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I Want Out of This Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 47 People

    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 17, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 9 Responses May 3, 2008

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 9 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2012

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Dec 6, 2012

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2012

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M Jan 15, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    My wife and I have decided to leave sex alone. I still want to but she does not. It feels more like a problem than a pleasure. We have a 3 year old and are trying to do our best...
    wardenferry419 wardenferry419 36-40, M 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    1- It is extremely hard for me to be nice to those who act mean without any justifications. Especially those who love the challenge of bringing people down and breaking them. Or...
    weirdWorks4me weirdWorks4me 22-25, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    How it happens, I don't know, but we find ourselves, two strangers, in a hotel room. It's a boutique downtown hotel, inexpensive but chic. Outside, the city teems in the stifling...
    Woody6 Woody6 41-45, M 3 hrs ago

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    my dad told my mom he wanted a divorce 5 days ago and basically blamed her for everything. he said he wasn´t happy. today i found out that he has been cheating on her. i don´t...
    10055p 10055p 22-25, F 6 hrs ago

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    So anyone who is a fan of the show, 'How I Met Your Mother' might enjoy this story... A little over a year and a half ago I was the lead in a play. To celebrate our final show the...
    xxPuffinMuffin xxPuffinMuffin 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    It's a little over a month shy of a year and I finely show him some of my crazy.Before coming into town this go around, he warned me that his first three days would be busy due to...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    1 my name is Emily 2 my middle name is Rose 3 I'm 5'1 4 I'm 15 5 my birthday is on May 6th 6 I'm a Taurus 7 I'm from the U.S. 8 I live in Massachusetts 9 my mom was born in...
    Emsickles Emsickles 13-15, F 3 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    This will be a veryyyy long experience, but I need help. So I'll try to make it short. My dad was the leader of the church's band. He was there since the beginnings of our church...
    EarlPhantomhive EarlPhantomhive 18-21, F 4 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    I never intended to get married, but I was lonely and met someone that I felt an electrical connection with who would not stay without a ring. So I got married. As the years have...
    jp20156 jp20156 41-45, M 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I am 42 year old married (for 20 years) woman. My parents arranged my marriage with a man (a nerd, geek and whiny) who had/has nothing common with me. He always had / have...
    Rosegardner Rosegardner 36-40 1 day ago

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    A Bit About Me 1. Name? David 2. Male or female? Male 3. Were you named after anyone? No 4. Does your name mean anything? Beloved 5. Nick Names: ... 6. What do you think you...
    ambroseguy80 ambroseguy80 46-50, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel..that if you really love someone? you don't need to get married to prove that. I find that kinda stupid? lol I will never get married. marriage doesint last? nor does...
    Muffin19 Muffin19 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I love my wife, and I know she loves me. However, I wish our marriage could be how it used to be. I don't know how we got to this point. It's painful. I don't want to give up on my...
    ProfessorPhoton ProfessorPhoton 26-30, M 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    Hi, I am new to this. Here's my story. I have been married for 3 years, together 7 and have two small children. Ever since my first was born (for the last 5 years) my marriage has...
    mirandan2027 mirandan2027 22-25 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    My first intense experience... My wife was contacted by a guy on OKC, who also sent a message to me. He and I hit it off pretty well, on friend level. My wife and he also clicked...
    contextualshift contextualshift 36-40, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I know I'm probably going to get criticized for what I'm going to say but I just realized how awful it is for gays to have marriage rights. I was always against it but about a year...
    JesusismySaviour JesusismySaviour 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    I lived in one many years ago...I got out and got full custody of my two kids and raised to college grad young decent successful young adults...I sacrificed a social life and sex...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    A revelation? My husband and I started marriage counseling this past Monday. It was hard. Having to sit there and explain to a stranger why you are there...with your husband...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses a week ago

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    For as long as I could remember everything has always been a struggle. Even now everything is a struggle, I don't know what it feels like to not struggle. I just want to escape it...
    chy08 chy08 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    My husband text me that he would rather be a monk than to have sex with me, and that if that is my need, I should go elsewhere to satisfy it. My heart sank. Finally....I have more...
    GreyStreet98 GreyStreet98 46-50, F 7 Responses Jul 22

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    All of these stories scare me. I'm 29, and my husband is 34. We got together when I was 22 and he was 27.. I we each had kids from previous relationships, so our new relationship...
    AFrisco AFrisco 26-30, F 7 Responses Jul 22

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    you know i really do not know how to look at this Gay Marriage and Transgender stuff, I was talking to my room mate about this myself & my room mate are not gay but i told him my...