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I Want To Know Your List Of 10 Things You Look For In A Lover

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    I May Be Young But I Know What I Want

    Ten things I look for in a guy? Easy. (1) sweet(2) understanding (3) has a sence of humer (4) protective but not overly protective (5) fun loving (6) a good listener (7) won't force me to talk about things (8) loves me for who I am (9) tough(like I won't cry because my dog died...
    Artemishatake Artemishatake 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    1-different 2-someone not afraid to be

    themselves 3-someone who cares for me 4-laid back 5- sensible (not an idiot) 6-open minded 7-that's really it.
    lullabymom lullabymom 46-50, F May 14, 2014

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    My Ten Turn Ons...

    There are more, but these are a necessity: Eyes that See My Beauty Lips That Kiss Deeply and Without Malicious Motive Hands That Caress My Soul A Voice That Utters Words To Soothe and Support A Respect For Me That Is Solid Through Even The Longest Hardship A Body...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 8 Responses May 8, 2010

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    Pretty Sure This Guy Doesn't Exist But There's No Harm In Dreaming, Right?

    1. Faithful, loyal & respectful.  Can keep his **** to himself & wont talk about me to his friends (especially about what we do in the bedroom...).  2. Sincere. ACTUALLY gives a **** about me, & won't pretend he does in the hope of getting his **** wet.   3. Takes care of...
    blehtolife blehtolife 18-21, F 30 Responses May 14, 2012

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    Now Hiring

    01. lead, follow, or get out of the way.  I'm perfectly capable of steering this ship, and I have yet to meet the iceberg that prevents my swimming.  If you have nothing to offer, be silent.  02. a personal sense of style. This is not about your clothes, though it will be...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 25 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    A Free Conpanion

    Love honesty... with me and herself sobritey.... lol i got bagage trust Compasion Intelagance Alpha... internal strength. LOVE. Integraty MORALS PRINCAPLES OPENNESS
    TEMPOLTON TEMPOLTON 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 14, 2013

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    Gorgeous eyes Nice

    smile Adventurous Funny Kind Good with kids/animals Understands my depression Romantic Respects me Someone I can call at 3AM
    thelastfirstchoice thelastfirstchoice 13-15, F Aug 4, 2014

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    Ten Things I Want From My Lover.

    1. Communication- the ability to be able to talk to me about anything 2. Honesty- she should never hold anything back from me. 3. Understanding- she should be able to have the ability to want to understand thing she doesn't, so that she can learn about other people and their...
    Brokenvegetable Brokenvegetable 31-35, M 8 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    10 Things I Look For In A Lover.

    This is a simple version.1. Honesty.2. Loyalty.3. Passionate.4. Caring.5. Funny.6. Spontaneous.7. Romantic and loving.8. Responsible.9. Respectful towards people and everything else (elders, religion, culture etc.)10. Fun, adventurous, positive and happy.
    LynnAuditore LynnAuditore 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    1. Heady & intellectual* 2.

    Slow paced & steady 3. Very down to earth & not egotistical 4. Funny, of course :) 5. Selfless, devoted, & compassionate 6. Lots of fun! 7. Sexual 8. Creepy & not offended or freaked out easily 9. Mysterious 10. Chill & not overbearing 😉😘
    Dreambrother Dreambrother 18-21, F 3 Responses May 30, 2014

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    My 10 List Of Ideal Traits

    good at cooking good at cooking really good at cooking an amazing cook knows how to make a mean sandwich is pleasing in the kitchen knows how to turn on my taste buds has no problem with cooking can cook and have sex at same time no back...
    lmpulsive lmpulsive 18-21, M Aug 11, 2012

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    Ten qualities I find attractive in a

    lover:  Intelligence .. I need to be mentally simulated Honesty .. I respect honesty even if the truth hurts Confidence .. but not egotistic Good sense of humour .. this is a big must for me I like to spend my time with people that ca. Make me laugh :) Openness...
    Aarnab Aarnab 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    10 Things I Love About You

    1. Intelligence - someone i can discuss philosophy, science etc with. 2. Humour - this is like the ultimate trait I'm always attracted to. If a guy has a great sense of humour and can make me smile, he's already in my good books. 3. Kind - will not judge others and look at both...
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123 18-21, F 2 Responses May 28, 2010

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    1. Honesty 2. Loyalty 3.

