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I Want Out of This Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 48 People

    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Dec 6, 2012

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 9 Responses May 3, 2008

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Jan 15, 2013

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2012

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2012

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2012

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    So I am 19 years old and currently a sophmore in college. I come from a whacky family. My dad left my mom when I was young. My mom was actually my dads mistress and when he got her...
    aforms26 aforms26 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    I want to be happy I want to feel beautiful I want someone to listen to me I want to be loved I want to love I want to trust I want to forgive I want to forget I want my daughter...
    dv8tn dv8tn 31-35, F 2 hrs ago

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    See what I don't understand is why people would want to wait until marriage. Even if you do wait until you're married it doesn't mean the marriage is gonna last forever...
    blackheartlover blackheartlover 16-17, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I believe sex can be had just for the fun of it. I don't think you HAVE to want children if you have sex. Why else would we have birth control?
    gish1893 gish1893 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I am a former teen runaway. A long story shortened. My stepmom was bi polar before we even knew the term existed. She was pregnant and married at 14. Because of this she had...
    LAstreets LAstreets 46-50, F 2 hrs ago

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    I definitely didn't wait until marriage as I have a bun in the oven!
    lisaW16 lisaW16 16-17, F 5 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I was struggling big time having been seperated from my now ex wife. She was in a relationship &it down spiraled me into a very dark place. Alone,scared,confused I wanted out...
    Sugasug Sugasug 41-45, M 3 hrs ago

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    .....i only use this tactic when dealing with street thugs or the 5-0. otherwise, if you are a "true" friend you don't have to give me anything and I'd be more than happy to give...
    StreetgirlnamedDesire504 StreetgirlnamedDesire504 36-40 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    You can tell a lot from Facebook. Liars are always found out in the end.
    Steviepro Steviepro 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Afterall its sex; its birth right. Its futility to wait till marriage and to have sex. I can't wait till that time. I was pleased and pleasured my senses.
    smooch69 smooch69 18-21, F 9 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It depends hugely on my friends and my mood. I usually go out if someone asks me and I can see myself enjoying at least some part of what that entails while not feeling as if I'm...
    FittingUsername FittingUsername 22-25, M 13 hrs ago

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    Post 006 The end of Genesis Chapter 8 shows the world going back to normal. Genesis Chapter 9 is a covenant between god and Noah. Genesis Chapter 10 is a lot of lineage with the...
    DGA2000 DGA2000 61-65 14 hrs ago

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    I live in a mostly sexless marriage and it freaking sucks! We've been thru it all. Drs, therapy, talks,ultimatums , misunderstanding, understanding, pretending, lying / being...
    Micromint Micromint 26-30, F 3 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Lately I've been feeling/thinking that I would be better off with out my husband. I love him very much but I just feel better when he isn't around. I've grown accustomed to being...
    URLOVED4EVA URLOVED4EVA 26-30, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    We met 5-6 years ago and our relationship was going like any other. We talk a lot, spend lot of time together, kissing, hugging, laughing...we couldn't wait next time to see each...
    auspergerica auspergerica 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    i want out to lazy go do a dam thing about it ,no desire not to care
    miimii0069 miimii0069 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My mum and dad want me to be in an arranged marriage when I'm older. I feel like I can't live with someone I've just been introduced to for the rest of my life. The thing is is...
    Wantsomethingtostoptheboredom Wantsomethingtostoptheboredom 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Hi Folks Well, in 2009 while working to try and get through a work-related (and marriage-related, although unbeknownst to me at the time) burnout, I wrote my fist post on...
    Mrcellophane Mrcellophane 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I feel so lost right now. My marriage blew up, and I'm pregnant with our second child, battling depression, and I've made mistakes as much as my husband... I cheated on him with 3...
    Starkizzed21 Starkizzed21 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    Here's 2min40 sec of how to empathize. This is a building block for love and can lead you out of a sexless marriage I believe as well as many other relationship problems, family...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M a week ago

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    I was watching the reality tv series Arranged and I thought wow, it must be therapeutic to go through the what ifs and shoulds before you get hitched to a person someone else chose...
    zizna zizna 36-40, F Aug 23

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