I Want To Know Your List Of 10 Things You Look For In A Lover

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    My Ten

    I think a countdown is in order. 10 - Some physical compatibility. I'm in shape and I would like that in a lover 9- Some common interests, like a past history 8- Confidence. I can't know you if you can't express who you are 7- I have to know you and what you are all about 6- I...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 7, 2012

    I May Be Young But I Know What I Want

    Ten things I look for in a guy? Easy. (1) sweet(2) understanding (3) has a sence of humer (4) protective but not overly protective (5) fun loving (6) a good listener (7) won't force me to talk about things (8) loves me for who I am (9) tough(like I won't cry because my dog died...
    Artemishatake Artemishatake
    13-15, F
    5 Responses Jan 28, 2012

    Perfect For Me!

    Here we go! No particular order! 1. Passionate 2. Loving 3. Committed 4. Compassionate 5. Emotional 6. Cuddly 7. Warm Personality 8. Internal Beauty 9. Eyes sparkle when she sees me 10. She accepts my love for her, completely.
    NorthernMan1966 NorthernMan1966
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Nov 24, 2012

    1. A sexual attraction.

    2. Smart 3. Funny 4. Beautiful eyes are a plus. (blue and green are my favorite) 5. Polyamorous 6. Adventurous (in life and in the bedroom) 7. Open (not afraid to say what they feel) 8. Individuality (able to be alone and take care of herself) 9. Outdoorsy (I'm a man's man. I...
    Scythe511 Scythe511
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 17

    1. Patience!!! 2. I don't want a player.

    .. aka, if he loves me, it must be because of my personality, in a natural manner (getting to know each other first) 3. I don't want to be a freaking "rebound"... _-_ 4. He is not judgmental on my looks (like, if I were to gain weight he would dump me or vice versa...) 5...
    Sil833 Sil833
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 26, 2015

    Top Priorities

    First and foremost, sexual attraction and chemistry. He could have everything else, but without this, there is nothing but friendship. Second, monogamy. I alone, must be a enough to keep him satisfied. Thirdly, trustworthiness. I have to trust him implicitly before I can...
    LG76 LG76
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Aug 22, 2012

    1) accomplishments- I want a man

    that has a career not just dead end jobs. Has he done volunteer work? Someone who has achieved things in his life. 2)sense of humor- I enjoy being goofy and silly (I do have 2 kids that I love playing with) so he has to be able to make me laugh and isn't insecure about being...
    lonelyinms lonelyinms
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2015

    10 Things I Love About You

    1. Intelligence - someone i can discuss philosophy, science etc with. 2. Humour - this is like the ultimate trait I'm always attracted to. If a guy has a great sense of humour and can make me smile, he's already in my good books. 3. Kind - will not judge others and look at both...
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 28, 2010

    1. Heady & intellectual* 2.

    Slow paced & steady 3. Very down to earth & not egotistical 4. Funny, of course :) 5. Selfless, devoted, & compassionate 6. Lots of fun! 7. Sexual 8. Creepy & not offended or freaked out easily 9. Mysterious 10. Chill & not overbearing 😉😘
    Dreambrother Dreambrother
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 30, 2014

    Off The Top Of My Head... My Lover will be...

    1. Great kisser 2. Affectionate, likes to give and receive physical attention 3. Flirtatious 4. Confident 5. Wants to satisfy me completely 6. Interesting, has varied interests, wants to talk about things other than just sex 7. Comfortable with self, with...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jul 18, 2012

    1. Has to be a man of God 2.

    Has to accept my son 3. Supportive 4. Affectionate 5. Goal oriented 6. Respects me 7. Not lazy 8. Family oriented 9. Humble 10. Has to have manners
    trishayvette trishayvette
    22-25, F
    May 13, 2014

    Top 10

    I sooooooo like lists...here it goes; 1. Wit. Being mentally engaged is so stimulating. 2. She needs to be someone I admire as a person. Someone strong enough to take on life without assistance... 3. ...although I don't want a "lone wolf" type of person. Knowing I'm someone's...
    guiltybyassociation guiltybyassociation
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2011

    1. Lots of guns 2. Plenty of ammo 3.

    NRA membership 4. IQ no higher than her shoe size 5. Sexual availability at my beck and call 6. A few good teeth 7. No interest in reading 8. No education 9. Pro life 10. Pro war
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7
    51-55, M
    1 Response Apr 5, 2014

    1) i look for modesty.

