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I Want to Leave My Alcoholic Husband

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    30 Long Years

    I've been with my c/l husband for 30 years. He has always drank. I guess he was considered a functioning drunk as he never missed a days work. He has drank every day of our time together, except when he was in the hospital with a heart attack. The problem here is that he's...
    daisy56 daisy56 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 26, 2013

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    My Drunk Husband

    my husband has been drunk since weve been together. i really dont know why i stayed so long i leave him go back leave him go back i am now 56 yrs old and i can say its my own fault. i let him suck the life out of me. my mother was an alcoholic, but i never drank or got high in my...
    emrivlop emrivlop 56-60, F 8 Responses Sep 4, 2011

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    Planning To Get Out...

    I've been with my alcoholic husband for a long time now and we have two beautiful children . It wasn't always this bad but over the last five years its just become a horrible emotional roller coaster that I need to get off from. He is not only emotionally and mentally abusive he...
    curtisfamily1 curtisfamily1 36-40 1 Response Sep 8, 2013

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    My husband is supposed to be working on his

    recovery at his parents house, 1900 miles away. He left with no money. I cancelled all his cards, except I forgot about one, so of course he goes and racks up some charges at a liquor store. He says he bought "non-alcoholic beer"...fat chance. I don't believe him for a second...
    PerfectRage PerfectRage 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    So Sick Of It All

    I have posted on another helpful site for loved ones of alcoholics and now I've moved on to this one.  I still can't believe how many of us are going through the same things with our husbands.  Even more unbelievable is WHY we stay.  We all think we're being selfish if we...
    americanidolfan americanidolfan 41-45 5 Responses Mar 23, 2011

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    I hate living with my ah!

    ! He does not think he has a problem and it's killing him!!! I just looked under the bathroom sink and threw out 15 bottles of tequilla!!! He has destroyed our lives!!! He is not physically abusive but emotional!!!! I know it has effected my kids, I am just hoping my son does not...
    debidebv debidebv 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    After 14 Years I'm More Sick Than My Husband

    We all have the same stories of how it is to live with an alcoholic. I'm sure most of us can say that Alanon is not much help. The truth. These men are sick  but they like it, they can still function on some level and get by. I don't like being sick. I hate the fact...
    Mrsdunno Mrsdunno 36-40, F 12 Responses Dec 26, 2009

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    How Do I Walk Away?

    I read many of the stories shared on this website and can only say what a relief to know what I am going through is normal when you live with an alcoholic. I’ve been married for 32 years, 10 years he was sober and it was amazing. I have tried to leave, but he always talks me...
    barrelracer32 barrelracer32 56-60, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2013

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    Im Having A Bad Time Today Finding This All So Hard, Its Never Ending Round And Rounds Bad Groundhog Day!

    I'm having a bad day thing just seem to have got worse and worse his drinking is the same every night Beer, beer and more beer but we just go round and round in circles every night he gets drunk falls asleep for a couple of hours and then wakes up and spends the rest of the...
    sunshineonarainyday sunshineonarainyday 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    This Is So Hard!

    I have been married for 31 years. My husband started his binge drinking in college and never grew out of it. He doesn't drink at all during the week but the weekends are usually one long drunk. He also is very combative when he has been drinking so he is miserable to be around...
    besailin besailin 51-55 3 Responses Mar 21, 2012

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    I don't really want to leave my drunk husband

    because he's fine when he's not drunk. I just really really hate it when he's drunk. he is so mean and always picks a fight. He calls me names, he berates me. He doesn't remember a thing that he does when he's drunk. He gets injuries, looses things when he drinks, makes a huge...
    ethereal23 ethereal23 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Ive Asked My Alcoholic Husband To Leave

    We've been together since we were 18. 32 years and I love him and I think he loves me. But he is gripped by alcohol. He drinks secretly and denies it. Always denies it. He crashes out and wees himself.he wets the bed.the couch.the rug.the laminate floor. He has broken vases and...
    powermj powermj 51-55, F 1 Response Apr 21, 2013

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    Advice And Inspirational Blog

