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I Want Out of This Marriage

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 5, 2012

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 11 Responses May 3, 2008

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 11 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    For about a year I've been considering divorcing my wife of nearly 8 years. Our relationship has never been great. We are great friends, but horrible lovers/spouses. We do things...
    randomtiger45 randomtiger45 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    (Repost...EP BLOCKED my first story) I stumbled upon EP the latter part of last year, and I've been a fairly frequent lurker ever since. It has taken me quite some time to...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Why is marriage so difficult? I want my marriage to work really I do. It seems as every time the two of us try to have a conversation we end up arguing. It is so frustrating...
    SDSMCL SDSMCL 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I'm not married but I know if I lived in a sexless marriage I would either want out or at least try something.
    notsofab notsofab 16-17, F 9 Responses Jul 16

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    Yesterday I was so proud.. Hubby walked to work(about 20 minutes away), and I wanted to help him out and I offered to make him a lunch and bring it. He said he had it covered...
    mrsklemzak mrsklemzak 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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    I have forced my husband to live a life without sex for what was supposed to be the good of everyone. It was not he did not want sex, if fact there were many times he was demanding...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    The X took the kids for 2 hrs today at the last minute oooooooh. Then he sends me a text that the kids told him about the grill catching on fire and that 3 fire trucks showed up at...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 6

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    So ive been an addict most my life using drugs or alcohol to make me feel better until it stopped working and I had to focus on myself. That's when things got hard. I am working on...
    Katymoon Katymoon 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 18

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    I read all of the stories and I can relate to them my husband was the sort of man that women adore beautiful in everyway but he is a functioning alcoholic .So I did it I left my...
    sunshineonarainyday sunshineonarainyday 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am currently in a long-term relationship, and it's my partner, his best friend and me. While we all get a long, I don't know how much longer I can live with them both. Before we...
    honeyblossom23 honeyblossom23 22-25, F Jul 11

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    I am a man who tries to take care of myself mentally and physically to the best of my abilities, but lately, I've started to hate my face more and more. My self-esteem is at an...
    findingmyway78 findingmyway78 31-35 1 Response Jul 13

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    I know this sounds desperate, sad & depressing, maybe even stupid to some. Someone once asked me, what do you want out of a relationship? And I said... Honestly, I just want to...
    dukelostboy25 dukelostboy25 26-30, M Jun 30

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    I have been a member of the Experience Project since March 4, 2014. This website really has changed my life, for better and for worse. I am writing this story to tell my...
    BewareTheGonzo BewareTheGonzo 13-15 4 Responses Jul 10

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    I've always have felt this statement seems somewhat unnecessary.I'm a single dad raised my kids alone best I could and they've turned out just fine.I'm very proud of them and tell...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    That's all I really want out of life . I'm so disappointed in myself for not shifting yet ill give or do anything to shift . Anything to save my kind from the humans
    ShadowWolf190 ShadowWolf190 13-15, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm mixed up tonight. I'll start by saying that I've had more sex in the last four months then I did in the previous two years. Sounds impressive on the surface but in reality...
    LifeinWoodinville LifeinWoodinville 41-45, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    About 5 months ago, me and my boyfriend broke up. I am over him for the most part but lately, I think about our old times. Not necessarily the relationship part but the friendship...
    uhtobehonest uhtobehonest 16-17, F 1 hr ago

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    The world is getting cold and it's only getting colder but I don't think it will ever get as ice cold as the hearts of many of our own.Greed,Fear,Money,Religion,etc. these are some...
    PeaceAtSoul PeaceAtSoul 16-17, T 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    Diary Entries During The First Months Of Marriage I have been slowly transferring my handwritten diary entries to this site. I've reached the part about my arranged marriage and...
    thelonewood thelonewood 26-30 3 Responses Jun 29

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    Hello all you wonderful EP folks, I have another update on my formerly sexless marriage. If you want the back story, read my previous posts as they will shed light on the progress...
    mistereko mistereko 36-40, M 12 Responses Jul 14

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    I've wanted to die forever. My life used to be much worse than it is now no friends, no freedom, drug problems, nobody to care about. I just sat alone with pure nothingness for...
    LizardKing420 LizardKing420 16-17, M 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    I can understand how people romanticize marriage and build it up with words like commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, etc. A marriage in itself doesn’t actually have the power to...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 12

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    My husband has become extremely self absorbed over time. He's always been a little selfish and it seems to ebb and flow, but the last few months it's become exponential. Everything...
    lovebeingmama lovebeingmama 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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