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I Want Out of This Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 47 People

    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 9 Responses May 3, 2008

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 10 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    This completely sucks. I am married to a woman and whenever there are money issues, car issues or any issues for that matter, she starts talking about separation/divorce. We sleep...
    pastormattrg pastormattrg 36-40, M Feb 16

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    I married my husband when I was 19 that was twenty five years ago next month. In the long years that we've been married I have raised two beautiful daughters and we bought a house...
    Blurple70 Blurple70 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    You can only TRY so much. I offered counseling, I tried spice (not the smokey stuff) I shook him a few times. I jumped on the bed and yelled earthquake (yes I did)...here's the...
    OrchidsNuBlu OrchidsNuBlu 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    i m Looking For my life partner For Marriage If any One want real Marriage so Pm me or Add me on skype. Talha.armani
    sadhear sadhear 22-25, M Feb 17

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    i m Looking For my life partner For Marriage If any One want real Marriage so Pm me or Add me on skype. Talha.armani
    sadhear sadhear 22-25, M Feb 17

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    We had another "talk" last night. It dragged on for 3 hours and nothing got accomplished. He knows I'm only staying to try and work it out because of the kids. I told him I don't...
    unhappilyeverafter1977 unhappilyeverafter1977 31-35, F 37 Responses Feb 20

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    I'm so stressed out. I was so close to moving out of my house and now my stupid *** father wants to sell his car that I was using. I know you're thinking how is he stupid if he's...
    BlackBuddafly88 BlackBuddafly88 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    A couple of months ago I ended a 7 year relationship with my first love. I honestly never thought that the relationship would've lasted as long as it did, seeing that I was only 16...
    Amd81491 Amd81491 22-25, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    I don't think I no what I want out of my life but it is out of my control :-(
    Sirwithherkey Sirwithherkey 31-35, M Feb 12

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    All will be revealed one thing after another!People whisper to this secret keeper and the secret keeper always wonders why people reveal secrets and how do they know the secret...
    MilweePetite MilweePetite 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I've always had a lot of career interests, and so I've been dabbling here and there. But now I'm sure that forensic science is the path for me. It has all the aspects of what I...
    AntiveninKiss AntiveninKiss 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    I did not come from a huge way back 208 pounds or 94.4kg a little above (still obese by BMI) but was medicated and drugged for many years but I just feel the need to help others...
    Soroe Soroe 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 7

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    About people who just want to shake you for something they want! Don't let these clowns fool you, unless its a joke! Just was talking to co-workers and fake ppl, or others will...
    Frenchgal11 Frenchgal11 26-30, F Feb 7

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    i love dating and falling in love but however im really scared of them because everyone i get into the guy im with either cheats on me,admits he likes or love another woman or he's...
    sweetwitchy sweetwitchy 26-30, F Feb 12

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    There's no point in living this life filled with more sorrow than joy. I want out. Kill me.
    KrysSefhir KrysSefhir 18-21 Feb 17

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    Tonight I asked him (as pathetic as that is) to have sex with me. Tried to seduce him, kiss him in the ways he used to like. After the shortest make out session he kissed me in the...
    Gia00 Gia00 26-30, F 14 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    There is an art to successfully dating a millionaire man. You have to know where to meet a millionaire and how to get him interested in dating you. Once you’re in a...
    Mavien005 Mavien005 31-35, M 11 hrs ago

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    I've been married for 25 yrs in the last 7 she has cheated at least 5 times but she says the sex with me is good she just wanted something different so should I do the same
    dnknance dnknance 46-50, M 3 hrs ago

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    It is the middle of the night and I have just been rejected again last night. Today, my wife flies overseas for 2 weeks and she does not show the slightest inclination to have even...
    Sub305k Sub305k 46-50, M 4 Responses Feb 11

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    Hi there... I need some help from others that have gotten out of a narcissistic marriage, and have kids. Here's the rough sketch of my story: I was in relationship and married to...
    beesknees12 beesknees12 41-45, F 7 Responses Feb 16

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    There's absolutely no point to it. First, I abhor the idea of getting any sort of government involved in personal relationships. Who was the first person to suggest that anyway...
    Unbeholden Unbeholden 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 13

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