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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 44 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    My husband was always abusive,

    always self centered, always loved. It wasn't until he decided to get his attention elsewhere that I decided to look at him for who he is. Now I'm desperately trying to get a divorce he never wants to agree to, and dealing with his ridicule of my life as a single mom of 3. I...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    I need to divorce my husband

    but I am scared of him getting remarried and my kids loving their stepmother more than me.
    sherrybetan sherrybetan 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    I'm trying my hardest to stop my stalker

    and expose um for what he really is. He's a threat to so many detrimental things. Sooner or later I will come across the right path and walk out in total victory.
    dramafever dramafever 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 5 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Now that I've left him,

    both of our children think he's the greatest person on the world and want to go back.
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 1, 2014

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F 2 Responses May 10, 2014

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    I've been with this guy

    for 4 years, married 3. Almost immediately he began to emotionally and physically abuse me. Tonight, he may have gone too far. Things had been looking up since last Monday. Then today, it went to **** in a big way. I need to vent so here it goes.... I am 5'1" and 105lbs. He's...
    Istherehelpforme Istherehelpforme 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 8

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    So I made a time capsule with a letter inside, for my future husband. I thought it will be sweet, cute and silly when he opens it after 10 or 15 years later after marriage. Ah, I...
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    my father is the reason for a lot of the things I do.since I was little my father told me I would be a ******** when I grew up.when I was little I didn't know what a ******** was...
    tytm tytm 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    I'm so sad right now. My whole life, mother has always been an abuser of false hope and broken promises, and it's primed me for an abusive relationship in addition to destroying my...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    My father was not a good person he treated us and mom very badly .. we are short on money .. my sisters are married and their husbands don't treat them well either . I'm worried...
    joy208 joy208 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Hello EP, Been lurking on this site and finally joined. I have been dying to tell my story but am terrified someone I know will see it. But I'm desperate and need to vent. I've...
    iswell iswell 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I am 42 years old and now divorced from a man who is an abusive cheat. It's been nearly 3 years since we split and I'm still struggling to come to terms with the fact I was married...
    Stargazer18 Stargazer18 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    There's a lot of people off today because tomorrow's the 4th of July. My soon to be ex-husband asked me to have my son ready at 8:30am so they could go get haircuts together. This...
    TheNewClassic82 TheNewClassic82 31-35, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    My partner is starting the divorce paperwork after 8 years. He left with nothing. No equalization. They have a daughter who is now 12 years old. He will pay the child support...
    PuzzlePiecez PuzzlePiecez 36-40 5 days ago

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    She tells me how much she loves me & she can't be without me. I'm so amazing & perfect to her...blah blah blah. Oh but I'm fat, I don't treat people well, I'm conceited, I'm...
    Fiftypercent Fiftypercent 18-21 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I jut started my first year at university and I got into a relationship with a guy for 6 months and he abused me throughout. Emotionally, physically and sexually. He broke my...
    Experience780 Experience780 18-21, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    I want to escape from the reality of having flashbacks on a daily basis. I want to forget that I ever knew you. Forget that I ever dated you. You were the biggest mistake I ever...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have been married for 12 years and we have 4 kids together and in all that time my husband never treated me with love or respect or affection. He refuses to even kiss me or touch...
    Katkor Katkor 36-40, F a week ago

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    I been in an Abusive relationship not physically but mentally. As a guy with dyslexia, ADD, and being in special ed from my ex she would put me down. To point I believed but once I...
    LoyaltynTrust93 LoyaltynTrust93 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    mentally.emotionally&physically. This wasn't his first time, Nor was it His worst. I can't help but want him back. Why do I miss & Love him after ALL his LIES & BS. Why do I keep...
    LaLaNiaa LaLaNiaa 18-21, F 7 Responses Jun 29

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    I've been with my husband for 15 years, after we lost our business 2 years ago he started hitting me. I'd give the entire world to leave him but I don't have 1 single family member...
    adultchildofasociopath adultchildofasociopath 31-35, F 6 Responses Jun 28

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    I have come to terms that my 5 year marriage is crap. I can't stand my husband in the slightest. I am probably the best actress on the planet. I smile, kiss him, make his lunches...
    silentlyopaque silentlyopaque 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 28

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    You guys.. LIsten up. I have read your posts and SO understand your frustration!!!... If you can all remember ONE thing.. remember this. Narcissist people are mentally...
    DrBlabby DrBlabby 61-65 Jun 28

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