    Greetings loves, My name is Dana and I'm a 21 year old college student studying sociology and education. About a month ago, I create an advice blog. On this blog you can visit it to find motivational and inspirational pictures on life, love, beauty, and health. You can also ask...
    DanaHarrell DanaHarrell 22-25, F Apr 21, 2013

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    Just Now...

    as I found this site, just looking around. HE FELL FACE FIRST ON THE FLOOR! DRUNK AS HELL, AS USUAL! HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!!! all i can do now is make sure he is ok laugh and find the courage to get away....
    ShonieGETYOLIFE1 ShonieGETYOLIFE1 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    Stayed Married To An Alcoholic B/C We Are Both Disabled And Have A Son But I'm Done (I Hope)

    I met my husband shortly after I became a paraplegic, which was about 13 years ago (failed fusion, no big accident or drama). I don't know if I would have married him in 'normal circumstances' he was a drinker, I was a pothead if that makes sense - and we didn't share a lot of...
    crippleleadingblind crippleleadingblind 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2013

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    Even His Mom Says He's Got A Jeckyl/hyde Personality

    So, here's the thing.  My hubby really shouldn't have ended up an alcoholic.  No one in his birth family is nor in his adoptive family.  I think what really screwed him up was being raised in a white trash culture that was notorious for being some of the worst...
    Nomansland99 Nomansland99 41-45, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    I Can't Stand My Drunk Husband!!andcouldsupport

     I want to leave my alcoholic husband too. I have been married 17 years and I can't stand it anymore! About 3 1/2 years ago I had a good job and could support my children on my own and did leave. But then like a fool, I felt bad for leaving him when he was the way he was and...
    cantstandhim cantstandhim 41-45 28 Responses Feb 6, 2009

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    My Husband Is Just A Leach And A Liar

    I have been married for 25 years and have two lovely children in their teens. My husband has his own bedroom as he left mine after I called the Police when he threatened me in front of our two young children 11 years ago. He has got worse and worse with his drinking and when he...
    Dramlouie Dramlouie 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 7, 2013

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    My Drunken Husband Is Driving Me Crazy

    I am at my wits end with my husband. He drinks and lies about it on almost a daily basis. He is not a violent drunk, but does very stupid, embarrassing and ridiculous things. We have no relationship because of his drinking and to make it worse, we have a 15 year old daughter. His...
    dianabella dianabella 51-55, T 6 Responses Mar 18, 2011

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    Hi, Im 56 Ive had cancer have angina,

    firbromyalgia, high blood pressure, my partner not husband is a alcoholic, and we've been together 11 years 3 driving bans, but I'm so tired of it all, and feeling that I can just look after myself, after reading posts he's never going to change, every 6 months I've said I can't...
    ssorebones ssorebones 56-60, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    Nothing Left To Give

    I have been with my husband since I was 17 married for 23 years we have two grown sons 25 '&23 on there own they are my everything. My husband is a drunk he buys little bottles of vodka and drinks them straight up and hides them under seat of car then comes in with a bottle of...
    Lifelesslake Lifelesslake 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2013

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    Give Me The Strenght And Courage To Leave My Alcoholic Husband

    I have been with my husband for ten years now. I have three boys my eldest is from a previous relationship and the youngest two are from this relationship. He has always had a problem with drinking. He knows and admits he has a problem, he has tried to get help and has seen the...
    mumofthree mumofthree 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    Afraid Of What Will Happen To Him...

    I've been married for 24 years, and have been living with my husband for 25.  He has always spent a few hours in the pub each evening.  When we were first married it was Monday to Friday and he told me it was a part of his job... he's a lawyer, and needed to connect...
    Dorcasta Dorcasta 51-55 5 Responses Jul 28, 2010

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    I Need To Get This Out...

    All of us seem to have a very similar story. My husband and I have been together 4 years married almost 1. He drinks at work...he drinks at home....he hides alchol in house. And when I've confronted him spoken to his family about a possilbe intervention I'm the bad person for...
    mistyluv79 mistyluv79 31-35 5 Responses May 10, 2011

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    My father was a functioning alcoholic.