    Shared interests 4. Friendship 5. Sense of humor :) 6. Practicality 7. Affection 8. Optimism 9. Passion and 10. Compassion
    Antoinette1120 Antoinette1120 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    Animal Lust

    My lover, my lover must be: 1) As brave as a lion 2) As wily as a fox 3) As cute as a bad boy bunny 4) As wise as an owl 5) As strong as a gorilla 6) As loyal as a fuzzy wuzzy hound 7) As deep as a dragon 8) As funny as an orangutan 9) As cuddly as a bear 10) With the intense...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    My Ten

    I think a countdown is in order. 10 - Some physical compatibility. I'm in shape and I would like that in a lover 9- Some common interests, like a past history 8- Confidence. I can't know you if you can't express who you are 7- I have to know you and what you are all about 6- I...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    OK =D 1. really open minded 2.

    agnostic , atheist or not religious 3. confident 4. smart ( i'm drawn to scientists) 5. Funny Funny Funny =D and not sensitive 6. believe in individual freedom 7. willing to help me go green 8. loves me for nothing but my personality 9. believes everyone is equal even if they...
    AutoLove0 AutoLove0 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    My ten

    are: Intelligence Height Weight Panache Teeth Confidence Conversation Penis size Hairiness That certain......
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I just saw this was in my experiences

    and it got me to thinking. Which I happen to like. I read some of the other stories here. It got me thinking also. So many were one word lists. Words are such a poor way to communicate. Beyond the dictionary definition words have a meaning based on the person using them...
    demorcan demorcan 61-65, M 2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    My list is (in no particular order): 1)

    ambitious 2) kind 3) interesting 4) empathetic 5) healthy 6) funny 7) comfy (I love cuddling) 8) adventurous 9) charismatic/lovable (with 4 brothers, he needs it) 10) gentle Of course, good looking, rich and trendy never hurt either :D
    MileyNova MileyNova 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2014

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    1. NEVER CHEAT 2. Good sense of humor 3.

    Respect me and my family 4. Understand that sometimes I just need to be alone 5. Won't constantly text me when my dad is visiting 6. Okay with just staying in watching movies 7. Will be ok with me not saying 'I love you' until I'm ready 8. Not clingy but affectionate 9. Be there...
    MadHattress3 MadHattress3 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    My List-2011a

    I look for no lover. I look for a lifetime mate. Honesty. Availability. Meaning single. Intelligence. Good humour. Intimacy. Cherishement. A sense of adventure, exploration. Openmindedness. Loyalty. Strength of mind, body, love.
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    Perfect For Me!

    Here we go! No particular order! 1. Passionate 2. Loving 3. Committed 4. Compassionate 5. Emotional 6. Cuddly 7. Warm Personality 8. Internal Beauty 9. Eyes sparkle when she sees me 10. She accepts my love for her, completely.
    NorthernMan1966 NorthernMan1966 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    My top ten! 1: She must be shorter

    than me..I don't like standing on my toes to kiss :3 2: Blondes are just really cute 3: Blues eyes are really pretty 4: Smart but not too smart. i hate being corrected all the time 5: Likes to cuddle/snuggle because I love snuggling 6: Will hold my hand anywhere and at any time...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 12, 2014

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    My List

    A woman that can talk about almost anything A woman that is willing to listen to what I have to say no matter the subject A woman who is comfortable in her skin A woman that can make me feel I'm the only man for her A woman that is willing to share herself with me A...
    mtvlm mtvlm 41-45, M 34 Responses May 7, 2010

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    What I'd Like A Partner To Have!

    I'm currently single and I am planning to be so for a while for personal reasons but if I ever to find someone I'd love her to have those things that I am going to mention.1- She has to appreciate the good and close friendship in a relationship. 2- Has the same religious views...
    AYearWithoutRain AYearWithoutRain 18-21, M 5 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    Touch And Passion

    !.) To feel your eyes burning into my back when you walk into a room looking for me.2.) My breath to catch in my throat even though I just had you.3.) The ability to make me lose my control when we make love.4.) Someone that sees only me, needs only me, wants only me.5.) Holds me...
    moondancelady moondancelady 51-55, F 6 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    1. Patience!!! 2. I don't want a player.

    .. aka, if he loves me, it must be because of my personality, in a natural manner (getting to know each other first) 3. I don't want to be a freaking "rebound"... _-_ 4. He is not judgmental on my looks (like, if I were to gain weight he would dump me or vice versa...) 5...
    Sil833 Sil833 18-21, F 1 Response May 26

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    horneybear79912 horneybear79912 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 7, 2014

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    In no particular order: 1.

    A similar Sense of humor. Laughter is a big part of who I am, so they would need to have an appreciation for the kind of humor I like. Black comedy, dry humor, weird random humor, and they'd need to find the cartoons I watch hilarious because I plan on spending hours...
    Anais92 Anais92 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 11, 2014

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    Top Ten

    a. sense of humor- must be able to have fun, be witty, sarcastic...not ALL the time, there is a time to be serious... and be able to know which is needed. b. have pride about himself and me... jeans and a tank top are great for doing yardwork... but if we are going out somewhere...
    SweetKiester SweetKiester 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    The Ten Things...

