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I Want Out of This Marriage

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 11 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 11 Responses May 3, 2008

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I'm 28 single and sick and tired of men who take love for granted who think marriage is a game. I want a marriage that lasts, even without love I just want a friend and his...
    monetclawed monetclawed 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    I'm a 35 year old African lady, married with four lovely kids, even though people see me and think I'm 22, never married let alone 4 kids . I will be married for 13 years in April...
    Imasadwife Imasadwife 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    UNDERSTAND THIS AND YOU WILL UNDERSTAND ME. i´m 24 years old colombian guy, very outgoing, i have good values, i care for my friends and family a great deal and very important for...
    juanelgrande juanelgrande 22-25, M Apr 8

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    I am married for only a few months now and my husband is drinking everyday and smokes weed. I knew he had this habit but never knew it was this bad. He spends a lot of money on his...
    ilhasol ilhasol 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    March 22 at 8 am my marriage officially ended... my husband is very sad.. I am the only one he has ever loved, and the thought of him finding a new girl makes him feel sick... not...
    WendyBlabs WendyBlabs 36-40, F Mar 24

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    My mother passed away peacefully on Monday, March 24, 2014. She had battled long and hard against the ravaging effects of years of smoking cigarettes. The last thing my mother...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 28 Responses Mar 27

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    Hello everyone, I am a 21 year old married man. Until now my wife (21 years old as well) and I have been living in our house which we bought 5 months ago. We have been having...
    jbp1992 jbp1992 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    So today is my anniversary but we are separated, second one in a roll my husband and I haven't celebrated. To be honest I wasn't really looking forward to this day, it started off...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I'm not "unhappily married". I love my husband and I know he is the one God appointed for me. What the issue is "fear", I've been hurt before in my relationship. I've also lost...
    ADonya ADonya 31-35, F 9 Responses Mar 23

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    People have misconstrued the idea of marriage. It was never about love, it was about commitment. You would sign a paper agreeing that you would always be together. That was the...
    mydays1994 mydays1994 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 27

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    I want to tell a story of how a little faith and an offering changed my life it was 19 yrs ago last Friday,,,I had been listning to Pastor Rod Parsley ,,He was preaching on the...
    rckt148 rckt148 51-55, M 19 hrs ago

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    My dad cheated on my mom with my best friend. I had just made friends with this girl and her husband and children. In the short time I've gotten to know them, I became attached...
    duClo duClo 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I dont have fear, its just pain, but I relate to being bored. Thats what I say in my head all day. I am so bored with life. I am so over the human existance. Eat sleep school, eat...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 21

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    I was raised in the valley, there were shadows and death. Got out alive but with scars I can't forget. This kid back in school, subdued and shy. An orphan and a sister and unseen...
    cinnamonpie cinnamonpie 22-25, F Mar 21

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    I have had my whole Brazilian area competed, love the smoothness all the time now. As a closeted crossdresser how much more can I do without raising too much suspicion? Do I really...
    Cindycharm Cindycharm 36-40, T 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    ♫ "If I let you in you'll just want out...if you follow me you'll only get lost...if you try to get closer we'll only lose touch, you already know to much..don't go..." ♫
    RadRen RadRen 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    That would be nice, eh? Then the few people who give a shitt about my existence wouldn't blame themselves. But sadly, it's not that easy. If I want out, I'm going to have to grow a...
    DancingWithFire DancingWithFire 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    My life is a sham. I am a 37 year old female and have been married to my husband for 2 years and together for 4. He has never been interested in sex with me but we did long...
    Pattycakey Pattycakey 36-40, F 6 Responses 1 hr ago

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    my husband left to US and he will be taking me in another 2 months....and his parents are forcing me ...taking me to all their relatives house..whom I dont even know and all these...
    needemotionalsupport needemotionalsupport 22-25, F 10 hrs ago

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    I have read many posts now, and I cannot claim to know what is the best route for others. I love my wife and I have amazing young kids, but our problem with sex goes back from...
    travelight travelight 41-45, M 7 hrs ago

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    I'm not married but I was engaged and I had to break it off it did hurt because I really loved him but I'm a sex addict and I thought I could change that and he wanted me to...
    June4U June4U 22-25, F 11 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I recently decided to go the outsource route, and although the thrill of it was exciting I only felt more alone afterwards. I didn't have sex but I think or know I probably would...
    LBiddy LBiddy 36-40, F 6 Responses 55 mins ago

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    People keep asking me whether i'm married. Why? 1, do i look like i should be married? Or,,look like im married? With kids maybe? 😕 2, Why would my status concerns u anyway? It...
    bellabong bellabong 26-30, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I have started living a selfless life. My son only has me and my husband (as a father figure) with whome I have a sexless marriage. The rest of his immediate family hv passed away...
    Mamta123 Mamta123 41-45, F 4 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    No, you don't! Save yourself for marriage! Poor, naive, young girls.. 😵
    majesticmaddy majesticmaddy 16-17, F 5 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    The non-Playmate Search of 2013 I should have written this story months ago. As both my BF and I are fans of Playboy and have been for many years we anticipated a Playboy Playmate...
    elainepetersen68 elainepetersen68 41-45, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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