    2) i look for a caring heart. 3) i look for funny personality. 4) i look for honesty and trust. 5) i look for respect. 6) i look for how he can laugh at himself. 7) i look for generous with the time. 8) i look for compassion. 9) i look for child at heart but wise at mind. 10) i...
    bae1234 bae1234
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 11

    My Best (bet) Of 10 In A Lover.

      1) . . . Well, first thing is first. . . there should be what is commonly called intelligence. Doesn't have to be a scholar, or someone elite. But has the flair to convince and influence men, ofcourse in productive manner. The rest was randomly picked. 2) . . . .Second would...
    ladyryan ladyryan
    46-50, F
    12 Responses May 21, 2012

    1) Their Smile - A lady

    who can make ME smile simply by smiling. Sounds odd, I know. 2) Open-Mind - It fascinates me when someone has a wide view of the world and situations, and takes those into consideration. 3) Gamer Girl - Yup, a girl who loves to play video games. Haha. 4) Kindness - A lady who...
    LReid23 LReid23
    26-30, M
    Jan 29, 2014

    My Short List

    1. Honesty-he must be honest. I forgive but I don't forget...Once you lie to me, it is the beginning of the end. Man up, tell me what you need, what is working, what is not working.. 2. Communication-must speak in complete, intelligible sentences..No grunting, no groaning unless...
    akindheart akindheart
    61-65, F
    17 Responses Nov 13, 2011

    Is this you? If you look

    for things in a lover, you fail to see the lover. These are the things I find, when I am not looking - they are so much more precious that way! A questing intelligence An appreciation of life and of our world A love of fine art and fine music A connection to the energy of...
    yulico yulico
    70+, F
    4 Responses Jun 27, 2014

    Top Ten

    a. sense of humor- must be able to have fun, be witty, sarcastic...not ALL the time, there is a time to be serious... and be able to know which is needed. b. have pride about himself and me... jeans and a tank top are great for doing yardwork... but if we are going out somewhere...
    SweetKiester SweetKiester
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2013

    My Heart's Desire Should Have These Ten:

    These are in no particular order. And I know Forever man has them in abundance.... 1) A wonderful sense of humour. Laughter is vital in life. Laughter is the best medicine. Corny or not, loud or soft, be a clown for me and I will be yours! 2) Empathy. You must be able to put...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Jul 4, 2012

    Lol I don't even think I have 10 things-

    because once I like you- I like you- no matter how awful you end of being 😁😁😣 But I will try: 1) Someone who will keep their penis in their pants 2) Someone who will pay me attention (I personally don't even think that's too hard- but I suppose it is...) 3) Someone...
    Nottobeohsoblunt Nottobeohsoblunt
    18-21, F
    4 Responses May 22, 2014

    The Ten Things...

    1. Female 2. Pulse 3. Erm..... Damn! You want ten!!!  ;o)
    Lazarus42 Lazarus42
    46-50, M
    13 Responses May 7, 2010

    A Free Conpanion

    Love honesty... with me and herself sobritey.... lol i got bagage trust Compasion Intelagance Alpha... internal strength. LOVE. Integraty MORALS PRINCAPLES OPENNESS
    TEMPOLTON TEMPOLTON
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jul 14, 2013

    Now Hiring

    01. lead, follow, or get out of the way.  I'm perfectly capable of steering this ship, and I have yet to meet the iceberg that prevents my swimming.  If you have nothing to offer, be silent.  02. a personal sense of style. This is not about your clothes, though it will be...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit
    31-35, F
    21 Responses Apr 28, 2011

    Top Things I Want In A Relationship

    Okay, so this is more than 10 things, but over the years, I've compiled the things I want in my ideal relationship...here they are! 1. Sharing our passions and honoring them even though they may not be the same passions 2. Passionate about our relationship 3. Places...
    dawinla dawinla
    56-60, M
    6 Responses Oct 1, 2012

    Save The Kittens

    10 things in no particular order (or gender, you may notice)   Funny as hell (and not afraid to use dirty, dark, sarcastic, satirical, or corny humor when appropriate) RHC (Red Hot Chemistry) (and this you can only tell in person) Not already married to someone else (seriously...
    Fallflower Fallflower
    36-40, F
    21 Responses Oct 19, 2011
    HerbertHomebody HerbertHomebody
    51-55, M
    Sep 30, 2014

    Ten Things I Want From My Lover.

