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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F 1 Response May 10, 2014

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 1, 2014

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    My husband was always abusive,

    always self centered, always loved. It wasn't until he decided to get his attention elsewhere that I decided to look at him for who he is. Now I'm desperately trying to get a divorce he never wants to agree to, and dealing with his ridicule of my life as a single mom of 3. I...
    leigh8133 leigh8133 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    I need to divorce my husband

    but I am scared of him getting remarried and my kids loving their stepmother more than me.
    sherrybetan sherrybetan 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 36 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    Now that I've left him,

    both of our children think he's the greatest person on the world and want to go back.
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 3, 2014

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Related Experiences

    A few months ago, I completely cut off my ex. We had a long and complicated history that involved a lot of emotional and verbal abuse. On his part, a lot of it was underhanded and...
    MDubs MDubs 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    I want to leave my husband. He is a decent man, good father and caring person, but I don't have any desires for him like I should. I love him in another way but not as a partner...
    walkinginmemphis1 walkinginmemphis1 41-45, F Jan 7

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    Want to leave my husband. But don't know where to start. We're living in another country while he works here for the Military. Instead of going back to my home state I want to have...
    allibabe808 allibabe808 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    Everyone at works asking how come my eyes are so swollen.... I say it beacuse I slept wrong or I haven't slept enough but really what happen was I was up crying all night about a...
    Carlina1 Carlina1 18-21, F Jan 17

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    That girl. She was tired of being treated like ****, getting put last. She was tired of the mental, emotional and physical abuse, she tried to get away physically but he would let...
    deadgirlsfairytale deadgirlsfairytale 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    eh. not the best way to describe it but its a start. more or less an unfair relationship. "i dont want you talking to that girl" and i listened. whatever you didnt want me to do, i...
    Ebolaa Ebolaa 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 4

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    He & I had a love/hate relationship. I would go visit him...it was a long distance relationship. I was about 21 & he was a few years older. We had started out as pen pals when I...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F Jan 9

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    I have been with my husband for 5 years and we have been together a total of 13 years. I have been physically, emotionally, and verbally abused for the greater part of the...
    heartbroken3084 heartbroken3084 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 9

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    Lately I daydream about my apartment I lived in when I was single. I think about how all my son's things would fit just right/ there's just enough room. It would've been the...
    hotdamndame hotdamndame 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    I want to leave so badly but I am trapped. I'm a fool for the choices I've made and now I suffer the consequences. The only thing that keeps me going is my son. He is the most...
    hotdamndame hotdamndame 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I am embarrassed to even admit it. I never thought I would find myself here. I never understood why women just wouldn't get up and leave with dignity and courage. Hell, I could use...
    AJ139 AJ139 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    I suppose it doesn't matter now that we broke up, but I still feel it gripping on to me. My girlfriend was bi-polar, depression and family trouble. She was my first love, and it...
    Inviticus Inviticus 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 19

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    I still am . The girl has been institutionalize do tons of times and she's a mixture of bipolar and manic depressive... She constantly has me walking on eggshells, she calls me...
    jangofett56037 jangofett56037 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    My ex cheated on me with 4 women.. and before that he broke 3 of my ribs... and dislocated my knee then decided not to call an ambulance.. and he decided i should walk home with it...
    MorticansDaughter98 MorticansDaughter98 16-17, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
    minnieccaa minnieccaa 26-30, F Jan 19

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    We were married for 8 years. He still is my best friend. I just saw him yesterday to get some stuff from the house. I didn't want to leave. We were laying on the bed just talking...
    meganm1994 meganm1994 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    I am not in an abusive relationship - I was in a verbal and emotionally abusive relationship but I chose to bring it to an end. Life moved on, I met someone else and Well here it...
    tcennoC tcennoC 51-55, M Jan 1

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    I really thought my boyfriend was different but i guess we all do at one point. He started pushing me when he was upset which after the first tike promised he would never do again...
    tengomiedo tengomiedo 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    I have been married for almost 11 years. My father in law used to live with us when he was alive. He was a good man. My husband was not allowed to drink because of his issues with...
    hopelesswoman hopelesswoman 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I have given it some major thought and consideration and have decided that filing for a divorce from my husband is going to be a giant leap of recovery for me. After verbal and...
    Blackbarbie1987 Blackbarbie1987 26-30, F 95 Responses Jan 3

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    Want to leave my husband. But don't know where to start. We're living in another country while he works here for the Military. Instead of going back to my home state I want to have...
    allibabe808 allibabe808 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 18

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    I am 99% sure that I need to do this. He has made promise after promise that he would better himself. He's not a BAD person. He's just lazy. We got married too early because I...
    TakingFlight TakingFlight 18-21, F Jan 21

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    1. I have a bad habit of smoking. 2. My favorite song is trash by Korn. 3. My favorite movie is Vampire hunter D: Bloodlust 4. I love wolves. 5. I'm 5'3". 6. My favorite games are...
    hinatahyuga809 hinatahyuga809 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    Do you ever feel like you are married to two different people? Does your marriage have a push pull dynamic? You might be married to a sociopath.. How do you know though? They...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    I think my husband hates me.....My childhood was REALLY bad. My current husband also had a childhood similar to mine but was not as lucky as me and his life took a different path...
    Lsngthsbttle Lsngthsbttle 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    omg i cant take any of this anymore I am at my wits end. I actually joined this experience bc I wanted to get out of the totally unhealthy codependent controlling manipulating...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Really rough day. Was in tears and now just emotionally defeated and depleted but I need to pick myself up, dust myself off and try again tomorrow...the eternal optimist:) I need...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 3 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I am a person who flirts. Incessantly. With everyone. Cashiers, waitstaff, other professionals, people I meet on EP, people who I want to meet on EP, and I only want to meet...
    ajaxthegreatest ajaxthegreatest 26-30, M 4 hrs ago

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    I have already shared my experience about how I cheated on my husband. and no I'm not proud of it and I am well aware of the guilt feeling and how my husband would feel if he knew...
    idontknowwhatiwant idontknowwhatiwant 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    dear self. get a divorce. move out. you need to better your life. it's time. are you ready? mentally, yes.... maybe.. i guess you will never be ready. who ever is? it's tough. you...
    TakingFlight TakingFlight 18-21, F a week ago

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