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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 34 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I need to divorce my husband

    but I am scared of him getting remarried and my kids loving their stepmother more than me.
    sherrybetan sherrybetan 36-40, M Dec 10

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    Now that I've left him,

    both of our children think he's the greatest person on the world and want to go back.
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F 1 Response May 10

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Today is Thanksgiving...but my husband has locked himself in the room because I got upset that he wouldn't let my kids listen to their father's message on the phone. I asked him to...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 27

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    We have been together for 10 years, had a ceremony but not legally married in 2007. We have a four year old boy together. We have been having the same argument for past 5 plus...
    Ashleys44 Ashleys44 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    He is mean, I know that sounds silly but that's the best way I can describe it, of course just like the rest of u the started out perfect, I fell so hard so fast now it's like if...
    crazybeautiful26 crazybeautiful26 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 21

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    I'm writing here because I feel like I don't have anyone in my life who cares enough to listen to my problem. The man I've fallen in love with is causing me extreme emotional pain...
    pandagirl09 pandagirl09 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    My husband and i have been having issues, i feel disconnected from him. He smokes a lot of weed(to the point of being useless) i do too but i am active and always finding new...
    latinaBonita latinaBonita 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 26

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    husband fell asleep at my breast for the first time. <3
    bfwife2 bfwife2 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    I don't know if it's the breastfeeding or what, but my husband is calling me a lot during the day (he always has cause he has always been very attached to me) but this is way more...
    bfwife2 bfwife2 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    Well it looks like it's happening, after the last few weeks of hell, barely speaking, just floating past each other with no connection, hubby is going to his friends over the...
    Coco181225 Coco181225 26-30, F Dec 2

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    Well, I caught a nasty flu on day three of my relactation project. I am still not feeling the greatest. He didn't want to stop nursing because I was sick. He asked me if he still...
    bfwife2 bfwife2 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 8

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    Yesterday was my son's birthday..he questioned why I was going to buy him this and that...I remained quiet..got home at night and he has my son helping fix the car on his birthday...
    NotVibrant NotVibrant 31-35, F 4 Responses Dec 3

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    I found a website that recommends estrogen and progesterone creams, applied at different times to aid in inducing lactation. Another website recommends the use of a tens unit. I...
    bfwife2 bfwife2 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 8

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    Not as much hate as it is general dislike and irritation. I've read many stories I can relate and it always helps me to see that I'm not the only one, so I figured I'd put mine out...
    allycatii allycatii 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 19

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    I believe my husband is mentally and emotionally abusive to me. He does so many things to mess with my mind and self esteem that I am no longer myself anymore. I am very withdrawn...
    MarylouD MarylouD 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    Hi, I'm new to EP but feel I need to talk about the mentally and emotionally abusive relationship I was in for 7 years. I thought he was the love of my life. But pretty well from...
    Pridestar73 Pridestar73 41-45, F Nov 19

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    I am Sonalyso, 51. Three years ago, I took divorce from my husband as he had an extra – marital affair and clearly, he chose me over her. Right after the divorce, I began looking...
    sonalyso sonalyso 26-30, F Nov 26

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    Somewhere far away.. With no contact with anyone from my past life.. Start new in a small town where no one knows my past.. I kinda want a life like safe haven... Where I can buy...
    catho catho 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    So here's the deal; I'm an idealist, not a perfectionist, but an idealist (there's a difference, well to me at least). Ever since I was a kid I promised myself I won't turn out...
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I want to become a husband so much, the idea of finding my soulmate and both of us fall in love with each other, being faithful a pleasure, and being calm the day i proposed to her...
    masterfe masterfe 22-25, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am contemplating divorcing my husband. The problem is that this will be my third divorce and I am only 43. I made some bad decisions in my twenties based on growing up in an...
    strikes3 strikes3 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    I have been married to my wonderful, amazing husband for almost two years now and we have been together for 5. I love him with all my heart and divorce is not an option with us...
    cowinapartyhat cowinapartyhat 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    I have been married for 16 years. most years unhappy. he is emotionally. verbally and sometimes physically abusive. I have tried to make him leave, I can't financially move out. he...
    hw2015 hw2015 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 25

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    I am in need for some advice, suggestions or help I will try to make my situation as short as I can. Basically I grew up in a very abusive home, my dad was physically and mentally...
    suziqt suziqt 46-50 3 Responses Nov 26

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    Starting over ... Divorce almost final and I am wondering where to start. Any advice?
    Oliviaa92 Oliviaa92 36-40, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I see my ex-husband everywhere. His face appears in my dreams, I see him in the check-out line at the Bay, or while waiting for the subway. I am constantly thinking about him...
    chatonenamour chatonenamour 31-35, F Dec 10

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    I see my ex-husband everywhere. His face appears in my dreams, I see him in the check-out line at the Bay, or while waiting for the subway. I am constantly thinking about him...
    chatonenamour chatonenamour 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    Help please. I have come to this place where I have made an appointment with a lawyer. I'm just tired. I wanted so badly to keep our family together so that I could see my babies...
    Regrets1230 Regrets1230 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 19

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    All the criminal trails are over. So the mud slinging and fear has reduced a little. The custody of the children will be finalised in January. We will have to go back a few times...
    Sunrise13 Sunrise13 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    I never in my entire life thought I would write these words. I was never the one that had a 'Plan B' in case my marriage failed. It simply was not an option. I didn't stand at the...
    sls84 sls84 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 23

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    A great big Italian family with dozens of cousins and aunts and uncles-but my parents were cruel to me and still are emotionally and otherwise unavailable. I have 1 child and his...
    Anna120570 Anna120570 41-45, F Dec 6

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    I don't have many goals in life but I do want to get married someday. I've been told that this is a stupid thing to want to achieve. But my family has had a run of bad luck when it...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26

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    My son and I had made plans to go out of town for Thanksgiving. I figured my husband had made plans for the day as well, being that he never had any problem, before we started our...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 27

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