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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F May 10

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 31 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    Everyone that has shared a similar experience all have one thing in common, we all say 'but I love him'. I hear your stories and can relate deeply to them. There would be nothing...
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    Wanderer0614 Wanderer0614 22-25, F Aug 17

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    Every time I click send I get so angry at myself for encouraging her to get close again. Every time I try to ignore her I feel so terrible for not being a good friend. Even though...
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    bcali bcali 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 10

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    lisaandshasta123 lisaandshasta123 41-45 Aug 19

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