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I Want To Know Your List Of 10 Things You Look For In A Lover

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    I sooooooo like lists...here it goes; 1. Wit. Being mentally engaged is so stimulating. 2. She needs to be someone I admire as a person. Someone strong enough to take on life without assistance... 3. ...although I don't want a "lone wolf" type of person. Knowing I'm someone's...
    guiltybyassociation guiltybyassociation 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 14, 2011

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    a. sense of humor- must be able to have fun, be witty, sarcastic...not ALL the time, there is a time to be serious... and be able to know which is needed. b. have pride about himself and me... jeans and a tank top are great for doing yardwork... but if we are going out somewhere...
    SweetKiester SweetKiester 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Now Hiring

    01. lead, follow, or get out of the way.  I'm perfectly capable of steering this ship, and I have yet to meet the iceberg that prevents my swimming.  If you have nothing to offer, be silent.  02. a personal sense of style. This is not about your clothes, though it will be...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 28 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    Is this you? If you look

    for things in a lover, you fail to see the lover. These are the things I find, when I am not looking - they are so much more precious that way! A questing intelligence An appreciation of life and of our world A love of fine art and fine music A connection to the energy of...
    yulico yulico 70+, F 5 Responses Jun 27

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    1. Has to be a man of God 2.

    Has to accept my son 3. Supportive 4. Affectionate 5. Goal oriented 6. Respects me 7. Not lazy 8. Family oriented 9. Humble 10. Has to have manners
    trishayvette trishayvette 22-25, F May 13

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    My Heart's Desire Should Have These Ten:

    These are in no particular order. And I know Forever man has them in abundance.... 1) A wonderful sense of humour. Laughter is vital in life. Laughter is the best medicine. Corny or not, loud or soft, be a clown for me and I will be yours! 2) Empathy. You must be able to put...
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    I just saw this was in my experiences

    and it got me to thinking. Which I happen to like. I read some of the other stories here. It got me thinking also. So many were one word lists. Words are such a poor way to communicate. Beyond the dictionary definition words have a meaning based on the person using them...
    demorcan demorcan 61-65, M 2 Responses Jan 19

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    My top ten! 1: She must be shorter

    than me..I don't like standing on my toes to kiss :3 2: Blondes are just really cute 3: Blues eyes are really pretty 4: Smart but not too smart. i hate being corrected all the time 5: Likes to cuddle/snuggle because I love snuggling 6: Will hold my hand anywhere and at any time...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M Sep 12

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    Starting Over

    I always wondered why I had such a hard time in relationships. I am always questioning myself, always questioning my own motives, yet everyone would always tell me that is was not me. I kept questioning if it is not me then why am I always in a screwed up relation that is doomed...
    NeoZen NeoZen 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 12, 2012

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    1. Intelligent 2. Funny 3.

    Romantic 4. Respectful 5. Hard working 6. Older than me 7. Kind 8. Good hygiene 9. Lover of the arts 10. Tough
    agm0829 agm0829 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    1. Honesty 2. Loyalty 3.

    Passion 4. Chivalry 5. Sense of Humor 6. Intelligence 7. Confidence 8. Hygiene 9. Trust 10. They need to love to cuddle... ;)
    RaynieLove RaynieLove 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2013

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    1) Intelligent 2) Kind 3) Romantic 4)

    Physically fit - healthy 5) Ambitious 6) Sense of humour 7) Sensible - acts appropriately (time & place for everything) 8) Outgoing 9) Honest 10) Strong will - may lose temper but will "stick it out" till things are done (+ stay with me through thick and thin) Not sure if or...
    Shiznitone Shiznitone 22-25, M Jun 8

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    1. Lots of guns 2. Plenty of ammo 3.

    NRA membership 4. IQ no higher than her shoe size 5. Sexual availability at my beck and call 6. A few good teeth 7. No interest in reading 8. No education 9. Pro life 10. Pro war
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 3 Responses Apr 5

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    Gorgeous eyes Nice

    smile Adventurous Funny Kind Good with kids/animals Understands my depression Romantic Respects me Someone I can call at 3AM
    thelastfirstchoice thelastfirstchoice 13-15, F Aug 4

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    My 10 List Of Ideal Traits

    good at cooking good at cooking really good at cooking an amazing cook knows how to make a mean sandwich is pleasing in the kitchen knows how to turn on my taste buds has no problem with cooking can cook and have sex at same time no back...
    lmpulsive lmpulsive 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    Attractive Caring Beautiful inside

    and out Likes me for me Motherly instinct Good housewife Good cook Unconditional love Likes animals A good person
    dammetmike dammetmike 22-25, M Feb 27

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    OK =D 1. really open minded 2.

    agnostic , atheist or not religious 3. confident 4. smart ( i'm drawn to scientists) 5. Funny Funny Funny =D and not sensitive 6. believe in individual freedom 7. willing to help me go green 8. loves me for nothing but my personality 9. believes everyone is equal even if they...
    AutoLove0 AutoLove0 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    5 things I would really like him

    to be: 1. He has to have a good sense of humor It's a must!:)) 2. Someone to be very compassionate and love me for who I am, maybe because I don't really know how to show my feelings and sometimes I could be cold-hearted and that's why he has to be the opposite of me 3...
    Fatixoxo Fatixoxo 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

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    HerbertHomebody HerbertHomebody 46-50, M Sep 30

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    My List-2011a

    I look for no lover. I look for a lifetime mate. Honesty. Availability. Meaning single. Intelligence. Good humour. Intimacy. Cherishement. A sense of adventure, exploration. Openmindedness. Loyalty. Strength of mind, body, love.
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    1. Honesty 2. Loyalty 3.

