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I Want to Feel Like I Matter

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    I don't understand why I'm the way that I am. My brother is the life of the party, I've always struggled to make friends. It's so lonely not having real friends who don't feel burdened by you sharing your pain with them. Does it ever get better?
    lamenlonely lamenlonely 31-35, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Quiet Girl With The Loud Thoughts

    Inferiority is my enemy. For as long as I could remember always felt like I wasn't inside my skin. Like I needed to be inside other people's mind posses their talents and features but not mine own because for the simple fact I wasn't recognized, I wasn't that "special girl", not...
    midnightpunk91 midnightpunk91 18-21 1 Response Dec 9, 2012

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    Sad But True -

    Sometimes on my darkest days I feel like I don't matter - I could leave and no one would notice no one would miss me...
    TimeforT TimeforT 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    Not Sure Just How to Do That.

    At work I supervised some 12 people and yet, I don't want to be the kind of guy that follows people around, looking over their shoulder.  They come to me for my opinion and that's a great feeling, to be needed.  I have a lot of experience but in the last 3 years on my...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    It's so hard not to get that feeling. Like I'm in a room full of people and I don't even exist. I wish I were normal. I wish I were lovable. I look at other people around me and all I see is there magnetic personalities, and then there is me. I'm not even that interesting. I'm...
    Aksumite Aksumite 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2011

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    In The Later Years

    Everyone wants and needs to matter. At home and at  work. We're more then just a source to use selectively. To be convenient is sad.To be left behind because an elder parent "may" not be able to walk so far,  or get a kick out of he mall or the zoo..a nice  lunch date...
    wiseowl wiseowl 61-65, F 5 Responses May 21, 2011

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    I know I matter I try to let the people in my

    life know they matter. I go out of my way to juggle all the balls to make sure everyone's needs are met as best I can I want a certain someone to show I matter to him. That my needs are important and that he does his best to meet them. I do matter I am showing myself that...
    cailinAlainn cailinAlainn 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    C'est Impossible.....

    I do want to feel like I matter.  This has been one of the main themes of the problems I have with my stb ex, AgingTiger.  There is no need to go into the many times and ways in which he's shown me that I don't matter. I will only relate the latest slap in the face...
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    I Just Dont Know Anymore

    I cant help but to wonder what it feels like that i matter to someone. I have always felt like i didnt matter for anyone my entire life. i hope that one day that happens
    NDR1987 NDR1987 26-30, M May 7, 2013

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    I can't do this anymore.

    I'm tired of no one caring if they leave me behind.
    lonelydarling lonelydarling 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I Feel Like I Don't Matter

    Maybe I am just sensitive or feeling sorry for myself, or maybe the world is just filled with self obsessed, selfish ******** who believe everyone is to do for them - I don't know? I really try to be a good person not because i have to but because this is who i am and let me...
    cmecry cmecry 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2008

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    Obsessed

    Why couldn’t Annie sleep yesterday? ‘Will there be any comments for my story?’ she wonders. She turns on her computer and waits impatiently as it connects. She goes online, only to find that no one has read it.No comments. No notifications. She waits.. An endless wait...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 13, 2013

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    All I want to do is cry.

    I've been crying all day but it still isn't enough. Why do you push me away? What did I do to deserve this?
    madeline68 madeline68 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    No Talent. No One To Inspire. No Importance

    So I was on facebook and one of my close friends posted that a girl he didn't know messaged him saying that she was planning to commit suicide this Christmas and that listening to the song he wrote an recorded inspired her not to. I'm very proud of him but I wish I could do...
    SoloHD SoloHD 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 23, 2012

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    Kindly Tell Me Why...

    I'm tired of being told that I'm "important" when it's clear I'm not. One of these days, I want to not only feel as if I matter, but loved.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2011

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    Invisible, Forever And Always My Super Power.

    I just want to feel like a normal person! I can be in a room crowded with people I know but, theres always that need to isolate myself. I feel so unimportant. I can sit right in the middle of everything and no one will acknowledge me. It's like I don't even exist until someone...
    NubiieeCobain NubiieeCobain 16-17 Jan 2, 2013

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    Paycheck And Insurance

    I'm tired of just being needed. My superpower of invisibility is in full affect until something needs to be paid for or moved.
    daddypatric daddypatric 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 28, 2012

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    Alone, Always Alone.

    Little Girl Lost, Little Girl Scared, Scared of The world, she's not prepared. Angry little girl , little girl be quiet nobody cares. Selfish little girl don't you see nobody wants to see the blood you throw up? You disgust me. Attention seeker. *****, ***** , ***** . Little girl...
    NubiieeCobain NubiieeCobain 16-17 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    More often than sometimes it feels like I was

    born defective. Like a broken toy you bought in a store. Unfortunately you just can't return it and all it does nowadays is sit on a shelve. Alone. Sad. Forgotten. No matter to whom I look upon they feel all the same. Or should I say doesn't feel anything. Father which often...
    IgnemAvis IgnemAvis 18-21, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I Suppose

    you can only tell someone that you're suicidal when the response becomes, "if you want to do it so badly, you should just go ahead and do it." I don't even care if no one reads this or comments on this. it's just so that i don't have to tell the same person the same thing over...
    Amiera Amiera 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    Just Me

    I'm a very sensitive, deeply compassionate person. For the last 4 years I've had anxiety and the odd panic attack. I don't take anything for it and I try to talk myself through the thoughts, do EFT to relax and read almost daily. I've moved around a lot in the last 3 years...
    producedby229 producedby229 36-40 Aug 9, 2011

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    Most Of My Friends Couldn't Care Less To Be Honest!

