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I Want To Know Your List Of 10 Things You Look For In A Lover

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    Top Ten

    a. sense of humor- must be able to have fun, be witty, sarcastic...not ALL the time, there is a time to be serious... and be able to know which is needed. b. have pride about himself and me... jeans and a tank top are great for doing yardwork... but if we are going out somewhere...
    SweetKiester SweetKiester 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    1 intellectual 2 kind 3 dominant 4 good

    sense of humor 5 Respectful 6. Loving 7. Connected 8. Determined 9. Pleasant 10. Older
    Dancemomisme Dancemomisme 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Perfect For Me

    1. 6 feet or more 2. Masculine 3. Healthy looking but 4. Not too good looking 5. Loyal 6. Career-minded and employed 7. Post-secondary educated 8. Belief in a higher power 9. Well adjusted and happy with himself 10. Entertaining
    CountessDawn CountessDawn 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2013

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    My 10 Things I Like For!!!

    1.Funny but not to funny I that can't have a serious conversation. 2.Nice, I think guys that are nice to strangers or kids is so attractive. 3. Ambitious I want a guy that wants to fulfill himself...
    daisyem daisyem 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    What I'd Like A Partner To Have!

    I'm currently single and I am planning to be so for a while for personal reasons but if I ever to find someone I'd love her to have those things that I am going to mention.1- She has to appreciate the good and close friendship in a relationship. 2- Has the same religious views...
    AYearWithoutRain AYearWithoutRain 18-21, M 5 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    1. Funny (can make me smile) 2.

    Sweet 3. Smart 4. Honest 5. Nonjudgemental 6. Loving 7. Animal lover 8. Adventurous (willing to try anything) 9. Understanding 10. Can be himself
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 1

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    Now Hiring

    01. lead, follow, or get out of the way.  I'm perfectly capable of steering this ship, and I have yet to meet the iceberg that prevents my swimming.  If you have nothing to offer, be silent.  02. a personal sense of style. This is not about your clothes, though it will be...
    RascallyRabbit RascallyRabbit 31-35, F 28 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    Save The Kittens

    10 things in no particular order (or gender, you may notice)   Funny as hell (and not afraid to use dirty, dark, sarcastic, satirical, or corny humor when appropriate) RHC (Red Hot Chemistry) (and this you can only tell in person) Not already married to someone else (seriously...
    Fallflower Fallflower 36-40, F 22 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    My "Highly Desirable" List

    1. Romantic- set the mood, say the right things, be the guy in love 2. Adoring- I love the way Shakespeare and others wrote male characters as adoring the women they loved almost to the point of worshipping them. 3. Intelligent- smart is sexy! 4. Thoughtful- know what my...
    Raeyna Raeyna 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2013

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    Ten qualities I find attractive in a lover: Is

    Open wide like a priceless book, Honest through and through even if it may hurt others, Expressive to the point of it being a compulsion in both action and words, Respectful in their very nature, Responsive in heart mind body and soul, insatiably Curious about their own self...
    Original Original 41-45, M Dec 11, 2013

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    My Ten Turn Ons...

    There are more, but these are a necessity: Eyes that See My Beauty Lips That Kiss Deeply and Without Malicious Motive Hands That Caress My Soul A Voice That Utters Words To Soothe and Support A Respect For Me That Is Solid Through Even The Longest Hardship A Body...
    TheRealWoman TheRealWoman 31-35, F 10 Responses May 8, 2010

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    Top Ten

    1. Intelligence 2. Morals 3. Dominance 4. Grounded 5. Inspirational 6. Animal lover 7. Religiously open 8. Edgy 9. Questioning 10. Doesn't judge
    saintargentina saintargentina 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 18, 2013

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    1. Honesty 2. Loyalty 3.

    Shared interests 4. Friendship 5. Sense of humor :) 6. Practicality 7. Affection 8. Optimism 9. Passion and 10. Compassion
    Antoinette1120 Antoinette1120 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    The Ten Things...

