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I Want to Divorce My Emotionally Abusive Husband

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    I think it's time to call it quits

    when your seven year old says "mommy, why did you marry him? You need to marry someone else. We need a stepdad."
    putyourrecordson putyourrecordson 26-30, F 6 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    I Can't Get Away

    Here I am sitting in a dark motel room because once again my husband has kicked me out of my own house. Hootin and hollering that he is done with me. If only this were true. And the story goes on like it has always gone on. We had a beautiful day. And then there came a point in...
    BoundAndBroken BoundAndBroken 22-25 6 Responses Apr 25, 2012

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    Trapped

    My husband has a history of being emotionally abusive. He is in therapy now but I can't let it go, all the things he did. Why can't I forgive? He still has traces of it - controlling, calling me fat. Is this emotinal abuse We have children he said if I try and divorce him he...
    Homebirdie Homebirdie 36-40 5 Responses Nov 8, 2012

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    Confused

    I need help,i have been married to a man for 15yrs,we share 4beautiful children,he has always treated me as if i was beneath him,told me i wld never b anything,but his wife,are daughter got diagnosed wth terminal cancer,he was never home always out of state for work,so i met...
    brokinsoul brokinsoul 31-35 6 Responses Jan 28, 2013

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    Married to a passive aggressive/narcissist-I

    have been with my husband for twenty years, married for fifteen. I use to think there was really something wrong with me. I'm 43 years old now with two teen daughters, and I see that all the indirect, and direct digs, silent treatments, nasty body language, nasty looks(that are...
    tmcmjc tmcmjc 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    1, 2,3, 4, I Can't Count It Any More!

    How many ways is my husband emotionally abusive? Here is a little descriptive prose, in light of the situation: 1,2,3,4, I don't wanna count more... Soon I'm walking out the door. 5,6,7,8, who'd a though I coulda hate? When did I think he was really great? 1,2,3,4, What's...
    konichiwabtchs konichiwabtchs 36-40 8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

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    Stay Or Go Bc I Dont Know Anymore

    been with my husband for 7 years now. Married for a couple months and it seems that its only getting worse. We got married and he was still in college working full time and I know he was stressed and he took alot out on me. Over time I got used to it. I would get yelled at and...
    opencomein opencomein 26-30 1 Response Jul 6, 2012

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    I am married to emotionally

    and financially abusive husband. I have 2 kids 7years old and 4years old. We live in NYC. My credit history is bad so I can not rent my own place. My parents live in PA and I could go stay with them but I am afraid my husband will charge me with kidnapping if I take kids out of...
    Helen0728 Helen0728 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Does He Really Not Get It?

    I love my husband. I do. I can't help it. Maybe someday it will change, but right now it hurts how much I love him. And that is the problem. He holds everyone to impossible standards (especially me) and is no where near them himself. He treats me like sh*t without even realizing...
    NovaAnimus NovaAnimus 26-30 4 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    I used to consider myself a strong,

    responsible, loving, sexy and happy professional woman. Now, I am starting to realize that I doubt myself and my confidence has gone down. my husband of twelve years has constantly attacked every part of myself, initially with his body language, bad looks, dismissing behaviors...
    Gigimarie2 Gigimarie2 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    Abusive Husband - Narcisstic Personality Disorder

    3 years ago I wrote a post about my abusive husband called "Is this abuse?" I have to say that today my eyes are wide open and the answer is a unequivocal YES! Though not officially diagnosed, this man is without a doubt a narcissistic abuser. At the end of my rope, and after...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 25 Responses Aug 30, 2012

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    I was in an emotionally abusive relationship

    for 9 years, it was great at the beginning, he was charming etc, but after 4 years the cracks started to get worse and I lost all confidence in myself. After being married for over a year, the last straw was when he physically assaulted me. Now he has moved on with a new woman...
    lou2014 lou2014 46-50, F May 10

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    Well, where do I begin?

    I guess I could say that I still have some feelings for my husband, I be lying if I said I didn't. But, after the beat downs from his harsh words, and sometimes his use to be soft, gentle hands. The spark is gone, my life will never be the same. He knew all the right bottoms to...
    franhigg franhigg 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    About Ready To Just Bail

    Bombs and blasts burst in the background as I write this blog while my husband of ten years watches his military show from his favorite chair for about the fifteeth time..the same episode.  That's where he is ALL THE TIME, every day and night.  He does work..but it...
    pamela1229 pamela1229 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2010

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    I'm divorcing my husband of 8 years and ending a 12-years relationship. I met him back in university he's from Europe and I'm from Asia. This is going to be long... After uni I...
    lastfeather lastfeather 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    My husband moved out after yelling at me for not saying good night. He was jealous of my female best friend, my book club, my yoga class and my job. He frequently shared his...
    suburbandivorcing suburbandivorcing 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I'm finally going to be able to file the paperwork this Friday. (little over a day from now.) I'm so relieved. ♡
    tinkortaylor tinkortaylor 22-25, T Jun 23

