 31

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    The person I really care about is someone

    who feels the same way. The only downside is that fact that my parents don't want me to date, and they don't like him. He's always there to support me and he's willing to do a lot of things for me. He'd never take advantage of me and he's so kind and considerate. I just wish I...
    WhiskeyHands WhiskeyHands 13-15, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    ...Wishful Thinking...

    This, to me, is the ideal..to be so connected and bonded to someone intimately..to have them know your very soul inside and out..to feel comfortable with them on every level..and to have their love for you be reflected in a variety of ways that goes beyond a "typical...
    Misfitbrokentoy Misfitbrokentoy 46-50, F 8 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    Your Beauty....My Lady!

    What wonderful summer day. We both rise early. I go outside to mow the lawn and do some yard work. I return inside the house and promptly get in the shower. Once all freshened I enter our room, there you are sitting on the bed humming to yourself as you paint your toes...
    NorthernMan1966 NorthernMan1966 46-50, M 7 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    We (me and my husband) very different.

    We use to talk in the beginning and we could share some ideas or opinions. Now we don't talk unless we complain or remind that something needs to be done. It would be great relationship if 2 people have a lot in common and can share many things, can enjoy similar activities...
    LeahNl LeahNl 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 23

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    A friend is someone who is always there

    when the whole world away..
    keflo keflo 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Sands Of Time

    Time has come to meet me here It brings with it the drips of tears Those times of happiness oh so dear And the sadness that has made many sears My heart cries out "WAIT" oh so clear As I long for the woman without a face of leer and hope that my heart is not left sheered...
    inChange inChange 41-45, M 6 Responses Mar 8, 2013

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    I told my babe that I needed to vent

    and he said that he was meeting which is fine, but I would've like him to say "babe, I'll call you as soon as I am done"
    NicoleMeagan NicoleMeagan 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I would love for him to be my best friend first

    and then slowly overtime we fall madly in love. He would be my homie, my bestie, my lover. Our relationship would be far from boring, because we connected from the beginning because of our personalities. We would play videos games, joke around and kiss for hours.
    CheyenneScott CheyenneScott 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 6

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    I'm sort of stopping myself from loving my

    boyfriend because as soon as I do I know it's going to get ruined.
    sarahdarlene sarahdarlene 18-21, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Stolen Moments

    Like all relationships mine is not perfect. We work on it. Go through our ups and downs. I get frustrated. He gets frustrated. We distance ourselves but then we grow closer. And it seems that every time we grow closer its from a stolen moment. The early morning coffees snuggling...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 8 Responses Jan 5, 2013

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    I want to find a girl

    who I can connect with, who I can have fun with, who will know everything about me and will be themselves around me, and at the end of the day, curl up next to me and go to sleep. I had this with my ex, but she ended up playing me. Now I'm stuck in this depression and it's hard...
    JohnF1997 JohnF1997 16-17, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I had a close friend

    once she was attracted to me and me to her one day we got together and talked about our feelings and decided to be friends with benefits this was a great idea and it worked for some time we shared everything nothing was kept secret all our dark desired one day she stopped...
    thanos48 thanos48 36-40, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    Sex is so very important.

    A lover whom is kind, even self sacrificing is essential, and to mirror that equally so. Friendliness is sometimes vague, so it has to be sincere. It also has to be believable.
    Desartes Desartes 22-25, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I want to be in a relationship with someone I

    trust and have fun with. I really don't need much else.
    racingSnail racingSnail 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Yes. That way we grow together

    and compliment each other, as well as each being a strong and independent individual who is positive optimistic acceptive of changes
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 24

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    An age different couple married 20 years knows

    the meaning of how to be lovers and BEST friends at the same time....I love that 6
    dextermlap dextermlap 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 20

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    Wouldn't That Be Cool?

