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I Want Affection, Closeness, Intimacy

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    Right Here Yet Far Away!

    So you tangle with the excitement of affection to be close and share intimacy. I toy with so many emotions that it’s almost like being out of control on a roller coaster ride! I have that someone that I am completely affectionate with and I feel that back. The problem comes...
    inChange inChange 41-45, M 2 Responses May 23, 2013

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    I would make a very good wife.

    I would cook and clean everyday. I am a great listener, I would work to contribute to the bills, I am a motivator and I would support and love my husband forever, but no one wants me. There are women out there who complain about their husbands everyday. I can only dream of the...
    DanielleMaree DanielleMaree 26-30, F 9 Responses Oct 30

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    Hug Me, Kiss Me Please!

    Every day goes into the next I tell myself maybe today he will come home and kiss me, hug me or tell me he loves me. I kiss him but the kiss is never returned. It crushes me each and every single day. What did I do to deserve this?
    DeadHeartsAreEverywhere DeadHeartsAreEverywhere 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I love my husband of 3 years & i miss him.

    We used to talk all the time about anything. We used to take walks, play cards or board games & now if i ask to do something with him, he makes up an excuse & usually does something with one of the kids or goes on his computer. There is a huge lack of intimacy for almost a year...
    LauraHep LauraHep 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 10

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    I've been in the mood

    for some cuddling lately, but no one seems willing to help >_<. Anyone else have problem?
    MephXV MephXV 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 23

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    People are always asking what women really

    crave in men (and, by extension, men in women). Googling that, top response seems to bee Psychology Today that breaks it down to three things.Affection and desire (which, oddly enough, it describes as physical, intimacy). Loyalty and commitment (although again the description...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M Aug 20

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    But I'm scared when the opportunity arises.

    Lost 2 loves because I was freaked out. One said he loved me straight out with no warning and we hadn't ever dated. I just clammed up. Said nothing. I think if a man got to know me and eased in, I might be okay. But I'm not getting any younger!
    chemjanet chemjanet 51-55, F 4 Responses Jul 24

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    I love being close to my lover,

    being affectionate to and with him, and most of all intimate with him. I am in love so much with my husband of ten years. He is so much in love with me as well. We just had a baby three months ago. We love our special time in bed together when we undress each other, cuddle...
    olderblondemom olderblondemom 46-50, F 2 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I need huuugs and friends.

    .yet another weekend spent alone in my room doing nothing else but feeling down...
    notworthitatall notworthitatall 18-21, M Mar 22

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    Proximity...

    The only thing I need is closeness. It’s extremely simple. I don’t need to be the only woman in your heart, mind or body, but for what we are, I need it to be as close as it may be. Closeness requires honesty, respect, devotion, openness, intimacy. I do not need to own...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 6, 2013

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    I'm so eager to finally have this after

    so long and I get my hopes up every time I meet someone new
    Asdfghjklasdfghjklllllll Asdfghjklasdfghjklllllll 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 24

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    I think it's my turn.

    I've been a good mother, a good wife, a good provider with a good career. I have recently become visually challenged which has caused me to take a closer "look" at my life. My children are mostly grown and I don't want to feel like I need to b perfect anymore. Selfish but...
    drchil drchil 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 4

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    If I can give my all

    and my best to this vapid sack of hot air I was chasing for 18 months, imagine what I can do for someone who is a) NOT a vapid sack of hot air, and b) actually wants it!
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    I don't get touched enough.

    It doesn't even have to be sexual (but that is always nice!) I just want to be caressed and cherished and have someone run their hands through my hair and hold me.
    corvallis corvallis 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 5

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    We Do It To Ourselves. Now, If We Only Coud Figure Out Why And How!

    I'm an old, long married guy, but from what some of my (platonic...I've never cheated) female friends have shared with me, I suspect what I am about to say about people and relationships holds true for at least as many women as men. 1. You know that if all you wanted was sex, you...
    michaelborzoi michaelborzoi 61-65, M 8 Responses Jul 15, 2013

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    Need For Affection..

    Since I have no bf in my life, Im thirsty for affection. Each day I intend on staying busy but theres a trigger in my mind to be touched, wanted, desired, kissed, loved, caressed, and much more. I don't want to appear needy in the public eye and I don't show my affection I hide...
    wittywitty wittywitty 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 23, 2012

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    I am 41 years old and married.

