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I Want to Feel Like I Matter

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    I don't understand why I'm the way that I am. My brother is the life of the party, I've always struggled to make friends. It's so lonely not having real friends who don't feel burdened by you sharing your pain with them. Does it ever get better?
    lamenlonely lamenlonely 31-35, F Nov 2, 2013

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    No One Has Proven It Yet

    No one's proven I matter to them yet. Some days I feel like I could go missing and the only ones who would notice are the people I'm living with because they wouldn't see me. My ex says I still matter to her, yet she's blown me off so many times, forgotten to call me when she...
    TheKidiKehT TheKidiKehT 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 28, 2009

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    C'est Impossible.....

    I do want to feel like I matter.  This has been one of the main themes of the problems I have with my stb ex, AgingTiger.  There is no need to go into the many times and ways in which he's shown me that I don't matter. I will only relate the latest slap in the face...
    lonesurvivor lonesurvivor 51-55, F 7 Responses Nov 9, 2010

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    In The Later Years

    Everyone wants and needs to matter. At home and at  work. We're more then just a source to use selectively. To be convenient is sad.To be left behind because an elder parent "may" not be able to walk so far,  or get a kick out of he mall or the zoo..a nice  lunch date...
    wiseowl wiseowl 61-65, F 5 Responses May 21, 2011

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    I want to feel something.

    ....I feel like I don't mean anything to anyone. Words can be said but actions speaks louder than words....I don't feel important
    Supershoes24 Supershoes24 22-25, M Aug 29

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    Sad But True -

    Sometimes on my darkest days I feel like I don't matter - I could leave and no one would notice no one would miss me...
    TimeforT TimeforT 31-35, F 8 Responses Jun 29, 2008

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    Quiet Girl With The Loud Thoughts

    Inferiority is my enemy. For as long as I could remember always felt like I wasn't inside my skin. Like I needed to be inside other people's mind posses their talents and features but not mine own because for the simple fact I wasn't recognized, I wasn't that "special girl", not...
    midnightpunk91 midnightpunk91 18-21 1 Response Dec 9, 2012

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    I know I matter I try to let the people in my

    life know they matter. I go out of my way to juggle all the balls to make sure everyone's needs are met as best I can I want a certain someone to show I matter to him. That my needs are important and that he does his best to meet them. I do matter I am showing myself that...
    cailinAlainn cailinAlainn 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Paycheck And Insurance

    I'm tired of just being needed. My superpower of invisibility is in full affect until something needs to be paid for or moved.
    daddypatric daddypatric 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 28, 2012

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    All I want to do is cry.

    I've been crying all day but it still isn't enough. Why do you push me away? What did I do to deserve this?
    madeline68 madeline68 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    No Talent. No One To Inspire. No Importance

    So I was on facebook and one of my close friends posted that a girl he didn't know messaged him saying that she was planning to commit suicide this Christmas and that listening to the song he wrote an recorded inspired her not to. I'm very proud of him but I wish I could do...
    SoloHD SoloHD 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 23, 2012

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    I Suppose

    you can only tell someone that you're suicidal when the response becomes, "if you want to do it so badly, you should just go ahead and do it." I don't even care if no one reads this or comments on this. it's just so that i don't have to tell the same person the same thing over...
    Amiera Amiera 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 20, 2013

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    I Feel Like I Don't Matter

    Maybe I am just sensitive or feeling sorry for myself, or maybe the world is just filled with self obsessed, selfish ******** who believe everyone is to do for them - I don't know? I really try to be a good person not because i have to but because this is who i am and let me...
    cmecry cmecry 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2008

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    Most Of My Friends Couldn't Care Less To Be Honest!

    I have one good friend, really but the rest, couldn't give a feck, I guess! I have to text THEM, phone THEM, bother with them before they can be bothered with me. Honestly, I buy them presents for their birthdays, Xmas, I have helped them when they have been in a jam, numerous...
    Jan 16, 2013

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    Just Me

    I'm a very sensitive, deeply compassionate person. For the last 4 years I've had anxiety and the odd panic attack. I don't take anything for it and I try to talk myself through the thoughts, do EFT to relax and read almost daily. I've moved around a lot in the last 3 years...
    producedby229 producedby229 36-40 Aug 9, 2011

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    I Just Dont Know Anymore

    I cant help but to wonder what it feels like that i matter to someone. I have always felt like i didnt matter for anyone my entire life. i hope that one day that happens
    NDR1987 NDR1987 26-30, M May 7, 2013

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    Invisible, Forever And Always My Super Power.

    I just want to feel like a normal person! I can be in a room crowded with people I know but, theres always that need to isolate myself. I feel so unimportant. I can sit right in the middle of everything and no one will acknowledge me. It's like I don't even exist until someone...
    NubiieeCobain NubiieeCobain 16-17 Jan 2, 2013

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    Not Sure Just How to Do That.

    At work I supervised some 12 people and yet, I don't want to be the kind of guy that follows people around, looking over their shoulder.  They come to me for my opinion and that's a great feeling, to be needed.  I have a lot of experience but in the last 3 years on my...
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 4 Responses Jul 15, 2008

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    Kindly Tell Me Why...

    I'm tired of being told that I'm "important" when it's clear I'm not. One of these days, I want to not only feel as if I matter, but loved.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 19, 2011

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    N/a

    It's so hard not to get that feeling. Like I'm in a room full of people and I don't even exist. I wish I were normal. I wish I were lovable. I look at other people around me and all I see is there magnetic personalities, and then there is me. I'm not even that interesting. I'm...
    Aksumite Aksumite 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2011

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    Alone, Always Alone.

