I Want to Get Rid of Toxic Friends But Keep Good Friends

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 292 People

    Living with any type of toxicity in your life

    can make you feel as though you're wearing a boulder around your neck while trying to stay afloat.
    lonelybutok lonelybutok
    46-50, F
    Jun 21, 2015

    I Already Have

    I spent so much time trying to be a people pleaser and bending over backwards for "friends" that were only around when there was something for them to gain. Most I only heard from around their birthday or holidays and as soon as they passed my so called friends went .mi...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 2, 2009

    I'm Not Picky, Really

    I just want friends who know what it means to be loyal, kind, and supportive. Unconditional love would be nice. People who aren't afraid to laugh at themselves or their situations, people who have many different interests and can have friendly debates on issues without going away...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 30, 2009

    This is an issue for me

    as I have been spending time alone to Soul seek. I have let toxic people in and they have an insidious way of exhausting me so that I am exposed, out of sorts and vulnerable. Yeah toxic folks pave the way for more just like them to prey on my open wounds. This website...
    luvstolye26 luvstolye26
    51-55, F
    Jun 22, 2015

    Almost Complete

    I recently stopped spending time with all my friends but one.  SOme of them weren't even extremely toxic - but not right for me.  I think I held onto them while waiting to find better friends - then I realized, A. If they weren't good for me, maybe I needed to let them...
    kylae77 kylae77
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2009

    Go And Lie Yourself Out Of My Life

    He's a compulsive liar. He lies until he's blue in the face and doesn't care when I tell him that I hate it when he lies. He's an international student that I met through another friend. At first things were great and we got along fine, he told me stories about his country and...
    RedIce15 RedIce15
    22-25, F
    Feb 27, 2012

    Almost Complete

    I recently stopped spending time with all my friends but one.  SOme of them weren't even extremely toxic - but not right for me.  I think I held onto them while waiting to find better friends - then I realized, A. If they weren't good for me, maybe I needed to let them...
    kylae77 kylae77
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2009

    She calls me her best friend,

    but even just that simple title is a tool of manipulation in her hands. She always needs something from me-- usually money-- & there is always some crisis. She can't accept responsibility for her actions; she instead plays the victim. I've tried to help her, but she doesn't want...
    lovely9me lovely9me
    31-35, F
    Jan 3, 2014

    I Did & Feel So Pure !

    I used to be very attached to friends few years ago. Many times I had been used by 'em in several matters .. Yet, I didnt mind since I considered they were my "friends" .. Until I was betrait .. Thats all .. I get rid of them outta my life and has become very...
    DollyDiva DollyDiva
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2009

    im sick of meeting people

    who constantly puts people down and ***** about this and that. honestly i need to stop attracting ****** up people who are plain *******.
    theanoymouswreck theanoymouswreck
    22-25, M
    1 Response May 31, 2015

    The worst scenario is

    when you've been friends for years but u realize just how draining and toxic this friend is and it's imperative that u get rid of them because they hinder your growth as an individual...of course they'll never begin to understand that . They don't know how to take accountability...
    ladysapio ladysapio
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 30, 2015

    I'm Done With Giving In

    I'm done with giving in all the time. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't have a right to get mad or upset, but everyone else does. Okay, so this is just my need to vent, (so ignore this if you don't want to read my whining) 1. I can't stand it when...
    chancesbreathe chancesbreathe
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Feb 5, 2009

    Don't Mess With The Closedbook

    I managed to cut loose one toxic friend, and I guess I'm still in the adjustment stage. Here's the story: It was my birthday a few weeks ago, and about a month prior to that I sent out invitations. This one particular girl kept going on about how excited she was and hoping that...
    ClosedBook ClosedBook
    18-21, F
    Jun 27, 2010

    I chose the name "tooliteral"

    because I needed a place to vent and to be heard, but without people knowing who I am or assuming I'm talking about them. I'm serious, I'm going to be 22 and there's people out there my age who still act like they're in high school. They might as well be when they're using...
    tooliteral tooliteral
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2014

    Toxic friends just use you,

    jump to conclusions, don't respect you, force you to do things, don't trust you, and just is a bad friend. I am done with bad friends.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses May 30, 2015

    Already Did This

    All i have to say is...i am MUCH happier having friends i know who aren't going to try to sabatoge a relationship i have, or are SO negative all the time it's depressing.  i don't need that sh*t in my life, so...over time, i just let the friendship(s) die.  haven't...
    KinkyFlower KinkyFlower
    31-35, F
    11 Responses May 30, 2009

    So, What If It's Family?

    I have very few friends...it is on purpose and my choice.  I find it easier to live that way, but I do miss having a "best" friend sometimes.  The reason I joined this group is to ask how to deal with a "toxic friend" who happens to be your sister...
    purpleriz purpleriz
    46-50, F
    2 Responses May 29, 2009

    Out With the Toxic Friends --in With the True Friends

    No one can be peppy, superhappy, and sure footed all the time.  At times, even mountain goats slip. At times even the fastest runner of a race may lose their balance and fall. But that is the times that they need  friends and family and people who care to  rally...
    Sunnybright Sunnybright
    51-55, F
    1 Response Nov 30, 2008

    I Thought I Got Rid Of You

    So any ways I did get rid of everyone in my life who I don't want to talk to. But one girl keeps coming back ill call her cancer cause that's what she is like. So anyways "cancer" and I grew up together along with her siblings. I all ways felt that I had to stay friends with her...
    Nonamelids Nonamelids
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jul 28, 2011

    She's Unhappy So Tried To Shoot Me Down When I'm Happy.

    I have no idea why I even talk to her about anything.  If I have something exciting to say, she tries to shoot me down by saying something negative about it.  If I ask her how her week went, she says "Okay".  If I say "Hey, I'm so excited, I'm losing weight with...
    singlemom1254 singlemom1254
    1 Response Sep 27, 2010


    Toxic people are never, ever good for our lives. It's hard to 'breathe" with all these toxic ones around... Freeloaders, insensitive peeps, the like...
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass
    18-21, F
    Apr 17, 2009


    Depending on the person, this can be tricky business.
    deleted deleted
    Nov 14, 2010


    Sometimes change is hard. But I'm not one to back down from a challenge, I never had been. Recently, I found myself with two toxic friends and many good and true ones! I am happy for the true ones and I want to be the best friend that I can possibly be with them. And I know I...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 30, 2008
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