    1. Female 2. Pulse 3. Erm..... Damn! You want ten!!!  ;o)
    Lazarus42 Lazarus42 46-50, M 14 Responses May 7, 2010

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    Touch And Passion

    !.) To feel your eyes burning into my back when you walk into a room looking for me.2.) My breath to catch in my throat even though I just had you.3.) The ability to make me lose my control when we make love.4.) Someone that sees only me, needs only me, wants only me.5.) Holds me...
    moondancelady moondancelady 46-50, F 7 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    Top 10

    I sooooooo like lists...here it goes; 1. Wit. Being mentally engaged is so stimulating. 2. She needs to be someone I admire as a person. Someone strong enough to take on life without assistance... 3. ...although I don't want a "lone wolf" type of person. Knowing I'm someone's...
    guiltybyassociation guiltybyassociation 31-35, M 3 Responses Oct 14, 2011

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    OK =D 1. really open minded 2.

    agnostic , atheist or not religious 3. confident 4. smart ( i'm drawn to scientists) 5. Funny Funny Funny =D and not sensitive 6. believe in individual freedom 7. willing to help me go green 8. loves me for nothing but my personality 9. believes everyone is equal even if they...
    AutoLove0 AutoLove0 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

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    1. I look for someone

    who loves me for me. 2. I want someone who makes me smile and shows me the joy in my life. 3. Some who is adventurous 4. Someone who likes the same things I like. 5. Someone who let's me have my way every now and than. 6. Someone my friends and family like. 7. Someone that is...
    morgan14p morgan14p 16-17, F Nov 27, 2013

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    The 10 Things I Look For

    Someone that can bring me to life and make me feel alive inside Someone that is affectionate and caring someone that will laugh with me but also wipe away my tears someone that i can romance and someone that can romance me right back someone that is spontaneous...
    deadinsideout deadinsideout 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 1, 2013

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    1. Honesty 2. Loyalty 3.

    Passion 4. Chivalry 5. Sense of Humor 6. Intelligence 7. Confidence 8. Hygiene 9. Trust 10. They need to love to cuddle... ;)
    RaynieLove RaynieLove 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    A Free Conpanion

    Love honesty... with me and herself sobritey.... lol i got bagage trust Compasion Intelagance Alpha... internal strength. LOVE. Integraty MORALS PRINCAPLES OPENNESS
    TEMPOLTON TEMPOLTON 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 14, 2013

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    Ten

    requirements. Thoughtful Innovative Deliberate Liberal Wild Knowledgeable Kind Convincing Paced Imaginative
    aoutdouze aoutdouze 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    10 Things...

    1. First, the ability to communicate... If you can't talk to me there will be problems. I share my feelings and I expect my lover to do the same. 2. Confidence, you're hot I wouldn't **** you if you weren't so whip that **** out and show me a good time ;) but also confidence in...
    IvoryTapestry IvoryTapestry 26-30, F 4 Responses May 3, 2012

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    Starting Over

    I always wondered why I had such a hard time in relationships. I am always questioning myself, always questioning my own motives, yet everyone would always tell me that is was not me. I kept questioning if it is not me then why am I always in a screwed up relation that is doomed...
    NeoZen NeoZen 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 12, 2012

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    This Should Be Fun <3

    The 1- things I look for in a lover. Okay lets say Boyfriend or companion. Lover sounds to brounden. 1. Personality. Someone who is just full of life. Someone who can light up the room by just walking into the room and making everyone feel wanted and happy. Someone with a sense...
    AmazinglyAmazing AmazinglyAmazing 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2012

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    Pretty Sure This Guy Doesn't Exist But There's No Harm In Dreaming, Right?

    1. Faithful, loyal & respectful.  Can keep his **** to himself & wont talk about me to his friends (especially about what we do in the bedroom...).  2. Sincere. ACTUALLY gives a **** about me, & won't pretend he does in the hope of getting his **** wet.   3. Takes care of...
    blehtolife blehtolife 18-21, F 36 Responses May 14, 2012

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    1. Intelligent 2. Funny 3.

    Romantic 4. Respectful 5. Hard working 6. Older than me 7. Kind 8. Good hygiene 9. Lover of the arts 10. Tough
    agm0829 agm0829 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    10 Things I Love About You

    1. Intelligence - someone i can discuss philosophy, science etc with. 2. Humour - this is like the ultimate trait I'm always attracted to. If a guy has a great sense of humour and can make me smile, he's already in my good books. 3. Kind - will not judge others and look at both...
    DarkAngel123 DarkAngel123 18-21, F 3 Responses May 28, 2010

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    Ten qualities I find attractive in a

    lover:  Intelligence .. I need to be mentally simulated Honesty .. I respect honesty even if the truth hurts Confidence .. but not egotistic Good sense of humour .. this is a big must for me I like to spend my time with people that ca. Make me laugh :) Openness...
    TaannAz TaannAz 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 11, 2013

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    My Kinda Guy..

