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    This is something I have never had- self

    confidence. I have always measured it by the way people around react to my actions. I have always let people decide my worth and guess what, I have always been proven worthless! And all that I do is sit and cry about why me? why am I always the wrong one? why do I have to get...
    angelcares angelcares 22-25, F 12 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    It sucks not to be confident.

    Worrying about how you look and how other people see you is almost crippling to me. I want to be able to walk out of my house and feel comfortable in my own skin. I'm very over weight, decent height, short hair and an odd face (not that ugly not pretty). I pretend to have...
    LovelyLady333 LovelyLady333 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    edwardg20 edwardg20 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    I just wanna know how ugly I am

    as I truly think I am ugly,I just want more self-confidence to start over
    jessicatong jessicatong 26-30, F 29 Responses Jan 21

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    sophiejayneee sophiejayneee 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2014

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    My self confidence is zero.

    Especially public speaking, I get terrified. I had a coursework to prssent a presentation to the class (about 15 people) about the chosen topic. I totally skipped it and lost 7% of the final marks. Felt like this is a problem when I start looking for jobs and getting interviews...
    pam88 pam88 18-21, F 9 Responses Feb 10

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    I care too much about what other people are

    going to think of me. I know how stupid it is and want to stop caring but every time I try to do something that takes confidence, talking to a girl at the bar for example, something holds me back. I have friends that are completely confident in themselves and pay absolutely no...
    turbotang turbotang 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I'm so tired of looking in the mirror

    and hating my reflection. I'm tired of people getting frustrated with me because I can't accept their compliments. It's been getting so bad I have to cover my face when I walk by a mirror or else I break down. I'm just sick of hating myself. I want to be okay with my stretch...
    hauntxme hauntxme 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    I am really doubting myself these days.

    I don't know if it's the holidays, or my professional learning curve or what. It's hard to be me right now. Anyone else feel that way?
    laurieb623 laurieb623 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I want to look in the mirror

    and be proud and happy with what I see not disappointed and disgusted
    lornaxox lornaxox 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    Let me start off by saying 2 days ago i was

    hanging out with my friend at in n out in the parking lot just eating our food in my car. While we are eating this group of girls comes up to us. I thought one was super cute but didnt say much. But anyway we start talking and then it turns out we have to leave. Okay so the next...
    Anmq24 Anmq24 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 8

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    The Sad Story Of Me.

    I used to think I was pretty. Maybe in 1st grade, then I didn't care about looks, I was fine. A kid. In second grade that is when it began, my sister would always call me ugly, fat, dumb. I was a kid. I believed her. I wasn't fat. But it made me so sad. When I developed my...
    AreYouMadCool AreYouMadCool 18-21, F 10 Responses May 10, 2013

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    😔 everyday I'm told how beautiful I am .

    . Every single day .. I wish I could see myself through their eyes
    NoTuRtYpE78 NoTuRtYpE78 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 24, 2014

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    kissmissnikki kissmissnikki 26-30, F 9 Responses Oct 27, 2014

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    You think it's fine and

    that it's stoppable and you don't think that your bad because your not in the hospital but did you know it takes just one time, it's like drinking and getting high, you can get addicted and now you feel restricted but wearing long clothing and constantly getting convicted and...
    olivias78 olivias78 18-21, F Feb 14

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    On the outside, I look really self-confident.

    My friends tell me all the time that if I wanted a girlfriend, I could literally just ask anyone. Problem is, I don't want just anyone. I want someone who I can have an intelligent conversation with. Someone who likes to write poetry, who loves art and music and dancing. I want...
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 12 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I really hate myself

    and my personality, I truly suck, I can feel like garbage and immediately pass to feel fine like in a second, and the next second I'm garbage again. I hate this feeling, its like having a crush on yourself and not knowing if you like you back.
    uglyandskinny uglyandskinny 18-21, F 9 Responses Jan 24

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    I feel great this day

    and that's fantastic.
    Awakenjeff Awakenjeff 26-30, M Feb 17

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    I'm writing this cos I'm really low.

    And I don't wanna talk to anyone. I just wanna tell someone. I'm really losing confidence in myself. Noone wants to hang with me or flirt. If I go to party, nobody gives me a second glance. I feel worthless. Cos no guy wants to be with me and no Person wants to be my frnd. And...
    Desert9 Desert9 22-25 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    OK I hate this I look in mirror

    and all I see is ugly I hate fealing this way I just want to think I'm beautiful but I can't I'm over weight and I know it and when I have to go to school I just want to hide I've been told I was hot before but I just can't see it and I don't know any boys who like me though so...
    obesepeoplerock obesepeoplerock 13-15, F 8 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I wish I had more Self-confidence

    so I could ask out this girl at school
    crossdresser1065 crossdresser1065 13-15, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm what people consider a "bum",

    yet I have no intentions of going down this path. I've got my self in a hole after I left school, I have no idea what to do! I've developed anxieties from being in this hole to long. I have great ambitions and things I want to achieve, I want to make new friends and meet girls...
    Sourceofalex Sourceofalex 16-17, M 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Growing up we pick at our selfs noticing all

    our flaws / imperfections . Some may think what you think is beautiful is in fact ugly , it goes both ways . We're not always satisfied with what we have that we search for that one other half that makes feel whole . But when that other half starts to point out your...
    Bittersweetgl Bittersweetgl 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 10