    Little Girl Lost, Little Girl Scared, Scared of The world, she's not prepared. Angry little girl , little girl be quiet nobody cares. Selfish little girl don't you see nobody wants to see the blood you throw up? You disgust me. Attention seeker. *****, ***** , ***** . Little girl...
    NubiieeCobain NubiieeCobain 16-17 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    Obsessed

    Why couldn’t Annie sleep yesterday? ‘Will there be any comments for my story?’ she wonders. She turns on her computer and waits impatiently as it connects. She goes online, only to find that no one has read it.No comments. No notifications. She waits.. An endless wait...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 13, 2013

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    I can't do this anymore.

    I'm tired of no one caring if they leave me behind.
    lonelydarling lonelydarling 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    I have two rather close friends and sometimes I feel like when I talk to them about how I feel ..they don't understand or want to for that matter especially my one friend in...
    lostinfire lostinfire 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    Just having a really hard time right now. The love of my life just used and abused me so badly, except I still love her. She told me she would always love me, no matter what...
    BradleyBlei89 BradleyBlei89 22-25, M a week ago

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    No matter what I do, it's never enough. I feel isolated...trapped. If I don't do something right, I feel like I let everyone down. I want to find my purpose in life, but it's so...
    ohmyshortone ohmyshortone 22-25, F 4 hrs ago

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    No matter who it is I can never make a significant connection with them. My father, and mother both care for me I can tell, and I respect them but to be perfectly honest I feel as...
    aimlessglitch aimlessglitch 18-21, M Sep 2

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    Sometimes i feel like, no matter how many friends i have, a part of me always feels alone
    Lilys3 Lilys3 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    I love you all so much. I know sometimes we feel like we could conquer the world and other times we just wanna stay in bed, but let's keep moving no matter what we do. Because were...
    smilebigalways smilebigalways 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    No matter what I do and how well I do it, it's still never enough for anybody. I'm the ****** friend and a horrible daughter even though all I do is try and please everybody, not...
    iflipppppp iflipppppp 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    I'm just really really disappointed. I told my mom that this woman (I have a story of how I distrusted this adult who happens to be my moms close friend and how she is now bluntly...
    LoveisBeautiful5013 LoveisBeautiful5013 18-21, F Aug 28

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    For the past two weeks, I don’t think I’ve dreamed once-or if I have, I don’t remember it. That probably doesn’t seem all that significant… Except for me. It’s made...
    Sarahbellas Sarahbellas 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 30

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    I have a few different feelings that are similar and I can't stand feeling the way I do about it. First, my real family; I miss them all so much but especially my sister and...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Aug 31

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    Sometime I think I should just give up on the possibility of me and him. I met him a month or more ago. What started out as something that made me so hopeful has turned into more...
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    Let me first start off by saying I am a natural worrier. By this, I mean my life wouldn't feel right or I would be bored if I didn't worry. Granted, it takes its' toll on me but I...
    Cherrybean84 Cherrybean84 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Did you ever meet someone and feel a strong connection to them without even really knowing them? Like they just "get" you and you feel like you know them and feel empathy towards...
    455cargirl 455cargirl 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 21

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    okay, im thirteen and in about 5th to 7th grade ive had really bad pimples and right now, their gone but i have black spots. my friends say they make me look cute but i cant help...
    swavvy123 swavvy123 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I posted about a similar problem last night, and like most people the night is a very emotional time for me so I feel the need to post this again but from a slightly different...
    KayJayHoeBum KayJayHoeBum 16-17, M Sep 5

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    So here I am. Conversing with strangers on the internet in search for a reason not to blow my brains out. In retrospect, I'm not surprised. I can see the whole sordid chain of...
    Stillnothing Stillnothing 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 5

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    I feel like my step-mother hates me as clearly as I feel pain if I poke my own eyes. Its an almost tangible, clear feeling that was at the center of my childhood experience. Now...
    whitemut whitemut 13-15, M Sep 5

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    I am so f**king sick of feeling broken and lost. I shouldn't have to hate myself because others treated me like crap. I am not some injured lamb who needs to be nursed back to...
    LunaKye LunaKye 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    My head feels like its gonna explode I don't want to think anymore. I want to forget I exist for awhile. I don't want to hear the shower dripping, feel my arms burning from the...
    blahlahblah599 blahlahblah599 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    But i want to spent the weekend with my bf and he is going. Im also invited but i barely know anyone. The thing is its one of those kind of partys where the boys hang out with the...
    miflor miflor 18-21, F Aug 22

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    cross country was brutal but shorter today, but my body feels like total crap. my legs feel like cinderblocks when I move them, and i feel bloated all over. At dinner, I felt...
    jeweldoggy jeweldoggy 13-15, F Aug 27

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    Two things I don't understand in life. I don't know why God made me and why He loves me. I've betrayed Him so many times. Two things I know in life. He made me and bought me back...
    Ludavin Ludavin 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I just started high school and I feel like no one really wants to be around me because of my birthmark. I want to be myself, I want to be able to talk to other people and have...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    YES YES I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE THIS, this feeling is so disturbing! Eventhough they, my friends says they enjoy my accompany & they likes it when i get all happy & hyper but i just idk...
    saffaismail saffaismail 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 6

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    Like the air that drifts between us I feel unimportant, unseen and uninteresting. People glance my way and see no more than scenery. Ostracised by my friends at school, I inhabit...
    BustedMonkey BustedMonkey 18-21, M a week ago