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I Want Out of This Marriage

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    How To Do What I Need To Do...

    I am married with 3 precious children.  My husband is a wonderful provider and father and I can never knock him for that I do however resent him more than words can possibly explain.  Let me tell you how I got to where I am...When the two of us got together, his mother...
    Candykisses77 Candykisses77 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 5, 2010

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    My Latest Attempt

    A few minutes ago, I sent this text to my wife. To explain the details, the xmas tree thing last night was this: My car is in the shop, ready to come home. My wife and daughter are taking the week off, and saw the usual place we get our tree from has them out. I'm also frustrated...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 10 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Please Help Me

    Well, you all are the first people who I have ever talked to about this. My family and everybody around me thinks that my marriage is fine. That is the hardest part about this whole thing. I feel that when I'm out in public I have to fake it and pretend that...
    elvato elvato 22-25 4 Responses Jun 28, 2009

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    Unsure If He's Cheating Again

    I have been married for 15 years, from the beginning I have had to compromise due to my husband's failure to be truthful about the number of children he had, his financial situation and then finally three years ago I found out he had been cheating on me for the past two years...
    olukorede olukorede 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    On The Hook, Waiting For The Club

    *SIGH* I've been reeled in again, and here I sit back on the hook, waiting to be clubbed to death. I've described what I've been going through recently in other stories. Basically it's a repeating pattern: I undergo a period of neglect - sometimes for a month or more, the...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    We Only Have Two Kinds Of Fights

    If you've seen my other stories, you'll clearly see I type fast and can be long-winded. This time I'm going to make it super-short. My wife and I seldom get along for a stretch longer than a few days, we have small fights and we have big fights, and they always follow the same...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Am I Being Petty?

    The other night,as I was coming home from work, I was caught in a stand still traffic. I was particularly in a hurry that night because I was suppose to meet my husband and toddler son in the mall for ice cream. I wa very very frustrated that for over an hour, the vehicle inched...
    josadelcielo josadelcielo 36-40 2 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    I Wished I Loved Me Enough To Let This Go

    I have been married almost 25 years, no one could have told me that you could be married that long and not be happy. My husband has to very unhappy with me but very happy with the comfort I provide. In the last 4 years he has worked maybe 5 months of each year more like 3. He is...
    whattooksolong whattooksolong 46-50 1 Response Jul 5, 2012

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    I've Made It Official

    If you've been following my stories you may be aware of what I'm going through. I'm in a toxic, loveless, sexless marriage and have been struggling for years to fix it and lately have been struggling to escape it. In mid-November, things got SO bad between us I told my wife that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    Me Too

    My husband has nothing to contribute to our marriage. No emotions. I have 4 step children who have no respect for me and a husband who also has no respect. I want out but am afraid I will not be able to make it money wise. But I can't take it any more.
    ccollis57 ccollis57 51-55 1 Response Oct 28, 2008

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    Nails In The Coffin

    yesterday he just put more in...It was the 2 year anniversary of his heart attack. So when i got home i was planning on being nice and cooking him dinner. I even left work early to be there when he got home. Instead he opted for going out. Fine.At the restaurant i mentioned to...
    lunazule lunazule 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2012

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    This Is So Wrong

    I have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, his mother has always been a problem, but manageable. However since we have been married she is so much worse. She is very demanding, hates me spending time with my family, goes mad because I have a photo of my mum on the...
    lelf lelf 26-30 1 Response Jul 1, 2009

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    22 fed up w mr. I'll act like I'm going to change to keep you around

    So I'm on the phone with my sis and she asked me what the noise was in the backround and I said him its the volume he always has it at when playing anything. Then she said "he's gonna be deaf" I told him that she said he must want to be deaf and then I said yep. So later on like...
    Trying2findmysmile Trying2findmysmile 22-25 2 Responses Dec 14, 2011

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    The "manacled To A Toxic Marriage By Kids" Debate

    Those of us looking for the courage to find a way out of a bad relationship seem to have a heated debate over children. It's just as heated and defiant of a real, consensual standard as most others, such as capital punishment, abortion, euthanasia or any of the other arguments...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Is "Paper Marriage" the Answer?

    I'm in a really bad place right now. My marriage has started becoming so toxic that terms of truce negotiated in the past, seldom honored are doing less good in meeting my basic needs (love, affection, intimacy, friendship and human rights). The other day the bond of trust that...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Nov 17, 2012

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    Living In a Marriage Without Intimacy

    How to begin, well I'd like to say that things weren't always so rough at home. For the first few years then her parents were getting ill and eventually passing on, but through it all I was always beside her but I noticed that she was slowly pushing me away, maybe I ...
    mrmidwestern mrmidwestern 36-40 4 Responses May 3, 2009

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    What About An Exit Buddy?

    I'm still soul-searching for an answer to how to get away from my toxic marriage. The "Paper Marriage Solution" still looks viable, but it's open to negotiation out of fairness, leaving me vulnerable to finding an alternative with no notice if it fails, or worse yet - drawing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I Want Out!

