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I Want to Feel Like I Matter

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    In The Later Years

    Everyone wants and needs to matter. At home and at  work. We're more then just a source to use selectively. To be convenient is sad.To be left behind because an elder parent "may" not be able to walk so far,  or get a kick out of he mall or the zoo..a nice  lunch date...
    wiseowl wiseowl 61-65, F 5 Responses May 21, 2011

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    Not Sure Just How to Do That.

    At work I supervised some 12 people and yet, I don't want to be the kind of guy that follows people around, looking over their shoulder.  They come to me for my opinion and that's a great feeling, to be needed.  I have a lot of experience but in the last 3 years on my...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Just Me

    I'm a very sensitive, deeply compassionate person. For the last 4 years I've had anxiety and the odd panic attack. I don't take anything for it and I try to talk myself through the thoughts, do EFT to relax and read almost daily. I've moved around a lot in the last 3 years...
    producedby229 producedby229 36-40 Aug 9, 2011

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    Most Of My Friends Couldn't Care Less To Be Honest!

    I have one good friend, really but the rest, couldn't give a feck, I guess! I have to text THEM, phone THEM, bother with them before they can be bothered with me. Honestly, I buy them presents for their birthdays, Xmas, I have helped them when they have been in a jam, numerous...
    Jan 16, 2013

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    I Feel Like I Don't Matter

    Maybe I am just sensitive or feeling sorry for myself, or maybe the world is just filled with self obsessed, selfish ******** who believe everyone is to do for them - I don't know? I really try to be a good person not because i have to but because this is who i am and let me...
    cmecry cmecry 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2008

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    No One Has Proven It Yet

    No one's proven I matter to them yet. Some days I feel like I could go missing and the only ones who would notice are the people I'm living with because they wouldn't see me. My ex says I still matter to her, yet she's blown me off so many times, forgotten to call me when she...
    TheKidiKehT TheKidiKehT 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 28, 2009

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    No Talent. No One To Inspire. No Importance

    So I was on facebook and one of my close friends posted that a girl he didn't know messaged him saying that she was planning to commit suicide this Christmas and that listening to the song he wrote an recorded inspired her not to. I'm very proud of him but I wish I could do...
    SoloHD SoloHD 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 23, 2012

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    Quiet Girl With The Loud Thoughts

    Inferiority is my enemy. For as long as I could remember always felt like I wasn't inside my skin. Like I needed to be inside other people's mind posses their talents and features but not mine own because for the simple fact I wasn't recognized, I wasn't that "special girl", not...
    midnightpunk91 midnightpunk91 18-21 1 Response Dec 9, 2012

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    IDK

    I don't understand why I'm the way that I am. My brother is the life of the party, I've always struggled to make friends. It's so lonely not having real friends who don't feel burdened by you sharing your pain with them. Does it ever get better?
    lamenlonely lamenlonely 31-35, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Paycheck And Insurance

    I'm tired of just being needed. My superpower of invisibility is in full affect until something needs to be paid for or moved.
    daddypatric daddypatric 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 28, 2012

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    All I want to do is cry.

    I've been crying all day but it still isn't enough. Why do you push me away? What did I do to deserve this?
    madeline68 madeline68 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    C'est Impossible.....

    I do want to feel like I matter.  This has been one of the main themes of the problems I have with my stb ex, AgingTiger.  There is no need to go into the many times and ways in which he's shown me that I don't matter. I will only relate the latest slap in the face...
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    Alone, Always Alone.

    Little Girl Lost, Little Girl Scared, Scared of The world, she's not prepared. Angry little girl , little girl be quiet nobody cares. Selfish little girl don't you see nobody wants to see the blood you throw up? You disgust me. Attention seeker. *****, ***** , ***** . Little girl...
    NubiieeCobain NubiieeCobain 16-17 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    I Just Dont Know Anymore

    I cant help but to wonder what it feels like that i matter to someone. I have always felt like i didnt matter for anyone my entire life. i hope that one day that happens
    NDR1987 NDR1987 26-30, M May 7, 2013

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    Kindly Tell Me Why...

    I'm tired of being told that I'm "important" when it's clear I'm not. One of these days, I want to not only feel as if I matter, but loved.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2011

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    Obsessed

    Why couldn’t Annie sleep yesterday? ‘Will there be any comments for my story?’ she wonders. She turns on her computer and waits impatiently as it connects. She goes online, only to find that no one has read it.No comments. No notifications. She waits.. An endless wait...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 13, 2013

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    I Suppose

    you can only tell someone that you're suicidal when the response becomes, "if you want to do it so badly, you should just go ahead and do it." I don't even care if no one reads this or comments on this. it's just so that i don't have to tell the same person the same thing over...
    Amiera Amiera 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I can't do this anymore.

    I'm tired of no one caring if they leave me behind.
    lonelydarling lonelydarling 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I know I matter I try to let the people in my

    life know they matter. I go out of my way to juggle all the balls to make sure everyone's needs are met as best I can I want a certain someone to show I matter to him. That my needs are important and that he does his best to meet them. I do matter I am showing myself that...
    cailinAlainn cailinAlainn 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    N/a

    It's so hard not to get that feeling. Like I'm in a room full of people and I don't even exist. I wish I were normal. I wish I were lovable. I look at other people around me and all I see is there magnetic personalities, and then there is me. I'm not even that interesting. I'm...
    Aksumite Aksumite 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2011

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    Sad But True -

    Sometimes on my darkest days I feel like I don't matter - I could leave and no one would notice no one would miss me...
    TimeforT TimeforT 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    Invisible, Forever And Always My Super Power.

    I just want to feel like a normal person! I can be in a room crowded with people I know but, theres always that need to isolate myself. I feel so unimportant. I can sit right in the middle of everything and no one will acknowledge me. It's like I don't even exist until someone...
    NubiieeCobain NubiieeCobain 16-17 Jan 2, 2013

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