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I Want to Have An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 3,184 People

    It Will Happen

    It will happen only because I do not want it to. I fight it again. I have been fighting it for so long. How many keepers have I handed my leash to? 1, 2, now the third. I am sorry. I hang my head in my collar and breath a heavy gasp of rattling air. I do not want it... and...
    Wolfeyes Wolfeyes
    36-40, M
    Oct 20, 2013

    Any women from South Jersey,

    northern Delaware want see if we are compatible? Not having sex is driving me insane. I can come to you.
    sportsguy77 sportsguy77
    36-40, M
    Dec 8, 2013

    Almost An Affair. In Need.

    I've had 2 male sexual relationship and one female one. The 2 guys were ex-boyfriends, and the female was just a drunken night and good kissing session. Months after this female and I had sex, i met Kevin (changed his name) a good half a year without a male relationship of any...
    EmJay EmJay
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2007

    Afraid to Marry

    I think every day about cheating on my boyfriend. Not because I don't love him. I think mainly its because we stopped having sex due to our religious beliefs(Catholic=no premartial sex and no contraceptives) I want to obey God, but having sex regularly with men from age 16-21 and...
    silverlining silverlining
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jun 25, 2007
    wildworld12 wildworld12
    26-30, F
    24 Responses Mar 21, 2014

    I am in a 36 year marriage

    that has been sexless for the past 20 years. My wife, whom I love and will never leave, has had 2 bouts with cancer and double knee replacements and no longer has any libido. The only thing going on in our bed is sleep. She is afraid to even try any more, fearful of injury. So...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jul 9, 2015

    My Dream

    In my dream, you were laying behind me with your arm across my waist, my arm on yours.  We had fallen asleep.  I woke up, savoring the fact that you were next to me.  I began pushing myself into you, slightly, because you felt so good.  My breathing slowed at...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses May 20, 2009

    Age 50. Married 24.5 years.

    Never had affair since marriage. Home in Florida. I am working in Kansas at the moment. I would be interested to hear insights from other men/women at approximately this age...really, anyone's insights. I should first point out that our marriage is at a cross-roads because...
    newchapter1234 newchapter1234
    51-55, M
    1 Response Jan 19, 2014

    A little over 4 years ago I met the "perfect"

    man. I had never stuggled to find romance but I decided this was "the one" and we got married just over a year later and have now been married for almost 3 years. The problem is that I have since realised that he is THE stereotypically "perfect" guy... not MY perfect guy and...
    masa2014 masa2014
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 23, 2014

    I Need To Get Good ****!!

    Hi...i have been wanting sex but have not been getting it at home...i am 24 and am attractive with a phat *** and a good personality...i love my husband but he didn't treat me like the lil **** I am in bed...if you want to meet up you need to have a car so you can pick me up...i...
    sexkitten1989 sexkitten1989
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2013

    Should I? Would it make me feel better?

    I don't really feel like I will ever want another man though.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Mar 19, 2015

    I really do.. I want to meet a new man

    and forget about the one I got. He only give me sex like once per month WTF.. At least give me some 2 days a week geez. ************ is ok but I be needing the real deal.
    SeekUnique SeekUnique
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 16, 2014

    I don't care how horrible I sound I so,

    so badly want someone who isn't my husband. We've been together for 10 years. He has such little passion for any part of life including me. I do have a crush on a man much older than me. He is so unlike my husband. I fantasize about him constantly and intensely. I just have the...
    meevil meevil
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    How Do I Start The Ball Rolling?

    I am an attractive married woman in my 40s (ok, I think so - nice body) who would like to have an affair.Ok, I'm married, so that's the problem, but I already told my husband I'm planning on having an affair.I have no clue as to go about having an affair.  I don't just want to...
    sweetbutterbiscuit sweetbutterbiscuit
    41-45, F
    7 Responses Mar 7, 2012

    Sex With a Younger Guy

    I have this obsession of having sex with a younger guy like 19 or 20, I'm 38.  I don't know why I think I need to do this.  I'm happily married and have a great sex life with my husband.  Maybe I want a younger guy to think I'm still attractive.  I have almost...
    summerbelle summerbelle
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Oct 22, 2007

    I have reached the end of my rope with the

    frequency (or lack thereof) with which my wife and I have sex. I am actively looking for one woman to be "the other woman"
    nccheatinghusband nccheatinghusband
    36-40, M
    1 Response Nov 14, 2014

    Does This Count?

