I Want to Be the Best Partner I Can Be For My Army Man - Forum & Chat Board | hELP! URGENT!

 My boyfriend of 9 months is leaving for boot/ait next week. He is in the army. We have already talked before about staying together when he goes, but lately he has felt overwhelmed. All he has heard is military girlfriend horror stories and won't listen when I try to tell him its not all that way.

So far we've had an awesome relationship and I don't think either one of us have felt this way about anyone before. We just graduated high school so I'm not saying I want to get married, but I REALLY want to stay together and at least see where it goes. He isn't so much worried about me cheating on him while he's gone but (his words), "Something happening and it just ending worse." He said he thinks both of us will change a lot and doesn't know if either of us will like it and so many people have told him it's a bad idea to have a girlfriend while at boot. 

It scares me because I think that if we both do change so drastically we'll notice it over time, not just when he gets back. And also because I've been prepared for him to go and I realize it really is ONLY 4 months and that if we would stay together had he not left then there's no reason to break up anyway.

We haven't broken up (yet) and I'm praying to God that we don't. Y'all's prayers are welcome and appreciated as well. He just means so much to me. I try to help but I end up crying and that makes it worse. I've told him I'll write everyday, that I'll send pics and have pics of him all over my dorm and he knows how much he means to me but everything I say seems to make it worse. We were literally fine until like 2 days ago.

He's also questioning whether or not we were ever in love which scares me the most... Help??????? What should I/can I say or do? 

I realize I am a month late and your boyfriend is alreaddy gone but i went through the same thing and to be honest with you you will always go through it wih the military. Guys get cheated on everyday by ****** females so it scares the guys. And the drill sargeants make it worse by always telling them not to worry about their girls because they are prob just cheating anyway. But my advice to you is WRITE HIM EVERYDAY. In every letter tell him what you did that day.....tell him you miss him....tell him you love him.....and encourage him. Make sure he knows he has your support. As long as you do that he will be amazed and he will realize what a good thing he has and he will see that you arent like all the other girls who have cheated. just stay strong give him time! goodluck!