    I have been married for almost 40 years and have so many mixed emotions about this marriage.  I have read so many posts here and haven't seen anything even close to what I am experiencing. If I was asked about the first 20 years, I would have said the marriage was great but...
    invisible1 invisible1 61-65 11 Responses May 3, 2008

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    The Demon Feels The Burn

    I have little time to spare on EP these days, as my privacy has been breached by a major blunder, so I'm now being watched like a hawk at home, and only have a little spare time here and there while I'm at work (you know... like breaktime). For folks that haven't noticed or read...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 15, 2013

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    We're Not Gonna Take It Anymore

    Warning: I'm pretty upset right now so this post will have a lot of F-bombs. If that offends you and you want to read on, I recommend you set your account to kiddie mode before proceeding. Just a touch of framework. I posted stories about what I'm going through, today I'm...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 6, 2012

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    The Demon Strikes Again

    Yesterday I posted a story about an incident with The Demon regarding a nuclear war she started over a petty mistake. I anticipated the usual pattern, which is once she realizes that she is jeopardizing my presence she tries to make super-nice, with The Demon inside putting up...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 7, 2012

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    Regarding Basic Respect

    A lot has happened since I last posted to this group. I made a very good friend, and accidentally fell for her... my wife failed to meet my terms over the holidays, but the day before I was going to announce my departure, she found my discrete email and wound up blackmailing me...
    TheVerticalMan TheVerticalMan 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Well, I suppose my narcissist got out of the relationship with me. Exactly 2 weeks ago, everything was rosy again. I say "again" because it was the typical pattern of his daily...
    Avicularia Avicularia 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 5

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    I am ready to settle down, get married, and start a family. A LITTLE BIT ABOUT MYSELF I was born, raised, and educated in Cincinnati. I am an honest, loyal, optimistic, outgoing...
    MrRustyShackleford MrRustyShackleford 22-25, M 6 hrs ago

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    These are just random thoughts of mine recently as I have gone about my journey. Probably not very clear, so apologies if its a rough read:) My divorce was absolutely the hardest...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Been a while since I posted here, but I have been reading and following regularly....just been too mentally taxing to put words to my thoughts....But the last Cpl weeks things have...
    thenewoz thenewoz 41-45, M 9 Responses Sep 7

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    So husband and I had our yearly fight finally. He's been feeling pressure from going to court and our drastically reduced budget, I've been feeding the press from my little side...
    TheWomanYouHate TheWomanYouHate 31-35, F Aug 19

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    So- I just got the letter of retainer from the attorney. I'd filled out the questionnaire, and i have to sign this. I know it's a catch all, but it's talking about incedentals like...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Sep 8

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    I want out! I just need to be reminded that there is life out there. I just want to meet someone that will love me and want me for who I am, not who they want me to be. I need to...
    inlandsea inlandsea 41-45, M Sep 9

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    I got an email from him today. It first asked about the truck, then asked what are we to do? Says that i'm stringing him along, that he still loves me and believes in us, etc. That...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 11 Responses Aug 21

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    I honestly think that I could be a pretty ****** adorable girlfriend, but an online relationship is just not for me. I need to see you, and hold your hand, and kiss you when you're...
    makaiajane makaiajane 16-17, F Sep 7

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    I saw the lawyer today and signed the papers to get started. I wasn't able to answer much about financials. So, I'm to pull my credit report. I told him I just want out. I don't...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    I been married 9yrs and i separate last yr with my husband for 5 months. Well we decided to try and make it work for the kids. At first it was great. We were dating again and...
    boysofmyheart boysofmyheart 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I wish I could do college over again. My whole life I played sports. I went to a good catholic high school met a wonderful girl my junior year and received a scholarship to play...
    LifeChanges123 LifeChanges123 22-25, M Aug 21

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    We have been together for almost 2 years. I love him, but I don't think I've ever been "in love" with him. I think our relationship is more about companionship now. Recently he's...
    Nlix Nlix 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My life is a never ending hell that I just want out of. The man that's living with me is married to a girl that cheated on him for a scum bag though she may have just moved from...
    Anon4Life Anon4Life 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Sorry, this is awfully long! I'm a married mother of two little boys - two little treasures who make my heart soar with every kiss, every pudgy hand-hold, and every time I hug...
    Wonderloon Wonderloon 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    So we had it out again the other day. I told him that I felt like more of a roommate than a wife and I feel like he doesn't love me anymore. It has always been difficult for me to...
    lonelyinlove04 lonelyinlove04 26-30 10 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    My partner of 4 years broke up with me a week ago. We were planning to be married next year. We are originally from India but currently live in the US. When I first met him, I was...
    mkist mkist 22-25, F 14 hrs ago

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    Dear Friends, Reformation on your relationship. We don't give people Plan B in their relationship because our foundation "JESUS" is Matchless. Quite simply I know that i have...
    kenmok kenmok 36-40, M 8 hrs ago

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    Sitting here with my coffee and my dog cuddled up next to me, feeling oh so relaxed from the sedation from the cervical epidural. Funny thing is the sedation didn't kick in at the...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 9 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    So tonight is my wife's first attempt at scheduling a date night on her own in months and first since our recent round of struggles. So far, no plan in place. Vague reference to...
    lonelyguy375 lonelyguy375 46-50, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I've been married for nearly 7 years now and have enjoyed many intimate moments with my wife. A lot of that has changed in the last two years. Sex isn't something that happens...
    absalom123 absalom123 26-30 15 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    So it's been a long time since I have had any talk about sex with my wife. So I want the perspective of a female refuser. How would u feel if u r husband brought up wanting to have...
    lauraCD805 lauraCD805 36-40, T 4 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I arrived home a short time ago and put the kettle on. H unexpectedly arrived home early shortly after. I hid my irritation and asked him if he would like a cup of tea. " yes...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 6 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    My GF and I didn't wait till marriage either we were 16 at the time and i remember just thinking god I hope she's enjoying this I was so nervous.... The good news we are now...
    ctywrkr ctywrkr 31-35, M 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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