    The emotional variety of affair. I want to flirt and feel sexy and wanted. My husband is not attracted to me. He wants to be friends. He watches dirty movies and that seems to keep him happy. He told me last night that men are just visual and anyone will tell you that. I guess my...
    ReddBrown ReddBrown
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 27, 2008

    I Can't Get This Young Man Out Of My Mind

    About 6 months ago, I was doing my usual Wednesday grocery shopping when one of the employees gave me a sweet smile and said, "hi". I thought to myself, "what a friendly guy," and kept shopping. Fast-forward to today. He keeps saying "hi" and I'm going mad trying to find a way to...
    PeachesGalore PeachesGalore
    46-50, F
    18 Responses Oct 7, 2011

    Dayton, Ohio

    im 36/M 210lbs with blonde hair and blue eyes looking for some fun in Dayton, Ohio. message me here or on yahoo daytimepm69
    daytimepm69 daytimepm69
    36-40, M
    Sep 18, 2013

    Seeking A Married Woman In The Panhandle Of Florida

    DWM who has had a successful 3 year affair with a married woman is looking to start another one. Prefer someone who has had a successful affair(s) before but a motivated and cautious newbie also welcome. I am into long-term affairs, not one-time-only events. I'm an hour west of...
    mikeincfla mikeincfla
    56-60, M
    Oct 6, 2013
    cummycum cummycum
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Mar 19, 2014

    Here's my story...I've known my husband

    for 17 years. We have a good relationship, but it was never really very passionate. It works on many levels, but not so much on others. To complicate things more, he's not in good health, so my relationship with him is slowly becoming less of a husband/wife relationship and more...
    SerenaAna SerenaAna
    36-40
    1 Response Jul 31, 2014

    I am recently married

    and had an affair before. I love my wife but honestly love the thrill and attention that another woman provides. Please do not judge me, looking for someone to talk to (women only). thanks!
    CuGuy CuGuy
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jun 11, 2014

    My wife is my best friend

    but lost all interest in intimacy and sex years ago. I have never lost my desire. After years of rejecting me physically and admitting that she doesn't see herself ever being intimate again, I would like to step out and see what I can find.
    johnstlouis johnstlouis
    56-60, M
    2 Responses Sep 27, 2014

    Alright, Since No One's Talking...

    I've been doing a lot of thinking and soul searching lately, and I've realized that I am absolutely, without a doubt, completely and totally addicted to "firsts." The first time you find out for sure that someone's into you, meeting someone the first time, the first time you...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    59 Responses Oct 16, 2006

    Hey are there any genuine n fun busty ladies

    wanna chat if that's you message me..... No friend collectors plz
    teddyboylovesboobs1 teddyboylovesboobs1
    41-45, M
    Apr 2

    Thinking I'm Probably Going To Do It

    i have an emotionally detached husband...no sex, and when there is, it only lasts a minute or two. he won't talk to me about any of these problems, and i have given up trying. we have 2 great kids, and that's why i've stayed in the marriage. an old friend (who is also married...
    Michaelah Michaelah
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jul 25, 2012

    Im On the Verge

    I am on the verge of it. I have been talking to a few of my past loves and they both are interested. But 1 wants more than that but i cant get out of my marriage right now. My husband and I never have sex so i crave it so bad. I dont want to cheat but then again I do. Maybe Im...
    misfit misfit
    26-30, F
    20 Responses Feb 3, 2007

    My husband wants me to have sex with one of his

    female co workers...I want to but I have never had sex with a female. I dream of it..what if I'm no good at it?
    justmeasme justmeasme
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 18, 2014

    Hasn't been easiest 5 years

    but things are so dull. Found out I have a form of leukemia which is very treatable, but will never go away. Met Gary on a support sight and realize he's everything I want and need. My husband hasn't touched or looked at me since my diagnosis.
    kbarbaro kbarbaro
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Mar 25, 2014

    I'd Do It Again

    I live with my long-time girlfriend and we get along great but neither one of us are interested in sex.  We do it occasionally, maybe once every 3 months or so.  There's little affection or romance, but oddly enough our relationship works.  A couple years ago, I...
    Michael2 Michael2
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2007

    Lost passion! Don't know

    if I want to or can find it with the one I'm with! Have a child, so it's hard to leave for that reason! Love the thought of hooking up and having a no strings attached affair, safely of course! Know it's not right but need much more than I have!!
    girlygrl44 girlygrl44
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Mar 22, 2014

    Not saying it's right!

    So I don't need to hear how bad it is! Just want to know if there are people in the same boat! Been with my bf 11 years! Great guy but we are not nor have we ever been sexually compatible! Dealt with it and thought take the good with the bad now we have a child and I am so...
    girlygrl44 girlygrl44
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Mar 27, 2014

    Judge Not...