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I post this for a friend who as we speak is locked inside for a 5th consecutive day being subjected to emotional torment after telling her abusive husband she wants to leave the...
    PerseveringMark PerseveringMark 31-35 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was in a relationship for 4 years. We first started seeing each other when I was 17 he was 21. I thought he was my everything. In the beginning he was sweet and very devoted to...
    oceanicdreamer oceanicdreamer 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 24

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    I post this on behalf of a friend who as we speak is on her 5th day of non-stop "discussions" with her husband of 5 years who she's told she wants to leave. She has been suffering...
    PerseveringMark PerseveringMark 31-35 2 days ago

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    I have been married to my husband for over 18 years (together for 20). We have a 22yr old son (his by birth, mine by adoption) and a younger teen daughter. Our son was initially...
    Alex1sJam4s Alex1sJam4s 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    My dad's not the worst but he still calls me fat. He's always called me fat. Porker or porky or chubby. I know he wants to help me lose weight and all but if he really wanted to...
    greyscales greyscales 16-17, F Jun 25

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    My last year of middle school, I finally got the opportunity to go out with one of the most popular guys in school. The first month, we were both infatuated with one another. We...
    thequ3enpree thequ3enpree 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    Well both of my parents thought they were giving me constructive criticism when they were really just breaking my self-esteem... I was told I was fat, overweight, lazy, stupid...
    Babyneedsherdaddy Babyneedsherdaddy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    Im having a very hard time these days and I am desperate for some advice or help or whatever. I'm a 17 yr old girl &this was my first relationship, we were long distance which...
    Lucycarter Lucycarter 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Not really husband, but long-term boyfriend. Should have realized this years ago, but he was treated like crap by an ex, and now either expects everyone to put up with his poor...
    gottabebettertoo gottabebettertoo 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    he isn't good at it and I feel used afterwards. I have tried to show him but his ego is too large to take any direction from me. He thinks I don't want to have sex with him. Thats...
    DGwilliams DGwilliams 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Crying or screaming doesn't even help anymore! All the stress, depression and anxiety attacks are become way to much to handle. I tried talking with him about my issuing im having...
    bowerstoy bowerstoy 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I made my escape with only two suitcases. I had to leave my kids. One is 18 and the other is 16. They are going to be older in a month. He has them all brainwashed that i am...
    iam2tesue iam2tesue 46-50, F Jun 23

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    I'm still scarred from a 9-month relationship 4 years ago. I think I project those fears onto my current bf.
    MinaMischa MinaMischa 22-25, F Jun 23

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    He is making it very difficult for me as he refuses to give me my rights and he tries to increase his controlling behaviour over the children 20 and 12y/old.
    rita617 rita617 51-55, F Jul 5

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    10 years is coming up but it's been over, for me, for at least 5 years. I'm done having communication with just myself and the wall. He doesn't attend anything with the family...
    lonelysara1211 lonelysara1211 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    He is really a jerk. He put me last on his list of things to do. He love his daughter so much that I thought he is in love with her. If she lets him to stay on her bed, I bet he...
    chatarak chatarak 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    I thought she was a good woman....... Well that was her statement to me and claim to fame , but then again my last ex's claim to fame was that she was a faithful "never was a bad...
    nevets61 nevets61 51-55 13 hrs ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    1. I am in the middle of a divorce from my physically and verbally abusive husband. I was raped when I was in my early 20s and molested as a child. I am, however, absolutely not...
    TragicWhispers TragicWhispers 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 1

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    I am currently in a emotionally abusive relationship. I live in milwaukee & have no family to run to. My family is in Indiana, Chicago & Florida. I can't move out (from my abuser...
    loloelisabeth loloelisabeth 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I was abused from birth by family members and then by my husband, from whom I finally escaped. I have had a few other very traumatic things happen in my life as well. Because I...
    JaneG8 JaneG8 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Personally, I think it would make my life a little better. It would help me get away from my emotionally abusive mother. Plus, I don't think most of my friends would even care. I...
    lilykitten1998 lilykitten1998 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 30

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    Why does this happen whether the spouse likes it or not? It wasn't my decision, but I can't stop it no matter what research I forward to him. I cannot fathom the idea of the...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    Hello, I am going through a divorce with my husband whom I still love. How do you get through this?
    biggirl47 biggirl47 46-50, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Well I flew to California to visit my parents. My mom threw me a baby shower. It was lovely . We didnt talk much about my husband...I didn't blame her. She wanted to keep the mood...
    melguzman21 melguzman21 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    A little background info, I'm just turned 15 and my parents have been divorced since I was 5 and my little brother was 2 years old. The condensed past from my perspective: It's...
    illlivehappily illlivehappily 13-15, F 13 hrs ago

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