    1.must be self aware..knows what he has going for him and what doesn't 2.good communicator 3.funny and has a wicked sense of humor like mine 4.want to always better himself..want more from himself and for himself 5.i love men who smell good..that in itself is a turn on.grrr 6.a...
    CurvyandChic CurvyandChic 22-25, F Aug 29, 2013

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    What A Girl Wants

    Now this list is not exhausted and I reserve the right to change it or add to it at any time!!1. Honesty2. Intelligence3. Kindness4. Respectful5. Passionate6. Romantic7. Attentive8. Affectionate9. Spontaneous10.Fun
    sexxydiva sexxydiva 36-40, F 15 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    10 Things I Look For In A Lover.

    This is a simple version.1. Honesty.2. Loyalty.3. Passionate.4. Caring.5. Funny.6. Spontaneous.7. Romantic and loving.8. Responsible.9. Respectful towards people and everything else (elders, religion, culture etc.)10. Fun, adventurous, positive and happy.
    LynnAuditore LynnAuditore 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2012

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    In no particular order: 1.

    A similar Sense of humor. Laughter is a big part of who I am, so they would need to have an appreciation for the kind of humor I like. Black comedy, dry humor, weird random humor, and they'd need to find the cartoons I watch hilarious because I plan on spending hours...
    Anais92 Anais92 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 11

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    Wishlist Revised

    I had originally written this story at a decidedly idealistic and sensationalized time in my life. Things change though and while my standards haven't been altogether radically altered, there have been some major modifications. 1: I need someone who is insatiable for me in every...
    RoaringFlameLostinShadow RoaringFlameLostinShadow 31-35, M 6 Responses May 26, 2011

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    10 Things In My Guy

    1) respect 2) trustworthy 3)honesty 4) good listener 5) funny 6)loyal 7) romantic 8) good manners 9) down to earth 10) easy going what are you looking for in your lover?
    Augusttwix Augusttwix 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2013

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    Perfect For Me!

    Here we go! No particular order! 1. Passionate 2. Loving 3. Committed 4. Compassionate 5. Emotional 6. Cuddly 7. Warm Personality 8. Internal Beauty 9. Eyes sparkle when she sees me 10. She accepts my love for her, completely.
    NorthernMan1966 NorthernMan1966 46-50, M 5 Responses Nov 24, 2012

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    Top Things I Want In A Relationship

    Okay, so this is more than 10 things, but over the years, I've compiled the things I want in my ideal relationship...here they are! 1. Sharing our passions and honoring them even though they may not be the same passions 2. Passionate about our relationship 3. Places...
    dawinla dawinla 51-55, M 11 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    10 Things

    The ten (10) things I look for in a lover. I have found in the one person, sadly in finding them I now find myself questioning what it is I really want in a person.  Some one who is willing to be understanding. Some one who is willing to understand. Some one who is...
    Michael820 Michael820 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 25, 2011

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    5 things I would really like him

    to be: 1. He has to have a good sense of humor It's a must!:)) 2. Someone to be very compassionate and love me for who I am, maybe because I don't really know how to show my feelings and sometimes I could be cold-hearted and that's why he has to be the opposite of me 3...
    Fatixoxo Fatixoxo 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

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    I May Be Young But I Know What I Want

    Ten things I look for in a guy? Easy. (1) sweet(2) understanding (3) has a sence of humer (4) protective but not overly protective (5) fun loving (6) a good listener (7) won't force me to talk about things (8) loves me for who I am (9) tough(like I won't cry because my dog died...
    Artemishatake Artemishatake 13-15, F 6 Responses Jan 28, 2012

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    My Top 20 Things I Like In A Man

    1. Nice personality 2. common life goals 3. fun 4. sense of humor 5. independent 6. romantic 7. smart 8. things in common 9. knows how to treat of woman 10. honest 11. healthy life style 12. No drugs or alcohol 13. open minded/ non judgemental 14.has a big heart...
    awarren98 awarren98 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    My Top Ten Expectations I Look For In A Lover!

    1). He has to respect me and my surroundings (friends, family, etc). Not respect like ..but yeah just don't be cocky and stuff. 2). He should love animals. Seriously, I find people who loves animal can get along with me very well while I feel awkward when I find out a friend who...
    kingkaewjnp kingkaewjnp 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    My Best (bet) Of 10 In A Lover.