    OK this is a rant, and I hope it inspires beautiful conversation... I'm tired of those among this group who post something trying to convince people NOT to have an affair because of how "wrong" it is.  They don't BELONG in this group and...
    flirtswithdisaster flirtswithdisaster
    26-30, M
    25 Responses Aug 20, 2007

    I am married and confident enough to say I am a

    beautiful brown lady. I have been getting ignored at home for 5 years. I beg for it and get turned down. I feel so sexy and full of energy. I make sure I look my best when we go out. I giggle inside when other guys wink at me in the public or say something nice. But see I am...
    PrettyChocolate66 PrettyChocolate66
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 22, 2014

    My Neighbor's Son ****** My Wife

     FIRST ACQUAINTANCE:  I travel during the week for my work and typically am home Fridays through Sundays. But, occasionally, a client requires my services through the weekend for meetings with employees. This happened awhile back, shortly before we purchased our...
    combook combook
    31-35, M
    18 Responses Jan 5, 2010

    The Quandary of the Married Man.

    So you’ve decided to have an affair. Yes, some people do decide to have affairs. In fact, I’ll wager that at some point in their married life almost everyone will consider having an affair. But that’s another discussion. Ok, perhaps if you’re one of...
    velosapien velosapien
    31-35, M
    10 Responses Jan 31, 2008

    Long Flight For Extreme Pleasure

    I had been waiting a year ahhh, can't believe it!!!! I'm so nervous--I should back up a little....I'm candy, age 42 now a yr later, I started texting a man a yr ago. I'm 5'5" huge, yes HUGE ta tas just is what it is!! Blonde long hair and blue green eyes small waist and hips so...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Aug 13, 2013

    So here lately I find myself lusting very badly.

    I notice that it's usually not that specific who I'm lusting over. Between this past two weeks I have listed over two men. They both been older than me I love mature me. I'm in my early 20s these men range from early 30s to early 40s. I just want to have an affair so bad I want...
    Mysteryladi Mysteryladi
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Feb 25, 2014

    An Affair

    Affairs begin with two people who find each other interesting and attractive. For whatever reason, the relationship escalates into romance und, finally, into sexual intimacy. People who seek romance and sexual intimacy outside of their primary relationship feel that their...
    Leiza350 Leiza350
    31-35, F
    21 Responses Nov 19, 2008

    I'm Having One.

    I'm having an affair, and I don't feel a bit bad about it. I havent been this happy, for so long that I was forgeting the joy of life. Prudence. Prudence. Prudence. is the key.
    Sopphy Sopphy
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Mar 12, 2010

    Maybe

    Do I want to have an affair, I'm not actually sure.  I think I would and I know I love firsts like the previous writer said.  There really is nothing like sweeping a woman off her feet...so why can't I just focus on my wife.  I don't know, I dont really like her...
    johnwad3 johnwad3
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2006

    I have always loved the thrill of the affair.

    The passion associated with it. It can be very exciting. I travel all over the state of Texas and love meeting others.
    passn81 passn81
    61-65, M
    Dec 4, 2013

    This Is Hard to Write

    Yes, I would. I probably won't, but I would like to. What can one do when divorce is not an option, counselling is not welcome, and one's spouse is cold and distant? I say I probably won't, because I'm not a "predator." I don't want to hurt anyone else. But if I could...
    ren ren
    51-55, M
    Jun 1, 2007

    Want That Exciting Feeling Back...

    Remember how it felt when you first got with a woman? I don't. It's been so long and my wife...well...she isn't into the whole sex thing anymore. I try to please her every way I can think of. 4play, toys, movies, dates...it just doesn't work for her. I need adventure again...I...
    uontoptouching uontoptouching
    31-35, M
    Nov 5, 2013

    Touch Me And Let Me Feel Your Warmth

    Alright I am just going to say it. I want to have a NSA affair with a woman in S. Cali, north of LA. (the goal of this story). I am in a sexless cold marriage. I don't hate her or even dislike her, but the flame couldn't be lit with a blow torch. I just need that intimate...
    flirtwithme flirtwithme
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 30, 2013

    I Want To Have An Affair, But...

    Here goes...I am 20 years married, fairly happy, no kids, we actually have great sex, but I have a huge crush on this guy and it has been for 8 or 9 months, I think about him sexually all the time, I mean day and night. We had a near encounter recently but he stopped it because I...
    sally7 sally7
    36-40, F
    7 Responses Jan 18, 2013

    I want to feel the heat

    and passion of a lover using me hard. oh maybe dinner or lunch. And go home and live my normal life. Moments to add spark to the week. Yes .... No, Thinking yes.
    popmyQ popmyQ
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 18, 2014

    I'm looking for some excitement with a married

    white woman in the UK to enjoy a discreet fling with or a long term secret passionate affair. I'm in the West Midlands but can travel too, so any ladies who'd like some excitement, discreet, private and without their partner ever knowing, drop me a line and let's talk x
    ChrisBham ChrisBham
    46-50, M
    Aug 31, 2015

    My relationship sucks uh every aspect

    but we hv a bby. I'm trying to rescue it but it's not easy. Im sure if I hv a little fun on the side, it will give me a break n allow me to catch my breath to continue. It's been so long since I last had sex... I crave it like a girl craves chocolate :-P anyone interested in...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 24, 2014
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