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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F 2 Responses May 10, 2014

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Now that I've left him,

    both of our children think he's the greatest person on the world and want to go back.
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    I need to divorce my husband

    but I am scared of him getting remarried and my kids loving their stepmother more than me.
    sherrybetan sherrybetan 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    I'm trying my hardest to stop my stalker

    and expose um for what he really is. He's a threat to so many detrimental things. Sooner or later I will come across the right path and walk out in total victory.
    dramafever dramafever 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 37 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 1, 2014

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    My husband was always abusive,

    always self centered, always loved. It wasn't until he decided to get his attention elsewhere that I decided to look at him for who he is. Now I'm desperately trying to get a divorce he never wants to agree to, and dealing with his ridicule of my life as a single mom of 3. I...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    Yeah, I was. I'm starting to realize how much this was true. It was emotionally abusive and very rarely became physical abuse. There was one time I was not giving into her demands...
    chimbie88 chimbie88 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 4

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    I have been in many emotionally abusive relationships, I am in one now even. I know it's me that picks them of course, I stopped believing in changing them. I can't cure them...
    beemer78 beemer78 36-40, F 4 days ago

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    I'm 37, and I'm stuck in a 5 year old, horribly lonely marriage because I have a toddler and I'm unwilling to not have him with me every day. I know my husband will fight for...
    wheresmyrescueparty wheresmyrescueparty 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    So yeah I was.....how can a guy be in one you may ask.....well its damn easy when she is a complete narcissistic woman......I would wish this on my worst enemy......she gaslighted...
    huckleberrybunches huckleberrybunches 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 15

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    I was in an emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive relationship for nearly three years. I wrote and entire blog about what i went through, how i got out, and how i moved on...
    LifeofSchy LifeofSchy 18-21, F Feb 8

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    That girl. She was tired of being treated like ****, getting put last. She was tired of the mental, emotional and physical abuse, she tried to get away physically but he would let...
    deadgirlsfairytale deadgirlsfairytale 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    so its been like two weeks since i broke up with my bf who would emotionally abuse me. i didn't really think i was STRONG enough to let him go. but I'm glad my mom & cousins gave...
    AndreaaG AndreaaG 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    At the time, my best friend was my boyfriend, who became verbally and sexually abusive. No one understood how I felt. I finally had the courage the leave him and needless to say...
    peanutcups peanutcups 16-17, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    It sickens me how I want to pick up my phone and text him right now. I feel like I'll never be free.
    Sunflowerdragon Sunflowerdragon 22-25, F 2 Responses 22 hrs ago

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    He continues to try and because I am a mess mentally... I continue to push him away. He no longer wants to deal with my crazy. Feeling defeated and alone. It's all on my actions...
    defeatthemind defeatthemind 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    My ex cheated on me with 4 women.. and before that he broke 3 of my ribs... and dislocated my knee then decided not to call an ambulance.. and he decided i should walk home with it...
    MorticansDaughter98 MorticansDaughter98 16-17, F 6 Responses Jan 27

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    If you only knew. My life revolves around this! I have given up every aspect of who I am, only to be rejected. Regularly. He's so good, though, he knows how to pull me back in...
    milkysecret milkysecret 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    After our first born, my wife breast fed me for awhile. Quite enjoyable.
    playbluesguitar playbluesguitar 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 14

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    I left my husband over a year ago. I have yet to file for divorce because I fear his wrath(he is emotionally abusive). He uses our kids as weapons against me and for this reason...
    bcali bcali 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    We had another "talk" last night. It dragged on for 3 hours and nothing got accomplished. He knows I'm only staying to try and work it out because of the kids. I told him I don't...
    unhappilyeverafter1977 unhappilyeverafter1977 31-35, F 37 Responses a week ago

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    There are so many things I want to say about myself, just to try and make sense of what's going on inside me... I'm married, but I want to have a lesbian experience. I have the...
    Averisong Averisong 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    An open letter to my abusive husband: To a man I know no longer: It's been three weeks since I walked out the door. Three years. and then...nothing. I still remember so vividly...
    emorgan11891 emorgan11891 22-25, F Jan 30

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    I do everything I can to make my husband pleased with me, and proud of me, and I respect and honor him as my husband and as head of our home. It is a choice I freely make, every...
    candichest candichest 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    I rlly want revenge on my ex. He is emotionally abusive. I want him to honestly die in a hole. Whenever I see his face I just want to throw knives at him. I rlly rlly hate him I...
    Hiimamyimdead Hiimamyimdead 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 7

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    Here is a life story Feb 4, 2001 Indiana A snowstorm started a mother gone in labor luckily didn't get caught in traffics the babies grandparents did but they made it In the...
    RainbowWolf13 RainbowWolf13 13-15, F Feb 15

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    Do you ever feel like you are married to two different people? Does your marriage have a push pull dynamic? You might be married to a sociopath.. How do you know though? They...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Jan 29

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    Hate is a strong word, so I won't say I necessarily hate my husband. I strongly dislike the dude though. No I'm not in an abusive home. His job allows me to stay home with our...
    MrsTellit MrsTellit 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I am from India. India as you all might know is a country rich in culture and tradition. Arranged marriages happens to be a very integral part of this culture. I am 27 years old...
    femaleskeleton femaleskeleton 26-30 1 Response Feb 4

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    My husband is emotionally and mentally ad verbally abusive and has been for 14 years and I just don't have the energy to fight anymore.
    gina1970 gina1970 41-45, F Feb 13

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    I should have sought out help sooner, that was my fault for staying. I emotionally, sexually, and physically abused. My mom helped me kick him out when I showed her how he hurt me...
    modestmuslimah modestmuslimah 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 4

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    Ok, so here goes. If you are no stranger to my stories you might already know some of these facts about me. But if you are new to this site or just came across me and my story at...
    violet1698 violet1698 31-35, F 2 days ago

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    Well It is all over now....I have my papers. I really don't know how I feel about it....guess it may take a couple of days, until closure sets in. I have to confess that I have...
    GOATSDOROAM GOATSDOROAM 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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    Oddly, it does not give me feelings of panic to see that heading....that tells me something. After years of a marriage that was missing something and finally figuring out what...
    jkm52 jkm52 41-45, F 6 Responses Jan 28

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    I have been married for 20 years and my husband has had several affairs, and this last one have been hard. I don't know if he is in love with her because he keeps going back to her...
    Cindimart Cindimart 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 8

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