    Hard worker but never enough money to pay the bills. Mom was sickly but when she was able to work it was better. Sometimes gas, power or water would be off when we got home from school. Phone was off a lot. That was in the 1960's. 1st serious boyfriend was an alcoholic. I...
    lindah3 lindah3 61-65 2 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I would like to know from those of you

    who left and had kids how you managed it? I am scared that if the court grants him visitation every other weekend that something will happen to my children because they are not old enough to fend for themselves. One is 2 and the other is only 2 months. I feel like I am stuck...
    jaydenandlathansmama jaydenandlathansmama 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    How Do I Break The Co-Dependent Cycle

    I have been married for 32 years, 24 of which were fine. When my husband lost his Dad to Cancer 7 years ago, he began drinking way too much. While he is not abusive, a daytime drinker or one to drink and drive, He settles down to his drinking at sundown nearly every day. He was...
    RaggedyPAnnie RaggedyPAnnie 61-65 Nov 8, 2013

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    I didn't just love my husband

    when I met him. I idolized him. I had to chase him for a while (he was a nice, private guy and i had dated his best friend, and he was 12 years older to boot). When I "got him" I thought I hit the jack pot. During our first 6 years together (5 dating, 1 married) there were a few...
    momfrommass momfrommass 31-35, F 3 Responses May 30

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    Second Time Around

    I divorced my alcoholic husband back in 1988.  He got clean and sober and stayed that way for 2o years. We remarried in 2003 and life was good--until he needed spinal surgery and became addicted to pain meds, then came the alcohol. Fast forward to Sept-He has had so many tests...
    KJB0603 KJB0603 51-55 2 Responses Aug 12, 2011

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    I have been working 2 jobs to try

    and save money to get out of a drunk marriage.It scares me to leave my dog and grown kids at home with him for he becomes stupid and forgetful leaving doors open for dog to get out,urinating in bathtub,arguing with the kids about money and stupid stuff..they call him a drunk as...
    teresadon teresadon 51-55, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    My husband loves beer.

    His dad was an alcoholic who actually passed away from liver disease. I'm 6 months pregnant and it's been getting worse and worse . I'm so tired of the verbal abuse and divorce threats. I'm tired of being the only adult. He invites his friends over every weekend to get...
    byal186 byal186 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 12

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    My 2 year old daughter wanted to talk to her

    Daddy, so I decided to FaceTime him. She was so excited & I was in awe of how giggly & sweet she was. On the other hand, I became fuming mad when I realized my husband was drunk. He's supposed to be away working on his recovery. I called him on it & of course he denied it...
    PerfectRage PerfectRage 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    I read all of the stories

    and I can relate to them my husband was the sort of man that women adore beautiful in everyway but he is a functioning alcoholic .So I did it I left my alcoholic husband and im not going to lie this has been the hardest thing to do. I always said it was going to be easier the...
    sunshineonarainyday sunshineonarainyday 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 21

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    Abused, Used And Fed Up

    I am 28 years old and i never imagined my life would end up like this. I had my daughter when i was 20 (her father has never been in the picture). I had relationships through the years, but none of them prepared me for the man that i married. Let me start by saying, there is an...
    Songbird8428 Songbird8428 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    My Functioning Alcoholic Husband

    I have been married going on 6 years. We have 3 kids my son is 5 my daughter is 4 and my baby is 3 months and has a rare congenital disorder that requires medication for her survival. When we were in the hospital with my baby and got the devastating news he once again promised...
    nconley nconley 26-30 5 Responses Feb 7, 2012

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    Fed Up And Confused

    I have been married for 10 years to my alcoholic husband. I work a full tme job and 2 part time jobs and he works none. I have been with my husband for 20 years total and I think I have had enough of him and his doing nothing. He shows no respect toward me or my children. I...
    susan05 susan05 51-55 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    I Left My Alcoholic Husband And Then Went Back And Im So Unhappy I Don’T Know What To Do.

    ( I’m sorry I’m not a writer. I cannot spell either) We have been married three years been together ten. If im honest looking back he has always had a problem with drink. I just didn’t notice as we were both young I was twenty when we met, and just came out another bad...
    sunshineonarainyday sunshineonarainyday 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    I used to have a problem with drinking myself.