    1. Communication- the ability to be able to talk to me about anything 2. Honesty- she should never hold anything back from me. 3. Understanding- she should be able to have the ability to want to understand thing she doesn't, so that she can learn about other people and their...
    Brokenvegetable Brokenvegetable
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Nov 28, 2012
    horneybear79912 horneybear79912
    36-40, M
    1 Response Dec 7, 2014

    My ten

    are: Intelligence Height Weight Panache Teeth Confidence Conversation Penis size Hairiness That certain......
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 17, 2014

    1.) someone who is my best friend above all

    else 2.) someone I can trust completely and who can trust me as well 3.) someone who doesn't mind my little quirks and is able to accept me for who I really am 4.) someone who understands and is okay with my sexuality 5.) an animal lover 6.) someone with similar morals and...
    SqueezeTheLemon SqueezeTheLemon
    26-30, F
    Jan 12

    Attractive Caring Beautiful inside

    and out Likes me for me Motherly instinct Good housewife Good cook Unconditional love Likes animals A good person
    dammetmike dammetmike
    22-25, M
    Feb 27, 2014

    1. Honesty 2. Loyalty 3.

    Shared interests 4. Friendship 5. Sense of humor :) 6. Practicality 7. Affection 8. Optimism 9. Passion and 10. Compassion
    Antoinette1120 Antoinette1120
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2014

    My List-2011a

    I look for no lover. I look for a lifetime mate. Honesty. Availability. Meaning single. Intelligence. Good humour. Intimacy. Cherishement. A sense of adventure, exploration. Openmindedness. Loyalty. Strength of mind, body, love.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 12, 2013

    My top ten! 1: She must be shorter

    than me..I don't like standing on my toes to kiss :3 2: Blondes are just really cute 3: Blues eyes are really pretty 4: Smart but not too smart. i hate being corrected all the time 5: Likes to cuddle/snuggle because I love snuggling 6: Will hold my hand anywhere and at any time...
    Raptax231 Raptax231
    22-25, M
    Sep 12, 2014

    1. Compassionate 2. Caring 3.

    Good sense of humor 4. Romantic 5. Can listen as well as talk 6. Loyal 7. Honest 8. Likes to have fun 9. Can be spontaneous at times 10. Is a great lover as well as a great friend
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    Pretty Sure This Guy Doesn't Exist But There's No Harm In Dreaming, Right?

    1. Faithful, loyal & respectful.  Can keep his **** to himself & wont talk about me to his friends (especially about what we do in the bedroom...).  2. Sincere. ACTUALLY gives a **** about me, & won't pretend he does in the hope of getting his **** wet.   3. Takes care of...
    blehtolife blehtolife
    22-25, F
    29 Responses May 14, 2012

    1. Intelligent 2. Funny 3.

    Romantic 4. Respectful 5. Hard working 6. Older than me 7. Kind 8. Good hygiene 9. Lover of the arts 10. Tough
    agm0829 agm0829
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 5, 2014

    My list is (in no particular order): 1)

    ambitious 2) kind 3) interesting 4) empathetic 5) healthy 6) funny 7) comfy (I love cuddling) 8) adventurous 9) charismatic/lovable (with 4 brothers, he needs it) 10) gentle Of course, good looking, rich and trendy never hurt either :D
    MileyNova MileyNova
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 3, 2014

    1) Common Interests 2) personality 3) sense of

    humour 4) Different interest 5) ease of being with (can tell them anything absolutely no exception) 6) companionship/ Friendship 7) lust and desire 8) nice *** 9) intelligence 10) a need to want me A hairy or natural body a bonus. These in any order its all the same ;)
    NightGambit NightGambit
    31-35, M
    Feb 16, 2015

    My Ten Turn Ons...

    There are more, but these are a necessity: Eyes that See My Beauty Lips That Kiss Deeply and Without Malicious Motive Hands That Caress My Soul A Voice That Utters Words To Soothe and Support A Respect For Me That Is Solid Through Even The Longest Hardship A Body...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman
    31-35, F
    8 Responses May 8, 2010

    Gorgeous eyes Nice

    smile Adventurous Funny Kind Good with kids/animals Understands my depression Romantic Respects me Someone I can call at 3AM
    thelastfirstchoice thelastfirstchoice
    16-17, F
    Aug 4, 2014

    My 10 List Of Ideal Traits

    good at cooking good at cooking really good at cooking an amazing cook knows how to make a mean sandwich is pleasing in the kitchen knows how to turn on my taste buds has no problem with cooking can cook and have sex at same time no back...
    lmpulsive lmpulsive
    22-25, M
    Aug 11, 2012

    1. Funny (can make me smile) 2.

    Sweet 3. Smart 4. Honest 5. Nonjudgemental 6. Loving 7. Animal lover 8. Adventurous (willing to try anything) 9. Understanding 10. Can be himself
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix
    18-21
    1 Response Jan 1, 2014

