I Want to Be Independent

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 337 People

    I've been depending on my friends

    for too much lately, I think. Underneath all the uncertainty and obsessiveness is basically a fear of doing things on my own or being alone. That's what I need to work on.
    iacob iacob
    31-35, T
    Aug 21, 2015

    I've had enough of relying on people I can't

    trust all the time. My new year resolution is to become more independent, work harder and improve myself. No more bothering about what people think of me or the work I put up and enough of relying on that "company" I derive from sitting with "friends" I am uncomfortable with...
    hesitations hesitations
    18-21, M
    Dec 12, 2014

    I'm tired of fulfilling my parents' egos.

    I want to pursue my own goals and beliefs. I still haven't formulated an alternative to med school, which is driving me to either suicide or brain death for 8-24 hours depending on how long I have to work at the hospital that day.
    twelves twelves
    Dec 13, 2014

    This is my ultimate goal.

    I want to be able to sustain myself, without the assistance of others. I want to have my own money, bed, room, things, and choices... No reliance. No help. No fear. No guilt. I don't want to need anybody... except maybe a cat.
    ztbee ztbee
    22-25, F
    Jan 16, 2014


    So I'm about to leave our country in a few months. I'm only 18. I've always wanted this. A whole new culture, a fresh start. BUT as I count out the days in my imaginary calendar, I'm starting to feel terrified and sad because I'm becoming more attached to my family. To be honest...
    SillySunshine SillySunshine
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 12, 2013

    I am sick of trying to impress other people

    and letting that get in the way of what I really want to do with my life. I want to grow as a person. I am so restricted at home, and I have grown up to be very paranoid about everything. I've been taught to be cautious, but I want to finally take some chances. Say "yes" at last...
    ratsfirst ratsfirst
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 9, 2014

    i want to be independent ,

    i want to take my own decision in ma life,i want to live ma life as like i wish,,my dreams,my ambition,my small wishes, but everything is going in a way which i didnt wished....my parents were always there for me and at tym its becoming d prblm.....if i tell to ma dad dat i want...
    aadhyy aadhyy
    22-25, F
    Feb 4, 2014

    so today im actually gonna drive myself to work,

    i only have a learners permit :/ im a little nervous about driving by myself for the very first time. why am i doing this? its gotten to the point that i hate being driven around, waiting on people and waking up early and plan my day 3 hours ahead and taking the bus even though...
    Lilcrazyducky93 Lilcrazyducky93
    18-21, F
    Jun 1, 2015


    I seem to always get myself into co-dependent relationships.  I don't know how it happens.  I'm a very passive person (I need to grow some balls) and always end up with overbearing partners.  They knock me down (figuritively) and I never have the guts to speak my...
    BlueWhaleMeatMcFacer BlueWhaleMeatMcFacer
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Oct 15, 2008

    How To Be Independent?

    I needed to relearn life. My wife is leaving me. I have 6 month to learn to be on my own. I'm scared!!! I have not been alone for 24 years but now I am. What am I going to do?
    ptat ptat
    46-50, M
    Jun 18, 2011

    I Want To Fully Sustain Myself!

    I am tired of relying on and supporting a system that I view as deeply flawed. That is, the food, shelter, and economic system. I eat "food" that can hardly be called such, and I live under a poor excuse for health and independence. I am tired of the looming thought that if the...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2010

    I wish I could be more independent,

    I feel like I'm dependent on people too much like for my happiness, especially when I'm in a relationship, I just devote all my time to him & hardly do anything by myself anymore except for sports but I feel that isn't enough
    Canadiangirll27 Canadiangirll27
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2014

    Feeling Like A Loser

    im always found myself in a relationship im taken for granted..im being to dependent on them everytime..and the cycle never stop..now im with my bf for a year now, he suddenly panic how fast our relationship becme n wanted to step back for a while whch hurt me..i dunno how to...
    iamthesinofddreams iamthesinofddreams
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 3, 2010

    Independent Like a God

    I want to be independent from peoples' thoughts and from what do they expect from me. It is hard to achieve this state especially when you are 24, work as an assistant and you are not financially self-sufficient and you are bound with many many rules you do not always...
    Galque Galque
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 23, 2008

    I wish I was independent

    but I will never be!! I try so hard but my parents don't let me. The reason is because I have a disability and they just are too afraid, I don't know what off maybe because they scared that people will take **** outta me as I have a speech impediment but I don't care if people...
    PositiveStateOfMind PositiveStateOfMind
    22-25, M
    Feb 11, 2016

    I'll be moving into a new place this weekend.

    . But now I don't know if I can take it all myself. Never in my life have I ever been away from my parents; and hopefully I'd finally learn to be independent.. This is the scary part of growing up.
    camillee camillee
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 16, 2015

    I Crave It.

    I think it's because my mom shelters me to a point where I just can't take it anymore. I am the baby of the family and I guess that's probably why. I'm not sure if me wanting to be independent so bad will hurt me or help me though. Next year I'm going far away for college...
    anonymousabomination anonymousabomination
    18-21, F
    Oct 6, 2012
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