    1. Female 2. Pulse 3. Erm..... Damn! You want ten!!!  ;o)
    Lazarus42 Lazarus42 46-50, M 14 Responses May 7, 2010

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    Is this you? If you look

    for things in a lover, you fail to see the lover. These are the things I find, when I am not looking - they are so much more precious that way! A questing intelligence An appreciation of life and of our world A love of fine art and fine music A connection to the energy of...
    yulico yulico 70+, F 5 Responses Jun 27, 2014

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    My Short List

    1. Honesty-he must be honest. I forgive but I don't forget...Once you lie to me, it is the beginning of the end. Man up, tell me what you need, what is working, what is not working.. 2. Communication-must speak in complete, intelligible sentences..No grunting, no groaning unless...
    akindheart akindheart 56-60, F 19 Responses Nov 13, 2011

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    Attractive Caring Beautiful inside

    and out Likes me for me Motherly instinct Good housewife Good cook Unconditional love Likes animals A good person
    dammetmike dammetmike 22-25, M Feb 27, 2014

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    Save The Kittens

    10 things in no particular order (or gender, you may notice)   Funny as hell (and not afraid to use dirty, dark, sarcastic, satirical, or corny humor when appropriate) RHC (Red Hot Chemistry) (and this you can only tell in person) Not already married to someone else (seriously...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 24 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    1. Honesty 2. Dependable 3.

    faithful 4. Good sense of humor 5. I tend to go for quiet/shy guys 6. Passionate 7. Hard to figure out 8. Well groomed/dressed 9. Respectful 10. Polite/good mannered
    DeluxedEdition DeluxedEdition 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    I have these two people in my life.

    One is my best friend. The other is my neighbor who I haven't been able to shake feelings for for 2 years. I made out with my neighbor (tongue and lip biting) and it was amazing. She fixed things with her boyfriend right after. My best friend lives 37 minutes away and we haven't...
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 16-17, M Aug 9, 2014

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    1) Common Interests 2) personality 3) sense of

    humour 4) Different interest 5) ease of being with (can tell them anything absolutely no exception) 6) companionship/ Friendship 7) lust and desire 8) nice *** 9) intelligence 10) a need to want me A hairy or natural body a bonus. These in any order its all the same ;)
    NightGambit NightGambit 31-35, M Feb 16

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    Top Priorities

    First and foremost, sexual attraction and chemistry. He could have everything else, but without this, there is nothing but friendship. Second, monogamy. I alone, must be a enough to keep him satisfied. Thirdly, trustworthiness. I have to trust him implicitly before I can...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    My Best (bet) Of 10 In A Lover.

      1) . . . Well, first thing is first. . . there should be what is commonly called intelligence. Doesn't have to be a scholar, or someone elite. But has the flair to convince and influence men, ofcourse in productive manner. The rest was randomly picked. 2) . . . .Second would...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 14 Responses May 21, 2012

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    1. Has to be a man of God 2.

    Has to accept my son 3. Supportive 4. Affectionate 5. Goal oriented 6. Respects me 7. Not lazy 8. Family oriented 9. Humble 10. Has to have manners
    trishayvette trishayvette 22-25, F May 13, 2014

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    Lol I don't even think I have 10 things-

    because once I like you- I like you- no matter how awful you end of being 😁😁😣 But I will try: 1) Someone who will keep their penis in their pants 2) Someone who will pay me attention (I personally don't even think that's too hard- but I suppose it is...) 3) Someone...
    Nottobeohsoblunt Nottobeohsoblunt 16-17, F 4 Responses May 22, 2014

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    What A Girl Wants

    Now this list is not exhausted and I reserve the right to change it or add to it at any time!!1. Honesty2. Intelligence3. Kindness4. Respectful5. Passionate6. Romantic7. Attentive8. Affectionate9. Spontaneous10.Fun
    sexxydiva sexxydiva 36-40, F 13 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    1. Intelligent 2. Funny 3.

    Romantic 4. Respectful 5. Hard working 6. Older than me 7. Kind 8. Good hygiene 9. Lover of the arts 10. Tough
    agm0829 agm0829 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5, 2014

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    1. Funny (can make me smile) 2.

    Sweet 3. Smart 4. Honest 5. Nonjudgemental 6. Loving 7. Animal lover 8. Adventurous (willing to try anything) 9. Understanding 10. Can be himself
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21 1 Response Jan 1, 2014

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