    I finally cleaned up my act and want to move forward with my life with out drinking. I met my ex husband in 1997 and we got married in 2006 and divorced in 2009 and got back together over a year ago. He had never drank before up until Thanksgiving time 2013. I can not stand...
    jamielynn40 jamielynn40 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 3

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    Letting Go After All These Years

    I have been with my alcoholic husband for 11 years. We even met in a bar. I was an occasional drinker, but raised by two alcoholic parents. One was severe, one not so much. When I met my husband, I thought he was the smartest, most interesting person I ever met. I knew about his...
    mrsray2002 mrsray2002 56-60, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2012

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    ?Should I Leave?

    I have been married for 14 years. My husband has a problem with addiction. First it was drugs and now alcohol. We have 2 wonderful boys together. My oldest son (12) came to me earlier this evening and asked me why don't we just leave. The problem is that at this time I am out of...
    fedupwithdrunk fedupwithdrunk 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    Please Somebody Help Us

    My husband is an addict and an alcoholic and I want to get the h*ll out of this relationship asap buyt don’t know where to start. He has been on 130mg of methadone for the past 10 years and was pretty functional until about 3 maybe 4 years ago then started slowly progressing...
    HowDoILeave HowDoILeave 41-45 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    Alcoholic Spouse Filed For Divorce

    ive been married for 4 years, as of april 5th. I didn`t realize he was an alcoholic till 6 months later when we bought our home. he moved me and my kids here from another state. we had a home there, i had 1 year left of college, good paying job. I just wanted the piece of...
    chicodi chicodi 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 2, 2010

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    Love Killed By Alcohol

    Hello! I am just sick and tired and angry. My husband loves to drink. He doesn't see his drinking as a problem. He blames me for our problems. He blames everybody and everything but not the alcohol. He doesn't like my family (especially my mom) so he doesn't want me to go there...
    maria79 maria79 31-35, F 7 Responses Dec 21, 2011

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    I Hate My Drunk Husband

    I am so sick of this crazy ride!!  I've been married for 20 years and my husband has been drunk for 15 of them.  It's only been recently that I've accepted it's not my fault and I can't fix it.  I'm taking steps to become financially independent, but I'm not there...
    dkbfnp dkbfnp 46-50 123 Responses Dec 28, 2008

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    I Want To Leave My Alcoholic Husband But Don't Know How To Do It

    I have been married for over four years to an alcoholic.  The problem is that I really do care about what happens to him but he is destroying my life.  The way he carries on when he drinks has made him physically unattractive to me.  Although he does not have a job (which he...
    songcowan songcowan 51-55 1 Response Sep 25, 2011

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    So glad to find this outlet

    for people like me. I am finally sitting in my own quiet and peaceful apartment after leaving my alcoholic husband of 25 years. For many years, I tried to ignore and deny that he was so very ill with alcoholism. The last two became a living hell that no one could deny much less...
    nan54 nan54 56-60 3 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I'm honestly not the type of person who wants to be alone all the time but I've become somewhat of a hermit lately. My husband is an alcoholic and it seems to keep getting worse...
    nikkib3809 nikkib3809 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I post this for a friend who as we speak is locked inside for a 5th consecutive day being subjected to emotional torment after telling her abusive husband she wants to leave the...
    PerseveringMark PerseveringMark 31-35 5 Responses Jul 20

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    I'm trying to do the right thing not only for myself, but for my family, especially for my beautiful baby daughter, to whom I might never apologize enough for not choosing well her...
    mery81 mery81 31-35, F Jul 22

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    Well...I stayed and I am still in the same boat! Sitting here, he is passed out drunk AGAIN! AS USUAL! WTF is wrong with me? I let him fool me once again. I think I am scared. I...
    ShonieGETYOLIFE1 ShonieGETYOLIFE1 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Reached the level that love turns into hate. I could do anything to leave him now and never have to see him again for the rest of my life. He spends our money on drinking and tells...
    sissysassy sissysassy 31-35, F 11 Responses Jul 20

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    I have been trying to leave my husband. Two months ago I was referred to a social work dept at my hospital. I felt relief. I felt like "yes" this is finally going to happen. I...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F 21 mins ago

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