    I have a 21 year old man that is trying hard to persuade me to be with him. I have told him in many kind ways that we cannot be together, but he continues in his advances. There is a part of me that wonders if I should give in to him.
    reedusgirl reedusgirl 41-45, F 13 Responses May 28

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    Sure I want that. Affection,

    closeness, intimacy... with someone other than myself. Or... my dog. I KNOW my dog loves me. She gives me all the affection, closeness and intimacy to be had from a dog. I got that. What I want is affection, closeness and intimacy with another human being... And, yes... I...
    flyinfish flyinfish 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 30

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    I do. Doesn't everybody?

    I will however,  reserve that for my life outside of EP. I have twice opened myself up to someone on here just to get hurt in the end.The first time was nobody's fault. The second time was because I put my trust in a player. I struggle with how wrong I was so I won't let...
    irremissible irremissible 46-50, F 3 days ago

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    This is a little more of a current issue then

    an experience. Anyways, single guy here which is fine at most times. The other time I just get really sunk in feelings. I'm not a huge sexual person so I feel like that's not the problem. I miss the closeness of deep and intimate eye contact and touch. This is really weighing...
    sbomber25 sbomber25 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 29

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    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 2

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    Yes to all three of those things.

    It's just that simple, no experience needed.
    SaveTheGeek SaveTheGeek 16-17, F Sep 21

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    That'S My Dream

    I'm a very affectionate person and caring. I want that feeling of having someone in my life to share that with me. I want someone that makes me feel special and shows me affection
    unforgettable77 unforgettable77 41-45, F 5 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    thao333 thao333 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    I Have Found So Much More Intimacy Than I Ever Thought Possible

    Up untill I met my present wife,I never knew how strong,and how deep intimacy could be.After 14 very short years of marriage to her-my third wife,I've never felt so loved,and truly cared for till We got married.I married her,knowing full well, just how many challenges we faced...
    mymindseye mymindseye 51-55, M 6 Responses Feb 23, 2011

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    I want this, too, all of it

    and more... love.
    AlwaysPersevere71 AlwaysPersevere71 41-45, M 1 Response May 28

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    Don't judge. Right or wrong,

    I met a really awesome person on EP. She has made me happy and brought me a lot if Joy.
    KYeng75 KYeng75 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 18

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    Not Just A Body Beside Me

    We look into each other's eyes before we even speak. We must communicate and not just talk. I must feel our connection. I must know that it is going to be more than physical. When we embrace, when we lay together, when we make love, I must know that you feel me, desire me. I must...
    lifetolive lifetolive 51-55, M 15 Responses Oct 29, 2011

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    Dear lotus: I miss your smile,

    your care,the way you caress my hand.How to forget the unforgettable...you are like a first love in some kind of way.I miss you when I don't see you and I still miss you when I see you. You are back to your old patterns.I try not to look inside your soul because I drown in it.You...
    4biandu 4biandu 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    So many times I have found myself asking:

    "What's wrong with me?" and "Am I really asking for so much?" I had different relationships in my life and even though I wasn't alone, I was still somehow feeling very lonely. I wanted that intimate relationship so much, that feeling of being understood, of being truly seen...
    SpiritSound SpiritSound 26-30, F May 28

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    In my book, Intimacy is not

    who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3 am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is about giving Someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is that person always in the back of your mind, No matter how distracted or busy you are. Its...
    PassionateBaker PassionateBaker 26-30, F 5 Responses Sep 26

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    I Really Do Want It All....

    This will most probably be this one & only story i will post with a sex reference.......for my own safety lolBut yes.....I Want Affection, Closeness, Intimacy..... but more then that i want it all....I want......a man that kisses me good morning, like im the most sexy woman he...
    deleted deleted 26-30 19 Responses May 16, 2012

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    Exactly

    Exactly what the post and title says. ;-) .
    bellabella411 bellabella411 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Loves Loss

    I am missing that most amazing feeling of touch! When a woman slides her hand down my arms or across my cheek and send chills down my spine! The feeling of her breath on my neck while in a long embrace feeling her against me while arms wander aimlessly across each others backs...
    slimmmerman slimmmerman 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 29, 2013

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    Add Love

    Add LOVE to the list; love, affection, closeness, and intimacy. I don't just WANT these, I NEED these, or I am nothing but a wilting flower. Life is an empty black hole without LOVE, without TOUCH, without an EMOTIONAL CONNECTION, to another human being. Having no one to share...
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2011

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    I Miss It More Than Anything

    ...not that I ever had it in my now ended marriage of 21 years, but I have had it...tasted it... and remember how awesome it felt to be loved, appreciated, respected, warmly embraced, touched and cared for...and how much I wanted to return the same for her every day...just...
    Passionateheartman Passionateheartman 46-50, M 6 Responses Oct 4, 2012

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    Affection ... Mmmm, Yes Please!

