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I Want Out of This Marriage

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 10 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 11 Responses May 3, 2008

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I have had problems with the in-law family since the beginning of our relationship and by all means they are not small problems. 8 years down the line and 5years into our...
    horizon84 horizon84 26-30, F Nov 10

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    i wanted everything like a home ,,,,love ,, children's and sex......what do you wanted out life....
    pullupgirl102 pullupgirl102 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 5

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    Was gonna stay. But want out. Yet am stuck. Truck not fully legal. Trailer not road safe. Funds never close to helping fix much. Its fokt.
    OddlyScintilating OddlyScintilating 46-50, M Nov 7

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    I am in a relationship. It has been almost 3 years. I have struggled almost the entire relationship with urges to leave. I have justified staying by saying things to myself like...
    Shaman1985 Shaman1985 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 2

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    We used to be friends, we used to spend hours just talking even though he had a girlfriend I fell for him, I never told him so we remained friends through the years I left home got...
    nounou0728 nounou0728 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    I'm tired of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the bills and the 4 kids. I'm overwhelmed of doing the same thing day after day after day without being able to take time for me. I...
    Blanche08 Blanche08 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 4

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    i feel stressed and tired i have so much pressure and hurt i cant stand the fact that we live in an unfair world racism war rape murder poverty depression the list goes on i...
    sophiejon sophiejon 18-21 Nov 15

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    I'm 25 and I joined this group 3 years ago. I made a post about being unhappy in my marriage over 2 years ago and guess what? I'm STILL miserable! I hate the thought of having to...
    Lovely0521 Lovely0521 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    This is my first time writing. I looked for awhile online to find a site I could remain anonymous and feel safe. This is the only thing I could do to not cheat on my husband. I...
    naomiR1 naomiR1 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 9

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    Want to know the Truth? Q: Is using sex to get what I want all that bad? A: Yes. First of all, sex is not a "strategic move," like in a game. It is so much more. God created sex...
    believermee believermee 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 5

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    The title speaks for itself, All I want for Christmas is you. I want our marriage to become better and better each minute. Stronger then it ever was.. I just want you, my best...
    Titaniumlove Titaniumlove 41-45, F 1 Response Nov 14

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    I feel lost... If I want my marriage I need to go thru the rest of my life not addressing anything with him that will make him look right or left....he doesn't care to hear any...
    Laniesheart Laniesheart 51-55, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    It's getting harder and harder to wait. I am so impatient. So many girls I went to high school with are having babies one after the other all around me, and I can't stand that it's...
    FutureSouthernMama28 FutureSouthernMama28 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 16

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    It's getting harder and harder to wait. I am so impatient. So many girls I went to high school with are having babies one after the other all around me, and I can't stand that it's...
    FutureSouthernMama28 FutureSouthernMama28 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 16

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    It's getting harder and harder to wait. I am so impatient. So many girls I went to high school with are having babies one after the other all around me, and I can't stand that it's...
    FutureSouthernMama28 FutureSouthernMama28 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 16

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    Not now ovbiously because I'm only 15. Everyone keeps asking me what I want to do for a career. Many people have this one career that they want really bad whether its a doctor or...
    Jessica4729 Jessica4729 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 4

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    I can't stay in this damn house. This damn town. I'm trapped. I want out. I need it. Now.
    trappedgirl17 trappedgirl17 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 17

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Marriage There are two kinds of things in life, basically: logical, and emotional. Emotionally driven things tend to turn out badly, for me anyway. I’ve been in love 7 or more...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F Nov 11