    Shared interests 4. Friendship 5. Sense of humor :) 6. Practicality 7. Affection 8. Optimism 9. Passion and 10. Compassion
    Antoinette1120 Antoinette1120 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    The Ten Things...

    1. Female 2. Pulse 3. Erm..... Damn! You want ten!!!  ;o)
    Lazarus42 Lazarus42 46-50, M 14 Responses May 7, 2010

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    10 Things I Look For In A Lover.

    This is a simple version.1. Honesty.2. Loyalty.3. Passionate.4. Caring.5. Funny.6. Spontaneous.7. Romantic and loving.8. Responsible.9. Respectful towards people and everything else (elders, religion, culture etc.)10. Fun, adventurous, positive and happy.
    LynnAuditore LynnAuditore 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    I have these two people in my life.

    One is my best friend. The other is my neighbor who I haven't been able to shake feelings for for 2 years. I made out with my neighbor (tongue and lip biting) and it was amazing. She fixed things with her boyfriend right after. My best friend lives 37 minutes away and we haven't...
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 13-15, M Aug 9

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    What A Girl Wants

    Now this list is not exhausted and I reserve the right to change it or add to it at any time!!1. Honesty2. Intelligence3. Kindness4. Respectful5. Passionate6. Romantic7. Attentive8. Affectionate9. Spontaneous10.Fun
    sexxydiva sexxydiva 36-40, F 14 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    Ten

    requirements. Thoughtful Innovative Deliberate Liberal Wild Knowledgeable Kind Convincing Paced Imaginative
    aoutdouze aoutdouze 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    My Ten

    I think a countdown is in order. 10 - Some physical compatibility. I'm in shape and I would like that in a lover 9- Some common interests, like a past history 8- Confidence. I can't know you if you can't express who you are 7- I have to know you and what you are all about 6- I...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    My ten

    are: Intelligence Height Weight Panache Teeth Confidence Conversation Penis size Hairiness That certain......
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    1. Heady & intellectual* 2.

    Slow paced & steady 3. Very down to earth & not egotistical 4. Funny, of course :) 5. Selfless, devoted, & compassionate 6. Lots of fun! 7. Sexual 8. Creepy & not offended or freaked out easily 9. Mysterious 10. Chill & not overbearing 😉😘
    Plutonianbabe Plutonianbabe 18-21, F 3 Responses May 30

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    My Top 20 Things I Like In A Man

    1. Nice personality 2. common life goals 3. fun 4. sense of humor 5. independent 6. romantic 7. smart 8. things in common 9. knows how to treat of woman 10. honest 11. healthy life style 12. No drugs or alcohol 13. open minded/ non judgemental 14.has a big heart...
    awarren98 awarren98 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    Off The Top Of My Head... My Lover will be...

    1. Great kisser 2. Affectionate, likes to give and receive physical attention 3. Flirtatious 4. Confident 5. Wants to satisfy me completely 6. Interesting, has varied interests, wants to talk about things other than just sex 7. Comfortable with self, with...
    yanene yanene 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 18, 2012

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    1) Their Smile - A lady

    who can make ME smile simply by smiling. Sounds odd, I know. 2) Open-Mind - It fascinates me when someone has a wide view of the world and situations, and takes those into consideration. 3) Gamer Girl - Yup, a girl who loves to play video games. Haha. 4) Kindness - A lady who...
    LReid23 LReid23 22-25, M Jan 29

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    Perfect For Me!

    Here we go! No particular order! 1. Passionate 2. Loving 3. Committed 4. Compassionate 5. Emotional 6. Cuddly 7. Warm Personality 8. Internal Beauty 9. Eyes sparkle when she sees me 10. She accepts my love for her, completely.
    NorthernMan1966 NorthernMan1966 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    Top Priorities

    First and foremost, sexual attraction and chemistry. He could have everything else, but without this, there is nothing but friendship. Second, monogamy. I alone, must be a enough to keep him satisfied. Thirdly, trustworthiness. I have to trust him implicitly before I can...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    What I'd Like A Partner To Have!

    I'm currently single and I am planning to be so for a while for personal reasons but if I ever to find someone I'd love her to have those things that I am going to mention.1- She has to appreciate the good and close friendship in a relationship. 2- Has the same religious views...
    AYearWithoutRain AYearWithoutRain 18-21, M 5 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    1. A true Christian 2.

