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I Want Out of This Marriage

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 11 Responses May 3, 2008

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 10 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    I'm in a relationship but I want out. He sucks and I'm so loosing interest. Plus he's really mean to me. He manipulated me into thinking everything is fine. He also demands me to...
    MyExceptionalLife MyExceptionalLife 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    I am a 22 year old server, I always seem like the happiest person to my tables but as soon as I'm out of the restaurant I immediately feel miserable, helpless, worthless, and...
    Toxil Toxil 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    THANK YOU ALL!!!! To everyone whom submits to ILISM, you are helping me muster the strength I need to tell my spouse what I want. You are helping me to tread my own path. I...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M Aug 11

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    These are just random thoughts of mine recently as I have gone about my journey. Probably not very clear, so apologies if its a rough read:) My divorce was absolutely the hardest...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    So husband and I had our yearly fight finally. He's been feeling pressure from going to court and our drastically reduced budget, I've been feeding the press from my little side...
    TheWomanYouHate TheWomanYouHate 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I WANT MY FREEDOM! - A realtor showed me a townhouse rental today that's perfect for my post-SM life - it's big enough for me and my kids, sunny, well appointed, permits pets (I...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 8 Responses Aug 8

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    I got an email from him today. It first asked about the truck, then asked what are we to do? Says that i'm stringing him along, that he still loves me and believes in us, etc. That...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 11 Responses Aug 21

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    I wish I could do college over again. My whole life I played sports. I went to a good catholic high school met a wonderful girl my junior year and received a scholarship to play...
    LifeChanges123 LifeChanges123 22-25, M Aug 21

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    I want to find love again..... I really want to. I mean, yeah i have a boyfriend, and yeah he cares for me. But I just don't think he's the right guy. I mean, he's a good guy...
    BENDrowned BENDrowned 18-21, F Aug 1

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    I want out. I want out. I want out. He says love should be enough...but it's all one sided. I don't love him...worse...I'm indifferent. With two small kids...I feel trapped. I am...
    MyLifeIsNow MyLifeIsNow 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Sweet guy, we agreed on the fact that we have been hurt a lot in past relationships, after a 3 months, I got bored, he wasn't the one for me, he would ask me for money as an...
    melonladyy melonladyy 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    “I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.” – Mark Twain But random inspirational...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M Aug 7

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    I just can't take it anymore. I want to leave this awful place. I almost killed myself by driving off the highway tonight but I didn't. **** everything! I hate my life I want out!
    Brudy6 Brudy6 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 2

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    If you feel like you want to die, you are not alone. If you need someone to talk to, who can relate to you, you can always message me on here, where I feel at home. I know it's...
    honestyreality honestyreality 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    The sinking feeling I want out i cant stop the feelings for her
    CuddlesNSnuggles CuddlesNSnuggles 13-15, M Aug 7

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    I am so exhausted from the roller coaster. Not enough sex, talk to my husband about it. Fights and tries to blame me so make whatever changes but ultimately promises it will get...
    newdaynewway newdaynewway 46-50, F 6 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I am just looking to vent a little bit here. I've been married for 20 years. It's been 20 years of pretty awful. My husband doesn't have conversations with me and we haven't been...
    endjoy1994 endjoy1994 36-40, F 6 hrs ago

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    "Why don't you just admit you don't want me to touch you ever?" These words cam out of my mouth this morning after a bunch of petty back & forth sniping. It started with me...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 19 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Last night my father in law (lives with us in the front wing of our house) had my wife and daughter come in the room. In order to keep this story short I am going to give you the...
    NHotH2O NHotH2O 46-50, M 12 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    As a guy it is difficult to wait because we have a biological predisposition to mate often, but society says that's bad. Before the concept of marriage, our species did what it...
    iDispense iDispense 36-40, M 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    I am loss and at my age, after 30yrs of marriage, my husband acts as though I do not exist. I work full-time and he chose early retirement. Just had to get that out.
    kpraylan kpraylan 56-60, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    So here it goes I've been married for 20 yrs and the last 5 have been so lonely once to the point of suicide it's so heartbreaking that the man I love won't touch me or kiss me...
    RavenV180 RavenV180 36-40, F 2 Responses 20 mins ago

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    Hi, i am riti from india, 24. i am gay and honest person looking for a real honest guy for MOC. it will be good if he is settled out of india. i am ready to move and will make my...
    riti2190 riti2190 22-25 9 hrs ago

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    I did not wait until marriage to have sex and get pregnant too. I was very sexually active in high school and in college.
    brunettemom brunettemom 41-45, F 6 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My wife is always telling me how she dislikes my mother telling what to do. Whenever my mom tells me to do something, I do it. Not everything she says I do. Then my wife gets mad...
    beedio beedio 46-50, M 5 hrs ago

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    31 Male (gay), Indian origin, European Citizen looking for a friendly happy asexual or lesbian girl for MOC for life. Preferably Hindu or Sikh but can consider others too if it...
    aakash1982 aakash1982 31-35, M 17 hrs ago

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