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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 109 People

    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Now that I've left him,

    both of our children think he's the greatest person on the world and want to go back.
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 31 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F 1 Response May 10

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    Related Experiences

    Now that I've severed all ties and regaining myself I feel great. Then some days I lay around and cry. I suppose I need to mourn the death of what was supposed to be my person...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 6 Responses Oct 4

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    I had a boyfriend Like that He still acts like that. I Ingore him When he see me be attack me. I hit back but he strong and fast. We haven't been dated for years. He need to...
    lorrena19 lorrena19 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 5

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    My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. The whole time even when we dated has been full of abusive ways. I am so lost by the fact that he doesn't exactly...
    Anyonehome Anyonehome 26-30, F 7 hrs ago

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    I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship. I need some place to talk about it due to most people not understanding and me flipping out on them. I was with him for...
    freebird1990 freebird1990 22-25 3 Responses Oct 4

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    I think. Here's my story. When we first met, I thought he was sweet, charming and opinionated individual. He was passionate and adored me to no end. He would often call me on...
    cheersbabe cheersbabe 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I feel like I'll always be with an emotionally abusive relationship. That relationship made me vulnerable and the saddest is knowing no one is there to save me than me. That's why...
    nonichecliche nonichecliche 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 25

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    I have been with my husband for a total of 10 years, 4 years of marriage, we have 1 child together, a 3 year old. About 6 months into our marriage I should have divorced him. He...
    1standlast 1standlast 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 8

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    I am a female and I have a former friend who emotionally abused her husband. That is why she is a FORMER friend. When she told me how sorry of a excuse for a man he was, I...
    crazycatlady79 crazycatlady79 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 12

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    Doesn't it seem hazy sometimes? I just woke up one day and my self esteem was shot, I second guessed my judgements, doubted my memory and I felt strange...strange and like I had...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 29

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    I don't know if I can call that an abusive friendship, but it was what it felt like. I'm 13, she's 15. She constantly froze me out, treated me like ****, but then suddenly she...
    ColourfulDreams ColourfulDreams 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 25

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    My mind is my biggest battlefield. Battling negative thoughts and happenings have been a struggle for almost a year, probably longer. The more distance I get from the fog of the...
    Jennerrous Jennerrous 36-40, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I heard a song this morning that made me think of a short time in my 20"s when I was in a abusive relationship ( weeks actually ) I ended up with 2 black eyes and a broken wrist...
    Dancemomisme Dancemomisme 46-50, F 10 Responses Sep 23

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    My last abusive boyfriend has made it difficult for me to trust my current boyfriend. :( it's draining him, I can tell. I feel so bad
    mdkp mdkp 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 24

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    I hate to admit it but I've been in an abusive relationship for 20 years. It started out when we were dating we would have an argument I'd try to leave because he'd become so scary...
    goawaymia goawaymia 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 4

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    I am 23. I live at home with my parents. I can't move out because I have no money saved up. I can't get a job because I need to abide to my mom's rules and one of her rules is I'm...
    krazyklumsy krazyklumsy 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 28

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    I was just thinking this last week has been tolerable.. Maybe I could do this .. But then I realized... Yes he's be nice and hasn't been sarcastic or made a joke at my expense..we...
    kathryn30 kathryn30 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 3

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    I hate coming home after a hard day to a f@&$ing fight why can't I just get the guts to tell him I don't love him anymore and I want a divorce. This suck I hate being here feeling...
    Byebyebabe Byebyebabe 41-45, F Oct 7

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    I hate coming home after a hard day at work to a f@&$ing fight why can't I just get the guts to tell him I don't love him anymore and I want a divorce. This suck I hate being here...
    Byebyebabe Byebyebabe 41-45, F 3 Responses Oct 7

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    I do not want to wait til he's the one who wants to leave. I do not love him anymore and i cannot stand his lies.
    lilacslolita lilacslolita 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 22

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    It is what is I should be smart enough to get out of it but I have not got up the courage yet.
    Sincerely77 Sincerely77 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 30

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    Is there anybody i can talk to?
    niceusername niceusername 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 8

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    I think I just decided today, or maybe it was months ago that I am going to leave. I just have no idea how or when to actually do it. I have two beautiful children who adore...
    milojar milojar 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    My stupid psychological nasty abusive mother came to me in my room and said how she could be charged with man slaughter and neglect for me staying in my room. Oh. Is that what it...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 70+, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am still trying to work through all of the bullshit from it almost three years later. My ex was both physically and emotionally abusive, my life was basically controlled entirely...
    Twili Twili 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 11

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    I love this site. I can tune out the advices I don't agree with. I use to go to dating website to just talk but then it was drawing me in emotionally. My husband didn't like that...
    Cotton1234567890 Cotton1234567890 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I want my awesome loving husband now! Where is he?
    marvelous121 marvelous121 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    This is my first time on this website. Everytime I have a night like this, I search for someway to express my feelings. The subject is that I have been in an abusive relationship...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 11

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    When my parents divorced I was sixteen... and then my father’s true colors started to show. For almost eight years, I was emotionally / mentally manipulated and abused by his...
    HayBail HayBail 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 6

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    Imagine you want to get a divorce because you are in an abusive relationship or because your partner cheats or treats you badly.You can imagine that? Good imagine now you are not...
    Krist0f Krist0f 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    So a little over 2weeks ago, my husband said he wanted "space". Our therapist ( really his), suggested I go to a hotel. On a Friday night in the middle of the night, he woke me up...
    mariondavies mariondavies 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 29

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    I have been out of my abusive relationship for many years about 7 years now and it is still something that haunts me. I don’t really have an outlet to talk about it and try and...
    Ruger1212 Ruger1212 31-35, F Oct 1

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    I was married for 10 years. I believe my ex husband falls somewhere on the autistic scale, though he's never been diagnosed. He doesn't get social cues. Hell, he doesn't even get...
    DreamChristine DreamChristine 31-35, F 7 Responses Oct 14

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    I filed for a divorce I'm July. My husband Moved out. Begged and begged for me To postpone everything. I did. ( dumb on my part) he has since been back a week. Being very...
    Meme728 Meme728 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 30

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