    Honest 3. Kind 4. Loyal 5. Caring 6. Selfless 7. Rich 8. Devoted 9. Loving 10. Funny
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Oct 11

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    In no particular order: 1.

    A similar Sense of humor. Laughter is a big part of who I am, so they would need to have an appreciation for the kind of humor I like. Black comedy, dry humor, weird random humor, and they'd need to find the cartoons I watch hilarious because I plan on spending hours...
    Anais92 Anais92 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    Animal Lust

    My lover, my lover must be: 1) As brave as a lion 2) As wily as a fox 3) As cute as a bad boy bunny 4) As wise as an owl 5) As strong as a gorilla 6) As loyal as a fuzzy wuzzy hound 7) As deep as a dragon 8) As funny as an orangutan 9) As cuddly as a bear 10) With the intense...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    My Best (bet) Of 10 In A Lover.

      1) . . . Well, first thing is first. . . there should be what is commonly called intelligence. Doesn't have to be a scholar, or someone elite. But has the flair to convince and influence men, ofcourse in productive manner. The rest was randomly picked. 2) . . . .Second would...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 14 Responses May 21, 2012

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    1-different 2-someone not afraid to be

    themselves 3-someone who cares for me 4-laid back 5- sensible (not an idiot) 6-open minded 7-that's really it.
    lullabymom lullabymom 46-50, F May 14

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    Ten Things I Want From My Lover.

    1. Communication- the ability to be able to talk to me about anything 2. Honesty- she should never hold anything back from me. 3. Understanding- she should be able to have the ability to want to understand thing she doesn't, so that she can learn about other people and their...
    Brokenvegetable Brokenvegetable 31-35, M 9 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    1 honest 2 kindness 3 passion 4 brains ,

    most definitely brains 4 loves animals 5 loves to laugh 6 doesn't take things to seriously 7 knows to put the toilet seat down when he is done!!!!! 8 will take my opinion to heart 9 loves good conversation 10 , respects women and shows it .
    Poseybloom Poseybloom 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 11

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    Top Things I Want In A Relationship

    Okay, so this is more than 10 things, but over the years, I've compiled the things I want in my ideal relationship...here they are! 1. Sharing our passions and honoring them even though they may not be the same passions 2. Passionate about our relationship 3. Places...
    dawinla dawinla 51-55, M 11 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    Young kind wild loyal sweet caring sensitive

    daring original sexy thoughts and true
    Daddylicksyou Daddylicksyou 46-50, M 1 Response Jul 27

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    1. Funny (can make me smile) 2.

    Sweet 3. Smart 4. Honest 5. Nonjudgemental 6. Loving 7. Animal lover 8. Adventurous (willing to try anything) 9. Understanding 10. Can be himself
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21 1 Response Jan 1

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    Lol I don't even think I have 10 things-

    because once I like you- I like you- no matter how awful you end of being 😁😁😣 But I will try: 1) Someone who will keep their penis in their pants 2) Someone who will pay me attention (I personally don't even think that's too hard- but I suppose it is...) 3) Someone...
    Nottobeohsoblunt Nottobeohsoblunt 16-17, F 4 Responses May 22

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    1. NEVER CHEAT 2. Good sense of humor 3.

    Respect me and my family 4. Understand that sometimes I just need to be alone 5. Won't constantly text me when my dad is visiting 6. Okay with just staying in watching movies 7. Will be ok with me not saying 'I love you' until I'm ready 8. Not clingy but affectionate 9. Be there...
    MadHattress3 MadHattress3 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Pretty Sure This Guy Doesn't Exist But There's No Harm In Dreaming, Right?

    1. Faithful, loyal & respectful.  Can keep his **** to himself & wont talk about me to his friends (especially about what we do in the bedroom...).  2. Sincere. ACTUALLY gives a **** about me, & won't pretend he does in the hope of getting his **** wet.   3. Takes care of...
    blehtolife blehtolife 22-25, F 33 Responses May 14, 2012

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    My List

    A woman that can talk about almost anything A woman that is willing to listen to what I have to say no matter the subject A woman who is comfortable in her skin A woman that can make me feel I'm the only man for her A woman that is willing to share herself with me A...
    mtvlm mtvlm 41-45, M 34 Responses May 7, 2010

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    Wishlist Revised

    I had originally written this story at a decidedly idealistic and sensationalized time in my life. Things change though and while my standards haven't been altogether radically altered, there have been some major modifications. 1: I need someone who is insatiable for me in every...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M 6 Responses May 26, 2011

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    This Should Be Fun <3

    The 1- things I look for in a lover. Okay lets say Boyfriend or companion. Lover sounds to brounden. 1. Personality. Someone who is just full of life. Someone who can light up the room by just walking into the room and making everyone feel wanted and happy. Someone with a sense...
    AmazinglyAmazing AmazinglyAmazing 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2012

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