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I Want to Have An Open Marriage

for those who are unhappy in their current marriage but are in it for the happiness of their children. 160 People

    Further Down the Rabbit Hole

    I've used that headline or versions thereof recently, but in all cases it speaks true about me at this point in time. Currently my wife and I have been discussing having an open marriage.  It's been going on for at least a couple of months, and to tell you the truth...
    turntablecombustion turntablecombustion
    26-30, M
    1 Response Apr 27, 2009

    Open Marriage A Deal-breaker?

    I have been married for 15 years and I have two children. I grew up in a conservative household with a very strict view of marriage and fidelity. I got married young and fully intended to live by this. Instead what I found out about myself was that my "muse" or inspiration in...
    segulah segulah
    4 Responses Jan 22, 2011

    This May Not Work For Us

    My husband tried to do the nice thing I guess and give me permission to play.  Somehow I actually convinced him that it could be good for our marriage.  I think maybe I was just being selfish.  Maybe I am just a brat.  Maybe I just want what I want. ...
    unabletoforget unabletoforget
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Oct 7, 2008

    How To Go About Being In An Open Marriage...

    My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We are very much in love and love the life that we have built for ourselves and our children. I am however thinking about having an open marriage and he seems open to it. How can I go about finding people that have an open...
    bling0212 bling0212
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Aug 13, 2011

    My Husband Wants An Open Marriage

    My husband and I have been together for about 21 years, married 18. We have 3 kids. We have been through alot together and respect and love each other deeply. I supported him through his start up business, moved away from my family for his business, and have been supporting him...
    erikao erikao
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Dec 6, 2009

    Handling Feelings In An Open Marriage

    Since I have last written/commented on our marriage becoming "open", it has gone from theory, to preparation, to reality. In our preparation, we took all of the "right" steps: reading about it together, discussing our feelings, writting down our guidelines, expecations...
    erikao erikao
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Dec 16, 2011

    Open But Not Equal

    I started w affairs 2 years ago after experiencing a sexless marriage for 3 years...he found out but what could he say? We breifly tried to get it back but he was only aroused w the voyeristic aspect of me being w another that passed & we went back to sexlessness... He...
    arlington112 arlington112
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jul 10, 2011

    Still Craving Excitement After My Affair......

    Open marriage?  Not really sure if this is the right path to choose.  How does one know the road to choose when you have never taken that road before?   If you have read any of my previous posts you know that I had an affair last year and that my husband...
    unabletoforget unabletoforget
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Sep 17, 2008

    I Wish I Could Live in a Everyone Love Everyone World

    I think marriage should be a good method to help us love each other. Therefore,it should not be a obstacle,which preventing us from caring one another. If you love another(whether him or her) besides your spouse,I think it is ok,because ...
    annielisa annielisa
    1 Response Feb 14, 2008

    Exploring Whether This Could Be An Option In My Marriage...

    A few years ago, I suggested to my husband that we talk—just talk—about the possibility of an open marriage. He was LIVID. For several days after, he raged at me for even having the thought. I knew then that there wouldn’t be any further discussion. At that time, I...
    thyiad thyiad
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2011

    Last Option Available.

    I don't really want an open marriage; if I had my choice in things, I'd have a full, loving, sexual marriage with my wife and that would be plenty.But neither of us can give the other person what they need sexually any more, and she's simply lost interest in sex, period.  I'm...
    edsalterego edsalterego
    Mar 3, 2012


    I was married for eight years, I've been divorced for 20+ years. If I do get married again I want it to be open.
    he4she he4she
    51-55, M
    Sep 22, 2011


    Hi, Short story. I am 25 years old.  My husband of almost 3 years and I were culturally pressured to get married. At the time I had to choose to marry someone I never dated or marry my husband then (we were dating for about 2 years before we married). He was the...
    dasami dasami
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2009

    Open Marriage Wanted, Husband Doesn't Approve

    I am a 23 year old wife and mother of two who is very happy and deeply in love with her husband. I am interested in an open marriage but don't know exactly why and if my husband would approve. I would like to give it a try, but what should I say to him? I have already told him...
    CuriousK CuriousK
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 4, 2009

    Of Monkeys and Sex...

    Twice now in the last few weeks, the subject of open marriage has gravitated towards me, am I attracting such information.  Oddly, it has been nearly the exact same phrase. 1) My neighbor is a researcher, she researches primate sexual behavior.  I asked her if monkeys...
    DancesWithDolphins DancesWithDolphins
    41-45, M
    57 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    If You Can't Beat Em, Join Em.

    I wanted a fairy tale marriage. The kind where my prince swept me off my feet, wanted kids, liked my cats, and could love and respect my love of Country and 50's Rock N Roll music. A man that understood I was a Christian with strong morals and that I would not have sex untill...
    lonelycountry lonelycountry
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2012

    Its a Mistake

    i would say stay away i'm married been w my h for 26 years and about 5 yrs ago we got into a situation with a paid was great at the time - a massive turn on for us both, and after so long together i thought whats wrong with spicing things up a bit? i really like...
    soozywong soozywong
    3 Responses Jul 1, 2009

    Dying To Get Out Of This "marriage"

    My husband is a narcissistic, angry verbal abuser. He shows no respect or love towards me at all. I desperately want a divorce but he won't give me one. We live i. illinois, but he wants to move to California. He has threatened, on many occasions, that he will take our2 daughters...
    Happymomma12 Happymomma12
    May 26, 2012

    Or At Least I'd Consider It

    Although I'll probably be ostracised for this idea, I think the subject of extra-marital relationships is a bit like prostitution - as soon as you bring it out into the open, you can make it subject to certain rules and avoid a lot of the damage caused by such relationships. ...
    Lizzy22 Lizzy22
    36-40, F
    45 Responses Mar 29, 2008

    Need It Bad!

    I'm 20 years in a sexless marriage but do you think my wife will agree to an open marriage?...No way. Every time I bring it up she gets pissed. I tell her she is free to go out and get her sexual needs met but she refuses. I've also suggested we Swing together or put an ad online...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 16, 2009

    Married Or Single? How to Choose Your Playmate

    I must say.... I have been very suprised to find that there are LOTS of fit, hot, men out there that are looking for sex... and they really don't care if you are married or not.   In the last couple of weeks I made out with one man and had sex with...
    unabletoforget unabletoforget
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 26, 2008

    Ha! At This Point - I Want It Completely Open ...

    Sorry - I added this group awhile ago when my marriage was doing much better.  I don't know if I even truly believe so much in marriage anymore.  I understand why it is important to be married, but I am unsure at this point if I am even...
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 26, 2008

    On The Verge Of Asking For An Open Marriage

    We have been married 7 years, together for 9 and between his, mine and ours we have several children. Like other stories I've read on here, we had lots of passion and sex which "comfortably" dwindled over the years as we settled into our married life. The dwindling however didn't...
    saucymamaco saucymamaco
    46-50, F
    1 Response Apr 7, 2013

    I Want An Open Marriage

    I will say it. I want an open marriage. I have been married for just over a year now and for the most part its been great. My hubby has cheated twice since we got married and I caught him both times. Most women would have left but I didn't. I love him and I know he loves me. ...
    gadawgnnc gadawgnnc
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jan 30, 2010
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