    I just saw this was in my experiences

    and it got me to thinking. Which I happen to like. I read some of the other stories here. It got me thinking also. So many were one word lists. Words are such a poor way to communicate. Beyond the dictionary definition words have a meaning based on the person using them...
    demorcan demorcan
    61-65, M
    1 Response Jan 19, 2014

    1) Intelligent 2) Kind 3) Romantic 4)

    Physically fit - healthy 5) Ambitious 6) Sense of humour 7) Sensible - acts appropriately (time & place for everything) 8) Outgoing 9) Honest 10) Strong will - may lose temper but will "stick it out" till things are done (+ stay with me through thick and thin) Not sure if or...
    Shiznitone Shiznitone
    22-25, M
    Jun 8, 2014

    1-different 2-someone not afraid to be

    themselves 3-someone who cares for me 4-laid back 5- sensible (not an idiot) 6-open minded 7-that's really it.
    lullabymom lullabymom
    51-55, F
    May 14, 2014

    Animal Lust

    My lover, my lover must be: 1) As brave as a lion 2) As wily as a fox 3) As cute as a bad boy bunny 4) As wise as an owl 5) As strong as a gorilla 6) As loyal as a fuzzy wuzzy hound 7) As deep as a dragon 8) As funny as an orangutan 9) As cuddly as a bear 10) With the intense...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 11, 2012

    Touch And Passion

    !.) To feel your eyes burning into my back when you walk into a room looking for me.2.) My breath to catch in my throat even though I just had you.3.) The ability to make me lose my control when we make love.4.) Someone that sees only me, needs only me, wants only me.5.) Holds me...
    moondancelady moondancelady
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Sep 15, 2012

    10 Things I Look For In A Lover.

    This is a simple version.1. Honesty.2. Loyalty.3. Passionate.4. Caring.5. Funny.6. Spontaneous.7. Romantic and loving.8. Responsible.9. Respectful towards people and everything else (elders, religion, culture etc.)10. Fun, adventurous, positive and happy.
    LynnAuditore LynnAuditore
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 30, 2012

    My Top 20 Things I Like In A Man

    1. Nice personality 2. common life goals 3. fun 4. sense of humor 5. independent 6. romantic 7. smart 8. things in common 9. knows how to treat of woman 10. honest 11. healthy life style 12. No drugs or alcohol 13. open minded/ non judgemental 14.has a big heart...
    awarren98 awarren98
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Oct 19, 2011

    1. Has a good sense of humor

    and can laugh at themselves 2. Loves animals 3. Loves kids/ Wants children one day 4. Compassionate 5. Understanding 6. Good listener 7. Remembers the little things 8. Sees the good in others 9. Gives second chances 10. Can make me smile no matter how bad my day has been
    HarleyQuinn830 HarleyQuinn830
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 6, 2015

    1) Born again Christian 2) Wisdom 3)

    Intelligence 4) Faithful 5) Conservative After this point it is pretty much just preference 6) Nerdy 7) Comfortable with herself 8) Pro-humanity 9) Slightly timid/shy 10) Willing to debate, not just argue
    StarSage StarSage
    22-25, M
    Sep 27, 2015

    What I'd Like A Partner To Have!

    I'm currently single and I am planning to be so for a while for personal reasons but if I ever to find someone I'd love her to have those things that I am going to mention.1- She has to appreciate the good and close friendship in a relationship. 2- Has the same religious views...
    AYearWithoutRain AYearWithoutRain
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Sep 18, 2012

    In no particular order: 1.

    A similar Sense of humor. Laughter is a big part of who I am, so they would need to have an appreciation for the kind of humor I like. Black comedy, dry humor, weird random humor, and they'd need to find the cartoons I watch hilarious because I plan on spending hours...
    Anais92 Anais92
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 11, 2014

    I have these two people in my life.

    One is my best friend. The other is my neighbor who I haven't been able to shake feelings for for 2 years. I made out with my neighbor (tongue and lip biting) and it was amazing. She fixed things with her boyfriend right after. My best friend lives 37 minutes away and we haven't...
    IDontEvenKnowAnymore1 IDontEvenKnowAnymore1
    16-17, M
    Aug 9, 2014

    My List

    A woman that can talk about almost anything A woman that is willing to listen to what I have to say no matter the subject A woman who is comfortable in her skin A woman that can make me feel I'm the only man for her A woman that is willing to share herself with me A...
    mtvlm mtvlm
    41-45, M
    34 Responses May 7, 2010
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