      1) . . . Well, first thing is first. . . there should be what is commonly called intelligence. Doesn't have to be a scholar, or someone elite. But has the flair to convince and influence men, ofcourse in productive manner. The rest was randomly picked. 2) . . . .Second would...
    ladyryan ladyryan 41-45, F 15 Responses May 21, 2012

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    My 10 List Of Ideal Traits

    good at cooking good at cooking really good at cooking an amazing cook knows how to make a mean sandwich is pleasing in the kitchen knows how to turn on my taste buds has no problem with cooking can cook and have sex at same time no back...
    kingimpulsive kingimpulsive 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 11, 2012

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    My Heart's Desire Should Have These Ten:

    These are in no particular order. And I know Forever man has them in abundance.... 1) A wonderful sense of humour. Laughter is vital in life. Laughter is the best medicine. Corny or not, loud or soft, be a clown for me and I will be yours! 2) Empathy. You must be able to put...
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    My List Share Yours If You Feel You Think We'd Be Able To Connect.

    1. To be loved. This is the ultimate goal in a relationship. 2.To be wanted. I don't want someone if they don't actually desire my mind and heart. 3. Good listener. I have some huge issues at times and at those times I need help support and a listener. 4. Someone who can...
    draganaeros draganaeros 22-25, M Nov 27, 2013

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    My List-2011a

    I look for no lover. I look for a lifetime mate. Honesty. Availability. Meaning single. Intelligence. Good humour. Intimacy. Cherishement. A sense of adventure, exploration. Openmindedness. Loyalty. Strength of mind, body, love.
    PoetryNEmotion PoetryNEmotion 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    1) Their Smile - A lady

    who can make ME smile simply by smiling. Sounds odd, I know. 2) Open-Mind - It fascinates me when someone has a wide view of the world and situations, and takes those into consideration. 3) Gamer Girl - Yup, a girl who loves to play video games. Haha. 4) Kindness - A lady who...
    LReid23 LReid23 22-25, M Jan 29

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    1. Lots of guns 2. Plenty of ammo 3.

    NRA membership 4. IQ no higher than her shoe size 5. Sexual availability at my beck and call 6. A few good teeth 7. No interest in reading 8. No education 9. Pro life 10. Pro war
    Sharpie7 Sharpie7 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    Ten Things I Want From My Lover.

    1. Communication- the ability to be able to talk to me about anything 2. Honesty- she should never hold anything back from me. 3. Understanding- she should be able to have the ability to want to understand thing she doesn't, so that she can learn about other people and their...
    Brokenvegetable Brokenvegetable 31-35, M 3 Responses Nov 28, 2012

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    1. NEVER CHEAT 2. Good sense of humor 3.

    Respect me and my family 4. Understand that sometimes I just need to be alone 5. Won't constantly text me when my dad is visiting 6. Okay with just staying in watching movies 7. Will be ok with me not saying 'I love you' until I'm ready 8. Not clingy but affectionate 9. Be there...
    MadHattress3 MadHattress3 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 19, 2013

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    Top Priorities

    First and foremost, sexual attraction and chemistry. He could have everything else, but without this, there is nothing but friendship. Second, monogamy. I alone, must be a enough to keep him satisfied. Thirdly, trustworthiness. I have to trust him implicitly before I can...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 11 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    My Ten

    I think a countdown is in order. 10 - Some physical compatibility. I'm in shape and I would like that in a lover 9- Some common interests, like a past history 8- Confidence. I can't know you if you can't express who you are 7- I have to know you and what you are all about 6- I...
    FilteringMachine FilteringMachine 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 7, 2012

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    Animal Lust

    My lover, my lover must be: 1) As brave as a lion 2) As wily as a fox 3) As cute as a bad boy bunny 4) As wise as an owl 5) As strong as a gorilla 6) As loyal as a fuzzy wuzzy hound 7) As deep as a dragon 8) As funny as an orangutan 9) As cuddly as a bear 10) With the intense...
    KatarinaVonSweet KatarinaVonSweet 36-40, F 9 Responses Nov 11, 2012

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    Not The Usual, But Honest All The Same

    1. Steadiness in self 2. A relationship with Jesus 3. The ability to balance what life throws at him 4. The ability to understand my sarcasm 5. Marketable skills 6. Speaking of skills..... orally talented 7. Quick to love and slow to anger 8. He gets the job done 9. Doesn't need...
    reigirl reigirl 31-35, F Jul 22, 2013

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    Intelligent Common

    interests Interesting Unique Curious Open-minded Weird Determined Accepting Different
    nikkianni nikkianni 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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