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I Want Out of This Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 46 People

    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 11 Responses May 3, 2008

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 10 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    I'm 25 and I joined this group 3 years ago. I made a post about being unhappy in my marriage over 2 years ago and guess what? I'm STILL miserable! I hate the thought of having to...
    Lovely0521 Lovely0521 22-25, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I'm in a quandary + need answers. I've been living in a sexless Marriage for 14 yrs. Himself loves me but doesn't desire me. We met when he was single + living in a bedsit. He...
    124Bee 124Bee 51-55, F 5 Responses Oct 18

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    I've always wanted to get married but I'm afraid to ever do it. I see so many people on here and in real life that are bored or unhappy and wish they didn't get married. It's such...
    JustDevy JustDevy 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    Well, I'm exactly 32 months out from leaving my ex wife, which landed me on this site. Thankful for the opportunity to write out my thoughts and feelings. I went back yesterday...
    Lionsfan94 Lionsfan94 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 2

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    My wife and I are now in separate rooms, and she is talking like she will leave me as soon as she gets the chance. It's mainly because of money and our attitudes to it, but also...
    notgoingout notgoingout 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 5

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    My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. He has a child with his most recent ex. His daughter is 3 and they broke up shortly after she was born, so they've been...
    Smitb54085683 Smitb54085683 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    I just want it to be my turn soooooooooo badly. I'm starting to wonder if I will ever get the chance to have a baby. There r things wrong with my body that might keep me from...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 16

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    I'm so wet right now! Why should a married person be horny if that can't have s.ex.! I want to be f. Ucked really hard now but instead he sleeps. I want anal really bad but hunks...
    yesmeik yesmeik 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Rediscovering Sex in a Sexless Marriage: Rediscovering sex - This is where things are at now. For those who are reading my story for the first time let me point out my marriage...
    Fireflyz26 Fireflyz26 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 2

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    Well I did it. I took everyones advice in ILIASM, and I consulted an attorney in the event that I may need to pull the parachute on my marriage. Thank you Bazaar for hammering this...
    Jane1024 Jane1024 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 8

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 16 Responses Oct 11

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    THE TRUTH BEHIND THESE KINDS OF MARRIAGES.Last week, I wrote an article for my blog titled: Six Reasons That Your Marriage Will Fail. One of the areas that I highlighted was...
    LadyMarredMind LadyMarredMind 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 15

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    I am a doctor and went through some of the experiences on this site.... Felt like i should also share some of my experiences which i faced in my life.... Yes Doctors are not immune...
    saiprasadbhavsar saiprasadbhavsar 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 9

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    My dad sent me this months ago when I told him I want to marry my boyfriend. I think this is fabulous advice and something refusing spouses have either forgotten or never learned...
    papaya6 papaya6 22-25, F 15 Responses Oct 3

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    From HuffPost Divorce:The Problem with Staying Together for the Kids Mom and dad don't like each other. They don't make small talk. They don't chuckle about last night's episode...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 12 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I just found out that the 35 year old man who persecuted me had lost his business for the fourth time and his restaurant/bar got taken by southern Indians ..they ve painted the...
    lostsouluk lostsouluk 31-35, F 1 hr ago

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog..i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M Oct 5

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    Hi everyone ..its my 1st time to try this blog..i do like the idea and i hope someone will listen to me one day in life.. Im a father for 2 sons , married since 6 years ago to my...
    NightHawk2020 NightHawk2020 31-35, M 4 Responses Oct 5

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    Well, I don't live in a SM anymore. I left him 1-year ago today. I'm still sexless (not for the whole year) but that's now my choice as opposed to a symptom. Choice feels way...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 20

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    Well, after a four year hiatus, I'm back in this group. I was on EP years ago when I was at the 3 year mark of no intimacy in my marriage. After about two years of trying to make...
    caminova caminova 46-50, M 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    Revised for offensive content: Last night I set the stage for an argument this weekend. Yesterday I came home from work in a good mood and hugged my wife when she came through...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 14 Responses Oct 3

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    I have finally detached from my refuser/abuser. I no longer need to obsess about the marriage. I no longer need to look back and try to figure out what went wrong, what did i do...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Oct 3

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    An Ask Amy column that may be relevant when it comes to what some here are or have experienced in their marriages. "Dear Amy: My wife and I have been happily married for over 20...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 4 Responses Oct 15

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    Who complains about an hour long back massage ? .... who complains about a dozen roses for no reason ? .... who complains about texts about how beautiful she is and how special...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 21

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