    Like, just having someone for you that is someone you trust wholeheartedly. I saw this post on instagram that said..."work on building friendships, not love. Then maybe you will marry your best friend." I daydream...a lot. And maybe I have unrealistic expectations in my head...
    universesoul universesoul 16-17, F 7 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    Always wanted a boy best friend

    that you didn't have to be serious with, it would be so much less drama than girls tbf. Boy best friend; definition of cute- for me ☺️
    colexo colexo 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    I want someone that I can love

    and romance with, someone that I feel relaxed with and someone that I can trust. I also want someone that can be my best friend and share some of the hobbies and life treasures that I like. I want someone that I can look into their eyes and tell them from the bottom of my heart...
    carroyo18 carroyo18 22-25, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I experience having a Boyfriend

    who is also my Best Friend but we're not together now because of Her EX .. He promise that he will come back to me Maybe someday .. Is it real or true that he will come back ?
    CamilleJane CamilleJane 16-17, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Lover And Friend

    I want a guy who shares my interests and passions.a soul mate who wants to do things with me,share experiences.to be the "other half " of me.Some one I can trust completely,whom I can confide in, and be myself,no pretense,Someone who doesn't want to rule or control me,who just...
    CMA1234 CMA1234 46-50, F 16 Responses Dec 12, 2011

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    Have I been lucky or perhaps unlucky?

    Or am I just odd?  To date every lover I have had has been a best friend first and a lover second.  I'm not sure why it worked out like that.  It certainly wasn't intentional or a conscious thought on my part.  I guess I just tend to end up with people who I am friends with...
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 6 Responses Jan 3

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    So I have a dilemma. It's a little nsfw though.

    I met this guy and we hit it off. He's my best friend in this tiny town that I live in. We joke all day and can spend hours nonstop together. The thing is he still lives with his mom and barely can afford to take care of himself. I don't mind paying for things but it's getting a...
    sylbi sylbi 18-21, F 10 Responses 2 days ago

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    I want to kiss and be kissed - long,

    sweet, hungry kisses. I want your arms around me, pressing me close. I want to feel your hands and mouth caressing the contours of my body. And I also want to be able to banter with you, match wits, talk about ideas. Am I just being greedy, or expecting too much?
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 9 Responses Mar 31

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    I want a relationship

    that is true and not full of lies. Im done with the fake people, i want someone real <3 ready to figure myself out and i think im gay /.
    Haylzz1996 Haylzz1996 16-17, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    If we can't be idiots together,

    and do normal friend things, for example: Sleep overs where we watch movies, make forts, eat junk food, etc etc. Our relationship isn't going to be fun. I want someone I can run around in pajamas with. Someone I can go camping with. Where sex isn't a major thing. Yes, okay. I...
    TheRisingPhoenix TheRisingPhoenix 16-17, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    You know what I think ,

    I think the best lovers are those who know you inside out , who've grown with you and seen what you're capable of , yes they are your true friend indeed . I want my best friend to be my lover
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 28

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    My boyfriend and I have been dating

    for almost a year and recently I just feel bored and uninterested in what we do. I really like him still, I just don't know what to do and I wish I could get some advice
    clairepalombo clairepalombo 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    it would be sooo nice to have

    that one special person in my life that i could count on. a man that truly cares about me inside and out. a man that accepts my flaws and will love me for me. a man that wont care whether or not im dolled up or if im walking around the house in old sweat pants with my hair...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 1

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    I am lucky to say I have this,

    my lover is definitely my best friend. I joined EP almost a year ago (under a different profile). My first profile was very sexual in nature and I made a lot of friends and exchanged photos etc. Then in the middle of last year, my stepdaughter attempted suicide, the way I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Jan 16

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    My Best Friend

    I once shared a year with a person who was, indeed my best friend. We shared every moment that we could. We made love with a passion that was beyond compare. we Talked into the wee hours, we danced, we made stir-fry at three in the morning and ate it before going to work after a...
    brokerichard brokerichard 56-60, M 4 Responses May 8, 2012

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    There ain't nothing better.

    Soul-Mate. Someone who fully understands you, protects you. You protect each other. You share such a deep special bond.
    NovaScotia902 NovaScotia902 22-25 1 Response Jun 20

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    I'm So Glad Your With Me

    I so want to find the perfect woman for me , one that I miss when she's not there and cherish always . She'd be my pal to have fun with and tell all my secrets to . We can share lifes joys and sorrows and build each other up , cheer and comfort each other . We could be happy...
    Tanengreen Tanengreen 36-40, M 13 Responses Jan 28, 2010

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    what do u do when ur lover was your best friend to ,,and you could talk about anything and just laugh over anything,, it hurt they left you,, but you knew it would happen ,, I the...
    notlcare notlcare 56-60 1 Response 5 days ago

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    She is staying with me for a week while my parents are out of town and she wears really short shorts and low cut tank tops around the house and I really just want to push her...
    phantomdragon phantomdragon 18-21, F Jul 23

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