    I have one good friend, really but the rest, couldn't give a feck, I guess! I have to text THEM, phone THEM, bother with them before they can be bothered with me. Honestly, I buy them presents for their birthdays, Xmas, I have helped them when they have been in a jam, numerous...
    Jan 16, 2013

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    No One Has Proven It Yet

    No one's proven I matter to them yet. Some days I feel like I could go missing and the only ones who would notice are the people I'm living with because they wouldn't see me. My ex says I still matter to her, yet she's blown me off so many times, forgotten to call me when she...
    TheKidiKehT TheKidiKehT 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 28, 2009

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    This has to be the worst pain I have ever felt towards the person I call my dad. Just the thought of what he said and what happened brings tears to my face and pain to my heart...
    VivirLaVida VivirLaVida 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    It amazes me the different people in your life.... There are those you can always turn to... Those that are there for you... Those that make you smile like you've never smiled...
    Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 7

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    I look in the mirror and I don't recognise my self I know it's me but just doesn't feel right, I feel like I'm not living my life and I'm just floating day by day.
    chloesarahxxo chloesarahxxo 18-21, F 30 mins ago

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    I never thought I would turn out to be like this when I was younger. Incompetent, inadequate, lost soul. I'm not anywhere close to the life stage points I should be. I feel like I...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    I feel like this is more towards the people in my life that I interact with on a daily basis.. I can be very anti social, even with my own family. I mean, don't get me wrong. It...
    StoneColdNipZz StoneColdNipZz 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    i feel so weak...My body is like a lump of earth. i feel like my soul has been struck with a lightning bolt. nothing can prepare me for this fate i must face. no matter how much i...
    LunarDream LunarDream 13-15, M 3 Responses Jul 31

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    I have two rather close friends and sometimes I feel like when I talk to them about how I feel ..they don't understand or want to for that matter especially my one friend in...
    lostinfire lostinfire 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I always feel like every time I do or say something it's weird or wrong but if someone else does the exact same thing it's perfectly fine. And every time I try to defend myself I...
    theartist102 theartist102 22-25, M Aug 4

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    Yes. My heart my feelings of despair, and lonelyness is pushing even my limits. I have fought to no avail to Realize my life is nothing but one screw up after another and no matter...
    lonelyheart1967 lonelyheart1967 46-50, M 6 Responses Aug 5

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    Sometimes i feel like, no matter how many friends i have, a part of me always feels alone
    Lilys3 Lilys3 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I'm invisible because i feel like I have no good friends, my opinions don't matter to them, they could care less if I disappeared I'd say, and all I really have is my boyfriend...
    anonymouschicky anonymouschicky 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I love you all so much. I know sometimes we feel like we could conquer the world and other times we just wanna stay in bed, but let's keep moving no matter what we do. Because were...
    smilebigalways smilebigalways 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Hello everyone! This is my first post! (Woohoo) Okay, So hi, I'm Kat. I'm 24... 25 on MONDAY 8/11!!! *Suddenly gets writer's block* -_- Always happens. Meh. I live in FL. I'm a...
    LovelyCalico LovelyCalico 22-25, F Aug 7

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    I just turned one when my parents divorced so it wasn't hard for me to get over that since I don't remember when my parents even were together. A few years later my dad met my step...
    ahk16 ahk16 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    My computer has stopped working, so now I have no way of getting online from home and OMGGGGG it sucks! I have managed to get through a couple of weeks with no online company but I...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M Jul 30

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    I can't make sense of myself in relation to the life around me. I look at people and I feel so very different. There are moments when I know that a certain thought process was...
    WhisperSayuri WhisperSayuri 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    Did you ever meet someone and feel a strong connection to them without even really knowing them? Like they just "get" you and you feel like you know them and feel empathy towards...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Haha, I feel weird writing this but, I've always wondered this. Obviously I know what it feels like to women, but I've always been curious as to what guys feels when they're having...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    I feel like a fraud. I've been in orchestra for 5 years now, and I play the beautiful cello...except I never ACTUALLY played in class. (I'm practically a master at muting sounds...
    ArtisteMe ArtisteMe 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    After reading a variety of the experiences people share here I can't help but feel a familiar feeling, like I'm an outlier, like I don't belong. I see experiences of people who...
    darksaber9999 darksaber9999 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 14

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    My head feels like its gonna explode I don't want to think anymore. I want to forget I exist for awhile. I don't want to hear the shower dripping, feel my arms burning from the...
    blahlahblah599 blahlahblah599 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    But i want to spent the weekend with my bf and he is going. Im also invited but i barely know anyone. The thing is its one of those kind of partys where the boys hang out with the...
    miflor miflor 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    cross country was brutal but shorter today, but my body feels like total crap. my legs feel like cinderblocks when I move them, and i feel bloated all over. At dinner, I felt...
    jeweldoggy jeweldoggy 13-15, F 14 hrs ago

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    I have trust issues, Even though I'm the one who cheated on someone. I feel like I have no one close to me, but I push everyone away. I don't ever want to hear my divorcing parents...
    bigbrownbastard bigbrownbastard 18-21, M Aug 4

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    I have all kids of dreams.. And i must say before i say anything else, that i feel like dreams are some of the times based on what you have been thinking about, or somethings...
    cbeneath cbeneath 22-25, F Aug 5

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    This a major problem for me, all the time. I feel like crap over this. Imagine me, living in a small town with a school of maybe 200 people K-12 grades. And always having this...
    lportra24 lportra24 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 8

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