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    I just really don't care about myself anymore i

    just wanna be a hoe like so what because this love **** won't get you nowhere but damn near suicidal
    catema catema 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    shakarar shakarar 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I bought some sexy lingerie to wear

    for my husband and I put it on and all I could see is how fat I am. Ever since I've had my second child I've tried everything to lose the weight, diet exercise even tried practically starving myself and I am stuck here at 180 lbs. 20lbs heavier than before my second child, 40lbs...
    kayroxyoursox kayroxyoursox 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    I give people way too much power in influencing

    how I feel about myself. Often times I find myself constantly readjusting what I say to my friends (jokes, opinions..etc) in anticipation of what I think they want to hear. Their approval/disapproval sends me into highs and lows. I would like to say I don't need their...
    Tinzers Tinzers 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    BeKinD2Ev1 BeKinD2Ev1 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    Funny story. This girl told me

    that my eyebrows are "on fleek" and i looked at hers and said "yea yours are nice" but she was actually complimenting me. That just shows how much confidence i have in myself (none) haha. But it felt really good getting complimented!
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 9

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    Sometimes I go on hot

    or not and I click "hot" on all the unattractive girls because I feel like everyone should feel like someone likes them.
    brganger brganger 22-25, M 4 Responses Aug 2, 2014

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    Who would've ever guessed

    that being married could actually rob you of your self worth and confidence. I know I never did. I have been married for 25 years and of that to an alcoholic for 15 years. I never thought that all those times just laying in bed listening to him go on and on would affect me so...
    Blurple70 Blurple70 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 26

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    MyCrookedSmile MyCrookedSmile 22-25, F 16 Responses 4 days ago

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    I had a lot last night.

    .. Now it's gone .~.
    UnfinishedStar UnfinishedStar 18-21, F Feb 15

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    I've always had no confidence

    and low self esteem because my whole life I have been told that I'm fat and need to lose weight when in reality I was actually at a healthy weight all through high school. Then my senior year of high school I had a mental break down and ended up in a psych ward for attempted...
    Thatonegreyeyedgirl Thatonegreyeyedgirl 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I actually like how I look

    before going to school or such..but whenever I come in contact with other people, my confidence falls down. Like, completely.
    nyanneon nyanneon 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Dear self-confidence,

    I miss you a lot. Specially in these periods of hard working. Building up self-confidence is difficult, I do sport, I try to stay positive, I try to be myself, I try to like myself.. wait, I really like myself, so..what's wrong with me ? I need motivation, and I can found it, it...
    CrookedMat CrookedMat 26-30, M 4 Responses Feb 8

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    I've watched an episode of Dr.

    Phil today in youtube and I loved this line, "Everybody can be beautiful if you love who you are." So smile people, we're all beautiful.
    HwangNeulRin HwangNeulRin 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 7, 2014

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    My parents are never very affectionate.

    I feel unloved and unwanted.
    maisonscarlet maisonscarlet 16-17, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm that girl that likes to take pictures just

    to get the compliments. It boots my self esteem! And gives me more confidence in my every day life. There are those that give me a lot of crap for it but if it makes me happier, then whats the big deal?
    youdontknowmylife youdontknowmylife 18-21, F 19 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    BeKinD2Ev1 BeKinD2Ev1 22-25, M 1 day ago

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    I think I am losing my self confidence in bed.

    Thinking about it in bed makes it worse! And think about that makes it even more worse! I can't get out of my mind!
    Masculine101 Masculine101 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 21

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    There are times like these

    where I'm just waiting for the storm to pass and I don't feel like trying. I don't want to do anything but cry. This emptiness in my heart is getting bigger and travels to my throat from holding in my screams for so long. I could go on and on about why I'm feeling this way...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    I want my self confidence back.

    My life is so stressful that I have put myself on the back burner, focusing on my kids and husband. I give 100% all the time and get nothing in return. My husband is a wonderful man but is programmed so oddly. He works 70+hrs a week and then drinks liquor like crazy on the...
    ddoss18 ddoss18 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    I just hate how I look.

    There's so so so many things I would change about my face. I've developed a fairly recent phobia of a camera facing me; I just think I'm too hideous to be seen in a picture. I've no cheekbones, a large undefined jawline and a large forehead. I also hate my smile so much, it's...
    LittleTigerBell LittleTigerBell 18-21, F 8 Responses a week ago

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    well I finally did it

    and she said she was going to wait until she's 16
    crossdresser1065 crossdresser1065 13-15, M 4 days ago

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    The People On Here Are SO Positive ,

    I Love It <3 . Finally Something New In My Life ..
    FlawsAndAll FlawsAndAll 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    I have a weird habit

    and I don't know how to express my feelings about it
    flopsycat123 flopsycat123 13-15, F Feb 20

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    In 2015 I will like myself.

    That's what I'm going to write on my dry erase board for New Years. I'm tired of caring what people think and being so hard on myself. I am not an ugly woman. I just have a lot of flaws. My health caused a lot of what's going on with my appearance and I just need to accept it...
    jesscharnelle jesscharnelle 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 13, 2014

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    I'm tired of being so weak

    and get hurt easily by people who think they know better than anyone in this world and I cnt fight back, what can I really do to defend myself
    Lifeisawar Lifeisawar 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    I really have a problem with letting people in.

    Because when they try, I always push them away. I don't even know why but it really bothers me..
    kindofmagic kindofmagic 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 15

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    The fact the society has made every single

    person wish they were someone that they're not, ******* kills me. I hate that I walk through school worried about what other people think of me. Because of society, I hate everything about myself
    lexibabby lexibabby 18-21, F 8 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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