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I Want Out of This Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 47 People

    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 9 Responses May 3, 2008

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 10 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2012

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Dec 6, 2012

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    "What's the matter?" "Please find another name for me." "I realized what I said wasn't right. You're the children's mum." "Yes, thank you". "We're friends." "Yes."
    Injoy1767 Injoy1767 46-50, F 6 days ago

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    I just don't understand. We're both passive-aggressive, which makes this all even that much more fun...*sarcasm*. But I love my knucklehead deeply, and that is why I'm still here...
    lonelygirl222 lonelygirl222 41-45, F 15 Responses Mar 22

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    To start this experience off, yes I did take sleeping pills because I hadn’t slept in 3 days straight and I was to the point of exhaustion and my stress levels from my occupation...
    paganknight72 paganknight72 41-45, M Mar 19

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    Ok, so where do I begin? 7 years ago I met a man on line. I to him talked for just a very short time, before I got a wild hair and decided I would drive 600 miles to go meet this...
    mommatrish mommatrish 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    The longer I am at EP, the more this experience is meaningful to me. Sure, it sometimes reflects only that the person who wrote it is tired of being innundated with undesired and...
    TakingStock TakingStock 51-55, M 3 days ago

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    I am in love with a married a woman whom I deeply admire and want to spend the rest of my life with. We both are pretty much of the same age. Let me tell about this wonderful...
    super36 super36 36-40, M Apr 8

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    I am in trouble. My best friend and I went out a while ago. it didn't work out, partially because I have some intolerable qualities that i wasn't fixing fast enough, it was long...
    Yamaxanadu Yamaxanadu 18-21, T 1 hr ago

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    When I got home that night my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes...
    gummball gummball 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    It's not unusual for my Husband to be physically affectionate. We have a very close, very loving marriage. We're soul-mates who have been married 24 years (I'm 42, he's 52). He...
    xxLionessxx xxLionessxx 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 30

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    Throughout all of history no society ever accepted marriage to be between two people of the same gender. There were plenty of societies that practiced polygamy and polyandry or a...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 16-17, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    I have been with my husband for almost 6 years. 3 of those years we've been married. It at all started like a fairy tale we were head over heals in love! Our first year we got...
    sadblueyes88 sadblueyes88 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    I am 30 years old, on my second marriage. I entered this relationship shortly after I was divorced from my first husband. I guess you could say I was done with my first marriage...
    MarieM13 MarieM13 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    When I met my wife she had an almost insatiable sexual apatite. But, she was a full blown out of control alcoholic. The day before she went into rehab, she was hospitalized for...
    Ivithos Ivithos 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    So my lover says she can't be the "shadow woman" anymore, but WOW did we ever create some seriously amazing memories in 4 1/2 months of finally seeing each other after nearly 2...
    LoveExplorer78 LoveExplorer78 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I have made mistakes in my marriage. I worked too many hours and traveled over 100 days out of the year. I always was supportive. I tool an interest in my wife's activities and...
    mysecretstuff72 mysecretstuff72 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    I feel like I'm in a rare and special situation. I would love to know if anyone else is too - I feel very alone in this. When I was 18 I moved out and landed a very lucky position...
    seekingafrica seekingafrica 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Moscow clubs capitalize on lonely women starved for affection. Women sitting alone together in a café would not give most observers pause, but in Russia, a group of women alone...
    1stworldview 1stworldview 22-25, M Mar 26

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    Once upon a time, I came out. Nobody cared. Everyone was cool with gays and lesbians... Nobody was surprised even in elementary school. I got older though, no it wasn't a phase but...
    LionLady1 LionLady1 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    I CANNOT BELIEVE WHAT I AM READING... I have read so many stories of sexless marriages on here.. No intimacy! I am so sorry for many of you. I was treating my spouse very similar...
    KeraJo75 KeraJo75 36-40 5 Responses Mar 25

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    I kinda need help coming out
    RylandGay RylandGay 13-15, M 3 hrs ago

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    Vent, cry and cut. I know whining and hurting myself won't solve my problems but I need it to keep my mind sane. I'm feeling really low right now and I need a medium to let it all...
    lunaticluna lunaticluna 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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