    I love this quote by Audrey Hepburn! I think human beings have an intense need for affection. Affection creates intimacy and closeness. Affection can be emotional or physical.  Sometimes just a look or a touch are enough to incite a passionate response.  A word, enough to...
    SolitaireDiamond SolitaireDiamond 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2013

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    I'm Starved For This

    I thought once you get married and you're happy that you wouldn't feel lonely or just simply having this emptiness inside. My wife and I don't have sex, she doesn't even pay attention to me when I get home from work. So I'm gone 12 hours a day while she's at home doing nothing. I...
    drummingguy drummingguy 31-35, M 4 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    Yes, every guy I've met

    so far, wasn't my type, have standard really high,?only wants sex, or we just stay as friends...
    dashuria dashuria 13-15, F Oct 19

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    I miss my boyfriend so much.

    Right now he's traveling around the world and I don't really know when I'll see him again. It sucks that he's always busy meeting new people and doing cool stuff but i always choose to understand. I just wish he'd set some time for me everyday just to talk or message each other...
    inkdgirl inkdgirl 31-35, F Jun 2

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    I crave it. Breathe it

    and dream of it. I need it bad.
    Rayven1997 Rayven1997 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    Today i've decided to love myself more.

    My boyfriend has been taking me for granted. He always finds time for other things he may think are more important than me. I vow to have more self-respect and not make those who treat me as an option my priority.
    inkdgirl inkdgirl 31-35, F 7 Responses Jun 14

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    Dire Straits - Hand In HandThe sky is crying

    the streets are full of tearsRain come down wash away my tearsAnd all this writing on the wallOh I can read between the lines loRain come down forgive this dirty townRain come down and give this dirty townA drink of water a drink of wineIf I been hard on you I never chose to beI...
    SmartKat SmartKat 46-50, F 2 Responses Aug 26

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    So, for anyone who has read my stories,

    you know that I want an unconventional sort of family in the future. I fully support a nude, sexually open family. I think that a family marriage bed is probably the best thing ever and I love the idea of sexual freedom in the house. That being said, I'm 25 and pure as fresh...
    eraticmoods eraticmoods 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    Can Lonely Be A Good Thing?

    After finally putting an official end to an on/off disaster of a relationship, the loneliness is getting more intense. I'm in a place now where I have decided to stay single for a while so that I can focus on me.. As cliche as it sounds. At 28, I'm realizing I haven't had a truly...
    SweetGG SweetGG 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    Far Too Wrong

    Is it soo wrong to want a guy to be "on the same page" as me? To want somebody to understand that I need them close emotionally and mentally, I long for the days where I can write letters to the man I want to love, have long phone calls into the early morning, to give and receive...
    Diamond321 Diamond321 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    Longing To Be Touched.

    I wonder how many people are going to click thinking Im going to talk about sex. Guess what. Not me. I am a VERY VERY VERY cuddly person. When I'm in relationships, physical contact and intimacy is super important to me, although I think it's just my ADHD Hugging, cuddling, face...
    lon3lygam3r lon3lygam3r 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 24, 2013

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    Sometimes you fall in love with the person you

    feel is perfect for you but like they say the honeymoon stage ends really quick. Just to wake up and feel loved shouldn't be a task. A man that marries you should want to you to stay happy always. I want love and affection back in my life
    chanel0408 chanel0408 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 18

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    I want someone I can be happy with

    and share my feeling and show the real me and just spend time cuddling and watching movies
    Sproketsocet Sproketsocet 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    My marriage lacks affection,

    closeness and intimacy. We don't kiss, hug or hold hands....no date nights....the main priority is to raise our kids...we talk a lot, however, when it comes to intimacy, it is dismal...I have expressed my desires to my husband for more affection and have even tried to show him...
    DreamWing DreamWing 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 19

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    I want to feel warm. I want love.

    I want know what it feels like to hug a girl, cuddle with her, kiss her and be able to stare into her eyes knowing she feels the same way back. I want to touch and to be touched ( I don't mean that in a sexual way but that's also fine c:). I've heard girls feel fragile in a mans...
    Classicalbird Classicalbird 18-21, M 1 Response Oct 14

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