Post
Experience Project iOS Android Apps | Download EP for your Mobile Device

I Want Out of This Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 46 People

    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 9 Responses May 3, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Jan 15, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 23, 2013

    Your Response

    Cancel

    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Dec 6, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 20, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

    Your Response

    Cancel

    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

    Your Response

    Cancel

    Related Experiences

    Since I started going out with my partner 4 and a half months ago, I can completely see this lasting between us and is both wanting to settle down together. There's a rather large...
    CiorstaidhNicAnToisich CiorstaidhNicAnToisich 18-21, F 1 Response 45 mins ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    i get so wet from making out, my panties get soaked, give me a long hot kiss and my kitten is ready to take your manhood anyway you want to give it.
    ExhibitionistDaughter ExhibitionistDaughter 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I've reached out to a lot of ladies over the years around me even on these social sites asking them out on dates to test the chemistry and see if there is a connection we can build...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed 31-35, M 1 hr ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Sick day as a toddler teen One day a few months back I woke up not feeling well. ACHOO! I sneezed without covering my mouth. Most toddlers I see do not cover there mouths when...
    coalburn coalburn 16-17, F 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    "Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence." Aristotle said this more than 2,000 years ago. And it still holds true today. What is...
    nivanvc nivanvc 36-40, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Is it somehow me? I need some honest advice/thoughts from complete strangers. So I have been married for just over 2 years and haven't had bouncy cuddles for just over a year. I...
    Goneburger76 Goneburger76 36-40, M 6 Responses 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My twin and I came out to each other but we had known for ages we were gay.
    BrunoAndSammy BrunoAndSammy 13-15, M 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    All my life I've been friends with girls. My best friend is a girl, we're really different but we get along pretty well. But I miss a guy's company. A few years back I were friends...
    lonelyrider11 lonelyrider11 18-21, M 4 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I hate it when every time I go to my mum's, I am subjected to having to watch her and my husband argue. I'm tired of being the one stuck in the middle of them both all of the time...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls 31-35, F 7 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    What I have to come realize in my sexless marriage is it is not the sexual acts per se that I miss most, but it is the intimacy and connection that comes before/during/after sex...
    rustyblueday rustyblueday 46-50, F 14 Responses 22 hrs ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I thought it might be a little narcissistic to do one of these but I love reading them so I figured, why not. Here goes. 1. My name is Spencer 2. I'm a senior in high school 3...
    JerseyBoy16 JerseyBoy16 16-17, M 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I'm the best husband in the world. Here's why. Today I wanted to bring in the clean washing but it was all damp so I can't do the clean washing either because the clothes line is...
    Kennypants Kennypants 41-45, M 1 day ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Thanks, but NO Thanks All The Same!!!   Thanks for calling! LOL As a result of having my old contact information pubished on EP, I recieved 1400+ calls in 24...
    LadyGypsy LadyGypsy 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Things have been horrible between me and my husband for some time now. No intimacy , him seeing other women, me not caring about it, you know all the signs we are more friends than...
    KittyKurious KittyKurious 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Writing within the realm of salvageable marriages, I'm thinking, maybe one of the reasons why we have NC relapses is because we haven't really committed ourselves in repairing our...
    SundayGlory33 SundayGlory33 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    1. I do not believe I will finish this. 2. I am 5'2" AND THREE QUARTERS. 3. I really speak out when something feels wrong to me. 4. I'm an 'INFJ' 5. I believe looking at the world...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    My husband calls me names and puts down my flaws every time he is mad. He takes one small thing like a difference of opinion and blows it completely out of proportion by telling me...
    Pennyheart Pennyheart 31-35, F 4 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I never want to have children. For some people it seems like an impossible concept that a female does not to mother children. It is an individual choice, some women want to have...
    moonlightflower moonlightflower 22-25, F 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    Ok this statement couldn't be more true. My post is going to be a confusing one.. As some of you have read my past posts I seem to still love someone who clearly doesn't want me...
    Beanbella Beanbella 31-35, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel
    I have been married 18 years. 2 Kids. Can count on both hands how many times we have had sex in the past decade. We've been to therapy twice. We have had hard conversations. I have...
    rustyblueday rustyblueday 46-50, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

    Your Response

    Cancel